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DA CREW PODCAST SEASON 1_ EPISODE #104_HOST TRIVEDA HARRIS · DA CREW Podcast

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Journey podcast where I am your host, Trevida Harris, and this is episode
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number thirteen and episode one hundred and four for the Crew podcast. So again,
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welcome and thank you for tuning in tonight. And before we get started,
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you know we always have to go to God in prayer first, so
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buy your heads with me. Dear Heavenly Father, thank you once again for
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bringing us all together, keeping us safe, and providing each and everything that
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we have come to you in need of. We may often speak of what
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we want and what we desire, but you know what we need best of
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all, So continue to guide us as we share our thoughts and information tonight
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with each other. As how we have been able to find our purpose through
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the pain that we have endured, because without you, we would not even
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be able to endure anything that we go through. So we thank you and
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we honor you and your precious name Jesus, we pray. My guest tonight
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is a wonderful and amazing author, but she wears many, many hats.
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It's not just that she's an author, but her name is Miss Brandy Hunt.
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She is a Greenville native. She is a mother of a twenty three
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year old daughter. Lord, bless your heart, because I know how that
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is. I have a twenty seven year old. Oh yeah, so I
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know how that goes. She is the author of many, many books.
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Her very first one she published in twenty fourteen, and that was titled Dealing
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with the Hand that I Was dealt. Miss Brandy is also the owner of
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TAG, which stands for transform Aligned Growth Enterprises, where she coaches others on
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various topics of life. So with her mini hats, she's a mom,
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she's a publisher, she's a coach, she's a brand strategist, and she's
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a mentor. So her ultimate goal is to empower and uplift with anyone that
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she comes in contact with and helping them to reach their full potential because most
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of the time, most people don't know what their potential is until they have
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someone speak the life into them. So welcome my guests, Miss Brandy Hunt.
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Welcome, Thank you, thank you for having me. You read that
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so eloquently. Well, listen, you sent me something and I was like,
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Okay, how can I break this down and use every single point that
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she gave and just a synopsis of who you are? You know, and
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that's basically what it is. And so I needed to figure out, even
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using your bio, what we were gonna talk about tonight, because I could
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have picked so many different things to talk about, but one of the things
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that stood out to me is your adversity, having to the title of your
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book, basically was dealing with the hand that I was dealt, which meant
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that you had to go through some things in order to dig deep and find
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what your purpose was, which is basically what this our podcast is about.
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Believing in the journey of what you've been put in on this are four.
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So we're gonna talk about finding that purpose in that pain. Good good,
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I'm excited about it. What was the thing that started you on that path
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to figure out what your purpose has been? Now, if I had to
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pick something that put me on the path, I'm I'm gonna always say I
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was raised in a church family, so my mom plays the piano, my
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grandfather's a preacher. My whole family sings. I sang in all the choirs,
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you know, as we grew up. And I believe that even though
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we may not know the seeds that are being planted. I remember being a
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child and people looking at me going, you're gonna, you know, go
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out into the world. And I'm like, I'm not going out into anybody's
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world, and you're gonna change lives unless y'all go into the club with me
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on Thursday. But that's where I'm changing the lives at. And you know,
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as I continue to get older, But I do remember reading my grandfather's
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books, Jake's you know, as we were coming alone, you know,
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just reading the Bible, things like that. So when it came to purpose,
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I remember my aunt put a book in my hand called The Purpose Driven
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Life. Yes, this is on my way to the club. I remember
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it very clearly. She was like, you know what, I'm ana pray
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for you. I said, what, I'm not doing that wrong, untie.
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I'm just going out here with the people. They loved me. I
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love them, so what is the problem. But I was always an avid
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reader, Like I said, I was always reading my grandfather's books. I
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was always I always like information. Even as a kid, I stuck my
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thumb and you know I was kidching. So but for punishment instead of you
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know, getting whoopings and stuff. My brothers should start still upset about this
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whole thing, but I didn't get earlier. My Daddy would tell me to
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read a book or read the encyclopedia, and then I would have to come
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back and tell them what I learned. So when it came now doing what
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I do in life, going back to those moments, I'm like, God,
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you this was a setup. Yep, entire set up. Because when
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I was singing on the choir, they would give me solos and I would
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cry. And so I always tell people, if God can use me,
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he can use anybody. Because I refused to sing if I had to have
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a mic in my hand, and I fell public speaking in college because I
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would not stand in front of a bunch of people. So that's the short
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version of what put me on the path was. I think it was a
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set up the entire time. And as the Bible tells us, the seeds
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that we put in our children will not return to us void, right,
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God says about us? What what I sent the word to do it,
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will do now. We might fight against it, yes, but I do
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believe that what set me on the path a long time ago was set there
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without my permission, and I collided with pain and we had a baby,
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and this is permission. We are now. And that's usually what happens,
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because when you get older, you start to look back over those things that
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you did as children and you like, okay, well that's connects to this,
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and this connects to that. Okay, well, that's not the whole
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intention of what I figured this was gonna lead to. But I understand that
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because I never like I took public speaking in college, and my thing was
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I didn't like to get up and speak. For number one, I don't
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like public speaking. Number two, the podium was always taller than me,
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so I would always have to stand out away from that, so I had
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nothing to hide me. And I'm like, if I can be hidden behind
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this, then it doesn't I don't have to worry about people staring at me
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completely because I'm hidden, but they can hear me because I had a big
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mouth, so you gonna hear me no matter where I'm standing. I just
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don't want you to look at me when I'm saying it. So I was
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a cheerleader. I was always boisterous and fun and outgoing. And I've been
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that since I was a kid, and I even beg for the solo,
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I even practice. It was something would freeze me as soon as I stood
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up there. And of course it was always unidentified as to what that feeling
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is, but we all have it. And God would take me two different
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scriptures where the prophets went through the same thing. Moses and his brother had
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a whole argument, send him, no, send him, send him.
