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Quick Lift: Lead With Intention, Ask With Confidence · Loud & Lifted

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  Welcome to Loud and Lifted, I'm your host Betsy
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  Hamm and today's quick lift is a shot of bold
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  truth and practical wisdom you can digest before
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  your coffee gets cold. This week we're amplifying
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  the wisdom of Julia Arpeg, founder of Align Recruitment
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  and a powerhouse in values -based leadership.
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  Julia didn't wait for permission, she made the
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  brave choice not to take the job, to bet on herself
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  and build a business that aligns with her purpose.
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  Her journey is packed with courage, clarity,
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  and conscientious decisions. and we're breaking
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  it down into bite -sized takeaways with action
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  items. Let's get lifted. Takeaway number one.
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  Your mindset needs a daily tune -up. Julie is
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  successful, but she isn't just stopping there
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  or stopping where she's at. She continues to
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  work on self -improvement daily. I thought it
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  was so interesting when she talked about her
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  affirmations. She listens to a 17 minute recording
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  now at this point. It's her own words and her
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  own voices daily. And she talked about mindset
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  is something that is not done mindsets every
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  day and you have to keep leveling up. I love
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  this and I think this is something that most
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  of us don't spend time thinking about and especially
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  listening to positive affirmations. It's one
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  of the takeaways. I know that I'm definitely
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  going to try. And this isn't just about the positive
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  affirmations. It's maybe taking a minute to meditate,
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  maybe just sitting in silence, thinking about
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  all the things that you have gratitude for. We
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  often get caught up on what we need to improve
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  or what we don't have or what we're missing out
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  on. But we all have so much to be thankful and
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  to have gratitude for. So maybe it's sitting
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  in the morning and being thankful for what you
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  already have or what you're already doing. Do
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  leave me the comment. You cannot live a thoughtful
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  life if you do not think. clarity and pause.
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  Again, a theme that we've heard in other episodes,
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  which means it's important when we have multiple
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  women telling us the same thing. We need to take
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  that clarity pause, we need to take a moment
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  for ourselves, and we need to continue to work
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  on mindsets. Maybe it's reading books. Confidence
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  in abundance and focuses aren't just buzzwords,
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  they're muscle. Julia uses affirmations and mental
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  discipline to stay grounded and intentional.
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  Action item here, create a morning or evening
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  mindset ritual. Start with just five minutes.
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  It can be so small. I know you can find five
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  minutes in a day where you take the time to have
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  reflection or affirmation or gratitude. Maybe
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  you start journaling, but set your internal tone
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  before the world sets it for you. Takeaway number
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  two, design your life on purpose. Julia's schedule
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  isn't about hustle. It's about alignment. She
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  blocks time for what's important to her. For
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  her, it's fate. It's family. It's fitness. And
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  that's what she focuses on. I joked with her
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  about, does she sleep? It seems like she gets
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  so much accomplished in a day. And she does.
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  She goes to bed probably earlier than most of
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  us, which is amazing. And that just shows you
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  how intentional she is and how disciplined she
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  is. And she takes time for the things that are
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  important in her life. Now, she was quick to
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  say, it's not perfect. There's days where her
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  schedule gets off track, and that's okay. That's
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  life. That's normal. But she sets out with a
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  very disciplined, intentional schedule. The other
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  big takeaway with Julia and her intentional schedule
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  is that she sets boundaries. Now, she works for
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  herself. She has the ability to shut down work
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  at 3 p .m. Not all of us have that opportunity,
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  especially if you're in a corporate environment
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  or small business owner. But I think it's important
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  just the thought around that of having intentional
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  schedule times. And when you do, stop checking
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  your phone. I love the fact that she puts her
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  phone in another room because we all know how
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  much time we get distracted on our phone. And
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  if you're sitting here thinking about that you
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  don't have enough time in the day, I highly encourage
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  you to go on your phone and on Apple, you can
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  see how many times you've touched your phone
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  throughout the day or how many minutes a day
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  or hours a week are on your phone. So maybe one
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  of your goals is to lessen that time that you're
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  on your phone. And don't tell me you're on your
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  phone for work. Even though I'm sure you are,
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  you can see the breakdown by where you're spending
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  time, whether it's an email or on social media.
