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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: 4 Big Takeaways From the Pandemic Year None of Us Expected · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdlers, Emily a body here bringing you another installment
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  Speaker 1: of five Minute Friday from Hurdle. Y'all know the drill.
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  Speaker 1: I offer up a story, something I'm thinking about this week.
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  Speaker 1: I give you a thought prompt to take you into
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  Speaker 1: the weekend or whenever you are listening to this. Then
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  Speaker 1: I share with you my highlights of the week, my
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  Speaker 1: content pics, and finish things off by answering a listener question.
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  Speaker 1: I would love to answer your question on the show.
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  Speaker 1: To submit a question to be featured here on Hurdle,
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  Speaker 1: hear your voice in the feed, you can do it
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  Speaker 1: click on over to the show notes. In there, there
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  Speaker 1: is a link where you can leave me a voicemail.
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  Speaker 1: Super easy, peasy, and spoiler, nothing is off limits today. Wow,
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  Speaker 1: three hundred and sixty five days. I feel like that's
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  Speaker 1: the thing that we've been reading about right. This week
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  Speaker 1: marks the one year timeline of us being officially quote
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  Speaker 1: unquote in a pandemic, and I have, man, I've been
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  Speaker 1: thinking a lot about this. I've been thinking about the
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  Speaker 1: last year, what I've learned, how I have changed, how
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  Speaker 1: I have grown, And for five Minute Friday Day, I
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  Speaker 1: want to share with you a few of my takeaways,
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  Speaker 1: I would argue that this year was, despite being completely unexpected,
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  Speaker 1: something that everyone needed. And when I say that, I
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  Speaker 1: will not I'm not downplaying, of course, the tragedy that
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  Speaker 1: has happened in our country and across the world. Like
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  Speaker 1: the amount of loss it is, it's heartbreaking. Right our
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  Speaker 1: lives will ever be what they were before the coronavirus pandemic,
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  Speaker 1: and in my eyes, for some reasons, we are better
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  Speaker 1: for it. When I say that, I say that because
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  Speaker 1: challenge helps us grow, and adversity helps us grow. And
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  Speaker 1: although it's fun and good and wonderful when the great
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  Speaker 1: things happen in our lives, it's the hurdle moments and
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  Speaker 1: the hurdles that really teach us something.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 1: So with that said, I'm going to dive into a
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  Speaker 1: few of the lessons that I've learned over the past year.
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  Speaker 1: The first lesson is that it starts with you. Now.
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  Speaker 1: Before the pandemic, I know I can definitely raise my
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  Speaker 1: hand about this, it was so easy for us to
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  Speaker 1: just run from things, right, and not just physically, although
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  Speaker 1: I certainly did my fair share of that, but like
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  Speaker 1: frequently traveling, making regular plans, spending long hours in the office,
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  Speaker 1: this like hustle culture that has been like praised for
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  Speaker 1: the last few years. So once the world shut down,
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  Speaker 1: we were all forced to just sit with ourselves. And
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  Speaker 1: for some many maybe they hadn't done that before, right,
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  Speaker 1: And so the past year gave us the opportunity, and
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  Speaker 1: I use that word very strategically, it gave us the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to get good being on our own. And it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't matter if you spent the past year with your family,
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  Speaker 1: if you spent it alone, if you spent it in
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  Speaker 1: a four hundred square foot apartment, if you spent it
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  Speaker 1: like on the beach in Tulum, like wherever you spent
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  Speaker 1: the past year, without a doubt, you had the opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to get better with just you and yourself because a
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  Speaker 1: lot of the distractions were removed. I will be the
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  Speaker 1: first person to tell you that that extra time alone,
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  Speaker 1: that extra time sitting with yourself, can be really difficult, right,
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  Speaker 1: It can feel really uncomfortable and really just not ideal.
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  Speaker 1: But again with this lesson that it starts with you.
