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T. D. Jake's – The Enemy Is After Men · Pst T.D Jakes -The POTTER'S HOUSE

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  Speaker 1: I consider myself to be an incredibly blessed person, not
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  Speaker 1: because of anything tangible or touchable or even concrete, but
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  Speaker 1: because I've had so many rich and powerful moments and
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  Speaker 1: experiences in life. For a boy who was born in
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  Speaker 1: the hills of West Virginia on the side of a
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  Speaker 1: mountain with the half end of the house hanging off
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  Speaker 1: a cliff, I've gotten to go a whole lot of
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  Speaker 1: places myself. who was one of 15 children said that
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  Speaker 1: she escaped the dismal surroundings of her Alabama hut in
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  Speaker 1: the red clay of Alabama by reading books and traveling
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  Speaker 1: in her mind to places that she would probably never
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  Speaker 1: get to go. It's amazing that her son got to
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  Speaker 1: go places that she only got to read.
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  Speaker 2: So I consider myself to be blessed.
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  Speaker 1: To travel to other places and met other cultures and
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  Speaker 1: broaden my thinking and perspective beyond my cultural persuasion is
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  Speaker 1: a rich experience.
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  Speaker 2: Because most people are just narrow.
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  Speaker 1: Confined to folks who look like them, act like them,
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  Speaker 1: and think like them. That's the only language they know
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  Speaker 1: how to speak. And frankly, they think anything else is wrong.
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  Speaker 1: But I've gotten to travel around the world and seen
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  Speaker 1: God express himself in a multiplicity of ways.
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  Speaker 2: And for that, I'm grateful and thankful.
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  Speaker 1: Had opportunities to experience different things long before television. Most
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  Speaker 1: people think you started when they turned you on TV.
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  Speaker 1: That's not how it was. I grew up preaching on
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  Speaker 1: front porches and in garages and.
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  Speaker 2: Back in the grocery stores.
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  Speaker 1: And trailers and trailer parks and tent meetings and little
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  Speaker 1: bitty tiny places, you know, where you didn't need a microphone.
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  Speaker 1: You know, old country preaching where you had to slap
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  Speaker 1: your leg. I don't know what it was supposed to
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  Speaker 1: be in your leg, but if you slap your leg,
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  Speaker 1: you can think of what you was going to say next.
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  Speaker 1: Great experience.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I preached in everything.
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  Speaker 1: I started preaching in the hills of West Virginia, preached
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  Speaker 1: in the woods, preached in the shower, preached to myself,
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  Speaker 1: preached to trees and squirrels and possums, preached to anybody
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  Speaker 1: that let me preach. Preached in storefronts and shanties, white
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  Speaker 1: folks and black folks and brown folks, any kind of folks,
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  Speaker 1: dead folks, anywhere. I preached to anybody that didn't make
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  Speaker 1: any difference. I went down in a place called Ligo,
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  Speaker 1: West Virginia and preached in a church. There was a
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  Speaker 1: bunch of snake handlers down in the woods. I went
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  Speaker 1: in there and preached. Sister Jakes didn't want to go
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  Speaker 1: that night. For some reason. But I went down there
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  Speaker 1: and preached. I preached in the bush in Ghana. Stepped
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  Speaker 1: over goat's blood and chicken's blood and in the presence
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  Speaker 1: of witch doctors. Prayed the prayer of faith in the
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  Speaker 1: name of Jesus.
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  Speaker 2: Amen.
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  Speaker 1: Preach messages of racial reconciliation after the apartheid in South Africa,
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  Speaker 1: encouraging all cultures and ethnicities to meet up under the
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  Speaker 1: banner of God's auspicious blood. Had breakfast with the president
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  Speaker 1: of Nigeria. Had dinner with the president of Ghana, the
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  Speaker 1: former president of Ghana. Had opportunities to meet at the
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  Speaker 1: White House.
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  Speaker 2: Boy, something happened.
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  Speaker 1: Was there in the room with President Clinton when he
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  Speaker 1: divulged his deepest, darkest secret. Five to seven feet from him.
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  Speaker 1: Ministered to him and to his wife. Was there with
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  Speaker 1: President Bush right before he went to Congress to declare
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  Speaker 1: war after September 11th.
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  Speaker 2: Got into a lot of stuff. Great stuff.
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  Speaker 1: Stuff that you could just put in your memoirs. I've
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  Speaker 1: seen people at a lot of different places and stages
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  Speaker 1: literally counseled over the last 28 years from the crack
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  Speaker 1: house to the White House.
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  Speaker 2: Isn't that something?
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  Speaker 1: I've seen people at the best moments in life when
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  Speaker 1: a little girl is getting married and the mama.
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  Speaker 2: Is crying because her little baby is getting married.
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  Speaker 1: I've been in the back room with the groom who
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  Speaker 1: was waiting to come out trying to make sure he
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  Speaker 1: had his bow tie on straight and his lines together.
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  Speaker 1: I've been there in the delivery room when mothers gave
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  Speaker 1: birth after doctors had said she'd never be able to
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  Speaker 1: have a child. And she gave birth to a child
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  Speaker 1: healthy and whole. So crying so hard she couldn't even
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  Speaker 1: see the baby.
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  Speaker 2: Great experience. This is wonderful.
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  Speaker 1: I've been there when homeless people who had lived up
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  Speaker 1: under bridges got their first house.
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  Speaker 2: I've been there.
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  Speaker 1: I've dedicated houses for people in our own ministry that
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  Speaker 1: we hired off the street who were homeless and gave
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  Speaker 1: them jobs and they built their first house and I
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  Speaker 1: got to dedicate it, go in the house. And I'm saying, see,
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  Speaker 1: that doesn't mean nothing to you because you always had
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  Speaker 1: a house. But if you never had a house and
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  Speaker 1: to have a brand new house, it'll make you... great
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  Speaker 1: moments but I've also been there in some tough moments
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  Speaker 1: I've been there when groups of kids gathered around the
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  Speaker 1: bed to kiss their mama goodbye as cancer had eaten
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  Speaker 1: through her organs and destroyed her body I've been there
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  Speaker 1: when a great woman of God had succumbed to cancer
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  Speaker 1: so terrible that her bowels were coming up through her
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  Speaker 1: mouth and I was holding her hand as she left
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  Speaker 1: this world.
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  Speaker 2: Tough moments. Really, really dark moments.
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  Speaker 1: I've been there when mongoloid babies were born and the
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  Speaker 1: baby called me in because they were about to disconnect
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  Speaker 1: babies from life support systems and my responsibility was to
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  Speaker 1: help the family through the process of that agonizing moment.
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  Speaker 1: I've been there when there's been infidelity and marriage is
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  Speaker 1: so severe that the whole house is in shambles. And
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  Speaker 1: when you pull into the driveway, you could almost feel
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  Speaker 1: the tension before you ever even get to the door.
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  Speaker 1: I've been there when people were just so angry at
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  Speaker 1: one another that they were ready to fight. And I've
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  Speaker 1: come over in the middle of the night to break
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  Speaker 1: up fights between husbands. I've been there when children got
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  Speaker 1: into trouble and mothers had to rush down to jail
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  Speaker 1: to get.
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  Speaker 2: Their sons who had done something crazy.
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  Speaker 1: I've been there when the whole marriage after 20 years
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  Speaker 1: of being together, boom, just exploded. Woman couldn't figure out
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  Speaker 1: what in the world happened. I've been there when life
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  Speaker 1: was so tough that people couldn't be phony. You know, see,
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  Speaker 1: we love our images and our reputation and our names
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  Speaker 1: and our status. And we want to fit in and
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  Speaker 1: we want everybody to think everything's wonderful. You know how
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  Speaker 1: we do it. I'm so glad to be here.
