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Overstaying Your Welcome · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mamas. Dear mama, is
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  Speaker 1: how long until you overstay you're welcome? Well, let's ask
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  Speaker 1: American mama's.
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  Speaker 2: Mamma Mama.
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  Speaker 1: Enjoining us now are American mama's tern Needeville and Kimberly Burlison.
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  Speaker 1: Oh so sad you guys got to go. Thank you
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  Speaker 1: so much for enjoyed it. Okay, So how long until
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  Speaker 1: you've overstayed your and y'all could never overstay? You're welcome
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  Speaker 1: here on American Ground Radio.
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  Speaker 3: We love you guys. Oh, thank goodness too. This is
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  Speaker 3: like an actual topic in our house right now. Really, yes,
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  Speaker 3: this is a topic.
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  Speaker 1: You have a house guest.
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  Speaker 3: Well, when people came, I'm like, please just stay for
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  Speaker 3: a long weekend, please, Okay, I just want a long weekend.
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  Speaker 3: Three days, three three days maybe four three four tops.
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  Speaker 3: That's it, you know, because the rule of thumb is
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  Speaker 3: you want people to be, you know, sad that you're
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  Speaker 3: and wishing you would stay longer, sure, and not relieve
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  Speaker 3: that you're leaving. Okay, So we're going to Portland and
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  Speaker 3: my husband's brother lives in Portland. Okay, it's going to
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  Speaker 3: be his birthday. So my husband because it's his brother.
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  Speaker 3: He wants to go for a week, all right, And
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  Speaker 3: I said, we're not doing that. I said, I won't go,
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  Speaker 3: and he's like, you won't go, and I'm like, not
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  Speaker 3: if you're going for a week. I said, I'll go
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  Speaker 3: for a long weekend. But that's as long as I'm going,
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  Speaker 3: because but this is my brother. I said, no, I'm
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  Speaker 3: telling you. His wife doesn't want us there for more
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  Speaker 3: than a long weekend. Trust me.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, but is it possible that other people have a
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  Speaker 1: different determination.
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  Speaker 2: It's not possible.
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  Speaker 1: It's not possible.
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  Speaker 3: It's not possible.
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  Speaker 4: Well, it depends on if it's family or if it's friends. Okay,
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  Speaker 4: let's just say it like that. Like I remember, and
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  Speaker 4: this is probably why when we were growing up, if
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  Speaker 4: we were allowed to spend the night with somebody, they
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  Speaker 4: would take us at five the night with Friday night
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  Speaker 4: and they would pick us up by ten Saturday morning,
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  Speaker 4: and am in that was it? Okay? And I always like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: we were you know, we were just getting started and nope,
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  Speaker 4: that's the deal. Well then you become a parent and
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  Speaker 4: you're like, what a gift that was? You know, because
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  Speaker 4: usually if a kid stays, it will be all day
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  Speaker 4: and then they might stay that night another night on
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  Speaker 4: the weekends. I had this happen all the time. But
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  Speaker 4: I also remember we were when we lived in Mississippi.
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  Speaker 4: I was in seventh grade, you were in the eighth grade.
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  Speaker 4: Raleigh Walker and his family came and stayed with us.
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  Speaker 4: They were coming in and they were going on to
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  Speaker 4: Florida for the beach. Well, they got there the night before.
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  Speaker 4: Mom put on a big meal. We had a great time.
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  Speaker 4: We had fun with the kids, and then we all
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  Speaker 4: had big pilot palettes on the floor in the living room.
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  Speaker 4: The next morning we woke up, they were gone, and
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  Speaker 4: I was like, oh wait, we're Scott Matt and where's everybody.
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  Speaker 4: My dad said, that's the way to do it.
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  Speaker 2: That's the way to do it.
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  Speaker 4: So that's what we did if we needed a landover.
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  Speaker 4: You know, It's like, you don't want them to feel
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  Speaker 4: like they have to get up and make big breakfast
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  Speaker 4: and they can say, oh, we wish I would have stayed.
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  Speaker 3: Are the best guests inside.
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  Speaker 4: It's like when when Kimberly and I went to New
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  Speaker 4: York just for a visit, we stayed with our cousin Rachel,
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  Speaker 4: and how many days like three or four, I don't know,
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  Speaker 4: and we were never there. We we we had a
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  Speaker 4: mission first of all, so we were there on a mission.
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  Speaker 4: But we saw every single site everything we wanted to see.
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  Speaker 4: And Rachel's husband was like, they're the best guests we
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  Speaker 4: have ever had. We weren't there. We took them, woke up, Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: then we were. We were went to bed that we
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  Speaker 4: were not there. They're working too. Yeah, we're trying to
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  Speaker 4: stay out of the way. And we were enjoying ourselves too.
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  Speaker 4: So that was a free you know, free board for
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  Speaker 4: the time that we were there. So we didn't want
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  Speaker 4: to and we didn't want to interfere in their time.
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  Speaker 4: But I just think that if you leave, like Kimberly said,
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  Speaker 4: it's kind of like at a party, if you leave
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  Speaker 4: the party at a place where people are like, oh man,
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  Speaker 4: I wish that. I wish they didn't have to leave
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  Speaker 4: so early. That was so fun. We got to have
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  Speaker 4: them back rather than be the person where they're flicking
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  Speaker 4: the light on and off like hold everybody, hey, we
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  Speaker 4: got to go to bed. You know, there's just you
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  Speaker 4: have to be.
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  Speaker 3: Aware of you remember me and that friend that I used
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  Speaker 3: to have that I dropped like a sandbag. Remember that
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  Speaker 3: one worst guess I ever had. So when we lived
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  Speaker 3: in Utah, you would not believe the number of people
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  Speaker 3: that want to come to your home because they want
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  Speaker 3: to ski. Sure, so I'm talking weeks at a time.
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  Speaker 3: We're having constant guests. We were not wealthy, we were
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  Speaker 3: just in our twenties. You know, just fly today. So
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  Speaker 3: that's a lot. That's very costly to have people come
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  Speaker 3: to your home for a week at a time all
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  Speaker 3: the time, yes, in the winter. And to me, I
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  Speaker 3: thought if people would come just for a long weekend.
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  Speaker 3: But then say, I know, you got a job to do.
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  Speaker 3: You got work to do, You do your thing. We
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  Speaker 3: just needed a place to stay all day every day.
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  Speaker 3: I can do that. But when they want you to
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  Speaker 3: entertain them, yeah, no, no, only certain certain people. But
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  Speaker 3: that one friend I dropped like a sandbag. Were complained
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  Speaker 3: to me, you fit into people's lifestyle if they wake
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  Speaker 3: up there, if you wake up early, fit into their lifestyle.
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  Speaker 1: Right. No, I get that absolutely, and I try and
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  Speaker 1: do that when I when I travel somewhere new, I
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  Speaker 1: want to fit into the culture that's that's there, and
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  Speaker 1: households have their own cultures. So yeah, you do want
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  Speaker 1: to try and fit in, and if you don't like
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  Speaker 1: their culture, don't stay there next.
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  Speaker 3: Time exactly for five days exactly. So when you and
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  Speaker 3: Wendy come to my house weekend, tops.
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  Speaker 1: I'm delightful. People want me to stay way past everyone.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone else going they're like that guy. Okay, uh, well,
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  Speaker 1: we're out of time. If you'd like to ask our
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  Speaker 1: Mama's button, tarry out about Kimberly Brothers and thank you
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  Speaker 1: so much