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Shot out of a Cannon · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everybody, We are scrubbing.
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  Speaker 1: In Happy Monday, July twenty seventh for everybody listening. Shot
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  Speaker 1: out of a Cannon today.
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  Speaker 2: She is in a timestamp mood. Yes, she's focused on
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  Speaker 2: time stamps today.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm focused on improving our podcast with time stamps.
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  Speaker 1: With time stamps, I think it's gonna help, you know, one,
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  Speaker 1: one little improvement at a time.
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  Speaker 2: Not full video episodes, but timestamps.
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  Speaker 3: Well, don't get me started out. Don't get me started
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  Speaker 3: on that.
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  Speaker 1: I've been fighting that good fight for years and I
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  Speaker 1: have to pick and choose my battles. This is something
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I can take on my own and
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  Speaker 1: it's just a small sliver of improvement.
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  Speaker 2: That I think you love.
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  Speaker 3: Is a consumer of podcast?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, So you're shot out of the canon.
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  Speaker 2: What does that mean?
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  Speaker 1: Shot out of a cannon means like I'm full four
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  Speaker 1: let's go bring it on type of thing.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I have to bleep that, John.
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  Speaker 2: What prompted that energy?
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  Speaker 3: Well, I'll tell you Becca.
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  Speaker 1: So actually I got a lot of really sweet dms
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  Speaker 1: from last week's podcast that I want to say thank
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  Speaker 1: you to our listeners because it is really really sweet
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  Speaker 1: that people care that much and it means a lot
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  Speaker 1: to me. I don't want to cry, so I'm not
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  Speaker 1: going to cry.
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  Speaker 2: Also, I want to say that so many people resonate
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  Speaker 2: and relate, whether they're on the journey right now or
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  Speaker 2: have you experience the journey.
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  Speaker 1: So and a lot of people were dming me like
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  Speaker 1: why do you not talk about your fertility journey on
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  Speaker 1: the podcast? And I there's several reasons, the main one
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  Speaker 1: being that we decided BECA and I. You and I
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  Speaker 1: decided years ago that we wanted the podcast to be
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  Speaker 1: a place of joy, levity, light. We didn't want to
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  Speaker 1: bring seriousness into it.
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  Speaker 2: Remember this, Yeah, but not so much about our personal lives.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think that. I don't feel aligned on that.
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  Speaker 2: Oh really, yeah, I don't really feel aligned on that
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  Speaker 2: that part of it.
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  Speaker 3: Because here's the thing.
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  Speaker 1: If I come in here every week and I'm sitting
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  Speaker 1: here and I cry every week because I'm actually sharing
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  Speaker 1: what I'm going through.
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  Speaker 3: It's so sad.
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  Speaker 1: It's like sad, I'm crying every week. It's not a
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  Speaker 1: like light place. It's not a happy place, but it's
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  Speaker 1: triggering for people that it.
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  Speaker 2: Can be triggering for people, and we can when we
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  Speaker 2: talk about it, put you know, a trigger warning. But
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  Speaker 2: I also think it's your life and what you're going through,
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  Speaker 2: like it's the biggest thing in your life right now.
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  Speaker 3: Really Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And also two tiered tiered step two huh is coming
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  Speaker 1: to work gives me like an escape. It's like the
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  Speaker 1: only time in my day where I'm like not constantly
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  Speaker 1: thinking about it. Okay, So it's like that that three.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like it's triggering for people because it's all
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  Speaker 1: I see. It's like my whole algorith them like I'm
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  Speaker 1: it's just it's so consuming. So it's like again, this
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  Speaker 1: is a podcast where we go for like levity and
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  Speaker 1: lighthearted and like fun.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And the final thing is I'm just up to my
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  Speaker 1: ears with advice, like I can't have any more in
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  Speaker 1: my ear, you know. I'm coming home every day with
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  Speaker 1: like a different coworker that saying, have you tried musin X.
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  Speaker 1: It helps like your mucus and your vagina thicken or whatever,
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  Speaker 1: you know. And then I'm coming home and telling Robbie
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  Speaker 1: I want to try musinx and he's like babe, like.
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  Speaker 2: You do really ingest advice as opposed to thank you.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm I'm good, I'm on my own journey with this.
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  Speaker 1: I yes, I ingest, and I also too don't want
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  Speaker 1: to like people are always ask me questions and I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't not a doctor, So the last thing that
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  Speaker 1: I want to do is like share what I'm doing,
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  Speaker 1: because I'm just throwing spaghetti at the wall at this point,
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  Speaker 1: just seeing what sticks, no pun intended.
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  Speaker 2: I think that you're I don't really think you have
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  Speaker 2: to ex blame yourself on why you don't want to
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  Speaker 2: talk about it, but I do think it's totally up
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  Speaker 2: to you how much you want to talk about my
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  Speaker 2: whole thing. Well, I do want this podcast to be
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  Speaker 2: a safe place, but this I mean a happy place
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  Speaker 2: and like light. But I also like we are living
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  Speaker 2: life and going through things, and we've always shared, Like
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  Speaker 2: even through your dating experience, you shared when you were down.
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  Speaker 2: You know, there's been times where we've shared things that
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  Speaker 2: aren't exactly happy, go lucky, and that's okay. So I
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  Speaker 2: never want you to feel that you don't have space
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  Speaker 2: to talk about it on here because of like me.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, no, and not you at all, but I
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  Speaker 1: do we specifically. I remember vividly having these conversations with
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  Speaker 1: you years ago about planemic, and.
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  Speaker 2: It was like it was about the state of the world,
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  Speaker 2: which can be very heavy, yes.
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  Speaker 1: But we were very much like aligned in the sense
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  Speaker 1: of like, we don't want heaviness, we don't want any
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  Speaker 1: of that. We just want this to be like joy, light, lighthearted.
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  Speaker 2: But I don't think it was relating to I don't
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  Speaker 2: think I took on that agreement with it being about lives.
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  Speaker 1: I honestly never experienced anything like this in my life,
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  Speaker 1: so this is the first time for.
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  Speaker 2: Me, I know. But I'm just saying, share as much
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  Speaker 2: or as little as you want. And there's gonna be
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  Speaker 2: people who are triggered by it because it's traumatizing, or
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  Speaker 2: they're going through it and they don't want to see anymore.
