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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: It's MORE THAN OK If You Don't Have It All Figured Out · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: What's going on? Everyone?
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  Speaker 2: Emily A body here. You are listening to five minute
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  Speaker 2: Friday from Hurdle. Y'all, it is wild. Hurdle is about
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  Speaker 2: to be seven. We have a few weeks left. But
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  Speaker 2: I remember like when Hurdle was three and I thought
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  Speaker 2: to myself, you are a full blown toddler.
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  Speaker 1: I have a toddler. This is crazy.
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  Speaker 2: And now I am like, I cannot believe this thing
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  Speaker 2: that I started as a side project in twenty eighteen. Wow,
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  Speaker 2: what a journey that we've been on. That's not what
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  Speaker 2: I want to talk about today. I'm sure I'll get
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  Speaker 2: emotional about that few weeks. What I want to talk
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  Speaker 2: about today is the fact that I don't have it
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  Speaker 2: all figured out.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have anything figured out. Okay, that's a lie.
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  Speaker 2: I have some things figured out, but when it comes
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  Speaker 2: to what I am working on in twenty twenty five,
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  Speaker 2: it is a blank slate right now. And I have
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  Speaker 2: felt a little hard on myself about that.
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  Speaker 1: Lately. I felt a little hard on myself. I've been
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  Speaker 1: a little hard on myself.
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  Speaker 2: I open social media and I see folks talking about
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  Speaker 2: all the stuff that they have coming down the pipe
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  Speaker 2: that they can't wait to tell you about in twenty
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  Speaker 2: twenty five, and I'm starting this newsletter because I want
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  Speaker 2: to fill you in and et cetera, et cetera. And
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, well, here, i am twiddling my thumbs, wondering
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  Speaker 2: what I'm doing wrong that I don't have it all
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  Speaker 2: figured out. And the fact is, and I know this
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  Speaker 2: to be true, so I'm letting you know as well,
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  Speaker 2: there is nothing wrong with you if you don't have
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  Speaker 2: it figured out. Nothing, absolutely nothing. Here's the deal, right,
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  Speaker 2: I believe that what is for me won't pass me by.
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  Speaker 2: And I know it sounds a little woo woo, But
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  Speaker 2: instead of stressing in this time period, yes, like I said,
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  Speaker 2: I've been a little hard on myself, but I am
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  Speaker 2: choosing to embrace the fact that it's all going to
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  Speaker 2: be fine.
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  Speaker 1: It's all going to be fine. Ninety nine point nine
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  Speaker 1: percent of the time.
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  Speaker 2: I say this often, if the worst thing that happens
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  Speaker 2: is that you are exactly where you started, then transparently,
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  Speaker 2: it's not all that bad. And right now I don't
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  Speaker 2: have a ton of things locked in for the beginning
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  Speaker 2: of the year, and I.
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  Speaker 1: Am choosing to then instead.
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  Speaker 2: Be where my feet are in this moment and use
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  Speaker 2: this time to my advantage.
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  Speaker 1: So what's that look like.
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  Speaker 2: It looks like being intentional thinking about what I have
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  Speaker 2: done in the past three sixty five, what I have enjoyed,
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  Speaker 2: what I would want to do again, and what I don't.
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  Speaker 2: It looks like me brainstorming about what I want to
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  Speaker 2: get creative with in the new year. It looks like
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  Speaker 2: me making asks and pitching ideas and understanding that not
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  Speaker 2: all of those will see the light of day, not
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  Speaker 2: all of those will happen. But if I don't pitch them,
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  Speaker 2: if I don't put myself out there, none of it happens.
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  Speaker 2: And so although I would love to tell you that
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  Speaker 2: I know, as an entrepreneur exactly where the financials are
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  Speaker 2: coming from in Q one, I don't have that information
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  Speaker 2: right now and type a planner Emily Energy would love
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  Speaker 2: again for that to be different. But I recognize that
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  Speaker 2: this is happening so that I can learn from it.
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  Speaker 2: This is happening because I can handle it. And that
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  Speaker 2: is the theme in life as a whole. Right we
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  Speaker 2: are only put in situations that we can handle, and
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  Speaker 2: all of the hard or difficult moments that have happened
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  Speaker 2: up until right this very second, as you listen to
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  Speaker 2: this podcast. I have navigated, You have navigated, and I
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  Speaker 2: will continue to navigate moving forward. And so if you
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  Speaker 2: two are a little like, oh my gosh, what is
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  Speaker 2: going on in the new year, know that you're not
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  Speaker 2: alone with that. Know that although you might feel like
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  Speaker 2: everyone around you has it figured out, I promise you
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  Speaker 2: that they don't, and we will move forward on it together.
