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5 Life Lessons I'd Teach My Younger Self · Two Broke Chicks

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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gaddigal Land Always was, always
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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. Hi Jicks, I'm Out and I'm
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Speaker 1: Out and the two break Chicks to show that shares
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Speaker 1: life lessons and tips to make you rich in life
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Speaker 1: and welcome back to another cheeky little EP. We had
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Speaker 1: a little time off last week, a little bit of
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Speaker 1: a pause, but we're back. Also, fun fact, if we're
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Speaker 1: ever giggling during the intro, it's because we've said something
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Speaker 1: stupid immediately before we introed it and it got cut.
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Speaker 1: That's a that's bts fo yeah bt s. Today we're
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Speaker 1: like a wholesome, cutesy little wounts and episode because we
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Speaker 1: have been inspired by the things I would tell my
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Speaker 1: younger self in a coffee shop when I met her.
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Speaker 1: You know, it was like I met my fifteen year
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Speaker 1: old self for a coffee and she was five minutes
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Speaker 1: early and I was ten minutes late and all that stuff.
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Speaker 1: The most relatable one I've seen is I was meeting
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Speaker 1: my younger self for a coffee today. She texted me
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Speaker 1: asking if we could cancel. I was relieved. I was like,
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Speaker 1: that is sue.
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Speaker 2: Me honestly, Sam, Yeah, did you know that that trend
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Speaker 2: was actually inspired by a poem yes, that was written
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Speaker 2: by Jeanne Cecilia in her book Deep in My Fields,
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Speaker 2: which I always think is really interesting. When these trends
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Speaker 2: take off, you don't really know where they began. But
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Speaker 2: I thought we do a little shout out to the og.
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Speaker 1: I love Grato because I did see a piece of
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Speaker 1: content from her where she said she obviously loved seeing
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Speaker 1: so many people, you know, taking her palm and making
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Speaker 1: it their own, but she had to admit she was
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Speaker 1: a little bit sad that, you know, her work wasn't credited,
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Speaker 1: So good jobs out. Okay, my obsession of the week
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Speaker 1: is actually the Paulish Choice Pro Collagen peptid pumping moist
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Speaker 1: straiser that we have both been using for the last
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Speaker 1: couple of weeks months and looking DOWNI yeah, because as
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Speaker 1: some of you chickies may have seen on Instagram, we
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Speaker 1: recently worked with Paula's Choice on the launch of the moisturizer.
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Speaker 3: We hosted their event.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and we hosted the House of Pep event that
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Speaker 2: they did for Valentine's Day, and we.
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Speaker 4: Did like a little mini live show.
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Speaker 2: There was a pilates class, facials Sephora touch Up. They
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Speaker 2: threw it, of course for a cutely little Valentine's Day event,
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Speaker 2: but also to celebrate the launch of the moisturizer, which,
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Speaker 2: like I said, we have been trying for the last
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Speaker 2: month or so or before Christmas event, and we're both
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Speaker 2: obsessed and loving it. And the moisturizer are actually sold
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Speaker 2: out within the first week of its launch, so clearly
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Speaker 2: we're not the only fans. And why I do love
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Speaker 2: it is that it has this like cushiony gel like formula,
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Speaker 2: which not all moisturizers have, but I do find it
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Speaker 2: super hydrating. And it's also made with three times pro
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Speaker 2: collagen peptide complex, which is perfect if your skin concerns
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Speaker 2: are like dryness, dullness, fine lines, that kind of thing,
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Speaker 2: which is definitely definitely where I sit. And I do
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Speaker 2: find that it instantly plumps and gives your skin a
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Speaker 2: bit of bounce, which I love. I use it for
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Speaker 2: amm PM, but I do love it especially in the
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Speaker 2: morning because it sits really beautifully under makeup, agreed, which
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Speaker 2: is also important for a moisturizer. But yeah, we also
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Speaker 2: just wanted to say thanks to all the chicks for
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Speaker 2: coming outs too.
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Speaker 3: So amazing.
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Speaker 2: Yeah to Urban Oasis one playground for the event, because
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Speaker 2: we love any opportunity we get to meet you chicks
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Speaker 2: and to have a giggle and a cuddle.
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Speaker 4: And between the.
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Speaker 2: Pilates and the facials and the four touch ups and
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Speaker 2: the cuddles with you chicks, it really was just the
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Speaker 2: best balance today ever.
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Speaker 4: Okay, well what's your obsession?
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Speaker 1: Okay?
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Speaker 3: Leopard print is out and cowprint is in ye yo.
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Speaker 1: Honestly, I am seeing it everywhere, and I feel like
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Speaker 1: sometimes fashion trends are like the car you want to buy.
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Speaker 3: Once you see it once and you become conscious of it,
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Speaker 3: it follows you everywhere.
