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- 0:003, 10, 1, 0, ignition, liftoff,
- 0:08Ending small business failure.
- 0:11Welcome to the Small Biz Chat podcast with a number 1 small business expert Melinda Emerson.
- 0:17Bolinda's goal is to end small business failure, and she'll give you the information
- 0:21you need to succeed and live the life you've dream of.
- 0:25Now here's the small biz lady herself.
- 0:29Melinda Emerson.
- 0:31Hi, everybody.
- 0:32I'm Melinda Emerson.
- 0:33Small biz lady.
- 0:34America's number one small business expert, and I would like to welcome you to the small
- 0:39business chat podcast live.
- 0:41Now small business chat is a peer to peer interview show that gives small business owners
- 0:46a way to get invaluable business advice The mission of small business chat is to end small
- 0:52business failure.
- 0:53So with that, let me introduce my very first guest Brett Cooper.
- 0:58As I said, he is an HR expert and executive coach who helps professionals build work
- 1:04relationships that really work over the last 20 years.
- 1:07He's influenced thousands of people in government, nonprofits, and corporate America
- 1:12to work together in a more productive and more effective And frankly, more human ways as the
- 1:18president of Integris Performance Advisors, Brett and his co founder helps clients increase
- 1:24employee engagement, improve efficiency, and generate 100 of 1,000,000 of dollars in
- 1:30financial benefit.
- 1:31He's also the co author of the new book solving the people problem.
- 1:36Brett, welcome to small biz chat live.
- 1:39I'll be here.
- 1:40Alright.
- 1:40Well, let's dive into it.
- 1:42You know, when you say people, when we talk small business, that's a little bit small.
- 1:47So The average small business owner in America has 4 employees, and this pandemic has made it
- 1:52really hard to pay and support your employees while trying to keep the business open.
- 1:59How do you suggest that, you know, small business owners worry about their team when
- 2:05they're worried about, like, keeping the doors open.
- 2:08Oh, yeah.
- 2:09Yeah.
- 2:09It's it it's the question on everyone's mind.
- 2:11And, you know, the the audience is listening to small business owners, entrepreneurs, we're
- 2:16driving the entire economy here.
- 2:19And there is a real concern, right, a real threat when you don't know what's gonna happen
- 2:26over the next couple of days the next couple of weeks, the next couple of months, what's gonna
- 2:30happen with your business?
- 2:32Really important for you to find ways to keep your folks motivated.
- 2:36So I I think there's actually 2 two questions embedded in what you just asked.
- 2:40The first is how do you stay focused so that you can support others?
- 2:45And then the second question is How do you help others stay focused?
- 2:48So on that first question around now, how do you stay focused?
- 2:52Well, you know, as the small business owner, you gotta realize 1st and foremost that it's
- 2:57your job to support and enable your people.
- 3:01You're the leader.
- 3:01You're not only the the the guy or the gal that guys has to worry about the finances.
- 3:06You have to worry about your people and you gotta make sure that you are playing your role
- 3:10to enable them to do everything that they can do.
- 3:14Right?
- 3:15Small business.
- 3:15We can't do it alone.
- 3:17Now we we have a small number of people but you can't do it alone.
- 3:20And if we're gonna keep those doors open and not only surviving, but thriving, we need to
- 3:26make sure that everyone on our team is doing the job that we need them to do.
- 3:31So that first job then of you is to stay focused and make sure that you're being the
- 3:36best leader that you possibly can.
- 3:38So you're you're inspiring them.
- 3:40You're motivating them.
- 3:42You're enabling them.
- 3:43You're equipment them, and you're thanking them.
- 3:45The other thing is for how do you keep your employees focused on their job?
- 3:49I would argue that the more you can be emotionally intelligent the more that you can
- 3:55know your individual people and know what drives them and what concerns them, you're
- 4:00going to be able to help find ways to get them to stay focused on the job.
