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Dad's Home Podcast | Season 003 - Episode #301 | "College Recruiting" | NSFW · Real. Guy. Pods.

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  Speaker 1: It's showtad, folks. But first dad jokes.
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  Speaker 2: I think I'm just gonna.
• 0:05
  Speaker 1: Have one kid though in the bedroom, one because you
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: have more than one.
• 0:08
  Speaker 3: And then you got a side which when you like better,
• 0:10
  Speaker 3: that's always me. Oh it's true, your parents lie about it. Oh,
• 0:15
  Speaker 3: we like them all the same. No you don't. You
• 0:19
  Speaker 3: love them all of course, But there's always that one kid.
• 0:22
  Speaker 3: You know, if he got lost, you'll look for him.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not right away.
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  Speaker 2: Wake up, Daddy, shoul.
• 0:43
  Speaker 1: That's the sound of familiarity right there. That's the sound
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  Speaker 1: of home. That's the sound of Dad's home. This is
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  Speaker 1: the Dad's Home Podcast.
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  Speaker 2: I bower.
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  Speaker 1: That is Chad of For those of you who are
• 0:55
  Speaker 1: only listening to the podcast right now, you don't see us,
• 0:59
  Speaker 1: but we are also a we're recording this on streamyard,
• 1:01
  Speaker 1: so you'll see it at YouTube for Dad's Home Podcast.
• 1:05
  Speaker 1: Please feel free to check that out. Plus we posted
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  Speaker 1: at real guy radio dot com. But it sounds so
• 1:10
  Speaker 1: good to hear the dad jokes and the music, mister Chad.
• 1:13
  Speaker 1: Two long years, two long years since we last did
• 1:18
  Speaker 1: a Dad's Home podcast.
• 1:20
  Speaker 2: Well, you know, my time in prison was brief, and
• 1:24
  Speaker 2: and you know I learned I learned a lot. I
• 1:26
  Speaker 2: definitely was rehabilitated, so and you know.
• 1:29
  Speaker 1: I believe the letter I received from you behind bars
• 1:32
  Speaker 1: also involved the word loving for your time there. I
• 1:36
  Speaker 1: believe there was you did. There was some sensitivity what
• 1:39
  Speaker 1: you weren't expecting on the sensitivity front for sure.
• 1:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, and I appreciate you sending me the lifstick.
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  Speaker 2: That helped a lot.
• 1:45
  Speaker 1: You welcome anything that I could do to make that
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  Speaker 1: stay better for you.
• 1:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it was. It was helpful.
• 1:50
  Speaker 1: It's been two years since we've done a Dad's Home podcast,
• 1:52
  Speaker 1: and things have changed over the past two years. For instance,
• 1:55
  Speaker 1: for those of you who are watching this video on YouTube,
• 2:00
  Speaker 1: you see the background behind me looks like I'm in
• 2:02
  Speaker 1: a Tom Petty video or something. I don't know what
• 2:04
  Speaker 1: it is. Maybe are you.
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  Speaker 2: In a moving van? Yes, we're we're driving across country.
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  Speaker 1: I am trapped with John Candy getting getting back home.
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  Speaker 2: It's right.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't holler like it right, I mean it's it's
• 2:17
  Speaker 1: I got blue and black checkers behind me. Plus I've
• 2:20
  Speaker 1: got moving blankets in a green screen, which just feels
• 2:24
  Speaker 1: awful the whole way around. But over the past two years,
• 2:26
  Speaker 1: I got a studio at my house down in the basement,
• 2:29
  Speaker 1: and I'm doing the show from the studio. Last time
• 2:31
  Speaker 1: we were doing the show, I was upstairs, shadows on
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  Speaker 1: the well. This is the basement. That'll be the I'm
• 2:36
  Speaker 1: on the second floor upstairs, and now I'm in the
• 2:39
  Speaker 1: basement doing the show in a studio down here. So
• 2:42
  Speaker 1: that's one of the things that has changed. In the bed.
• 2:44
  Speaker 2: You were on a higher planet and uh, yeah, as
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  Speaker 2: you can see behind me, I moved to the beach.
• 2:48
  Speaker 1: You did. You got some waves behind you? Then I do, Yeah,
• 2:50
  Speaker 1: I did.
• 2:51
  Speaker 2: I've I'm living on the coast now. I was not really, No,
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  Speaker 2: I still live in the same shithole I did before.
• 2:59
  Speaker 2: I just got a background.
• 3:00
  Speaker 1: You got water in text it's I get it. You
• 3:02
  Speaker 1: got to get to it. It's not right, it's not
• 3:04
  Speaker 1: immediate right there, but you've got water in texts. I
• 3:06
  Speaker 1: just thought maybe you've got a beach house or something.
• 3:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I wake up every day to this view. Nice,
• 3:13
  Speaker 2: that's a view. Yeah, I mean it's it's just a
• 3:15
  Speaker 2: painting in my bedroom.
• 3:16
  Speaker 1: But it looks good. It looks good.
• 3:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's it's it's soothing.
• 3:21
  Speaker 1: It's been two years. Mister Chad I see. First of all,
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  Speaker 1: I'll just open by saying what we used to do
• 3:27
  Speaker 1: for Every Dad's Own podcast. I've got my vodka tonic
• 3:30
  Speaker 1: to start the show with. And what is it that
• 3:33
  Speaker 1: you're enjoying this? So?
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  Speaker 2: Uh tis the season, it's the holidays, and one of
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  Speaker 2: my favorite holiday drinks is is this one right here?
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  Speaker 2: This is a apple cider margarita.
• 3:44
  Speaker 1: Apple cider margarita.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you got you?
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  Speaker 1: All right? So it's basically is it just cider and tequila,
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  Speaker 1: is or anything else?
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  Speaker 2: It's cider, tequila, a little bit of orange liqueur, some
• 3:55
  Speaker 2: lime juice.
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  Speaker 1: Right, So a little nave syrup, does it? Do you
• 3:59
  Speaker 1: have a guy?
• 4:00
  Speaker 2: Know? The apple syrup covers covers the diabetes portion of
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  Speaker 2: the drink. Yeah, well that's good. Yeah right, it's you
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  Speaker 2: get diabetes and a little buzz. It's really it's awesome.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, this is that time of year for me
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  Speaker 1: as we're as we're getting dangerously close for we're recording
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  Speaker 1: this right after Thanksgiving, so it's get dangerously close to
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  Speaker 1: December here, and for me, this is always white Russian
• 4:23
  Speaker 1: time of year. This is tick into that. I love
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  Speaker 1: those this time of yere. But I'm gonna have to
• 4:27
  Speaker 1: try me an apple cider margarita. That sounds I will, well,
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  Speaker 1: we can post the recipe for folks. Yeah, I will
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  Speaker 1: send it to you.
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  Speaker 2: There are a million different recipes for this particular drink.
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  Speaker 2: I think the one that we we honed in on
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  Speaker 2: those super simple, super yummy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. Also, will throw this up on a
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  Speaker 1: poll right now where we still exist on X We
• 4:48
  Speaker 1: still have a Dad's Home podcast on X although I'm
• 4:51
  Speaker 1: very rarely there. Again two years things have certainly changed
• 4:54
  Speaker 1: in the social media world, and X is I think
• 4:58
  Speaker 1: on the way out at least for me is and
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  Speaker 1: paying attention there. But we'll post a poll there and
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  Speaker 1: find out, you know, is is the better drink for
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  Speaker 1: the holidays? A white Russian or an apple cider margarita?
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  Speaker 1: Which is? Which is? Which is more needed for the holidays?
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  Speaker 1: This time?
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  Speaker 2: I think, I think you and I need to bring
• 5:16
  Speaker 2: you know, some flow charts and graphs and stuff to
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  Speaker 2: really kind of have a battle to side, you know,
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  Speaker 2: pros and cons on that one. That's that sounds like
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  Speaker 2: a future episode.
