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Soft Parenting? · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mamas. Dear mamas, are
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  Speaker 1: parents these days too soft or not soft enough? Well,
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  Speaker 1: let's ask our American mamas and joining us now our
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  Speaker 1: American mamas Terry Nediville and Kimberly Burlison. Okay, let's start here.
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  Speaker 1: You are a new grandmother, Terry, and so your son
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  Speaker 1: is a new dad. Is he not soft enough?
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  Speaker 2: Is he too soft? What do you think? I will
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  Speaker 2: say right now, because Ridge is almost six months old. Huh,
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  Speaker 2: I will say that Steele is very protective, very like
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  Speaker 2: he wants him in the bubble, he's researching. Hey, I'm
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  Speaker 2: not gonna. I really don't want to have screen time
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  Speaker 2: when he's with you, So just you know, let's beak
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  Speaker 2: to the TV off. All right. But I'm coming from
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  Speaker 2: a place with regard to this question. I have athletes.
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  Speaker 2: All three of mine were athletes. Yes, my boys were baseball, football,
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  Speaker 2: and baseball, but mainly baseball. So Kevin was hard. Kevin.
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  Speaker 2: I would say that our kids have grown up with
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  Speaker 2: a hard parent and a softer parent. So Kevin's a
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  Speaker 2: hard parent. I'm the softer parent. With regard to sports,
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  Speaker 2: there were so many arguments in that batting cage. The
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  Speaker 2: steal or slay would come in slam the door. I'm
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  Speaker 2: done with baseball. I'm quitting baseball. Kevin would come in
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  Speaker 2: and say, oh my god, we have soft kids. They
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  Speaker 2: can't even handle constructive criticism, and I'm doing damage control.
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  Speaker 2: Then at the end of it all, they're thanking their
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  Speaker 2: father for all the time that he spent in the cage.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, what about me? I did the damage control
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  Speaker 2: when you're ready to leave this house.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I went to a baseball game this weekend
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  Speaker 3: because our youngest nephew, Bowden, was playing, yes, and so
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  Speaker 3: one of the dads, he's a friend of ours, he
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  Speaker 3: was yelling at his son. He got three strikeout and
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  Speaker 3: he was like saying something and his dad looked at
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  Speaker 3: him and said, you're sick. It is hilarious. But it
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  Speaker 3: started this conversation because Lindsay, our dad was hard on Lindsay.
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  Speaker 3: She was an incredible volleyball player.
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  Speaker 1: Wait, wait, was he not hard on y'all? Just hard
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  Speaker 1: on the.
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  Speaker 2: Athletically Because I don't think I don't think he saw
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  Speaker 2: it as Kimberly really was an athletic.
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  Speaker 3: I was, okay, what are you talking about?
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  Speaker 1: He quit in the.
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  Speaker 2: Middle of tug of war, and.
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  Speaker 3: I was, gee, but well you Terry threw up after
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  Speaker 3: every single race.
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  Speaker 2: I came yes.
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  Speaker 3: But we get in this argument, and Lindsay is saying,
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  Speaker 3: I'm glad that dad was hard on me because I
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  Speaker 3: feel like it prepared me for life. She said, when
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  Speaker 3: I was in high school, played volleyball and I had
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  Speaker 3: to fight for my position. All of us got scholarships.
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  Speaker 3: Every girl, like six girls got full scholarships. Lindsay also
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  Speaker 3: got a full scholarship. But she said every one of
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  Speaker 3: those girls quit their freshman year because I didn't like
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  Speaker 3: the coach where she had one of the hardest coaches
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  Speaker 3: in the wild. Yeah, and she said four years, and
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  Speaker 3: then became a coach herself at university. Came to the
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  Speaker 3: fourth of July, she said, because of my dad, She said,
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  Speaker 3: I was prepared. Nothing hurt my feelings. I didn't take
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  Speaker 3: things personal, you know, because my dad was so tough.
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  Speaker 3: And she goes, I look back, and I think he
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  Speaker 3: prepared me for business. She goes the nose. Don't bother me,
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  Speaker 3: she said. When I'm in sales, they don't bother me.
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  Speaker 3: She said, kids are too soft. Then I asked my
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  Speaker 3: daughter Shane. I was like her boyfriend who plays for
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  Speaker 3: the Yankees right now, And I said, her dad, his
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  Speaker 3: dad was hard on him. And I said, was your
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  Speaker 3: dad hard And he said, yes, he was so hard
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  Speaker 3: on me. But now I'm so glad he was for
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  Speaker 3: the same reason. Yes, makes you better, makes you stronger,
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  Speaker 3: makes you appreciate, he said. But I wanted to keep
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  Speaker 3: his mouth shut. Now, I mean now to tell me
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  Speaker 3: what to do. Yeah, exactly, you know, but I feel
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  Speaker 3: like these soft parents that are soft on their kids.
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  Speaker 3: And there are a lot of parents at that game.
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  Speaker 3: They were irritated at air in the friend the dad
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  Speaker 3: that was yelling at his son there looking at him like, what.
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  Speaker 2: Are you doing?
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  Speaker 3: Why would you say that? Why would you hurt him?
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  Speaker 3: And he's like, because I don't want my kid to
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  Speaker 3: be a quitter. I don't want my kid to blame
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  Speaker 3: other people other than himself, and that if I have
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  Speaker 3: to be hard on him to make him stronger and better,
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to do it.
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  Speaker 2: Well, there's a balance, there is a balance. You don't
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  Speaker 2: want to humiliate, you don't want to do that. But
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  Speaker 2: you just brought up that point about Lindsay And I
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  Speaker 2: will tell you one of the things that I admire
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  Speaker 2: about our sister lindsay, she does not get her feelings hurt.
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  Speaker 2: She doesn't get her or if somebody says something to her,
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  Speaker 2: or if we if if if we you know, because
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  Speaker 2: we're so close that we can say whatever we want.
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  Speaker 2: She never takes anything personally. She gets to the other
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  Speaker 2: side of it, and that's it. I have always admired
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  Speaker 2: that about her, and now I understand where she got
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  Speaker 2: why her skin is so thick, Like there's some things
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  Speaker 2: that would have been said to me that I would
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  Speaker 2: have held on to and thought, God, why did that
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  Speaker 2: person just say that? And it would hurt. She doesn't.
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  Speaker 2: She loves you anyway, Like look, you know, it's.
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  Speaker 3: Well, she sells you. She'll be very frank about it
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  Speaker 3: about female sports versus male sports, you know, Like our
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  Speaker 3: dad always said that with boys, usually when you're like
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  Speaker 3: really tough on a kid, you that encourages him to
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  Speaker 3: be stronger, Like I'll prove you wrong.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm going to get.
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  Speaker 3: Out there, whereas girls are so sensitive. It's like, you
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  Speaker 3: hurt my feelings. I'm going to tell my parents, we
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  Speaker 3: want to get you fired. That's what I'm seeing sports.
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  Speaker 3: That kind of thing. Okay, and so he said, it's
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  Speaker 3: a very different thing to deal with. But really it's female.
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  Speaker 3: Female coaches need to coach female because they don't let
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  Speaker 3: him mess around because a female knows what you're trying
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  Speaker 3: to do, if you're trying to manipulate, if you're two soft.
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  Speaker 3: So interesting, I feel like it's a better dynamic. That
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  Speaker 3: is very that's fascinating to me.
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  Speaker 1: book Kimberly Burle, listen, thank you so much, Thank you,