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  Speaker 2: If you're local to the New York area, I have
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  Speaker 2: some exciting info on a goal setting workshop that I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to be hosting come January. I had to get
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  Speaker 2: some ducks in a row on that, so stay tuned.
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  Speaker 2: I promise I will deliver. And if you're not, I
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  Speaker 2: am working on a goal setting template that will be
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  Speaker 2: available on the Hurdle website shortly, so stay tuned for
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  Speaker 2: more on that as well. My prompt for you this
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  Speaker 2: week get creative. What is one thing that you want
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  Speaker 2: to keep doing, stop doing and start doing in the
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  Speaker 2: new year? Again, what is one thing that you want
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  Speaker 2: to keep doing, start doing and stop doing in the
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  Speaker 2: new year? And now a listener question. Hey, my name
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  Speaker 2: is Kara. I'm a longtime fan of the show and
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  Speaker 2: love keeping up with you on social media. I'm sure
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  Speaker 2: you get messages like this all the time, but I
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  Speaker 2: am so impressed by the way that you have such
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  Speaker 2: a consistent morning routine, especially when it comes to workouts.
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  Speaker 2: I am wondering, what is one thing that you would
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  Speaker 2: say helps you make that happen every single day? And
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  Speaker 2: if you had to recommend a way for me to
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  Speaker 2: work out, I love this, what would that be?
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  Speaker 1: Thanks so much?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, let me start with I love that you want
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  Speaker 2: to take the initiative and get out and up in
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  Speaker 2: the morning. You know, this is how I love to
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  Speaker 2: begin my day. I feel like I am better for it,
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  Speaker 2: and so I am pro morning workout vibes. With that said,
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  Speaker 2: one tip that helps me make it happen on the
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  Speaker 2: regular is that I have decided that it's a non
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  Speaker 2: negotiable for me and that I know that getting active
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  Speaker 2: first thing makes me feel like my best self. So
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  Speaker 2: I say the sentence I am a morning workout person, period. Now,
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  Speaker 2: if you were to say the sentence like I feel
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  Speaker 2: as though I'm a morning workout person, that leaves a
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  Speaker 2: little bit more room for negotiation. So first things first,
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  Speaker 2: own the fact that this is who you are now.
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  Speaker 1: Now if that feels a little overwhelming.
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  Speaker 2: I get it. It's okay. Let's ease into it a
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  Speaker 2: little bit more so. Perhaps you are the kind of
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  Speaker 2: person who can a put your workout clothes out the
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  Speaker 2: night before and b make a date to get active.
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  Speaker 2: So whether that's with a friend, or perhaps it's still
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  Speaker 2: doing it on your own, but touching base with a
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  Speaker 2: friend and setting that time after the workout is done
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  Speaker 2: so you can be accountability buddies. You don't want to
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  Speaker 2: let yourself down, sure, but you really don't want to
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  Speaker 2: skip out on something that involves another person.
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  Speaker 1: So maybe you're meeting someone for.
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  Speaker 2: Your workout, you're going to a yoga class, or you're
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  Speaker 2: both taking the same peloton class at seven am on
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  Speaker 2: a Thursday, or perhaps you're simply planning to text each
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  Speaker 2: other at eight thirty am once the effort is done.
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  Speaker 2: Whatever you do, trust me, accountability is gold. Start there,
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  Speaker 2: lay out your clothes, find an accountability buddy, and let
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  Speaker 2: me know if there's another way that I can help you. Now,
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  Speaker 2: when you ask me what you should be doing for
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  Speaker 2: your workout, candidly, whatever is something that you enjoy. The
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  Speaker 2: science shows the research shows that when you are doing
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  Speaker 2: an activity that you find enjoyable, you'll keep doing it.
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  Speaker 2: So if you're not someone that loves running, or if
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  Speaker 2: you're not someone that loves strength training, it's pretty unlikely
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  Speaker 2: that from.
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  Speaker 1: The get go you're going to stick with that.
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  Speaker 2: So find something at first that makes you feel really
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  Speaker 2: good in your body. And there are so many options. Kettlebells,
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  Speaker 2: strength training, running, dance, cardio, hot yoga, spin, hit classes right,
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  Speaker 2: so many different options, So find something that you enjoy
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  Speaker 2: and moving group from there. I am always hunting your
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  Speaker 2: listener questions, so please reach out to me with them
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  Speaker 2: and email us over at Hello at hurdle dot us. Again,
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  Speaker 2: that email address for your listener question is Hello at
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  Speaker 2: hurdle dot us.
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  Speaker 1: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time