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  Speaker 2: Or there's gonna be people who are like, it's so
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  Speaker 2: nice to hear someone talking about it and going through
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  Speaker 2: this because it makes me feel like I'm not alone.
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  Speaker 2: And you're always gonna have different versions of what people
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  Speaker 2: are going through and how they resonate with things.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I'm I don't even call it, I call
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  Speaker 3: it fertility. Journey.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not people like infertility. I'm like, I don't I'm
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  Speaker 1: not infertile, yo, Like my levels are high.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so let's get that straight.
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  Speaker 2: What do we call this lack of control journey?
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  Speaker 3: Like, yeah, like let go let god journey.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I was like I've seen so my algorithm is so
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  Speaker 1: much like the fertility journey for a type a person
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  Speaker 1: is such a struggle because you're so used to just like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: you put in the work and you get your outcome,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like this is just so
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  Speaker 1: not that, like it's.
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  Speaker 2: A crazy not lesson, but it's a good practice of
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  Speaker 2: letting go of control because I don't like to do that.
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying, a good practice for someone who doesn't like
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  Speaker 2: to do that. You know, I don't like to do speak.
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  Speaker 1: Practice is not making perfect. Let me tell you I've
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  Speaker 1: been practicing. It's not working.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, it is. It's just it's on its own timeline,
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  Speaker 2: and you don't like something not being on your timeline.
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  Speaker 2: Which we knew that about. Even Robbie proposing that was
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  Speaker 2: a whole thing too. Oh, you didn't have control over
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  Speaker 2: when he was going to.
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  Speaker 1: Propose that man, and he made you practice well, Tortoise
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  Speaker 1: the turtle over there. I think back on that, I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: she really took his time with all due respect in
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  Speaker 1: a timely manner.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, as someone who got engaged seven years after the fact,
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  Speaker 2: I felt like he did a perfect time timelife.
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  Speaker 3: If I were engaged to you, we'd have some talks.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, y'all do have talks because we went and
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  Speaker 2: had a little small day.
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  Speaker 1: So oh wait, hold on, I meant to get to
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  Speaker 1: somewhere about this fertility conversation. Why I'm out of cannon, No, no,
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  Speaker 1: we can go back to that. But why I'm shot
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  Speaker 1: out of the cannon is because I got my period
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  Speaker 1: and I decided that I'm taking a month off of
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  Speaker 1: just all the everything everything in my head, and I've
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  Speaker 1: like refocused into just like work.
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  Speaker 2: And live and laughing and love and live.
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  Speaker 1: And laughing and loving, and so I do I feel
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  Speaker 1: a little bit lighter. And so I'm like trying to
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  Speaker 1: rail and rejigger the podcast. I want to like make
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  Speaker 1: the podcast better. I want to like keep working out
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  Speaker 1: and like kind of get my physical shape back into
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  Speaker 1: you know, lots to take on in one month. But anyways,
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  Speaker 1: that's why I find this middle ground.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe we don't go from wanting stream to the next
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  Speaker 2: and we just like merge the two together.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, we'll see. But anyways, I'm feeling good.
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  Speaker 2: I'm glad to hear you got your period.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I was feeling what I would describe as menstrel ludial energy. Yes, well,
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  Speaker 2: we went to so many moms. I feel like every
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  Speaker 2: year we go to the SPA for Tony's birthday. But
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  Speaker 2: she feels like it's only happened twice before. But anyways,
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  Speaker 2: I feel like it's.
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  Speaker 3: Three times out of the last I went to my
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  Speaker 3: for my birthday last year.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's what I was. Anyways, we love a
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  Speaker 2: spa day tradition. Yeah, And so we were at the
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  Speaker 2: SPA and I'm like, we're just having a great relaxing
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  Speaker 2: time and then Tanya goes, I just miss you. Mind you.
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  Speaker 2: I deal with this with my beautiful, wonderful fiance as well.
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  Speaker 2: When we're in the same room and have been together NonStop,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh, well, I'm I'm here, I'm right here,
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  Speaker 2: and she was like, I just you know, I feel
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  Speaker 2: like we haven't had quality time and we're drifted. Our
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  Speaker 2: friendship has drifted apart, and I'm like, I have not
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  Speaker 2: felt this at all, So I'm so sorry I haven't
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  Speaker 2: picked up on this. But next time, just communicate with
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  Speaker 2: me so we can just re establish things. Because I'm
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  Speaker 2: feeling fine. I'm feeling good. Nothing's changed in my heart.
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  Speaker 1: And I was reassuring to hear as someone who feels
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  Speaker 1: their friend is drifting away, I feel nothing.
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  Speaker 3: I feel fine.
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  Speaker 2: No, I just have secure attachment with you.
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  Speaker 3: Ah. Yes, it must be nice, so.
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  Speaker 2: I said, Unfortunately, whether you try to push me away
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  Speaker 2: or not, I'm not going anywhere. We had to re
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  Speaker 2: establish things. So I didn't know we were drifting, but
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  Speaker 2: we're back.
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  Speaker 1: So it was a combination of things. Because I've been
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  Speaker 1: on one.
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  Speaker 2: I'm upset. I didn't tell her about the Taylor Swish wedding,
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  Speaker 2: so okay, yes, however, that's why she felt like we
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  Speaker 2: were drifting.
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  Speaker 1: No, it was before. It was weak before that. But
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  Speaker 1: what I did not take into consideration was a lot
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  Speaker 1: of your emotional mental energy was going to with your
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  Speaker 1: going to your fiance for the movie release, and so
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  Speaker 1: you were a little bit distant, but but rightfully so,
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  Speaker 1: you had a lot going on, which I wasn't really
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  Speaker 1: thinking about I wasn't that wasn't in the forefront in
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  Speaker 1: my mind. I'm like, she's just not available to me,
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  Speaker 1: and like she hates me. And now she's not telling
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  Speaker 1: me about Taylor and Travis's wedding, and now she did
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  Speaker 1: not hear for my birthday and she hates me.
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  Speaker 2: I asked about like go go, and then it's brought
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  Speaker 2: back up in the conversation of a strip.
