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DLHS Hour 2 | Skin to Skin Touch with Aunt OK or Weird · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: this is this is a little.
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  Speaker 2: Idea, Kenny, What are you doing with my kid?
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  Speaker 3: Don't skins of skin? But why form a beautiful attachment?
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  Speaker 3: That's my baby? Don't you do it with her?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, but I gave breath to her.
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  Speaker 3: But still that's my bagbeas is you're so in peace?
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  Speaker 1: Do you think that's weird? Skin to skin jas and
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  Speaker 1: do you think it's weird?
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  Speaker 2: I don't necessarily think it's weird as long as you
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  Speaker 2: have the mother's permission and as long as you have
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  Speaker 2: that kind of relationship within your family. I don't think
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  Speaker 2: everything is deemed sexual in nature, but I do think
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  Speaker 2: that if you don't have the mother's you know, express intention,
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  Speaker 2: I mean permission, I do think it's a little weird
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  Speaker 2: because you know, skin to skin contact does form a bond,
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  Speaker 2: and I think you can easily come between a mother
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  Speaker 2: and their child.
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  Speaker 1: I think that particularly black children are so devoid of
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  Speaker 1: love and compassion. Understand that I think you should form bonds.
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  Speaker 2: Like that, and I agree with you. However, if you
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  Speaker 2: don't have a great relationship with your sister right like
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  Speaker 2: I mean you're talking about a bond, I think initially
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  Speaker 2: the bond has to be within the immediate family first,
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  Speaker 2: and then it can extend out. In that case, you're
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  Speaker 2: absolutely right. I totally agree. But if me and my
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  Speaker 2: sister don't get along and I come in the house
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  Speaker 2: and she's sitting there with my baby with her shirt
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  Speaker 2: off and the baby shirt off, We're gonna have a problem.
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  Speaker 1: Chances are if she don't like you, she ain't gonna
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  Speaker 1: like your baby. I think that we are. There are
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  Speaker 1: families that I've seen with an honest so close to
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  Speaker 1: the you want it, like Tyler is very close to Ernie.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I get it. I'm close to my niece.
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  Speaker 2: I love my niece, you know. I just I wouldn't
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  Speaker 2: do skin to skin contact without her mother's you know, permission.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not just gonna go snatch the baby up and
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  Speaker 2: just take her.
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  Speaker 1: I've seen my daughter that is so crazy about their
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  Speaker 1: nieces that they try to they're there to them. And
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  Speaker 1: you know what, when you ask one or and when
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  Speaker 1: you want to go somewhere and when you need, I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna tell you something. It is, It is. It is
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  Speaker 1: depending on obviously the kind of relationship you have, but
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  Speaker 1: everybody got to have a friend. Like a dope auntie
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  Speaker 1: is probably the only thing better than a dope auntie.
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  Speaker 1: Your uncle is a grandmother. That's the only thing better, Ye,
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  Speaker 1: the only thing better. And I would say a dope
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  Speaker 1: auntie is better than a grandmother sometimes. Yeah, a dope auntie,
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  Speaker 1: your uncle, somebody just look like your partner. Because in
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  Speaker 1: the end, in the end, for a little while, if
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  Speaker 1: you got that kind of dynamic that you're gonna be
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  Speaker 1: close to your auntie than you all your mother, do
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  Speaker 1: you go?
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  Speaker 5: You go?
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  Speaker 1: In the end, it'll work like that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it'll probably call some friction.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you're gonna be talking about your mama buying her
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  Speaker 1: bag and you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 2: Indeed, it's tough. Though I'm telling you, me and my
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  Speaker 2: niece have a great relationship. Sometimes the way I feel
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  Speaker 2: about her parenting or the way I feel that she's
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  Speaker 2: treated does not fall in line with her mother, and
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  Speaker 2: I have to check myself and remind myself I'm not
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  Speaker 2: this girl's.
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  Speaker 1: Mother, right, but I think that in the end, children
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  Speaker 1: in these days seem to be devoid of kind of love.
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  Speaker 2: I think children these days are just a little on
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  Speaker 2: the weird because they spent a lot of time on
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  Speaker 2: social media and no real social interaction. I think it's
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  Speaker 2: more that than so. The question we're asking ladies and
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  Speaker 2: gentlemen take it. Listen to the audio.
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  Speaker 3: Kenya, what are you doing with my kid?
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  Speaker 6: Skin?
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  Speaker 7: Skin?
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  Speaker 1: Why you think that's weird?
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  Speaker 7: Or is it?
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  Speaker 1: Is it natural?
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  Speaker 8: Skip?
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  Speaker 3: What do you think?
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  Speaker 9: I mean, it can be weird? Do you hope it's not?
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  Speaker 9: But like she seems surprised, like when she came in,
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  Speaker 9: like where's my baby? And then like what are you doing?
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  Speaker 8: Skin? Again?
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  Speaker 9: She was like she had a problem with so apparently
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  Speaker 9: they weren't at their relationship. And you know, I was.