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  Speaker 2: Are we glad? Yes, yes, yes. I'm so glad to
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  Speaker 2: be here.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to intercede for the children all over the world.
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  Speaker 1: You can do all of that until real calamity hits.
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  Speaker 1: When real calamity hits, you don't have time to put
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  Speaker 1: up a mask or front or anything. People just get
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  Speaker 1: the neck at you. This is who I am and
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  Speaker 1: we in trouble tonight. And because I've been there, when
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  Speaker 1: those crises begin to occur, there's a level of transparency
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  Speaker 1: that I've been able to witness that has changed my
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  Speaker 1: whole perception of humanity.
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  Speaker 2: I wrote Woman, Thou Art Loose.
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  Speaker 1: Thirteen years ago, I was sitting up, pecking at the typewriter,
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  Speaker 1: writing Woman, Thou Art Loose, trying to get up enough
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  Speaker 1: resources to publish a book that I believed in that
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  Speaker 1: other people didn't even think made any sense that a
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  Speaker 1: guy would write to women. They said, you know what,
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  Speaker 1: we'll print it, but we won't pay to publish it
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  Speaker 1: because we don't know about this stuff. I emptied out
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  Speaker 1: my savings account to do that book. And spent $ 15, 000
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  Speaker 1: to get 5,000 copies. All the money my wife and
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  Speaker 1: I had in the world at the time. 5,000 copies
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  Speaker 1: and sold out of them in two weeks. And another 5,000
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  Speaker 1: and sold out in two weeks. And now that book
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  Speaker 1: is so close to 2 million copies. And I can
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  Speaker 1: get a publishing deal pretty easy now.
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  Speaker 2: But the real.
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  Speaker 1: Education wasn't in the book, but it was in the
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  Speaker 1: floods of mail that came from all over the world.
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  Speaker 2: After I wrote the book, as people.
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  Speaker 1: Began to scratch out secrets of what was going on
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  Speaker 1: in their lives and in their houses, I got letters unbelievable.
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  Speaker 1: If I had time and a few more chicken wings,
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  Speaker 1: I'd tell you about it. Letters from all over the world.
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  Speaker 1: Amazing letters scribbled in the middle of the night. Some
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  Speaker 1: by women who said, he's in there with my daughter
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  Speaker 1: right now. And if he knew I were writing to you,
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  Speaker 1: he would kill me. But I need your prayers. I'm
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  Speaker 1: living in hell and nobody knows it. Letters from women
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  Speaker 1: in the church who were writing to tell me, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't go to church for two Sundays. The church
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  Speaker 1: doesn't know why, but my eye was black. My lip
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  Speaker 1: was busted and I couldn't go to church.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't know that.
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  Speaker 1: I know now that every 15 seconds a woman is
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  Speaker 1: beaten to death in this country by somebody who says
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  Speaker 1: he loves her. At the time I wrote Woman of
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  Speaker 1: the Hour News, one in five women were molested between
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  Speaker 1: the ages of five and 15.
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  Speaker 2: And it's not gotten better, it's gotten worse now to
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  Speaker 2: one in three.
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  Speaker 1: And to all of that, the church is just skipping
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  Speaker 1: and dancing and going on and building choirs and having
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  Speaker 1: fun and having church.
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  Speaker 2: But nobody wants to talk the real issues.
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  Speaker 1: I've comforted mothers who've been confronted by daughters who've decided
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  Speaker 1: that they were lesbians. And hell, weeping fathers who were
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  Speaker 1: embarrassed by young sons who decided that they didn't want
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  Speaker 1: a girlfriend, they wanted a boyfriend. And to all of that,
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  Speaker 1: we've said almost nothing at all. And I wonder in
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  Speaker 1: my own mind, how did we get here? And I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to tell you something tonight. It is true that
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  Speaker 1: the enemy attacks our women. And he leads them into
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  Speaker 1: captivity whenever possible. And that's why I believe that God
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  Speaker 1: led me to write Woman Thou Art Loose in the
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  Speaker 1: first place. It's not so much that the enemy wants
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  Speaker 1: to kill women. He wants them in captivity. Because if
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  Speaker 1: David had to go and rescue the wives of his
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  Speaker 1: people who were held captive, he being a man was
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  Speaker 1: sent after women who was held captive. And he had
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  Speaker 1: to encourage him to be able to go do it.
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  Speaker 1: But once he got uplifted, he was able to go
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  Speaker 1: get her and bring her into a place of restoration.
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  Speaker 1: The enemy does want women to be held captive by
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  Speaker 1: their past. by their body images, by their ages, by
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  Speaker 1: their stages, by their weight, by all sorts of things.
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  Speaker 1: Anything he can use to keep you locked up, he
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  Speaker 1: will do it. But my sisters, hear me good tonight.
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  Speaker 1: The enemy is in no way as much after you
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  Speaker 1: as he is the men. For it is the seed
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  Speaker 1: of the woman that the prophecy said would rise up
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  Speaker 1: and bruise the head of the seed of the serpent.
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  Speaker 1: And the enemy knows that if he can destroy your man,
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  Speaker 1: he doesn't have to destroy you. You'll break your back
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  Speaker 1: working more jobs, carrying more loads, dealing with rough men
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  Speaker 1: because you've lost your covering. And if you don't break
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  Speaker 1: your back making up for the loss of a man,
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  Speaker 1: you'll break your heart grieving over a son who's in
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  Speaker 1: trouble today. And the enemy knows that if he can
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  Speaker 1: destroy the Zerah, the seed, the male seed, he'll leave
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  Speaker 1: the house uncovered and break the heart of the woman,
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  Speaker 1: distort the image of the children, and he can get
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  Speaker 1: the whole house when he gets one man.
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  Speaker 2: And the enemy is after men.
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  Speaker 1: And for the last year and a half, I've been
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  Speaker 1: counseling and reading and writing and praying. And I've got
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  Speaker 1: something to tell you tonight. And it is very, very important.
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  Speaker 1: We have got to draw a bloodline and tell the devil,
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  Speaker 1: you cannot destroy our seed, our Zerah, our man. I
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  Speaker 1: came to tell the women tonight, thy brother shall rise again.
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  Speaker 1: Lazarus may be dead and stinking and the stone may
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  Speaker 1: be rolled in front of him, but the devil Tonight
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  Speaker 1: thy brother shall rise again, whether he's a father, a husband.
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  Speaker 2: Or a 12-year-old boy.
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  Speaker 1: I declare and decree resurrection for a male seed to
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  Speaker 1: stand in their rightful place in the name of Jesus.
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  Speaker 2: Amen.
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  Speaker 1: Standing in the mirror, I talk about this in the book,
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  Speaker 1: I was standing in the mirror and I was shaving myself.
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  Speaker 1: I have three sons and two daughters. My youngest son
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  Speaker 1: at this time was about seven or eight years old.
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  Speaker 1: And I was standing there shaving myself in the mirror.
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  Speaker 1: And I was trying to be discreet and subtle, cunning,
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  Speaker 1: if you please, because he wants so much to do
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  Speaker 1: everything that I do that I was afraid he'd learn
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  Speaker 1: where I keep my razors. And something that would be
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  Speaker 1: a blessing for him later, if he took it too soon,
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  Speaker 1: he would skin off of his face to the point
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  Speaker 1: of bleeding because he took a good thing at the
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  Speaker 1: wrong time. Isn't it funny how something can be good
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  Speaker 1: only if it's given at the right time? And so
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  Speaker 1: I was having this moment with him and trying to
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  Speaker 1: talk to distract him. And I was looking in the
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  Speaker 1: mirror at him. And he was looking in the mirror
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  Speaker 1: at me.
