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🔑 The Master Key to Unlocking Your Highest Self: From Survival to Soul-Led Legacy · Terri Messenger's Genius Zone

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  Today we are going to talk about the high achiever and what that
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  means to a person who's living in silent desperation.
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  Now we are dealing with people, you know, not unlike myself.
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  So, you know, if we're out there and we're wanting to give to
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  people, we've got a service that we want to give to people.
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  You know, the way we do one thing is the way we do
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  everything. And this can often lead in us
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  being in this spiral situation. So like many powerful women who
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  are living high unpredictability, emotional
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  dysregulation and feel like they're responsible for others,
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  right? So they are putting other
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  people, even if it's one person, 2 persons, you know, it could be
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  100 persons in front of them self, but they're paying the
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  cost. And when you pay the cost for
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  being that person, that's when you begin running on autopilot.
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  So I went behind the scenes laser speed coaching with a
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  person who is actually living through this scenario.
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  Her beautiful name is Amethyst and she is just an absolute gem.
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  She's a jewel. And this is for you, because
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  this goes into our Master Key program and the people that
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  actually, you know, obviously best to be here are going to
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  really, they're going to benefit from understanding Amethyst's
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  situation, her personal situation, how she's been
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  surviving on adrenaline with no space for her own needs.
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  So that means that the nervous system becomes burnt out, right?
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  It needs to feel that sense of calmness at some point.
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  So the boundaries begin to get blurred and this is something
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  that I definitely suffered myself.
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  So I hear you, Amethyst. And you know, you put the other
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  person in front mainly because of a high achieving kind of
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  model where you feel that yourself worth only comes from
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  what you do rather than who you be.
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  Does that make sense? I thought so.
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  So an overstimulated mind can cause constant sensory input
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  that then leads to sensory overload.
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  Does that relate? Yeah, well of course it does,
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  because that is what we have already discussed backstage.
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  So this is not a weakness. In fact, this is where the
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  Master Key, as Amethyst most wisely remembered, comes into
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  place and turns into your zone of genius.
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  But let's unlock this. This is what happens when
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  trauma, high expectations and people pleasing kind of
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  intersect with ambition and then we forget to self regulate.
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  We forget ourself and before we know it, we're running on this
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  treadmill. We make decisions out of
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  urgency. Oh my gosh, do you hear me?
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  I mean, I know that I'm like that.
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  I'm doing a lot of the stuff that I need to do for myself at
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  the absolute last moment. But that is where the buck needs
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  to stop here. So that is not alignment.
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  That is not self worth. So this then leads into energy
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  leaks, people pleasing, proving, performing over performance.
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  And then we become disconnected from our self, our intuition.
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  And then if we're doing it for someone else that can, that's
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  never going to end up well, I can promise you.
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  So unless it stops here, you are going to be on this burnout
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  trail until something needs to give.
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  And the last thing you want is to feel like all the, you know,
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  the things that you've been doing as that person is in vain.
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  You do not want to be feeling that.
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  You deserve to be feeling the love, the calmness and the
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  support. And what I'm going to say to you
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  right here and now is I want you to treat yourself as if you're
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  your own child so that you are looking at yourself and what
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  you're doing as if you are mothering yourself because you
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  would want to look after that loved 1 and make sure that she's
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  safe. So this can also lead all of
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  this kind of overcompensation this, you know, kind of out of
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  control, you know, nervous system that is just not feeling
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  present and grounded is not going to create the success that
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  you want because it's then going to have those exhausted feelings
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  that, you know, that you've been suffering.
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  And then this leads to shrinking yourself for another or other
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  people. And this also then leads to your
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  voice not being heard. And really, you can track this
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  back to the inner child and where you didn't feel that sense
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  of, you know, I guess approval or feeling like you ought to be
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  heard or feeling listened to. So it's time to move that along.
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  That's the past now, it is the present.
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  And you're here, you're listening to this, and this is
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  exactly where you need to be. So no more pressure on yourself,
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  love on who you are. Let's come back into the
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  coherence of your energy. Let's embody your peace, your
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  power, and your right to feel safe and secure even in a crazy
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  world. Because let's face it, we live
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  in a crazy world, right? We do.
