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Mama Credit · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mamas, do
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  Speaker 1: moms get enough credit? Well, let's ask our American mama's.
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  Speaker 2: Mamma Mama.
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  Speaker 1: And enjoining us now our American mama is Terry Nedeville
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  Speaker 1: and Kimberly Burlison. Look, I know it's not Mother's Day,
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  Speaker 1: but we're talking about mom's getting credit to do. Do
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  Speaker 1: moms get enough credit? Here in America?
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  Speaker 2: We've been talking about mom's a lot because we, as
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  Speaker 2: most people know, we lost our mom. Yeah, you know,
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  Speaker 2: let's go.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And Terry was calling. She called me the day because
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  Speaker 2: she's going through all these old memories because some of
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  Speaker 2: her daughter's getting married this month, okay, September, and so
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  Speaker 2: she's looking for a specific picture. So Terry calls me,
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  Speaker 2: I guess reading all these letters from mom, and she's like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm missing Mom. I feel like I didn't give Mom
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  Speaker 2: enough credit for things.
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  Speaker 1: So these these letters were in like scrap books or something.
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  Speaker 3: And Ben, so I'm looking for my wedding album. I'm
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  Speaker 3: looking into my closet, like, what is that box? It's
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  Speaker 3: all teeped up, and I pull it down and maybe
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  Speaker 3: it's in there, and I open it and it's my
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  Speaker 3: mom had boxed up all of my childhood letters, some pictures,
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  Speaker 3: some little mementos, even the little cheerdress uniforms. And so
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  Speaker 3: I was reading her letters and I thought she was
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  Speaker 3: so involved in every aspect of my life. We made
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  Speaker 3: we would she was so great about letting us make
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  Speaker 3: fun of her. It's kind of like the way my
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  Speaker 3: kids and you know, they you allow yourself to be
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  Speaker 3: made fun of. And so I would say she didn't
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  Speaker 3: even know what sorority we were in. She did not
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  Speaker 3: she you know, she didn't cook every night or whatever.
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  Speaker 3: I'm reading the letters, and in some of them, I'm
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  Speaker 3: in college, and Mom says, I can't wait to hear
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  Speaker 3: all about it. You know this, Lindsay and I are
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  Speaker 3: going here and there, and I just know I've got
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  Speaker 3: I found this green thing that would go great in
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  Speaker 3: yours in Kimberly's dorm room, and I had forgotten or
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  Speaker 3: never really paid attention. I'm like, okay, cool, you know
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  Speaker 3: glad you did that. At the time, Now I look
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  Speaker 3: back and go, I wish that she was here so
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  Speaker 3: I could call her and say, Mom, you were amazing.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 3: I was looking at all of like even my childhood.
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  Speaker 3: I'm so happy that Dad and I were able to
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  Speaker 3: let you go to camp, you know here, like she
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  Speaker 3: sent me camp letters. It was only a week and
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  Speaker 3: I had like four for a letter, so she wrote
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  Speaker 3: one every day to make sure that I had it.
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  Speaker 3: Thirty minutes away from our home. And you know, she
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  Speaker 3: just was the manager of our house. Whereas Dad was
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  Speaker 3: the head of the house. She was the neck that
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  Speaker 3: turned the head. So she knew, you know, when we
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  Speaker 3: had stuff going on. If I said, Mom, it's your
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  Speaker 3: you know I need this, I knew that she was
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  Speaker 3: going to get it taken care of. I was looking
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  Speaker 3: at some old wedding things, like our wedding program for
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  Speaker 3: the day, and she went to such great links for
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  Speaker 3: every little thing, and I wish I could just you
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  Speaker 3: know what, I wish I could tell people right now,
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  Speaker 3: if you have your parents, stop what you're doing, text them,
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  Speaker 3: call them, or write them. Better yet, write them. You're handwriting.
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  Speaker 3: This is a lost art. And that's another thing I
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  Speaker 3: discovered that I want to tell people. Write your children,
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  Speaker 3: write your nieces, write your nephews. Because those letters that
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  Speaker 3: I have in there from my aunts and my uncles
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  Speaker 3: and my uncles, my aunts and my cousins and my grandfather,
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  Speaker 3: my grandmother, and my parents and my siblings. I could
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  Speaker 3: tell you they're handwriting because I know we would write
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  Speaker 3: it to each other and it's like a piece of
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  Speaker 3: I think you found a picture, Oh, Dad wrote I
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  Speaker 3: love you Dad, and you could see his handwriting, and
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  Speaker 3: it was just it was such a reminder to me
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  Speaker 3: that appreciate the people that are around you now, especially
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  Speaker 3: those who raised you. Let them know how much you
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  Speaker 3: appreciate them, because that goes so far.
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  Speaker 2: Garth Brooks once said I saw a video of him
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  Speaker 2: and he said, we love our parents the very most
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  Speaker 2: after they die, and there's so much truth to that,
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  Speaker 2: and it's sad. Yeah, it's sad that that happens. We
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  Speaker 2: start thinking of the things and we appreciate things more.
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  Speaker 2: I think that we put our dad on a pedestal
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  Speaker 2: so much as daughters, whereas our mother was just as
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  Speaker 2: important and worthy of that same pedestal. But it isn't
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  Speaker 2: until she's gone that we realized, oh gosh, she was something.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean it does take two. I mean, you
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  Speaker 1: know Hillary Clinton, of course, it takes a village. Not really,
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  Speaker 1: it takes two parents who are really involved and focused
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  Speaker 1: and that can be absolutely amazing. And I mean, y'all
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  Speaker 1: we talked about on the show. You know, people say, Yo,
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  Speaker 1: there's white there's white privilege. White. No, I didn't have
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  Speaker 1: white privilege. My wife certainly didn't have white privilege. What
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  Speaker 1: we had was two parent privileges.
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  Speaker 3: You know. I want to I want to tell you
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  Speaker 3: something that I just wrote to my aunt Curity yesterday.
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  Speaker 3: This is my mom's sister. I told her that going
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  Speaker 3: through all these belongings, I found album and an album
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  Speaker 3: that she put together. It was my rehearsal dinner, it
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  Speaker 3: was the bridal luncheon and the wedding. Everything she had,
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  Speaker 3: she put it in an album, and I in that album,
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  Speaker 3: I saw something that I had completely forgotten about at
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  Speaker 3: the rehearsal dinner. Kevin's mom, who's very shy, she's very
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  Speaker 3: with you know, she's just reserved. Yes, if someone would
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  Speaker 3: have said, Terry, did your mother in law speak for you?
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  Speaker 3: Did she ever say anything, I'd say no, no, But
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  Speaker 3: she's quiet. I just wouldn't have expected it. In the picture,
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  Speaker 3: there's a picture of her standing up and she's reaching
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  Speaker 3: for me and I'm wiping my tears and she's obviously
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  Speaker 3: saying something kind about me coming into their family. I
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  Speaker 3: told my Aunt Curty yesterday the fact that she captured
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  Speaker 3: those moments our entire life. Aunt Carite has done this.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, she's the keeper of our memory.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: I would never have remembered that about my mother in law,
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  Speaker 3: and it made me appreciate her. I will see my
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  Speaker 3: mother in law in a couple of days. She just
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  Speaker 3: lost her sister, and I'm going to tell her how
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  Speaker 3: much that means to me that she loved me enough
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  Speaker 3: to stand up and speak on my behalf in public. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And I think Mike Curity for capturing it.
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  Speaker 1: If you like askar American mom was a question, go
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  Speaker 1: Terry Nutteville, Kimberly, Brothersten, thank you so much.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you,