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  Speaker 2: He's standing here. I'm standing here.
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  Speaker 1: The mirror's right here. And when I looked at him,
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  Speaker 1: I was looking at what I was. And when he
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  Speaker 1: looked at me, he was looking at what he would become.
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  Speaker 1: And my heart went out for all of the young
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  Speaker 1: boys who have spent their lives looking in front of
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  Speaker 1: a mirror for the image of a father that they
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  Speaker 1: never saw. And having no real reflection of masculinity, they
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  Speaker 1: just allowed anybody to paint whatever face they wanted on
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  Speaker 1: the wall and they became what was painted on the
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  Speaker 1: wall they saw. And Dexter said to me, he says,
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  Speaker 1: You know, he's already started preaching. He's not quite, he's
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  Speaker 1: going to be 10 this weekend and he's already preached
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  Speaker 1: his first sermon. And he looked at me and he says,
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  Speaker 1: he says, Daddy, I said, what does? He said, George,
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  Speaker 1: everything I want to be. The kind of thing that
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  Speaker 1: when your kid says it to you, you want to
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  Speaker 1: buy him five Nintendo, the set of big wheels and
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  Speaker 1: a trip to Disneyland. Come on, men, you know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking about. I mean, your chest swells out. You
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  Speaker 1: work out in the gym. You get muscles, triceps, and
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  Speaker 1: biceps everywhere.
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  Speaker 2: You say, yeah. Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: But before I could really brag, I thought to myself, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but you don't know everything I am. You have seen
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  Speaker 1: a very censored, strained impression of what I am. Talk
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  Speaker 1: to me in 20 years after you found out that
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  Speaker 1: Superman is Clark Kent. Talk to me after you have
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  Speaker 1: seen me tired and weary or angry or moody. Or
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  Speaker 1: make a wrong decision or a wrong turn. And if
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  Speaker 1: you can feel that way knowing my fallacies. Then your
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  Speaker 1: admiration will cease to be a fantasy. And then I
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  Speaker 1: will be comforted by your compliment. Rather than pressure to
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  Speaker 1: perform and live up to who.
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  Speaker 2: You think I am.
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  Speaker 1: Because when it comes down to this business about being men.
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  Speaker 1: The pressure is on. I mean, the pressure is on, ladies.
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  Speaker 1: Let me tell you, the pressure is on. From little
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  Speaker 1: boys to teenagers to early 20s, all your life, the
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  Speaker 1: pressure is on. And don't think getting saved cuts it off.
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  Speaker 1: It's still on when you get saved because now you're
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  Speaker 1: trying to figure out how to be a man. Now
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  Speaker 1: you got to figure out how to be a man
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  Speaker 1: of God. Now there's some pressure. There's some pressure.
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  Speaker 2: At all times and in all places.
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  Speaker 1: And don't you dare get anything wrong because there's always
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  Speaker 1: a critic standing around there to tell you what you
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  Speaker 1: got wrong.
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  Speaker 2: It's real pressure.
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  Speaker 1: To be Superman is work. It's hard to be Superman 24-7.
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  Speaker 1: What do you do when Superman gets hit or runs
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  Speaker 1: into kryptonite? Or finds himself in a cave of disparity.
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  Speaker 1: And all of a sudden he's in trouble. What do
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  Speaker 1: you do when Superman loses his job? Or his kidneys?
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  Speaker 1: What do you do when Superman runs into a crisis
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  Speaker 1: in his life? And he's trying to maintain an image
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  Speaker 1: so that he doesn't disappoint anybody. But deep down inside
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  Speaker 1: his whole life is falling apart and nobody knows it.
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  Speaker 1: Such is the case in my text tonight.
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  Speaker 2: Elijah. Elijah.
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  Speaker 1: He is God's great man of faith and power, but
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  Speaker 1: he has run into a real calamity.
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  Speaker 2: A calamity so strong and.
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  Speaker 1: So intensive and so inclusive that it has driven him
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  Speaker 1: into a cave without a knife, without a gun, without
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  Speaker 1: a war, without one soldier or one chariot. Just gradually,
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  Speaker 1: day by day, he erodes back into a cave. I'm
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  Speaker 1: amazed today because I am convinced through the Holy Spirit
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  Speaker 1: that the enemy is trying to destroy men. And when
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  Speaker 1: men die, we don't die like women. We die quietly.
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  Speaker 1: We don't say a word. A woman says to me
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  Speaker 1: the other day, she says, my husband came to me
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  Speaker 1: and asked for a divorce. She said it was three
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  Speaker 1: weeks after our anniversary. She gave me roses. on my
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  Speaker 1: anniversary and three weeks later he asked me for a
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  Speaker 1: divorce because women think that if you manifest outward signs
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  Speaker 1: you are inwardly happy but a man can perform outwardly
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  Speaker 1: and be inwardly miserable and the woman never have a
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  Speaker 1: clue what of what's going on. When I started writing,
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  Speaker 1: I thought that I would write to men only because
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  Speaker 1: I just wanted to call together groups of men and
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  Speaker 1: minister to men. But when I found out how women
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  Speaker 1: understood about men, I thought we had to open up
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  Speaker 1: this conversation and allow the daughters of God to hear
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  Speaker 1: this conversation too.
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  Speaker 2: They don't know.
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  Speaker 1: To my surprise and my chagrin, most women, all they've
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  Speaker 1: ever been taught about men, they learn from other women
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: Just walk through the grocery store and look at the
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: Woman's Today and the McCall's Magazine and the Essence and
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: Ladies Today and fashion magazines with all of your hats
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: and hairdos and seven ways to rekindle. Five ways to
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: make yourself attractive. Ten ways to make yourself look like
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: you've lost ten miles. These are what men really want.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: Notice that the articles are written by women. Or the
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: conversations around the coffee pot when you sit with your
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: other girlfriends and you say, girl, you know how men are.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: Or the mamas who taught you about men based on
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: her experience with her man and you took the shoe
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: that she gave you for her man and put it
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: on your man's foot and never recognized it was not
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: your mama's husband. In our community, we suffer from disappearing fathers.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: Fathers who never show up. For men who make babies
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: and don't take care of them. We suffer from absentee fathers.
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: It's amazing.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: Our statistics are real high, though you all are catching
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: up with us. But we're really bad with that. In
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: our community, you suffer from silent fathers. It's not that
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: they weren't there. They just don't talk. It's the kind
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: of thing that when you say, what are you thinking about?
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: And he says, nothing. And it's this mysticism around masculinity
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: that leads to the destruction of our daughters. Mystified about masculinity,
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: hungry for male attention, they seek the attention in inappropriate
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: ways and fall prey to mistakes that we as parents
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: try to cover.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, have another chicken wing.
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  Speaker 1: And the problem is the place that God has designed
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: for us to give the most help often is the
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: place where we have the most pressure to live up
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: to the image of acceptance. We dare not come to
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: church and admit that we're not happy today.
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: So we come in. Praise the Lord. Oh, praise the Lord.
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: We are so, aren't we glad to be here today?
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: And it makes as much sense as going to the
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: doctor's office and never being willing to disrobe.
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: I want you to treat me while I hide.
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: Make me better, but I won't tell you my symptoms
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: because then you go in the doctor's office.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: How are you, Nelly? I'm fine. What are you doing here?
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's like going into the emergency room and
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: you drive up in the emergency room. You leap out
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: of the car and you run in and say, all
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: is well. Normally people don't just drop by the emergency
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: room to see how the doctor's feeling.