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  Speaker 8: I didn't.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't think it didn't play to me like she
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  Speaker 1: had a problem. I thought it didn't seem serious.
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  Speaker 8: It was.
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  Speaker 9: I gave you the you, I said, listen again, But
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  Speaker 9: let's act like we don't all have well, some of
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  Speaker 9: us have relatives in our family. If you walked in
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  Speaker 9: the room and that uncle had no shirt on with
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  Speaker 9: a kid, you'd be like, what the hell.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a whole different thing. But I'm just saying
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  Speaker 1: so you know, that's what I and all of us
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  Speaker 1: have had. That that's why we're in therapy. What that's
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  Speaker 1: why you don't go to Thanksgiving dinner anymore?
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  Speaker 3: Huh, don't sit on uncle, you do?
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  Speaker 8: Laugh?
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  Speaker 9: Wait a minute, No, I don't want.
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  Speaker 1: To take any more pictures.
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  Speaker 9: I had enough candy.
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  Speaker 8: That'll do it for me.
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  Speaker 1: No, I'm not even sleepy. No, No, that's not the keys. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think my risk it does depend on the family,
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  Speaker 1: you know. And the weird thing is, in a lot
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  Speaker 1: of social constructs, families like that, the babies everybody's you know,
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  Speaker 1: in a lot of communal families, the babies everybody. See,
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  Speaker 1: that's when you need. Then you better hope somebody love
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  Speaker 1: your baby. You better hope in your life. You better
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  Speaker 1: hope in your life somebody loves your baby as much
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  Speaker 1: as you do. You better hope.
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  Speaker 2: Listen, make no mistake about it. I think everybody knows
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  Speaker 2: that you hope to have a wonderful family dynamic period,
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  Speaker 2: a good relationship with your mother, a good relationship with
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  Speaker 2: your aunties, your grandmother. I mean, we all hope for that,
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  Speaker 2: but we also know in reality that is not always
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  Speaker 2: the case. And I do think that if you're going
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  Speaker 2: to take somebody's baby and lay it on you naked
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  Speaker 2: and imprint on them, you should at least have them.
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  Speaker 1: Mother to see you what. Yeah, you should, But I
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  Speaker 1: think that they are people that they're I've seen people
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  Speaker 1: that are so close they cross those bonds and I
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  Speaker 1: don't even know where that is happening. So I just, uh,
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  Speaker 1: we'll see, all right, We're gonna see what you guys think.
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  Speaker 1: Do you think this is weird or do you think
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  Speaker 1: it's natural?
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  Speaker 9: We're going to the phones?
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  Speaker 10: Totally inappropriate. She should not be doing. Man, if the
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  Speaker 10: baby wants to bong with the mother, that's one thing,
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  Speaker 10: but certainly not the ant.
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  Speaker 4: I tell the aunts you needs some.
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  Speaker 10: Therapy, So certainly the aunt needs more than some help.
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  Speaker 10: And if the sister is smart, she better keep instead
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  Speaker 10: of one eye on that so that you need to
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  Speaker 10: keep two eyes on her because you might wind up
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  Speaker 10: open up a can of whoop on them. But definitely
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  Speaker 10: definitely inappropriate. For no, it does not take all of that.
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  Speaker 11: No.
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  Speaker 12: No, Well, basically it's about family and it's about love.
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  Speaker 12: I mean, I grew up with both my parents. I
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  Speaker 12: was fortunate that I had my mom for thirty two years,
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  Speaker 12: my dad for forty nine. But the idea is, children
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  Speaker 12: of any denomination, whatsoever, need love. They need affection. They
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  Speaker 12: need to be taught how to receive love that's true,
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  Speaker 12: so that they can give love that's true.
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  Speaker 8: So I don't see anything wrong. Skin.
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  Speaker 12: The skin knows the whatever as long as they're being
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  Speaker 12: it's being given in its proper context. Because some people
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  Speaker 12: are perverse in their attitudes. But then I'm seventy years
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  Speaker 12: old and I lived through the Newest Area nwdest era.
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  Speaker 12: I lived through the wild Child, Wildflower Timothy Leary tune in,
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  Speaker 12: tune out era, I lived through all that. But like
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  Speaker 12: I said, the children of today that are so literally sensitive,
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  Speaker 12: at least if you can give them the right type
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  Speaker 12: of affection, the love that's actually from the heart, then
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  Speaker 12: I don't see any harmis.
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  Speaker 4: Think it would be perfectly fine.
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  Speaker 3: But I like to mention where he spoke on, like
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  Speaker 3: how the unteasing uncle used to be back in to day.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, my aunt was like she was like my mom
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  Speaker 6: to me.
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  Speaker 3: But then it's like once I got grown, they start
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  Speaker 3: showing favorite to them.
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  Speaker 6: So that be the thing.
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  Speaker 3: If you don't stay the sign, then that's fine, but
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  Speaker 3: I mean not of you. You gonna If you got
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  Speaker 3: the tendencies to switch up and you don't be that
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  Speaker 3: person who you was in the beginning, then that's when
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  Speaker 3: it become a problem.
