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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Are You Where You Really Want to Be? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdler's Emily Abaddi bringing you five Minute Friday from Hurdle.
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  Speaker 2: It's been a week, huh.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like this week I was not really productive
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  Speaker 1: at all. I mean, I feel like I'm in this
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  Speaker 1: holding pattern where I'm getting everything done that I need
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  Speaker 1: to get done, but I'm not exceeding the status quo.
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  Speaker 2: And I know that.
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  Speaker 1: It's okay and I have to have some grace with myself,
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  Speaker 1: but it just it feels a little bit, you know
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  Speaker 1: what I mean that our feeling. That's how I feel anyway.
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  Speaker 1: For five Minute Friday this week, I'm talking about my
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  Speaker 1: great love New York City.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 1: Yesterday a friend of mine, she reached out to me
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  Speaker 1: and she told me in a text message that she
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  Speaker 1: was going to hopefully sublet her apartment at the end
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  Speaker 1: of July and move back to where she's from in Portland.
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  Speaker 1: And I didn't really know how to respond. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: it's a conversation that I've heard a lot lately, especially,
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  Speaker 1: I mean since the beginning of the pandemic, so many
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  Speaker 1: of my friends, you know, have been either leaving the
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  Speaker 1: city temporarily or making the move out of the city,
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  Speaker 1: possibly for good. And it's been really interesting because their
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  Speaker 1: decisions have me asking myself what it is that I
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  Speaker 1: want and time and time again. When I come back
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  Speaker 1: to this question, where do I want to be? I
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  Speaker 1: just I think about New York in all of its glory.
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  Speaker 1: I think about the magic that it has. I think
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  Speaker 1: about that here you can literally be whoever you want
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  Speaker 1: to be, whenever you want to be them, even in
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  Speaker 1: a pandemic. I mean, let's reflect first on my pre
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  Speaker 1: pandemic life. Right, Like, I could literally go to a
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  Speaker 1: hot yoga class at lins Den and I could be
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  Speaker 1: there next to celebrities. I could take a quick shower
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  Speaker 1: and then be at a rooftop bar in minutes, overlooking
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  Speaker 1: the Empire State Building like it was no thing, just casual.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 1: I could go bouldering in Central Park and run over
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  Speaker 1: one of three different bridges. I think to Brooklyn, and
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  Speaker 1: I could go surfing at Rockaway and eat great tacos,
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  Speaker 1: and all of that can be done in the same city.
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  Speaker 1: I think about the magic that is walking out of
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  Speaker 1: my door in the morning and I don't know where
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  Speaker 1: he lives, but the same man is wearing a dress
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  Speaker 1: shirt and pants, and he knows my name, and he
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  Speaker 1: says Hi, and he tells me to have a good day.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I think about New York, and I think
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  Speaker 1: about all the great stuff that has happened since I've
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  Speaker 1: moved here. I think about running the marathon four times.
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  Speaker 1: I think about the crazy interaction which was going for
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  Speaker 1: my dream job and walking into the editor in chief's
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  Speaker 1: office itself and telling her that I might not know
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  Speaker 1: everything that I need to know as listed for the opportunity,
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  Speaker 1: but I was going to do that better than anybody
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  Speaker 1: else that walked in there, and the next day getting
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  Speaker 1: a call and them telling me that I got the
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  Speaker 1: job I got. I think about going out in the
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  Speaker 1: meatpacking district on a Tuesday until three am, and I
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  Speaker 1: think about first dates, and there have been a lot
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  Speaker 1: of them, and I think about the really good ones, right.
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  Speaker 1: I once went on a first date with a guy
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  Speaker 1: that ended with Canoli's sitting on Grand Street, And when
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  Speaker 1: we were having a beer post Connoli, we were sitting
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  Speaker 1: in this small Italian restaurant bar kind of thing, and
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  Speaker 1: the three piece band was playing at Last by Edda James,
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  Speaker 1: and he kissed me, Like what kind of New York
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  Speaker 1: moment is that? I think about coming into my own
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  Speaker 1: here and you know, it's not lost on me that
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  Speaker 1: a lot of the things that I'm talking about, it's
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  Speaker 1: like they can't happen right now. You know, life is
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  Speaker 1: different now, and while like New York is the city
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  Speaker 1: that never sleeps, I go outside and I feel a
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  Speaker 1: little bit like she's resting now.
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  Speaker 2: But the magic is still there.
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  Speaker 1: Right When I talk to people about what it feels
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  Speaker 1: like to be here right now, it feels like everything
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  Speaker 1: is different, but still everything is the same. My heart
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  Speaker 1: still feels the same. When I walk out the door
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  Speaker 1: of my apartment, I still feel like there is so
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  Speaker 1: much more for me to do here. I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I am my best self here. And trust me, I've
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  Speaker 1: had the opportunity to go a lot of really great places,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of them. But when I walk down the
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  Speaker 1: block after I've eaten dinner and I see the people,
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  Speaker 1: and for a second I close my eyes, it's like,
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  Speaker 1: in my gut, in my heart, in my soul, I
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  Speaker 1: know that I'm still in the place that I'm suppose
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  Speaker 1: to be.
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  Speaker 2: It's funny. Last night I was laying in my bed.