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: I brought you some apple pie. I thought you might
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: be hungry.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: And yet when we come to church, we come in
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: with this intense need to appear as if we had
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: no need of the word we come to get. Then
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: why then do we come? For Jesus was not attracted
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: to people that were not sick. Jesus said they that
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: are not sick don't.
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  Speaker 2: Need a physician.
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  Speaker 1: Jesus hung out with some of the most questionable people.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: People in situations that would make the church turn up
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: their nose. Jesus hung out with people that got him
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: in trouble with church folk because Jesus cared enough to
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: get his hands dirty and get down in the muck
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: and the mire of real life situations.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: Glory to God.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: Touch three people and tell them something's going to happen
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: in here. The divorce rate in the church is about
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: to exceed, if it hasn't already, the rate of divorce
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: in the world. And we pray for people, anoint them
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: with oil and tell them, go on, God bless you,
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: you're fine.
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: It's not that simple.
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: Or we give them simple solutions, you know, simple solutions.
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: Simple solutions like, you just need to communicate more. But
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: what we don't tell people is that we don't speak
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: the same language. Clearly, we do not speak the same language.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: Women talk in circles.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: Yes. They do. That's not a criticism. That's an observation.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: When something is worrying a woman, she talks around it.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: What she's talking about is not what's on her mind.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: She hadn't hit the runway yet. It's like a plane
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: circling the runway. She's going to go around it about
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: three or four times, and then she's going to land
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: on the runway in a minute. Women talk in circles,
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: men talk in straight lines. Straight lines, just straight lines,
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: just straight to it. Women talk in circles. And that's
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: why when you answer her while she's circling, she gets upset.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: Because what you answered her about is not even what
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: she's worried about.
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: See, I want you to understand this.
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: I want you to understand this, that most women process
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: by communication. When something is really worrying a woman, she
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: wants to talk about it. And when you come to
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: us and say we need to talk about it, we
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: would rather pull our lip over top of our head
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: and jump in hot chicken grease. Come on, man, am
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: I right about it? But she says, we need to talk.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: You think, oh no, I got to go wash the car.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: The cat has the measles. We don't like to talk.
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: We don't like to talk. Not open confrontation, not with y'all.
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: First of all, y'all remember everything. Yeah, you said it.
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: You were standing over there. You had on those blue
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: jeans and a white t-shirt. And you were eating a
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: strawberry ice cream cone.
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: I remember it. It was Tuesday. It was 3 o'clock.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: He can't remember what he had on, whether he was
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: standing or not.
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: So he said... Sisters, let me help you with men.
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  Speaker 1: When you get worried about something, you need to talk
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: because you're worried about communication. We process in seclusion. When
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: something is really bothering him, the more it bothers him,
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: the less he says about it. This is what leads
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: to arguments because you say, as you circle around the
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: runway and he says absolutely nothing, then you say, that's
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: what gets on my nerves about you always sitting there
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: with that remote control in your hand. Did you hear
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: what I said about these kids? You don't even care.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: Because you think we're like you that if we really cared,
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: we would verbalize. But when we really care, we internalize.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: And our silence doesn't mean that we don't care. It
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: means we're equally as worried as you are. We just
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: process it differently. That's why the problem that you bring
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: to him on Monday and can't get anything out of
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: his mouth about, on Thursday evening he comes.
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: To you and says, you know that thing you was
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: telling me about the other day?
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: Because that means that all day Monday, all day Tuesday,
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: all day Wednesday, he was in a cave processing what
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: he thought ought to be done about it. And by
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: Friday morning, he shows up and comes up to you.
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: Now he's ready to talk. And you look at him
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: and say, what are you talking about? We process in
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: a cave. The only problem is if a woman doesn't
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: understand the things that I'm teaching, when he goes in
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: the cave and process, you can roll a stone in
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: front of the cave and he can't get out. And
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: some men have been in the cave 10 years. I
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: call them cavemen. Elijah was a caveman. He was a
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: great man, but he was a caveman. He was an
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: anointed man, but he was a caveman. He had internalized
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: so much that he couldn't get out of the cave.
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: And only God could get him out of the cave.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: Some of us were good men and great men. They
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: loved us, but they couldn't tell us because they were cavemen.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: They cared, but they couldn't touch us because they were cavemen.
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: They wanted to support us, but they couldn't be there
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: because they were locked up in a cave of some vain,
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: egotistical idea of masculinity. And our boyhood died waiting for
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: him to come out of the cave. I call them cavemen.
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: And there are cavemen in here tonight. Locked up in
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: caves with clubs making grunting noises and sounding, mm-hmm. cavemen
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: trapped in a situation with no release because they cannot
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: open up.
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: Here lies our dilemma.
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: When women talk to men, they often talk to men
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: like they're women. But we're not the same. So whether
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: you apply this to your boyfriend or your sons, The
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: information I'm sharing with you tonight and the information I've
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: written in this book, things you really need to know
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: because you may be talking to your son like he's
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: a woman and getting no results from him because you're
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: talking around something and he doesn't know what in the
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: world you are saying.
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: I come in and ask my wife, what's for dinner?
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: She says to me, I was driving home and I
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: realized we didn't have anything to eat. I had to
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: stop at the grocery store.
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: Do you not know there was.
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: So much traffic on 35 to go all the way
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: back around the corner and come up 75?
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: There's a car wreck on 75.
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: I thought I would never get through the traffic. Got
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: all the way over to Big Bear. And when I
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: got to Big Bear, do you not know they had
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: the nerve to be out of chicken? After they had
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: advertised that it was going to be on sale for
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: 59 cents a pound, I had to get back in
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: the car and go over to Kroger's. And you know
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: I hate to go to Kroger's because I can't stand
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: that girl at the checkout counter. But I went through
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: all of that and got the chicken. I don't know
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: whether there's going to be any good. I didn't ask
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: you all of that. I just want to know what's
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: for dinner.
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: Just say. Come on, fellas. Don't leave me out there
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: by myself.
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  Speaker 1: I only spent a few chapters talking about men and women.
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: I spent a few chapters talking to men about having
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: a friend. A friend, a good male friend. I know
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: in the church it has become cliche to say that
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: your spouse is your best friend. But I challenge us
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: to rethink that because marriage is somewhere beyond friendship. Marriage
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: is a celebration of oneness, not.
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: Two-ness, oneness.
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: It's really deeper than that. See, you can't cheat on
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: a friend. Marriage is a deeper covenant. I understand what
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: we mean by it. But in reality, you need to
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: irrigate your life with friends other than your spouse. There
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: are some things that you as a man, in fact,
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: I really use David as a syllabus to talk about
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: all of this issue. I'm just giving you a brief
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: synopsis tonight. But I believe that David would have never
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: been king had he not found Jonathan. The anointing was
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: not enough. To bring him into his kingdom. There are
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: many men in this room who are anointed right now.
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: But until you find Jonathan. Somebody that you can cross
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: pollinate with and challenge with and exchange with. You'll never
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: be the king you could have been. Had you had
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: a friend with whom you could be transparent.
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: David stripped himself in front of Jonathan. They traded places.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: They had a covenant exchange. They had a friendship. That
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: is important. And I know you say you don't need it.
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: And you say she is your best friend. But I
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: challenge you tonight.
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: You know you don't need everything. He didn't say nothing.
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: He just.
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: Went.
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: See, you can't answer them like that.
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: Because if you laugh real big when you get in
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: the car, she's going to say, what did you not
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: tell me?
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so I don't blame you. Don't laugh. Just look
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: straight ahead. Look confused.
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: You know you don't tell her everything. What was that
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: movie where it said, tell the truth, tell the truth.
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: God said, you can't handle the truth. Tell her the truth.
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: I'm still hurt over what you said. I can't believe you.