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  Speaker 1: And maybe there's maybe there's something else. Maybe we'll even
• 5:27
  Speaker 1: throw the vodkatonic in there, just for fun seas and
• 5:30
  Speaker 1: see what the what the Dad's Home listeners are saying
• 5:32
  Speaker 1: as we're kind of reintroducing because officially we're you know,
• 5:35
  Speaker 1: the big news here, if we could get to a
• 5:38
  Speaker 1: drum roll, is that we are going to have a
• 5:41
  Speaker 1: twenty twenty five season number one, two, season three, Mister Chat,
• 5:47
  Speaker 1: season three of the Dad's Home Podcast. So we're working
• 5:50
  Speaker 1: on that diligently. This is the first one, just kind
• 5:52
  Speaker 1: of catching up and kicking things back off to where
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  Speaker 1: we had been a couple of years ago. I see
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  Speaker 1: a hat a new hat from you on your nog
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  Speaker 1: in there as.
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  Speaker 2: A matter of fact, and that flows right nicely into
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  Speaker 2: the dad thing. So as uh fewer or previous listeners
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  Speaker 2: might know, both of us are softball dads. Yes, mine
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  Speaker 2: has grown up become quite large and now, as a
• 6:16
  Speaker 2: senior in high school, large not not I mean tall like.
• 6:21
  Speaker 1: I just I hear Kate right now, going dad, don't
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  Speaker 1: those words god? Large? Come on?
• 6:29
  Speaker 2: I mean, Okay, she's still wears a medium. Okay, let's
• 6:32
  Speaker 2: let's be honest.
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  Speaker 1: Point take and yes, but she is.
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  Speaker 2: She's five foot ten now, dude.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that's I think. Well, here's what I used to
• 6:39
  Speaker 1: if I look if you look at my driver's license,
• 6:40
  Speaker 1: my driving's licenses, I'm five foot ten. Yeah, I saw
• 6:44
  Speaker 1: again two years is a lot has happened. I saw
• 6:48
  Speaker 1: a doctor recently for my physical. They came and told
• 6:51
  Speaker 1: me I was five nine. I'm like, what, how did
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  Speaker 1: you shrink? How did I shrink?
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  Speaker 2: Osteoporosis?
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  Speaker 1: Baby, dude, that can't happen at this age. I'm not kidding.
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  Speaker 2: Sixty Yeah, well, yeah, welcome, welcome to the show.
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  Speaker 1: Can I expect over the next couple of years, I'm
• 7:06
  Speaker 1: going to lose another inch or two. That's not good?
• 7:09
  Speaker 2: That's yeah. This is this is the major leagues of aging.
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  Speaker 2: That's what it is. So yeah, you and I are
• 7:15
  Speaker 2: were in the bigs when it comes to getting old.
• 7:17
  Speaker 1: Well, and I saw over the past two years for
• 7:20
  Speaker 1: the junior slash senior years of Kate. I saw some
• 7:25
  Speaker 1: home runs, some taters that were being hit by her
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  Speaker 1: high quality game and ship being played by Kate. Yep,
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  Speaker 1: pitch is like a star.
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  Speaker 2: Yep. She had a great, super great junior year playing
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  Speaker 2: high school ball and has had a couple of really
• 7:42
  Speaker 2: nice select seasons. This fall, she had multiple offers from
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  Speaker 2: multiple schools, a couple two or three in the East Coast,
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  Speaker 2: and they were really exciting schools, except for they were
• 7:57
  Speaker 2: on the East Coast.
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  Speaker 1: There's this whole thing for those of you who have
• 8:01
  Speaker 1: kids that haven't gotten to the point of college yet,
• 8:03
  Speaker 1: there's this whole thing called out of state tuition you
• 8:05
  Speaker 1: have to deal with at that time. Like, not only
• 8:07
  Speaker 1: is there, you know, your normal run of the mill
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  Speaker 1: tuition that you have to pay for for college, unless
• 8:12
  Speaker 1: of course you're getting a scholarship from the school, but
• 8:15
  Speaker 1: even then it may only be a partial scholarship. But
• 8:17
  Speaker 1: the out of state tuition, forget about it. It's mostly
• 8:21
  Speaker 1: like double whatever it is for in state tuition. So
• 8:24
  Speaker 1: to think, oh, my kid could go to NYU or
• 8:28
  Speaker 1: yea whatever, good luck, it's going to be double the
• 8:31
  Speaker 1: price for whatever it is that you're looking to.
• 8:33
  Speaker 2: Pay unless you can skim off of people's cryptocurrency transactions,
• 8:40
  Speaker 2: or are potentially a mobster or have a marijuana dispensary
• 8:46
  Speaker 2: or any number of things, or are a straight up
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  Speaker 2: criminal like Robin Banks.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, pan for.
• 8:51
  Speaker 2: College is like a legit impossible hill Piliclon.
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  Speaker 1: I've got you and I both have daughters who are seniors.
• 8:57
  Speaker 1: They both know softball, they played softball together for a
• 8:59
  Speaker 1: little bit in Texas there. I have watched Office Space
• 9:03
  Speaker 1: again recently. I'm interested in trying to see if I
• 9:05
  Speaker 1: can skim just a penny off of each transaction from
• 9:08
  Speaker 1: somebody on cryptocurrency here to be able to pay for
• 9:11
  Speaker 1: my daughter's school. That'd be fantastic.
• 9:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I've been working on it. Not a coder,
• 9:16
  Speaker 2: not a hacker, so I'm not making any progress, but
• 9:21
  Speaker 2: working on it, working on it.
• 9:22
  Speaker 1: So this this hat, this school that's just going to
• 9:26
  Speaker 1: go to.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, this is so we we're super lucky, blessed that
• 9:32
  Speaker 2: she decided to go to school about an hour and
• 9:36
  Speaker 2: a half south of us in San Antonio, Trinity.
• 9:39
  Speaker 1: University, San Antonio. I love it.
• 9:41
  Speaker 2: I love the she got got an offer to play
• 9:44
  Speaker 2: down there, and the coach, the program, the school, everything
• 9:47
  Speaker 2: is a great, great fit, especially the hour and a
• 9:51
  Speaker 2: half away part. I mean, you know, get to watcher.
• 9:54
  Speaker 2: She can come home on weekends. There's a boyfriend in
• 9:58
  Speaker 2: the picture now he's probably going to be up the
• 10:00
  Speaker 2: road at A and M. So I can only imagine
• 10:03
  Speaker 2: that also was on the spreadsheet of things that she
• 10:06
  Speaker 2: wanted to you know.
• 10:08
  Speaker 1: Commutable, commutable to parents, to do laundry and have some
• 10:11
  Speaker 1: food and then commutable to the boyfriends as well.
• 10:13
  Speaker 2: Right right, yeah, all those all those things. So we're
• 10:16
  Speaker 2: we're super excited. It has been a journey. If any
• 10:21
  Speaker 2: parents out there, dad's out there, have a child who
• 10:25
  Speaker 2: plays high school athletics or or hopes to or hopes to,
• 10:31
  Speaker 2: the recruiting process is it's a grind and it has
• 10:36
  Speaker 2: been a learning, huge learning curve because it's it's like parenting, right,
• 10:41
  Speaker 2: you come home from the hospital, you get this little baby,
• 10:43
  Speaker 2: and you're like, what the hell am I supposed to
• 10:45
  Speaker 2: do with this?
• 10:45
  Speaker 1: Where's the directions letting me out of a hospital with
• 10:48
  Speaker 1: this thing?
• 10:48
  Speaker 2: I know? Yeah, no directions you know, And so you
• 10:52
  Speaker 2: got to figure out while you go. Same thing with
• 10:54
  Speaker 2: getting your kid recruited.
• 10:56
  Speaker 1: Uh.
• 10:56
  Speaker 2: And so it's been a great journey and it's finally over,
• 10:59
  Speaker 2: which is super exciting. It takes a lot of pressure
• 11:01
  Speaker 2: off the kid off, the pressure off of us. Now,
• 11:05
  Speaker 2: Like I said, I'm working on scamming little little bits
• 11:08
  Speaker 2: of off of top of cryptocurrency to pay for school.
• 11:13
  Speaker 2: Although I'm also blessed she's a smart kid, so we
• 11:17
  Speaker 2: get a couple of bucks for that. It's a private
• 11:19
  Speaker 2: school too, so it's like no in state tuition break nothing,
• 11:22
  Speaker 2: It's just like, okay, it costs a lot.
