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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just- Developing the Fear and Love of God 10.21.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Beside Shanghai is driving home this point about you he's
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  talking about has a dude in general becoming a better person
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  and he's driving home the idea of you're not showing.
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  We say all the time so and so is God fearing.
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  We praise people for being at a shaman and it's the most
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  impressive thing. And really a shaman is actually
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  we'll see. It's tested mainly in private
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  because we know the classic came out when the rabbi came into the
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  students and the students asked him to give him a blessing.
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  And his blessing was you should fear heaven as much as you fear
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  people. This is in the time of the
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  camera. And they said, that's the,
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  that's your blessing. And he said, Halavati, I wish it
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  was that people would be like that, which means that fear of
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  heaven is something that's a little bit distant.
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  It sounds a little abstract. And because of that, it's
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  actually something you have to work and develop a way to create
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  such an existence. You need to create a fear of
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  Yachaman without creating. It won't be that You could have
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  a person who Walters through life with 0 Yachaman.
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  He doesn't fear God at all. And he's saying to yourself,
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  what's wrong with this guy? And the answer is he never
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  brought it to his mind, the concept of yachamanim.
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  He never brought it down to earth.
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  And Abu Dhabi's job is to make a reality.
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  How do you make Yachamanim reality?
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  We're telling you it's so hard. And especially because
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  Yachamanim is something that's noticed most when nobody else is
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  around. Theory of the people is a public
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  act. Same way you know people who are
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  nice and public and obnoxious and private.
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  So do you know people who act a certain way in public and in
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  private? The ACT gaps.
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  You know what Jeremiah is something that's 24/7.
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  You know what Jeremiah is saying?
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  That's even in private, right? How do you get that done?
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  How do you adopt the United Jeremiah?
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  So Messiah saying gives you 3 things you need #1 he has to
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  imagine. You need a level of imagination.
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  It's a reality, but you need to bring it to light.
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  The imagination is God is right in front of me.
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  It takes work. Hashem is in front of you, in
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  your mind, Shivitas Hashema. And then you tell me, create a
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  world where you think that Hashema is right in front of
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  you. You do so you build that world.
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  You get that sort of image at step one.
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  If I see, I share mine in front of me.
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  I show him a little powerful. If I see him in front of me,
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  I'll be that shaman. That's one that's page 358.
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  That's his first point, he says, and that's probably the most
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  difficult thing. How do I put a sham in front of
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  my eyes? I read the third line.
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  I read this, yes, I read to you. But today Quizeno, I would take
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  cashier. It's very difficult.
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  She decided to believe, to imagine in your mind how Adam
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  Tiur Amiti and real imagination. Jan and Josh Ozila said there's
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  no sense that allows you and helps you imagine Hashem.
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  It's not seeing him, you're not hearing, you're not feeling,
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  you're not touching him. That's smelly.
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  So how do you do it? You need to imagine totally from
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  scratch. All right on now, however,
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  although it seems like it's very abstract, MI Chu BA seh la MI
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  TI. If someone if someone has a
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  clear mind, then at the canute is go from zero to 100 in a
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  minute. It's coming from nothing.
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  You're building an image that doesn't exist, but at the same
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  time it's easy to do so because you look at life, as you said
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  yesterday, look at the news, look at the world, look at what
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  goes on in the world and you can develop with an honest
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  perspective on the world. You can develop.
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  You're not Shami. I gave you my example yesterday.
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  I think it's the going which is at the same time Hashem is
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  giving us a federal government as the most pro Jewish thing
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  you've ever seen and a local government is the most anti or
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  baby going to be as Shalom, the most anti Jewish thing at the
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  same time. Why is God doing it?
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  God's pulling strings. You see it and you see therefore
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  the image of Hashem. So your aunt Jemimah is easy to
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  attain when you just as he says, a little bit of Sehu, Bob and
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  Hassim. The reality is that we're
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  talking to Hashem, we're begging Hashem.
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  All these things bring out your aunt and the fact that I'm
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  asking him every day. How many things I I mentioned in
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  the daily, right? You could come up with a new
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  fresh start every day in the Tiffila.
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  How many things do you have to ask for?
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  It's sometimes if you allow the list to open up, it's endless.
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  Give me safety, give me health, give me a success of my
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  children, Panasa maybe let them avoid mistakes.
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  Let them marry the right people. Let them build their own homes.
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  They're going to have a health in their lives.
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  Let them have peace. Everything should have any list
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  1,000,000, right? If you allow your list to go,
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  it's a million, all right, because your own healthy, but
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  your own healthy. So many different things.
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  I go to the bed just now as I'm talking to me, this class I had,
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  it's the middle of the class I had that you know, you have that
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  ringing in your ear. All right, So I had a we know
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  people. I know people who had the
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  ringing in a year for a year. It's the worst a ringing in a
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  year for a year and it drove them crazy, regular guys and it
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  took time for it to go away. So as I'm talking, as I'm
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  ringing, as I'm thinking myself, a person has that for a year.
