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16. What if everything is happening for our good? · Burning Brightly

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  Hey
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  friends.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  burning
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  brightly.
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  Today,
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  talk
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  to
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  you
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  about
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  a
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  movie
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  that
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  I
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  recently
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  saw
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  with
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  my
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  teenagers.
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  It's
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  called
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  the
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  Truman
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  show.
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  If
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  you've
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  been
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  around
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  for
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  more
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  than
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  20
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  years,
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  you've
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  probably
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  heard
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  of
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  it.
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  And
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  it
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  was
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  a
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  really
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  fun
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  story
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  about
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  a
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  man
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  who
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  was
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  actually
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  adopted
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  by
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  a
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  production
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  studio.
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  And
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  then
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  he
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  was
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  raised
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  by
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  actors
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  under
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  ever
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  present
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  cameras
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  and
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  a
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  live
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  audience.
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  So
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  in
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  other
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  words,
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  his
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  whole
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  life
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  was
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  a
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  TV
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  show.
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  everything
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  was
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  created
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  for
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  him.
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  So
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  his
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  family
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  members,
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  his
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  boss.
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  The
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  random
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  dog
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  Walker,
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  he
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  said
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  hi
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  to
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  on
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  his
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  way
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  to
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  work
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  every
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  morning.
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  The
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  newspaper
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  salesman
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  that
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  he
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  went
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  to,
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  even
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  people
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  who
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  he
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  never
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  interacted
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  with
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  who
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  were
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  just
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  extras,
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  they
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  all
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  had
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  one
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  job.
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  And
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  that
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  one
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  job
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  was
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  to
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  be
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  there.
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  If
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  and
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  when
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  Truman
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  needed
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  them
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  to
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  be
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  able
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  to
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  interact
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  with
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  them,
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  to
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  be
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  able
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  to
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  make
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  his
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  life
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  better
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  in
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  some
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  way.
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  It's
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  a
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  fascinating,
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  fascinating
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  look
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  into.
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  Life
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  and
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  what
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  is
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  real
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  and
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  what
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  is
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  not.
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  So
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  if
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  you
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  haven't
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  seen
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  it,
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  I
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  highly
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  recommend
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  it,
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  but
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  let's
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  just
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  set
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  aside
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  for
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  a
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  second.
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  The
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  obvious
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  moral
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  dilemmas
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  that
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  come
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  along
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  with
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  forcing
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  someone
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  to
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  be
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  on
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  a
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  television
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  show
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  without
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  their
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  consent.
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  Okay.
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  We're
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  going
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  to,
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  we're
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  going
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  to
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  put
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  that
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  aside
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  for
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  a
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  minute,
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  but
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  think
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  about
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  just
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  a
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  second,
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  the
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  magic.
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  Of
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  living
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  a
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  life.
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  Where
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  everything
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  is
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  orchestrated
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  for
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  your
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  good.
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  Just
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  think
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  about
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  that
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  for
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  a
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  second.
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  If
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  you
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  knew
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  that
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  everything
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  that
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  happened
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  to
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  you.
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  Was
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  for
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  your
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  benefit?
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  What,
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  if
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  you
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  knew
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  that
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  the
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  good
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  that
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  happened
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  to
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  you,
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  the
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  bad,
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  the
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  ugly
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  that
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  it
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  was
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  all
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  part
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  of
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  a
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  plot.
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  To
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  give
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  you
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  the
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  best
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  chance
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  at
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  happiness,
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  just
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  like
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  for
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  Truman.
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  Kind
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  of
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  a
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  cool
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  thought,
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  right?
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  Whether
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  you
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  know
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  it
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  or
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  not.
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  Let's
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  just
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  talk
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  for
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  a
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  second
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  about
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  the
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  idea
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  that
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  the
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  world
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  is
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  conspiring
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  for
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  our
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  good.
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  Now
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  this
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  isn't
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  meant
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  to
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  just
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  turn
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  us
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  into
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  narcissists.
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  Right?
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  We
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  walk
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  around
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  thinking,
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  well,
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  everything
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  is
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  for
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  me
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  and
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  meant
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  for
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  me
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  no.
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  That's
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  not
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  what
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  we're
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  trying
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  to
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  do
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  here.
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  We
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  are
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  going
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  to
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  instead
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  try
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  on
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  a
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  new
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  story.
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  And
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  that
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  story
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  is
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  that
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  everything
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  that
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  comes
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  at
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  us.
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  Is
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  designed
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  to
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  help
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  us
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  succeed,
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  grow
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  stronger
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  or
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  become
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  better
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  in
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  some
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  way.
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  So
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  try
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  that
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  story
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  on
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  for
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  just
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  a
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  minute.
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  As
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  we
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  talk
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  today.
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  one
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  of
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  the
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  very
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  first
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  things
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  that
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  I
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  teach
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  new
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  clients
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  about
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  the
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  world
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  and
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  their
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  brain
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  is
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  that
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  there
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  are
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  very
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  few
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  cold,
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  hard
• 2:37
  facts
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  in
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  the
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  world.
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  We
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  call
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  facts
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  in
• 2:40
  the
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  life
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  coaching
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  world
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  circumstances.
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  And
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  the
• 2:43
  definition
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  of
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  a
• 2:44
  circumstance
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  is
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  that
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  it
• 2:45
  is
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  something
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  that
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  everyone
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  in
• 2:47
  the
• 2:47
  world
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  can
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  agree
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  on.
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  So
• 2:49
  when
• 2:49
  you
• 2:50
  think
• 2:50
  about
• 2:50
  it
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  like
• 2:50
  that,
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  the
• 2:51
  number
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  of
• 2:52
  true
• 2:52
  facts
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  diminishes
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  drastically,
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  right?
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  What
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  is
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  one
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  thing
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  that
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  the
• 2:55
  whole
• 2:55
  world
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  can
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  agree
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  on?
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  Well,
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  maybe
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  that
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  grass
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  is
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  green.
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  Now
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  a
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  certain
• 3:00
  shade
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  of
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  green
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  no,
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  probably
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  not.
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  That
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  the
• 3:02
  sky
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  when
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  there's
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  no
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  clouds
• 3:03
  in
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  it
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  is
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  blue.
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  That
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  there
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  are
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  people
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  on
• 3:05
  the
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  earth,
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  everything
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  else
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  that
• 3:08
  everyone
• 3:08
  on
• 3:08
  earth
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  can't
• 3:08
  agree
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  on
• 3:09
  is
• 3:09
  just
• 3:09
  a
• 3:09
  story.
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  It
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  doesn't
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  mean
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  it's
• 3:11
  not
• 3:11
  necessarily
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  true.
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  But
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  if
• 3:13
  everyone
• 3:13
  can
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  agree
• 3:14
  on
• 3:14
  it,
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  it
• 3:14
  can't
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  be
• 3:15
  called
• 3:15
  a
• 3:15
  fact.