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  Speaker 1: So anyways, anyways, a lot of progesterone in my system
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  Speaker 1: combode with that, combode with Haley's movie coming out.
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  Speaker 3: I was just feeling a lot of things and I.
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  Speaker 2: Need I need to get away. I think I think
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  Speaker 2: I need a break, just someone people just giving to me,
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  Speaker 2: filling me up.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I'm here, I'm here to do that now, right, Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'm good.
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  Speaker 2: I'll be seeking that out.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah yeah. But I want to miss you. I mean,
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  Speaker 3: I feel the same way about Robbie what.
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  Speaker 2: You've shared on your story. Yeah. And then he actually
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  Speaker 2: initiated the conversation.
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  Speaker 3: He said I miss you, which he never does.
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  Speaker 1: So I was like, you've trained him well, and I
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  Speaker 1: was like so taken aback by it.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, you finally understand the feeling. Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 3: because I'm like it's.
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  Speaker 1: We Yes, I see you every day, so it's like,
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  Speaker 1: how can I miss you? But like the quality time's
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  Speaker 1: not there because we've been constantly We worked during the day,
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  Speaker 1: so we're not together during the day, and then we've
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  Speaker 1: had a social event every single night, and then we
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  Speaker 1: were in San Diego, so it was like we just
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  Speaker 1: had and then the week before we had the kids, so.
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  Speaker 3: There was just no quality time.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I messaged telling you on her story and I
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  Speaker 2: was like, I just am so happy I'll found each other.
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  Speaker 3: Same, same, yeah, And I think about that a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Whenever I get like sad about the fertility stuff, I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: at least I have a partner in life at is
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  Speaker 1: as amazing as he is, right truly, Yeah, carries me through.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, tgfr Stable. Thank God for Robbie. Yeah yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: We were always looking for your study.
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  Speaker 3: Eddie, and I found him, I know, thank God.
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  Speaker 2: So you want to say to you this weekend?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, would you do this weekend?
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  Speaker 2: Well? So Haley was out of town, so Friday night
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  Speaker 2: I was just like a lone ranger and I ordered
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  Speaker 2: every meal to my home. I only talked to Haley
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  Speaker 2: on the phone. That's the only person I actually spoke
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  Speaker 2: out loud to other than Phoebe, which I realized I
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  Speaker 2: talked to her a lot.
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  Speaker 3: I talked to her when it's just us in the house.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And then I realized, I'm essentially talking to myself,
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  Speaker 2: but I do it a lot. Like I was really
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  Speaker 2: thinking about how often I'm like saying my little ritual
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  Speaker 2: things to her, you know her in the world.
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  Speaker 3: You always talk to me.
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  Speaker 2: No, but I didn't. Sorry, I didn't want to talk.
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  Speaker 2: I was like happy to be silent, you know. But anyways,
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  Speaker 2: I was Carson and Alley came over with their son,
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  Speaker 2: their one year old son, and I was telling them.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, Friday, I only talked to Haley, like,
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  Speaker 2: that's the only time I spoke out loud. And I
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  Speaker 2: just sat in silence. And he was like, and you
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  Speaker 2: just ordered every meal to your door. And I was
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  Speaker 2: like yeah. And he's like, wow, that's a dream. He's like,
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  Speaker 2: you don't get that when you have when you have
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  Speaker 2: a child.
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  Speaker 3: That's honestly not my dream.
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  Speaker 2: I know it's not. It's not everyone's dream, yeah, but
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  Speaker 2: I know it's yours.
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  Speaker 3: I'm happy for you.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you. I had a great time. I got olive
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  Speaker 2: garden delivered and what else, Well, I had ice cream
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  Speaker 2: and then also snacks late at night, and then I
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  Speaker 2: had hi that's not neither here nor there.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah that does matter, It really doesn't, it really does.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think I was high that night, oh yeah, yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 2: but anyways, I would do that on a sober night
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  Speaker 2: as well. Yeah. So I was just vibing by myself.
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  Speaker 2: And then Saturday I had a day with children. I
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  Speaker 2: Alian Carson came over and swam, and then that night
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  Speaker 2: I went to the park Huntington Gardens with Hailey's sister
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  Speaker 2: and then.
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  Speaker 3: Oh it's the Huntington Gardens. Is it pretty?
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, it's gorgeous.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. Everybody tells me that it's beautiful.
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  Speaker 2: And they talked aren't allowed, no, Yeah, but they had
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  Speaker 2: a swing band played. They do like summer concert so
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  Speaker 2: it's like people all bring their like picnics and stuff.
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  Speaker 2: So I went with Haley's sister and then her two kids,
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  Speaker 2: niece and nephew, and it was really fun, so hot,
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  Speaker 2: just so hot, but I was doing cartwheels and round
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  Speaker 2: offs because there was an open field and I just
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  Speaker 2: felt youthful. My whole body is in pain. Yeah, like
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  Speaker 2: every muscle.
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  Speaker 3: It creeps up on you and you do stuff like that.
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  Speaker 2: But it felt so easy doing it, Like I was like,
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  Speaker 2: it's like riding a bike.
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  Speaker 1: I just whenever I play in the pool with the kids.
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  Speaker 1: The next day, I'm like.
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  Speaker 2: Aha, my shoulders maybe into some stretch glasses or something.
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  Speaker 1: Let me tell you it's coming back. I'm doing it
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  Speaker 1: this month. This is the month for me to get
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  Speaker 1: it back.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Is this like the exit of tender Tanya? What's happening? Wonderful?
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  Speaker 3: That extreme? I still love, Like I'm still gonna like
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  Speaker 3: sleep and kitten heels. Yeah, and we're not like going
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  Speaker 3: to the clue or anything like that.
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  Speaker 2: But but like if we went and had dinner, would
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  Speaker 2: you get a drink? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: I had a drink on Friday too. Actually, how was
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  Speaker 1: it amazing? Except you know what I realized, Well, I'll
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  Speaker 1: tell you when we come back.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, we're back.
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  Speaker 3: We're back. Do you know what I realized? But I
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  Speaker 3: don't like drinking.