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  It drives him as noon. It's one detail.
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  All right here. Another one.
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  I was helping build my suka. I know why I still do it, but I
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  do it. And I fell.
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  Huh. Why can't you do it?
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  I don't know. It's physical labor.
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  I'm not good. I fell through a chair, All
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  right. I had the chair ripped.
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  There was some bad chair in my backyard.
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  I fell through it and I tripped and I ripped up my legs and it.
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  You don't think I was going to break anything, hurt that my
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  legs cuts all over the place. And you know, at first I was
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  like kind of very upset at the idea of falling through a chair
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  and why am I even doing this, da, da, da.
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  Then next day I heard about somebody who fell off a ladder
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  and broke his leg. Same thing.
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  Building a Zuccottable was like, there's so many things that we
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  have to be able to be thankful for and ask for.
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  And if you allow your mind to be really honest with yourself, all
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  right, how many different layers of knees do we have?
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  And because of that, when we're talking to God, we're talking to
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  the source of all this help. And that therefore develops a
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  very easy way to have you out. Shamayan.
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  I'm talking to the one who's going to provide, you know,
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  these different areas. How can I not fear the only way?
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  I cannot fear him if I'm ignorant, if I avoid actually
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  focusing on God. So you're out, Shamayan is
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  easily developed cachet. The better each other over
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  there. Oh my Shiva, you have so many
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  need you talking to God. He's listening to you like a
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  friend listen to a friend. Of course he going to recognize
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  his presence and as that develop fear.
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  So fear is a reality. It's very technically easy
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  attainable so long as we space in you know, it's funny.
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  The greatest tool of being a successful Jew is spacing in
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  that's it. She's spacing in.
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  You don't need depth. You don't need learning
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  Kabbalah. You don't even need to know the
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  ultra don't need to know much to that just spacing in can make
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  you into a very God fearing and therefore very developed you
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  because we are clear in the fact that our lives have so many
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  needs. Our lives are being provided so
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  many things. We talk to God every day.
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  OK, we had going in very funny. There was Sunday, right?
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  And Sunday the security guard, OK, he walks over to my to my he
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  walks over to my house such about the security.
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  I wasn't there. And he asks my wife if I'm home.
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  I wasn't home. He has a request.
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  The request is that he has a nephew or cousin that's doing a
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  report in college. And the report he chose the
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  topic of Judaism and he wants to know if he can interview a rabbi
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  and he could check out his shoe. OK, fine.
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  All right. Nice.
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  My wife was very wary of these things.
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  OK. She comes from the wary kind of
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  mindset. It can get worse than what?
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  What's being reported. So I'm thinking to myself, I'm
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  very gullible. I'm very nice.
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  These type of people. She's very wary.
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  Fine. She gave them all from wherever
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  she told them. I don't know.
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  The second they come Sunday morning.
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  You just. I don't know where brain starts.
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  I'm not sure it's eight. I'm not sure it's 9.
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  Fine. You have to get the more.
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  Anyhow, they show up 9 during the Sunday after the class.
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  Sunday. Yeah, five very nice seaming
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  kids non Jews. OK, very nice.
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  He seemed very earnest. Oh my God.
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  OK, it's not it was actually very cute.
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  So I I said in the beginning and some only thing I'm wary of is
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  safety happens to be a security guard bring them in so it's not
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  so bad before I had a security guard.
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  I'm wary of safety. I don't want to make anything of
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  it. I want to see something that
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  could be dangerous. I don't know what they should
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  have been said fine. So I didn't really allow them to
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  see the whole building. It's like, scope it out and take
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  pictures that no, but you want to ask me questions in the
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  hallway. Why not one of kids, Croatian,
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  other guys, Chinese parents, other guys, Chinese parents,
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  other guys are Fiji parents, All right.
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  And the other guys got parents Italian.
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  OK, It's a real mix. So they asked a few questions,
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  few questions. One question was I heard that
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  the men and women pray standing separate spots.
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  Why you try to explain the whole idea of purity?
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  And so I gave them an easy answer.
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  Honestly, what's the easy answer?
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  Easy answer is they're easy. You go to school.
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  Friends and problems are in college, right?
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  There's sophomars in God, 20 years old, right?
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  So you go to school. Yeah.
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  You're doing a report, right? Have to focus.
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  What happens? Easy answer.
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  What happens if there's a girl in your class that you like?
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  You lose a concentrate. How much you can concentrate.
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  They all smirked. They all left, and they got it.
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  Like this gives an easy answer. Fine.
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  Another question was, how often do you pray?
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  And it's probably the thing that shocked me the most.
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  I said three times a day. He literally felt that they were
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  standing a little. What?
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  You show up to the place three times a day?
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  He couldn't believe it. Right.
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  So the reality is we talked to God three times a day.
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  Whatever the one that they had that was interesting.
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  They were blown away by the narrow time.
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  You do. Is there really something called
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  an eternal light? Do you really have one?
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  Do you keep it on all the time? I don't have it in deal.