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Speaker 1: It's like once when you were like sixteen and you
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Speaker 1: decided you want a Suzuki Swift and I'm seeing them
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Speaker 1: fucking everywhere. That's how I feel about fashion trends right now.
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Speaker 3: Again.
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Speaker 1: Disclaimer, as always, trends are fun to talk about. Doesn't
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Speaker 1: mean you have to wear it. If you like it,
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Speaker 1: go for it. It's fun to play around with and
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Speaker 1: see if it does fit your evergreen style. If it's
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Speaker 1: not for you and you don't like it, don't wear it.
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Speaker 1: No one's holding a gun to your head.
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Speaker 3: You're all good, So cowprint.
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Speaker 1: I have seen this in so many places because Swede
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Speaker 1: is having this massive moment. It's kind of part of that,
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Speaker 1: like boho urban street style bike a trend, right, how
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Speaker 1: many like hot topics? Words?
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Speaker 3: Can I find a sentence? That's the game we're playing.
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Speaker 1: And I've seen some collections at Naked Advice they have
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Speaker 1: a bunch there. At also Tony Bianco they have a
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Speaker 1: shoe range. I've also been seeing it on asoce but
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Speaker 1: added As have also just released a sneaker in cowprint
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Speaker 1: que Mo mo bitch.
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Speaker 3: There's Yeah, I'm still going to be wearing letpod print.
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Speaker 4: But me too.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, lefopard print is forever, but I do love a
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Speaker 2: cowprint and a cow hide. Yeah, And a great place
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Speaker 2: to get cow hide pieces is at markets, like you
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Speaker 2: always find those random leather stalls and they always have
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Speaker 2: cow hide wallets and bags and belts and things like that,
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Speaker 2: so look for them. There also secondhand shops deepop stuff
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Speaker 2: like that.
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Speaker 4: You don't have to buy all of these things brand new.
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Speaker 2: If you want to rock that trend, but doing it
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Speaker 2: do it in a way that's maybe a bit more
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Speaker 2: sustainable or supporting a small business or whatever it may be.
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Speaker 3: Okay, and my next one is the.
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Speaker 1: Color of summer, well, the color of twenty twenty five,
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Speaker 1: because apparently buddy yellow is done, buttery yellow.
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Speaker 3: Is out, and baby blue is in.
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Speaker 1: And I'm going to test you with why you think
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Speaker 1: this is but baby blue? After the Grammys skyrocketed according
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Speaker 1: to data but Make of Fashion by one hundred and
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Speaker 1: eighty eight percent, what celebrity do you think was responsible
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Speaker 1: for the baby blue being the color of zammer?
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Speaker 4: Thanks Serena Carpenter.
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Speaker 3: Savvy savvy carpy, Sabby Carpenter.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, she rocks a baby blue moment, yep. And that
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Speaker 2: dress was stunning. She was serving Cinderella vibes. And I
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Speaker 2: honestly think that baby blue would look quite nice with
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Speaker 2: a buttery yellow as well.
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Speaker 1: I agree, I think as well, the same thing will happen.
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Speaker 3: When we spoke.
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Speaker 1: About butter yellow being the color of I was like, no,
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Speaker 1: I hate yellow and like same ziase. And then once
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Speaker 1: you kind of see when it gets modernized and the
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Speaker 1: way that people style it and the way that you
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Speaker 1: can have fun with it and play with fashion, you
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Speaker 1: kind of warm up to it, the way that things
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Speaker 1: happen with trends.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, but the one that will never peplam.
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Speaker 4: No, it's not for me that one, n NA.
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Speaker 1: But anyway, those are my two obsessions. Shall I get
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Speaker 1: into the episode? Yeah, let's do it, Okay, Sally, look
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Speaker 1: at me. I have raise a cut hair with a
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Speaker 1: black emo fringe. I have one direction posters in my room.
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Speaker 4: Wait, you still have those? Honestly?
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Speaker 1: And my MySpace is popping off because they just redid
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Speaker 1: the coding.
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Speaker 3: What are you telling me?
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Speaker 4: That was really visceral? I'm taken back.
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Speaker 2: What I loved about this trend is that I think
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Speaker 2: we all could see ourselves in it, and immediately when
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Speaker 2: you saw other people doing it, you thought, what would
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Speaker 2: I What would my younger self ask my older self?
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Speaker 1: Now?
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Speaker 3: Do you know what it made me think about? Though?
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Speaker 1: It's the question that we have in our rich conversations,
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Speaker 1: and it's would you rather spend twenty four hours with
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Speaker 1: your older self or your younger self? Hmm, I and
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Speaker 1: I exactly what you're saying. It really is a nice
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Speaker 1: situation to kind of put yourself.