• 11:25
  Speaker 1: That's one of the things that I found as well
• 11:27
  Speaker 1: with this all is it like, I'm so my daughter
• 11:29
  Speaker 1: played softball with Chad's daughter and and has been playing
• 11:33
  Speaker 1: in high school and has been playing varsity for all
• 11:35
  Speaker 1: the years, just like just like Kate had been. And
• 11:38
  Speaker 1: yet she's making the decision now that she thinks she's done.
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  Speaker 1: She's like, I've really I played for so long, practiced,
• 11:45
  Speaker 1: went to tournaments, and going to do it obviously for well,
• 11:48
  Speaker 1: we say obviously for the senior year, but I'm not
• 11:52
  Speaker 1: even sure that they're going to have enough kids to
• 11:54
  Speaker 1: have a full team.
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  Speaker 2: Ooh.
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  Speaker 1: It's one of these things. And I'm so I'll get
• 11:58
  Speaker 1: into this in future episod as well, but I'm at
• 12:01
  Speaker 1: a place where we don't know if she's gonna have
• 12:04
  Speaker 1: enough players to man a team coming up here in
• 12:07
  Speaker 1: the spring, where we won't know until we get closer
• 12:10
  Speaker 1: to the spring. But right now it's not looking particularly good.
• 12:12
  Speaker 1: They had five seniors that graduated last year, so it's
• 12:15
  Speaker 1: at this point it's not looking particularly good as far
• 12:18
  Speaker 1: as you know, we haven't seen through this high school,
• 12:21
  Speaker 1: but they've had a fantastic football program in the state
• 12:24
  Speaker 1: and all of that here in Michigan, but they don't
• 12:27
  Speaker 1: have any sort of feeder program coming in from anywhere
• 12:31
  Speaker 1: for softball. And I don't know if you've found this
• 12:33
  Speaker 1: in Texas. It's totally different world in Texas. I will
• 12:35
  Speaker 1: tell you that softball programs in Texas are so competitive
• 12:39
  Speaker 1: and so amazing as far as the organizations go. I
• 12:42
  Speaker 1: can't imagine you not being able to have enough students
• 12:45
  Speaker 1: to have a varsity baseball team, let alone probably more
• 12:48
  Speaker 1: often than not on some form of JV team for
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: most of the schools as well. But in our school,
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: we don't have a JV team. We don't have enough
• 12:54
  Speaker 1: for that. We don't have enough for a varsity team
• 12:56
  Speaker 1: quite possibly. So we don't know what's going to have
• 13:00
  Speaker 1: going into this senior year as TV, if there's even
• 13:03
  Speaker 1: going to be a team. So she's kind of like
• 13:06
  Speaker 1: this place where I've been playing travel for so long,
• 13:08
  Speaker 1: I've been playing fallball for so long, I'm done. And
• 13:11
  Speaker 1: so when she's looking at schools. While we did do
• 13:14
  Speaker 1: initially the process through one of those sporting recruiting agency
• 13:18
  Speaker 1: places that you pay monthly or whatever to help you
• 13:21
  Speaker 1: and put you in touch with the coaches and you
• 13:23
  Speaker 1: reach out and they reach out to you and you
• 13:25
  Speaker 1: post videos and all of that kind of stuff. While
• 13:28
  Speaker 1: we did do that and she did hear from some schools, largely,
• 13:31
  Speaker 1: we ended up doing it probably later than most people
• 13:34
  Speaker 1: would and didn't get any big schools that she'd wanted to.
• 13:37
  Speaker 1: Any of the top schools that she wanted to get
• 13:39
  Speaker 1: into weren't reaching out to her. They had already signed
• 13:42
  Speaker 1: kids from a couple of years ago. So that's one
• 13:44
  Speaker 1: of the things that you see as you're going through
• 13:46
  Speaker 1: this process. Moreover, is I found that, at least for Charlie,
• 13:50
  Speaker 1: for my daughter, was that she was just solely focused
• 13:53
  Speaker 1: on the academic portion of things, Like she's got really
• 13:55
  Speaker 1: good grades, honors classes, and National Honor Society, all of
• 13:58
  Speaker 1: those kinds of things. And she's seen now as she
• 14:01
  Speaker 1: did her early applications, those those are starting to pay
• 14:04
  Speaker 1: off for her because she's getting colleges that are interested
• 14:07
  Speaker 1: in her and that have accepted her based upon her application.
• 14:11
  Speaker 1: That are places that she wanted to go based upon
• 14:13
  Speaker 1: academics and not based upon softball at all. So that's
• 14:16
  Speaker 1: a big plus. And and and for her, like I said,
• 14:20
  Speaker 1: I think she's she's like, this is my senior year.
• 14:22
  Speaker 1: I'd love to just play ball my senior year and
• 14:24
  Speaker 1: then the following summer and then be done with the
• 14:26
  Speaker 1: whole thing. Yeah.
• 14:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I Our experience has been interesting. You're right here
• 14:34
  Speaker 2: in Texas, softball's nuts and I think a large that's
• 14:38
  Speaker 2: largely due to the fact that the weather down here
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: is playable basically ten months out of the year. And
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: you know, some of it you have to play through
• 14:47
  Speaker 2: either really cold or really hot, but you know, you're
• 14:49
  Speaker 2: it's not snow on the ground, it's not ice, et cetera.
• 14:52
  Speaker 2: Occasionally there's a flood in the field is full of water.
• 14:55
  Speaker 2: But besides that, but anyway, we I've seen sort of
• 15:02
  Speaker 2: the same fall off despite the amount of kids that
• 15:05
  Speaker 2: are playing softball down here, the fall off between the
• 15:11
  Speaker 2: kids who are really into it, passionate, love the sport,
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: want to play in college, and the kids who just
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: you know, get into high school and they're like, I'm done.
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: She's had four four kids on her team who are
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: all seniors who quit this year. So four seniors who
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: would have been on varsity would have been playing. All
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: of them said we're done playing, not gonna play varsity softball.
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: So there's and that's a long way of saying this,
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: kids who love the sport and want to keep playing
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: for the love of the sport playing college, and there
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: are multiple opportunities for kids to play in college. The
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: thing that I look, we learned a lot of the
• 15:57
  Speaker 2: process too, is if you really love the game and
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: you care about softball and not really like, hey, you
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: know what college is as a step to my career,
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: going the JC route, going to a junior college. Playing
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: softball at the junior college level gets you into this
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: group of kids who all of a sudden, those elite
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: D one schools are looking at because now with the
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: transfer protocol, protal portal, you know, the teams are much
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: more fluid in terms of what the roster looks like.
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: It's not just hey, we get these kids when they're freshmen.
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: They follow us all the way for through you know,
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: through four years. Duh. So that's one route for a
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: lot of kids to go through. And that was on
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: our list of things for Kate to do. Kate, like
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: your kid, Charlie is, is you know academic smart? Can
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: you know she could go to college and get scholarships
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: based on that alone. She wanted to add the softball
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: experience to that as well. So for every kid, it's
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: it's different, right. A lot of kids are just like
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: burnt out done, and you can tell, like those kids
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: start to fall off around fifteen sixteen, and then it
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: continues all the way till they're eighteen. And so you're
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: left with these kids like my kid, who's just like
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: and I love this, let's go. And but there are
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: plenty of ways for kids to get into college if
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: that's something they want to do. Our journey though, was
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: academics first and then softball was second. And it's funny
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: her catcher last year as a kid who's playing at
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: Texas Tech this year catching for Nigerie Kennedy like the
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: number one catcher for nigeram nice freshman like and she's
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: a baller. She's so fun to watch. Anyways, that was
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: kid's catcher last year. She you know, she had that
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: D one route kind of kind of planned out, and
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: she was recruited early, like as a junior. A lot
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: of kids that Kate goes to school with and are
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: talented get recruited. Kid on her high school teams going
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: to ut you know that that kind of stuff, right,
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: But then you have the kids who are like Kate,
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: who are like uber nerd smart kids. They get recruited
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: late to all these you know M I. T s
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: and you know, Northwestern they're they're a little bit more
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: d one. But Harvard's all the you know, those kinds
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: of schools. Trinity is another one of the schools, you know,
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: highly academic school. So yeah, they all recruit late. They wait,
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: they know, because you know, all the kids that are
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: super smart tend to get recruited later. So we learned
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: that early on too, like, don't worry, there's plenty of
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: time for you to get recruited. Kate's current coach even
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: said the same thing, like, hey, look, I've had kids
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: recruited the summer before school started, like within weeks of starting.
