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Forget Familiarity: Choose Your Next Level · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we are realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is your Winning Wednesday episode, Forget Familiarity.
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  Listen, one thing about us as human beings is that we are creatures of habit.
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  We like what we know, we gravitate toward what we've experienced before,
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  we attach ourselves to people, places, routines, relationships,
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  jobs, behaviors, and even versions of ourselves simply because they're familiar.
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  And here's the problem. Familiar doesn't always mean fitting.
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  Sometimes it just means I've been here before.
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  And if we're not careful, we'll keep choosing what feels familiar while praying
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  for something we've never experienced.
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  The good book tells us in Philippians 3, 13 and 14 about forgetting those things
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  which are behind and reaching forward toward what is ahead, pressing toward the mark.
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  Now, forgetting doesn't mean pretending your past didn't happen.
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  It doesn't mean erasing the lessons. It doesn't mean everything behind you was bad either.
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  Some of it was good. Some people were good to you.
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  Some seasons served you. Some opportunities blessed you.
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  Some versions of yourself got you through things you weren't sure you'd survive.
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  But something can be good and still be finished.
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  Because sometimes we're so busy asking what was wrong with it that we never
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  ask, does it still belong where I'm going?
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  That's a different question.
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  And that's where familiarity will fool you.
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  Because when God, life, growth, healing, or opportunity starts moving you into
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  unfamiliar territory, your first instinct may be to retreat.
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  This doesn't feel like me. I've never done it this way.
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  I've never been with somebody like this. I've never had this kind of opportunity.
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  I've never lived like this.
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  I've never been this version of myself.
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  Exactly. Maybe you're not supposed to recognize everything in your future because
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  you've never lived there before.
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  Your future is allowed to look unfamiliar.
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  Actually, if you're growing, parts of it probably should.
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  And here's the real talk. Stop using familiarity as confirmation.
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  Just because you've known somebody forever doesn't mean they belong forever.
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  Just because you've always handled situations a certain way doesn't mean that's
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  still the healthiest way.
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  Just because you've always worked that job, carried that responsibility,
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  accepted that behavior, played that role, or thought about yourself that way
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  doesn't mean you have to drag it into your next chapter.
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  And listen carefully. You don't have to hate your past to stop living in it.
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  You can appreciate what was and still press toward what can be.
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  You can honor who you were while becoming somebody different.
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  You can be grateful for a season and still know when it's time to leave it.
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  That's not betrayal. That's growth.
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  So this Wedding Wednesday, I want you to forget familiarity,
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  not your memories, not your lessons, not the people who genuinely matter.
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  Forget the idea that something must feel familiar before it can be right for
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  you, because your next opportunity may feel unfamiliar.
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  Your next level may feel familiar.
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  Peace may feel unfamiliar when you've spent years surviving chaos.
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  Healthy boundaries may feel unfamiliar when you've spent years overextending yourself.
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  Being loved differently may feel unfamiliar. Success may feel familiar.
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  The person you're becoming may even feel unfamiliar.
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  Let her, because you cannot keep demanding that your future resemble your past
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  and then wonder why nothing changes.
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  Forget those things behind you. Reach forward. Press toward the mark.
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  And give yourself permission to discover what you haven't seen yet.
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  Here's your fearless homework.
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  The familiarity audit. Take a piece of paper and write down three things you're
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  holding on to, primarily because they're familiar.
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  For each one, ask yourself, if I encountered this for the very first time today,
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  knowing what I know now, would I still choose it?
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  Don't rush your answer. Then write down one unfamiliar thing you've been resisting
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  because it feels uncomfortable, different, or uncertain.
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  Your assignment this week is simple. Take one step toward it.
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  You don't have to understand the whole role. You just have to stop requiring
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  tomorrow to look like yesterday before you're willing to walk toward it.
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  Decide commit succeed and remember familiar is where you've been it doesn't
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  get to decide where you're going,
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  keep learning keep living this is real talk for real life where we're realizing
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one.