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  It's just the way it is. So now you're going to reclaim
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  your voice. I want you to say out loud, I
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  reclaim my voice. And as you say that, I want you
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  to say I come home to who I am. OK, so say that.
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  Say it so the universe can hear you.
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  And now let's move into our first technique.
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  So I want you to sit very comfortably and begin by
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  regulating your nervous system. So that means that you're going
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  to take 3 deep belly breaths because when you do this, what
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  that means is that you are, you know, changing your whole
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  nervous system. This is easy to remember, so
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  anybody can do it. So on the count of three, let's
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  breathe in from the belly, in through the nose and hold it,
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  hold it and release it. Now doing this three times is
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  going to change your nervous system and start regulating.
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  So again, breathe in, hold it, hold it and breathe out.
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  And one more time breathing in through the nose and now
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  exhaling out. Give yourself a little bit of a
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  shake. Now when you wake up in the
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  morning, a glass of water is always the best thing to
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  hydrate. You know, unlike what I used to
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  do when I used to live in that crazy zone.
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  I would just grab the coffee. I would grab the caffeine, I
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  would grab something to wake me up.
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  Worst thing possible, give yourself that gift of the coffee
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  or whatever your little go to is in the morning after you have
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  drunk some water. The next thing is to simply just
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  stretch your body and move your body so that you're literally
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  just moving. You don't have to do any major
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  workout or go to the gym. Look, I as a clinical
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  hypnotherapist, people wouldn't come to see me if everything had
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  to be hard and you had to sort of go with a diet or some fad or
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  some highly disciplined thing because you know, as well as I
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  do, the wheels would just fall off.
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  So how is it? Is it just to move your body?
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  What this does also is it shifts your energy.
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  So it's shifting your energy, shifting your posture.
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  And even if you are in a situation where you feel like
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  you're with a person and you're like, Oh my gosh, I'm feeling
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  stressed. You can feel the stress.
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  You can feel all of that. Just casually start moving
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  around, shift your posture, maybe just turn your body
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  because the moment you turn your body, turn your head, you know,
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  just stretch. Nobody is going to think you're
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  a loonie by like kind of doing a stretch.
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  You know, it's OK. It is fine to do that.
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  So now what I want you to do is to visualize your grassroots
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  from your base chakra, which is in the very lower part of your
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  spine going down into the earth. OK, so this kind of thing you
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  can come back to and listen to. So as you experience that
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  grounding with Mother Earth, with Mother Nature, allow
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  yourself to feel that spinal cord, that root chakra, and in
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  those essential parts of your organs now connected with Mother
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  Earth. And as you do this, I want you
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  to imagine a golden light that is coming from the top of your
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  head. So here you are grounded with
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  Mother Earth and on the top of your head is a golden light and
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  that's coming from above, from the higher divine creator God.
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  What you believe in allow that energy of golden light from the
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  top of the crown of your head and the root chakra grounding
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  into Mother Earth to kind of like come together so it meets
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  in the central part of your chakras.
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  Now as that happens, you're feeling light from above.
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  You're feeling the grassroots of your root chakra connected with
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  Mother Earth, and there's a light coming from the ground
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  upwards to your root chakra and a light that's coming from the
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  heavens down connecting you in. Now I want you to feel, but as
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  you feel, I want you to anchor yourself just making a movement
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  with your hands or rubbing your fingers and your thumbs.
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  So just move into that new sensory and just visualize and
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  experience the golden light from above.
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  Remember, you can come back to this video South.
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  This is about you right here and now.
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  So just allow yourself to enjoy the golden light from above and
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  the golden light from below, because as above, so below, so
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  let it connect and feel your sensory of your fingers and your
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  thumbs. That's right.
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  Now breathe up as if you're breathing from Mother Earth, and
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  breathe up so that that breath goes from the ground and it goes
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  up all the way to your heart chakra.
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  And now breathe out. I want you to do that again.
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  And this time I want you to whisper to yourself, I am safe.
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  I am home in my body. My power comes from within and I
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  will take you through that. So let's breathe in from the
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  earth, Mother earth, breathing up all the way to the heart
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  chakra and I am safe. I am home in my body.
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  My power comes from in and then release out and let that go out
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  into the future. Now expand this field as if this
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  expansion now is going to expand the field, making sure you're
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  very present. This is all about what we're
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  doing, bringing you into present tense.