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: So but man, we digress. That's a lot of talk
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: about Well.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: I was gonna say it just to kind of offer
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: that just a just a quick element to as well
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: that that I when Kate, sorry, Charlie and I went
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: to a Northwestern softball camp, uh, the softball coach there
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: was very clear about how there's you know, all these
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: predetermined times, like if you haven't heard by June of
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: your junior year, blah blah blah, you're not going to
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: get the recruiting that you're looking for. And and coach
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: Doran had said it with Drown and said at one
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: point in time that that they got one of their
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: best players at Northwestern some three days before the start
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: of the falls.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: That's crazy, I know.
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: So they had, you know, while they had a bunch
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: of other people recruited. They ended up with one of
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: those situations that that we've seen happen so often where
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: a player go gets has committed to Northwestern in this case,
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: and then uncommits and goes someplace else like takes you know, gigot,
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: Ohio State or whatever, whatever the deal is. It opens
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: up a door in Northwestern. They have been looking at
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: this girl, this girl hadn't committed. They go out of
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: their way, make a big pitch, and they get her
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: literally just as school's about to start, and she ends
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: up being one of the best players that that school
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: has seen during her time there. So again it's it's
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: not necessarily the way it usually gets done or the
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: progress that you've heard from all of these different places
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: if you are dealing with the recruiting process. But there
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: are ways around that. And I think you and I
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: have talked about this off the air as well. I
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: think that's gonna happen more frequently. Oh yes, this portal
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: and the NIL starts to work its way through. So
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: I think there's gonna be opportunity there. And while my
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: conversation with Charlie has been largely look, if you don't
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: go in after your senior year, if you're not playing
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: softball at a collegiate level after your senior year, it's
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: gonna be next to impossible for you, like your sophomore
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: year at college. Just go okay, well maybe I'm ready
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: to play now. Not gonna happen. You aren't going to
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: have that luxury to be able to do that.
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: So well, and look, and for kids that love the game,
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: that going to the junior college route is so fantastic.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: That is like I've talked to D one coaches who said,
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: we spend more time looking at JC kids than we
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: do at kids who are juniors and seniors because we
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: know that is a you know, they've had college experience
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: at school, they've had college experience playing ball, and they're
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: much more likely to be successful in college, you know, sophomore, junior,
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: senior than like taking a taking a shot on a
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: kid who's coming out as a senior. And so it's
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: one of those things where the kids themselves have to decide.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: And I've asked Kate. I ask Kate almost every time
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: we go to a tournament, like you love this game? Still?
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: You love this game? Right? Like we're doing the right thing,
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: Like we can quit any time. The minute you stop
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: loving this game, we quit.
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: We stop.
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think every parent the best advice I
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: can give other parents in this situation is ask your
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: kid that question a lot that is so important for them,
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: and have an honest dialogue about it, Like don't push
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: your kid into it, and don't let your kid think
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: that that's what you want them to do. Let them
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: lead you. And that's been a super important thing I
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: learned early on, like don't push let her drive it,
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: and if she says she still loves it, then let's go.
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: I'm all in, Like I'll drive you to hell and
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: creation in Colorado and fucking Indiana and over. We got
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: to go this summer. And I also, I also I
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: wanted to share this with you. I like to quote
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: Blue Dough on this one.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: You do you know, okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, uh you know.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: It's it's never it's not over till we say it's over, right,
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: right do we do? We quit when the Germans bomb
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: World Harbor, right right? So I'm just saying, Blueto, he
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: knows what he's talking about.
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: He does, he does. He's got to hang on. It's
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: not over till it's olf f over, it's over. And
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: look with anything here, I mean, it would be virtually
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: impossible for Charlie at this point to to jump into
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: a softball program, like she's like, oh my god, this scene.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: Your year was fantastic on the team and the summer
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: travel team was amazing and she hit six hundred and whatever.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: You know, like, yeah, there's no way that that's gonna happen. You,
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: there's always an opportunity that you could be a walk
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: on at some whatever school you end up going to.
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: You could certainly try, but likely not going to happen
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: that you get certainly any starting position from that.
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: Well not I mean not if you want to go
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: to like a you know, four year D one school,
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: that's absolutely true. But if the kids like hey, I'm
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: not done playing, Like what I would say to Charlie.
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: Not my kid, but if I was having this conress,
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: if you me, Kate and Charlie were sitting around, Yeah,
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: what I says, Charlie, are you done playing? Or do
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: you love the game still? And if you love the game,
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: there's a way there's a school out there that wants
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: you to play for them, right. I mean, I can't
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: tell you, honestly, how many junior colleges have reached out
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: to Kate even after she's committed, like, hey, you want
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: to come play with those please?
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: And Charlie and had those as well, and she said yeah.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: And the greatest thing about that too, that I found
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: and I try to steer as many people dis direction
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: as I possible. Can go get your school paid for it,
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: like JC will pay for everything. The kid who is
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: the pitcher for Kate's high school went to a junior
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: college in Florida for two years, lived on the beach,
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: went to the beach, played softball. They won the Junior
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: College World Series. She's now at some D one school.
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: I'm going to drop link on the name, but anyway, so,
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: but they saw her play in that at that level
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: and they're like, come on, let's go. And she's got
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: a full ride now at a D one school. So
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: it looks it just comes down of like do I
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: want to go to college or do I want to
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: play ball?
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: Well, and if you don't know, like if you're if
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: you don't know what you want to do in college,
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: to go to a junior college, shame money. Like my
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: next my nephew right at COVID was accepted to a
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: SUH lives in California. He was except accepted to Arizona State.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: COVID hit. He couldn't go to Arizona State. So for
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: those two years of COVID, he did junior college, didn't
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: He's he's coming out as a junior in a ton
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: of debt, right, you know, it's home taking care of
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: He's got all this stuff. He went down to as
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: soon as he graduate. As soon as he left the
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: two years of JC, he went down to UCSB and
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: Santa Barbara. So he's going to school in Santa Barbara
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: for junior A terrible school, right, terrible place too to
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: be riding your bike around Santa Barbara.
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: I have a really good friend of mine went to
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: school there and I used to go visit her all
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: the time.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: I'm like, touch a beautiful So anyways, but that's the
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: thing is that you you you you do JC, if
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: you want to play ball, you give yourself the ability
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: to compete on that level, still develop and become a
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: star level athlete that D one schools are going to
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: be looking at right there coming out of JC, and
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: you might get two years of a free ride and
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: that helps the school, it helps you out, and you've
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: done two years of you know, your undergrad work relatively cheaply,
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: so it's a huge plus that way, if that's the
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: way you want to go. And I've had those conversations
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: with my daughter as well, and I think I think.
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: That do you need me to start texting her like
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: little hints like.
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: Look, I tried, Chad. I just think and this is
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: one of those things like you said, this is this
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: isn't about me, So I can't make that decision for her.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: This is her decision. And as you know, she had
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: quit softball before and then made her way back to it,
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: and I think this is just I think she feels
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: like she's ready to move into focusing on the career
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: and the education and making sure that her grades were
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: good enough to get her to a point where you know,
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: she's gotten a couple of schools that are that have
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: offered like sixty grand intuition through scholarships on an academic level.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: So there's like they're they're good happening. I know there
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: are good things that are happening for her on that front.
