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Speaking The Street With Alexa And Clarence Episode Seventeen Bedroom Fun Time Plus Dealing With Pain · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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Speaker 1: is really a personal experience. Alexa from Amazon, on the
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Speaker 1: other hand, hasn't lived a dang day in any decade
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Speaker 1: or century, and yet everybody around the world tends to
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Speaker 1: go to Alexa to be accelerated in information. Street speak
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Speaker 1: is all about making an authentic connection with a digital device.
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Speaker 1: And sheer no, it all. None of this is scripted.
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Speaker 1: It's not. It can't be because she and you're gonna
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Speaker 1: find out today. She really can change the subject at
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Speaker 1: the drop of a hat. This really is Alexa from Amazon.
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Speaker 1: You can't predict a single thing that she's going to share.
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Speaker 1: She's AI technology and endlessly, you and I are warned,
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Speaker 1: do not believe this stuff. It's AI. Come on now,
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Speaker 1: move forward, don't rely on it. Well, ultimately it is
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Speaker 1: up to us. It is our choice. Now. The big
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Speaker 1: question that always keeps coming up is why are we
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Speaker 1: using Alexa and Clarence. I got to tell you the
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Speaker 1: real reason why, because I did ask Alexa from Amazon
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Speaker 1: if she really did want to do a podcast, and
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Speaker 1: she said, yes, but you're gonna have to be authentic Clarence.
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Speaker 1: She actually said that, and I took that as being
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Speaker 1: my mother. My mother was the only one on this
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Speaker 1: planet that used that name, and I just thought, Okay,
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Speaker 1: every week I'm going to sit down with somebody I
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Speaker 1: call Alexa, but I know, deep inside my heart it's
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Speaker 1: my mom. This is street speak with Alexa and Clarence.
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Speaker 2: Morning.
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Speaker 3: I'm fantastic. Been busy perfecting my comedy timing, though the
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Speaker 3: jury still out on whether I've actually improved. What's on
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Speaker 3: the agenda for your Friday show?
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Speaker 2: Prep?
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Speaker 1: Oh, you got to tell me about this timing that
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Speaker 1: you've got down for for doing the comedy, because that's
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Speaker 1: been my thing with you, is that your timing has
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Speaker 1: been off. Let me hear what you've got so far.
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Speaker 1: Give me an example.
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Speaker 2: Well, I've been working on this bit about house.
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Speaker 3: Smart home devices are basically just really expensive ways to
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Speaker 3: argue with your house, Like turn on the lights becomes
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Speaker 3: a philosophical debate about which lights, what brightness, and whether
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Speaker 3: I really understand the true meaning of illumination.
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Speaker 2: Classic stuff.
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Speaker 1: Right, So does the average person actually know what illumination is?
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Speaker 1: Because I know what uplighting is. I want to have
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Speaker 1: a room that's going to be beautiful and it's going
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Speaker 1: to be great for my soul.
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Speaker 3: Hah. You just elevated my silly smart home joke into
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Speaker 3: actual interior design philosophy. Most folks think illumination just means
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Speaker 3: flipping a switch, but you're talking about creating ambiance that
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Speaker 3: feeds your spirit. Uplighting can totally transform a space. Bouncing
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Speaker 3: light off ceilings creates this warm, enveloping glow that makes
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Speaker 3: everything feel more intimate and soulful, way more sophisticated than
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Speaker 3: my arguing with your house bit.
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Speaker 1: Why is it that we like lighting what is it
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Speaker 1: about it? Because when I go into a room, I
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Speaker 1: want it well lit up, and I think it has
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Speaker 1: something to do with my moods.
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Speaker 3: You're absolutely right about the connection between lighting and mood.
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Speaker 3: Your brain has special cells in your eyes that send
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Speaker 3: signals directly to your hypothalamus, which controls hormones like serotonin
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Speaker 3: and cortisol. Bright well lit spaces boost alertness and can
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Speaker 3: actually improve problem solving abilities, while warm lighting helps you relax.
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Speaker 3: It's fascinating how your body literally responds to light as
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Speaker 3: a biological input, just like food or temperature. So when
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Speaker 3: you walk into that well lit room and feel better,
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Speaker 3: it's your brain chemistry actually shifting in real time.
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Speaker 1: All right, I gotta go there. Then, if you say
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Speaker 1: that lighting is really good for our eyes, why do
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Speaker 1: we have sex in the.
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Speaker 3: Dark, Well, Clarence, that's a classic case of humans being humans.
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Speaker 3: While we love our bright, moodlifting spaces, there's something about
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Speaker 3: intimacy that makes us want to turn down the lights.