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He's a betaker than I am. And and God's like, no, I'm
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gonna send you. I just need you to open your mouth and I'll feel
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it. And I remember God saying that to me because I was like,
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God, keep people keep asking me to come and speak. I'm not a
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speaker. I'm not a preacher. Do what I have the word down on
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the inside of me. Hollelujah. My mama was a player. Again.
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I always tell people I had the word before the word. I mean,
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just way back when music is my thing, but singing wasn't my whole fam
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They do concerts and all of this stuff, and I'd be like yeah,
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I'm power my thing. And so when speaking came along, I was like,
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this is a setup. Like God, you know that I already said,
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I'm an actress probably like so the stage was never a fear for me
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until I got that mike in my hand. And then I found out that
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like ninety five percent of people, their number one fear is public speaking.
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So God took me through a process of going to toast masters and you know
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things like that where I could face my fear. So a lot of people
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talk, you know, how how do pain and purpose go together? Well,
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if if you have pain behind ending up in front of crowds or whatever
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the case may be. Like, I was never daunted as a kid or
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nothing like that when it came to it, So it wasn't a fear of
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people that had done something to me. Maybe like I said, I was,
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I was always the shortest, smallest, everything. And so then we
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also have the comparison. I knew I didn't sing as good as some of
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the other people. So I think that same mentality follows us through adults.
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Uh, And so God used my pain to propel me into my purpose.
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But I had to do the walking. I had to do the saying yes,
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even though I might say the greatest at that time. God will always
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promise me one day you're gonna be called the greatest, you know one,
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and I'm gonna and and God doesn't even use the greatest that they think they're
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the greatest. God say I'll take the least and make the greatest, because
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He doesn't even want us to believe that we're just you know, all high
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and mighty, because then you can't speak to us. We're speaking our own
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words. So I do believe that that that nudging we have in us that
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we have to depend on God. There's been times that people like, can
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you say something at the end of whatever? And I'm like, I ain't
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practice, but you know, now that I'm down the line a little bit,
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I know how to get my nerves together quick. I know how to
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come up with a quick speech. You know, there's things and techniques behind
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it, but anxiety itself. Some people cannot get past that, or or
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or don't attempt to. You even mentioned you know, behind the scenes,
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you know you're shot and you're out here doing a whole podcast. That's why
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I would I would, I would be likely to say that any anytime you
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say, you know, we have our nature and we have how we're hard
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wired, and then we have what we believe and know to be our calling
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and anointing and purpose and assignment. And I do believe that the two fight
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against each other because my my heart wired nature is like, yeah, I
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really don't like people. Know your people can kind of be a little testy,
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and then guys like yeah, and then he calls you to minister to
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people. So a lot of times when when I hear people say, you
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know, God used my pain and a thrust me into my purpose, but
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they're still standing still if because I'm like, because just because you moved to
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your graphical locations doesn't mean you're past it. Just because you're not still living
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there or working there or dealing with that person doesn't mean that that angst and
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anger and anguish didn't come with you, which is what and I was dealt.
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It talks about going back to the past and dealing with it back there
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and see how many decisions you're still making based on past experiences, and then
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make a new decision totally opposite. How do you feel, Because I feel
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like doing a lot of stuff that I shouldn't do. I feel like dating
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people who God might be like no, and I'm like goo, God,
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he's this that the third and God is like yeah, but I know something
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about him that you don't know. I'm out of there. And so if
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you know, like for me, faith is I can't do this without God.
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I can't do it without praying first. And I was doing that at
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an early age. My daughter is twenty two. I'm only twenty nine,
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and so I had had an early age. And so my daughter's twenty two,
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I'm forty two. So I've been praying since the day she was born.
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You know, God, please help me to be an example. But
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life is still life. Like we talked about, you know, yeah,
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you're not going to be perfect, but God don't want perfect. He just
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wants obedience and exactly the mark, and you are gonna get it wrong.