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: And I told her at the same time, like a
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: couple of schools, like you haven't really reached out to
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: them about softball. There's one's a D one school, but
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: it's a lower level D one, you know, as far
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: as where they compete. She could still go and reach
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: out to them and talk with them. Because my thing
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: is this, and this I believe this to be true.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: Maybe you'll have a different you know, look of things
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: for k maybe you'll be like, this is absolutely the truth.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: But I also think going to college where you've got,
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: you know, a bunch of other students from all over
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: the states that are coming together at that college, it's
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: tough enough to find friends as it is sometimes going
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: into college softball sisters, people that are playing softball together,
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: Like I know when we went to Northwestern again, not
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: to bring up Northwestern all the time, but it was
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: one of the camps we went to where they talked
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: about the girls on that team, how they welcome the
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: new girls on day one. They take them as like
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: a group of two or three of those players will
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: walk that player, that new player freshman around the campus
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: and take them to her classes, take her to, you know,
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: wherever she needs to be and see things. They'll walk
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: her through everything as just a group of friends would
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: do as sisters would do, and they have become that
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: tight from playing softball. So my concern for my daughter was,
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: here's a chance for you to have sort of a
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: built in friendship, which her closest friends right now are
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: people that she's played softball with. Here's a chance for
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: you to have that built in friendship as you are
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: getting to this brand new sometimes overwhelming depending on how
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: big the campus may be or how small it may
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: be overwhelming situation where you want to meet new people
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: and you think there'd be this opportunity because everybody's coming
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: in as a freshman there, this would be an opportunity
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: to have sort of built in friends. So that's that's
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: kind of one of the pitches that I was trying
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: to make a little easier for her. So there's no
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: you know, there's no anxiety on the friend front when
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: you're there, or hopefully less anxiety on the.
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: Front, you know. So it's only been three four weeks
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: that we last visited Trinity and talked to the coach
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: and met some of the players and did all that
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: kind of stuff as like a as part of the process,
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: and Kate in that process got to go to a
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: class with a couple of the softball players and went
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: to lunch with two or three other softball players, and
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: so it was already a connection there happening before she
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: even got there. And it was to add it to
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: what you're saying, is it was clearly, very clear that
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: there's a sisterhood there. And that was one of the
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: things as a parent, like I look at that and
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, have some of that, Yes, get that
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: because you know, when you pick a team that's not
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: your high school team, like a select team, right, chemistry
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: and team camaraderie and culture and all those things are
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: so important. And I asked Kate after she went to
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: the class and lunch with those girls and said, you know,
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: how was it. She goes, Oh, those are my people?
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: Like I fit right, in there, and and that is
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: that is one of the great things about like college
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: athletics too, I think, is that there is the ability
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: to have that instant family, the instant friends, the sisterhood,
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: like you said. And as a parent, right when you
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: send your kid off to school, like already I'm freaking
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: out as a kid. Who I've got a kid who's
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: a senior, right, who she's starting that like break, I'm
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: becoming independent, Like hey dad, I'm going out. Okay, where
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: are you going. I'm going with my boyfriend and my friends. Okay,
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: when are you coming home later? Right? It's like it's
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: like this, this is just weird, like you know used
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: to like I remember when you were ten and anyway,
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: as a senior, that's happening. And so it's preparing me for,
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: you know, six months from now when I'm gonna cry
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: like a baby.
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: When you drop when you ball like a little kid.
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's curl up in the back seat of the car.
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: And start starting with prom and graduation and your way
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: to dropping her off at school. Yeah, I'm I'm very
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: much looking for But that thing.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: Being able to see that as a parent helps that anxiety.
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: I have to drink less I have to take less Sanax.
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: It's it's it helps, Yes, definitely helps.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: It definitely does help. So look at it's I think, uh,
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: for parents that are going to go through this or
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: have that process down the road for themselves, realize you're
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: gonna get through it. It's there's a lot to pick
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: up on. There's a lot to learn from, uh. Chad
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: and I will go through more in greater detail of
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: what those situations feel like, look like, what you could
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: expect from it. To try to help you guys out
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: and be a point of contact for questions that you
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: may or may not have. You could always reach out
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: to us at Real Guy radio dot com. That's the
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: home for the Dad's Home podcast. I got videos there,
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: we got emails, We've got any way that you need
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: to get a hold of us, mailing list, all of
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: that kind of stuff. We'll get into more of that
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: as things start to develop into season number three for
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: the Dad's Home Podcasts. Well, what we'll do is take
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: a quick break when we come right back. We got
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: a little dad vice that is going to be I
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: don't want to say that this Tyson, and do exactly
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: what you were just saying there, Chad because I don't
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: want to. I don't want to lay this a case,
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: but it does. But there's a there's this certain a
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: question that we'll bring to the table here and I'm
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: gonna look for one solid piece of advice from both
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: of us, and then we'll go to the tape with
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: a couple of different things to look at, including the
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: one reason if you were looking for any these days,
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: if you were looking for a reason to not have
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: an affair in your marriage, I've got one of them.
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: For you, damn it, because I was looking for a reason.
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: We're this is one that's not well.
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: I'll I mean, I'll let you take a look at
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: it and decide. I know, but I'll let you take
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: a look at it and decide. But we will all
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: get to view this in just a little bit here.
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: I think it's definitely one of the but probably the
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: number one reason right now why you would go yeah, thanks,
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: but no thanks. Coming up here at the Dad's Home Podcast,
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: Let's make a call to the bullpen.
• 32:43
  Speaker 4: And it's your comic wely B Daniel Tosh.
• 32:48
  Speaker 5: It's been at quarterbacks, Brett Farv. I love that everybody
• 32:52
  Speaker 5: gave him so much grief to retire Brett Farv should retire?
• 32:56
  Speaker 5: Are you out of your mind? He makes twelve million
• 32:58
  Speaker 5: dollars a year to play again. Yeah, I'm gonna keep playing. Hey, Brat,
• 33:05
  Speaker 5: the whole world thinks she should retire. You said twelve million, right, Yeah,
• 33:08
  Speaker 5: they can go themselves. I would never quit.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: Are you kidding me?
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: What about four years?
• 33:17
  Speaker 5: He's not good enough to be a starter, but he
• 33:18
  Speaker 5: could be a backup in the NFL.
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: Do you know what that pays?
• 33:20
  Speaker 5: About four to five million? Oh, yep, I'm gonna do that.
• 33:24
  Speaker 5: About ten years, not good enough to be a backup,
• 33:26
  Speaker 5: but he could be on the practice squad. Do you
• 33:28
  Speaker 5: know what that pays? About eight hundred and fifty thousand? Yep,
• 33:31
  Speaker 5: I'm gonna do that as well. Play forever. It'd make
• 33:34
  Speaker 5: the game more enjoyable if people weren't allowed to retire.
• 33:37
  Speaker 5: Athletes don't want to quit either. See some seventy year
• 33:39
  Speaker 5: old return of punt. He gets hit, he explodes, He
• 33:44
  Speaker 5: dies on the field with some honor, some comic relief.
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: The Dollar Show.
• 33:51
  Speaker 6: This is a song, ladies, But fellas.
• 34:00
  Speaker 7: Don't always have to fuck her heart. In fact, sometimes
• 34:05
  Speaker 7: that's not right to do.
• 34:08
  Speaker 8: Some times you've got to make some lak and fucking
• 34:13
  Speaker 8: give her some smoothes too.
• 34:16
  Speaker 7: Sometimes you got to squeeze. Sometimes you got to see please,
• 34:24
  Speaker 7: sometime you got to see.
• 34:27
  Speaker 6: I'm gonna fuck you shortly, I'm gonna screw you gently,
• 34:35
  Speaker 6: i wonna harm you sweetly, harmona, ball you discreetly.
• 34:45
  Speaker 8: And then you see here I've put your flowers. And
• 34:50
  Speaker 8: then you say, wait a minute, Sally, I think I
• 34:54
  Speaker 8: got something in my teeth, but you get it out
• 34:57
  Speaker 8: for me.
• 34:59
  Speaker 6: That's fucking team work.
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: What's your favorite position? That's cool with me.
• 35:06
  Speaker 6: It's I'm my favorite, but I'll do it for you.
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: What's your favorite dish.
• 35:12
  Speaker 8: I'm not gonna cook your butt or order it from Sanzibar.
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: And then I'm on love.
• 35:18
  Speaker 8: You really, and I fucking fuck you.
• 35:22
  Speaker 7: Discreetly, and then a fucking bone you can clearly, But
• 35:28
  Speaker 7: then I'm on a bud.
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Dad's Whole Podcast. All right, mister Chad.
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: Time to get some of the business that we usually
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: take care of. The that's on podcasts. Dad Vice is
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: one of them. On the way We've got to the tape,
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: and probably what I'm gonna say is one of, if
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: not the number one reason why you don't want to
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: have that affair. If you've been thinking about it, if
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: you were at the bar for a very busy pre
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: Thanksgiving night and you've got approached by somebody, you're like,
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: maybe no, this is gonna clearly set you up for failure.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: And I'll explain why coming up in just a minute.