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  Speaker 2: The tease of a century. But you just said it
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  Speaker 2: was amazing.
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  Speaker 1: It was in the moment.
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  Speaker 3: So here's the thing.
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  Speaker 2: I just had this conversation with Ali.
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  Speaker 3: Oh really Yeah, So Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So my we had like a really fun dinner and
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  Speaker 1: my inlaws. My in laws wanted to take me out
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: for my birthday. What I also realized when you don't
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: have like a activity for your birthday, like you don't
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: have like a dinner or anything like that, you want
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: a lot of little activities with with a lot of
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: people my birthday celebrate you, yes, which is so nice.
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: So I'm like, I feel like I've been celebrating my
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: I'm going to lunch tomorrow for my birthday. I'm like
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: I've been celebrating my birthday for two weeks now.
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: Fun so loved. Oh what is the the my house is?
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: What is the saying where people complain about things?
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: About complaining? I love it so nice, Like you know
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: what I'm talking about.
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: When people come like, yeah, some mistake's to buttery, the
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: lobsters to lobstery. No, not a lobstery anyways.
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: I understand, but it is nice.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: So I went to my in laws took me to
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: dinner and it was a really fun dinner. It's like
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: this restaurant that I love. And I had a glass
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: of wine.
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: Okay, then I.
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: Basically finished pauline A's glass of wine.
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: Then my mother in law was like flirting with not
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: flirting with, like trying to talk to this job at
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: the table, charming to like set Pauline up, and so
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: they sent over champagne. Wow, So I had what is
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: that one and a half plus champagne? So two and
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: a half drinks by the time I got home that
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: night at a headache.
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: Champagne destroys me.
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: I literally had I was like, how am I hungover
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: before the next day? Like this, this is some.
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: Crazy I even drink in like a year, right.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: I'll have like a little bit like when I get
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: my period, I'll have, you know, a little something to
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: take the edge off. But it's not more than like
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: a half a glass of wine. I'm not you know,
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: throwing anything back really right, So yeah, it's been a minute.
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: But like the fact that I had a headache at
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: ten pm on a Friday or whatever, it was like
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: nine pm.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: I will rarely drink champagne because I immediately feel like
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: I will nap and have a headache.
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's horrible. So it's like the drinking was fun
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: in the moment.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: I had so much fun, but then I'm like, I
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: have a headache now, and I'm trying to go to
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: bed and this is gonna mess up my sleep.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: This happened when we were in Cabo, and I don't
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: know if it's just everything's better quality and stronger if
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: they just do heavier pores. But we would get a
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: drink at the pool and we were like, we need
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: to go nap.
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: Well, also because of the heat.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: It was very hot in here. Yeah, but normally you're
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: sweating it out, so you almost sometimes you feel like
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: you're actually not like, I.
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: Know, are you kid?
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: Say it's your wedding, but yeah, yes, And when.
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: We were Palm Springs and you were like throwing up
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: during our Sabrina Carpenter.
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: However, that was different because I was in the pool drinking,
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: so I wasn't even feeling.
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: How No, So the heat dehydrates you and then alcohol
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: dehydrates you.
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: It's like a double whammy.
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: Okay, Well, anyways, the whole time we were like, gosh,
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: we are such lightweights. We immediately need a nap after
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: we go to like drink. And then Ali texted me
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: and said she hasn't basically drink in a year, and
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: she said she had a margarita and she was like,
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: I feel drunk from one margerity, yeah, even why do
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: we do this?
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: And I was like, well, it's so it's when you're
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: at a social it's so fun.
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: There's nothing better than just like that first fiel or
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: first drink, feeling nothing better.
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: Nothing better. I was flying high at dinner.
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: And then you wake up and you're like, was it
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: that fun?
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: That's fine. I took some motrin and I was able
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: to sleep, So it was fun. It was that fun.
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: So yeah, I don't know, maybe I'll have like a drink.
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: With you, but well, how lucky would I be? How
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: lucky could I be?
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: Do you know what else?
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: I realize that that I'm so awkward. I always talk
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: about Zoom.
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: And stuff like that. How much I hate Zoom.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: I really hate Zoom because I just don't think I'm
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: my best self on Zoom. I had this like meeting
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: with this person from the Food Network. It was just
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: like a get to know them type thing, and I'm like,
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: I'm so awkward.
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: You probably weren't awkward I am, but what I don't
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: even I can't even picture you being awkward. I know
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: I don't have that vibe at all.
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: I don't think so either, But I left it like
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: not feeling confident and I don't like that. And I'm like,
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: it's the zoom. It's these screens.
• 20:12
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's the damn phone because I don't know, I
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: can't be one hundred percent myself through the zoom.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: Well, now you should just request in person meetings.
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll come to you.
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll come wherever you are.
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah, whatever city you live in, I'm there.
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: You should just say before we if you have to
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: do a zoom, you should say, can we start with
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: an icebreaker and just play the Guess Who game?
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: Really quick? An excellent idea. It might take a while.
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: Tell them to allow fifteen minutes you know start time.
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, could work. Also, I might take an AI camp
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: this summer.
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: An AI camp?
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: What is that where I learned about AI?
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: Where like the Apple Store or they do like free
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: things for older people?
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: No, at a college campus, Thank you very much.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: I mean, I'm like, it's weird because AI is so
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: complicated my feelings towards it, because it's happening, whether I
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: want to support it or not, you know, like it's
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: it's it's inevitable.
• 21:20
  Speaker 3: In twenty years, AI is probably gonna be doing your surgeries.
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean you won't even say twenty years then,
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know. It's going fast.
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: It's going fast.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: Anyways. It's kind of like get on the boat or
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: get left behind exactly, And it's hard to know where
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: like the moral part of me stand, like my morality
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: around it, you.
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: Know, yeah, yeah yeah.
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: But it's also like it is one of those things
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: where you go, Okay, our parents didn't want to learn
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: things about technology, and if you didn't choose to learn
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: and move forward, you know, I don't know, complicated, But anyways,
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: where are you taking it? Are you going to code?
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: What are you going to do?
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: I'm not sure.
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: I'm not one hundred percent sure this is the place
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: for me. I'm just like doing some initial investigating.