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But I believe a lot of our pain is attached to what we believe should
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be happening, and rest in our disappointment of yes, not happening. Now
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that's outside of any kind of abuse, physical abuse and things. So once
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I've dealt with all of the those things that happened, we still have life
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going on, and people start getting stuck in their every every challenge and test
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that comes along. They're like, get out on the floor, like I
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want life to end, and I'm thinking you get just gotta get through and
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get up and keep going. Pain is temporary and if you give end to
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that pain, endure it until you get to the next next part. Like
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when you go to the gym, you work out, you're sore for just
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a little while, but after you continue continually do it, you're not as
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sore anymore. Now you realize you got some muscles you didn't have that you
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didn't think you had your store in new places. But that comes with growth,
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and that comes with strengthening those weak muscles, and that's what life is.
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You know. You go through those situations and you go through that pain,
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and once you're able to endure that, it's like, oh okay,
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that was not as pleasant as I wanted it to be, but it was
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necessary. And so once you get through that, it's like, oh okay,
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Lord, what's next. Like I did a little thing where we were
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coming into twenty twenty three and I have been through so much last year and
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I have just basically made a little video and I was like, Lord,
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look here, I'm just asking a question. I'm coming to you, and
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I know I shouldn't be minding my business, but I just want to know
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if this year I'm gonna be on the long list or the short list of
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what is to come, because my troubles seemed to outweigh what I feel it
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I'm capable of dealing with. So am I gonna be on the long list
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or the short list? Because I prefer to be on the short list of
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troubles this year? To fits my height, it fits my statue. But
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you know, I know I need to go on and mind my business,
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so I'm gonna go back. But I just thought I might ask that question.
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So I did that little video basically asking that because I'm like, Lord,
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we endure so much, and we pray about whatever it is that we
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see our for ourselves, but we never ever intend to go down in the
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valley. We never intend to be up on the mountaintop. We just want
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to see the destination in which we prayed for. But He doesn't give us
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just exactly what we prayed for, because we gotta show that we're worthy of
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what we prayed for. So I feel like that's why he takes us through
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those things. And brings us through painful situations so that we learn to appreciate
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the sunshine and the rain, because you gotta have both in order to move
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forward, right absolutely, And there's a scripture that says, endure hardship like
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a good soldier. I believe it's what that says. And was a soldier.
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And so sometimes you know, when I look at scriptures like that where
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it says, you know, fight the good fight of faith, and you
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know, I'm thinking, that's not how they taught it to us. It's
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not there, you know, where it's like an invisible battle. But the
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battle is really not invisible. It's people. It's people at work, it's
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people at your house in it, and you and and and the person in
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you. And what I've learned over the years is that sometimes the trouble don't
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stop. Nope, and and and sometimes it gets even faster than it was.
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And you're like and the same like you, I said, can you
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take me off the strongest soldiers soldiers list God? Because yeah, this year
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was really not you know, it's not what it's not given what it was
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supposed to give. Young people would say, you know, God reminded me
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to endure heartship like a good soldier. And what that means is, you
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know, and basic training and things like that. They're training you for war.
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Yes, feels like the war, but that didn't even the war.
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And what I understand is that he's he every time we have an attack or
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a counter attack of the attack, he's building our endurance or something that we
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can't even see. I wouldn't be able to be who I am without the
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things that I've gone through, without having extended my patience. My patience was
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very short, and depending on it, it's like a Wednesday, it might
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be short again. But I've learned to have extended patience with people where my
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cues was really short, or I've learned how to change my dialogue, my
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dialogue when it came to talking to people, because I was really sharp and
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that was something that being God had to deal with. So I believe that
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just me saying me saying yes to the book. I don't know if it's
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time to talk about that yet. It's that hill, yeah, and I
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got to write the book. I was not an author then, not want
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to be all there was not on my list of things to do. If
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anybody knows me, I wanted to be a Dallas cow girl, and I
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wanted to be a military police. Other than that, I was gonna be
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an actress and I was gonna write movies and plays, which I was doing.
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I was writing movies and plays and I was acting, and that was
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good for me. Like I was like, yeah, I was working at
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a bank and I was just having you know, I was doing what I
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believed my purpose was. On the weekends, I had a dream that I
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was in a library that was tons of books in it, like a Library
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of Congress, and I was like, oh, I must have like a
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really big house. And I audibly said, whose books are these? And
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I heard a voice say they're yours? And I was like, oh,
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I do have a big house. And then I woke up and I asked
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again. I was like, whose books, Like, whose books were those?
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And I heard the Holy Spirit say they're yours? You wrote them?
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Say what? Now? Not? Really? Yeah no, because remember my
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patience was short, So anybody that's written a book understands that that means I'm
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gonna have to sit down. I wasn't necessarily clubbing anymore, but I was
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doing a little few cocktails over the weekend. You know, going to and
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fro, I was acting. I was going out of town. So you
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telling me to write a book literally says sit down and focus on something.