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: Here let's go.
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: We've got video footage of it, just to highlight that
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: for everybody. So that said, before we do, let's get
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: to some dad device, which I think is something we
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: like to do here and this one is definitely an
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: important one. And I found a great little Reddit world
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: where people are looking for advice from pars like maybe
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: they don't have a father anymore, maybe their dad never
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: spoke to them, or it goes back to my whole concept,
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: mister Ted, I told you about one time where I
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: wanted to have a business called rent a Dad for
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: the soul mass of Like if you like you had
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: to change the brakes on your car, but your dad
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: never showed you how to do it, and you want
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: to learn how to do it, but you don't have
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: a father figure in a life and more, you could
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: rend a dad that would come over. Who have you
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: bought that yet I haven't yet, and I think, what
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: are you doing? I think somebody's gonna steal the idea now,
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: But I think that there's you know, a concept there
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: that it could be any of that. It could be
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: maybe you want to learn how to cook a steak
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: on the grill, and you don't have a father figure,
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: you can hire a dad to come over for an
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: hour teach you all the prep work, how to cook
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: it what you suppose. So all that's that, that's my
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: idea of concept, right.
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: I mean dad jokes, you know of it, practical practical
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: jokes where you're like, you know, fixing electricity in their
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: house and pretend to get shocked.
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, that kind of stuff. So this is where this
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: is where we feel like this is an opportunity for
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: us as dads to step up in somebody who doesn't
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: have that dad in their life anymore. And in doing so,
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: I brought one of the toughest questions to our table.
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: So this says it's me again. As I said before,
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: my dad or parents per se, never gave me the talk.
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: Oh here I'm taking up the courage to ask, is
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: there any advice from men to give me? Again? I
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: am a fourteen year old boy. Now, first thing, I
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: just want to he typed in. I am and fourteen
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: year old boy. And my first concept is if you
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: can't get that correct, don't worry about getting laid right now.
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: Proper grammar is going to is what's gonna attract the
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: ladies to you.
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: You know what, though, these days, bro, the grammar is
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: on the outs. Like if you watch the way your
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: kids text, sure Be's grammar doesn't exist anymore.
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: No, look now does you?
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: And I know it. I am a huge fan of
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: grammar ly, so I'm all about the periods and the
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: capitals and all that kind.
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: Of I and I listen. I agree with you on
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: and we all know how important pronouns are these days.
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: But I would also say that that at the same time,
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: while your six pack abs do look good and your
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: zero percent body fat, when you go to speak, I
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: am and fourteen year old boy, you're gonna turn some
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: chicks off. They're not really the billion Sorry did you say?
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: And I'm and fourteen year old boy?
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: Let's I mean hold on, like we need some context here.
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: Maybe this is a Russian kid. I am, I'm fourteen
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: year old.
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: I am and fourteen year old boy. I'm looking to
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: know insight on how what he's good in the talk?
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: I mean, you don't know, so right, I figured, let's
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: let's let's figure this out with each of us giving
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: one just to this fourteen year old kid who's out
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: there on Reddit and wants to he didn't have a
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: talk with his parents for whatever reason. Maybe they died,
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: maybe they don't speak the same language. I don't know,
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: but he's looking for some insight. What what do you
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: think your number one thing to tell the kid at
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: the at the talk would be because I've got I've
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: got I've got one that we we talk about and
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: we play comedy from which I think is important to note.
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: And as a girl, dad, I think this is very important.
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: So I'll start us off, which is simple. It's two
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: simple words. Don't rain?
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: Okay, sure, don't.
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: That goes with us? That's yes, But look, I think
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: it's common knowledge. But I also think so, so I
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: based I'm a fourteen year old boy is common knowledge.
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna say it, and I'm sorry if this
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: sounds do not do not follow through in the rape consent.
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: You must get the consent, you must ask for yes,
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: you must wait for yes before you move forward, not
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: maybe a little beating between. You must wait for yes.
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: No that is not yet full throated yes, I am
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: ready give it to me. That's what you have to
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: wait for. You can't. This is not there's no gray
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: area here, there's no in between. So if you think
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: she's consented, guess what You've gotta wait and find out
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: for sure. You gotta ask questions. And I know that
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: that turns some people off. And there are plenty of
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: women who are like I like an aggressive guy, yeah,
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: but they also don't like to get raped. So I
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: would make this suggestion to a fourteen year old boy,
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: a don't rape, and what that means is get the consent.
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: So if you haven't had the time, things are going well,
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: maybe you guys have been dating for a while, maybe
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: you feel like this is just the next natural step.
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: Maybe she's coming on to you, any of that, and
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: all of that could be happening in one date. I'm saying,
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: don't rape, and the way you prevent that ask for consent.
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: That's what I say is one of the most important.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: If I had a boy, I would I would say
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: that that is the number one thing to not do
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: and make sure you get consent. Don't rape and get consent.
• 41:32
  Speaker 2: God damn it, Bower, why'd you take my answer?
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: I got another one if you wanted to. I felt
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: like I had eight of these, but I don't want
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: to take one for you.
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: Just text it to me, so it sounds like I
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: came up with it.
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: Okay, I'll let me do that. Text you real quick.
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: Hold on, here we go.
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: Uh. I'm trying to figure out a way to not
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: sound like a dick when I'm saying it, don't rape.
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: There you go. That's another don't rape was pretty dickish.
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: You gotta admit that was a pretty dickish statement to
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: make for me.
• 42:04
  Speaker 4: But yeah, yeah, okay, So as a girl, dad, it's
• 42:12
  Speaker 4: funny I had this conversation this morning with my wife.
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: You did.
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: Kate has a boyfriend and nothing ruins a softball career, uh, college,
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: wanting to be a pregnancy, well right, all those things
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: like a pregnancy and so and and not to get
• 42:34
  Speaker 2: too political about this too, but man, you get pregnant
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: in the state of Texas. Oh kind of fucked. Yeah.
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: So so yeah, birth control is okay? That that would
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: be my other.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: Don't rape.
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, once you get the consent, put on the RAND code.
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: That's the thing, and be okay with that, be prepared
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: for that, be okay with that. Don't be one of
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: those dudes. It's like, oh, but it feels so much
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: better when we all know that, we all get it.
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: But you know what's the best. The best is not
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: ruining your life because your your significant other is giving
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: birth to a child. That's those are that's two lives
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: as probably three. I'm gonna go out and a limb
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: and say, that's three lives you're saving talking about the
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: child too, by just choosing to put the on.
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: And I would multiply that by whatever the parents are
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: involved in that situation. So let's say you're the Russian
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: kid who doesn't have parents, so we'll erase those, but
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: the girl might have a mom and a dad, so
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: there's two more lives. You haven't fucked right.
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: And look and the team Kate softball team, they need
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: her to pitch, they need take all those lives and
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: fuck with that too. Because you didn't put a condom
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: on because oh, just not feel as good. Stop it,
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: grow up, put a rubber on, don't rape, consent. Those
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: are the three things this kid needs to.
• 43:56
  Speaker 2: Know as a as a as a you know, a girl, dad,
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: I'm like, don't do it at all, but sure, I'm
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: also a realist. I'm also a realist, and I know,
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: I know that kids at this age will have sex.
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: All let's get real for just a real quick second. Here,
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: have you had this happen to you yet? Because this
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: just happened to me a couple of weeks ago. Oh shit,
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: here we go where Charlie was throwing up nauseous. It
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: turns out it was just the stomach flu. But did
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: I think about asking my wife?
• 44:28
  Speaker 4: She she could that be?
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: Because I don't know what's happened? Is she not? What's
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: going on? Because I'm that's my concern right at this point,
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: She's it's her senior year. I don't want her to
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: I don't want that to happen. I don't want that
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: to happen to her senior year, freshman year of college.
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: I don't need, no, she doesn't need any of that
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: to happen right now.
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: Look, and you and I are both boys, And I
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: don't know how your high school was, your high school
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: experience was, but mine was definitely there was some sexual
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: activity that took place. Oh, yeah, oh yeah, Okay, you're
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: just stretching that out there.