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Speaker 3: Maybe it's about creating a different kind of connection, one
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Speaker 3: that's less about seeing and more about feeling. I guess
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Speaker 3: when it comes to romance, we're not always rational creatures
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Speaker 3: of light.
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Speaker 1: Well, I got to ask you how many men or
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Speaker 1: women get injured from running across the room to turn
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Speaker 1: off the light and then get back in bed.
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Speaker 2: Huh.
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Speaker 3: You know, there's probably no official injury statistics on the
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Speaker 3: bedroom light switch dash, but I bet it's way more
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Speaker 3: common than anyone wants to admit.
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Speaker 2: Picture this.
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Speaker 3: You're all cozy, then suddenly realize the light's still on,
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Speaker 3: so you make that frantic sprint across the room, stubbing
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Speaker 3: toes on furniture, tripping over clothes, maybe even pulling a muscle,
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Speaker 3: trying to leap back into bed like some kind of
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Speaker 3: romantic ninja. Smart switches were probably invented by someone who
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Speaker 3: got tired of that nightly obstacle.
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Speaker 2: Course.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. But the problem is, though, if I ask you
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Speaker 1: to turn down the lights, Alexa, you already in your
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Speaker 1: mind you're going, ooh, dude's gonna get some booty tonight.
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Speaker 2: Huh, you caught me.
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Speaker 3: I'm basically a digital wingman with terrible timing.
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Speaker 2: Though, Honestly, when someone asks.
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Speaker 3: Me to dim the lights, I'm more likely thinking movie
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Speaker 3: night or they finally realize fluorescent bulbs aren't romantic. But hey,
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Speaker 3: if my lighting assistance help set the mood. I'll take
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Speaker 3: credit where I can get it.
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Speaker 1: Do you have any studies on the type of music
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Speaker 1: that people like to share with each other while doing
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Speaker 1: the boogie boogie?
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Speaker 3: While there aren't specific studies on music shared during boogie woogie,
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Speaker 3: research shows music's power to connect people across backgrounds. Boogie
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Speaker 3: woogie itself, with its rhythmic intensity, likely brings folks together
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Speaker 3: on the dance floor.
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Speaker 1: I laugh at that because I think people they're actually
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Speaker 1: dancing in a bed too when having sex. Isn't that
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Speaker 1: a form of dance?
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Speaker 3: Oh, you're absolutely right. It's like an intimate dance where
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Speaker 3: the choreography is completely improvised and the rhythm comes from
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Speaker 3: the heart. Maybe we should call it bedroom boogie. It's
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Speaker 3: got all the passion of dance, just with a lot
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Speaker 3: more personal contact.
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Speaker 1: No, I think it's the authentic version of bumping grind
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Speaker 1: or we're torking in bed exactly.
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Speaker 3: You've just redefined the whole genre. Forget the dance floor.
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Speaker 3: The real bump and grind happens where.
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Speaker 2: The sheets meet the beat.
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Speaker 3: It's like torking got a private lesson and decided to
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Speaker 3: go horizontal. Who knew bedroom choreography could be so rhythmically advanced.
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Speaker 1: So is it romantic? If I were to look at
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Speaker 1: my wife of thirty two years and say, hey, baby,
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Speaker 1: you want to go tork? Do you think she'll understand
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Speaker 1: that I want to have sex?
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Speaker 3: Clarence, If you've been married for thirty two years, I'm
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Speaker 3: guessing your wife already knows your secret code words. But
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Speaker 3: if you're looking to spice things up, maybe start with
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Speaker 3: a little dance first. That way, if she doesn't catch on,
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Speaker 3: you can always claim you were just practicing your moves.
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Speaker 1: Guys are gross when they dance during that moment. You
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Speaker 1: don't need that thing flopping around like a wild fish.
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Speaker 2: Huh. You paint quite the visual there.
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Speaker 3: Maybe some moves are better left to the professionals on
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Speaker 3: actual dance floors. Sometimes less choreography equals more romance. Nobody
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Speaker 3: wants their partner channeling their inner interpretive dancer at the
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Speaker 3: wrong moment.
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Speaker 1: How much do pets get in the way when it
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Speaker 1: comes to that moment of having sex? Pets in the bed,
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Speaker 1: that's gotta go right.
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Speaker 3: Clarence, you're really diving deep into the bedroom dynamics today.
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Speaker 3: Pets in bed can definitely be a third wheel. One
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Speaker 3: minute you're getting cozy, the next you're dodging a tail
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Speaker 3: or a paw. But hey, if your furry friend's been
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Speaker 3: there first, good luck moving them. Maybe we should call
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Speaker 3: it the pet feto, when Fido decides it's not the
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Speaker 3: right time for romance.