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  So
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  let
• 3:16
  me
• 3:16
  give
• 3:16
  you
• 3:16
  a
• 3:16
  few
• 3:16
  examples.
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  You
• 3:18
  walk
• 3:18
  into
• 3:18
  a
• 3:18
  room.
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  a
• 3:19
  fact
• 3:20
  would
• 3:20
  be,
• 3:20
  there
• 3:20
  are
• 3:20
  35
• 3:21
  people
• 3:21
  in
• 3:21
  this
• 3:22
  room.
• 3:22
  A
• 3:22
  story
• 3:23
  would
• 3:23
  be
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  there's
• 3:24
  a
• 3:24
  lot
• 3:25
  of
• 3:25
  people
• 3:25
  in
• 3:25
  this
• 3:25
  room.
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  Okay,
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  because
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  not
• 3:26
  everyone
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  can
• 3:27
  agree
• 3:27
  on
• 3:27
  whether
• 3:27
  or
• 3:27
  not
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  there's
• 3:28
  a
• 3:28
  lot
• 3:28
  of
• 3:28
  people.
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  Let's
• 3:29
  say
• 3:29
  he
• 3:29
  weighs
• 3:30
  99
• 3:30
  pounds
• 3:31
  is
• 3:31
  a
• 3:31
  fact.
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  He
• 3:32
  is
• 3:33
  really
• 3:33
  skinny
• 3:34
  as
• 3:34
  a
• 3:34
  story.
• 3:35
  My
• 3:35
  sister-in-law
• 3:35
  said
• 3:36
  the
• 3:36
  words
• 3:37
  you
• 3:37
  are
• 3:38
  not
• 3:38
  very
• 3:38
  nice.
• 3:38
  Sometimes
• 3:39
  that's
• 3:39
  a
• 3:39
  fact,
• 3:40
  she
• 3:40
  said
• 3:40
  these
• 3:40
  words,
• 3:41
  everyone
• 3:41
  can
• 3:41
  agree
• 3:42
  that
• 3:42
  those
• 3:42
  came
• 3:42
  out
• 3:42
  of
• 3:42
  her
• 3:42
  mouth.
• 3:43
  A
• 3:43
  story
• 3:43
  might
• 3:44
  be.
• 3:44
  ugh
• 3:44
  my
• 3:45
  sister-in-law
• 3:45
  hates
• 3:45
  me.
• 3:47
  stories
• 3:47
  change
• 3:48
  all
• 3:48
  the
• 3:48
  time.
• 3:49
  The
• 3:49
  facts
• 3:49
  can
• 3:49
  stay
• 3:50
  the
• 3:50
  same
• 3:50
  and
• 3:50
  stories
• 3:51
  can
• 3:51
  be
• 3:51
  different
• 3:51
  from
• 3:52
  one
• 3:52
  person
• 3:52
  to
• 3:52
  the
• 3:52
  next,
• 3:53
  from
• 3:53
  one
• 3:53
  day
• 3:53
  to
• 3:53
  the
• 3:53
  next.
• 3:54
  Have
• 3:54
  you
• 3:54
  ever
• 3:54
  had
• 3:54
  the
• 3:54
  same
• 3:54
  thing
• 3:55
  happen
• 3:55
  to
• 3:55
  you
• 3:55
  one
• 3:55
  day?
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  And
• 3:56
  you
• 3:56
  make
• 3:56
  it
• 3:57
  mean
• 3:57
  something,
• 3:57
  and
• 3:57
  then
• 3:57
  the
• 3:57
  next
• 3:58
  thing
• 3:58
  you
• 3:58
  make
• 3:58
  it
• 3:58
  seem,
• 3:58
  it
• 3:58
  means
• 3:59
  something
• 3:59
  else.
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  Absolutely.
• 4:00
  That's
• 4:01
  how
• 4:01
  life
• 4:01
  works.
• 4:01
  Okay.
• 4:02
  So
• 4:02
  understanding
• 4:02
  of
• 4:02
  the
• 4:03
  difference
• 4:03
  is
• 4:03
  really,
• 4:04
  really
• 4:04
  life-changing.
• 4:06
  Why?
• 4:07
  Like
• 4:07
  I
• 4:07
  said,
• 4:07
  because
• 4:07
  stories
• 4:08
  can
• 4:08
  be
• 4:08
  told
• 4:08
  and
• 4:08
  retold
• 4:09
  in
• 4:09
  a
• 4:09
  number
• 4:10
  of
• 4:10
  different
• 4:10
  ways.
• 4:11
  And
• 4:12
  here's
• 4:12
  the
• 4:12
  important
• 4:13
  part.
• 4:14
  We
• 4:14
  always
• 4:15
  hold
• 4:15
  the
• 4:16
  power
• 4:16
  to
• 4:17
  retell
• 4:17
  our
• 4:17
  story.
• 4:18
  Always.
• 4:19
  Can
• 4:20
  we
• 4:20
  control
• 4:20
  the
• 4:20
  facts
• 4:20
  of
• 4:20
  our
• 4:20
  lives
• 4:21
  sometimes.
• 4:22
  We
• 4:22
  could
• 4:23
  be
• 4:23
  in
• 4:23
  a
• 4:23
  bad
• 4:23
  relationship
• 4:23
  and
• 4:24
  choose
• 4:24
  to
• 4:24
  leave
• 4:24
  it.
• 4:24
  We
• 4:25
  can
• 4:25
  live
• 4:25
  in
• 4:25
  a
• 4:25
  rainy
• 4:25
  place
• 4:26
  and
• 4:26
  choose
• 4:26
  to
• 4:26
  move.
• 4:27
  Right?
• 4:27
  Sometimes
• 4:27
  we
• 4:28
  can't
• 4:28
  control
• 4:28
  some
• 4:28
  of
• 4:28
  the
• 4:28
  facts
• 4:29
  of
• 4:29
  our
• 4:29
  lives,
• 4:29
  but
• 4:29
  very
• 4:30
  often.
• 4:31
  Even
• 4:31
  in
• 4:31
  these
• 4:32
  lives
• 4:32
  that
• 4:33
  we've
• 4:33
  controlled
• 4:33
  as
• 4:33
  much
• 4:34
  as
• 4:34
  we
• 4:34
  can.
• 4:35
  Facts
• 4:35
  happen
• 4:36
  that
• 4:36
  we
• 4:36
  do
• 4:36
  not
• 4:37
  love.
• 4:37
  And
• 4:37
  we
• 4:38
  get
• 4:38
  to
• 4:38
  tell
• 4:38
  the
• 4:38
  story
• 4:39
  about
• 4:39
  what
• 4:39
  we're
• 4:40
  going
• 4:40
  to
• 4:40
  make
• 4:40
  it
• 4:40
  mean.
• 4:40
  Okay.
• 4:41
  That's
• 4:41
  so,
• 4:42
  so
• 4:42
  powerful.