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  And so as you are in present tense, feel the expansion of
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  your entire, the field around you now really stretching and
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  expanding from your heart chakra out from your chakra on your
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  visual forehead where your third eye is, and on the crown of your
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  head also expanding out. And then feel it from the root
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  chakra to the ground. It's all now moving out,
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  expanding 3 meters around your body.
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  Now I want you to do this daily because what this is going to do
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  is this guy is going to give you a very basic way to center
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  yourself, be grounded to begin your day in such a fabulous way
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  and also to be able to give you these tools to center yourself
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  and become present. So now what is the next step?
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  So this is going into a little bit more sophistication.
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  So we will move now to the NLP pattern interruption, which is
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  empowering yourself worth with an anchor.
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  So the first part of this, you know, whole sequence is about
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  what you can do and you can apply this to yourself.
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  And here this is really good to be doing this with a really good
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  facilitator. So what I want you to do is I
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  want you to identify an old self talk loop where you are
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  overwhelmed, what you're saying to you, what are you saying to
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  yourself? I can't do this.
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  I'm overwhelmed or you know, what is it?
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  Just identify that. Now what I want you to do is I
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  want you to create a physical anchor.
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  And the one we used in the first sequence where remember we did
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  this, we rubbed together. So what we're going to do is
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  we're going to get you to acknowledge what you're telling
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  yourself. Now.
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  You may be telling yourself 1001 things every hour of the day,
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  but what we're going to do is we're going to catch the
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  saboteur. We're going to catch ourselves
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  in that energetic, you know, total negativity.
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  And so by being in that, we're going to catch ourself.
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  Catch ourself, right? Like catching the thief.
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  We're going to catch it out. We're going to do some fun
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  exercises to catch it out, to reprogram your brain and to
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  remap in a way that's really effortless.
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  So what are you? What am I saying to myself?
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  What is it? Because if you feel bad, if
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  you're feeling something, you've got to ask yourself, what am I
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  telling myself right now? What am I saying to myself?
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  OK, then with that physical anchor, I want you to begin this
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  and say stop, then immediately replace it with the next part.
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  I am worthy. I am calm, my voice matters.
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  OK, so that's a patent interruption.
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  So the first step is you feel bad and you if you've really
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  gone down that rabbit hole, you may need something a little bit
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  more than these resources, but this is going to help you
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  tremendously. So understand that you
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  energetically feel like you're in that craziness, in that
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  desperation, in that whole out of controlness.
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  Then stop it and ask yourself the question, what am I saying
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  to myself? Then bring this, because this is
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  bringing you back to the present self, and it's going to anchor
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  in that light. Remember what we did.
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  So that light from above, from the ground that comes together,
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  that expands out, that brings you into your body is going to
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  now replace it. So this is a really powerful
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  way. And then stop.
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  Stop that old process and state your affirmation.
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  I am worthy. I am calm.
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  My voice matters. You may have other affirmations
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  and that is OK. Now you're going to have to
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  repeat that three times with that same process.
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  So this is really powerful because it's really teaching you
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  how to do this yourself. When you don't have your mentor
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  or your, you know, wizardry hypnotherapist or whoever your
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  coach is to pull you out. This is powerful because you can
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  do this yourself. So what this is going to do is
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  over time, it's going to give you that ability to be in that
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  nervous system that is going to change because if you do this,
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  it's going to eventually recode, rewire and completely change
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  your brain DNA. So this is what it's all about.
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  OK, so in the last sequence, which is more about recoding
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  yourself for that safety because I know you wanted to feel safe.
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  I know you want that and I know that that means a lot.
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  I also understand that you do require to know that you are
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  worthy. So I want you now to close your
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  eyes again and breathe even deeper now.
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  Now as you breathe deeper, I want you to begin to say the
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  words I am valuable. I am important.
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  Now I want to follow this up by also reminding you that if you
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  are the kind of person which I am very much putting down to,
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  I'll put $100 on it that you are.
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  That is so big on, you know, putting other people before
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  yourself, maybe one person, maybe another.
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  Then the fact is that it's not sustainable.
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  So even if you wanted to focus in on a loved one, even if you
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  wanted to focus in on the way that that used to be for you, I
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  can tell you it is not going to be sustainable.