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  But the point is, let's limit our phone time.
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  No one is good at multitasking and no one's good
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  at always being on. You need that downtime and
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  you need to be intentional about how you're scheduling
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  it. Should be the comment that we're letting
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  our phones run our lives and that's so true.
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  So just try checking the list. The other comment
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  that she made was a book she made a great recommendation
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  for. It's called The Ruthless Elimination of
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  Hurry. I haven't read it yet. I ordered it from
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  Amazon, but I'm anxious to check that book out
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  because I think that's something that we all
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  can do a better job. The other part of being
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  intentional with her schedule is, as Julia shared,
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  she has her why. And she has a mission run company
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  and that's an amazing thing that she was able
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  to accomplish. But that helps her to fulfill
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  those things that are very important to her.
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  And that is serving others. She wants to make
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  the world a better place. So for running a very
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  successful company, having four kids living in
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  very different worlds with having teenage boys
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  and then her little ones, as she called them,
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  she has a lot going on, but she still finds that
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  time to give back what she finds very important.
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  It's about how you act, not what you say and
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  being true to your values. Action item, audit
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  your week, maybe two weeks. Does your calendar
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  reflect your values? Are you creating boundaries?
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  Are you protecting what matters most, even from
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  your own to -do list? And are you spending time
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  on the things that are most important to you?
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  Number three, ask for what you're worth. Julia
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  is a recruiter in the tech industry, so she gets
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  to see the employee side as well as the company
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  side of dealing with negotiation. And her advice
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  was for negotiating for a job, ask for top dollar,
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  do your research, then ask for more. Do it respectfully
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  and kindly. But I thought this was a great quote.
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  Don't say their no for them. It's all in your
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  approach. It's all in your research. And you
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  just have to ask. And she made the point of maybe
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  you ask for 10 % more and they come back and
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  meet you at 5 % more. Well, that's 5 % more than
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  you would have had if you didn't ask. It doesn't
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  hurt. And as I mentioned on the episode, I realized
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  I have not been a good negotiator in my past
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  working for companies where a company would come
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  back and say, hey, this is the amount. I'd be
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  like, OK, sounds good. I didn't push for that
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  offer because I didn't know. And maybe part of
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  the reason why we don't do that is. or uncomfortable.
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  Maybe it's we don't have the confidence, but
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  at the end of the day, we have to have the confidence.
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  We have to do the research. You have to be realistic.
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  Being on the hiring side, I don't want people
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  coming to me saying that they want some outrageous
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  number. That's not their value of that role,
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  but you have to be realistic, but you have to
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  definitely make the ask. And this isn't just
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  when you are applying for a new job or you're
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  going to accept a new job. This is in performance
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  review time or when they are giving those salary
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  or increases. This also happens I think a lot
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  of times where maybe throughout the year you
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  start taking on more work and more responsibility
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  and you're not compensated for that. So when
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  that happens you have to put together the reason
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  why you're asking for an increase because of
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  the additional work or the additional effort
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  you're putting in. Do your homework, look at
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  where you're at, and have the confidence to make
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  the ask. Another book recommendation she had
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  here, which I also ordered, is called Never Split
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  the Difference. It's all about negotiation. So
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  I'm really looking forward to reading that book
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  as well. Action item here, prep for your next
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  big ask. Know your value, ask with confidence,
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  and remember Julie's mantra, don't say their
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  no for them. Here's a reminder that clarity comes
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  from courage. Confidence grows through action,
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  and alignment starts with asking better questions.
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  Julia didn't wait for perfect timing. She created
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  her own runway. So whether you're negotiating
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  your work, building your schedule with intention,
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  or making the brave leap into something new,
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  know this. You're capable. You are worthy, and
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  you don't need to wait to get aligned. Now, go
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  build something that feels like you. Until next
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  time, stay loud and lifted.