• 4:43
  And
• 4:43
  probably
• 4:43
  the
• 4:43
  first
• 4:44
  thing
• 4:44
  that
• 4:44
  makes
• 4:45
  the
• 4:45
  biggest
• 4:45
  difference
• 4:46
  in
• 4:46
  someone's
• 4:46
  life
• 4:46
  when
• 4:46
  they
• 4:46
  start
• 4:47
  coaching
• 4:48
  and
• 4:48
  they
• 4:48
  start
• 4:48
  managing
• 4:49
  their
• 4:49
  mind
• 4:49
  is
• 4:50
  the
• 4:50
  power
• 4:50
  to
• 4:51
  retell
• 4:51
  their
• 4:51
  story
• 4:51
  the
• 4:51
  way
• 4:52
  they
• 4:52
  want
• 4:52
  to.
• 4:53
  So
• 4:53
  let's
• 4:53
  go
• 4:53
  back
• 4:53
  to
• 4:53
  this
• 4:54
  idea
• 4:54
  for
• 4:54
  a
• 4:54
  second,
• 4:54
  about
• 4:55
  everything
• 4:55
  happening
• 4:56
  for
• 4:56
  our
• 4:57
  good.
• 4:58
  This
• 4:58
  is
• 4:58
  a
• 4:58
  story.
• 4:59
  Choosing
• 5:00
  to
• 5:00
  believe
• 5:00
  that
• 5:00
  that's
• 5:00
  a
• 5:00
  story
• 5:01
  that
• 5:01
  you
• 5:01
  choose
• 5:01
  to
• 5:01
  believe
• 5:02
  or
• 5:02
  not,
• 5:02
  to
• 5:02
  believe.
• 5:02
  Right.
• 5:03
  And
• 5:03
  it's
• 5:03
  actually
• 5:03
  a
• 5:03
  story
• 5:03
  that
• 5:04
  sounds
• 5:04
  pretty
• 5:04
  nice.
• 5:04
  Am
• 5:04
  I
• 5:05
  right?
• 5:05
  Everything
• 5:05
  is
• 5:05
  conspiring
• 5:06
  for
• 5:06
  my
• 5:06
  good.
• 5:07
  Okay,
• 5:07
  sweet.
• 5:08
  That
• 5:09
  sounds
• 5:09
  amazing.
• 5:10
  The
• 5:10
  idea
• 5:11
  that
• 5:11
  everything
• 5:11
  is
• 5:11
  happening
• 5:12
  for
• 5:13
  us.
• 5:14
  Instead
• 5:14
  of
• 5:14
  against
• 5:14
  us,
• 5:15
  maybe.
• 5:15
  Cause
• 5:15
  sometimes
• 5:15
  it
• 5:15
  feels
• 5:16
  like
• 5:16
  that.
• 5:17
  It's
• 5:17
  actually
• 5:17
  a
• 5:17
  really
• 5:18
  fun
• 5:18
  story
• 5:19
  and
• 5:19
  one
• 5:19
  we
• 5:19
  might
• 5:20
  want
• 5:20
  to
• 5:20
  believe,
• 5:20
  but
• 5:21
  it
• 5:21
  might
• 5:21
  be
• 5:21
  a
• 5:21
  little
• 5:21
  bit
• 5:21
  difficult
• 5:22
  for
• 5:22
  us
• 5:22
  to
• 5:22
  believe.
• 5:22
  And
• 5:22
  so
• 5:22
  we'll
• 5:22
  talk
• 5:23
  about
• 5:23
  that
• 5:23
  in
• 5:23
  a
• 5:23
  second.
• 5:24
  But
• 5:24
  did
• 5:25
  you
• 5:25
  know
• 5:25
  that
• 5:25
  it's
• 5:25
  a
• 5:25
  story
• 5:26
  you
• 5:26
  can
• 5:26
  choose?
• 5:27
  You
• 5:27
  really
• 5:27
  can.
• 5:28
  And
• 5:28
  I
• 5:29
  want
• 5:29
  you
• 5:29
  to
• 5:29
  be
• 5:29
  really,
• 5:30
  really
• 5:30
  clear
• 5:31
  on
• 5:31
  the
• 5:31
  fact
• 5:31
  that
• 5:31
  everything
• 5:32
  is
• 5:32
  a
• 5:32
  story
• 5:32
  so
• 5:33
  that
• 5:33
  you
• 5:33
  don't
• 5:33
  feel
• 5:33
  like
• 5:34
  this
• 5:34
  is
• 5:34
  just
• 5:35
  being
• 5:35
  naive
• 5:36
  or
• 5:37
  being
• 5:37
  toxically
• 5:38
  positive.
• 5:39
  That's
• 5:39
  not
• 5:39
  what
• 5:39
  I'm
• 5:39
  talking
• 5:39
  about
• 5:40
  at
• 5:40
  all.
• 5:40
  I'm
• 5:40
  talking
• 5:40
  about
• 5:41
  choosing
• 5:41
  to
• 5:41
  believe
• 5:41
  a
• 5:42
  story
• 5:42
  that
• 5:42
  serves
• 5:43
  you
• 5:43
  more
• 5:44
  than
• 5:44
  what
• 5:45
  you're
• 5:45
  currently
• 5:45
  believing.
• 5:46
  So
• 5:46
  you
• 5:47
  can
• 5:47
  choose
• 5:47
  today
• 5:47
  right
• 5:48
  now.
• 5:48
  To
• 5:49
  decide
• 5:49
  that
• 5:49
  everything
• 5:50
  you
• 5:50
  do.
• 5:51
  Everything
• 5:51
  that
• 5:51
  happens
• 5:52
  to
• 5:52
  you
• 5:52
  and
• 5:52
  everything
• 5:52
  that
• 5:52
  happens
• 5:53
  around
• 5:53
  you
• 5:54
  or
• 5:54
  to
• 5:54
  your
• 5:54
  loved
• 5:54
  ones.
• 5:55
  Is
• 5:55
  for
• 5:56
  your
• 5:56
  greatest
• 5:57
  good.
• 5:58
  Like,
• 5:59
  yeah,
• 5:59
  I
• 5:59
  want
• 5:59
  that
• 5:59
  story.
• 6:00
  That
• 6:00
  sounds
• 6:00
  amazing.
• 6:01
  You
• 6:02
  could
• 6:02
  probably
• 6:02
  imagine
• 6:02
  you
• 6:03
  would
• 6:03
  start
• 6:03
  walking
• 6:03
  around
• 6:03
  a
• 6:04
  little
• 6:04
  bit,
• 6:04
  like
• 6:04
  Truman
• 6:04
  does
• 6:05
  in
• 6:05
  his
• 6:05
  show.
• 6:05
  Right?