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  Speaker 8: But it's overall.
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  Speaker 3: I don't really think there's nothing wrong with it. I
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  Speaker 3: think it would be.
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  Speaker 4: It would be, it could be.
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  Speaker 3: A good thing if you have good intentions.
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  Speaker 13: First of all, when you're doing skin to skin contact,
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  Speaker 13: you don't have to have your whole shirt off.
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  Speaker 8: That that would be a little bit ridiculous to me.
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  Speaker 13: You don't have to have the whole your whole shirt off.
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  Speaker 13: You can just make sure that their faith.
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  Speaker 6: Is touching your the skin on your chest.
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  Speaker 8: You didn't have to.
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  Speaker 5: I don't think she had to go that far.
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  Speaker 13: But the skinner skin contact is great for a baby.
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  Speaker 4: In my experience, what.
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  Speaker 13: I've done is made sure that is okay with the mom.
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  Speaker 13: I don't, you know, just do that based off of
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  Speaker 13: what I think I want or whatever, because that's that
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  Speaker 13: is weird.
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  Speaker 8: That seems weird to me that you would.
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  Speaker 13: Not okay that with the mom beforehand, just to make
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  Speaker 13: sure that it's no you know, conflict going on. Between
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  Speaker 13: you and the mom before you, you know, get that
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  Speaker 13: close to the child.
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  Speaker 11: Like, it's weird, Kenya, what are you doing with my kid?
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  Speaker 3: Doing skins of skin? But why form a beautiful attachment?
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  Speaker 3: That's my baby?
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  Speaker 7: Don't you do it with her?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 7: But I gave bread to her.
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  Speaker 3: But still, that's my babe. Is she's so in peace.
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  Speaker 3: She's gonna love me just.
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  Speaker 6: Like she loves your sister.
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  Speaker 13: That is so weird, Like, what are not weird? What
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  Speaker 13: are you doing?
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  Speaker 7: It really comes in, are you really naked?
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  Speaker 3: Of course you need to do skins of skin?
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  Speaker 6: You need to be naked to her.
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  Speaker 2: She's she's naked and I'm naked skin to skin.
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  Speaker 12: Okay, all right.
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  Speaker 1: She needs to know what I smell like, she needs
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  Speaker 1: to know what I feel like. She needs to know
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  Speaker 1: that she can call on me.
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  Speaker 9: I'm yere jesus.
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  Speaker 1: Con So, ladies, gentlemen, what do you think? Do you
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  Speaker 1: think this is natural? Or do you think this is weird?
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  Speaker 1: We're going to divocus.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, skin the skin bonding is very important, which is
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  Speaker 4: why they play basis on their mothers immediately out of
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  Speaker 4: the womb, and why different cultures actually keep their children
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  Speaker 4: close to them and while we feel so good when
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  Speaker 4: others touch them. So yes, I do feel like it's
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  Speaker 4: very important.
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  Speaker 8: Well, the skin of skin bonding.
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  Speaker 11: I really don't think it's appropriate in any way. Although
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  Speaker 11: it's one thing if it's a partner, like if you
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  Speaker 11: know them for a long time, Yeah, I understand. But
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  Speaker 11: for the child, it doesn't matter if it's a mother
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  Speaker 11: and a child or anyone in general, it's just really perverting.
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  Speaker 11: No fanh foot. That's my opinion on the question.
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  Speaker 4: I think it's the sweet of the aunts or the sister,
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  Speaker 4: but I think some things should be reserved for a.
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  Speaker 5: Mom and their child.
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  Speaker 11: Like I think that was too much.
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  Speaker 3: I mean when it came to.
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  Speaker 5: Her being naked that when I draw the lot, I
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  Speaker 5: want to do that with my nephew. So I think
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  Speaker 5: that was too much. You could like show or build
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  Speaker 5: a connection without doing all of that.
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  Speaker 8: Oh yeah, I just think it's part of the culture. Well,
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  Speaker 8: I mean, what is this the people there hispanic? Right?
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  Speaker 8: I just think it's a cultural thing, that's all. Every
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  Speaker 8: culture has got different uh, you know, different customs.
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  Speaker 6: Depending on the family dynamics. Is what deal said. Well,
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  Speaker 6: clearly the mother was not with it because she would
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  Speaker 6: not have to help that it was weird, and I
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  Speaker 6: agree with the mother. Unless the aunt got permission to
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  Speaker 6: do skins and skin with the baby, the honest.
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  Speaker 5: Out of order, that's that's weird.
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  Speaker 8: Not only weird, it's perverted on a few levels.
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  Speaker 5: So are you gonna be naked with somebody else? I've
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  Speaker 5: got your child, and so unless you got the mom's approval,
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  Speaker 5: that's out of order. And yet I agree with the
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  Speaker 5: closeness of uncles and aunts because I grew up pretty
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  Speaker 5: close with my uncles and aunts. But they're needs to
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  Speaker 5: be permission and appooval given for you to be naked
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  Speaker 5: with someone's child. It's just perverted to me.
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