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Addiction Hypnosis to Move on From a Risky Identity · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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issues. Brought to you by the
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hypnotherapist, Demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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royalty. Adam Cox.
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These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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world famous Harley Street, so get yourself comfortable and
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enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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Hi, it's Adam here. You're about to listen to a
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hypnosis session all about breaking an addiction by
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shifting an identity and a lot of people links and habits to
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the identity level. So if you think of alcohol and
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cigarettes, people might think of themselves as a as a drinker
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or as a smoker. And drug use tends to be adopted
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at the identity level. It forms part of who they
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consider themselves to be. But that can carry consequences,
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health consequences, financial consequences, even legal
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consequences, depending on what the substances and where in the
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world you might be taking it. So I was working with a client
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that had had some near misses, had certain things that really
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felt that they didn't want any more.
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And that was things about the level of use, how they're using
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it and particularly where they were using it.
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So this session is about two things.
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Firstly, regression, going back to a time where they had certain
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things that really were part of their identity, and then they
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shifted beyond that just because they moved on.
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And that was related to taking a substance, but also how they
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came across how they actually kind of presented themselves.
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So it starts with evidence that their identity can change and
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does change, and then it goes forward to two different
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timelines, a timeline of the consequences if they stay the
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same and a different timeline if they adopt A more healthy
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identity. And this particular client said,
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well, if they were to replace the substances that they were
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taking with something else that would be more positive.
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It would be things like exercise, fitness, eating well,
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that kind of stuff. So that's why that identity is
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the replacement so that they can experience what it would be like
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if they stay the same, but also what it would be like if they
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carried on their future with a slightly altered identity to
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take from this element of recklessness.
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And, you know, carrying risks with an element of discernment
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so that they only do certain things if if they feel that the
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risk reward ratio, which is more investment language, but it can
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apply to other things, is worth. It because.
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Otherwise, if you're carrying a lot of risk and there isn't much
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upside, then you increase the probability of an undesirable
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outcome happening. So if you are a user of
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substance and you feel like to carry on could actually be
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either reckless or have some kind of consequence for you, and
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you'd like to change that, this session might be really useful.
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Just be aware that the the session itself was created for a
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specific individual with very specific circumstances.
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Therefore, this session may have suggestions which aren't quite
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right for you. So just ignore any suggestions
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that aren't quite right. Hone into the ones that feel
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empowering for you. And if you like the idea of
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working with me directly, there will be a link in the
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description where you can schedule a free consultation
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call and then we can explore working together.
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So I'm your hypnotherapist, helping you specifically.
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For now, though, this session, even though it was recorded for
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someone else, may be useful for you.
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So find a quiet, comfortable place where you won't be.
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Disturbed. Relax.
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And enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in as you
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breathe in, breathe in and resourceful feeling of calm and
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relaxation. And as you exhale, just release
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any tension in your eyelids. And as you exhale, feel any
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tension, any frustration. You're feeling like it's leaving
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your body there in the outward breath, breathing in relaxation
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and exhaling tension. Each breath takes you deeper and
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deeper, relaxed. And I want you to scan your body
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for any clues of tension, restlessness, or stress.
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And as you breathe in, I want you to imagine you're breathing
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in the most concentrated and distilled version of
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resourcefulness. Not synthetic, not artificial,
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something real. Imagine it as a colour and
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you're breathing in that resourceful feeling of
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relaxation. Imagine that colour going in
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through your nose into your lungs, and imagine your heart
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distributing that really resourceful feeling to every
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cell in your body. And then imagine that any
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tension, any worries, any stress is melting away and then leaving
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your body like a dark cloud as you breathe out.
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Breathing in the resources you need and exhaling any
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limitations, any dependencies, any reliance.
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Just allow that to leave your body as you exhale.
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That's right, breathing in and breathing out.
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And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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And the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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Each breath takes you deeper and more relaxed than the last.