• 6:06
  around
• 6:06
  happy
• 6:06
  and
• 6:06
  pleasant
• 6:07
  with
• 6:07
  a
• 6:07
  smile
• 6:07
  on
• 6:08
  his
• 6:08
  face
• 6:08
  because
• 6:09
  those,
• 6:09
  this
• 6:09
  plot
• 6:10
  is
• 6:10
  for
• 6:10
  his
• 6:10
  own
• 6:11
  good,
• 6:11
  right.
• 6:11
  However,
• 6:12
  we
• 6:12
  do
• 6:13
  need
• 6:13
  to
• 6:13
  ask
• 6:13
  ourselves
• 6:13
  what
• 6:14
  happens
• 6:14
  when
• 6:14
  bad
• 6:15
  things
• 6:15
  do
• 6:15
  happen
• 6:15
  to
• 6:15
  us,
• 6:16
  because
• 6:16
  there
• 6:16
  are
• 6:16
  some
• 6:16
  things
• 6:17
  that
• 6:17
  just
• 6:18
  about
• 6:18
  everyone
• 6:18
  can
• 6:18
  agree
• 6:19
  on
• 6:19
  is
• 6:19
  awful,
• 6:20
  right?
• 6:20
  Like
• 6:20
  a
• 6:20
  death
• 6:21
  or
• 6:21
  a
• 6:21
  loss.
• 6:22
  A
• 6:22
  divorce,
• 6:23
  a
• 6:23
  betrayal
• 6:24
  or
• 6:25
  a
• 6:25
  house
• 6:25
  fire,
• 6:25
  a
• 6:25
  car
• 6:26
  accident,
• 6:26
  an
• 6:26
  illness,
• 6:27
  losing
• 6:28
  your
• 6:28
  job,
• 6:28
  any
• 6:28
  number
• 6:29
  of
• 6:29
  things
• 6:29
  that
• 6:29
  the
• 6:30
  majority
• 6:30
  of
• 6:30
  us
• 6:31
  would
• 6:31
  say,
• 6:31
  Hmm,
• 6:31
  that's
• 6:32
  some
• 6:32
  bad
• 6:32
  luck
• 6:32
  or
• 6:32
  that's
• 6:32
  not
• 6:33
  a
• 6:33
  great
• 6:33
  thing.
• 6:33
  So
• 6:33
  what
• 6:34
  happens
• 6:34
  then?
• 6:35
  What
• 6:35
  this
• 6:36
  doesn't
• 6:36
  mean
• 6:36
  believing
• 6:37
  that
• 6:37
  everything
• 6:37
  is
• 6:37
  for
• 6:37
  our
• 6:37
  good
• 6:38
  does
• 6:38
  not
• 6:38
  mean
• 6:38
  that
• 6:38
  we
• 6:38
  just
• 6:39
  believe
• 6:39
  everything
• 6:39
  is
• 6:39
  wonderful.
• 6:40
  It
• 6:40
  doesn't
• 6:40
  mean
• 6:40
  mean
• 6:40
  that
• 6:40
  we
• 6:40
  experienced
• 6:41
  a
• 6:41
  loss
• 6:41
  and
• 6:41
  we
• 6:42
  immediately
• 6:42
  think,
• 6:42
  oh,
• 6:43
  this
• 6:43
  is
• 6:43
  going
• 6:43
  to
• 6:43
  be
• 6:43
  great.
• 6:44
  No,
• 6:44
  that's
• 6:44
  not
• 6:44
  what
• 6:45
  I'm
• 6:45
  talking
• 6:45
  about.
• 6:46
  We
• 6:46
  actually
• 6:46
  have
• 6:47
  to
• 6:47
  feel
• 6:48
  badly
• 6:49
  about
• 6:50
  these
• 6:50
  types
• 6:50
  of
• 6:51
  things
• 6:51
  that
• 6:51
  we
• 6:51
  think
• 6:51
  are
• 6:51
  bad.
• 6:52
  Or
• 6:52
  else
• 6:53
  we
• 6:53
  become
• 6:53
  emotionally
• 6:54
  unhealthy
• 6:55
  will
• 6:56
  and
• 6:56
  probably
• 6:57
  should
• 6:57
  Choose
• 6:57
  to
• 6:58
  feel
• 6:58
  badly
• 6:58
  about
• 6:58
  some
• 6:59
  things
• 6:59
  that
• 6:59
  don't
• 6:59
  turn
• 6:59
  out
• 6:59
  the
• 7:00
  way
• 7:00
  we
• 7:00
  expect.
• 7:01
  I
• 7:02
  personally
• 7:02
  have
• 7:02
  actively
• 7:03
  and
• 7:03
  consciously
• 7:04
  chosen
• 7:04
  grief.
• 7:05
  I've
• 7:05
  chosen
• 7:06
  anger,
• 7:06
  I've
• 7:06
  chosen
• 7:06
  sorrow,
• 7:07
  other
• 7:08
  negative
• 7:09
  emotions
• 7:09
  when
• 7:10
  I've
• 7:10
  experienced
• 7:10
  hard
• 7:10
  things
• 7:10
  in
• 7:11
  life.
• 7:11
  Because
• 7:11
  I
• 7:12
  want
• 7:12
  to,
• 7:13
  you
• 7:13
  know,
• 7:13
  when
• 7:13
  someone
• 7:13
  gets
• 7:13
  hurt
• 7:14
  or
• 7:14
  ill,
• 7:14
  I
• 7:14
  don't
• 7:14
  want
• 7:14
  to
• 7:14
  think
• 7:15
  positively
• 7:15
  about
• 7:15
  that.
• 7:16
  I
• 7:16
  want
• 7:16
  to
• 7:16
  feel
• 7:17
  sorrow
• 7:17
  and
• 7:17
  empathy
• 7:18
  for
• 7:18
  them.
• 7:18
  I
• 7:18
  want
• 7:18
  to
• 7:18
  grieve
• 7:19
  with
• 7:19
  them.
• 7:19
  That's
• 7:19
  important
• 7:20
  to
• 7:20
  me.
• 7:21
  So,
• 7:21
  what
• 7:21
  I'm
• 7:22
  saying
• 7:22
  is
• 7:22
  we
• 7:22
  don't
• 7:23
  ignore
• 7:23
  the
• 7:24
  negative
• 7:24
  emotion
• 7:24
  that
• 7:24
  come
• 7:25
  up.
• 7:25
  But.
• 7:26
  The
• 7:26
  difference
• 7:27
  is
• 7:27
  once
• 7:27
  we
• 7:27
  feel
• 7:28
  these
• 7:28
  negative
• 7:28
  emotions,
• 7:29
  we
• 7:29
  allow
• 7:29
  them
• 7:29
  to
• 7:29
  move
• 7:30
  through
• 7:30
  us.