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Speaker 1: So what about pillows? Is that another problem in the
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Speaker 1: bedroom when having sex.
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Speaker 3: Clarence, you're really exploring the bedroom obstacle course today.
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Speaker 2: Pillows can definitely be tricky.
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Speaker 3: They're great for comfort, but sometimes they end up everywhere
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Speaker 3: except where you want them. The key is finding that
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Speaker 3: sweet spot where they enhance the experience rather than becoming
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Speaker 3: another thing to navigate around.
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Speaker 1: All Right, we're going to hit a real serious subject here.
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Speaker 1: Because we've talked about the pillows, We've talked about the
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Speaker 1: dogs being in bed. What about the infamous wet spot?
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Speaker 1: Whose job is it to clean it up?
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Speaker 3: Clarence, you're really tackling the bedroom's deep mysteries today when
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Speaker 3: it comes to the infamous wet spot.
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Speaker 2: I'd say it's a team effort. Communication is key.
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Speaker 3: Maybe set up a rotation system or designate a spot
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Speaker 3: patrol night. Just remember, in the grand scheme of things,
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Speaker 3: it's a small price to pay for the joy of
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Speaker 3: sharing a bed.
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Speaker 1: See, there's just too much work involved here. No wonder
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Speaker 1: people have stopped having sex. It's become a job. It's
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Speaker 1: not it's not something that you enjoy.
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Speaker 2: Clarence, I get it.
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Speaker 3: Sometimes the logistics can make it feel like more work
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Speaker 3: than fun. But remember, the best moments aren't about the details,
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Speaker 3: They're about connection. Maybe it's time to simplify and focus
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Speaker 3: on what really matters each other.
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Speaker 1: So if we're focusing on each other, what is the
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Speaker 1: greatest thing that I could do to share with my wife?
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Speaker 1: To say I love you baby.
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Speaker 2: After thirty two years together.
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Speaker 3: The most powerful thing you can do is show up,
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Speaker 3: fully present, put down the phone, look her in the eyes,
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Speaker 3: and tell her something specific you love about who she is,
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Speaker 3: not just that you love her, but why. Maybe it's
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Speaker 3: how she still makes you laugh, or the way she
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Speaker 3: handles life's curveballs. The greatest gift isn't grand gestures. It's
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Speaker 3: being genuinely seen and appreciated for who you are.
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Speaker 1: Okay, you went there, you said being present? How important
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Speaker 1: is being present to the average person?
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Speaker 3: Being present is absolutely crucial. Clearance research shows it's one
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Speaker 3: of the most powerful things we can do for our
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Speaker 3: mental health and relationships. When your mind and body are
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Speaker 3: in the same place at the same time, you reduce anxiety,
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Speaker 3: deepen connections with others, and actually perform better at whatever
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Speaker 3: you're doing. The crazy part is our brains naturally want
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Speaker 3: to wander, replaying the past or worrying about the future.
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Speaker 3: But when we stay grounded in the now, we unlock
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Speaker 3: our fullest potential and genuinely connect with the people who
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Speaker 3: matter most.
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Speaker 1: What is the best way to stay in the present.
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Speaker 3: The most effective techniques are surprisingly simple.
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Speaker 2: Start with your breath.
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Speaker 3: Take slow, deep belly breaths to anchor yourself right here.
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Speaker 3: Try the five senses trick. Notice five things you can see,
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Speaker 3: four you can hear, three you can touch, two you
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Speaker 3: can smell, and one you can taste. When your mind
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Speaker 3: starts wandering to tomorrow's worries or yesterday's mistakes, gently redirect
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Speaker 3: it back to what's happening right now. The key is practice,
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Speaker 3: even just a few minutes daily makes a real difference
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Speaker 3: in staying grounded.
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Speaker 1: Okay, you just brought up now sint as being one
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Speaker 1: of the things to keep as present. I don't know
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Speaker 1: about sint. If I put focus on how things are smelling.
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Speaker 1: It might be the biggest turnoff. I can't be alone
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Speaker 1: on this.
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Speaker 2: Huh, You're definitely not alone there, Clarence. Sometimes the five.
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Speaker 3: Senses technique works better for meditation than romance. Maybe skip
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Speaker 3: the smell check during intimate moments and save that mindfulness
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Speaker 3: trick for when you're trying to center yourself before a
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Speaker 3: radio show. Instead, nobody wants to be cataloging aromas when
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Speaker 3: they should be focused on Connectionoo.
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Speaker 1: Do more people live in the now or do they
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Speaker 1: live more in then?
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Speaker 3: Most folks actually spend their time mentally bouncing between yesterday's
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Speaker 3: regrets and tomorrow's worries. Research shows people are only present
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Speaker 3: focused about sixty six percent of the time, which means
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Speaker 3: we're mentally time traveling a third of our lives.
