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Season 2 - Episode 79 - Non-negotiables · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Ooh, so I want to talk to you about non-negotiables today.
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  We all have our list in our head that we think are
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  non-negotiables things that we will never compromise on.
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  But it's interesting because what like most human beings, we
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  think we have a list of things that are absolutely without
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  question non-negotiables. But when certain situations
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  arrived, they become very negotiable and often just
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  overridden by The actions that you take and nothing is more
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  important than understanding. What are my non-negotiables so
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  that you know, where you just, you know, will not let it
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  happen. So for me, I am very very
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  willing to work really hard Monday through Thursday like I
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  can't even begin to tell you. I will work. 6:00 a.m. to 7 p.m.
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  without question back-to-back. Have no issues with it because I
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  am prepared and I have said that is my frame.
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  I'm of work, I can do sessions back-to-back, I can do trainings
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  back-to-back, whatever, I need to do during those time frames,
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  that's it. Now, my non-negotiables are my
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  weekends. I will not coach on the
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  weekends, it's just non-negotiable for me.
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  The time is to be with my family in the evenings.
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  I am done at 7 so that I can be with my family's.
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  My non-negotiable is that time with my family and I make sure
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  that I have my times. When I take the weeks off, That
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  just work. So in my world since I'm the
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  captain of my own schedule, I will always take off weeks that
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  have months that have a fifth week.
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  I always take that fifth week off for multiple reasons, but it
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  also forces me to make sure that I say this is a vacation week.
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  And that's a non-negotiable otherwise it just won't happen.
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  There are certain things that, you know, I think the boundaries
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  of where you spend time with your family and what that means
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  to them is superb. Important to have lined up and
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  if you don't put it there then you will find that you are
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  negotiating into things. And it's slipping and before you
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  know it you are working weekends.
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  You are taking calls and it just doesn't work.
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  You know, another non-negotiable is not having my phone in the
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  bedroom at night. Oh, I know that's a tough one.
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  As you guys hear that, that's a non-negotiable for me because
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  the phone is associated to work. The phone is associated to
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  things that Are required for my work and my bedroom is not so I
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  don't want to have it there with me.
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  I don't want to have it put into a position where it has a hook
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  on me. So, thinking about this, you
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  have to ask yourself. Well, where am I things that are
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  non-negotiable. It's kind of like also my eggs
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  for my chickens in here. So my chickens are just, you
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  know, part of something that is our family.
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  And I I do not sell my eggs at all.
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  I give them away to people. They are for the greater good
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  and gratitude of everybody that, you know, is in our lives.
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  My UPS man, my mailman, my FedEx guy, you name it.
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  If they come to the house regularly they get eggs and I
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  give them to my neighbors and whatnot.
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  It's a non-negotiable for me. It's just the way to give back
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  to the world. So when you start to ask
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  yourself, where are your non-negotiables Where your
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  boundaries where are the things that you know this is something
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  that you want to stand for and or a boundary that you have to
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  have for yourself. You have to decide what those
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  are. Nobody else can because you
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  won't stick to him otherwise and the worst part of it is, when
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  you find that you are breaking your own, you know, ideals and
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  your own boundaries, you feel like crap quite honestly, and
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  that doesn't feel good. But guess what?
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  You actually feel really good when you stick to it.
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  When I say no and I tell somebody no, I'm sorry that's
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  not going to work because that's into my family time.
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  I actually feel really good about it because I said
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  something and I'm sticking to it and for me that just feels like
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  I'm in absolute synchronicity and integrity with myself and
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  the identity that I want to have for myself.
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  So think about your non-negotiables more in line
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  with your identity than anything else.
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  Because if you do it that way, then you're going to most likely
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  be able to stick with it. You'll Able to be more congruent
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  and stick with it. If you think of it that way, if
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  you don't think of it that way, then you have more of a chance
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  of negotiating with yourself. And so what was a non-negotiable
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  in the beginning becomes very negotiable and you don't want to
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  have that happen because that just gives up again a little
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  piece of your identity. So, really look at this for
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  yourself. As we get, ready to wrap up this
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  quarter and you're saying, okay, well now, you know, 90 days The
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  year it's going to have gone by soon.
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  I would really love to know. You know what I want to do with
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  the next part of it and what will be my non-negotiables?
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  What will I stick to? What are those things that
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  matter to me more than anything and that I won't compromise on?
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  All right? My friends.
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  I hope you have a blessed day and I will see you all tomorrow
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  morning. Bye.
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  The year it's going to have gone by soon.
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  I would really love to know. You know what I want to do with
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  the next part of it and what will be my non-negotiables?
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  What will I stick to? What are those things that
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  matter to me more than anything and that I won't compromise on?
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  All right? My friends.
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  I hope you have a blessed day and I will see you all tomorrow
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  morning. Bye.