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NO EXCUSES_ GET IT DONE _ Powerful Motivational Speech _ Jocko Willink · Motivation study

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  Speaker 1: Your excuses will destroy you and take everything that you
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  Speaker 1: ever wanted from you.
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  Speaker 2: If you let them.
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  Speaker 1: When your excuses make you feel a little bit better
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  Speaker 1: about the fact that you didn't execute on what you
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  Speaker 1: needed to execute on, then they can make you feel better,
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  Speaker 1: but they're not helping you.
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  Speaker 2: They're not helping you at all.
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  Speaker 3: Why is, why does discipline equal freedom?
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  Speaker 1: Because the more discipline you have in your life, the
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  Speaker 1: more freedom you will end up with. So if you
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  Speaker 1: lack the discipline to exercise and eat healthy, you will
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  Speaker 1: end up being a slave to disease. If you lack
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  Speaker 1: the discipline to work hard, save your money, you will
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  Speaker 1: end up a slave to finances. If you lack the
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  Speaker 1: discipline to manage your time correctly, you will end up
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  Speaker 1: with no free time. If you have self-discipline, if you
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  Speaker 1: have the discipline to save your money and work hard
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  Speaker 1: and invest your money properly, if you have the discipline
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  Speaker 1: to manage your time correctly and not waste a bunch
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  Speaker 1: of time, if you have the discipline to exercise and
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  Speaker 1: eat healthy, you will end up with freedom. If you
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  Speaker 1: want freedom in your life, you have to have discipline.
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  Speaker 1: Because if you're a kid right now and you're eating
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  Speaker 1: Doritos off your belly, I know they taste good and
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  Speaker 1: there's some immediate gratification and I get that.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm going to tell you, it starts right now.
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  Speaker 2: Throw that bag of Doritos away. Get rid of it.
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  Speaker 2: Go do some pushups.
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  Speaker 1: Go spend $ 12 at the hardware store and hang up
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  Speaker 1: a pull-up bar in your room and start doing pull-ups.
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  Speaker 1: And if you can't do one pull-up, hang on that
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  Speaker 1: bar and you're going to start to get a little
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  Speaker 1: bit stronger. You just start to get a little bit healthier.
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  Speaker 1: You start to get more focused. You're going to start
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  Speaker 1: to become more resilient. And you're going to start to
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  Speaker 1: understand the world better. And you're going to start to
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  Speaker 1: progress in every aspect of your life. And you'll see
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  Speaker 1: that if you have that kind of discipline right now,
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  Speaker 1: you're going to end up with freedom. Because you're sad,
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  Speaker 1: now you're going to make a bunch of bad decisions
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  Speaker 1: because you're sad.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, it doesn't work like that. It doesn't work
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  Speaker 2: like that. You're sad. Okay. You get emotional sometimes. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Got it.
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  Speaker 1: Now get control of your emotions and carry on with
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  Speaker 1: your life. And sometimes you're going to get hit with
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  Speaker 1: those waves and that's okay. No, at a certain point
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  Speaker 1: you say, okay, my emotions are now leading me down
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  Speaker 1: the wrong path.
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  Speaker 2: I'm in control. I'm not going to allow my emotions
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  Speaker 2: to make my decisions. They're in the calculus.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying take your emotions out of the calculus,
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  Speaker 1: but they have to be one component of your calculus,
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  Speaker 1: not the whole equation.
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  Speaker 2: You can't pull them out of there or they'll bite you, but.
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  Speaker 1: You can't make them the overwhelming denominator of everything that
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  Speaker 1: you do, or it's going to be problematic. You have
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  Speaker 1: to start moving forward. You have to start taking steps forward.
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  Speaker 1: in order to improve your vision, improve your perspective, change
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  Speaker 1: your perspective, make some kind of progress. And worst case scenario,
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  Speaker 1: you figure out that you walked the wrong direction. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: now you can go walk in the other direction. And
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  Speaker 1: that's going to be fine. But standing there lost and
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  Speaker 1: not doing anything is just waiting to die, waiting to
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  Speaker 1: starve to death.
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  Speaker 2: Don't let that happen. I had to condition people to
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  Speaker 2: take action, even in the SEAL teams. Even a young.
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  Speaker 1: SEAL leader who you would think would be by nature
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  Speaker 1: aggressive and an action taker, you put them in a
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  Speaker 1: pressure situation where there's not a ton of information and
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  Speaker 1: they need to make a decision.
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  Speaker 2: They don't want to act either.
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  Speaker 1: So one of the things that I would teach was
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  Speaker 1: that their default mode was to be aggressive.
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  Speaker 2: Their default mode was to take action. I would teach that.
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  Speaker 1: Same thing we just discussed. I wouldn't say, hey, look,
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  Speaker 1: that means you have to take action. But your default
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  Speaker 1: setting should be, I'm going to do something. Because I'd
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  Speaker 1: have a young SEAL officer and there'd be some training
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  Speaker 1: mission and there'd be a problem in a building and
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  Speaker 1: there'd be a bunch of paintball flying around in there.