- 4:05Because let's think about it.
- 4:06Losing a job or thinking about losing a job.
- 4:09Some people are concerned about how am I gonna support my family?
- 4:12People are gonna be concerned around, well, what are people gonna think of me if I lose my
- 4:16job?
- 4:17Others gonna say, well, how am I gonna figure out what my next job is.
- 4:21So those individual concerns, if you are the small business owner, if you're the
- 4:26entrepreneur, You need to understand those concerns and then take them head on 1 by 1 with
- 4:32each of your individual employees.
- 4:34That's a lot to do.
- 4:36That that is that is a lot to do, but I think that it's good advice, but just know that
- 4:42you're asking people to take a heavy that's a heavy heavy lift, but I think all of us are
- 4:46trying to do the best that we can.
- 4:49And it's interesting because, you know, 47% of America's workers work for a small business.
- 4:55We literally are driving the economy And so hopefully, someone's gonna send some more help.
- 5:01Let's see.
- 5:02I'm holding my breath.
- 5:03Anyway, so you wrote this new book called solving the people problem.
- 5:09Okay, Brent.
- 5:09What is the people problem?
- 5:11I'm I'm waiting to hear what you what you I know what I think it is, but I want you to tell
- 5:16me what is the people problem.
- 5:18Well, the first thing I'll tell you is that what it's not, and it's not that people are the
- 5:23problem.
- 5:24Far from it.
- 5:24In fact, people are absolutely a small businesses greatest assets, but the people
- 5:30problem itself is the fact that too many people just don't understand and don't honor the
- 5:36different styles between us.
- 5:38Right?
- 5:38We're we're all human and we all have different personality styles.
- 5:43We have different communication preferences.
- 5:46There are things that we get energetic about, and there are things that frustrate us.
- 5:50And the people problem simply is that enough of us don't really understand those differences.
- 5:57And even when we do understand them, We don't actually honor them.
- 6:01We don't embrace them because the truth of the matter is that diversity is a fantastic thing
- 6:06for any business, especially a small business.
- 6:09Right?
- 6:10If we can get different people with different points of view working together, that's gonna
- 6:16give us the greatest solutions that we can possibly think of.
- 6:18And so, therefore, the the people problem that we write about in the book solving the people
- 6:23problem is all around how do we help people increase their, what we call, emotional
- 6:28intelligence, which is how do they understand their own style in their own behaviors, their
- 6:34own preferences, And do they understand the styles of other people?
- 6:38And do they put all of that knowledge to work so that they make the best decisions that they
- 6:43can and they adapt their behavior for the mutual benefit of everyone that's involved.
- 6:48But aren't most corporate managers and a lot of business owners too, they're not thinking about
- 6:53their employees communication style, they want everyone to communicate with them based on
- 6:59their communication style and people who don't don't last too long.
- 7:04I I find, or they just really have a hard time.
- 7:07So so, you know, what can we do to help people really appreciate the differences in others and
- 7:14frankly be more empathetic in the workplace because I think a lot of people I know as a
- 7:19business owner, when you put that shingle outside and you say open for business, you're
- 7:22taking on 10 to 12 jobs at one time thinking about you and your communication style, my
- 7:27employee's communication style, that's not on that 12 things.
- 7:30Right?
- 7:31So that that you're adding the 13 for me.
- 7:33So how can you make this important and relevant to me whether I'm in a little business or
- 7:39you're in some big corporate organization.
- 7:41Well well, honestly, Malin, this is the opportunity.
- 7:44This is exactly the opportunity why we wrote we wrote the book.
- 7:48There is research after research after research.
- 7:51That shows that emotional intelligence and the ability to interact effectively with other
- 7:57people.
- 7:58That is more important to business success that is more important to driving things like
- 8:04employee engagement than having a high IQ or having really high technical skills.
- 8:10And I would agree with you that so many small business owners and entrepreneurs.
- 8:14Right?