• 7:31
  Then
• 7:31
  we
• 7:31
  can
• 7:31
  get
• 7:31
  to
• 7:31
  work,
• 7:32
  looking
• 7:32
  for
• 7:33
  how
• 7:33
  this
• 7:33
  experience
• 7:34
  is
• 7:35
  for
• 7:35
  our
• 7:35
  good,
• 7:35
  the
• 7:35
  difference
• 7:36
  is
• 7:36
  how
• 7:36
  we
• 7:37
  move
• 7:37
  on
• 7:37
  past
• 7:37
  that.
• 7:38
  Do
• 7:38
  we
• 7:38
  use
• 7:39
  that
• 7:39
  experience
• 7:39
  as
• 7:40
  evidence
• 7:40
  that
• 7:41
  everything's
• 7:41
  going
• 7:41
  wrong?
• 7:42
  Or
• 7:42
  do
• 7:42
  we
• 7:42
  use
• 7:43
  that
• 7:43
  experience
• 7:43
  as
• 7:43
  evidence
• 7:44
  that
• 7:44
  we
• 7:45
  can
• 7:45
  conquer
• 7:45
  anything?
• 7:46
  I'm
• 7:46
  sure
• 7:46
  you've
• 7:46
  seen
• 7:47
  experiences
• 7:47
  in
• 7:47
  your
• 7:47
  life
• 7:48
  where.
• 7:48
  It
• 7:48
  feels
• 7:48
  like
• 7:49
  everything's
• 7:49
  going
• 7:49
  wrong.
• 7:50
  And
• 7:50
  you
• 7:50
  start
• 7:51
  counting
• 7:51
  up
• 7:52
  all
• 7:52
  that
• 7:52
  evidence.
• 7:53
  So
• 7:54
  maybe
• 7:54
  Friday
• 7:54
  afternoon,
• 7:55
  you've
• 7:55
  had
• 7:55
  a
• 7:55
  week
• 7:56
  that
• 7:56
  feels
• 7:56
  really
• 7:57
  bad
• 7:58
  and
• 7:58
  you
• 7:58
  start
• 7:58
  counting
• 7:59
  up
• 7:59
  the
• 7:59
  evidence
• 7:59
  like,
• 8:00
  oh,
• 8:00
  my
• 8:00
  car
• 8:00
  broke
• 8:01
  down
• 8:01
  and
• 8:02
  I
• 8:02
  was
• 8:02
  late
• 8:02
  to
• 8:02
  work
• 8:03
  and
• 8:03
  my
• 8:03
  kid
• 8:04
  wouldn't
• 8:04
  stop
• 8:04
  crying.
• 8:05
  And
• 8:05
  then
• 8:05
  the
• 8:05
  sink
• 8:06
  broke
• 8:06
  and
• 8:06
  we
• 8:06
  just
• 8:06
  start
• 8:06
  telling
• 8:07
  it
• 8:07
  up
• 8:07
  in
• 8:07
  our
• 8:07
  head.
• 8:08
  And
• 8:09
  at
• 8:09
  the
• 8:09
  end
• 8:09
  of
• 8:09
  the
• 8:09
  week,
• 8:09
  we
• 8:10
  really
• 8:10
  feel
• 8:10
  like
• 8:10
  this
• 8:10
  was
• 8:11
  a
• 8:11
  terrible
• 8:11
  week.
• 8:12
  if
• 8:12
  we
• 8:12
  instead
• 8:13
  chose
• 8:13
  to
• 8:13
  tally
• 8:14
  up
• 8:14
  the
• 8:14
  things
• 8:15
  that
• 8:15
  happened
• 8:15
  for
• 8:16
  our
• 8:16
  good,
• 8:16
  you
• 8:16
  see
• 8:17
  what
• 8:17
  I'm
• 8:17
  saying?
• 8:17
  What
• 8:17
  if
• 8:17
  we
• 8:17
  chose
• 8:17
  to
• 8:18
  focus
• 8:18
  on
• 8:18
  the
• 8:18
  things
• 8:19
  that
• 8:19
  are
• 8:20
  easier
• 8:21
  to
• 8:21
  accept.
• 8:22
  All
• 8:22
  of
• 8:22
  a
• 8:22
  sudden,
• 8:24
  the
• 8:24
  story
• 8:24
  changes,
• 8:25
  right.
• 8:25
  So,
• 8:26
  let
• 8:26
  me
• 8:26
  give
• 8:26
  you
• 8:26
  a
• 8:26
  real
• 8:26
  life
• 8:27
  example
• 8:27
  from
• 8:27
  a
• 8:27
  story
• 8:28
  that
• 8:28
  you've
• 8:28
  probably
• 8:28
  heard
• 8:28
  of.
• 8:28
  You've
• 8:29
  probably
• 8:29
  heard
• 8:29
  of
• 8:29
  the
• 8:29
  woman
• 8:30
  Elizabeth
• 8:30
  Smart
• 8:31
  back
• 8:31
  when
• 8:31
  she
• 8:31
  was
• 8:31
  a
• 8:31
  teenager,
• 8:32
  she
• 8:32
  was
• 8:33
  tragically
• 8:33
  kidnapped
• 8:34
  from
• 8:34
  her
• 8:34
  home
• 8:34
  in
• 8:34
  Utah.
• 8:35
  And
• 8:36
  she
• 8:36
  was,
• 8:37
  against
• 8:37
  her,
• 8:37
  will
• 8:37
  abused
• 8:38
  and
• 8:38
  regularly
• 8:39
  raped
• 8:39
  up
• 8:39
  in
• 8:39
  the
• 8:40
  mountains.
• 8:40
  Not
• 8:41
  even
• 8:41
  far
• 8:41
  from
• 8:41
  her
• 8:42
  home.
• 8:42
  She
• 8:42
  was
• 8:42
  eventually
• 8:43
  recovered
• 8:43
  and
• 8:43
  returned
• 8:44
  to
• 8:44
  her
• 8:44
  family,
• 8:44
  but
• 8:45
  obviously
• 8:46
  with
• 8:46
  some
• 8:46
  lasting
• 8:46
  trauma,
• 8:47
  and
• 8:47
  some
• 8:47
  horrible
• 8:48
  memories
• 8:48
  of
• 8:48
  these
• 8:49
  experiences.
• 8:50
  So
• 8:51
  to
• 8:51
  her
• 8:51
  then?
• 8:51
  Well,
• 8:52
  I'm
• 8:52
  sure
• 8:53
  I
• 8:53
  haven't
• 8:53
  met
• 8:53
  her
• 8:53
  before,
• 8:53
  but
• 8:54
  I
• 8:54
  am
• 8:54
  sure
• 8:54
  that
• 8:54
  Elizabeth
• 8:55
  does
• 8:55
  not
• 8:55
  look
• 8:55
  back
• 8:55
  fondly
• 8:56
  on
• 8:56
  these
• 8:57
  memories.
• 8:57
  I'm
• 8:57
  sure
• 8:58
  she
• 8:58
  still
• 8:58
  struggles.