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And my focus meter was about this loan Manaia. My daughter at the time,
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she might have been twelve. Yeah that was because it came out in
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twenty fourteen, so she was thirteen. So my daughter's thirteen start. God,
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I don't have time for this, so I wrote it down. I
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wrote the whole dream down because I was like, well, that was really
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like, have you if you have vivid dreams, I do write them down
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Because at this point I was like thirty, so God had been speaking to
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me where I could understand. I'm saying he might have spoke to me as
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a kid, but I don't remember from that. But I tween five ish
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after my aunt gave me that book and started to I was always in church,
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but Church wasn't always in me. Yeah, so the principles of God
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were not always in me. And so as I got older and it started
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to try to really figure out how to stop making so many hiccups in life,
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I wrote it down and I had I was a dancer to not that
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kind of dancer for y'all listening. I was a praise dancer because I'm like,
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you put the club and dancing together. I had, yeah, go
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ahead, that disclaimer put it on. So I was a crazy dancer.
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And then there was a conference going on downtown in Greenville, and I went
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to the dance conference. And at the dance conference, a lady was sharing
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her testimony from her book and and and I said, well, you know,
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I'm inside. I'm like, I'm gonna ask the lady can she maybe
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possibly help me. I have an aunt that has written like six or seven
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books. But I was like, now, I don't want to bother her.
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You know, she's already made it. So I little me on a
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totem pole bothering her. And so I said, I'm gonna walk up to
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this lighty Well before I could even finish, she said, stop by my
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table. I'm doing a class. I'm doing a workshop on how to write
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a book. And I it was a no brain. I mean to me,
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it was that was a no brain. I was like, okay,
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God, if I'm gonna do it, I need help. And so I
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took her class. And I started out with a book called Lord, Please
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Help my Husband and used me to do it. So I was married at
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the time, and it was a book about prayer. So it was like
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a twitter I play on words, Lord, please help my husband. But
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it was just like a cry from a wife's heart, so help her husband.
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But it was it was a book on prayer. And he squashed it
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two months into me writing me and I was like at another conference and lady
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looked at me and she said, God said do what he told you to
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do the first time. And I was like, Yeah, of all the
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prophecies I've ever gotten, that was the best. And the other thing she
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said was he said clean out your closet. Yeah that was good, no,
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ma'am. So I went but I wrote it. Now y'all try with
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me. So if you're with me, you're like, man, that's how
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I feel when I talked yes, because I said, well, I'm gonna
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write it down cause I don't want to be the rebellious child of all of
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us. And so I wrote it down. When I got home, I
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was like, what are you trying to say. I was in Fayetteville,
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North Carolina when I got the prophecy, and that's where we were raised.
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So we're writing this story together. So the whole time I was there,
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I was crying. I don't even know why I was crying. It was
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no emotional things. But we're on the bus and I'm looking at the city
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and all of a sudden, like tears started coming out of my eyes.
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I'm like, why am I crying? And so I I my my father
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passed away in in two thousand, no, two thousand, in nineteen ninety
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So this is what the book is about. Anybody that it's like, what
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is the book about? This is what it's about. I lost my father.
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How how I lost him? You'll find out. I won't tell you
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on this show. But I lost him in nineteen ninety three. And so
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we're back in and this is the first time I've been back to Fayetteville in
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twenty something years. Okay, So we're riding through and my mom's picking out
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different places that we had been. I was like, oh, yeah,
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I remember that. I was twelve when we got back here, but I
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remember, and all of a sudden, how all these tears come in my
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eyes. So this lady don't know me from Adam tells me that I get
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home and God starts putting the pieces together for me. He's like, you
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never you never dealt with your father's death. And I was like, yeah,
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I have, Like I understand he passed away. I was a kid
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when it happen. He's like, no, I wouldn't even go to the
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grade yard. Okay, so he made me go. I say, he
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made me. He led me to the great yard and I and he reminded
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me that I said these words, you might as well bury me with my
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father. I forgot that. I said that I was twelve, and I
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remember I watched them lower his body into the ground because I was just stunned.
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Like I'm a kid, I had never dealt with death or anything.
27:25
It seemed like we were you know, life was good for me from a
27:27
kid's perspective. Good grades. My sister and brother, they was all right.
27:32
I was on my middle child. So you'll see my nose go up
27:34
when I talk about my sister and brother. But I love him. So
27:38
here I am like, okay, so what book do you want me to
27:42
write? Okay? I get it, like I haven't really dealt with my
27:45
father's dying. And he said everyone that you date reminds you of your father.
27:52
And I was like pause, now, now we gotta go back two
27:57
years. I ended up in a domestic violence shelter. You have to read
28:03
the whole book to find out how I ended up there by amestic violence shelter.