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Speaker 3: In because you do think about what you would say.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and because as much as I feel like I've
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Speaker 2: changed so much and a lot of people have changed
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Speaker 2: so much, You're still that same person at heart, but
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Speaker 2: I feel like my younger self one of the first
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Speaker 2: questions I would have asked my older self is have
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Speaker 2: we got our dream job yet? And like, do you
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Speaker 2: work for MTV as a VJ? Or yeah, do you
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Speaker 2: work for Channel V you know, like interviewing my chemical
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Speaker 2: romance and whatever. And I think the lesson that I
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Speaker 2: would have taught my younger self is that you don't
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Speaker 2: I don't need to have a cool job, because I
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Speaker 2: saw an article earlier this year on Fashion Journal and
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Speaker 2: the headline was how the pursuit of cool work financially
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Speaker 2: ruined me. Yeah, and we do have a cool job.
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Speaker 4: I'm getting into it okay. And I'm say not that I've.
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Speaker 2: Had that experience per se, but it did remind me
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Speaker 2: that in my late teens and early twenties, I put
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Speaker 2: so much stock in going after jobs that I thought
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Speaker 2: were cool rather than jobs that actually fulfilled me or
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Speaker 2: jobs that offered me security. And I think that, especially
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Speaker 2: during internships and things like that, was which I do
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Speaker 2: understand is a very important part of your career. And
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Speaker 2: I'm so glad I did so many of my internships,
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Speaker 2: but also a lot of them I'm like, I definitely
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Speaker 2: was being taken advantage of. I definitely was going after
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Speaker 2: them being like, oh, but this will present to other
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Speaker 2: people that I'm.
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Speaker 3: Like the perception that it would bring ye yeah, and.
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Speaker 2: That like I'm doing well because I have a really
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Speaker 2: cool job, you know, the Andy Anderson of.
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Speaker 4: It all, the Devil Wears Prata like.
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Speaker 2: I was very much influenced by that, And I do
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Speaker 2: think it's important to have a dream job and to
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Speaker 2: chase things that you feel like will fulfill you, but
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Speaker 2: also to know that your job can be a means
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Speaker 2: to an end. It doesn't have to be completely tied
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Speaker 2: to your identity, because I think that then eventually I
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Speaker 2: did land in a job that wasn't sexy, wasn't cool.
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Speaker 2: I wasn't particularly proud to tell people where I worked.
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Speaker 2: It didn't have the shine that you know. I would
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Speaker 2: tell people that I was freelancing for Rolling Stone, which
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Speaker 2: I was at the time, before I would say what
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Speaker 2: I actually did for my full time job, because that
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Speaker 2: was cool and that like fit in with your can
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Speaker 2: we say what it was Harry job? You can say
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Speaker 2: When we worked at Findye and I was a credit
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Speaker 2: card editor, so I was like a personal finance editor,
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Speaker 2: so not sexy, not cool, but was a very secure job.
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Speaker 2: I learned so much about SEO and digital marketing and
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Speaker 2: also just having a full time job, and it also
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Speaker 2: led up to where we are now in our career.
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Speaker 2: So thank god I went uncool girl. Thank god I
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Speaker 2: went for the boring, uncol job because I made so
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Speaker 2: many amazing friendships, amazing contacts. Actually got a lot of
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Speaker 2: benefits out of it, even though on paper it wasn't
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Speaker 2: very sexy. And I think if I told my sixteen
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Speaker 2: year old self that that's what I ended up doing
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Speaker 2: for seven years of my career, she'd.
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Speaker 4: Be like, what the fuck went wrong? I'd be like,
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Speaker 4: but so much went right.
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Speaker 3: We'd be like, don't worry, Yeah, it'll all work out. Yeah, Yeah,
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Speaker 3: I love that. I would love to.
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Speaker 1: Know how many girlies, including us, are the victims of
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Speaker 1: the two thousands rom com journalists because we all wanted
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Speaker 1: to be Andy Anderson and wears Prada and I know
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Speaker 1: I still want to be that.
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Speaker 3: Say I still love it. Yeah, I might sign me up.
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Speaker 2: And I just want to throw in as well that
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Speaker 2: even if we hadn't started two Broke Chicks as a
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Speaker 2: result of working that unsexy job. What I'm saying because
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Speaker 2: I don't want anybody who you know has a job
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Speaker 2: that you know, perhaps is unsexy on paper to feel like,
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Speaker 2: oh well, I need to start a podcast for.
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Speaker 3: Then it's meaningful.
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Speaker 4: And for it to be proud of.
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Speaker 2: What I'm saying is I did learn so much from
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Speaker 2: that job, got so many amazing relationships and experiences from that,
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Speaker 2: and yeah, the reminder that your job isn't your whole
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Speaker 2: identity and you're still fucking cool.
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Speaker 3: Also, like sexy looks different to everyone, so true.