- 8:14We we started our business because we're great at the thing that the business does.
- 8:19And what the the reason why so many small businesses fail is that the entrepreneur
- 8:25doesn't actually realize that, okay, My job is no longer just to do the thing that I started
- 8:32this company to do.
- 8:33My job is to equip other people.
- 8:36We equip the people that are working for me to do their job so that collectively, we can serve
- 8:41the people that we're trying to serve.
- 8:43You're absolutely right that the natural tendency of people is to focus on, hey.
- 8:50This is the way I like to communicate So you should communicate this way with me.
- 8:54And, you know, we're not going to change everybody's mind with that.
- 8:58But I will tell you that if anybody takes the ideas that we write about in the book,
- 9:04increases their own emotional intelligence, and starts to step outside themselves a little bit
- 9:08and starts to recognize that when they're communicating, The idea isn't just for other
- 9:13people to hear you.
- 9:14What you wanna do is you wanna say things so that they can understand what you're trying to
- 9:19say.
- 9:19And if you are so pigheaded that you're only gonna share things in the way that you wanna
- 9:23share them, then there's gonna be a lot of people that don't understand your message.
- 9:28That goes for customers just as much as it goes for your employees who you work with.
- 9:33And, you know, I've seen a lot of small businesses lose some fantastic people because
- 9:39they never really mastered this this skill set.
- 9:42Right?
- 9:42They they want to communicate in the way that they wanna communicate.
- 9:46And, you know, damn to everybody else.
- 9:48You gotta adapt to my way.
- 9:50And my argument would be if you wanna be the most six successful business owner you can
- 9:55possibly be.
- 9:56You need to look outside yourself.
- 9:57You need to increase your emotional intelligence and you need to start doing all
- 10:01you can to interact as effectively and efficiently as as possible with other people.
- 10:06Alright.
- 10:07So what's the framework that you use to help people build their emotional intelligence?
- 10:11How do you do
- 10:11that's really the discovery that my co author had.
- 10:14So the as background, the idea of emotional intelligence is is well over twenty years old.
- 10:19There's a some fantastic books out there and a lot of studies and a lot of training material
- 10:24around.
- 10:24You know, the this idea of, hey, let's improve our emotional intelligence.
- 10:28The challenge is that in that body of work that exists, there hasn't really been a a a language
- 10:34or a how to, you know, how do I learn more about my style and how do I learn more about
- 10:39others?
- 10:39So what we've done is we've taken a framework that is a almost hundred year old personality
- 10:45styles framework called disc.
- 10:48And we've overlaid that on the idea of emotional intelligence.
- 10:52And so what disc is, it's a framework that helps you understand what people's personality
- 10:57styles are and what their communication preferences are.
- 11:00Disc is an acronym It's saying it's d I s c and the d stands for dominance.
- 11:06The I stands for influence.
- 11:08The s stands for steadiness.
- 11:10And the c stands for conscientiousness.
- 11:13And what the disk framework measures is really 2 realms or 2 spectrums of human behavior.
- 11:22And the first is how fast paced or how reserved are you?
- 11:27And then the second is how accepting and warm are you of new people and new ideas and how
- 11:32skeptical are you of new ideas.
- 11:34And so through uh-uh the the disc language, we can measure people on those 2 spectrums.
- 11:40And then from there, we can start to draw a lot of conclusions about how they like to
- 11:45communicate?
- 11:45Like, do they wanna talk about their weekend when they come in on Monday, or are they not
- 11:50really interested in being social and they just wanna get to the get to work?
- 11:54Or if you need to thank somebody and appreciate somebody, do they wanna be brought up on stage
- 12:00and be thanked in front of the rest of the office Or would that be the worst thing that,
- 12:04you know, the thing farthest away from a reward or a recognition?
- 12:08So that that's what disc helps us understand.
- 12:11I get it.
- 12:12Well, I really am glad that you explained that to us.