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And as your physical body relaxes, your imagination
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awakens. And I wonder if you can imagine
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a place outside by a pool near an olive tree, seeing the blue
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in the sky and just the occasional white fluffy cloud
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floating by. And I want you to get a feeling
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that a white fluffy cloud can be like a thought, even a craving,
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that if you just allow it and don't need to respond to it, it
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will just float on by. And then if another cloud comes
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along, there's nothing you need to do.
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You can just allow it to continue floating.
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And in the past, these clouds were like triggers.
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Certain people, certain places, even certain times of the day
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gave you a feeling that you had to do something.
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And every time you did, you created a link between a
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thought, a feeling, and an action.
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But it is possible to think something, to feel something,
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and not need to do anything at all as soon as you imagine.
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Perhaps a lounger, perhaps even something comfortable, maybe an
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inflatable just floating on a pool.
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Imagine looking up at the sky, feeling the warmth of the sun on
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your skin. But feeling completely relaxed,
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aligned that everything you need to do is nothing at all.
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As I countdown from 5 to 1, I want you to imagine releasing
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all the tension in every muscle and imagine what it would feel
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like to drift off into a dreamlike sleep there, looking
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up at the sky. 5 releasing all the tension around the face,
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your jaw, even the tiny, tiny muscles at the back of your
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neck. That's it.
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And then four. Focus now on your shoulders,
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breathing and relaxation, exhaling tension.
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Just allow all of that to melt away.
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And then three, just focus on your arms and your legs and
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imagine what they would feel like if they were limp and loose
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and completely relaxed just there by your side, just like
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the limbs of a puppet with no strings.
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And then two, focus on your internal organs, but
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particularly the area in your chest.
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Imagine how that would feel to release any and all tension.
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But also imagine your heart relaxing, your stomach relaxing,
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even your lungs relaxing. That's it.
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And then one just imagine a ripple of relaxation from the
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tips of your toes to the top of your head and then all the way
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down to your fingertips as you imagine what it would feel like
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to drift into that dream. Like sleep.
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And you've had dreams of going back to the past, and you've had
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dreams of exploring a future. And I wonder, in this dreamlike
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state, if you could imagine floating up out of your body and
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visiting the past from a new perspective.
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I want you to go back to a moment where part of who you are
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at your core changed. You never used to dress or be a
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certain way, and then one day you realized that you didn't
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need to do that to be who you really are.
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And I want you to observe what you were like before, how much
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time and effort was invested, be what you thought was aligned
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with your identity. And then one day something
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changed. And you didn't need to be like
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that to still be aligned with an identity.
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It just naturally evolved. You grew out of one thing and
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linked into something else. And I want you to see how that
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process unfolded. Maybe all it was was a
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realization, some thought that says I don't need to be like
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this. I can be who I want to be.
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And once you can observe that transition from one identity to
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another, let me know by nodding your head.
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That's it. And I want you to really connect
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with the idea that you are not static, You're not forced to be
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exactly the same way for your entire life.
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That it's natural to learn from experience, to make new
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evaluations, and to change subtly, sometimes profoundly, in
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positive new ways, and then go to a different point in time.
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I want you to see the days leading up to a major health
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scare. I want you to see then there was
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a time that you associated into positive feelings and
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disregarded consequences. Maybe think of a time when you
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were reckless. Intellectually, you may have
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known about some risks, but emotionally you didn't care
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until one day something changed. But I want you to observe what
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happened in the same way that someone else there would have
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observed it. And I want you to see the
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reactions of people's faces, the worry, the concern, the care.
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And I want you to see that at that point happened, something
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shifted, a new evaluation took place.
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Something along the lines of it's not worth the risk.
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Maybe parameters changed, frequency of use, quantity of
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use? Something changed, and when it
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changed, you didn't need willpower because the
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association of that thing had changed.
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What once was wonderful then became a bit gross.
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And when that shift happened, notice how more discerning you
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were. Instead of a regular user, you
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became incredibly discerning only in specific situations.
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And maybe there was other things like that.
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Something used to do a lot in your 20s, whereas now you might
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pick your battles. And what if this is wisdom?