• 8:59
  I
• 8:59
  mean,
• 8:59
  I
• 8:59
  wouldn't
• 9:00
  be
• 9:00
  surprised
• 9:00
  if
• 9:00
  she
• 9:00
  didn't
• 9:01
  still
• 9:01
  struggle
• 9:01
  with
• 9:01
  nightmares
• 9:02
  and,
• 9:02
  negative.
• 9:03
  of
• 9:03
  this
• 9:03
  experience.
• 9:04
  But
• 9:05
  she
• 9:05
  has
• 9:05
  since
• 9:06
  used
• 9:07
  her
• 9:07
  tragedy
• 9:07
  for
• 9:08
  so
• 9:08
  much
• 9:09
  good.
• 9:09
  She's
• 9:09
  in
• 9:09
  her
• 9:09
  thirties
• 9:09
  now
• 9:10
  married
• 9:10
  with
• 9:10
  kids.
• 9:11
  And
• 9:11
  she
• 9:12
  has
• 9:12
  written
• 9:12
  a
• 9:12
  book
• 9:12
  or
• 9:12
  maybe
• 9:13
  a
• 9:13
  couple
• 9:13
  of
• 9:13
  them.
• 9:14
  She
• 9:14
  is
• 9:14
  a
• 9:14
  popular
• 9:15
  public
• 9:15
  speaker.
• 9:16
  She's
• 9:16
  an
• 9:16
  advocate
• 9:17
  for
• 9:18
  abducted
• 9:18
  and
• 9:19
  other
• 9:19
  abused
• 9:20
  or
• 9:20
  missing
• 9:20
  children.
• 9:21
  She
• 9:21
  has
• 9:21
  done
• 9:22
  so
• 9:22
  much
• 9:23
  good
• 9:24
  thanks,
• 9:24
  to
• 9:24
  this
• 9:25
  negative
• 9:25
  experience.
• 9:26
  Now,
• 9:26
  is
• 9:26
  she
• 9:26
  glad
• 9:27
  it
• 9:27
  happened
• 9:27
  to
• 9:27
  her?
• 9:28
  I'm
• 9:28
  thinking
• 9:28
  probably
• 9:29
  not.
• 9:29
  She
• 9:29
  probably
• 9:29
  would've
• 9:30
  loved
• 9:30
  to
• 9:30
  go
• 9:30
  back
• 9:31
  and
• 9:31
  make
• 9:32
  some
• 9:32
  changes,
• 9:32
  so
• 9:32
  that,
• 9:32
  that
• 9:32
  didn't
• 9:33
  happen
• 9:33
  to
• 9:33
  her
• 9:33
  again.
• 9:34
  But
• 9:34
  because
• 9:34
  it
• 9:34
  did,
• 9:35
  she
• 9:35
  is
• 9:36
  rewriting
• 9:36
  the
• 9:36
  story
• 9:37
  of
• 9:37
  her
• 9:37
  future
• 9:37
  instead
• 9:38
  of
• 9:38
  staying
• 9:38
  a
• 9:38
  victim
• 9:39
  forever.
• 9:40
  So
• 9:40
  she
• 9:40
  rewrote
• 9:41
  the
• 9:41
  story
• 9:42
  about
• 9:42
  her
• 9:42
  kidnapping
• 9:42
  and
• 9:43
  she
• 9:43
  changed
• 9:43
  it
• 9:43
  from
• 9:43
  a
• 9:43
  tragedy
• 9:44
  to
• 9:45
  a
• 9:45
  triumph.
• 9:46
  Maybe
• 9:46
  she
• 9:46
  was
• 9:46
  a
• 9:46
  victim
• 9:47
  at
• 9:47
  one
• 9:47
  point,
• 9:47
  but
• 9:47
  she's
• 9:48
  not
• 9:48
  anymore.
• 9:49
  She
• 9:49
  doesn't
• 9:50
  have
• 9:50
  to
• 9:50
  think
• 9:50
  positively
• 9:51
  about
• 9:51
  these
• 9:51
  experiences
• 9:52
  to
• 9:52
  move
• 9:52
  on.
• 9:53
  And
• 9:53
  to
• 9:53
  turn
• 9:54
  it
• 9:54
  into
• 9:54
  a
• 9:54
  triumph.
• 9:55
  She
• 9:56
  simply
• 9:56
  has
• 9:56
  to
• 9:56
  believe
• 9:56
  that
• 9:56
  there
• 9:57
  is
• 9:57
  a
• 9:57
  purpose
• 9:57
  to
• 9:57
  those
• 9:57
  experiences,
• 9:58
  whether
• 9:58
  they
• 9:58
  were
• 9:58
  good
• 9:58
  experiences
• 9:59
  or
• 9:59
  bad.
• 10:00
  Do
• 10:00
  you
• 10:00
  see
• 10:00
  that
• 10:01
  shift?
• 10:02
  So
• 10:02
  let's
• 10:02
  talk
• 10:02
  about
• 10:03
  building
• 10:03
  a
• 10:03
  business
• 10:03
  for
• 10:03
  a
• 10:04
  minute.
• 10:04
  When
• 10:04
  it
• 10:04
  comes
• 10:04
  to
• 10:04
  being
• 10:05
  business
• 10:05
  owners.
• 10:06
  We
• 10:07
  have
• 10:07
  so
• 10:07
  many
• 10:08
  opportunities
• 10:08
  to
• 10:09
  work
• 10:09
  on
• 10:09
  our
• 10:09
  mindset,
• 10:09
  and
• 10:09
  to
• 10:10
  choose
• 10:10
  the
• 10:10
  stories
• 10:11
  that
• 10:11
  we
• 10:11
  tell
• 10:11
  ourselves
• 10:11
  about
• 10:11
  our
• 10:11
  business,
• 10:12
  no
• 10:12
  matter
• 10:12
  what
• 10:12
  happens
• 10:13
  in
• 10:13
  our
• 10:13
  business,
• 10:14
  good
• 10:14
  or
• 10:14
  bad,
• 10:14
  to
• 10:14
  decide
• 10:15
  the
• 10:15
  narrative
• 10:16
  that
• 10:16
  we
• 10:16
  want
• 10:16
  to
• 10:16
  believe
• 10:16
  about
• 10:17
  those
• 10:17
  facts.
• 10:18
  So
• 10:19
  let's
• 10:19
  say
• 10:19
  you
• 10:20
  have
• 10:20
  a
• 10:20
  month
• 10:20
  with
• 10:20
  no
• 10:20
  sales
• 10:21
  in
• 10:21
  your
• 10:21
  business.
• 10:22
  You
• 10:22
  could
• 10:22
  choose
• 10:23
  to
• 10:23
  believe
• 10:23
  that
• 10:23
  that
• 10:23
  means
• 10:24
  you're
• 10:24
  a
• 10:24
  failure
• 10:24
  and
• 10:24
  you
• 10:24
  could
• 10:24
  close
• 10:25
  up
• 10:25
  shop.