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  Speaker 1: I've been watching every single episode of Sex and the
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  Speaker 1: City from season one. Can't believe I'm saying this, but
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  Speaker 1: I've actually never done this, so it's been a little
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  Speaker 1: quarantine project of mine. And I'm finally on season five,
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  Speaker 1: I think so. In the episode, the girls are talking
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  Speaker 1: about this idea that we all only might get one
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  Speaker 1: or two great loves, and they're worried because they're wondering
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  Speaker 1: if they've wasted these great loves or whatever. And that
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  Speaker 1: night they go to a party with a bunch of
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  Speaker 1: sailors that are in town for fleet week, and Carrie
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  Speaker 1: has this fun interaction with a really really cute sailor
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  Speaker 1: by the way, who I may or may not have
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  Speaker 1: googled this actor's name today, and the sailor tells Carrie
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  Speaker 1: that New York isn't for him, and in her like
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  Speaker 1: closing monologue, she says that maybe her great love, after all,
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  Speaker 1: is New York City. And I just thought that it
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  Speaker 1: was so appropriately timed for me, such a sap, because
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  Speaker 1: if you ask me right now, if there was anywhere
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  Speaker 1: in the world that I would want to be, like,
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  Speaker 1: where is that?
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  Speaker 2: To be honest, it's still right here at home in
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  Speaker 2: New York.
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  Speaker 1: So my prompt for you this week, if you could
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  Speaker 1: be anywhere with anyone right now, where would you be.
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  Speaker 1: I just smiled after I said that out loud because
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  Speaker 1: I was thinking about who I would want to be
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  Speaker 1: with and it made me.
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  Speaker 2: Feel like I should tell this person that. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Highlights and of course all of the things I'm mentioning,
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  Speaker 1: the links to them are in the show notes. First
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  Speaker 1: things first, speaking of New York, the New York or
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  Speaker 1: Nowhere confetti capsule collection.
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  Speaker 2: If you follow me on Instagram, you've seen that I have.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of no Lita, New York or Nowhere art
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  Speaker 1: around my apartment and right now they just launch a
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  Speaker 1: capsule collection and celebration of Pride and it's a lot
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  Speaker 1: of my favorite prints, just jazzed up in all the
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  Speaker 1: remote colors. And the proceeds from the sales of these items,
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  Speaker 1: which include prints, it's postcards, sweatshirts, t shirts, proceeds will
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  Speaker 1: be donated to the Trevor Project. If you've never heard
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  Speaker 1: of the Trevor Project, it's a leading national organization providing
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  Speaker 1: crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer,
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  Speaker 1: and questioning young people under twenty five. So definitely give
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  Speaker 1: that a look. Read Cleo Wades Where to begin? I
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  Speaker 1: think This book came out last year. I've had it
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  Speaker 1: for a while now. I keep going back to it
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  Speaker 1: because it's on the desk on my bookshelf. And she
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  Speaker 1: writes on the back cover that the words in this
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  Speaker 1: book are what stopped me from walking away from the
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  Speaker 1: problems of the world during tough times. And I really,
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  Speaker 1: really really feel that I pulled this quote out today.
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  Speaker 1: There is not a single conversation that kindness cannot make
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  Speaker 1: infinitely better. I think that right now a lot of
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  Speaker 1: us are having hard conversations, and sometimes those conversations can
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  Speaker 1: have disagreement, and I think what's important to remember is
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  Speaker 1: that although you may not agree with people, that doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean that you need to stop being a kind human.
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  Speaker 1: Just a highlight worth pointing out. Next up, I'll listen
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  Speaker 1: to share with you a podcast this week, how to
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  Speaker 1: Make Journaling Work for You from Life Kit by NPR.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I'm a huge fan of journaling. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I talk about it all the time of the podcast.
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  Speaker 1: For me, it's looked very, very different over the years.
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  Speaker 1: But this episode from life Kit, it's a really popular
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  Speaker 1: health and fitness podcast in the iTunes store. It's only
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  Speaker 1: thirteen minutes and it offers up a ton of benefits
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  Speaker 1: to the practice that are literally undeniable, as well as
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  Speaker 1: actionable tips to help you get started. Two of the
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  Speaker 1: prompts that they offer this week that I thought were buzzy,
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  Speaker 1: what's missing from your life that would make you smile more?
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  Speaker 1: And in the vein of Hurdle, if there was something
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  Speaker 1: you could tell your younger self, what would that be.
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  Speaker 1: One last highlight this week doctor Darien Sutton. I talked
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  Speaker 1: to him for the show a few months ago now,
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  Speaker 1: right when the coronavirus pandemic began. He is just a
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  Speaker 1: wealth of knowledge and literally I have been so refreshed
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  Speaker 1: and uplifted by his positivity during this time, but also
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  Speaker 1: just so grateful for what he has to offer. He's
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  Speaker 1: constantly bringing up new studies. His Instagram is super informational
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  Speaker 1: and I think you guys should really just give it
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  Speaker 2: And that's all for this week.
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  Speaker 1: A huge shout out to all of the hurdlers running
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  Speaker 1: in the one Million Miles for Justice Challenge. We're up
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  Speaker 2: Y'all are the best.
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  Speaker 1: For more details on that, of course, as always in
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  Speaker 1: the show notes, another hurdle conquered.
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  Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time,