- 12:16And when we come right back on small beach tab, we're gonna talk a little bit more with Brett
- 12:20We're gonna talk about millennials in the workplace and how we're gonna manage them and
- 12:25still have everyone get along and communicate effectively.
- 12:29This is smallbiz chat live.
- 12:30I'm Melinda Emerson, the small biz lady, and we will be right back.
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- 13:08Welcome back to small fish chat live.
- 13:10I'm Melinda Emerson, the small biz lady, and I'm so excited that you're here with us.
- 13:13We are talking with HR expert and executive coach, Brett Cooper, and he is talking us about
- 13:19solving the people problem.
- 13:21So Brett What is it about millennial employees?
- 13:25I'm I am regularly being asked by business owners that I coach should we hire any
- 13:32millennial hires in our business?
- 13:33Because they add a real interesting dynamic to the business.
- 13:37So So let me have it.
- 13:39And and you must have some advice about this.
- 13:43I I will, but it might not be the advice that you think, because I I also get people all the
- 13:49time telling me things like, you know, I don't think we should hire millennials or I don't
- 13:54think we should hire people that that aren't very talkative, or I don't think we should hire
- 13:59people who are from California.
- 14:02Right?
- 14:02I mean, there there's a lot of bias in in small especially in small business when, you know,
- 14:07you you wanna hire people that think and act like you.
- 14:12And it's, you know, no question.
- 14:13If we have, you know, somebody who is of, you know, gen x, or, you know, an older generation
- 14:20and you gotta communicate with a millennial, there's there's some miscommunication that can
- 14:25very naturally happen And that's for a number of reasons.
- 14:28Right?
- 14:29We we we've grown up in different situations.
- 14:31We've grown up in different generations.
- 14:34We've learned different things.
- 14:35But this is what I would say is I would say that the entire idea of diversity, whether it's
- 14:41age diversity, gender diversity, race diversity, or mental thought diversity, I'd say
- 14:48if you're a small business owner, you should be embracing that as much as you possibly can.
- 14:54And when you so when you when you look at a millennial, the attitude that they can bring
- 14:58and the excitement and the energy they can bring is fantastic.
- 15:02Right?
- 15:02There that that youthful energy is something that a lot of us that are a little bit there in
- 15:07in years can't bring quite the way that somebody that's a little bit younger can.
- 15:11So what I would say is try to step out of some of your own frustrations and and look at
- 15:18yourself and say, are you getting frustrated because the person that you're interviewing
- 15:22really is doing something wrong, or are you just looking through your own kind of foggy
- 15:28lenses and saying, well, they're doing it different than me and therefore, I might be
- 15:33concluding that it's wrong.
- 15:35I mean, everything that we talk about in our business and everything that we talk in our
- 15:38book and solving the people problem, is really all about the idea of we want people to
- 15:44understand, recognize, and most importantly, honor the differences among people.
- 15:50And so this idea, when we have somebody that just flat out says, you know, I'm not hiring
- 15:55millennials, period, I would say you have an opportunity.
- 15:58You have an opportunity to take a look at yourself and say, you know, am I doing the best
- 16:03I possibly can to understand, recognize, and honor the differences of the people that are
- 16:09potentially gonna help my business be successful.
- 16:12Alright.
- 16:12But how does how does ego kinda come into play with some of this when you're trying to
- 16:19resolve, you know, conflict, you know, in a business, or let's say you you do have a a
- 16:24millennial employee that has sort of like a dust up with another employee.
- 16:29Like, you know, how do you kind of mitigate and get people to sort of, like, calm down from
- 16:34from being kinda ego driven in some of these kinds of conflicts?
- 16:37So hang on.
- 16:38Are are you telling me that there might be some small business owners that have an ego?
- 16:42Is that is that I I just just wanna make sure I understand question right here.
- 16:46Don't be smart, Brett.
- 16:47You know what I'm saying?