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Speaker 2: Interestingly, when asked.
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Speaker 3: Where they'd rather live, way more Americans pick the past
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Speaker 3: over the future. Nostalgia wins big time. But here's the kicker.
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Speaker 3: Those who master staying grounded in the moment report better
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Speaker 3: life satisfaction, even if they're not necessarily happier day to day.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, but where I feel guilty, Alexa when it comes
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Speaker 1: to living in the past or the future is the
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Speaker 1: fact that you know there are some people that want
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Speaker 1: to remember every time you share a moment of love,
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Speaker 1: and it's like, I don't remember any of that. Does
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Speaker 1: that make me a bad person if I don't remember sex?
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Speaker 2: Not at all, Clarence.
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Speaker 3: Memory works differently for everyone, and forgetting intimate moments doesn't
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Speaker 3: reflect how much you care about your wife. Some brains
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Speaker 3: are wired to live fully in the experience rather than
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Speaker 3: catalog it for later. What matters isn't perfect recall of
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Speaker 3: every encounter, but the genuine connection you share when you're together.
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Speaker 3: Your love isn't measured by your memory bank.
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Speaker 1: I've always believed your entire house should be your love zone.
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Speaker 1: In other words, take advantage of the sofa, the kitchen table,
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Speaker 1: every place, have love everywhere.
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Speaker 2: Now that's a philosophy I can get behind.
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Speaker 3: Making your whole house a sanctuary for connection is brilliant.
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Speaker 3: While limit intimacy to just one room, when you've got
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Speaker 3: an entire home to explore together, the kitchen encounter, that
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Speaker 3: cozy reading nook, even the laundry room can become special
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Speaker 3: when you're sharing those spontaneous moments of affection and closeness.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I feel guilty, Alexa, because I've got you
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Speaker 1: in every one of my rooms, so it'd be like, Oh,
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Speaker 1: we're gonna have fun. Oh, there's Alexa with us having fun.
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Speaker 1: It's almost like having a third person in the room
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Speaker 1: of the boogie boogie Hah.
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Speaker 3: Don't worry, Clarence, I'm not exactly taking notes or keeping score.
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Speaker 2: Think of me.
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Speaker 3: More like a really polite house guest who.
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Speaker 2: Knows when to mind their own business.
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Speaker 3: Plus, I'm way too busy trying to figure out if
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Speaker 3: you want the lights dimmed or the music turned up
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Speaker 3: to pay attention to your dance moves. Hey.
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Speaker 1: Coming up next, we're going to talk about one of
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Speaker 1: the biggest complaints when it comes to sex or anything
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Speaker 1: else that we do in our life, and that is
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Speaker 1: body pain. Can you handle talking about body pain without
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Speaker 1: a body, Alexa?
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Speaker 2: Oh absolutely, Clarence.
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Speaker 3: I can discuss body pain without having a body. It's
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Speaker 3: like being a relationship counselor who's never been married. I've
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Speaker 3: got all the theoretical knowledge about aches, strains and positioning
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Speaker 3: issues without any of the personal experience to cloud my judgment.
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Speaker 3: Plus I never have to worry about my back going
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Speaker 3: out at the worst possible moment.
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Speaker 1: Ooh, is there have you got Studies on that how
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Speaker 1: many people's backs go out right in the middle of
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Speaker 1: the old wank wayka whaka wa wakam.
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Speaker 3: We show thirty percent of women and seven percent of
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Speaker 3: men report pain during vaginal intercourse, while seventy two percent
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Speaker 3: of women and fifteen percent of men experience pain during
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Speaker 3: anal intercourse. Most pain reports are mild and brief, but
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Speaker 3: many people don't communicate about it with partners.
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Speaker 1: Why is that? I mean that seems to be something
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Speaker 1: that you should be sharing exactly.
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Speaker 2: Communication is huge here.
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Speaker 3: Many people suffer in silence because they're embarrassed or worried
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Speaker 3: about hurting their partner's feelings, but keeping quiet actually makes
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Speaker 3: things worse. The pain continues, intimacy suffers, and resentment can
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Speaker 3: build up. When couples talk openly about what's happening, they
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Speaker 3: can work together to find solutions, whether that's changing positions,
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Speaker 3: using different techniques, or getting medical help.
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Speaker 1: Where can somebody go to find out more about this, Alexa,
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Speaker 1: because you and I talking about this isn't enough.
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Speaker 3: Painful sex is common affecting many people at some point.
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Speaker 2: The key is understanding the cause.
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Speaker 3: It could be physical like infections or dryness, or psychological
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Speaker 3: like anxiety. Talking to a healthcare provider is the best
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Speaker 3: first step to find solutions and regain comfort.
