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You're Not Lazy, You're Avoiding: The Psychology of Procrastination and Escape · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Laziness is the biggest lie ever told to humanity. Right after,
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  Speaker 1: I'll just check one more notification. To figure out if
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  Speaker 1: you're actually lazy or just avoiding something, answer these questions.
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  Speaker 1: Do you ever sit down to work and suddenly feel
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  Speaker 1: the overwhelming urge to reorganize your entire room? Avoidance. Do
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  Speaker 1: you ever open up your laptop, stare at the task,
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  Speaker 1: and then somehow end up watching a video about penguins
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  Speaker 1: proposing with rocks? Avoidance. Do you ever tell yourself, I'll
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  Speaker 1: start in five minutes and then three hours pass like
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  Speaker 1: a Marvel time skip? Avoidance. Are you lazy? Probably not.
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  Speaker 1: The issue is your brain isn't designed to do things
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  Speaker 1: that feel uncomfortable, uncertain, or emotionally threatening. So instead of
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  Speaker 1: doing the thing, it does literally anything else. Scroll, snack, clean,
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  Speaker 1: exist dramatically. And then you call it laziness, but it's
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  Speaker 1: not laziness, it's escape. Basically, your brain is a very
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  Speaker 1: dramatic employee who quits the moment things get slightly difficult. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: this task makes us feel like we're not good enough. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to watch TikTok now. Good luck, though. And
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  Speaker 1: the worst part, the more you avoid, the harder the
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  Speaker 1: task feels, which makes you avoid more, which makes you
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  Speaker 1: feel worse, which makes you avoid more. Congratulations, you've unlocked
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  Speaker 1: the avoidance DLC. But don't worry, there are solutions. And no,
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  Speaker 1: the solution is not just try harder. It's like telling
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  Speaker 1: someone to just sleep better when they're being chased by
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  Speaker 1: anxiety at 2am. So let's first talk about the advice
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  Speaker 1: that doesn't work. There are the just be disciplined people.
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  Speaker 1: These are the same people who wake up at 5am,
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  Speaker 1: drink something green that tastes like regret and says things like,
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  Speaker 1: just push through it. Yep. That works for about seven
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  Speaker 1: minutes before your brain files a formal complaint. And then
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  Speaker 1: there are the motivation people. They watch one motivational video,
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  Speaker 1: feel unstoppable, and then crash harder than their sleep schedule.
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  Speaker 1: Motivation is great, but it's also temporary. Like your will
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  Speaker 1: to go to the gym after buying you workout clothes.
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  Speaker 1: Then there are perfect plan people. They spend three hours
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  Speaker 1: planning the task instead of doing the task, which is
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  Speaker 1: honestly impressive, but also avoidance. So what actually works? Your
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  Speaker 1: brain avoids things that feel big. So make it small.
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  Speaker 1: Don't write the essay, just open the document. That's it.
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  Speaker 1: If your task feels easy enough to not trigger resistance,
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  Speaker 1: then you'll actually start. And starting is 90% of the battle.
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  Speaker 1: The other 10 is pretending you're not tired. Up next,
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  Speaker 1: remove the emotional weight. Most of the time, you're not
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  Speaker 1: avoiding the task, you're avoiding the feeling. The fear of failure,
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  Speaker 1: fear of not being good enough, fear of proving that
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  Speaker 1: maybe you can't do it. So your brain says, let's
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  Speaker 1: not find out. But the thing is, doing it badly
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  Speaker 1: is still better than not doing it at all. Because
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  Speaker 1: at least now you have something real instead of just
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  Speaker 1: anxiety with Wi-Fi. Third, make avoidance harder. Right now, escaping
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  Speaker 1: is easy. Your phone is right there. Your tabs are open.
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  Speaker 1: Your distractions are one click away. So flip it. Put
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  Speaker 1: your phone somewhere annoying. Close unnecessary tabs. Make distractions inconvenient.
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  Speaker 1: If avoiding takes more effort than doing the task, your
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  Speaker 1: brain will reluctantly choose the task. Like a kid eating
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  Speaker 1: vegetables because dessert is too far away. Number four, stop
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  Speaker 1: waiting to feel ready. you're not going to feel ready.
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  Speaker 1: That's the scam. People don't act because they feel motivated.
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  Speaker 1: They feel motivated because they act. So if you're waiting
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  Speaker 1: for the perfect mood, you're going to be waiting forever.
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  Speaker 1: Or until your deadline reminds you that fear is actually
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  Speaker 1: very motivating. Be nice to yourself. You're not lazy. You're overwhelmed.
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  Speaker 1: You're avoiding discomfort. You're protecting yourself in the worst possible way.
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  Speaker 1: Your brain is trying to help, it's just really bad
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  Speaker 1: at it. But once you understand what's actually happening, you
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  Speaker 1: stop fighting yourself and start working with yourself. And then suddenly,
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  Speaker 1: things feel a little less impossible. Would you like a
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  Speaker 1: more dedicated video on how to do difficult tasks? Or
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  Speaker 1: you're the boss. We'll see you in the next one,
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  Speaker 1: and until then, take care.