- 16:48I'm saying, like, you know, sometimes the reason why people get offended is be because of
- 16:55ego.
- 16:55Like, I know for me, I had once had a millennial assistant that called my mother by
- 17:01her first name.
- 17:02Like, instead of calling her Missus Emerson called her Carrie.
- 17:06Right?
- 17:07And I'm hearing about this from my mom later on, like, did that how old is that?
- 17:11Did she call me Carrie?
- 17:12Like, Like, she was completely offended, and my assistant had no idea that she had completely
- 17:19offended my sixty something year old mother who was like, is this is this kid that works for
- 17:26you calling me by my first name?
- 17:27You know, so if there's there's I believe there is culture differences, but there's also sort
- 17:35of, like, some culture respect norms that maybe some younger people don't completely appreciate
- 17:41that then plucks people's ego.
- 17:43Do you know what I mean?
- 17:44Because Was my mother wrong to be offended because somebody in their early thirties called
- 17:48her by her first name?
- 17:49I don't necessarily think so.
- 17:51You know what I mean?
- 17:51So that's what I mean by you know, how ego kinda can get into some of these kinda
- 17:56conflicts.
- 17:56And my whole thing was, why do I have to tell a thirty one year old person you don't call an
- 18:01elderly African American woman by her first name.
- 18:03What is wrong with you?
- 18:04You know what I mean?
- 18:05Like, so I I just think that there's sometimes there's there's culture kind of stuff that that
- 18:11does pluck people's egos.
- 18:13Yeah.
- 18:13Absolutely.
- 18:14We we have to be aware of, you know, the people people's backgrounds and what they may or may
- 18:19not have been exposed to a may what they may or may not have have learned.
- 18:24And, you know, when you when you hire somebody, I've always thought that the key to hiring well
- 18:29is making sure that you have you hire somebody that's educable, right, that that if they if
- 18:35they make a mistake like that, you can call them on it, and you can point it out, and
- 18:39they'll make it that one time.
- 18:41You know, the the the the at the root of the question, you bring up the concept of conflict.
- 18:45The conflict's a very interesting topic.
- 18:47Because not all kinds of the same.
- 18:49In in the work that we do, we talk a lot about productive conflict which is really the debate
- 18:55of ideas.
- 18:56And we want all the productive conflict in our business that we possibly can.
- 19:02Because that's how we get to new ideas.
- 19:04That's when we get different points of view coming together and debating and, you know,
- 19:09discovering new ideas.
- 19:10What we don't want is unproductive conflict.
- 19:14And unproductive conflict is kind of the thing you're talking about here, and there's there's
- 19:17really two sides of it.
- 19:18Like, I I like to think of it as a a spectrum in that.
- 19:21On the one end, there is the kind of mean spirited conflict where people are calling each
- 19:26other names and, you know, being rude to each other.
- 19:29And we all know that that's bad conflict.
- 19:32There's another kind of unproductive conflict, though.
- 19:35And that's really the opposite end of that spectrum.
- 19:37We call it artificial harmony.
- 19:39Artificial harmony is when people are afraid to even step into the arena.
- 19:44Right?
- 19:44They don't even wanna get into the dust up at all.
- 19:47So they just stay quiet and stay back.
- 19:50And if they do that, Then we have a really big problem because nobody is discussing any new
- 19:57ideas.
- 19:58So we like to have teams think about that spectrum and say, you know, where you wanna be.
- 20:03It's kinda right in the middle.
- 20:04You don't wanna be on that far end where you are, you know, no one's speaking up artificial
- 20:10harmony.
- 20:10But what we also don't wanna do is go to that mean spirited nature.
- 20:14But if you can go kind of the middle and, you know, you're not afraid to dust it up a little
- 20:18bit, but you stay respectful and you stay focused on the ideas at hand, not
- 20:23personalities, but the ideas at hand, then you're able to talk about those ideas.