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Speaker 1: People that are probably working like a chemical lab curing
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Speaker 1: fucking diseases, they're fucking sexy.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, so true. You know, Okay, what's yours?
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Speaker 3: Okay?
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Speaker 1: I feel like I need to set the scene of
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Speaker 1: like baby Alex, which I've definitely spoken about that little
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Speaker 1: freak before, that little fuck flick, but oh my god,
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Speaker 1: like overthinking queen people. Please the central obviously struggled during
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Speaker 1: high school, didn't really have that many friends, and just
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Speaker 1: really really lived for the satisfaction of other people.
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Speaker 3: But I am too.
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Speaker 1: There's two parts of my personality right, I am either
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Speaker 1: nothing but if not consistent, or a walking contradiction, Like
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Speaker 1: there is topics in my life, and they're either fit
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Speaker 1: into one of those two buckets. And it's like that
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Speaker 1: is so consistent, that is me, that it's like in
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Speaker 1: my DNA or that topic is a walking contradiction, and
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Speaker 1: I changed my mind on it depending on my mood,
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Speaker 1: my phase in my cycle where the moon issides.
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Speaker 3: I don't know, and you know, I don't ie care.
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Speaker 1: But one thing that I do think falls into that
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Speaker 1: I'm nothing if not consistent, is you know, this wave
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Speaker 1: of wanting to make sure that I'm doing things right
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Speaker 1: and I'm not hurting anyone's feeling and I'm liked and
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Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah blah.
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Speaker 3: And it is this thing that you know comes in waves,
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Speaker 3: the things that.
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Speaker 1: I tell myself now, the thing that like forty year
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Speaker 1: old Alex is like coming and telling me at my
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Speaker 1: age now, And the thing I'm going back and telling
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Speaker 1: sixteen year old Alex and seventy and twenty five and
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Speaker 1: all of it is that there is a version fifteen, ten,
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Speaker 1: twenty years from now asking me to have more fun.
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Speaker 1: And like that is what I would just like grip
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Speaker 1: her head with and like yell down her esophagus and
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Speaker 1: just be like, please just have more fun. Like I know,
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Speaker 1: there is so much light and darkness in the world
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Speaker 1: and there always has been and there always will be,
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Speaker 1: and it is so important to give attention to the
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Speaker 1: things that deserve it and need to have like serious
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Speaker 1: conversation around.
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Speaker 3: But then there are things that don't. And that's where
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Speaker 3: it's so easy to get stuck.
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Speaker 1: And that is where I would get stuck so much
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Speaker 1: and still sometimes now that I'm just like, just have
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Speaker 1: fucking fun, Like I just I just think about all
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Speaker 1: the things that I would stress about when I was
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Speaker 1: younger that do not fucking matter that Like it's kind
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Speaker 1: of laughable now really that it's like the amount of
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Speaker 1: stress you would have of picking a song to go
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Speaker 1: to your profile, like how many like.
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Speaker 3: Pokes you had on Facebook.
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Speaker 1: That exactly what you were saying, Like the perception of
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Speaker 1: things that I think about, what I cared about then
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Speaker 1: I didn't give a fuck about now and I just
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Speaker 1: would get her and I would be like, you sit down,
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Speaker 1: young lady, and you go have fun. Stop caring about
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Speaker 1: what people think about you. And then when I was
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Speaker 1: thinking about how I would say that to my younger self,
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Speaker 1: I was thinking about but bitch, you need someone to
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Speaker 1: say that to you now she is she is me,
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Speaker 1: but yeah, and I think that's that. I was like,
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Speaker 1: maybe I shouldn't say that if it still applies now,
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Speaker 1: but I just wanted to say it because then I
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Speaker 1: was like, Fuck, what are the things that I'm caring
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Speaker 1: about now that me in ten years is going to
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Speaker 1: come back and be like you stupid bitch.
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Speaker 4: You know?
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Speaker 3: And that's what I wanted to say.
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Speaker 4: This.
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Speaker 1: Why I wanted to say this life lesson was because one,
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Speaker 1: you would say it to your younger self, but two,
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Speaker 1: I wanted the chicks to think about what their future
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Speaker 1: self would tell them right now to stop caring about
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Speaker 1: and just go have some fucking fun.
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Speaker 2: Next life lesson I would tell my younger self Again
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Speaker 2: when I was putting myself in this scenario, picturing me
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Speaker 2: sitting across from like my seventeen year old.
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Speaker 4: Self, and I was like, what were you wearing? I
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Speaker 4: definitely was.
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Speaker 3: Wearing that I've done you now you do you?
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Speaker 4: Ooh okay.
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Speaker 2: I definitely at seventeen I would have been wearing black
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Speaker 2: stockings because I never went anywhere without wearing stockings no
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Speaker 2: matter what the temperature was. Like a fabric micro mini
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Speaker 2: skirt that is like so inappropriately short, and you definitely
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Speaker 2: can see my aundies like ninety eight percent of the time.