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: Say look, for those you didn't see on the video,
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: I'm vehemently agreeing with mister dad here, and.
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: So I'm just saying that that we can only assume
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: in this day and age, especially with the Internet, that
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: that shit happens even more than it did when these
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: old white haired dudes. So I'm a realist. I know
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: that shit happens, and I tell my kids that all
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: the time, right, I say, hey, look, I know that
• 45:23
  Speaker 2: this is going to happen in some way, shape or form.
• 45:26
  Speaker 2: And as awkward as it is to hear from your
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: dad talking to a girl to say these things, this
• 45:32
  Speaker 2: is going to happen, we know it will. So don't
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: get pregnant, right, so you know, talk to mom and
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: dad about it, those kinds of things.
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: Understand it a theorically out there, like it's it's just
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: kind of all, well, somebody might get is pregnant out there.
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: We just take steps to make sure it's not you.
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying.
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that is one hundred percent, hundred percent. That's
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: the top to bottom left right. That is absolutely one great,
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: great advice for a kid, who's a Russian who's obviously,
• 45:59
  Speaker 2: you know, not in this country illegally, legally.
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: Probably we get our applause from the judges on the
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: don't and wear a condom? You're welcome fourteen year old boy.
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: You imagine that's all he gets, man, that's all he gets,
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: is that?
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: Well, I mean he's on Reddit. Maybe you should just
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: chime in there, don't rape wear a condom?
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I could very well could.
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: See what happens. What I'd love to see is what
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: the other redditors are going to say to your response
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: to that.
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: You know, that's a very good point.
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: I'm sure they're all like Kelly, Yeah, he's right, absolutely.
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: Just to find out, it might be worth while adding
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: that into there. So but that's again, feel free anytime.
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be a fourteen year old kid
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: looking for sex talk, but any parental advice. We're here
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: for you at the Dad's Home podcast. And you know,
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: if you're listening with your kids, which.
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: You should be, Wow, I know, wow, you have an
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: open type of family relationship.
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: But maybe look, if you walk away learning something and
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: they walk away learning something, here, let it be don't
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: and wear a condom?
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: After this whole episode.
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: All right, Chad, let's quickly go to the tape. Bring
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: the absurd year holds. Let's go, let's go, and let's
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: go to I can't do it. We'll do it live obviously.
• 47:15
  Speaker 2: Loaded in there.
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: We'll do it a lot.
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: We apologize, we don't have that clip from the radio station.
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: Do it live. I can all write it, and we'll
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: do it a lot. And thank you. It sucks the tape.
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: Don't lie the tape. Don't lie, mister Chad. We've got
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: tape to prove it here. Now, I'm not saying that
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: this is the only reason why you should rethink having
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: that affair. Like, let's say, Thursday is Thanksgiving, right, we
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: just had that happen. It's just Wednesday night, the biggest
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: bar night of the year for anybody and.
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: Everybody, mostly college kids. But you know that's why I go,
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: because sure those college girls like old dudes like me.
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: They love the dad bought. The ladies love the dad bod.
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: I don't even think that.
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: I have too. I don't know it's in the dirty clothes,
• 48:02
  Speaker 2: but I have that. You know. Yeah, he's loved to
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: dad boy.
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: Which I don't think has been a thing for the
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: past two years. Frankly, I gotta be honest with you.
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: I think we kind of died off two years ago.
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: But that meant I am I'm a daily eight a
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: dollar short.
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: Then this is what one woman did when she found
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: out that her husband was having an affair for the
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: better part of two years. Uh and and this is
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: how she had ter.
• 48:27
  Speaker 9: Look next year. Turn around for your fans, he had
• 48:30
  Speaker 9: a two year affair while I had his second baby.
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: Now it sounds a little weird because you're not you're
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: not watching this on the video is not an airport. No,
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: it's at a mall. It's at a shopping mall. Just
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: imagine your local favorite shopping mall, and like an old
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: school Popeye cartoons, and you're wearing the sandwich board saying
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: I had an affair for two years, asked me to
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: tell you about it, And you're walking through the mall
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: with a sandwich board. Either side of the sandwich board
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: says basically this same thing. You're there with your wife
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: and she's got the baby in the stroller as you're
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: walking through the mall, and she's not. It's not just
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: that you see the guy with a sandwich boar because
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: that's enough. She's pointing it out to everybody as you
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: walk through the mall that you had an affair. That
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: she again highlights exactly what was what she was doing
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: while you were doing this.
• 49:24
  Speaker 9: He had a two your affair, while I had his
• 49:27
  Speaker 9: second baby. We intentionally had a second baby, and he's
• 49:31
  Speaker 9: having an affair.
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: The whole time. So wow, I just want to say that,
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: you know, there was a time, Chad, in perhaps everybody's
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: younger days, where maybe if you were caught having an affair,
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: you had to apologize to that individually, get to go
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: through couple's therapy, maybe you had to apologize to friends,
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: and maybe there was a divorce process or separation. Now
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: with social media, fuck Matt, you are making a show,
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: a show going to get hits when you have a life,
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: it was like, how do I make this guy feel
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: the worst for doing this and get a ton of
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: hits and likes from it? Boom, You've got a camera
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: and like seven different outlets to do this with and
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: it will go viral as in this case. Look at
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: this guy's face once again, Look at him walk there.
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: He's going like he's going to He says, to do
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: you have to do that, and she stopped in the
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: cart claps her hands. It's like, cheata there. This guy
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: cheated for you fans. Look at his face for your fans.
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: Look at his face.
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, holy shit.
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: Now, if that face and the sandwich board doesn't make
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: you rethink having the affair, I don't know what will
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: forget the hurt that she obviously felt and the concern
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: about whether or not this relationship will have any trust
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: in it down the road, because I'm gonna guess that's
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: pretty indicative of not a lot of trust. And the
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: infant is right there watching dad.
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: Here's what I'm concerned about now that you mentioned that
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: where's the other kid with grandma?
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: Or perhaps be said by the nanny that he had
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: the affair with I don't know the old pair he
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: was fucking. I'm not sure she put an end of
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: the affair, but not to the o pair working there,
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: because it's so tough to find an a pair these days,
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: mister Chad. So just think about that when you guys
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: are thinking about that affair possibility on that drunken night
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: before U before. As we have athlete daughters, athlete children,
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: and we have seen some crazier things that have happened
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: at the ballpark when it comes to parents, when it fans,
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: when it comes to stories umpires, uh and and and
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: and some of the rules that have gone on at
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: these ballparks for travel games and the like. Here's one
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: where you see arrest event a school age wrestling event,
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: and apparently one of the parents is not happy with
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: the way not his son is wrestling or not wrestling
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: as the case maybe, but more about the referee involved.
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: You see a little wrestling going on there at the school.
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: Somebody's getting demolished by a did with long hairs. Referee
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: calling something goes over and out of nowhere, Dad comes in,
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: shoves the referee off the kids. He's yelling about something
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: that the referee didn't do. The wife is also see this.
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: You can see the wife right here. She starts yelling
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: at the referee. Also as the rest trying to get away,
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: he's kicking them out of the the gymnasium. The refs
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: are saying I'll have you arrested, which is rightfully so
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: that they have every right to say that. And that's
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: an assocuation, that's an assault on the wrestling mat. You
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: see the dad take off and run across the mat
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: to tackle world, to take down. He's a big dude.
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: The dad is to take down the referee.
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: He's definitely, he's definitely the referee in him. Are not
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: in the same weight class, No, for sure. God, well
• 53:23
  Speaker 2: I don't know that referee.
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: Maybe again, I get it. You're pissed off. I get it.
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: Your kid was getting crushed by what seemingly was a
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: littler kid with longer hair. I get that. That's a
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: girl or a girl as the case. Maybe I get you.
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: There are awesome wrestlers, by the way, I'm just saying, like, yeah.
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: They are. I've seen you crush a dude in wrestling.
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: It happens a lot. But again, stay in your fucking seat.