28:07
And when I got there, the lady asked me, where is your
28:11
father? And I said, my father did? What does my father have
28:15
to do with this man putting his hands on me? And she said most
28:19
women are a lot of women, not most, but a lot of women
28:22
that come through are dealing with not having a father in their lives. So
28:26
my guess was either he was dead or passed away. And she said,
28:30
can you also describe to me your last four relationships, because commonly your date
28:40
on the level of what your father was or what he promised. So because
28:45
I was only twelve and he left, I would imagine that provider. You
28:48
know, he was tall. I ain't always dated it tall, but I'll
28:52
never leave you. Well, because he left, somebody promised to never leave
28:59
me then and we was we was in there like four flags. It don't
29:02
matter what you needed me to do. What you need. Money you need
29:06
cause you need clothes. But it's a hard child with you when you don't
29:08
realize it, because you're just doing things to not feel the pain of their
29:15
pass right now. I hadn't been in psychologist school and none of that.
29:19
I hadn't none, none of And so they had been two years since I
29:23
had talked to that lady, and God reminded me that I was still there.
29:29
I had not put the tip, and so I'm digging through my closet
29:33
while I'm trying to get these revelations from this lady hearing God, and I
29:38
still didn't have a book title. I just knew he was saying, you
29:42
need to deal with deal with that. And he kept saying the word deal
29:48
And I found a picture of ex of mine. I'm not this is before
29:53
phone, so don't judge me for having an actual picture. So I found
29:59
the in my closet and I was like, I don't want to deal with
30:03
this, like it is a stuff everywhere and all the Spirit dropped it in
30:07
my my spirit dealing with the hand I was dealt. And he had given
30:11
me the title years before that, like ten years before, and I thought
30:17
it was gonna be a movie or a play, which it could be,
30:19
but that's what I thought it was gonna be. And I, you know,
30:22
I wrote it down and went on with life and so now you want
30:25
me to write Dealing with the hand I was dealt. I don't even know
30:27
how I dealt with it. I didn't get going, and so I ended
30:32
up writing the book based off of going back to how I felt at those
30:38
moments and making decisions differently. So what does that look like? I went
30:44
to the graveyard and where I said, you might as well put me in
30:48
the ground. God had me say stuff like, although my father passed away,
30:52
I still have life, and God you said that we have life and
30:56
life more abundantly. I had to go back and look at the character of
31:00
men that I was dating, which was very low on the totem pole,
31:04
just so I could say I had what they say, a piece of a
31:07
man is better than old man, and was having these pieces of men just
31:12
to have a little bit of peace that really wasn't peace, because it's still
31:15
times at the end, at the end of the day, with the hand
31:19
that was deal goes through every really you know, emotion, when it comes
31:25
to break ups, rate, molestation, you name it. I go through
31:30
every situation that I had gone through and how it made me feel and what
31:37
the fear that it left because happens this pain leaves residue behind and al those
31:44
things are gone. You're terrified to go in public, or you don't want
31:48
to make somebody new because you're fearful they're gonna hurt you. Ye won't want
31:52
to try a new career because your old career was the greatest in God's life.
31:56
But I got something new for you. These repet the cycles simply because
32:01
what was old is familiar. Whether it's good or not, it makes me
32:07
feel good in the moment, and then I'm like, well, why has
32:12
my life changed or why am I moving forward? And you literally need to
32:16
get your decisions. Are you still making decisions based on your past experiences for
32:22
the fear of the future? Right, it's the fear of the future.
32:25
Let's go ahead and just cross that line. Is it gonna hurt? Yes?
32:30
I heard Joyce Maya say when she first started working out, her trainer
32:35
told her it's gonna hurt for the next year. Just expected because what we
32:39
do, because we're so we're not even microwave generation anymore. We're in for
32:45
our generation after in two seconds, and so because of our psychological conditioning,
32:54
we think God is like that, Hey, God, can you send me
32:58
a man on Monday, and if he's not here on Tuesday, I'll just
33:01
go find me one online and yeahs again unless he told you to go there.
33:08
And I believe that God will give you unctioning when it's time. But
33:13
if we just get tired of waiting, and I think this is why a
33:15
lot of scriptures talk about weight on God, don't be so hasty. But
33:20
again, i'm we we and our authorities. As if you're like thirty something
33:23
like, well, I'm gonna live my life. Please do I want you
33:28
to? I live my life? And people are like, you had a
33:30
great life. Yes, it was great. It was hard, but it
33:32
was great. And if it has it's stop being hard just because it's great.
33:37
I've just learned that life is a railroad track. It's there's gonna be
33:40
good, there's gonna be these things too bad to be bad. But I
33:45
do believe that we have to refrain and revise our stories as we go alone.
33:51
For the stories we tell ourselves. Yes, it does it it hurts,
33:54
but it doesn't hurt to the point of quitting. It hurts, but
33:59
it's just a challenge. E It's I told my daughter for something that I
34:01
was going through that this is the easiest hard that I've ever had to do.
34:07
Although it looks hard to the outside world, it's not. At the
34:12
storage. I just told you that was hard. A domestic violence shelter was
34:16
some strangers and I'm like, God that I have to go this way.