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: Huh what are you trying to do with AI?
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: Just like learn about it?
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: But like what are you wanting to learn? Which you want?
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: What I can?
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Like CHATCHYBT is like my Google, my like
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: Google search, but beyond that, like what can it do
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: for me?
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: How can I help me with?
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: You say, to figure that out? You're going to pay
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: for a class?
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: Can I just help you? Know?
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: I need like I need initial base and care. Yeah,
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: hands on definitely get not through a screen, not with
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: an AI.
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: I don't need AI.
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: Teaching me about AI. That could be a disaster. Okay,
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: I feel like Robbie could.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: He seems quite knowledgeable in his he's very knowledgeable. Yes,
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: maybe he can give you some tips and then if
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: you need further you could take a class.
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: I don't know about that.
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: What else are you learning about?
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: I need something? Is over?
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: Okay? Tanya sent me up. She was like, oh Hannah
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: Berner got bowtok and her drawings. You can't smile. And
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: then Sam said, the article is from June Thirtieth's like
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: a month since Donya has missed about this happening breaking
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: news here in grubbing in Hannah Burner.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: First of all, Okay, so it's not about the breaking news,
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: because nobody comes here to get breaking news. This is
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: not the podcast for breaking news. However, it is our
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: interpretation or our perspective on that news that I think
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: is of interest.
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: What's what's your perspective?
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: Well, so I don't follow Hannah Burner.
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, you're missing out.
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: I don't follow Hannah Burner, nor do I follow the
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: Giggly squad fill and no I never watched Summer House.
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: I don't know who these people are.
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: There are two women in podcasts.
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: Well, they came late in the game.
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: They took off though, that's why surpassed us quickly.
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: That's neither here nor there. Okay, they're not in my orbit.
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: So this popped up in my like discover page and
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: I now follow the Giggly Squad because I really enjoy
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: this clip that I saw. But it was of Hannah.
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: Uh.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: She was like laughing and her face wasn't moving, and
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: so I was very intrigued of like what she got done.
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: But I thought it was also really cool that.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: She didn't like go to get it like fixed or whatever,
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: or like cancel the podcast and yeah you can get
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: it like dissolved.
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: No not you can't get filler dissolved, not like.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can go into a sauna and like heat
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: it out, because like the sauna.
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: You can get stuff done, but it's not in it.
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: I think she's probably doing all the time, assuming she's
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: probably doing everything she can.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: They could have paused their podcast for a beat, like
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean? If she I just like
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: that she's owning it.
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, a podcast isn't typically audio.
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: So I saw THEIRS, I was like a clip.
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: You know they have they have the video option, But
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: she could have just said The impressive part is that
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: she didn't say, we're only releasing audio. Yeah, for however
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: long this takes. She's giving the people the gift of
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: going through this with her because one of the funniest things,
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: like when someone goes to the dentist and gets a
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: shot and they can't smile, but hers is permanent until
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: it goes.
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: Away for like a three months.
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: So basically she had I think she got it for
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: her TMJ.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I've also had TMJ botalks and my face
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: did not do that.
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: The girl that does my bowtox Brianna. She was saying
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: that sometimes if you go to someone who specializes in
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: the TMJ aspect and not the cosmetic part, they just
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: put as much as they need it. They just are
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: focused on making your TMJ pain go away, as opposed
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: to thinking about the cosmetic repercussions. And I don't know, I.
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: Always have to think about the cosmetic repercussions.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: Spoiler alert botox. I'm just like throwing caution to the wind. Really,
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: I mean, I trust her, she knows where to put it.
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: But like I've had times where I've gone to someone
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: in my eyebrow was like up higher than the other.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: But that you can fix because you can do different muscles,
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: you know. But I think with the jaw you can't.
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: Really.
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: I think it just has to run its course. But
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: it is hilarious and Page, oh my god, the video
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: is hilarious. If you had that, I would not be
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: able to control my laughter.
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: Would be able.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: I don't even know what I would do if I
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: had that. It would stress me out. It would stress
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: me out. Yeah, it would send me into a spiral.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, No, I love her. I love She's so funny.
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah, new fans. Shout out to Hannah and Page. You
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: got a new fan and me and they've.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: Really got something going on. Girls. Welcome to the.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: Podcast Onto something over there at Giggly Squad.
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: Okay, so speaking of last wait, No, I want to
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: talk about. Did you go to Arizona State? Is that
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: where you went? No? The other one? You went to
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: the other one, the party School?
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: I did you went to the party School? Yes? What
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: was that one called University of Arizona.
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: Oh, it's tough. Why there's so many there's two Okay,
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: well I had a fifty fifty I missed a so
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: Arizona state. I'm assuming your rival, yes, rival has launched
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: is launching a degree on becoming an influencer.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: Yes, I saw this.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: What are your thoughts on this?
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: I think it's a terrible idea. Really, Yes, why Because
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: here's the thing.
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: I think that.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: A lot of a lot of kids these days, the
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: kids these days, that's like their go to. If you
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: ask all these kids what they want to be, they
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: say they want to be TikTok stars and influencers. Giving
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: them a course where they think that that's something that
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: like they all. I don't know, I just find it
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: to be problematic for our future.
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that's fair. But I also think it's
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: a specific personality of someone who, once they get into
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: the world of making videos and editing videos and doing it,
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: decid I, oh, do I have the is this what
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: I want?
• 28:03
  Speaker 5: Like?
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: Do I have the personality for this? Do I have
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: the like desire the consistency? Because the thing about it's
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: such a luck It's such a lucky thing. And I
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: think there is a way that you can use tools
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: and metrics to grow a platform like I do think
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: you could just start from the bottom and use like
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: information you have to build. But I think it's I
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: would say luck that your a video goes viral, And
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: then I think it's being someone that's interesting. Like I
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: think about Alex Earl and she was just consistent in
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: like making videos of her getting ready for her parties
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: in college and people loved that. She was so like
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: she was such a party girl and owned it, like
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: she was just who she was and she was taking
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: us along with her. And instead of staying stagnant and
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: that being even though she still like shows her getting
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: ready to go out and party and stuff, she's elevated
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: herself into this business woman and has done so much
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: more and that it's not a lack of hard work.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: Is it a fun job? Is it like a dream job? Sure?