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  Speaker 1: And he wouldn't want to go solve that problem. He'd
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  Speaker 1: back away from that problem. And I would have to
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  Speaker 1: go like push him in the back and say, you
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  Speaker 1: see that problem over there? You got to go solve
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  Speaker 1: that problem.
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  Speaker 2: It's not going to go away. You got to be aggressive.
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  Speaker 2: That's got to be your default mode is.
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  Speaker 1: To take action and make things happen. Because most human
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  Speaker 1: instinct is to wait. Most human instinct is to hesitate.
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  Speaker 1: Most human instinct is to let things go longer and
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  Speaker 1: stick with the status quo. And that seems to be
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  Speaker 1: on the front, the lowest risk in the situation is
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  Speaker 1: to not do anything.
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  Speaker 2: It usually appears to be the lowest risk. So to
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  Speaker 2: train people to, oh, I need to take.
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  Speaker 1: Risk some level of risk, take action, because in the
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  Speaker 1: long run, I say seven out of 10. Seven out
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  Speaker 1: of 10 times, action is better than inaction.
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  Speaker 3: If someone was on the extreme end of that disease
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  Speaker 3: of excuse and blame and all of those things, is
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  Speaker 3: there anything that you could do or you would advise
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  Speaker 3: them to do to kind of walk back from there,
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  Speaker 3: to get over the other side? Because I think we
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  Speaker 3: can all think of people in our lives, and maybe
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  Speaker 3: even ourselves at times, who have gotten into a chronic
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  Speaker 3: pattern of using excuses and blame as a form of self-defense.
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  Speaker 1: Well, unfortunately, what happens a lot, and you may or
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  Speaker 1: may not have seen this, but I would assume you've
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  Speaker 1: seen this at some point in your life. People, and
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  Speaker 1: this is a term, there's a term, it's rock bottom.
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  Speaker 1: This is a term that we hear for someone that's addicted,
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  Speaker 1: someone that's an alcoholic, someone that's physically let themselves go,
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  Speaker 1: someone that's put themselves into a situation with their finances or.
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  Speaker 2: Their work or whatever, where they reach rock bottom.
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  Speaker 1: But when the excuses all go away, and people can
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  Speaker 1: actually confront the fact that this is all because of me,
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  Speaker 1: and this is, it hurts me. but is also unbelievably empowering.
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  Speaker 1: Because if these problems are because.
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  Speaker 2: Of me, then I'm capable of fixing these problems.
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  Speaker 1: So even though extreme ownership hurts and is painful, it's
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  Speaker 1: also liberating because now you have control over your fate
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  Speaker 1: and over your destiny.
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  Speaker 2: And that is a glorious thing.
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  Speaker 3: Our excuse is the opposite. Excuses and blame, is that
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  Speaker 3: the opposite of extreme ownership? That is the opposite of
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  Speaker 3: extreme ownership.
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  Speaker 1: Extreme ownership is this went wrong, this failed, didn't accomplish this,
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  Speaker 1: and it's not the fault of my boss, it's not
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  Speaker 1: the fault of my girlfriend, it's not the fault of
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  Speaker 1: my parents, it's not the fault of the weather, it's
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  Speaker 1: my fault. And I'm going to take ownership of it
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  Speaker 1: and I'm going to fix it. That's what extreme ownership is.
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  Speaker 1: And this is a very difficult thing to do because
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  Speaker 1: it hurts. Because when you look around at your life
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  Speaker 1: and you look around at your job and your financial
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  Speaker 1: situation and your relationship and your physical health, and when
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  Speaker 1: you look at all those things and all the problems
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  Speaker 1: that you may have with those things, and you say,
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  Speaker 1: the reason.
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  Speaker 2: I have all those problems is because of me, that
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  Speaker 2: can hurt. That can sting.
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  Speaker 1: And a lot of times our ego rejects that and
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  Speaker 1: makes excuses and lies.
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  Speaker 2: And then we don't have to change anything. And then
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  Speaker 2: nothing changes.
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  Speaker 1: What you learn to do is, okay, I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: go forward. There's no, I can't get out of this.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to go forward. I'm not going to quit.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm going to go forward, bring it on. If
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  Speaker 1: I'm in the woods, which is where you are right now,
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  Speaker 1: you're in the woods and you don't know where to
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  Speaker 1: go because the wife's.
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  Speaker 2: Not there anymore. The job's not there anymore.
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  Speaker 1: You don't know where to go right now. So if
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  Speaker 1: you're in the woods and you don't know where to go,
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  Speaker 1: start walking. What you learn to do is, okay, I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to go forward. There's no, I can't get out
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  Speaker 1: of this.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to go forward. I'm not going to quit.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm going to go forward, bring it on.
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  Speaker 1: And I think if there's anything that you learn, it's to.
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  Speaker 2: Keep pushing through things that suck.
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  Speaker 3: Can you teach that? Let's go. We're going to come
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  Speaker 3: back in the water. Let's go.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's one of the few things that you
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  Speaker 1: learn in basic SEAL training is to shrug your shoulders
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  Speaker 1: and go forward.
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  Speaker 2: This is just something that's going to suck, and you're
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  Speaker 2: going to have to push through it.