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Speaker 2: And then I would have been wearing like a band
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Speaker 2: shirt and then maybe with a print cardigan over the top,
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Speaker 2: and then probably some sort of like band Donna tied
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Speaker 2: around my mullet or maybe one of those like platted headbands.
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Speaker 4: It's the same chance, that's the same girl, the same too.
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Speaker 2: But when I was imagining myself talking to this seventeen
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Speaker 2: year old version, I think part of me at first
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Speaker 2: struggled to relate to the trend because it was so
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Speaker 2: earnest and nice, and I was almost like, I can't
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Speaker 2: even imagine my younger self having that vulnerability, being able
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Speaker 2: to ask a lot of those questions and being like,
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Speaker 2: whats to deal with this? And the things that I
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Speaker 2: actually cared about at the time but was too proud
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Speaker 2: to admit to or talk to about with anyone. And
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Speaker 2: the life lesson that I would give to that younger
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Speaker 2: version of myself is that problem shared are problems halved
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Speaker 2: I love that from dull book. Yeah yeah, but I
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Speaker 2: think it's like a It's a popular quote that I
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Speaker 2: think a lot of people really relate to, and especially
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Speaker 2: at that age, I would never tell anybody anything. Like
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Speaker 2: I think Chris and I had been dating for almost
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Speaker 2: two years when my parents got divorced, and I didn't
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Speaker 2: tell him about it for maybe like eighteen months.
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Speaker 4: Well after it happened.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and he knew, but you didn't talk about it.
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Speaker 2: But we just didn't talk about it. I think he
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Speaker 2: tried to. I remember him like coming over with a
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Speaker 2: bunch of flowers for me, like trying to like me
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Speaker 2: be like a uokay, because he knew something had gone down,
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Speaker 2: but I never said it anything. And it wasn't until
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Speaker 2: like I think maybe we'd even moved in together, that
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Speaker 2: I actually told him, like everything that had happened, what
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Speaker 2: I was going through and all of that, because I
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Speaker 2: was just too proud. And I think that's something that
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Speaker 2: I'm still working through, Like I'm still very selective about
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Speaker 2: who I share specific things with or you know, I
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Speaker 2: get nervous like being too open because they're there is
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Speaker 2: a sense of vulnerability about being so open with people.
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Speaker 2: But I can only imagine how much easier that time
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Speaker 2: and other difficult times, you know, when I was younger,
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Speaker 2: would have been to you know, get over or endure
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Speaker 2: if I'd just spoken to somebody else about it.
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Speaker 1: I think you also have this thing being your best
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Speaker 1: friend for seven years, is that you don't want to
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Speaker 1: be a burden to anyone else. Yeah, and you hate
19:24
Speaker 1: making other people sad. And because you're such like an
19:28
Speaker 1: m path in a non ironic way that when people
19:32
Speaker 1: tell you sad things, you get sad.
19:34
Speaker 3: I think you sometimes maybe think that you're going to.
19:37
Speaker 1: Be a burden by sharing like sad things or how
19:40
Speaker 1: you're feeling with people. But exactly like what you said,
19:43
Speaker 1: and if anyone can relate to that is that what
19:47
Speaker 1: you said is problems shared, problems halved, and that the
19:50
Speaker 1: people that love you like want you to share things
19:52
Speaker 1: like that with them, Yeah, because they're there, like they're
19:55
Speaker 1: there to help, but also sometimes they're not. They're just
19:57
Speaker 1: there to like let light in the load a little.
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Speaker 4: Yeah.
20:01
Speaker 2: Well, it's like they don't have to give any sort
20:03
Speaker 2: of advice that's going to fix the situation. They just
20:07
Speaker 2: have to be there for you. And even to be
20:09
Speaker 2: like that's really shit, I'm sorry you guys do that.
20:11
Speaker 1: To just do that, Okay, The biggest life lesson I
20:15
Speaker 1: have now versus and like four little baby girl is
20:20
Speaker 1: stop spending your money on stupid shit and stop paying
20:23
Speaker 1: full price for anything. The only exception is birthday presents
20:29
Speaker 1: or Christmas and it's like the thing, one thing that
20:32
Speaker 1: someone has asked for and it like never goes on sale,
20:36
Speaker 1: like tickets or like a very specific item that the.
20:39
Speaker 3: Person has put on their wish list.
20:40
Speaker 1: Yeah. Other than that, you should never, ever, ever, ever
20:45
Speaker 1: pay full price for anything because the amount of sale
20:47
Speaker 1: events that happened throughout the year bonkers auction nowadays, literally,
20:52
Speaker 1: So I am gonna also share our sale event calendar
20:55
Speaker 1: by the end of my brant, but I wanted to
20:58
Speaker 1: do a little back and foul on the stupid shit
21:03
Speaker 1: we bought in our twenties.