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Discernment? What if this is maturing?
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What if this is not being boring, but being distinguished?
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I want you to think that some things might be appealing only
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if they're done sparingly. That if something is done every
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day, it can lose its appeal because it becomes mundane,
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predictable. That overuse is itself boring.
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And as you look at the past from this new perspective, you can
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extract the wisdom that sometimes changing standards,
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something you used to do regularly that then becomes
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infrequent, or something that you used to do, you're not
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willing to do at all. I want you to imagine what it
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would be like to have an iron clad boundary, not a rule.
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You're not forced to. It's a line you're choosing not
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to cross because it doesn't fit with who you are.
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And I want you to imagine standing in front of two
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different doors. Each door represents a different
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future, a different identity to experience that future.
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The door on the left is carrying on as you are, and the door on
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the right is a slightly evolved, enhanced identity of you.
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But let's experience carrying on the current path first.
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When you can imagine standing in front of that first door, let me
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know by nodding your head. And this first door, we can call
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it business as usual, but I want you to be the observer as you
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walk through the door, take on a third person perspective.
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And I want you to see yourself using certain substances at the
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same frequency that you currently do certain parties.
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You see yourself using certain situations and places in the
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world where availability is more.
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But I want you to see that certain things that you're
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doing, you're not doing for fun or excitement or adventure.
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Some of the things that just being trapped in a loop, doing
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what's familiar. But I want you to observe all of
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the things that seem to have a new meaning now.
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I want you to see yourself frustrated at losing a game and
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then feeling like you need something.
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You'll see yourself caught almost in a predictable loop.
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Certain rooms, checking a phone, doing something just repeats and
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repeats like someone's trapped in a moment.
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And I want you to see that when you do certain things, it
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amplifies the probability of doing other things that aren't
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healthy or carry risk. Maybe you see yourself smoking
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more, drinking more, using more, but from this third party
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perspective, like you're looking at yourself like a stranger, I
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want you to see that version of you that's used up their luck.
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How much luck can any one person have?
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How many near misses until the near miss isn't a near miss,
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it's a full on collision. How many wake up calls are
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needed until you actually wake up that new identity?
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How many lucky escapes until you don't get to escape?
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And I want you to imagine following that timeline to a
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future where you're not so lucky anymore.
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Maybe it's a random stop, some kind of a test to check and
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maybe where you're living in the world, you're not lucky as to
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the rules. I want you to imagine in that
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timeline, not a guarantee, just a possibility that your
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livelihood and your liberty is taken from you.
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I want you to see that you're treated very harshly, and maybe
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it's months, maybe even a year or more.
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I want you to see the toll that it takes on that version of you
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because sometimes when people find themselves in a particular
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place, they don't get to avoid trouble.
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Trouble finds them. I want you to see that sometimes
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life can be like a House of Cards, just one unfortunate
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thing, then causes another unfortunate thing, and then
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something else. And I want you to imagine
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observing the impact on the people you care for and love the
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most. Maybe people that rely on you,
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depend on you need you. Just observe as that person with
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limited options maybe can't help the people they used to and
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maybe that leads to further consequences, undesirable
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consequences. And this is just your
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imagination. But what if you consider a worst
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case scenario, the worst thing that could happen and yet could
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be avoided? Allow your imagination to do the
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hard work for you. These are already your fears,
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your worries, your concerns. They've always been there, even
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if you tried to bury them. And sometimes that's what a
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worry is for Just think of something you don't want in the
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future, so you get to avoid it. And when you can think of that
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horrible thing in the future, let me know about nodding your
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head. But I want you to imagine you
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yourself now visiting that version of you, telling them
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that this can all be avoided. Give them some wisdom, some
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advice, or perhaps a new identity.
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Maybe it's something as simple as trading in the gratification
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from a substance, from the real sense of pride, accomplishment,
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and energy that comes from a new level of health, fitness, and
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well-being in that horrible place.