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: But like is she working her ass off? Yeah?
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: I don't think that this is Like I think there's
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: space for everybody and anybody that wants to be an influencer.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: I think can be I think where my where I
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: feel like, And I think people do this in real
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: life where they like go to build their social media
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: whilst they also are doing something else that's like paying
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: the bills, right, and then if they catch them, if
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: they are able to get brand deals, if they're able
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: to make a living out of it, then they.
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: Let go of that job.
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: But I feel like just like going straight into it
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: taking a course and like graduating with an honor or
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: an honor and influencing or whatever.
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: I just I was just a class.
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: Wait, I agree, it is a degree.
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's concerning to me for just for that purposes,
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: because I feel like it's something that you should do
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: in tandem with alongside something else. And I just feel
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: like when your frontal lobe is not developed, you're not
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: gonna see that.
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: Here's the thing. They're already online. Every the kids are
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: already online. They're already being to do it. So if
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: they have a chance to use their brain and have
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: a marketing mindset to where even if it wasn't them
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: being an influencer working with brands and knowing how marketing
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: strategy works, I don't think it's a negative thing. If
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: they're already going to be online, why not make money.
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: Because they can learn all this on AI? Why are
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: you taking a class?
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: I hate when it goes back around like that.
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: Damn, damn, I hate that for me.
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: Anyways, it's it's interesting and it might be one of
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: those things where it was like that was a bust,
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: you know, we don't need to do that again, or
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: it might create more people good at marketing and strategy.
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: Good job as U.
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: Speaking of social media, you know, it's so freaking funny
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: and that, like.
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: I I.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: Get what's the word tricked so much on social media?
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: So there's this girl that I follow. I don't follow her. Sorry,
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: I don't follow her. She came up in my you
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: know whatever, my discovery phage.
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: And it was like.
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: I lived this amazing life and like click or like
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: comment below comment class for me to send you what.
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: Was her name? The lazy Millionaire?
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: No to send me, I'll send you my five day
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: crash course on like whatever.
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: This is right, So what do I do? Comment below class? Okay?
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: So she DMS me and she goes and it's all automated.
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: I can tell it's not her, right, it's like all
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: it's just like it's a message and it goes. In
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: order for me to send you the class, you have
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: to follow me, okay, So I go over to her
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: page click follow. Meanwhile, Robbie's right next to me during
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: this whole thing. I'm like, babe, this girl's gonna get
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: this class and like learn all this stuff. And then
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: she goes click the link and like answer these questions.
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: And Robbie was like, babe, this is some sort.
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: Of pyramid scheme. Yes, em mel, yes, and everybody's doing it.
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but why Okay, So I was gonna fall for it.
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: But then so she kept sending me the link and
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: I wasn't clicking the link, and then she like sent
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: me another automated thing like make sure you click the
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: link you to get my course, And I was like,
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: I don't want your course anymore. You said that, no,
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: but I just ignored it because then Robbie told me,
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: this's like some scheme. But then I'm like, obviously a
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: lot of people are falling for it. What's the scheme?
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: How am I getting schemed?
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: Not schem? I don't think it's that. I think it's
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: just like your it's probably like you buy my course.
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: So that's how she makes money.
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: Oh so I would have to buy it. You probably
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: she was gonna send it to me for free.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: I don't think nothing's for free. But girl, shoot, yeah,
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: it's a it's a thing. It's like a business plan. Basically,
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: it's almost like how to build it's basically becoming an
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: influencer degree.
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: So this is what they would teach you at ASU.
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: Literally it's a step.
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: By step probably generated from AI, of like how should
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: I teach people to grow their platform?
• 33:12
  Speaker 3: Wow, she got me this girl.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: It's very I mean, listen, it's business minded, it's marketing.
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: I followed this girl and she sent me a what
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: I think is of generated voice memo and it was like,
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: oh my gosh, I can't believe you followed me. That's
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: how it started to us, like oh, like she knows
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: me from watching The Bachelor or something. No, just like
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: anonymate basically that same thing, which is genius because the
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: text is the text is deceiving, but a.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: Voice note, Yeah, that's what do you want from a girl?
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: By the way, my dad okay, so you know my
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: dad's a retired psychiatrist. Yes, So everything is like this
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: like analysis of whatever.
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: And when I was.
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: There this weekend, Robin were having a conversation with him
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: about somebody, somebody in our life that wants to become
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: an influencer. And my dad's just like trying so hard
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: to like understand the life of it and like, so
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: he was like, I can't remember we brought your name
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: up and my dad was like trying to understand that.
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: So why why do people follow beca? Like what is
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: it about Becca that people say?
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: Hard to say?
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: But like we're trying to like differentiate, and like he
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: just wasn't getting it.
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: And I was like, that's exactly why.
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: Because I think when you have someone who has a
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: niche platform and you're like, oh, they follow me for this,
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: it's easier to explain to somebody.
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: But my dad knows you. So it's really the example
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: that I can give because if I gave him somebody else,
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: he would not know who they are, do you know
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: what I mean?
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: I had to give him like well, you.
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: Could just be like, oh, this is so and so
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: she's known for her cooking videos and her recipes like
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: brock your body, and so everyone follows her to get
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: recipes that are like dupes from their favorite restaurants. I'm
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: a tough It's a tough soun for someone who doesn't
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: understand what was really tough prob.
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: Me and I were really trying and then I'm just like, you.
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: Know what, that's the thing about me? I got so
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: mine literally was luck like I was on the Bachelor
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: at the right time, influencing, merged with that at the
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: right time, and it just.
• 35:19
  Speaker 3: I but you're likable, you're funny.
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: I've been able to maintain it. I've been able to
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: maintain like having that career and lifestyle. But I'm saying
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: how it happened. I didn't grow it from nothing, right,
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: And that's so hard. I think people don't realize if
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: everyone could do it, everyone would do it.
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so true. If everybody could do it, everybody
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: would do it.
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: I'm speaking of social media. I want to what, what
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: are you going to talk about?
• 35:44
  Speaker 3: Well, you look sad, so what are you going to
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: I want to talk about this breakup?