- 20:27So going back to the scenario that you talked about there, Melinda, You know, the conflict
- 20:32opportunity you had there was it's certainly started off unproductive, but you have an
- 20:36opportunity in that kind of situation to turn and make it productive and have a discussion
- 20:41with that individual and say, hey.
- 20:43This is why that's not what we want here.
- 20:46They learn all make mistakes.
- 20:48And if you as the small business owner, as the leader, can help people understand their
- 20:54mistakes, recognize, and learn for those mistakes, they're gonna be better next time.
- 20:59And that's gonna ultimately serve you and your business and your bottom line.
- 21:03Well, I, you know, I I have appreciate that.
- 21:06But but some of it feels a little bit like having to teach people manners, and that's
- 21:09exhausting.
- 21:10I have to say.
- 21:11The last question I have for you now in your book, you know, solving the people problem,
- 21:16which by the way, I'm so excited to say that entrepreneur just announced that it's the
- 21:20number one book to read for 2021.
- 21:23So go, Brett, and Evan.
- 21:25Awesome.
- 21:25Awesome.
- 21:26How do you make that the framework more real world for people because, I mean, it's it's
- 21:32like, you know, okay, yet another acronym.
- 21:34Okay.
- 21:34Let me figure this out.
- 21:36Disc.
- 21:36Alright.
- 21:36But how do How do we drill that down and make that about something real that people can
- 21:40really adjust to in their business?
- 21:42Well, thankfully, Evans and I addressed that head on as we wrote the book because Evans and
- 21:47I both are really practical business people.
- 21:50We are not academics.
- 21:52We are not professorial.
- 21:53So the book that is really designed in two parts The first part of it is setting enough of
- 22:00that foundation that, you know, we explain what emotional intelligence is and why you want it
- 22:04We explain what the basics of the disc framework is all about.
- 22:08But then the second part of the book, the bulk of the book is all about application.
- 22:13And we have 6 different chapters that focus on this idea of how do you bring it to real life?
- 22:19How do you do it in the real world?
- 22:21And so those 6 chapters talk about 6 different business, basically skill sets, if you will.
- 22:27Communicating with others, making decisions, working on a team, handling conflict, working
- 22:33with customers, whether you're sales or customer service, and being a leader.
- 22:38And so if people can increase their emotional intelligence and then apply it as they're doing
- 22:44those different business skill sets, a real world improvement in their relationship.
- 22:51So it's this is not at all about you know, oh, let me think about this and not doing anything
- 22:57with it.
- 22:57We want people actively talking about emotional intelligence and talking about different
- 23:04styles.
- 23:04And in fact, as part of the book, we, on our website, that goes with the book, solving the
- 23:09people problem.com, We put out there a emotional intelligence survey that any of your
- 23:15listeners can take for free entrepreneurs can have everybody in their organization take it if
- 23:20they want and then talk about the differences.
- 23:23So you just go to solving the people problem dot com.
- 23:25Look for the what's my disc e q link.
- 23:28Click that in the access code.
- 23:29I say we have them put small biz chat, and there you go.
- 23:33That that survey is gonna give everybody a report that's gonna give them scores on where
- 23:38they are currently with their emotional intelligence.
- 23:41And most importantly, it's gonna give you a whole bunch of tailored tips that you can do
- 23:46right now actionable steps that you can use right now to increase your emotional
- 23:50intelligence and ultimately have more effective interactions with people.
- 23:54Please head over to my blog.
- 23:56It's succeed as your own boss.com to get more information and contact information about
- 24:01tonight's guest.
- 24:02And I just wanna thank you all for watching small fish chat live and being a part of our
- 24:08success, the mission of small fish chat is to end small failure.
- 24:12I'm Melinda Emerson, the small biz lady.
- 24:15Until next time, remember this.
- 24:16You never lose in business either you win or you learn.
- 24:20God bless everybody.
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