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  So I promise you, when you look after yourself and you begin to
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  think of yourself 1st and look after yourself first, that is
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  when you can really enjoy what is going to be the life that you
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  truly want. OK, now imagine your five year
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  old self. Imagine your five year old self,
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  so innocent, so young and so small.
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  And there she is, standing before you now as you see her.
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  She is very tired. She has tried so hard to be
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  good, to be loved. Place your hand on her heart and
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  say you did nothing wrong. You never had to earn love
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  because you are love. You are love and you deserve it.
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  Now just look into her eyes deeply and just assure her.
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  Assure her that she is worthy. Assure her that she is now safe
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  and that everything is going to be just fine.
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  Now see her stepping into your body as if she is coming from
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  the child into where you are as an adult, and feel this truth
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  rise up through your chest. And now I want you to say as if
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  you are integrating the inner child of where all these old
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  beliefs came from into yourself as an adult and say this, It is
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  safe to be me. I speak with power, I lead with
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  love, I receive with grace. And now I want you to float one
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  year into the future. I want you to see yourself
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  thriving. I want you to see yourself in
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  your business and what that looks like.
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  I want you to see the outcomes of those you love and care for
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  and now what that is like and notice if this is good.
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  Notice the areas that have improved.
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  Now also notice that as time passes on, you will find that if
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  people or things have fallen away, they were supposed to and
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  yet you will stay and you will be able to have so much more.
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  And for those that stay and that are with you, that is going to
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  feel like a process that is so much healthier because now your
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  business is thriving. I want you to just look down and
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  see that one year from now your body is energized, your voice
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  respected, your presence magnetic.
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  Let this image be bright. Let this image be compelling.
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  Let this image be so incredible. And now anchor it with your
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  breath so that if this is good for you to see your business
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  thriving, if this is well for you to see your relationships
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  safe and feeling secure and rich and fulfilled.
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  And if this is good for you to have this new calm and regulated
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  nervous system that has attracted so much abundance.
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  Breathe in through your nose. Breathe out into that space of
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  where you are one year. And now I want you to understand
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  that this is where you can take that picture, drop that picture
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  down. And I want you to imagine that
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  you're even going to allow that picture to have color and sound.
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  I want you to imagine that you can feel it in your body.
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  The sacred safety, the empowered energy, the divine dignity.
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  I want you to give yourself permission.
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  And as you give yourself permission, I want you to come
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  back to where you are here and now.
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  And as you come back, you'll integrate all of this fine work.
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  And as I bring you back, I'm going to drop you down into
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  where you are now. And I'm going to catch you down
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  from 1010, going 10 times more peacefully, deeply, calmly, with
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  complete safety and security in your own self.
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  Nine with rich relationships, with the activation of your
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  business, your life being now 90 times more powerful and more
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  anchored into your body. 8 And then 7 going 87 times deeper
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  into this permission to be heard. 65 and 4, going 654 times
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  deeper into calm, peaceful relaxation where you truly value
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  yourself. 32 and 1, going 321 times more powerful into your
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  chakras, into your body, feeling your heart chakra, feeling your
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  root chakra, feeling your crown chakra.
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  And I want you to now just allow yourself to imagine you're
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  standing in front of the mirror. I want you to see yourself.
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  And I want you to speak to that wonderful self as your higher
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  self. And I want you to imagine your
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  saying, as you look now into the mirror, I see you showing up.
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  I love how powerful your heart is.
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  You are worthy of your voice and to be heard.
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  You are safe to rise and know that you are enough.
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  And as you do this, I want you to place your hands and your
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  heart out so your palms are facing upward.
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  And I want you to imagine that you are accepting the master
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  key. The master key to unlock your
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  ultimate life, to turn your pain into power, to rewire and recode
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  your relationships into beautiful, rich relationships,
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  to create billion dollar energy from exhaustion to this
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  empowered new energetic life. And now, as I count you back to
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  three and open your eyes, you'll come back with this new legacy
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  of love. 1-2 and three and welcome back.
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  And I trust that you have enjoyed this sequence.
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  And you can enjoy it by listening to it each time you
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  may require to listen to it. And you can even bring your new
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  issue to the table and recode your life.