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: Oh, okay, let's do it when we come back.
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: Okay, we're back, We're back.
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: So it's not breaking news because it's happened not that
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: long ago, a few days ago. But Landria and Nick
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: from Love Island USA Season seven announced they're split.
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: And I told you this. Oh wait, they were the
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: runners up on season seven? Who won Season seven?
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: Amaya Papaya.
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: Oh that's right, that's right, that's right, that's right. Yeah,
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: so they were runners up. I didn't believe this relationship
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: from the beginning. I thought it was not real from
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: the beginning. This breakup did not shock me.
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: I was waiting for it.
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: However, I would like to say props to Landria and
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: Nick for keeping the charade going for a year, because
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: nothing irks me more as a Love Island fan than
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: these couples that break up like two weeks after they
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: leave the villa.
• 37:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so even if it was a charade.
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: And they were just playing us, I applaud it.
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: Okay, claps for Nick and Orlandria.
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: Yes, honestly because remember last well you don't watch the UK,
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: but Sammy and uh what does nuts the guy who
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: won with her last season, they broke up literally like
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: weeks after leaving the villa and they won. They won
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: the season, so did Amya Pathaya and Brian.
• 37:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but they were like not even real.
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: Oh but Samy and they were like legit.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: They were dating like half of the season. They were together.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: They were like such a strong couple. So anyways, I
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: never believe that they were a couple, but I'm happy
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: that they gave they they put in the work.
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: They said, we can do one year of this.
• 38:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah, like we're friends. That's the thing. They were friends.
• 38:02
  Speaker 3: I think it was just like a friendship.
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: I didn't follow their relationships so closely, so I only
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: saw photos of them if it got picked up where
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: people were posting clips of them somewhere, but it was
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: always at events. I never just saw like shots of
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: them like at home, like menapasta, not domesticated. Never images. Yeah,
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: but again I didn't follow it super closely. But I
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: liked that they were like we're ending and Bryce and
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: Trinity are beginning. That's why I thought that model the
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: model guy, the model boyfriend with the stunning DJ.
• 38:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, So I did see that Melanie and Sincere
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: were spotted out together recently in LA, which I thought
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: they had I just assume maybe they broke up to
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: but they were hanging out. Yeah, Haley is watching, like
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: and when I say watching, she's skimming through Love Island
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: UK this season.
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you can't skim through. It's so good a.
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: Boring, Like, I mean, it's so many conversations, and.
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: I know, I actually think about all the time the
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: editors of that show and like how many boring conversations
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: they have to watch to get like these little clips
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: to put into an hour episode every single day.
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: No, they're really the MVPs.
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah that do that.
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and Ian him having the voiceovers.
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: I watched one of his, Like, I changed.
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: My tune on Ian because I used to be like
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: so I found him. It was the reason why I
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: wouldn't watch the show. I found him so irritating, and
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: I've changed. I laugh out loud.
• 39:32
  Speaker 3: I think he's so funny. Sometimes his jokes don't hit,
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: but like you can't get a hundred, you know, oh,
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: night after night, Yeah, you can't bat a hundred. But
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: the ones that hit are very good.
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: But Haley's like, where's the host of this show? Why
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: is there no host? Because Ariana comes in for every
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: coupling and everything.
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: So I had the same thoughts. Apparently she was shooting
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: Trader's UK or.
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: Something like she's all contestant.
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like they're doing like a celebrity version and she's
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: she was like shooting, So that's why she was like gone, booked, yeah,
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: booked and busy Maya Jama. But she's back, she comes back.
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: She's been back the past couple of weeks, but it's
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: almost over. I have like not very many episodes. Well yeah,
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: and I'm so sad.
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: So she got through about six episodes last night just
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: skimming through.
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: She can't scam.
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: She's pretty easy to skim. Me figure things out pretty
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: quick when you're not watching it, like one episode at
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: a time.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: It's I know, I know, but I will say that,
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: like this season of Love Island UK has been top
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: tier entertainment for me personally.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: I told her you said that, so her expectations are high.
• 40:35
  Speaker 3: It should be okay.
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: I wanted to talk since we're talking about dating. Do
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: you consider liking an Instagram post is cheating?
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: Yes?
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: Really, I mean no, but kinda, but like, I don't
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: think it's innocent.
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: I don't think it's nice.
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: If there's like a thirst trap the squirrel has like
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: her boobs out and her butt out, and Robbie was
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: to like it, I'd be like, what are you doing?
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: Right? So it's totally on the basis of how much
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: skin is exposed, yes, yeah, but otherwise it's fine.
• 41:05
  Speaker 3: Mm depends on the girl.
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: Wow, all those gut do you have a mic? Can
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: we turn you on super disrespectful no matter no matter
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: what it is. Well, back to your point, if it's
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: like boobs but out, totally that's out of the question
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: like that is just you have an intention and it's
• 41:26
  Speaker 2: not good.
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: Why you don't think it's cheating.
• 41:29
  Speaker 2: That that I I don't know that. I would say
• 41:32
  Speaker 2: it's cheating, but I think.
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: She's super extreme extreme word, but I would conversation.
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: But what so you? But you said it's not always
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: if it's the skin skin.
• 41:45
  Speaker 5: I have a boyfriend of year, okay, and I see
• 41:48
  Speaker 5: him like girls that I don't know. If it's girlfriends
• 41:51
  Speaker 5: that I know, yeah, I'll be like, Okay, I get it,
• 41:55
  Speaker 5: like we both know her. But if it's a girl
• 41:58
  Speaker 5: that I don't know, I'm not crazy about it.
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: That's so true though, because why is he liking a
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: girl that you don't know?
• 42:06
  Speaker 3: What do you ever see?
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: No things you don't know, No like other chefs and stuff.
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: Robie would never he's near of a silent. He's very
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: engaged our watcher. Yeah, he's very engaged with our friends,
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: and he'll engage with like all of our friend's content.
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: But outside of that, he's not like.
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think if I saw like a really like
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: a hot girl and I didn't know her, and I
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: saw Haley like she liked it, I'd be like, who
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: is she?
• 42:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's weird.
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I'm not. I'm not that chill. I used
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: to be chill, and I'm not that chill.