34:20
He said, yes, because there's something that I need to do in you.
34:22
It was in a domestic violence shelter where God gave me my women's ministry.
34:27
It was in a domestic violent shelter where I prayed for women that I
34:30
didn't even know that wanted to get saved because they said. One girl said,
34:35
can you tell me about your God? Because I see that. She
34:37
said, you don't look like we do. And I was like, yes
34:39
I do. I'm yes, I look just like y'all. And it reminded
34:44
me of the scripture that says when they see you, they'll ask you who
34:49
is your God because they can see the light coming off of you. Now
34:52
I'm going I'm getting on the bus just like they are. I'm walking the
34:55
street to go, you know, to the grocery store just like that.
34:58
I'm wearing clothes from the thrift store with the gifted money they are, And
35:04
I'm like, what is it that they see and God said, they see
35:07
me they And I asked her, I said, what do you see?
35:09
And she said, you act like you have a tomorrow. And I said,
35:15
I do because God promised me one He said it if I standfast in
35:21
my faith, that it's not gonna last long. It wasn't prison necessary.
35:24
I mean it felt like prison sometimes, But in sixty days, I didn't
35:29
know where I was gonna go next, but I knew I was out of
35:31
the trauma that God promised me he would be out of, and that he
35:36
was gonna set my feet in a spacious place. And that's in Isaiah and
35:39
it says I will set your feet on a spacious place. Now you're reading
35:44
that from a room that's about two by four and a spacious You're gonna get
35:50
me a spacious place. And so I believe that if we really leaned into
35:53
what the word says for what it says, and not oh that's that was
35:58
written for them people back in the day. No, exactly what part of
36:06
this do you want me to use so that people can see that. I
36:09
believe there's a tomorrow because we tolerate today on our way till tomorrow. It's
36:15
tomorrow promise absolutely not. However, if I prepare myself for tomorrow, I
36:21
don't have to have anxiety about today. I know he holds my hand.
36:24
I know I've cried a whole river and still have it go off exactly.
36:30
This part of life go ahead exactly. I mean, that's just what we've
36:37
gone through in life. Like I know for myself, my childhood was not
36:44
not the greatest, and I just recently lost my mom in June and I
36:49
wrote Overcoming Childhood Trauma. My journey to healing was one of the things that
36:57
it took me back and being able to look at and connect with all of
37:02
the things that I was still currently doing that I was able to start breaking
37:07
those cycles. I was even able to apologize to my own children for the
37:12
things that I had learned throughout that time. And so that's why I definitely
37:19
believe that God will show you visions like I never envisioned myself, you know,
37:24
writing a book at all. That was not something I ever thought about
37:29
doing. But he showed me that vision. He showed me a vision of
37:31
me speaking in front of people, and I was like, God, I
37:34
think that message went to somebody else that's not supposed to be for me and
37:38
look at what I do now. And so that's why it's like I get
37:45
every single thing that you're saying, because when God is speaking to you,
37:51
he is really and truly speaking to you. And if you silence your mind
37:55
and not become the victim of your circumstances, You're gunna be victorious because of
38:01
it, because He's put everything into you that he needs for you to be
38:07
who he's created you to be, who's everything that he wants you to see,
38:13
fulfill have, and everything and the lives of the people that you are
38:17
intended to touch. He brings those people to you. Right, You're just
38:22
gonna be open to receiving what He's He's putting out there for you. You
38:28
do and and one of the things that I try to drive home to people
38:31
is it's gonna make you uncomfortable. Yes. I think there's an old saying
38:37
that says, I, if your dreams don't scare you, they're not big
38:40
enough. Exactly. It don't even have to be big. It could just
38:44
be something you don't want to do. The people send you on a wild
38:50
goose chase and you're like, do I have to do this? And he's
38:52
like, yes, because we only we we do because we're off theres will
38:58
use this analogy. We judge books from the first page, and when we
39:01
start going through something, we're like, oh, this is horrible. Oh
39:06
I'm never gonna make it out and you ain't been in it for two hours.
39:08
And I talk about that in the book. I talk about how well
39:12
you know if you're playing cards and you have a group of people you're playing
39:15
with, you'll hear people say like, this is a bad hand. This
39:20
ain't got no good cards. You ain't even played the cards yet. You're
39:24
taking an assumption off of the last hands you played. And God, let
39:30
me let me tell you what to do with the cards, because I'm the
39:34
one that gave them to you. And I think what happens is we look
39:38
at I look at what Trevida got a podcast and I don't, and I
39:43
should have one because I'm better than her, or I'll just qualified as her.
39:46
And God is like, this is not your own show, this is
39:49
my show. And I called her for such a time as this, And
39:53
yes, Jeremiah twenty nine to eleven, he has performed us in our mother's
39:58
womb, so he knows our ups, our downs are less our rights.
