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fake it till ya make it VS lying to yourself · Beauty In Positivity

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello, and welcome back to the Beauty and Positivity Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: My name is Alyssa Skinner.
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  SPEAKER_00: I built my dream life after studying the law of attraction and the science of manifestation for years.
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  SPEAKER_00: I completed every practice I could find, and now I teach everything that I've learned, everything that got me to my dream life, my dream body, dream income, dream business, and I put all of it into my Enlightened Babe Academy.
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  SPEAKER_00: The trick is completely rewiring your brain and shifting your identity because the identity you're currently in is exactly the life reflecting back at you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whatever your life looks like right now is telling you what your identity is, what your current beliefs are, and where your current limiting beliefs are.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are very specific ways to do this, to rewire your identity, literally scientifically create new neural pathways in your brain.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is how you get a new reality, a new story.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I've done it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it helps you discover what your limiting beliefs are and how they're holding you back and how you can finally release them without affirmations over and over and over again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because we've all been doing that for years, and there's a reason those aren't working.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I go deep into all the nitty-gritty of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today's episode is about acting as if you're already on the other side of your dreams.
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  SPEAKER_00: Acting as though you're the successful version of yourself already, versus faking it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Faking a high frequency.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because so many people lie to themselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: They think they have to think positive, think positive, and then they'll manifest their dreams.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to stop trying to fake a high frequency.
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  SPEAKER_00: Getting everything you desire is not about staying positive.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not about who can be the most positive and they'll get the most out of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even you don't believe when you're bullshitting yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're all very smart with ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: So stop lying to yourself about what you feel and let yourself just feel it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feel the truth of what your emotions are telling you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because your emotions are always telling you something.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tony Robbins says you cannot go to your garden and say, There's no weeds, there's no weeds, and you're staring at weeds.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is lying to yourself, that's thinking positive.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, the grass will come in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just ignore the weeds.
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  SPEAKER_00: It'll all work out.
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  SPEAKER_00: It'll all work out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sound familiar?
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain is very smart and it knows when you're lying to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is why nothing is changing.
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  SPEAKER_00: You keep acting positive, you keep pretending you're not feeling the feelings inside of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just begging for to be seen, to be acknowledged by you.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's lying to yourself, and that's very different than embodying a different story, embodying a different identity.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's a difference in fake it till you make it and straight up lying to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fake it till you make it is better used to act as if you've already reached the successful version of yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Act as though you've already reached the amount of money you desire and you know your business, your relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just walk through life as you've reached your dreams.
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  SPEAKER_00: My dogs came in to say hi, sorry.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you do this, this helps stimulate the emotion within you, the emotion of success, the emotion of freedom, the emotion of relief.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I've done it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm I got here.
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  SPEAKER_00: I did it.
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  SPEAKER_00: This isn't always a good practice, though, if you are currently frustrated, if you're currently feeling discouraged or defeated.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't lie to yourself and don't try to immediately pretend like it's not a big deal, it doesn't matter, or people use that affirmation when they don't want to face discomfort of, well, it'll all work out.
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  SPEAKER_00: It'll all be okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stop self-abandoning.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you do this, you are abandoning your true self.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you break that trust within yourself because now when you say, I'm gonna manifest X, Y, and Z, your body doesn't trust you because you have ignored the true feelings within yourself for however long.
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  SPEAKER_00: So don't try this practice of embodying the successful version of you when you're already feeling defeated or frustrated.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just try not to ignore the current circumstance in front of you that you don't like.
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  SPEAKER_00: Lying to yourself or pretending to be positive, pretending like whatever is happening is not a big deal.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be looking at your bank account and only having$32 left and being like, everything's fine, you know, abundance always flows my way.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you are feeling f fear and scarcity inside, secretly, you're dysregulating your own nervous system because you're taking unaligned action and you're living your life as if you don't have$32 left over, such as going out for drinks and dinner and trying to act abundant.
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  SPEAKER_00: When inside quietly, you're feeling like, what am I gonna do about money this month?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I just want you to think about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you are acting like one or the other, the successful version of you who has the amount of money that they want, do you think that version of you is irresponsible with money?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you think they go out to dinner and spend their last$30 acting and pretending like everything's fine and they have more money in their bank account?
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  SPEAKER_00: That can be a good practice because you can live your life abundantly.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you feel that stomach drop feeling when you check your bank account and you see the$32, it's not going to help you acting as if because you've already stimulated that emotion in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you cannot go take action based on that energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to raise your vibe first.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to get into a feeling of true abundance before you go swipe that card.
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  SPEAKER_00: Only then does acting as if work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you don't, if you have that fearful energy, that lack and scarcity, emotion with inside of you, that uh butterfly feeling, what am I gonna do about money this month?
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  SPEAKER_00: You cannot, your body's not going to believe you when you go act abundant because of the emotion inside currently.
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  SPEAKER_00: The future version of yourself is not irresponsible with money.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's probably how you got to the successful version of you by not ignoring your current circumstances with money, by not spending money that you don't have.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people get caught up in act as the version you want to be, and then they go buy a bunch of things to raise their vibration when they know they cannot currently afford it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so they're buying things in the energy of I can't afford this.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what you need to do instead?
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  SPEAKER_00: You go walk around a Louis Vuitton store, go walk into a Saint Laurent, or walk into Gucci.
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  SPEAKER_00: You cannot make poor decisions that lower your vibration, so you don't need to spend any money, you just need to put yourself in a better environment to help raise your frequency.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can go to the fanciest hotel room in your city and just sit there in the lobby, just order a coffee.
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  SPEAKER_00: No one will bother you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have done this a couple times now.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a way to embody the successful version of you and to raise your frequency, to feel higher vibrational emotions without going and buying things that give you that underlying feeling of I shouldn't be buying this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain knows when you're pretending like everything is okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the future successful version of you does not self-abandon, it makes decisions for your future self to be comfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: Loving your future self is setting your future self up for success.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, one small everyday example that you can do is clean your kitchen the night before so that your future self, your tomorrow you, wakes up in a high vibrational state because now they get to walk through their kitchen and it's clean.
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  SPEAKER_00: It sets you up for a good morning routine, and more importantly, a higher vibration, literally a better mood.
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  SPEAKER_00: So make decisions, small or big, for your future self, even if it's an hour from now, that is your future self.
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  SPEAKER_00: And make sure they are going to feel calm and secure and stable.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is the ultimate self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes self-love can be abandoning our to-do list, especially in times when you feel you deserve rest, because rest can be productive.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if this is the third time you've done that, maybe you should ask yourself: Am I giving myself grace or am I putting my current self before my future self?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I setting my future self up for discomfort?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I hope you resonated with this episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: And to go even deeper and change your reality as you know it, my social media at Gorgeous by Alyssa has a link to my Enlightened Babe Academy, and you can see if it is in alignment with you right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because remember, investing in yourself will always set up your future self for success.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I told you investing$1,000 would make you a$10,000 month, wouldn't a 10% investment feel worth it to you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Suddenly that wouldn't feel like a lot of money.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is what the identity work is.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is what changing your brain chemistry is.
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  SPEAKER_00: It gives your reality no choice but to shift.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I am an example of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I preach it because it happened to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I saw the magic on the other side of taking a risk.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now I want to share everything that I've learned.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to do something different to get a different result.
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  SPEAKER_00: I spent months and months and months building this academy for you so that it held had the same effect on your life that the information had on mine.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm sending you so much love and success.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bye.