• 42:46
  Speaker 3: So weird to me, but that you're not chill like
• 42:49
  Speaker 3: that what.
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: It used to be chill? Is it? I really wasn't
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: that chill with Robert either, Like really, Yeah, he'd go
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: on trips with all these like bikini models and stuff
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: and if I didn't want to, but he was an agent,
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: so like he was. And honestly, I never once doubted
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: that anything or I never thought anything was happening. But
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: it was just like this guy that I'm dating is
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: around all these hot models, right staying in the same
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: like house or wherever they are, you know. Yeah, So
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: I grew some thick skin through that, and then it
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: got weaker and we got weakened again when I met Haley.
• 43:23
  Speaker 3: Is Hailey like Rando's on Instagram? No, no, no.
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: She loves she Last night was watching this family who
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: lives in like the forest and eats fruit off the tree.
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: So that's kind of her. Her algorithm makes me feel
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: very safe with very safe. Yeah, and I'm mostly just
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: like watching like pranks or people. Okay, we had this
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: conversation the other day, but I if someone is okay, like,
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: I know they're okay, went after the fact. I think
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: it's so funny when people post videos of someone falling,
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: like if they're walking on ice or something like with
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: that Love Island challenge where they were having to run
• 43:59
  Speaker 2: on that slip bring Matt, I was almost crying laughing.
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: I think it's so funny when it's again when they're
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: not injured. Haley, I'll show her a video that I
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: think is so funny and she's like, oh, like, I
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: don't like that. I know you're the same way.
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: I don't really like that either.
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: So we were with her friends yesterday and we were
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: celebrating her friend Monica's birthday, and I was I brought
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: this up, and all her friends are like, oh my god,
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: I die laughing at videos of people following, and I
• 44:27
  Speaker 2: was like, oh, this makes me feel so much better.
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: Because both Tanya and Haley don't like pranks and they
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: don't like when people fall or get hurt. I don't
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: like when people get hurt, but I love like a
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: compilation of people slipping on ice or something.
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: Speaking of this is so right, just because you said
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: yesterday and I remember what I did yesterday pottery?
• 44:48
  Speaker 3: No, have you seen the movie The Invite?
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: No? But I'm curious about it.
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: It is so freaking funny, so freaking funny funny. It
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: is so freak funny. Okay, you need to see it,
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: and we need to discuss it. It's like really just
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: gonna fall flat if I just like sit here talk
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: about it.
• 45:08
  Speaker 2: And I don't want spoilers, so.
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not gonna you spoilers. But there's it's it's
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: also very like real, you know what I mean. Like
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: there's like so much realness about like relationships and marriage
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: and like just being with somebody for a long time,
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: and there's something about that that's so sad to me.
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: Like I'm like, I don't want to see people in
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: like a sad, horrible marriage, do you know what I mean? Yeah,
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: Like there's something so I'm like, I have mixed feelings
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: on it because like I haven't laughed that hard in
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: a movie theater in a long time. Like it is
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: so funny and they're comedic timing. Like to me, to
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: have that type of banter with Seth Rogan and Olivia Wilde,
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: to have that dynamic is very hard, and I feel
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: like they did it so perfectly, like literally laughing out loud,
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: but also with this like undertone of just yes.
• 45:56
  Speaker 3: And I don't think I like that.
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: Seem like you do?
• 46:01
  Speaker 3: I love yah.
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I know. It's really it's like it's a tough
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: pickle that I'm in because I did find it so hilarious,
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: but also just like so sad and like I get
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: in the car and I internalize everything, and Robi's like, Babe,
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: this has nothing to do with us.
• 46:17
  Speaker 3: And I know.
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: I'm like God, and I go, I know, but we're
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: married and I don't ever want to become that, and
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: He's like, we're not going to and I'm like, but
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: I don't think they thought that they would become that,
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: you know, Like I internalize.
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: Oh, you like to make an effort in our marriage,
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: you know.
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's I.
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: Think the key is if you get comfortable and let
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: it that happen, it happens.
• 46:36
  Speaker 3: I know.
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: But like with this couple in the movie, it just
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: like happened so slowly and then over time it just
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: you're strangers.
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: Thank you for ending the podcast on such a high note. Sorry, guys, No,
• 46:54
  Speaker 2: it's okay. I mean I'm gonna I want to go
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: see it. Oh, I was gonna say I did pottery
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: yesterday like a seram. Yeah, I'm so bad at it,
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: Like I'm just not watching the girl, the girl that
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: was like our teacher do it and everything she did
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: it was perfect, and then I'd be like, Okay, I've
• 47:11
  Speaker 2: tried to do it and just tough. But I kind
• 47:15
  Speaker 2: of I've been thinking about it this morning because at
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: first I was like, I don't think I need to
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: do it again, because I would, And that's my mentality
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: on everything. If I'm not immediately good at something, I'm
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: just like, oh, I don't think I want to do
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: it again.
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: And I'm like, what are you going to do? Make
• 47:26
  Speaker 3: pottery for like your house?
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah? Like what if I made plates for us? Like
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: how gorgeous if I got good at it and gifts,
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: the gifts I could make.
• 47:34
  Speaker 3: For Ooh the gifts I'd love to get that gift.
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: Well, I won't give you one. How on that, I'll
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: get you your toat socks and your dish gloves and
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: be on my merry way making beautiful pottery for others. Robbie,
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: I'll make him beautiful plates that he can plate his
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: beautiful food on. Yeah, anyways, So I was like, I
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: need to change my mentality on if I had a
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: good time doing so something even though I wasn't good
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: at it, If I can practice and get good at it,
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: what's the worst that can happen?
• 48:04
  Speaker 3: I agree, I think practice makes perfect.
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna on a positive note, yes, practice everything, Practice
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: letting go of control, practice working on your marriage and relationship.
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: Practice things you're not immediately good at. And I'm gonna
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: leave you all with that. But we will be back
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: on Thursday for a Dear Bonia episode where we might
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: play another game where I beat Tanya. I don't know
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: hard hard to say.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: I've been reading the Facebook. We'll get into it on Thursday.
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, We'll be back on Thursday. And we love
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: you so much, love you, Bye bye.