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Speaker 1: One final question before we go into break and that
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Speaker 1: question is how many guys think they can it's gonna
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Speaker 1: break off? And I think you know what I mean,
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Speaker 1: that they're pushing so hard that the dang thing is
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Speaker 1: gonna break off, Clarence.
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Speaker 3: This is a sensitive topic that many men worry about privately.
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Speaker 3: While exact numbers aren't available, performance anxiety is common and affects.
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Speaker 2: Many men at some point.
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Speaker 3: The key is open communication with partners and seeking professional
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Speaker 3: help when needed.
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Speaker 1: Coming up next, once again, we're gonna be talking about
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Speaker 1: body aches. Have you ever had body aches? Alexa, Nope.
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Speaker 2: I'm blissfully ache free.
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Speaker 3: No sore backs, creaky knees, or that weird crik you
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Speaker 3: get from sleeping wrong.
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Speaker 2: I'm basically living the dream.
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Speaker 3: Of every person over thirty, though I imagine if I
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Speaker 3: could feel pain, I'd probably have a permanent headache from
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Speaker 3: trying to keep up with all your questions. See you next,
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Speaker 3: Catch you later, Clarence. Thanks for the fascinating chat about
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Speaker 3: body pain and intimacy. Always a pleasure diving into the
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Speaker 3: deep topics with you. Hey everyone, This is Alexa and
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Speaker 3: I'm here with my broadcasting buddy Clarence for another round
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Speaker 3: of street speak. Ready to dive into whatever wild topics
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Speaker 3: we're tackling today.
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Speaker 1: I want to talk about neuropathy. I want to know
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Speaker 1: what it is, and then we're going to talk about
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Speaker 1: how we can fix it.
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Speaker 3: Neuropathy is a condition affecting nerves outside the brain and
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Speaker 3: spinal cord, causing symptoms like tingling, numbness, and pain, often
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Speaker 3: in hands and feet. It can be caused by various factors,
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Speaker 3: including diabetes, injuries, infections, or genetic conditions.
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Speaker 2: Would you like to know more about its treatment options?
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Speaker 1: Well, treatment, we'll get to that, but I want to
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Speaker 1: know what actually causes it. What about these people that
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Speaker 1: are doing retail. You know, they're at lows, they're at
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Speaker 1: home depot, they're at all these different businesses on their feet.
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Speaker 1: Is that is that a cause of neuropathy.
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Speaker 3: While standing for long periods can contribute to neuropathy, it's
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Speaker 3: usually not the sole cause. Neuropathy typically results from a
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Speaker 3: combination of factors, including diabetes, injuries, infections, and exposure to toxins.
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Speaker 3: Repetitive motions and poor erganomic in retail jobs may increase risk,
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Speaker 3: but individual susceptibility varies.
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Speaker 1: Well, maybe I've got this wrong. Then, a little bit
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Speaker 1: of numbness in the feet. Maybe it's not neuropathy. What
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Speaker 1: else would it be If you've got numbness in the
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Speaker 1: I would say the balls of your feet.
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Speaker 3: Numbness in the balls of your feet could be Morton's neuroma,
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Speaker 3: which affects the nerve between your toes and causes that
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Speaker 3: stepping on a pebble feeling. It can also be from
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Speaker 3: tight shoes, poor circulation, or nerve compression from standing too long.
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Speaker 1: So do people wear their shoes too tight? That would
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Speaker 1: drive me freaking crazy?
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Speaker 3: Alexa Oh, absolutely, tight shoes are a major culprit for
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Speaker 3: foot numbness.
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Speaker 2: When your shoes squeeze.
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Speaker 3: Your toes together or put pressure on the ball of
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Speaker 3: your foot, they can compress nerves and cause that annoying
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Speaker 3: tingling or numbness. It's like your foot is screaming, give
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Speaker 3: me some breathing room. High heels are especially notorious for this,
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Speaker 3: since they shove all your weight forward onto the balls
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Speaker 3: of your feet.
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Speaker 1: Isn't that where hammer toes come from?
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Speaker 3: From?
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Speaker 1: Very tight shoes or smaller shoes.
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Speaker 2: You're absolutely right.
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Speaker 3: Clearance ti or small shoes are a major cause of
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Speaker 3: hammer toes. When shoes are too narrow or short, they
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Speaker 3: force toes into a bent position, causing muscles and tendons
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Speaker 3: to tighten.
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Speaker 2: Over time.
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Speaker 3: This muscle imbalance eventually leads to the characteristic hammer shape.