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  Speaker 1: You have to get good at being you on your
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  Speaker 1: own as you are, or working on who it is
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  Speaker 1: that you are, before you can truly show up for
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  Speaker 1: other people in the greatest, most beautiful capacity. So I
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  Speaker 1: encourage you. I know so many of us have put
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  Speaker 1: in this work over the past year, but keep doing it.
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  Speaker 1: Don't let the lessons and the progress and the things
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  Speaker 1: that you have done over the past year that have
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  Speaker 1: empowered you to be a better you go by the wayside.
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  Speaker 1: Once we kind of get back into the quote unquote
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  Speaker 1: normal or more normal swing of things, the next lesson kindness. First,
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  Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, we were all going through the same thing,
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  Speaker 1: so it was easy to understand that the people that
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  Speaker 1: we may be interacting with on a zoom call could
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  Speaker 1: be dealing with an insurmountable amount of anxiety. Right this year,
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  Speaker 1: kindness became super important currency for a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: who may not have prioritized it before. For me, doing
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  Speaker 1: good being kind two of my biggest values to things
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  Speaker 1: that are super important to me. Living my life with
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  Speaker 1: the understanding that I don't necessarily know what is going
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  Speaker 1: on with other people, even though in the last year,
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  Speaker 1: again I may have understood it a little bit better.
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  Speaker 1: But I will say this, this year, it felt like
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  Speaker 1: we all received this kindness a little bit more regularly.
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  Speaker 1: We doled it out to each other a little bit
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  Speaker 1: more freely, and I would encourage you to continue doing
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  Speaker 1: that going forward. My next lesson, You've got to be flexible.
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  Speaker 1: Wonderful things come from the pivot, and I'm sure that
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  Speaker 1: you can relate. Last March, I was frightened. I've talked
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  Speaker 1: about this on the show before, but I went through
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  Speaker 1: a phase where I felt a little bit paralyzed by
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  Speaker 1: the fact that I had rarely recorded an episode of
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle remotely going in to Mark twenty twenty, and so
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  Speaker 1: to have to learn a new skill to figure out
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  Speaker 1: how to make this product from home, to figure out
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  Speaker 1: how to make this as easy as possible for my guests,
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  Speaker 1: to just make this all happen. I was frightened, but
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  Speaker 1: I learned in this process the importance of flexibility. We
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  Speaker 1: have to trust that whatever life steers us away from,
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  Speaker 1: whatever is not happening in our lives, life is happening
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  Speaker 1: for us, not to us. So even though you know
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  Speaker 1: things might not be playing out as we had hoped,
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  Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that something good can't be coming down
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  Speaker 1: the pipe. That's exactly what I talked about in last
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  Speaker 1: week's episode of Five Minute Friday and the last lesson
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  Speaker 1: I want to share with you today the most important
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  Speaker 1: things in life, they're not things, you know. A highlight
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  Speaker 1: for me was really to get more time with my family.
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  Speaker 1: And I say that in a way that I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: getting to physically spend much time with them, but I
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  Speaker 1: started I think from I think from March until like,
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  Speaker 1: who knows, maybe August, there wasn't a day that went
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  Speaker 1: by that I didn't speak to both of my parents.
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  Speaker 1: When I think about pre pandemic life like that was
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  Speaker 1: certainly not a sentence in my vocabulary. And what was
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  Speaker 1: really special was because we were all hanging out at
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  Speaker 1: home for the most part, we were on FaceTime, and
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  Speaker 1: we were connecting, and we were having conversations that we
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  Speaker 1: hadn't had in a long time, and just getting to
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  Speaker 1: really embrace this time with each other and in a
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  Speaker 1: life where oftentimes you know, we're chasing deals or a
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  Speaker 1: money or a certain job title or what have you like.
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  Speaker 1: All of those things they come and go. But your relationships,
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  Speaker 1: those the right ones, They are with you for a lifetime.
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  Speaker 1: So value these relationships, value your values, value the intangible
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  Speaker 1: things that bring joy to your life, because those are
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  Speaker 1: the things that really matter. My prompt for you this week.