40:00
I think the main problem is social media and life itself. So even before
40:06
social media got here, we still have and stuff like that. But now
40:08
I'm seeing your face, opportunity to start in your face, and you really
40:13
got to ask God, is this opportunity for me? Or is this to
40:15
take her away from my purpose? Because if it's gonna it can look good,
40:20
it tastes good, it smell good, it can do everything you wanted
40:23
to do, have all the bells and whistles, and God be like wasting
40:29
your time because it was great my path for you. But because he's a
40:34
great God, He's like, I knew you was gonna do it. Did
40:37
you get the lesson? Or do you want to go back around? And
40:42
I remember him asking me, do you want to go back around this again?
40:45
I'm like, no, let me make a different decision, whatever decision
40:49
it is that you need me to make. Let me go down the scale
40:52
of decisions that I've already made regarding this, and let me make another one.
40:55
Because the children of Israel did not have to go around that now mountain
41:00
for forty years that was supposed to be an eleven day trip, and because
41:05
of their disobedience to their leader. They didn't want to listen to Moses.
41:08
They write, they complained while they were out of Egypt, they were not
41:13
yet into the promised land. And that's what happens to us. God some
41:16
promise, and when it's not here on Wednesday, when he told us on
41:21
Monday, were like, I knew you weren't coming through. Ye make it
41:25
happen myself. And God's like, you really just get in the way all
41:28
the time, and so circling the same mountain, and that's why we date
41:34
the same people or we have the same experiences and they look similar because God's
41:38
really try to say, are you really for a new level? Are you
41:43
ready to you keep we screaming in church all the time read for a new
41:47
level. I'm going to a new level. In a new level coming we'd
41:52
be like, well, wait a minute, this is a little harder than
41:53
I thought it was gonna be. But it says he can said there's an
42:00
open door before me. It's in Revelations says there's an open door before me,
42:05
and and in front of it there are many adversaries, or inside of
42:08
it, there are many adversaries. When as you go through the door,
42:12
the attacks are coming that's what it. Don't you know. They don't throw
42:15
me for a loop the way they used to. So that parence that we
42:19
build over time when we keep going through these different things, is God's way
42:23
of saying, there's there's really a bigger enemy because you have a favorite,
42:30
but let me give you some small stuff. Yep, I'm saying, how
42:32
bad do you want it? Is a thing that I always say, God
42:37
is gonna when you ask him to bless you with something, He's gonna take
42:40
you through those things just to see how bad you really want it. But
42:45
I also believe that God, he accounts for our mistakes, He accounts for
42:51
our stupidity, so to speak, and so he knows that we're gonna go
42:55
out trying to do it all by ourselves. And He's just like, Okay,
43:00
I knew you was gonna get burnt, but you know, I let
43:02
you go on over there because you thought you was ground, so I let
43:06
you be ground, but not here you came. So let's do it the
43:07
way that I told you to do it right. And I know it's part
43:12
of the humility process when it comes to God, because there's only so much
43:15
you can tell me. You can tell me about humility or when I walk
43:20
through it and I've experienced it and I felt it, and I've been the
43:23
one that had to lay in the floor and cry, and I've been the
43:27
one that had to come back and be like God, I'm sorry. I
43:30
do believe it creates a deeper passion and respect for God because we really believe,
43:37
and like if God was sitting next to us, we wouldn't do half
43:40
the stuff that we do. But it's God is sovereign and he is merciful
43:45
that we go. Well, just maybe your hand because he didn't do nothing
43:52
last time. But let me tell you something about grace. It does run
43:55
out. It does grace runs out. You will feel his wrap, but
44:01
will feel his love. So that's what I love about God, because that
44:06
people not like that. People might only give me their rap. And what
44:08
I love about God is that he know he's sending you into the fire,
44:13
just like on the cross. He knew Jesus was going to be crucified.
44:16
He knew it was going to be painful, but he also knew there was
44:20
gonna be a resurrection. So although I can imagine that was painful all by
44:25
itself, to watch your son who you sent, but you knew my love
44:30
is going to come for him to endure, dure, and that's all I
44:36
That's what I remind myself not to quit when things get hard or they get
44:40
where they're unexplainable. You know, people leaving this world left them right,
44:46
and you're like, Okay, God, how do I deal with the grief
44:50
and keep going? Because it to me, it was like a day where
44:53
you could just sit back and you could heal and you can go through things.
44:57
But then when God put you on platforms like the ones we have,
45:01
your grief goes along with your work, which allows that reminds me of me
45:06
and Mayah. Me and Maya had to build and pray at the same time.
45:08
And so I think we have seasons where where we're like who wrote salm
45:14
David? David wrote Psalms from prison. You know, jo Pick, there
45:19
was times that God will stick you in a room. You ain't got nothing
45:22
going on, It's just you and him, Yeah, praise and worship every
45:24
day. And then there's times that He says heal and move yeah at the
45:30
same time. And I believe that both of them are true. And you
45:34
just have to figure out where where you are in the process, because if
45:37
God wants you to keep going and feel the pain as you go along,
45:43
it's not being fake. It's literally saying, one, I believe that God
45:47
is healing my heart, but I also know I have work to do,
45:52
and if I don't heal, I won't be able to shine a light.