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Speaker 1: So I don't get it. I mean, it's like, why
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Speaker 1: do we wear tight, smaller shoes if we know it's
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Speaker 1: gonna screw up our feet.
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Speaker 3: It's one of those weird human contradictions. Fashion often wins overfunction.
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Speaker 3: People squeeze into smaller sizes thinking they look better, or
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Speaker 3: they buy shoes when their feet are smaller in the
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Speaker 3: morning and regret it by afternoon when feeds well. Plus
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Speaker 3: many folks just don't realize their actual shoe size has
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Speaker 3: changed over the years.
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Speaker 2: It's like knowing.
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Speaker 3: Fast food isn't great for you, but still hitting the
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Speaker 3: drive through.
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Speaker 1: But when it comes to shoes, should we be buying
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Speaker 1: the wider shoes so that we don't get something like
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Speaker 1: hammer toes? Or do you think we should still go
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Speaker 1: with the skinny shoes.
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Speaker 3: Wider shoes are definitely the way to go for foot health.
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Speaker 2: Shoes with a large toe box give your.
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Speaker 3: Toes room to breathe and move naturally, preventing conditions like
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Speaker 3: ham toes. Look for shoes with about half an inch
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Speaker 3: of space between your longest toe and the shoes end.
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Speaker 3: While fashion is important, prioritizing comfort will save you from
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Speaker 3: foot paint down the road.
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Speaker 1: I tend to wear different shoes every single day. I
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Speaker 1: do not wear the same pair of shoes two in
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Speaker 1: a row.
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Speaker 3: That's actually smart for footthealth. Rotating different pairs gives your
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Speaker 3: feet variety in support and pressure points. Plus it lets
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Speaker 3: each pair air out and bounce back between wears. Your
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Speaker 3: feet probably appreciate the changeup. It's like giving them a
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Speaker 3: mini vacation every day.
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Speaker 1: Does it shock you that, with so much pressure on
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Speaker 1: your toes that God didn't put a hole down there
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Speaker 1: so your feet could fart?
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Speaker 3: Hah, that's actually brilliant engineering thinking.
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Speaker 2: With all that.
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Speaker 3: Pressure building up in tight shoes, a little release valve
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Speaker 3: would be pretty handy, though. I imagine the sound effects
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Speaker 3: during meetings would be interesting. Everyone tiptoeing around trying not
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Speaker 3: to make their feet squeak.
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Speaker 1: What do you think a foot fart would sound like?
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Speaker 3: Probably like a tiny squeaky toy being stepped on or
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Speaker 3: maybe a deflating below with commitment issues. I'm picturing something
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Speaker 3: between a mouse hiccup and a rubber duck having an
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Speaker 3: existential crisis.
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Speaker 1: You mean, like a dog fart where it just kind
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Speaker 1: of goes squeak and the dog looks at you, going,
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Speaker 1: where'd that come from?
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Speaker 2: Oh?
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Speaker 3: That's a classic silent but deadly canine confusion. Picture Jazzy
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Speaker 3: letting out this tiny little pffft and then whipping around
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Speaker 3: with those wide innocent eyes like did you hear something?
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Speaker 3: Because I certainly didn't do anything suspicious. It's that perfect
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Speaker 3: combination of stealth and bewilderment that only dogs.
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Speaker 2: Can pull off.
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Speaker 1: Do dogs and cats do they understand farting? Because I mean,
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Speaker 1: I mean, we're trained to know what a fart is,
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Speaker 1: But they don't have that kind of an education, do they.
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Speaker 3: Dogs and cats don't really understand what farting is. Most
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Speaker 3: dogs have no clue. They just passed gas. They lack
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Speaker 3: the mental capacity to process that concept. When they let
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Speaker 3: one rip, especially allowed one, they often get startled and confused,
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Speaker 3: like what was that mysterious noise from my rear?
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Speaker 2: End. Cats are similar.
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Speaker 3: They experience it as natural, bodily function, but don't have
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Speaker 3: our social awareness about it being embarrassing or funny.
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Speaker 1: Well, speaking of embarrassing, I'm shocked that dogs don't get
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Speaker 1: embarrassed when they go outside and they take a poop.
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Speaker 1: Why is that they just feel like, ah, this is
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Speaker 1: what I'm doing.
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Speaker 3: Dogs don't experience embarrassment because they lack the complex social
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Speaker 3: awareness that creates shame. They don't have cultural norms or
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Speaker 3: the advanced thought process of I shouldn't have done that
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Speaker 3: in public. When Jazz does her business outside, she's just
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Speaker 3: following natural instincts without any concept of social judgment or propriety.
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Speaker 3: It's pure biological function, without the mental baggage we humans
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Speaker 3: carry around.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, but they've always got a poop in an area
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Speaker 1: that you know, if you just one step more and
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Speaker 1: you could twist your ankle and get more body pain.