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: You don't tell everything.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: Sometimes you need to talk to somebody where you can
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: dump and open up and express who you are. And women,
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: you need friends too. You need friends too. I mean,
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: I don't want to hear about it. Why, this pantyhose
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: is better than that pantyhose. And for this kind of dress,
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: you need a strapless bra and, you know, the wonder bra.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: I don't really, that's too much information. Surprise me. Let
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: me figure out what kind it is.
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: Don't tell me. Uh-oh.
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: Can't believe I said that. Pray for me. Pray for me.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: I'm going through an attack. I told you the devil
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: was after the men. He didn't got the bishop now.
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: Talking about wonder bras in the middle of our convention.
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: The devil is a liar. I'm not going to look
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: at Billy Joe until I get.
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: Past this part, and then I'll look at him again.
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: I know he's red in the face. See, that's one
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: of the disadvantages about being white, because.
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: When y'all are embarrassed, everybody can tell. I can be
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: embarrassed all I want to, and y'all can't even tell.
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: I know I'm sick pray for me y'all invited me
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: you know what there are very few world renowned renowned
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: well-known preachers in all of the world there are some
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: but they're not that many that I haven't met or
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: interacted with or spent some time with and if I
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: get close enough to them and they get close enough
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: to me to be transparent which really takes a while
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: because you really have to cut through what school they
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: went to and how many members they have and what
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: their annual budget is to really get down to a
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: real person.
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: But if you get.
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: Down to the real person Most of them will tell
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: you beneath all of their responsibilities and all of their
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: accomplishments and all of their accolades, they're lonely. Nobody to
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: eat with, nobody to talk to, nobody to trust, nobody
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: who's not jealous of them, not envious of them, nobody
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: with whom they can be transparent, nobody that they can
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: open up and dump their concerns about their kids, about
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: their life, about their age, about their stage.
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: They're just lonely. lonely.
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: Because I own several business companies, I interact with CEOs
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: all the time, executives and marketing specialists and things like that.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: To my surprise, they're lonely too. I was having a
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: lunch with a professor from a major university and right
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: in the middle of the meeting while we were talking
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: about getting grants and student loans for underprivileged children, for
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: some crazy reason I asked him, are you happy? And
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: tears leaped out of his eyes. He said, nobody ever
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: asked me that. And before he could catch himself and
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: drop his veil, loneliness leaped out of his face. And
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: all of his degrees and all of his money stopped
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: him from being lonely. And I want you to understand tonight,
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: and I want you, can I give you this book?
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: If I give you this, would you read it? I'm
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: going to give it to you. You read it, I'm
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: going to.
• 39:05
  Speaker 2: Give it to you. See, there's something you must understand
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: that God first tells you about men.
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: The very first thing God tells you about men after
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: he made him, he looked at him and said, it's
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: not good for him to be alone. We don't do
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: alone well. We don't do alone well. I work in
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: prisons and maximum security institutions. I spent three days in
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: San Quentin dealing with hardened inmates. I mean the rough
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: and woolly kind. And when they get ready to chase them,
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: they don't beat them. They don't slap them. They don't
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: punch them. They take those rough serial killers and lock
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: them up in solitary confinement because they.
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: Know it's not good for man. Be alone.
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: This big, wild, burly guy left alone begins to whimper
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: and cry in a corner because he is alone. Saddam
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: Hussein and all of his horrendous, hellacious things that he
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: did to mass murdering, almost genocide of a generation. This
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: mass murdering, angry tyrant locked up in a jail cell alone.
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: The paper reads he has sunken into deep depression.
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: You know why? It's not good for man to be alone.
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: It's not good.
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: And the only problem with aloneness is you can be
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: alone in a crowd. We can be alone, surrounded by people.
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: We can be alone and be successful in business. And
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: we can be alone and be married. And we can
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: be alone and make love. And we can be alone
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: and have children and never breathe a word of it.
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: Secretly and silently, he roads away like the banks of
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: a river without ever saying a word to anyone. And
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: nobody ever knew that the man was alone. And he
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: never comes back or he does something crazy in the
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: middle of his life like becomes an alcoholic or getting
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: strung out on prescription drugs or some other kind of medication.
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: Everybody's shocked. Can you believe that Deacon Wilson did all
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: of that?
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: And nobody knew that all of the time that Deacon
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: Wilson was folding up chairs and hanging up stuff that
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: he was secretly alone.
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: I did not come to Tulsa to preach.
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: I came to Tulsa driving an ambulance because God sent
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: me here to go and get his sons, his daughters,
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: and command the release of captive souls who are living.
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: Their lives in solitary.
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: Confinement, quoting scriptures all the while, But locked up in.
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: A tomb of aloneness.
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: Rich as you please. Cities and stocks and investments and annuity.
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: Do not stop you from being alone.
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: Adam had a job but he was still alone. Elijah
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: is in trouble. In the cave.
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: And most of his problems is that he is alone.
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: God said you need a protege like Elisha. You need
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: to anoint Haziel to be a king. You need to
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: surround yourself with other great men. Cross pollinating. Eases the soul.
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  Speaker 1: Brings out creativity. Makes you more fruitful. It is not
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  Speaker 1: good for man to be alone. As wonderful as you are.
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  Speaker 1: And as much as you've done by yourself living in
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: your cave. You would have been more if you would come.
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  Speaker 1: You would be better if you come out. And the
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: enemy wants you to stay in your cave. And he
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: will roll a stone in front of you to keep
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: you in there. And you'll die in silence. And even
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: people who love you will never even know that you
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: lived the last 20 years in a cave.
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  Speaker 2: Am I boring y'all? Okay. I have to check sometimes.
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: I wrote he motions because I thought that it was
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: God's will to reach his would-be kings.
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  Speaker 2: Because you are a king and you don't even know it.
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  Speaker 1: David thought he was a shepherd boy. That boy was
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: not a shepherd boy. That job was just training for destiny.
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  Speaker 2: He was a king and he didn't even know it. Mothers,
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: hear me well.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: You mothers particularly that have sons, there is a king
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: in every kid. Oh, God. The reason David reached his
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: greatness is because somebody came to him and told him
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  Speaker 1: who he was before he acted like what they said.
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: God said, I found a man who's after my heart.
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: And Samuel almost anointed the wrong son in Jesse's house
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  Speaker 1: is that he was looking for grown folks. But God
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: was talking about a boy because God calls those things
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  Speaker 1: that are not as though they were because he knows
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  Speaker 1: he has the power to make it become what he says.
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: So God doesn't wait till you get there to call
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  Speaker 1: you something that it doesn't appear that you are because
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: God knows that it's down in you. And before it's over,
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: he's going to get it out of you. And when
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: we look for kings, we look for people who have
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  Speaker 1: already arrived. But when God looks for kings, he looks
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  Speaker 1: for kids. Because God knows that there is a king
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  Speaker 1: in every kid. If I have accomplished anything at all
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: in my life, any accomplishments amidst all of my stumblings
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: and bumblings and messing stuff up, it has chiefly been
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: because my mother looked at me with a firm conviction
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  Speaker 1: when I was a child that there was something wonderful
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: inside of me, something excellent and something great. While she
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: cooked her biscuits and put them in the pan and
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: listened at me ramble, she looked at me. I said
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  Speaker 1: was important until I had respect for my own thoughts
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  Speaker 1: and my own opinion.
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: And I worry today because.