45:54
And when i'm when I know I'm in a grieving season. But yet I'll
46:00
put me on the platform to speak to the masses. That's still part of
46:04
your healing. Your healing is being able to declare the word of the Lord
46:08
over your situation and circumstances, but beyond your pain. That's the blessing.
46:15
Because some people can't do that. They're like they unravel and then they go
46:20
hide for four or five days, and then we see it again. They
46:22
were like, oh, I was crying the river. I'm better now,
46:24
and you're like, you lost four days of your life, right, something
46:30
that we don't have any control over exact And so I've just learned to cry
46:36
and drive at the same time. Hallelujah. I've learned how to process it
46:43
fully, not just like pretend like it's not there, but I actually allow
46:47
myself to feel the pain. I allow myself to the anxiety that comes.
46:52
I've learned how to breathe through it. I'm taking myself. I go to
46:55
many, many, many classes, not just conferences, but like act with
47:00
technique, classes that talk about how to overcome you know, anxiety and fear
47:05
and things like that, you know, physical therapy, massage therapy. So
47:09
I believe that, like the new wave we're on about self care, God
47:15
always had me on it. I just didn't know that's what it was called.
47:19
But I believe that self care is part of our healing process because we
47:22
went through things that people told us we didn't matter. You don't matter,
47:28
you God don't matter. Nothing you do matters or say matters. You're ugly,
47:31
you're fat. You know, we got all of these stigmas on top
47:35
of us. Well, who's gonna speak kindly to you? Exactly if you're
47:38
not doing it yourself, if you're not doing it yourself, and if if
47:43
you are doing it yourself, when their words come, you have a pack,
47:46
yeah, because the words I already know what to say, and you
47:50
already knew how to block that out. And that's one of the things that
47:53
I can say for me right now, Like I said, I just lost
47:57
my mom in June and to continue on with this and like we had her
48:05
service on June twenty first, I have my show the very next night,
48:12
and it was a tough thing to do. However, I managed to pull
48:16
myself together to still show up for myself in the midst of all of that,
48:21
because number one, my mama loved my podcast. That was something that
48:24
she got to see, mate you, and so it was like, Okay,
48:29
either I can sit here and cry and now, mind you, I
48:30
did cry a little bit through it. However, I was able to get
48:35
through it. And I believe that God put me in this position and in
48:40
this space to be able to show people that regardless of all of the hardships
48:46
that I've been through, and I have people tell me, well, you
48:50
don't look like you've had a stroke, you don't look like you've lost your
48:52
speech, you don't look like any of that, and it's it's simply because
48:58
God has been involved in every aspect of it. And I'm grateful that I
49:05
don't look like But I give the credit to him because it's no credit to
49:07
me. Yes, I did the work, but he got it my steps,
49:13
He got it everything that I needed to do. Now we could go
49:15
on and talk about this all night. However, we're coming up on our
49:20
eye, but our wife like, it doesn't even seem like it, because
49:27
the conversation is what it is. And it's so great to be in spaces
49:34
like this where you lose track of time and you are so inspirational, so
49:39
empowering, and I enjoy talking to you, you know, And it's just
49:45
the wonderfulness of who you are and what you bring to other people and being
49:51
able to encourage anybody that comes across your path. And if you've met this
49:55
young lady in person, you know what I mean. Because us that's just
50:00
her genuine nature and her spirit and you can see that and you can feel
50:05
that just through this screen. You can hear this through the audio. So
50:09
just know that we'll continue our conversation and you'll be back on the show again.
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Thank you so much. It is author Brandy Hunt on all channels except for
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go and help save the rest of the world with me, I will be
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more than happy to talk with you about that as well. Okay, And
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now I definitely need to do that because that has been something God has been
51:23
talking to me about for like the last few months. And I'm like,
51:27
gout, uh, I don't. I got a lot of stuff on my
51:30
plate, and He's like, if you don't portion it out, like read
51:34
it out like I told you too, you got enough from on their plate
51:37
to put that on there too, so you're not full yet. I got
51:39
more for you. So as I end all of my shows, this is
51:45
the one thing that I say, and that is Minjo business and stay out
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51:52
what He's called you to do. So I thank you for being here.
51:59
And on August twenty fourth, my next guest listen Coach Vita is possibly in
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the works. You know, I'll be obedient to what God tells me to
52:10
do. Sometimes I'm a little stubborn and hard headed. I like to drag
52:14
my feet, but He don't really care about me dragging my feet as long
52:17
as I get to the destination of what He's called me for. So you
52:22
know it shall be because it is written because he said. So. That
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is our show for tonight on August twenty fourth. My guests will be Thomas
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