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Season 5 - Episode 9 - Are you certainty driven? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. OK, I'm a confessed certainty
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  freak. If you're a long time listener,
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  you know that I refer to myself this way.
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  One of my primary emotions is the drive for certainty.
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  Like I am a certain. I refer to her as certainty girl
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  driving my bus. And anybody who's been here for
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  a while knows that. And I've had more and more
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  people ask me, well, do you think I'm certainty driven?
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  Do you think I'm certainty driven?
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  Well, here's the thing about emotions.
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  We all experience them all. It's just like our senses.
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  You know, you've heard people talk about the fact that you can
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  be visually oriented, you can be auditorily oriented, you can be,
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  you know, you have all these different types of ways of
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  interpreting the world. So some people are visual, some
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  people are auditory, some people are kinesthetic, some people are
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  olfactory, meaning they can smell that their sense of smell
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  drives them. But here's the thing, we are all
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  all, all of those things. So to think that you're one and
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  only one is mistaken. We operate in totality and it's
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  always in flux. So while I am super certainty
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  driven, like I can't begin to tell you how certainty driven I
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  am. The time of day I do things the,
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  the way I fold my towels, how I organize, how I can't.
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  I, I choose not to go to bed until the sink is done.
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  I say I can't and then I change it to I choose because I know I
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  could, but I choose not to. I actually choose to go to bed
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  until the sink is completely all set, organized, no dirty dishes,
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  everything's done. And you know, I've heard people
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  in my past say you're a control freak.
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  Well, if I was a control freak, I'd be putting it on everybody
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  else to do it and I don't. I do it because I'm very, very
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  particular and certainty driven for what I want and it makes me
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  feel good that way. So it's it and it's not.
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  It has nothing to do with control.
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  It has to do with me feeling like my orbit, my world, it.
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  I have some way to make it as I need it to be, to feel good.
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  I don't put it on anybody else. Nobody in my house has to
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  operate that way. I asked them to do certain
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  things like please put your dishes in the dishwasher.
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  But I think that that's standard operating procedure and they do
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  it and then I clean up the way I want to clean up it's.
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  And I'm using that as an example because it's a very common one
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  in most homes where the kitchen is a big point of contention for
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  people because someone will come in, they'll have a bowl of
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  cereal, They'll leave the cereal bowl in the sink instead of
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  putting it in the dishwasher or washing it.
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  If you don't have a dishwasher. And it causes more arguments and
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  people be your control freak, you're this.
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  Well, if someone has the the need to operate in cleanliness
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  so that their head can be clear and they can think, that's not
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  necessarily saying that they're a control freak as much as
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  they're trying to find their optimal conditions in which to
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  operate. And aren't we all?
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  So again, we go back to the totality of everyone is always
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  working in all of these modalities, not just one.
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  And to make matters more complicated, certainty looking
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  for is, is directly linked to safety.
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  And safety is a primary hardwiring in our brains that we
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  cannot get away from because we're humans and we have to
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  survive. So we're always seeking safety.
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  So no matter what we do, we can't get away from it.
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  We're always seeking, seeking safety, even when you think
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  you're on the edge and you're like, oh, no, no, no, no, I'm,
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  I'm a risk taker. I'm going to go bungee jump.
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  You're not just tying a rope around your waist and jumping
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  off of a platform and a Cliff. You're making sure that that
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  rubber band is attached. You're making sure that you're
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  cabled up. So even the risk takers, the
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  ones that climb Mount Everest, do everything they can to ensure
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  their safety and certainty. Do you see this?
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  It's hard wired into us. They have a higher tolerance for
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  where they're going to use it than some.
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  Like I would never do those things.
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  I would never bungee jump. Not in a million years.
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  My husband has bungee jumped the tallest ones in the world in New
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  Zealand and at the time they were the tallest ones.
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  I don't know if they still are, but he did three different ones.
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  I would never do that in a million years.
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  There is no way that you could get me to do something like
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  that. Not my biggest risk taking is
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  what plants are going to be neighbors with others.
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  I'm not a risk taker, but I am a risk taker in business I and he
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  does not like doing that. I'm more of a risk taker with
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  those kind of things. So we all have it.
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  And again, it's a flux, it's a tank.
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  It goes up and down, up and down, up and down.
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  So if you're worried about the fact that you know you're that
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  driving thing is happening and that you're hearing it and you
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  know, there's so much going on in your head and people are
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  pushing and you're feeling it, it's OK.
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  It's OK. And you just have to stop and
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  pause and make sure that you're very centered when you're going
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  through those emotions because that's how you manage them.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.