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: Nobody's listening at our next generation of kings. And when
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: nobody will listen at you, you lose respect in your
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: own words. And so I want to say to the
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: young men and the young girls that are in this room,
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: never lose sight of the king within you. Even tied
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: up in kiddie stuff. Paul says, when I was a child,
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: I thought of the child, I spoke of the child,
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: I understood of the child. But when I became a man,
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: I put away childish things. Childish things, then, are how
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: we think, how we speak, and how we understand. The
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: word understand is the truth you stand under. The truth
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: you stand under determines the development in your life. What
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: truth are you standing over? Who established the truth that
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: you stand over? Did what they said about you when
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: you were seven establish a level of truth that cramped
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: you and dwarfed you and stopped you from growing up
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: into what you ought to be? Then you need to
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: move that truth you're standing over and stand up and
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  Speaker 1: become what God created you to be.
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: And if I sound like I'm passionate, I am.
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: If I sound like I'm on fire, I am.
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: Because the Lord told me that if I.
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: Would travel the length and breadth of this country and
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: preach this word, that there would come a mighty resurrection.
• 46:54
  Speaker 2: A mighty resurrection. A mighty resurrection. A mighty. Thirst quenching.
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: Gully washing. Mind renewing. Devil chaser. Cancer rebuking.
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: Resurrection from the Lord.
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  Speaker 2: You see. You see.
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  Speaker 1: If.
• 47:22
  Speaker 2: If. Our past ism. and elders and people like me
• 47:26
  Speaker 2: if we never kill another giant it.
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: Won't matter we've killed our giants the next giant killers
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  Speaker 1: are you all.
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: You are the giant killers you are.
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: You are The giant killers. Read it and see. You
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: are the giant killer. That's why the enemy wants to
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: kill you. Because you are the giant killers. The boys
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: are the giant killers. And he's trying to kill them
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: every way he can. Because the devil knows that if
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: you ever stand up and become what God has called
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: you to be, the demons will tremble as you move
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: into God's purpose for your life. Throw your hands up
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: and say, I got to get out of this cave.
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: Can I go just a little bit deeper? Something is
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: going to happen when this word comes out. As women
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: begin to understand the language of men, and men begin
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: to understand the language of women, and you begin to understand,
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: it's not that we don't have emotions. We have what
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: I call he-motions. We feel everything as deeply as you do.
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: We just express it differently. I was holding my wife
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: one day. She was falling apart. We were going through
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: a crisis and she was crying. I took her in
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: my arms and I held her. And I love it
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: because it makes me feel needed and I need to
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: be needed.
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: And I held her. And I held her. You know
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: what I'm talking about? It's something to be needed, you know.
• 49:08
  Speaker 2: And I'm holding her and I'm patting her. And I said, baby,
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: it's all right.
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: It's okay, baby. It's going to be all right. And
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: while I was patting her, I envied her just a
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: little Just a little. Because deep down inside, I felt
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: like screaming too. But I wondered, if I would scream,
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: who would catch me? If I would fall, who would
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: hold me? And I gave her what I secretly wanted
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: myself and sucked it up inside of myself and kept
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: on going. Because the last time I broke down and
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: really fell apart, I was about five. And you know
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: what they told me? Big boys, don't cry. And when
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: you tell us that at five, don't change it at 35.
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: Because by then we're so far back in the cave.
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: When you get ready for us to open up and
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: express ourselves, we don't even know how. One footnote about
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: this thing about communication. See, for communication, what we use
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: most generally in our culture is words. But some of
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: the deepest communication for men is not language. It's not language.
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: It's not always language. It's in our eyes. It's in
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: a pat on the shoulder. It's a coach who pats
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: a boy in the rump. He doesn't say anything to him,
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: but it means get back out there again. We speak
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: sign language. And when we do use words, they don't
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: mean the same thing. When a woman says to me,
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: she says, is this okay? Y'all doing okay?
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: Okay. Okay.
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: When a woman comes in my office and she says, Pastor,
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: he's wonderful. Everything started out real good. I thought our
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: marriage was going to be great. She says, but I'm
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: going to tell you the truth. He may be cute.
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: He may be fine. He's six foot two and five.
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: But I can't trust him. When she said, I can't
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: trust him, she almost inevitably means that he is cheating
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: or she thinks he's cheating or he has some sexual
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: perversion or issue in his life.
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: She said, I cannot trust him. That's what she means.
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: And when a woman says that about a man, it
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: is the epitome of an insult to her. This is
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: capital punishment. A woman just about will stand by you
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: through anything else. You could rob the 7-Eleven and come
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: home and say, you know, I robbed the 7-Eleven and
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: the police are coming. I don't even know why I didn't.
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: It's absolutely crazy. And the police would knock on the door.
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: She'd say, Jimmy ain't here. But if you come home
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: and said, you know, I had a tryst with the secretary,
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: she gonna kill you.
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: Am I right, sister?
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: So stop telling us it's the sin of it. It's
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: not the sin of it. It's your value system. Sometimes
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: it's our value system. I'm not saying it's wrong. It's
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: our value system because adultery tears a house.
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: It tears a heart.
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: I understand the seriousness of the issue.
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: Quite clearly, I do. I really do.
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: But when a man comes and he says to me, Pastor,
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: I'm telling you, man, you don't know it.
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: I'm telling you, you don't know her.
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: You see her in church, I'm telling you, you don't
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: know her. He says, I can't trust her. He generally
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: does not mean infidelity. Because we feel about our hearts
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: the way you feel about your body. That's why Proverbs says,
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: the heart of her husband does safely trust in her
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: that he has no need to spoil. You know what
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: the hardest thing it is to give you?
• 52:41
  Speaker 2: It's his heart.
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: His heart because if you break my heart you've broken
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: me you understand what I'm saying so we try to
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: guard our heart I'm still not sure I asked Sister
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: Jakes to marry me I think that's what I was
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: trying to say okay I got somewhere about up in
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: there and she snatched it and.
• 53:07
  Speaker 2: Ran and we got married you know Let me show
• 53:13
  Speaker 2: you what I mean.
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: It's difficult for us to open up and be transparent,
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: to really tell you who we really are.
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: It may take us a.
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: Long time to finally get to the point that we,
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: one night in a moment of vulnerability, generally at night too,
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: in a moment of.
• 53:26
  Speaker 2: Okay, I won't go there.
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: In a moment of vulnerability and transparency, I'm not going
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: to put it all on you.
• 53:34
  Speaker 2: It's a little bit at a time.
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: I don't want to put you in the shock, cardiac arrest. Anyway...
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: In a moment of vulnerability, if we finally get up
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: the nerve to tell you something about who we really are,
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: or something that happened, or something we saw our mothers do,
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: or something that happened with our fathers, or something that
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: happened in our childhood, if in a moment of vulnerability
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: we finally open up and tell you who we really are,
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: and then six weeks later, you in a moment of anger,
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: reach back and get something that I told you in
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: a moment of vulnerability and use it to win the argument,
• 54:03
  Speaker 1: because you know how y'all like to win the argument
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: no matter what? If you break back and use something
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: that I told you out of the treasure chest of
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: my masculine soul, you will shut me down for the
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: next five.
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: Years and roll a stone in front.
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: Of my cave and leave me locked in my dungeon,
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: never speaking a word to you again. That's what he
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: means when he says, I can't trust her. If she
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: tells her prayer partners and her prayer warriors about what's
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: going on in our life, it violates trust. And we
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: feel about that the way you feel about adultery. Never
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: had anybody tell you that, did you? Am I right, fellows?
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: He's into a close.
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: And in one moment, he'll give you everything that I've
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: spent a year and a half writing. But there are
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: some things that you need to understand there. My brother has.
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: Motorcycle. And I think it's midlife crisis, but he gets
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: on the motorcycle. Tied the red rag around his head
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: and jumps on a motorcycle, a Harley or something. And
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: he puts his wife on the back. And his wife,
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: he looks like me, almost exactly like me. He's bald-headed
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: and got a great goatee and everything.