21:04
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Jeffrey Campbell's I can say that about
21:09
Speaker 2: like eight pairs the fuck Kylie Jenner lipkits the episode's
21:17
Speaker 2: SIMS game.
21:18
Speaker 1: Do you remember that I spent so much money on
21:20
Speaker 1: that the Kim Kardashian game.
21:22
Speaker 2: Yeah, songs on iTunes, the amount of money I was
21:26
Speaker 2: spending and buying the singles too. At least buy the album,
21:30
Speaker 2: like it's better value for your money. But Spotify's coming,
21:34
Speaker 2: You don't need to spend your money on that.
21:36
Speaker 1: There are definitely some things I spent money on that
21:38
Speaker 1: were very valid, but I do think a lot of
21:41
Speaker 1: the shit that we spent money on, I was like,
21:44
Speaker 1: what the fuck knuckles is this? However, I do believe
21:49
Speaker 1: now I am a lot more better, thankfully with how
21:52
Speaker 1: I spend my money. And one of those values is
21:55
Speaker 1: never ever, ever, ever, ever paying full price or something
21:58
Speaker 1: with the asterisks of birthdays, things that never go on sale.
22:01
Speaker 3: Although I said small businesses one hundred percent.
22:04
Speaker 1: So I wanted to share the sale events of twenty
22:08
Speaker 1: twenty five. So here are all the sale events that
22:11
Speaker 1: are happening in twenty twenty five, so you can map
22:13
Speaker 1: you're spending around them and never pay full price. So
22:16
Speaker 1: in March on the twentieth to the twenty third, we
22:19
Speaker 1: have after pay Day. Then in May on the thirteenth
22:24
Speaker 1: to the sixteenth, we have click Frenzy Mayhem.
22:28
Speaker 3: Then in June we have end.
22:29
Speaker 1: Of financial year sales starting from the thirtieth, but last
22:32
Speaker 1: year they started like mid June.
22:35
Speaker 3: Then July we have winter.
22:37
Speaker 1: Sales and end of season sales. Then August is an
22:41
Speaker 1: after pay day and the dates TBC. Then November, which
22:46
Speaker 1: is when we lock in to sale season, we have
22:51
Speaker 1: Click Frenzy the main event, and on the twenty eighth
22:55
Speaker 1: we have Black Friday, the big Kahuna of shopping sales,
22:59
Speaker 1: and then in December we have Boxing Day on the
23:02
Speaker 1: twenty six so there is not more than two months
23:10
Speaker 1: without a sale event. So please save this to come
23:16
Speaker 1: back to have in your back pocket because there is
23:20
Speaker 1: absolutely no need to.
23:21
Speaker 3: Pay full price for anything. Save you money.
23:23
Speaker 1: But of course we will also be doing our cheat
23:27
Speaker 1: sheets for every single sale event where we pull in
23:31
Speaker 1: all of the best sales across fashion, beauty, lifestyle and more.
23:35
Speaker 1: And last year, across Black Friday and Boxing Day, we
23:38
Speaker 1: ended up raising five thousand dollars for charity, and we're
23:41
Speaker 1: going to be doing.
23:41
Speaker 3: The exact same thing this year. For every single sale event.
23:44
Speaker 1: We're going to get you chicks to choose a charity
23:46
Speaker 1: and then raise money towards that charity. So our final
23:51
Speaker 1: life lesson, Now, I'm gonna throw a spanner in the works, Okay,
23:55
Speaker 1: I want this to be a joint life lesson that
23:59
Speaker 1: we would tell our younger selves as friends. Ooh, okay,
24:04
Speaker 1: I would tell them not to do anything differently.
24:09
Speaker 4: I like that.
24:10
Speaker 1: I would say just write it all out like everything
24:14
Speaker 1: that has been a hiccup has been a life lesson
24:17
Speaker 1: and has only just made us stronger and smarter.
24:20
Speaker 3: So I would be like, don't do anything differently.
24:22
Speaker 2: My life lesson for our younger selves collectively as a
24:26
Speaker 2: friendship unit would be don't listen to the people who
24:31
Speaker 2: invalidate your.
24:32
Speaker 4: Friendship and your dreams.
24:34
Speaker 2: Yh, meh, Because, as I said drunkenly at one of
24:39
Speaker 2: our podcast launchers like two or three years ago, there
24:43
Speaker 2: were so many naysayers when we first pitched and wanted
24:47
Speaker 2: to do Two Broke Chicks, so many people who found
24:49
Speaker 2: our friendship annoying or abrasive or.
24:53
Speaker 3: They still are whatever.