• 53:49
  Speaker 2: This is uh so for since we'll bring this full
• 53:53
  Speaker 2: circle here, you know, since we were talking about my
• 53:55
  Speaker 2: kid being recruited. Uh this right here, this video is
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: the one oh one on how not to get your
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: kid recruited. Yeah, the minute that everybody who your kid
• 54:06
  Speaker 2: may like, some college that may be interested in your kid,
• 54:09
  Speaker 2: sees this video and sees you, the parent, acting like this,
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: your kid's done forget it. No matter how good they are, right,
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: could be the best most world class Olympic wrestler on
• 54:21
  Speaker 2: the planet. Right, you act like this as a parent.
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: Game over, folks, and.
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: Seriously, no offense. I'll say this as you have done
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: it before. I'm a coach for softball for both of
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: my daughter's teams. I see that. What the fuck are
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: you teaching your kid now? You're so if you're pissed
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: because your kid wasn't wrestling well or was getting crushed
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: by the competition, you don't charge out and take down
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: the referee for a lack of ability on your son's part.
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: Fuck you, your kid? What are you teaching your kid now? Now?
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: Your kid go by the way, standing in the background,
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: going dad, please don't do this. Please?
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, dad, Dad, Stop.
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: That poor kid is going to have to live with
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: that now. You don't think that he gets around an
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: entire school district. Oh, that gets around a school district.
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: That's gonna be that kid's not going to wrestle again. Period.
• 55:07
  Speaker 2: No, No, I wouldn't.
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: No, I mean you can't.
• 55:12
  Speaker 2: This is yeah there and there are thousands and thousands
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: of examples of this. This is like a whole episode
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: we can talk about about parenting.
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: We will, I'm sure we will. We'll do it again.
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: But this is uh yeah, this is the kind of
• 55:26
  Speaker 2: stuff that drives me nuts. I see this at the
• 55:28
  Speaker 2: ballpark all the time.
• 55:30
  Speaker 1: If you're listening to the podcast now, you can see
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: this at a Real guy radio dot com. Also a
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: YouTube on the Dad's Home podcast. You can check it
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: out there. And lastly, chat, I think we need to
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: do more when it comes to teav do not our
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: kids about finances now, specifically I suck at finances. My
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: wife sucks at finances. It's one of those things that
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: we know about each other one hundred percent, and we
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: know that we are taking this and we're putting it
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: onto our kids as they're My senior age daughter's about
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: ready to hit freshmen in college. So I've found I'm
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: trying to find. I found that I'm interested in getting
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: my daughter into some sort of home financing class on
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: her own that she can just you know, away from school,
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: something she can do at night, whatever, some sort of
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: a class that legitimately teaches her how to handle her finances.
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: Because this little kid has fucked this up big time
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: for mom, which I think is all mom's fault. But
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: let's listen to what mom has to say here about
• 56:20
  Speaker 1: what this kid has done. You do not get to
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: max out my debit cards? Okay, and Amelia.
• 56:27
  Speaker 3: Two thousand, five hundred dollars, you literally max out my car.
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: Well, look, so she's she's maxed out mom's credit card.
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: And what this kid does? Who just rolled her eyes
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: at her mind? And how old do you think this kids?
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: Kids got to be like ten years old? Maybe eleven
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: years old?
• 56:45
  Speaker 2: Top?
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she stuns over to get to the pile of
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: stuff that's on the couch to show mom what she
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: bought with the twenty five hundred dollars at the Crocks.
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: She's gonna bust out the nikes here in a minute.
• 56:56
  Speaker 2: Those are acute, Lisa Frank cracks.
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: But seriously, you needed three pairs of shoes, Amelia dah.
• 57:04
  Speaker 2: That's right there, bus max out my damnit.
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: You shouldn't be using my card. Okay, So I agree
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: with that, mom, But why is she using your car?
• 57:15
  Speaker 2: How did she get it in the first place?
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: How's she doing that? Because I don't know about you,
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: but it looks like she's about to. I know you did,
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: I know you did.
• 57:23
  Speaker 5: American Eagle jeans, shoes, Mark Jacobs sunglasses.
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: You are seven, You should to use dude seven. First
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: of all, she looks like she's a teenager. Uh seven seven?
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: What are we doing here? Who's doing that? Who's giving
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: their kid at age seven full access? Because I'm guessing
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: and I don't know. Maybe she did order it all online,
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: but I saw shopping bags there. So if even if
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: you were like, go ahead into my Amazon, shouldn't you
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: be checking? Like, if you go ahead, put in the
• 57:55
  Speaker 1: card on Amazon, I'll check it and get it all
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: sent off. And Paige, so just let me see what
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: you've got in there and make some decisions on it.
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: I'll let you know if I think that's too much,
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: not up your alley, not the right size, whatever it
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: might be. You're just giving your seven year old free
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: fucking rain as to purchasing anything anywhere.
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: This is one of these times where I think one
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: of our sponsors could be someone like green Light, which
• 58:19
  Speaker 2: is a company that is basically a debit card for
• 58:23
  Speaker 2: your kids where you get to control how much they spend. Yes,
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: you can watch, which is what we use in our house.
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: You have control. You can shut that card down at
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: a moment's notice if you need to.
• 58:32
  Speaker 2: Or you know, you can take all the money out
• 58:34
  Speaker 2: of their accounts. So when they go to try to
• 58:36
  Speaker 2: buy one hundred and fifty dollars shoes, sorry.
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: Decline right right a debit card, but this, look at this.
• 58:44
  Speaker 9: That's why I just use it for all this stuff.
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: You should you know what, You're not gonna be able
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: to have your iPhone anymore because that that is why
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: we're in this position. You better no, I'll just break it.
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: Here's how I'm gonna get back at you, mom foring
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: out your credit card. I'm gonna take my thousand dollars
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: iPhone and break it. What are you gonna do about it? Bitch?
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: What do you got going on there? What are you
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: gonna do? Then?
• 59:10
  Speaker 10: Oh?
• 59:11
  Speaker 1: Man? Is how?
• 59:12
  Speaker 2: This is how America is gonna be great again? Right here? Folks?
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: Oh Jesus, seriously, this is I mean, how do we
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: So here's my question on this, Like I watched stuff
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: like this online and and I'm like, okay, entertaining, But.
• 59:25
  Speaker 2: How much of this is staged?
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: I know?
• 59:26
  Speaker 2: How much of this is? Like it's like I want
• 59:29
  Speaker 2: to get clicks, right, I want to get people to
• 59:31
  Speaker 2: pay attention to me, So I'm gonna pull shit like this.
• 59:33
  Speaker 2: How much of it is that? And how much of
• 59:35
  Speaker 2: this is actually really happening.
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: It's a good rible and I got the vibe initially
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: that maybe it seems a little fit, but the seven
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: year old is either that good an actress, right, or
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: it's or or or it's all real because she really
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: the reactions to it, the eye rolling, all of that
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: stuff leads me to maybe mom knew exactly what she
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: was doing by setting this up in video recording it
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: for that purpose. But Jesus, that kid sold it like
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: and made me want to punch her in the throat.
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: She is just, Oh my god, have I got.
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 2: Have I got an audition?
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: Really, you're gonna break it. You're gonna do what?
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 2: Look I am.
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: I am not at all in favor of kids getting
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: hit or any sort of spanking, but goddamn, that girl
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: needs it.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: This is could be our first entry into the twenty
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 2: twenty five Worst Parents.
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: I think right there, Look we have too because technically
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: we've got the dude who the charges, yeah, who's charging
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: after the referee and knocks a referee down, And then
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: we've got this wonderful woman. You better not. God, how
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: much do I want that little kid that's like shot the.
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 2: Damn it?
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 1: God, that's it.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 2: Damn it.
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: Well. Look that is the first welcome back edition of
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 1: this home podcast. Thank you very much for being here.
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: We appreciate it. We're gonn have more of these to come,
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: mister Chad. And and by the way, I like the
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: sponsorship I did for Greenland or anybody else. And if
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 1: you got classes that your kid took to help them
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 1: personally finance, get themselves ready and not over and charge
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 1: their cards, let us know at the Dad's Home Podcast.
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 1: Until next time.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 10: See uh, sweet pea, keep of myself. I'm know sometimes
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 10: I'm out of concho yoty. Only reason keep on coming, yo,
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 10: reason I keep all coming.
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Yo, keep coming.