Latest / Connor with Honor: AI, Real Estate and Real Life / Young Men No One’s Coming to Save You: But You Can Save Yourself
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- 0:00too much of a good thing I know I love video games I haven't played them in quite a while there's a lot of other things that I haven't done in quite a while because I make rules for myself I find I function better when I have guard rails up concerning certain things and if I started playing video games for any period of time I would probably become addicted because I have that issue as well so I try to stay away from things like marijuana for example probably become addicted even though they say there's no addictiveness to it I've heard that in studies me it's not a good fit alcohol again another addiction that I just don't need anymore and I have that for a little while food well there's another addiction and that one I still struggle with but again that's something that I don't need to have video games vaping all sorts of things again all addictions the thing is is dopamine is something that's like your scoring hormone when you get it or when you're hunting for it you're in the middle of the hunt you get a big serving of dopamine and it just continues the more harder the drug I was a cop for a long time you take a stimulant like cocaine or methamphetamine oh my god it's hard to recover from that so if you've never done that in my brain that's something I would never even want to attempt I don't care how beautiful woman was there is no way because I know for me I probably would never come back from that and that should be some kind of rule you set for yourself if you're currently struggling and you think nobody's on your side you don't know what to do you don't know the next step to take in life take heed nobody's gonna come save you nobody's gonna knock on your door and say come with me if you want to live it's not gonna happen but you can save yourself and that's the subject of today's show figure out what you want and maybe not the house or the Lamborghini or the Bugatti or whatever it is that looks like some kind of material possession that you think would really set you apart and make your life wonderful maybe think of something a little bit bigger so not just the money and not just something that has to do with being worth a lot maybe freedom is most important maybe not being addicted to things that most important maybe being able to do whatever you want when you want to do is more important but with all of those things you need to establish rules for yourself so have some rules in place sit down and write them out you gotta go through the exercise if you don't go through the exercise of writing things down working it on paper where you want your journey to end up or at least the direction you wanna go and you're stuck in a particular place without any hope of moving on from there you're gonna have to sit down and have a conversation with yourself maybe you don't think it's a problem and maybe everybody's telling you yes it's a problem you gotta change it if you have a lot of people telling you that first find out what their motivation is are they trying to hurt you are they telling you this because they want you to do damage to yourself are they jealous of you do they hate you find out in fact you're probably gonna find out that the people that are the loudest in your life telling you to upset your current trajectory probably are doing it because they really love you they care about you they might not be able to express it very well and you think that they're just hand pecking you and bothering you and just wanting to knock you off your center maybe they love you very much and I'll tell you I'm at 55 it's hard to find people that actually love you so much my parents are gone they died a long time ago you still have them you still have people around you that love you don't wait until they're gone because folks it can always get worse if you think it's bad now just continue what you're doing and it'll get even worse if in fact what you're doing is harming you in some way and going against what other people are trying to tell you on what you need to be doing or need to start to be doing now if they tell you to go do certain things I would push back to you're gonna have to figure this out on your own sooner or later how long you're gonna wait think of it this way if you had an opportunity to speak with yourself 10 years from now so you got your tenure in the future self coming to visit you so mine would be 65 what would he come and say would he come and say wow Connor I'm so glad you lost all that weight back a few years ago you dropped 135 pounds that's why it's 65 we are and this where I'm so glad you started this online thing when you started doing these videos a few years ago I'm glad you stuck with real estate because now we're this I'm glad you're eating a certain way lifting weights and now we're this this and this so thank you or is my 10 there 10 year in the future self say oh my God God you couldn't give up the pizza you couldn't give up the alcohol you couldn't give up a pot you couldn't give up the cigarettes you couldn't stop all of these things that look at us here we are in the hospital and we're gonna be here until we die but life is heavy and nobody's gonna come save you you can do it I know you can do it people have the but it becomes uncomfortable don't wait until somebody says you have to do it before they tell you that and I use that terminology when I talk about working out or going to the gym a doctor didn't have to tell me to go I figured it out before that happened but even if somebody did tell you you need to start I'm Connor with honor great guidance will see you soon you just have to figure out what it is you want now that's a lot that's heavy this wonderful ability to do things that change their lives