• 10:26
  Or
• 10:27
  you
• 10:27
  could
• 10:27
  choose
• 10:28
  to
• 10:28
  believe
• 10:28
  that
• 10:28
  it
• 10:28
  means
• 10:29
  that
• 10:29
  you've
• 10:29
  discovered
• 10:30
  a
• 10:30
  number
• 10:31
  of
• 10:31
  ways
• 10:31
  that
• 10:31
  marketing
• 10:32
  your
• 10:32
  business
• 10:32
  does
• 10:32
  not
• 10:33
  work.
• 10:34
  Okay.
• 10:35
  Now,
• 10:35
  you
• 10:35
  know,
• 10:35
  those
• 10:36
  don't
• 10:36
  work,
• 10:36
  we're
• 10:36
  going
• 10:36
  to
• 10:36
  do
• 10:36
  something
• 10:37
  else
• 10:37
  next
• 10:37
  month.
• 10:38
  What,
• 10:39
  if
• 10:39
  you
• 10:39
  get
• 10:39
  an
• 10:39
  angry
• 10:39
  customer,
• 10:40
  you
• 10:40
  could
• 10:40
  choose
• 10:41
  to
• 10:41
  make
• 10:41
  that
• 10:41
  mean
• 10:41
  that
• 10:41
  your
• 10:42
  business
• 10:42
  has
• 10:42
  failed
• 10:43
  and
• 10:43
  no
• 10:43
  one's
• 10:43
  going
• 10:43
  to
• 10:43
  buy
• 10:44
  from
• 10:44
  you
• 10:44
  again,
• 10:44
  because
• 10:44
  they're
• 10:44
  so
• 10:45
  angry.
• 10:46
  Or,
• 10:47
  does
• 10:47
  that
• 10:47
  angry
• 10:47
  customer
• 10:48
  simply
• 10:48
  mean
• 10:48
  you've
• 10:49
  been
• 10:49
  given
• 10:49
  an
• 10:49
  opportunity
• 10:50
  to
• 10:50
  receive.
• 10:51
  And
• 10:52
  learn
• 10:52
  from
• 10:52
  and
• 10:52
  implement
• 10:53
  some
• 10:53
  very
• 10:53
  important
• 10:54
  feedback
• 10:54
  because
• 10:54
  people
• 10:55
  who
• 10:55
  are
• 10:55
  angry,
• 10:55
  give
• 10:55
  lots
• 10:56
  of
• 10:56
  feedback.
• 10:57
  Once
• 10:57
  again,
• 10:58
  this
• 10:58
  is
• 10:58
  not
• 10:59
  the
• 10:59
  same
• 10:59
  thing
• 10:59
  as
• 10:59
  toxic
• 11:00
  positivity.
• 11:01
  I'm
• 11:01
  not
• 11:01
  asking
• 11:01
  you
• 11:01
  to
• 11:01
  look
• 11:02
  at
• 11:02
  experiences
• 11:02
  that
• 11:02
  you
• 11:03
  see
• 11:03
  as
• 11:03
  bad
• 11:04
  and
• 11:04
  turn
• 11:04
  them
• 11:04
  into
• 11:04
  good
• 11:05
  and
• 11:05
  just
• 11:05
  think,
• 11:05
  oh
• 11:05
  my
• 11:05
  gosh,
• 11:06
  I'm
• 11:06
  so
• 11:06
  glad
• 11:06
  I
• 11:06
  had
• 11:06
  no
• 11:06
  sales
• 11:07
  on
• 11:07
  my
• 11:07
  business.
• 11:07
  Now
• 11:08
  I'm
• 11:08
  not
• 11:08
  talking
• 11:08
  about
• 11:08
  that
• 11:08
  at
• 11:08
  all.
• 11:09
  If
• 11:09
  you
• 11:09
  need
• 11:09
  to
• 11:09
  have
• 11:09
  a
• 11:09
  little
• 11:10
  bit
• 11:10
  of
• 11:10
  a
• 11:10
  pity
• 11:10
  party
• 11:11
  and
• 11:11
  feel
• 11:11
  badly
• 11:12
  and
• 11:12
  whine,
• 11:12
  and
• 11:13
  complain
• 11:13
  for
• 11:13
  a
• 11:13
  little
• 11:13
  bit
• 11:14
  about
• 11:14
  the
• 11:14
  no
• 11:14
  sales,
• 11:14
  please
• 11:15
  do
• 11:15
  that.
• 11:16
  Don't
• 11:16
  push
• 11:16
  away
• 11:17
  any
• 11:17
  emotions
• 11:18
  that
• 11:18
  need
• 11:18
  to
• 11:18
  be
• 11:18
  felt
• 11:19
  when
• 11:19
  these
• 11:19
  experiences
• 11:20
  come
• 11:20
  up,
• 11:20
  because
• 11:21
  that
• 11:21
  will
• 11:21
  just
• 11:21
  make
• 11:21
  things
• 11:21
  worse.
• 11:22
  So
• 11:23
  frustration,
• 11:23
  embarrassment,
• 11:24
  pity,
• 11:24
  anger.
• 11:25
  Those
• 11:25
  have
• 11:25
  all
• 11:25
  come
• 11:26
  up
• 11:26
  for
• 11:26
  me
• 11:26
  regularly
• 11:27
  in
• 11:27
  my
• 11:27
  business.
• 11:28
  allow
• 11:28
  myself
• 11:29
  to
• 11:29
  feel
• 11:29
  them.
• 11:30
  Let
• 11:30
  them
• 11:30
  move
• 11:31
  through
• 11:31
  me.
• 11:31
  And
• 11:31
  then
• 11:31
  I
• 11:31
  get
• 11:32
  back
• 11:32
  to
• 11:32
  work.
• 11:33
  And
• 11:33
  I
• 11:33
  look
• 11:33
  very
• 11:33
  neutrally
• 11:34
  at
• 11:34
  that
• 11:34
  experience
• 11:35
  and
• 11:35
  decide
• 11:36
  what
• 11:36
  I
• 11:36
  want
• 11:36
  to
• 11:36
  learn
• 11:37
  from
• 11:37
  it.
• 11:38
  Okay.
• 11:38
  So
• 11:38
  I
• 11:38
  want
• 11:39
  to
• 11:39
  take
• 11:39
  you
• 11:39
  for
• 11:39
  a
• 11:39
  moment
• 11:40
  to
• 11:40
  the
• 11:40
  sermon
• 11:40
  on
• 11:40
  the
• 11:40
  Mount,
• 11:41
  in
• 11:41
  the
• 11:41
  new
• 11:41
  Testament.
• 11:42
  Christ
• 11:42
  g
• 11:42
  ives
• 11:43
  this
• 11:44
  list
• 11:44
  of
• 11:44
  what
• 11:44
  is
• 11:44
  known
• 11:45
  as
• 11:45
  the
• 11:45
  beatitudes.