24:54
Speaker 2: But that's the thing, and there still are, and that's
24:56
Speaker 2: so fine. We don't have to be everybody's cup of tea,
24:59
Speaker 2: and we never will. Yeah, but I think that I'm
25:02
Speaker 2: glad that we eventually didn't listen to the people who
25:04
Speaker 2: told us that we shouldn't have a podcast and that
25:06
Speaker 2: people would understand our personal.
25:08
Speaker 4: Jokes and whatever.
25:11
Speaker 2: But I won't lie and say that I didn't think
25:13
Speaker 2: about it, or you know, it wasn't an insecurity of
25:16
Speaker 2: mine when we first started it, being like, oh, well,
25:18
Speaker 2: people even get around it or are we just like
25:21
Speaker 2: every other basic bestie duo being like we we are?
25:24
Speaker 3: We are so and I love that, Yeah, you know.
25:27
Speaker 2: Exactly, So that would be my lesson to share to
25:29
Speaker 2: love that one. Those baby girls, please, little.
25:32
Speaker 3: Those little baby girls. All right, shall we get into
25:36
Speaker 3: advice with the chicks?
25:37
Speaker 2: Let's do it.
25:44
Speaker 3: Advice please? Hey, firstly, love the podcast. Thank you so
25:49
Speaker 3: much for creating a safe community. Oh Man Kimbibie.
25:53
Speaker 1: I broke up with my ex in October. We had
25:56
Speaker 1: been together for nearly two years. It became really toxic,
25:59
Speaker 1: and I felt like he no longer loved me and
26:01
Speaker 1: I wasn't a priority in his life, so I chose
26:04
Speaker 1: to end it. He has since then gotten a new
26:07
Speaker 1: and quite a bit younger girlfriend. I also lost a
26:10
Speaker 1: lot of friends in the breakup as well.
26:12
Speaker 3: I am loving single life. However, he is my next
26:16
Speaker 3: door neighbor.
26:17
Speaker 1: Ooh, that's right, right next door, and I'm up on
26:20
Speaker 1: a hill so I can see into his house. I
26:24
Speaker 1: can hear the pool parties that he hosts. I can
26:26
Speaker 1: see which cars are home every time I go past.
26:29
Speaker 3: It's become torture.
26:31
Speaker 1: His whole family were horrible to me throughout the relationship.
26:35
Speaker 1: His parents would speak another language in front of me,
26:37
Speaker 1: knowing I couldn't understand them, but I could hear my
26:40
Speaker 1: name being mentioned. So this, combined with the worries of
26:44
Speaker 1: seeing or hearing my old so called friends, his new
26:47
Speaker 1: girlfriend and him, has left me not wanting to be
26:50
Speaker 1: at my own house. I get really bad anxiety every
26:54
Speaker 1: time I drive home. Please give me some advine.
26:59
Speaker 4: I don't know, I've been there, talk through it.
27:03
Speaker 1: I put this in the same category as work. Don't
27:06
Speaker 1: fuck your neighbors. Yeah, and don't fuck people you work
27:10
Speaker 1: with because you can't escape them.
27:12
Speaker 4: Especially your home, Like that's to be your sanctuary.
27:16
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean the neighbor that I date dated, Oh,
27:20
Speaker 1: I've done it twice. I did it.
27:23
Speaker 3: I did it when I was younger.
27:25
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean I've accidentally dated two neighbors in
27:31
Speaker 1: my lifetime. Yeah, and like none were as intense as
27:38
Speaker 1: what I think this relationship was. Like the one of
27:41
Speaker 1: them was like three dates and you know they still
27:44
Speaker 1: live in the building. Yeah, and it's just like a
27:46
Speaker 1: head nod and doses, you know, I think in this
27:50
Speaker 1: situation it was it sounds like it was a lot
27:53
Speaker 1: more intense and there was a lot more feelings involved,
27:56
Speaker 1: and that would be so hard that. I know this
27:59
Speaker 1: probably is maybe a bit radical, but my first thing
28:02
Speaker 1: would be like.
28:03
Speaker 4: Can I move? Yeah?
28:04
Speaker 3: Same, I was thinking.
28:05
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, that's probably really drastic advice, and it's
28:08
Speaker 1: probably not helpful because maybe she doesn't want to move,
28:11
Speaker 1: or maybe or maybe she owns a house. But my
28:16
Speaker 1: first question to myself if I was in that situation
28:19
Speaker 1: would be can I move?
28:22
Speaker 3: Is there any way that I can not be in
28:25
Speaker 3: this position?
28:27
Speaker 2: How can you remove yourself from the situation if it's possible?
28:30
Speaker 2: I think if it isn't possible.
28:32
Speaker 3: Which I think is very likely, yea.
28:34
Speaker 2: Given that she's running in for advice, remind yourself that
28:38
Speaker 2: you don't want to be in that relationship.