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If they could go back in time and change things, wouldn't
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they? But before we leave this place,
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step into that future version of you experiencing that horrible
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future and feel that the desire to change is stronger than any
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desire to continue. And when you reach that place
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where this isn't just worth it anymore and you do anything to
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change, let me know about nodding your head.
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So imagine everything happens in reverse.
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Everything up to that point happens backwards until you find
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yourself walking through that door in reverse.
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But there is a new door. I want you to see a slightly
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different version of you standing in front of that door,
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looking lean, athletic, healthy. This version of you is still
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you. It's just a version of you that
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prioritizes your health and well-being.
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What if that version of you is addicted to healthy, nutritious
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food, physical activity, the dopamine you get from winning or
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accomplishing or new personal bests, rather than the dopamine
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you get from a substance? And when you're ready, step into
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that identity in the same way that you move from one version
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of you to someone else. This is no different.
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Imagine being that version of you lives, lives for living some
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of those feelings you've experienced in the path of
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energy vitality. What if that was because you
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value energy, vitality, Focus? But if you can get that in a new
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way, What if stimulation comes from experiences and not
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substances? And as you step into that
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identity, walk through the door and imagine what it would be
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like to just feel that you've changed.
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But you changing doesn't require that everyone around you
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changes. You can imagine being at a
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party, other people are doing things, but it seems to have a
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new connotation now. You might feel empathy,
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sympathy, or just observe things that you used to enjoy is a bit
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gross, a bit disgusting. And I want you to frame that
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this isn't boring. This isn't missing out on fun,
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this is living life to a new level of discernment, of being
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distinguished and connecting with this evolved version of
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you. And I want you to feel what it
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would feel like to feel. Then you can exercise more, eat
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better, and social situations. I want you to feel that
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discernment is more important than willpower, that there's
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certain things you just don't want to do anymore because it's
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not you. And I want you to imagine being
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in places where you're being offered certain things and just
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feel how proud you feel when you can say no thanks, that's not
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me. And feel like it's 100% true to
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connect to a new evolved identity.
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And maybe you leave early from certain places, not with a sense
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of missing out, but a sense of being proud of yourself.
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Proud that you're avoiding recklessness and risk.
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This isn't a sacrifice. This, this feels like duty,
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honour, discernment. This feels like evolution.
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And I want you to imagine following that timeline, having
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the option without the obligation to occasionally do
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some things you used to do, but only and that risk reward ratio
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seems like it makes sense. I want you to get a feeling that
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when you cross the road, you look to see if any cars are
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coming. But if you cross the road with
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your eyes closed, sooner or later you're going to get hit by
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a car. And if you are discerning when
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you cross the road, you can be discerning with other things
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too. To just feel how it would feel.
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Not to play that game of whack A mole, but to only do things if
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it really makes sense. To be free of a time loop, to be
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free of a prison. To be free of the grossness.
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And if this identity feels more appealing than anything else,
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let me know by nodding your head.
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And now it's time. It's time to leave this future
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knowing that you now have a choice to be the identity that
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you've been carrying on, full of those lucky escapes and near
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misses. Or a new identity where you
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mitigate those risks but have a new quality of life that comes
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from something else. Good food, good exercise,
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activities and accomplishments. Knowing that you can be proud of
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this version of you. So just imagine standing in
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front of those two doors with a new ethos.
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If you've already accepted this new identity, you would then
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have to choose the old one to go back to it.
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And all that risk and all of that grossness and all of that
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sniffling noses and all of that dependency.
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And if you get a sense that you just don't want that anymore
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because it isn't, you, let me know by nodding your head.
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And now you can float back back to that garden, the olive tree,
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the pool, the blue skies. But you float back at this new
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identity discernment and higher standards, and that can be
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boosted by willpower. But you don't need willpower for
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something that just isn't you anymore.
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It's time to return from that place to your current place
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again, taking all of this new identity with you.
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Take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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wiggle your toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken
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you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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456, more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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Open your eyes, 910. Wide awake, wide awake, wide
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awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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