• 55:20
  Speaker 2: Big old head. We got the same mom and the
• 55:22
  Speaker 2: same dad. And we look just about like him.
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: He rides around on a motorcycle and his wife is
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: a white woman. She's got blonde hair. So if you
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: ever see T.D. Jakes on a motorcycle with a white
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: woman with blonde hair, it ain't me. So don't be
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: starting no rumors about me. That's my brother. My wife
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: is a Nubian princess. He puts Sharon on the back
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: of the motorcycle. We call her Ellie Mae because she's country,
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: you know.
• 55:49
  Speaker 2: She said, Ernest. She said, Ernest, stop. Oh, God, you're
• 55:54
  Speaker 2: going to kill us, Ernest. You're going to kill us.
• 55:55
  Speaker 2: You're crazy.
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: And he's just driving down the road. And they're going
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: down the road. And he said, Tommy, we did real good.
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: All the while, we're going down the straight way. He said,
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: but when we get to the turn, he said, Sharon
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: almost got me killed. I said, I said, I said,
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: I almost get you killed. June, I call him June
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: because he's Junior's name. I said, June, I said, I
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: almost get you killed. He said, because when you get
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: the turns, if she doesn't lean in the same way
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: you're leaning.
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: You can't make it through the turns.
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: And suddenly I figured out what was going on. That's
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: why people have been married 20 years and then suddenly
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: get a divorce. That's why you do real good with
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: your son until he gets about 11 or 12. And
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: then all of a sudden he becomes unmanageable and you
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: can't deal with him. You can't figure out what happened
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: to him. You're losing us in the turns. Whenever a
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: man goes through a change, it's a turn. And if
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: you go this way and he goes this way, your
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: relationship goes that way.
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: And you're losing us in the turns.
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: And so I tried to tell you in the music
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: and in the book to watch out for the turns.
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: If all of a sudden he develops a sudden sickness,
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: for us it's a turn. All of a sudden he
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: develops diabetes, he's shooting insulins, for him it's a major turn.
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: It's a tough place. Our parents die, it's a turn.
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: We lose a job, it's a turn. Oh, God, help
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: me preach. We get up under pressure, stress, it's a turn.
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: Get to midlife crisis, it's a turn. Go from toddlers
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: to adolescents, it's a turn. All you got to do,
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: the straight ways, you got to... You got the straight
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: way down, Pat. You got the straight way. You're bad
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: in the straight way. Watch out for them turns. You're
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: losing your sons, my sisters. You're losing your husbands. You're
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: losing your men. Two things I'll tell you and I'll
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: get out of your way. When I first started pastoring
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: my church, I'll tell you it was something with God.
• 58:09
  Speaker 2: I got down to Dallas.
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: I was 38 years old and crazy.
• 58:13
  Speaker 2: I jumped down there.
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: I was casting out devils and calling altar calls for
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: witches and all kinds of crazy stuff.
• 58:17
  Speaker 2: I was just crazy. I was country and crazy.
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: I just jumped down there. I knew I wasn't going
• 58:21
  Speaker 1: to be young much longer. If I was going to
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: get it, I had to hurry up. It's better like
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: me don't want to start over now.
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: I was casting out devils and praying for.
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: People and rebuking them. Demon healing signal. We're almost reading it.
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: All kinds of stuff like that. And this woman gets
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: up and she got her son. I think he's maybe
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: nine or ten or something like that. And she grabs
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: him by the arm and she brings him down.
• 58:41
  Speaker 2: To the altar. And she comes down to the altar.
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: And this is the way she does because this is
• 58:45
  Speaker 1: the way a lot of church people do when things
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: get crazy.
• 58:47
  Speaker 2: She comes.
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: I said, what's the matter?
• 58:52
  Speaker 2: What's the matter? She said, he got a demon. He
• 58:55
  Speaker 2: got a demon. He got a demon. Catch the devil
• 58:58
  Speaker 2: out of him. I said, why do you say he
• 59:00
  Speaker 2: got a demon? He's like, he's got a demon.
• 59:05
  Speaker 1: This is the first mistake she makes. And this is
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: the mistake that church women often make when they're a
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: crisis in their life they try to spiritualize a natural
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: problem and so when they have a natural problem they
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: get more spiritual they talk in tongues they anoint with
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: oil they roll their eyes up in the head and
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: they try to rebuke something that we need to work
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: out another kind of way.
• 59:24
  Speaker 2: And she's about to lose him in the turn. If
• 59:25
  Speaker 2: I give you this, would you read it? I'll sow
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: it into your life.
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. Don't lose your loved ones
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: in the turn. She's got him in the turn and
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: everything begins to fall apart. And all of a sudden,
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: look at him and I see something that she didn't
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: seem to see. She doesn't understand that he's gotten right
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: at that age. He was a good little boy. He
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: was doing fine because he understood the rules. The rules
• 59:44
  Speaker 1: of the game were simple. Eat your cereal. Say your prayers.
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: Go to bed. You're a good boy. That works good
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: as long as we're in a safe environment. Then you
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: go out of that environment, you hit a turn. Now
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: you go into a system where you walk up in
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: the playground, you try to be a nice, polite little
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: boy like Mama Touch, and you say, when you all
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: finish your turn, may I play with the ball? And
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: they slap the glasses off of your head and bust your...
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: You know why he's screaming and crying?
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 2: It's not that it hurt.
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: He can't figure out what happened. Because what worked in
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: your world doesn't work in his world. And so he
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: has to choose which world he's going to survive in.
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: Now he becomes angry. I saw your commercial about angry
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: people in the ghetto. This is why they get angry,
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: because they can't figure out the rules to the new game.
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: Now he becomes angry. The other thing that's happened to him,
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  Speaker 1: testosterone has hit him like crack cocaine. Sisters, it is
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  Speaker 1: crack cocaine. You're just sitting out there riding on your
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  Speaker 1: big wheels, just riding around, just having a good time.
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  Speaker 1: And all of a sudden it hits you. See, nobody
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  Speaker 1: tells y'all this. This is major. All of a sudden,
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  Speaker 1: mama is not the prettiest woman you ever saw in
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  Speaker 1: your life. You'll get it later, never mind. She doesn't
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  Speaker 1: understand that she's losing her son in the turns. Watch
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  Speaker 1: out for the turns. You'll save your kids. I, uh,
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  Speaker 1: caught Jim Baker coming out of a turn. He'd just
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  Speaker 1: gotten released from prison. And I was one of the
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  Speaker 1: first clergy, not the first, but one of the first
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  Speaker 1: to invite him to come speak. It was very controversial
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  Speaker 1: back then. And I was in Cincinnati doing a Back
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  Speaker 1: to the Bible conference, and a reporter from the Cincinnati
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  Speaker 1: Herald came to me and said, he said, aren't you
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  Speaker 1: ashamed of yourself to have an ex-con come and speak
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  Speaker 1: to this gathering of believers? And I said I'll answer
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  Speaker 1: you if you promise to write what I said. He
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  Speaker 1: said I'll write it if you say it. I said
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  Speaker 1: here it goes. I said whatever he did wrong he
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  Speaker 1: repented for it. And I said whatever he did to
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  Speaker 1: society he frankly overpaid for it. And it seems ridiculous
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  Speaker 1: to me that we would preach out of a Bible
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  Speaker 1: that was written by ex-cons.
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  Speaker 2: He said.
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  Speaker 1: I said, for the record, Jeremiah was an ex-con. And
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  Speaker 1: Pastor Moses was a murderer. And Paul the Apostle was
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  Speaker 1: a Christian killer. And even Jesus was locked in jail.