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  Yeah, there you go. But the, the thing that was a
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  little surprising to them was the idea that we prayed 3 times
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  a day, right? So I'm, as I'm saying over these
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  questions or having a conversation, these things are
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  surprising me. I never thought about these
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  things. You ever think about the fact
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  they go to a show twice or you pray at a chance three times a
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  day? You ever think about it becomes
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  a liberal routine. We know it's difficult, but it
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  becomes routine. So the mindset is, is that we
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  are talking to God so, so often. We are doing so it's easy if you
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  just space in to develop. You know, Shamim, it's not like
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  Yirajayim is this lofty concept. It's reality.
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  It just requires facing in. A good Jew is someone who
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  notices life. He's aware.
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  All you need to be is aware. You know, we're in the pressure
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  of Noah, Talita to Abraham because we'll see.
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  Noah gets a lot of credit. We also get a lot of knocking.
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  We compare them to Abrahamino. What's the big difference
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  between the two? Abraham picked up on God.
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  Noah needed to be shown God. That's a big difference.
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  And because that's a world of a difference, Noah is considered
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  the guy who followed God. Abraham is considered the one
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  who found Abraham became a leader.
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  Noah, not so much. Abraham changed the generation.
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  Noah not really right. And although Noah is considered
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  Sadiq Tamim, which an Amban says is a man that never did anything
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  wrong, he still had in a sense 0 influence on the people.
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  What's the big difference? One person spaced in first and
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  the other one did not. One person picked up on God,
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  another one need to be showing God.
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  That's the difference, that's the conscious.
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  So your arch of my name is something that can be attained
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  by just simply spacing in. And then he says once you do
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  allow yourself to focus and look at the world and see it in the
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  classes and lenses of how God exists, you start to reel a
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  second step. But don't move to your Barack.
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  How great is God if I just face in and I realize that God
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  exists. I realize that he's all
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  powerful. I realize he's pulling the
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  strings left and right. The day the news is an example
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  because it's an easy wake up call.
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  The news is everything we're seeing is shocking.
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  We we live in a world of shocking news developments
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  daily. We didn't used to live in that
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  world. We do major swings and major
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  things in a daily thing. What does it do for you?
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  It allows you to see how how was some God is how big time his
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  moves may be, and then the final step is how small we are in
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  controls. We cannot pull.
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  We are Papui help us. We completely help us in so many
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  areas, so many areas. The ring in my ear God didn't
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  pull it away. I'd be stuck with nothing I can
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  do. My friend had to deal with it
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  for a year. All right, health.
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  We can't do anything about health.
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  So we had the COVID. It was like greatest example of
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  hold of tying our hands of all the time.
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  You blame the government, you blame China, you blame whatever
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  you may blame. You're still stuck.
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  So nothing you can do, right? So the idea of being so small
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  and conscious contrast to Hashem's awesomeness is
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  something that you put this in full circle.
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  He realized I have complete, total trembling because he's
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  controlling my life. He's controlling everything
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  going on in my life and I have a 0 control response.
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  So with that in mind, how can I not shake?
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  How can I not tremble? How can I not be complete at all
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  and develop yachamayim? And by the way, Yachamayim is
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  not really a scary thought. It's a very comforting thought
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  because when you realize just how awesome God is and then you
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  realize just how much is in your life, it becomes and leads.
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  You know, we always say is yachamayim and there's avat
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  Hashem. We always say they're such polar
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  opposites, fear and love of the opposite and not really when it
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  comes to God. Because when you are a complete
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  awe and then you realize how much is in your life, you end up
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  loving him. Because yes, I am terrified of
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  the fact. I'm in total awe of the fact
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  that God controls everything. But then yes, I realized how
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  many million times has he done things to me where I had 0
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  control to make that happen. And that all leads to love.
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  And that's what they call as the things that Pasuka will see
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  called Gilu barada. We celebrate in fear.
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  It's, it's, it's, it's opposites.
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  If he were a king, if he were someone who's powerful but no
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  connection to me, there would be fear without love.
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  If you were my father, which has connection but no power,
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  there'll be love without fear. There we have the perfect
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  combination. We explained it on Hushnarabad,
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  this idea. But it's an idea that needs to
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  exist in our minds all time. We live with a sense of awe of
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  Hashem. He's involved in everything, He
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  controls everything, He's pulling all the strings In our
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  personal life, The first thing in the morning, all the rabbits.
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  That's exactly, that's what happens when you start your day,
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  you bring Hashem into your life. When you do so, you begin with
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  trembling and you lead. That should be our mindset.
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  Exactly. It's, it's the purpose.
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  Because we think I should have every detail and therefore we
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  recognize every detail. And therefore we hit off these
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  two triggers, the fear and the love, the recognition and then
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  the appreciation. It go hand in hand.
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  The person has to absorb this and that'll be the highest level
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  of without your mind, regardless of how much he, you know,
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  analyzed and developed. It's simple.
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  It's easy to see some of this.