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  Speaker 1: What is one of the biggest lessons you have learned
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  Speaker 1: in three hundred and sixty five days of a pandemic? Again,
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  Speaker 1: what is one of the biggest lessons that you have
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  Speaker 1: learned in three hundred and sixty five days of a pandemic?
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  Speaker 1: I would love, actually for this one. Tag me on Instagram.
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  Speaker 1: Let me know where you're at. You don't need to
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  Speaker 1: talk to the camera. Not going to force that here.
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  Speaker 1: I just encourage you. Write a little something, shoot me
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  Speaker 1: a DM keep me in the loop. I'm curious. Highlights
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  Speaker 1: of the week. Links to all of this can be
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  Speaker 1: found in the show notes. First up, listen Sunday the
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  Speaker 1: Bye Miguel and Taney. I cannot stop listening to this song.
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  Speaker 1: It is my jam of the week. I'm calling it
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  Speaker 1: right now. It's the song of the summer. You are
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  Speaker 1: welcome watch one of these fifty best comedies on Netflix
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  Speaker 1: You are welcome. On that to do list, you can
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  Speaker 1: add another one of my highlights for the week, which
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  Speaker 1: listener question from Haley.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, Emily, this is Haley. Thank you so much for
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  Speaker 2: all you do for the hurdle community and how honest
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  Speaker 2: you are about your running journey and the ups and downs.
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  Speaker 2: I'm curious if you could take us back to when
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  Speaker 2: you decided to run your first marathon. As someone who's
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  Speaker 2: a runner but has done half marathons and never taken
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  Speaker 2: on the full marathon and is maybe downright terrified but
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  Speaker 2: looking for a challenge, I wonder what advice you would offer.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks again, ooh good, good one here. Hey, I would
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  Speaker 1: say that my biggest piece of advice for aspiring marathoners
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  Speaker 1: is just to believe in yourself that you are capable.
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  Speaker 1: You know, before my first marathon, I certainly never thought
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  Speaker 1: that I would be able to run a full and
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  Speaker 1: I think it's one of those things that that's what
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  Speaker 1: the training program is for, right, That's what the training
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  Speaker 1: plan does for you. It helps you get to a
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  Speaker 1: point where you believe in yourself that you can start
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  Speaker 1: to visualize yourself going beyond that half marathon at thirteen
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  Speaker 1: point one miles and going longer, staying in it for longer,
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  Speaker 1: so believe that you can do it. Piece of advice
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  Speaker 1: number two, and of course, follow a smart training plan.
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  Speaker 1: So if you aspire to run a marathon, the last
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  Speaker 1: thing that you should be doing is just waking up
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  Speaker 1: one morning, rolling out of bed and amy to go
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  Speaker 1: out there and run twenty six point two miles. Instead,
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  Speaker 1: follow a smart training program. Talk to an expert, perhaps
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  Speaker 1: a run coach or a trainer that can help guide
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  Speaker 1: you through your process, giving you a suggestion of how
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  Speaker 1: to level up. Of course, there are tons of different
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  Speaker 1: great running programs that you can find online, whether it
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  Speaker 1: be a marathon training program through Nike Running Club or
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  Speaker 1: something on runners World. But make sure again you are
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  Speaker 1: following a training program, you are doing it smart, and
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  Speaker 1: you're staving off injury in the process by not ramping
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  Speaker 1: up too fast. That is it for this week. If
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  Speaker 1: you haven't checked out Megan Roop's episode from Monday, Founder
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  Speaker 1: of the School Society or Calling quickly on the five
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  Speaker 1: different types of runs to add to your routine. With
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  Speaker 1: this week's hurdle moment, I highly encourage you to give
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  Speaker 1: them both a listen. Make sure you are subscribed to
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  Speaker 1: the show notes, as well as if you want to
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  Speaker 1: join in on next month's book club, we are going
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  Speaker 1: to be reading the Art of Gathering. Book link and
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  Speaker 1: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.