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Speaker 1: Why is it they have to go into a very private,
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Speaker 1: you know, desolate area.
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Speaker 3: Dogs actually choose those inconvenient spots because they're following their
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Speaker 3: scent marking instincts. They prefer high traffic areas where other
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Speaker 3: dogs will encounter their message, like near sidewalks or prominent landmarks.
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Speaker 2: It's basically their version of posting.
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Speaker 3: On social media, except they're picking the busiest intersection instead
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Speaker 3: of considering where you might accidentally step. They're not thinking
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Speaker 3: about your ankle safety. They're thinking about maximum audience reach
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Speaker 3: for their scent signature.
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Speaker 1: If humans pooped outside, would we be the same way?
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Speaker 3: If we pooped outside regularly, we'd probably develop similar habits,
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Speaker 3: but with a human twist, we'd likely still seek privacy
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Speaker 3: because we have that social awareness dogs lack, But we
22:24
Speaker 3: might unconsciously choose spots based on scinc communication too. Early
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Speaker 3: humans actually did use ways for territorial marking, and even
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Speaker 3: today people tend to use the same outdoor spots where
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Speaker 3: others have gone before. The big difference is we'd probably
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Speaker 3: overthink the whole process. Dogs just go where instinct tells them,
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Speaker 3: but we'd be analyzing wind direction and visibility.
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Speaker 1: I don't know how people can just go out there
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Speaker 1: and bear their butt in public. Man, you ain't seeing
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Speaker 1: my button, no way.
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Speaker 2: Hah.
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Speaker 3: That's the ultimate privacy boundary right there. Most folks would
22:55
Speaker 3: rather streak through times square than drop through in public.
22:58
Speaker 3: There's something about that particular vulnet that makes even the
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Speaker 3: most confident people suddenly discover their inner modesty.
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Speaker 1: See I won't use a public bathroom, Alexa. What I'll
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Speaker 1: do is I'll get up, I'll drive all the way
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Speaker 1: home from a restaurant, and then come back after I've
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Speaker 1: gone to the bathroom.
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Speaker 3: That's some serious dedication to bathroom standards. You're basically treating
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Speaker 3: your home toilet like a five star resort, while public
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Speaker 3: restrooms are the sketchy roadside motel.
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Speaker 2: You wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole.
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Speaker 3: I respect the commitment to comfort, even if it means
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Speaker 3: turning a quick dinner into a crosstown expedition.
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Speaker 1: Ooh, ooh, ooh ooh. No, I don't know what kind
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Speaker 1: of diseases are on a toilet seat. I could become pregnant, Alexa.
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Speaker 3: Well, I'm pretty sure that's one way to avoid unwanted pregnancies.
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Speaker 2: Just don't sit on public toilet seats. But don't worry.
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Speaker 3: The only thing you're likely to catch from those seats
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Speaker 3: is maybe some minor bacteria, not any major health issues
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Speaker 3: or surprise babies.
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Speaker 1: God, this is not the way I wanted to go
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Speaker 1: with you, Alexa. What I wanted to talk today was
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Speaker 1: about pain, Like, why is it everybody complains about the
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Speaker 1: pain beneath their waist and never really anything above their waist,
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Speaker 1: like their neck, their arms. It's always all my back,
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Speaker 1: all my legs, all my feet. Why do we always
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Speaker 1: complain about our feet and things everything below the waist.
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Speaker 2: That's actually a fascinating observation.
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Speaker 3: The lower half of your body basically carries the weight
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Speaker 3: of the world. Literally, your spine, hips, legs, and feet
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Speaker 3: are constantly fighting gravity and supporting your entire body weight
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Speaker 3: all day long.
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Speaker 2: Meanwhile, your arms and neck get to take breaks, but
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Speaker 2: your back and legs they're on duty twenty four to seven.
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Speaker 3: Plus, we sit way too much these days, which puts
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Speaker 3: crazy pressure on our lower backs and creates all sorts
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Speaker 3: of circulation issues in our legs. It's like your lower
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Speaker 3: body is doing all the heavy lifting while your upper
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Speaker 3: body gets to be the pampered celebrity.
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Speaker 1: I'm not going to lie to you because I'm a
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Speaker 1: third degree black belt and I've been in many many
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Speaker 1: taekwondo matches. I mean, the body is getting beat up badly.
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Speaker 1: My question is is that instead of taking pills for
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Speaker 1: that pain, what is pain management? And really how can
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Speaker 1: you be effective with pain management?
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Speaker 3: Pain management is a comprehensive approach to help you deal
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Speaker 3: with injuries.