28:42
Speaker 4: I think, take off the rose colored glasses, and rather.
28:44
Speaker 2: Than comparing yourself to his new girlfriend, which I think
28:48
Speaker 2: is very natural to do, think about that. You don't
28:52
Speaker 2: want friends who are going to abandon you when you
28:55
Speaker 2: go through a breakup when you probably need them the most.
28:57
Speaker 2: You don't want in laws who aren't welcoming and you
29:01
Speaker 2: don't get along with. You don't want a partner that
29:05
Speaker 2: clearly there wasn't any longevity in the relationship beyond what
29:09
Speaker 2: you had. It's really hard not to compare yourself and
29:12
Speaker 2: dwell and be like, oh my god, especially when it's.
29:15
Speaker 1: Right in because you're probably sitting there being like that
29:18
Speaker 1: used to be meet like I used to be at
29:19
Speaker 1: those pool parties I used to get to go. But
29:22
Speaker 1: try to remind yourself and because you get rose colored
29:24
Speaker 1: glasses on when you go through a breakup, try to
29:27
Speaker 1: remember all the shit times. I know that sounds so nag,
29:30
Speaker 1: but you just you think like, oh no, that looks
29:32
Speaker 1: like so much fun, and I want to know you
29:34
Speaker 1: don't you don't want to go there, like try to
29:37
Speaker 1: think about the reasons why, because you broke up with
29:39
Speaker 1: him and you didn't do that for no reason. And
29:42
Speaker 1: think about the fact that you are going to meet
29:44
Speaker 1: someone that you know. You are going to have friends
29:48
Speaker 1: that are there for you during really hard times. You
29:51
Speaker 1: are going to meet a partner that gives you the love,
29:53
Speaker 1: attention and care that you deserve, and they're gonna have
29:56
Speaker 1: parents that you know are very open and welcoming and
29:59
Speaker 1: warm to you. And that's what you want and that's
30:01
Speaker 1: what you deserve, and that it's actually a blessing that
30:05
Speaker 1: you now have the freedom in the space to pursue
30:07
Speaker 1: those things that you want.
30:09
Speaker 2: Yeah, it will also get easier with time. Let's go
30:12
Speaker 2: feel relatively.
30:13
Speaker 1: Fresh, put a pin in the pool, floaties under the
30:16
Speaker 1: cover of darkness.
30:17
Speaker 3: We'll jump the fence.
30:19
Speaker 1: Let's fight in the corner of your floating and reel
30:22
Speaker 1: it small and they'll be like, why don't they keep
30:24
Speaker 1: going down? We'll go kill the giants worn floating. That's
30:28
Speaker 1: another thing I spent money on that I shouldn't.
30:30
Speaker 3: Have dum the giant floaty phase with like unicorns and shit.
30:34
Speaker 4: Yep, I do.
30:35
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's bad.
30:36
Speaker 4: I do. Remember. Oh, that would suck.
30:39
Speaker 3: That would suck, Like that situation sucks.
30:41
Speaker 1: And yeah, I think it probably might even need a
30:45
Speaker 1: little bit of journaling to really kind of cement those
30:49
Speaker 1: things in your brain, because sometimes just saying them to
30:51
Speaker 1: yourself doesn't really sink it in. Yeah, and maybe try
30:55
Speaker 1: to pursue some friendships outside of the area that you
30:58
Speaker 1: live in.
31:00
Speaker 3: But look into moving out if.
31:02
Speaker 4: You can, if possible.
31:03
Speaker 2: So it won't It won't be forever regardless, even if
31:07
Speaker 2: it's the living situation or how you feel.
31:09
Speaker 4: Yes, remember that too, It's only temporary.
31:11
Speaker 1: I know.
31:12
Speaker 4: That's kind of annoying to hear, but it's true.
31:14
Speaker 3: And who's to come live with me?
31:17
Speaker 1: And I'll put more watched Lilma Mate, we'll host a
31:22
Speaker 1: Paul party. That's a rappy Doodle's Chicks, thank you so
31:25
Speaker 1: much for listening, and we want to know what you
31:28
Speaker 1: would tell your younger self, what's like your life? Lesson
31:31
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31:36
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31:37
Speaker 3: We live to see them, we do.
31:39
Speaker 2: And if you want to send in an advice with
31:41
Speaker 2: the chicks, we will put the number in the show
31:44
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31:46
Speaker 2: text it in, but we do always love.
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Speaker 4: A voice note exactly.
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Speaker 3: Forehead kisses for you all, Love you so much. Thank
31:52
Speaker 3: you to m ik Made for making this episode of
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Speaker 3: Two Bread Chicks happen. Thank you to Nick and Rush,
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Speaker 3: our wonderful team who'll put up with us every week.
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