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Season 3 - Episode 161 - What is the real message? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So often we on this podcast, we talk about our focus and we talk
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  about how important focus is. But the real reason for that,
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  the real end all be all of why we do that is because we have to
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  control our focus and we have to know that what we focus on
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  brings about more of it in our lives.
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  So when you keep talk, when you keep focusing on what's wrong
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  and you keep talking about what's wrong, you keep
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  manifesting what's wrong because it just gives it more energy and
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  it exacerbates it and it just keeps getting bigger and bigger
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  and bigger. You know, years ago, I was
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  working on the road and somebody left a book at a table.
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  And I thought this book was so fascinating because the name of
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  it was how to Improve Your Marriage without talking about
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  it. I mean, doesn't that just sound
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  like the most amazing thing to read?
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  Like, OK, we're not going to talk about it yet.
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  It's going to get better. Well, when I got the book and I
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  actually read it, I was like this, this is brilliant because
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  it takes away so much of the negativity.
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  And that's often what happens when you're in these situations.
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  You're coming at it from your position.
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  You want to defend your position.
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  So naturally, because you want to protect your position and
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  defend it, you keep talking about what's wrong and it keeps
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  going over and over and over. Well, the problem with talking
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  about what's wrong is that it grows bigger and bigger and
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  bigger. This is a big reason why
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  marriage counseling rarely works because you go and you drive and
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  you spend an hour talking about the problem and you don't leave
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  with a solid solution, but you clearly know what you don't like
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  in the other person and in the situation that's there.
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  And then you leave and you're sent home alone together.
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  And so we all know the statistics on does marriage
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  counselling work and they're really not great.
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  So this core message is from that.
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  This core message is, hey, listen, when you talk about
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  what's wrong, you manifest what's really wrong even more.
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  And you're the sad part of this is you're missing the real
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  message in it all because when things show up and they're not
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  good, they are meant to give you information.
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  And you have to decide what you're going to do with that
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  information. Are you going to utilize it to
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  help yourself move forward or are you going to keep it the way
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  that it is so that you can defend your position, make sure
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  you're right? Are you with the other person
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  and 'cause even more issues? I mean that that is in a
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  nutshell, the most important part of this podcast today.
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  You have to make a decision if it's important to defend your
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  position or is it important to move forward?
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  Is it important to find happiness?
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  Is it important to focus on the message of what's wrong so you
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  know what to repair, fix, look at, explore whatever words you
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  want to use, but not sit there and keep focused on it from a
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  position of really trying to stack, stack, stack, stack,
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  stack all the stuff that's wrong because that's not going to help
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  you. You already know what's wrong.
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  You don't need more evidence of it.
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  And that's all it is. Remember, emotions are here to
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  give us information and the more information we have, the more we
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  can do with it. So this comes down to you being
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  very smart, very clear and very honest with yourself about what
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  you're going to focus on. So you'd understand, hey, I am
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  not going to keep talking about what's wrong.
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  I'm not going to keep going it over it and over it and over it
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  and over it in my head. The more I talk about it, the
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  more I give it life. The more I talk about it, the
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  more this becomes a big thing. The more I see this, the more it
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  grows. That is what's so important
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  about this. It's that you're killing the
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  monster while it's small. Don't let it take over in your
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  head. Don't let those things eat you
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  up. And if you're not qualified in
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  those moments to to just say, OK, I can discern what it's
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  trying to give me for information, then you simply say
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  to yourself, OK, right now I'm too heated, I'm too irritated.
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  I can't make a judgement on this.
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  So I'm going to put it aside. I'm going to put this in neutral
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  for right now and I'm going to come back to it when I am in a
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  better state of mind because I'm not qualified to make a decision
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  about it right now. And that to me is the most
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  powerful thing that we can do is putting it in that perspective.
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  So I hope that that makes sense to you guys.
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  I hope you utilize this and I hope you have an incredibly
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  blessed day that is giving you information and you're letting
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  go of the irritation. All right, my friends have a
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  great one. I'll talk to you tomorrow.
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  Bye.