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364. One Day, This Could Be You | What Building Secure Attachment Actually Feels Like · Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

• 0:04
  SPEAKER_01: Hi, love.
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  SPEAKER_01: Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence.
• 0:15
  SPEAKER_01: I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee.
• 0:22
  SPEAKER_01: Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce.
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_01: Are you ladies ready to spill the tea on what retreat week was like for us after the fact?
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_01: Bring it a full circle.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_01: We shared our pre-retreat thoughts and feelings.
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_01: These are our post-retreat reflections.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: Everybody asked me what it was like.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: Like my friends, you know, and like my fan band, they were like, how was it?
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: And like the only words I can use is like fucking magical.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's all I can come up with for words.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_01: That's it.
• 1:04
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's all I'm telling everybody.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_01: Magical.
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  SPEAKER_01: What was the magic for you personally?
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like it was a lot of things, but it boiled down to the way that we worked as a team, the three of us.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: It was so cohesive.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: We were so on.
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  SPEAKER_00: We were so in tune with each other, so supportive of what each of us needed that weekend to support and be able to hold space for not only them, but each other.
• 1:34
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that we had these beautiful moments as a team where we were also away from the group that really solidified our connection, vulnerability, closeness, experience, like all of the things, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been cultivating.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So like for me, it was like holy shit, like there, I just felt incredibly seen held.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like felt like I could also support you guys.
• 1:57
  SPEAKER_00: Like I felt so much in self the whole weekend.
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: You know, the other piece for me, and I talk about this going back to Myrtle, you know, Myrtle was, you know, Myrtle held close to 15 years of my life.
• 2:08
  SPEAKER_00: And so going back there.
• 2:11
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like going back there last year, the first year we had the retreat, I I purposely went a little bit before too, because I felt like I there were things I needed to process.
• 2:21
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but this year it felt completely different and it shifted the way that I viewed it there.
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and saw it as a place of like, you know, this place healed me.
• 2:31
  SPEAKER_00: It contributed to a big part of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I wrote an email about that last week, too, to our online community about how impactful that was.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so to know that that city that healed me also has an impact on other women's healing and as part of their chapters is so incredibly special for me.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's just like fuck, like it was so it was so good.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: And I found myself again not being in such a hurry to leave this time and escape.
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: We did that totally differently this year, right?
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_01: Like hung together the last morning and packed it up together, and yeah.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: Your Myrtle Beach container, your divorce container, you got to share it with other women.
• 3:10
  SPEAKER_01: Also, yeah, you got to share your container.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_01: That's pretty cool.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's pretty cool if you think about it.
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_01: You can access the full episode by becoming a premium subscriber, which is just five dollars a month.
• 3:22
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• 3:42
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