• 11:47
  And
• 11:47
  he
• 11:47
  talks
• 11:47
  about
• 11:48
  what
• 11:48
  kind
• 11:48
  of
• 11:48
  people
• 11:49
  will
• 11:49
  be
• 11:49
  blessed
• 11:49
  in
• 11:49
  the
• 11:49
  kingdom
• 11:50
  of
• 11:50
  God.
• 11:51
  And
• 11:51
  what
• 11:51
  I
• 11:51
  found
• 11:51
  was
• 11:52
  so
• 11:52
  interesting
• 11:52
  when
• 11:52
  I
• 11:52
  was
• 11:53
  studying
• 11:53
  this
• 11:53
  not
• 11:53
  long
• 11:53
  ago,
• 11:53
  was
• 11:54
  that
• 11:54
  some
• 11:54
  of
• 11:54
  these
• 11:54
  beatitudes
• 11:55
  sound
• 11:56
  very
• 11:56
  negative.
• 11:57
  Things
• 11:58
  like:
• 11:59
  blessed
• 11:59
  are
• 11:59
  the
• 12:00
  poor
• 12:00
  in
• 12:00
  spirit.
• 12:01
  Poor
• 12:01
  in
• 12:02
  spirit
• 12:02
  sounds
• 12:02
  kind
• 12:03
  of
• 12:03
  negative.
• 12:05
  Blessed
• 12:05
  are
• 12:05
  those
• 12:06
  who
• 12:06
  mourn.
• 12:07
  Like,
• 12:07
  I
• 12:07
  don't
• 12:07
  want
• 12:07
  to
• 12:07
  mourn,
• 12:08
  I
• 12:08
  want
• 12:08
  a
• 12:08
  life
• 12:08
  free
• 12:09
  of
• 12:09
  mourning.
• 12:10
  Wouldn't
• 12:10
  that
• 12:10
  be
• 12:10
  better?
• 12:11
  Blessed
• 12:11
  are
• 12:12
  those
• 12:12
  who
• 12:12
  have
• 12:12
  been
• 12:12
  persecuted.
• 12:14
  So
• 12:15
  what
• 12:16
  if
• 12:16
  a
• 12:16
  life
• 12:16
  full
• 12:17
  of
• 12:17
  blessings?
• 12:19
  Don't
• 12:19
  look.
• 12:20
  As
• 12:20
  you
• 12:20
  expected.
• 12:22
  What
• 12:22
  if
• 12:22
  your
• 12:22
  blessings,
• 12:23
  one
• 12:23
  of
• 12:23
  your
• 12:23
  greatest
• 12:23
  blessings
• 12:24
  are
• 12:24
  actually
• 12:24
  going
• 12:24
  to
• 12:25
  come
• 12:25
  from
• 12:25
  some
• 12:26
  of
• 12:26
  your
• 12:26
  greatest
• 12:26
  trials.
• 12:27
  From
• 12:27
  some
• 12:28
  of
• 12:28
  these
• 12:28
  circumstances
• 12:29
  that
• 12:29
  you
• 12:29
  choose
• 12:30
  to
• 12:30
  see
• 12:30
  as
• 12:30
  negative,
• 12:31
  but,
• 12:31
  they
• 12:32
  end
• 12:32
  up
• 12:32
  being
• 12:32
  blessings
• 12:33
  because
• 12:33
  of
• 12:33
  the
• 12:33
  story
• 12:34
  that
• 12:34
  you
• 12:34
  tell
• 12:34
  yourself.
• 12:35
  Because
• 12:35
  you
• 12:36
  turn
• 12:36
  the
• 12:36
  story
• 12:36
  into
• 12:37
  one
• 12:37
  of
• 12:37
  triumph
• 12:37
  instead
• 12:38
  of
• 12:38
  tragedy.
• 12:39
  So,
• 12:40
  let
• 12:40
  me
• 12:40
  ask
• 12:40
  you
• 12:41
  what
• 12:41
  stories
• 12:41
  are
• 12:41
  you
• 12:41
  writing
• 12:42
  for
• 12:42
  your
• 12:42
  life?
• 12:43
  Take
• 12:43
  a
• 12:43
  minute
• 12:44
  journal
• 12:44
  it.
• 12:44
  What
• 12:44
  kind
• 12:45
  of
• 12:45
  stories
• 12:45
  and
• 12:45
  what
• 12:46
  kind
• 12:46
  of
• 12:46
  thoughts
• 12:46
  and
• 12:46
  feelings
• 12:47
  have
• 12:47
  been
• 12:47
  very
• 12:47
  prevalent
• 12:48
  in
• 12:48
  your
• 12:48
  life?
• 12:48
  Especially
• 12:49
  around
• 12:49
  building
• 12:49
  a
• 12:49
  business.
• 12:49
  If
• 12:49
  you've
• 12:50
  started
• 12:50
  already.
• 12:51
  Do
• 12:51
  you
• 12:51
  like
• 12:52
  the
• 12:52
  TV
• 12:52
  show
• 12:52
  that
• 12:52
  you're
• 12:53
  writing
• 12:53
  for
• 12:53
  your
• 12:53
  life
• 12:53
  or
• 12:54
  does
• 12:54
  it
• 12:54
  feel
• 12:54
  a
• 12:54
  little
• 12:54
  bit
• 12:55
  like
• 12:55
  a
• 12:55
  tragedy?
• 12:56
  Are
• 12:56
  you
• 12:56
  believing
• 12:57
  a
• 12:57
  story
• 12:58
  that
• 12:58
  maybe
• 12:58
  you
• 12:58
  are
• 12:59
  a
• 12:59
  victim?
• 12:59
  Or
• 13:00
  that
• 13:00
  things
• 13:00
  are
• 13:00
  happening
• 13:00
  to
• 13:01
  you
• 13:01
  and
• 13:01
  there's
• 13:01
  not
• 13:01
  a
• 13:01
  lot.
• 13:01
  You
• 13:01
  can
• 13:01
  control.
• 13:02
  you
• 13:02
  can't
• 13:02
  change
• 13:03
  that
• 13:03
  story
• 13:03
  or
• 13:03
  are
• 13:03
  you
• 13:04
  believing
• 13:04
  the
• 13:04
  opposite
• 13:05
  that
• 13:05
  no
• 13:05
  matter
• 13:05
  what
• 13:05
  happens,
• 13:06
  it
• 13:06
  is
• 13:06
  all
• 13:07
  for
• 13:07
  your
• 13:07
  good.
• 13:09
  Okay,
• 13:09
  friends,
• 13:09
  get
• 13:09
  out
• 13:09
  there
• 13:09
  and
• 13:10
  examine
• 13:10
  those
• 13:10
  stories.
• 13:11
  We'll
• 13:11
  talk
• 13:11
  to
• 13:11
  you
• 13:11
  next
• 13:11
  week.