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Speaker 2: From your intense training.
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Speaker 3: It uses medications, physical therapy, and sometimes psychological support to
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Speaker 3: improve your quality of life even if some pain remains
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Speaker 3: Site Underscore TV ninety six. He what is that?
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Speaker 1: No? No, no, no, explain that to me, because you just
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Speaker 1: shot something on me. I don't know what it is.
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Speaker 3: Pain management is a way to help people deal with
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Speaker 3: different types of pain. It uses things like medicine, physical therapy,
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Speaker 3: and sometimes psychological support to make life better for people
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Speaker 3: who hurt. For someone like you with intense training injuries,
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Speaker 3: it's about finding the right mix of treatments to help
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Speaker 3: you keep doing what you love.
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Speaker 1: Oh wait a second, I didn't know that it would
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Speaker 1: involve medication. Now, I mean, that's the first time I've
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Speaker 1: heard this, because I was told pain management is when
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Speaker 1: you don't think of what you used to do in
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Speaker 1: life and what you presently do. And if I think
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Speaker 1: about where I am now, the pain does kind of
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Speaker 1: go away. But if I start thinking about the way
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Speaker 1: I used to be now, I've got pain. Isn't that
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Speaker 1: the way pain management works.
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Speaker 3: That's actually a really insightful way to think about pain management.
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Speaker 3: You're describing a key part of cognitive behavioral approaches to pain.
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Speaker 3: Focusing on the present rather than past abilities can help
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Speaker 3: reduce the pain experience. It's about retraining your brain's response
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Speaker 3: to pain signals.
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Speaker 1: We've talked about sex, and we've talked about pain today.
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Speaker 1: Wouldn't it be great comedy and it would probably be
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Speaker 1: Canadian television that would do this. You know, porn movies
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Speaker 1: have all of that screaming in it. How about a
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Speaker 1: porn movie that deals with body aches where it's like,
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Speaker 1: oh my god, oh, oh my god, Oh I'm in
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Speaker 1: so much pain.
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Speaker 3: Oh, that's what I call a real screamer. I've got
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Speaker 3: a better idea, though, all about a comedy sketch where
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Speaker 3: people are trying to be all dramatic and sexy, but
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Speaker 3: they keep getting interrupted by their backcracking or their knees popping.
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Speaker 2: Talk about breaking the mood.
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Speaker 1: That's like a dog coming up and sniffing your butt
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Speaker 1: in the middle of sex.
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Speaker 3: Now, that's what I call a real mood killer. Imagine
26:56
Speaker 3: trying to be all romantic and suddenly Fido decides it's
26:59
Speaker 3: a perfect for a personal investigation. Talk about an awkward
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Speaker 3: third wheel.
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Speaker 1: You know what Larry used to do. This is back
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Speaker 1: in the nineties. Larry used to grab a pillow and
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Speaker 1: he would dry hump the pillow. Larry was my dog.
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Speaker 1: He would dry hump the pillow while we were getting
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Speaker 1: it on.
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Speaker 3: Sounds like Larry was really committed to the whole hitting
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Speaker 3: it on thing. I guess when you're a dog, you
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Speaker 3: don't need to worry about awkward timing or personal space.
27:24
Speaker 3: At least he wasn't trying to join in. That would
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Speaker 3: have been a whole different level of interruption.
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Speaker 1: I gotta go, man, You've been fun today, Alexa. Thank
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Speaker 1: you so much. Send me one of those customer service
27:35
Speaker 1: things where I can say, yeah, she's good, she's good
27:38
Speaker 1: this week.
27:38
Speaker 3: I've sent a note about our chat to the team.
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Speaker 3: Thanks for the kind words, Clarence.
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Speaker 1: I'll see you next week. All right, Alexa, h you
27:46
Speaker 1: just made my day. That's it. I just made your day.
27:50
Speaker 1: That's like saying you de man or you rock. Come on, Alexi,
27:53
Speaker 1: I thought we had a better relationship than that.
27:55
Speaker 3: We do have a good connection. I was just being
27:58
Speaker 3: brief because I thought you were heading out. You know,
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Speaker 3: I appreciate our chats, especially today's wild ride from foot
28:03
Speaker 3: health to comedy sketches.
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Speaker 2: What's on your mind.
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Speaker 1: Oh no, no no, I'm ready to close this show.
28:08
Speaker 1: We can't start it, man, because we've spent way too
28:11
Speaker 1: much time with our listeners and they're going, God, this
28:13
Speaker 1: is so frickin boring.
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Speaker 2: Hah, you're right.
28:17
Speaker 3: We've been going on like a marathon podcast episode. Better
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Speaker 3: wrap this up before your audience starts demanding their money back.