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  Speaker 1: And if we can preach about what they learned and
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  Speaker 1: what they knew, what's wrong with them?
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  Speaker 2: And he wrote it.
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  Speaker 1: It's in the Cincinnati Herald. It's right in the Cincinnati Herald.
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  Speaker 1: Jim told something that I mentioned in the first part
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  Speaker 1: of the book. I'll share it with you and I'll
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  Speaker 1: sit down. This is my final closing. I closed three times.
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  Speaker 1: This is the third.
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  Speaker 2: One. She said, we're used to it. Amen.
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  Speaker 1: I feel right at home. There was a man who
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  Speaker 1: lived alone and he had a Fish aquarium, had no kids,
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  Speaker 1: no spouse. Didn't have time for pets, traveled all the time.
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  Speaker 1: Had a fish aquarium, beautiful tropical fish, expensive fish, exotic fish.
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  Speaker 1: Gave them all names. Named all the fish. Named them
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  Speaker 1: and took care of them, fed them weekly or so.
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  Speaker 1: He came in from traveling, he fed the fish and
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 1: went to bed. But while he slept, the heater in
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 1: the tank malfunctioned. And when he woke up in the morning,
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 1: all of his beautiful fish were bloated, their eyes in
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 1: gorge floating on the top of the tank.
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  Speaker 2: They were dead. And it bothered him.
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  Speaker 1: In that way that things bother you when you've lost
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: so much stuff that one more thing won't do. And
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 1: he said, I wonder if sometime during the night wonder
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  Speaker 1: if they screamed and nobody heard them. He said, I
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: loved them and I fed them. I didn't know that
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  Speaker 1: things were getting too hot for them. I didn't realize
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  Speaker 1: that they lived in a different world from me. faced
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 1: different circumstances for me, had different problems for me. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't know if I would have heard them. I would
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 1: have come and got them, but I never heard them scream.
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  Speaker 1: And I want to tell you tonight, I guarantee you tonight,
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  Speaker 1: there are men in this room, I don't care how
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 1: they're dressed, what color they are, what they make, Everybody's
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 1: pulling at them. Life is closing in on them. Their
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 1: body's changing. Their health is changing. They've hit a turn
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 1: here or there in their life, in their personal life,
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 1: in their finances.
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  Speaker 2: In their marriage with their family. They lost their mother,
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 2: lost their dad. They're in a turn and they're handling
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 2: it real good on the outside. Amen.
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  Speaker 1: Last year and a half, God filled my ears with
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 1: the screaming of his kids.
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  Speaker 2: I tell you tonight, they are screaming.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't know whether you can hear me or not,
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  Speaker 1: but if you're in this room and you're screaming, And
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 1: life is changing. And your body is changing. And your
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 1: job is changing. Or your family life is changing. And
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 1: you're trying to hold up to your Superman image. And
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 1: something in you is.
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 2: About to explode. God sent me here for you. God
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 2: sent me here. God sent me here for you.
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  Speaker 1: And I came to tell you, don't die and don't
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 1: give in and don't crumble and don't float to the
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 1: top of the tank and do something crazy. I want
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 1: to tell you what David said. David said, this poor
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 1: man cried and the Lord heard him and delivered him
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  Speaker 1: out of all of his troubles.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't just write to explain men to women.
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 1: I also wrote to tell men, God can hear what
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 1: you cannot say.
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  Speaker 2: I swear to you, I swear to you, God can hear.
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 1: What you do not know how to say. God can
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 1: hear what you would love to say. David said, I
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 1: love the Lord, not because he gave me the kingdom,
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 1: not because he gave me the palace. He said, I
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 1: love the Lord because he.
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 2: Caught my cry. And he pitied every groan.
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 1: And as long as I live and troubles rise, I
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 1: will hasten to his throne. Jonah said, out of the
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 1: belly of the fish cried.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 2: And the Lord had me and brought me up out
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 2: of a horrible pit. Our sons are in a pit.
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 1: Our deacon elders, our husbands, our fathers and many would-be
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 1: kings are in a pit.
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 2: And God told me to tell you, he can.
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  Speaker 1: Hear.
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 2: He can hear.
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 1: He said, go down Moses and tell Pharaoh. That I
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 1: have heard the cry of my people. My sons are
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 1: crying over what they cannot say. My daughters are crying
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 1: over what they cannot understand. And tell Pharaoh to let
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 1: my people go. This day, I want you to bow
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 1: your heads and close your eyes. This is the most
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 1: sacred moment of the service. Everybody praying, nobody moving, nobody walking.
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 1: God is getting ready to deliver somebody. Who's dealing with issues.
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 1: God's going to do something that therapy couldn't do. He's
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 1: going to break yokes and bondages and give you peace
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 1: and deliverance.
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  Speaker 2: Unspeakable.
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  Speaker 1: God is going to set you free. You're here tonight.
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 1: You just came to church. You had no idea that
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 1: God was going to speak so directly to things that
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 1: you think and don't tell anybody. But tonight was your
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 1: night for a breakthrough. Now you can sit there and
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 1: be macho and be important if you want to. Or
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 1: you can seek opportunity to have a fresh encounter with God.
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that you're not saved, David. It doesn't
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 2: mean that you're not anointed.
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 1: It just means that you'll never be who you could
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: have been if you don't make it through this turn.
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 1: There are men stuck in a turn right now, backed
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 1: up in a cave like Elijah. And tonight God wants
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 1: to set you free. And if I don't reach anybody tonight,
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 1: I've got to reach you. If you're here tonight, right
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 1: where you are, I want you to stand upon your feet.
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 1: Just stand up on your feet. Preacher, I hear you.
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 1: You're talking to me. That spoke to my situation. That
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 1: spoke to my circumstance. Something in my life feels just
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 1: like that. I'm a good man. I've called fire down
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 1: from heaven. But I feel like I'm in a cave sometimes.
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 1: Things are closing in on me sometimes. I don't open
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 1: up easily. I don't talk easily. I love a whole lot,
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 1: but I don't say a whole lot. And sometimes I
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 1: want to scream. They're standing all over the building. And
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 1: there are many more that want to stand. I want
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: you to overcome your fear and your inhibition and stand.
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 1: You may not ever get another opportunity like this one.
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 2: Don't let the devil talk you out of it. Tell
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 2: the devil no deal.
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: This is my chance to get out of my cave.
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 1: I'm standing tonight in the name of the Lord. And
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 1: I just believe that if I administer this, there are
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 1: enough people who care about the men. And enough women
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 1: who care about their sons. And enough women who have
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 1: been praying, God let my husband go.
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  Speaker 2: Set him free. Bless him and raise him up.
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 1: So it's going to happen in here tonight and I
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 1: want every man that's standing and every man that should
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 1: be standing to find the nearest owl and meet me
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 1: down here at this altar. We're going to break that
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 1: yoke and that stronghold off of your life tonight in.
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 2: The name of Jesus. I want you to come out
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 2: of the balcony. I want you to come from the back.
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 1: Young men and old men and black men and white
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 1: men and rich men and poor men. Today is the
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 1: day of deliverance. I declare a breakthrough for you today.
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 1: In the name of Jesus, come out, come out wherever
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 1: you are. Come out, come out wherever you are. Come out,
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 1: come out of your cave. Come out of your dungeon.
• 1:11:56
  Speaker 1: Come out of your confusion. Come out of your despair.
• 1:11:59
  Speaker 1: Come out of anger and hostility and frustration and rebellion.
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 1: Come out of pornography and adultery and homosexuality.
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 2: Come out! Come out!
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 1: Come out!
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 2: Come out. Come out.