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Why do so many narcissists quit their jobs so much? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite selfaware narcissist Mr. Lee Hammett
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  better known as mental illness across all social media
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  platforms. This is the first time I see my
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  face and hearing my voice. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist. I need my platform on social
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  media to raise awareness for NPD, get more people into the
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  therapy and also validate the victims, survivors and thrivers
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  of said disorder, said Toxist. People said toxic traits.
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  Today's episode is going to be about why do narcissists?
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  Quit their jobs. Why?
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  Why is it so damn hard for a narcissistic person, some of
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  them, well quite a few of them, to hold down a job?
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  Why are they so frustrated with where they work and things like
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  that? All things job related with
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  toxic narcissistic people. Before we hop in today's
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  So why is it so hard for a narcissistic person to hold down
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  a job? So for for me, y'all.
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  Because if you don't know, I turned 38 years old on July the
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  14th of this year. Yeah, yeah, yeah, July 14th,
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  1985. Y'all, I'm a cancer.
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  To this I'm a cancer in Zodiac and to this planet, apparently
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  because everybody thinks narcissists no cancers like
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  cancer risk like sick make you sick and what not.
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  But it does. But y'all, let me let me preface
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  this y'all because I know I already know where this is going
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  because every time I mention my birthday.
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  Everybody conversations. Oh my, my girlfriend's a cancer,
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  My boyfriend's a cancer. My husband, my wife, my mom and
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  my dad. But y'all.
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  I don't think that Zodiac has anything to do with narcissistic
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  personal disorder or or toxicity.
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  That's just me. I'm not questioning your beliefs
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  or what you think, but that's just me.
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  But yeah, why do narcissists quit their jobs or move on from
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  jobs so much so it's just for me.
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  Y'all so I've had so many jobs throughout my life and me
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  personally. Of course narcissists don't like
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  having bosses. Of course.
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  Yeah, of course. Narcissistic people.
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  We have this delusional mindset that we think that we are better
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  than most people, right? Including our bosses, Including
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  our higher ups, Including the people who created the company
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  that we might actually work for. We hate when people tell us what
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  to do. We hate.
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  We think that we can do it better than other people.
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  Let's just put it like that. We think that we can do it
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  better than you can. We think we can do it better
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  than our boss. We think we can do it better
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  than anybody else out here, so it makes us angry as hell.
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  Do we have to answer to somebody else?
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  Yeah. Every single job I've had since
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  I started working at Wendy's when I was 18 years old in
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  Reidsville, NC on Freeway Drive. Every single job I've had, I've
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  damn near hated every boss I had.
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  And they were some pretty decent bosses.
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  The first boss at Wendy's? No, he was actually a horrible
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  person, but I've had some actually pretty good people as
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  bosses. But I just hated the fact that
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  they were my boss. So I associated them with this.
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  This higher standard didn't over me this higher this hierarchy in
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  my life. Like they were above me, so I
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  hated them, you know what I'm saying?
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  I've had some good people, some actually good decent human
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  beings, be my boss or my supervisor or whatever, But I
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  automatically has a disdain towards them because it's just
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  like when they tell me, when they tell me what to do or give
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  me a direction, it automatically just sets me off.
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  Y'all Oh my goodness. I remember working.
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  I remember working at a Harris to the distribution center in
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  Greensboro, NC, and I had a boss named James.
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  And James was a good, good dude. I'm telling he was one of the
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  good people. He was actually a good dude.
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  But I cannot stand him because I, you know, I had a college
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  degree, I'm working and he's telling me what to do.
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  I was like, you're not even qualified to tell me what to do.
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  So I'm always go. I go to work frustrated because
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  I think I'm better than the boss.
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  I'm more educated than you. I'm supposed to be your boss.
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  Why didn't you tell me what to do?
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  It's just my mind was working like that.
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  Y'all my mind would automatically ended.
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  Did you see how it works though? Y'all.
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  You have a narcissistic person. Does not like their job, does
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  not like their boss. They come home and take it out
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  on you, don't they? You get you become the recipient
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  of their toxicity because they hate their bosses or they don't
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  like when they work at or they hate their employer.
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  Whatever the situation is, whatever the dynamic is, you
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  understand the situation. You understand that.
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  The the mindset of it. All right?
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  You get it. You understand the dynamic.
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  You know what I mean? So that happens so many times
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  when you're dealing with narcissistic, toxic people that
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  that's what they do to you. That's absolutely what they do
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  to you. Get into your mind.
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  Like we we get into our minds. We better than you, and we hate
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  our jobs. So we get frustrated every
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  single hour. And then we're at work, we come
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  home, we take it out on you, take it out on the kids, take it
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  out on people at work, take it on people while we're at work.
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  Because if I have a boss and I just happen to have people
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  underneath me, it's kind of like the whole the whole euphemism or
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  whatever you call it, crap rolls downhill.
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  If I have to handle this crap, you want to take my crap?
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  So some narcissist, the people get so frustrated that they at a
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  job that they think they're both qualified there like they might.
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  They might not have any skills at all.
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  They might just have the Super delusions, the grandeur, and
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  just quit that job or just do just get get fired.
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  It doesn't have to be quick. They can get their asses fired
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  for being a horrible employee, for being a horrible worker, for
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  being a horrible person. It's not just the employee
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  worker being a horrible person. This this is not every single
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  nurses this job, because some nurses might work at their job
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  for 20, thirty, 40-50 years because they get that.
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  They get that validation of being a long term employee or
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  whatever. They get validation from being a
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  good employee or their longevity.
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  That absolutely comes along with it.
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  You see what I'm saying? Some narcissistic people revel
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  in the longevity and the praise that they get for being a long,
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  long time employee in good standing.
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  So like I said, this doesn't apply to every single
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  narcissistic person, but it applies to a lot of them.
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  It applies to a lot of them. So you see what I'm saying.
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  A lot of Narciss just get frustrated because we think we
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  deserve better and we even if we have a job that we might, we
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  might tell you this is our dream job.
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  But we get that job and we get in there and we get frustrated
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  as hell because it doesn't make us happy.
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  Because we are chasing happiness and it doesn't make us happy.
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  We are angry, become extreme. We become damn near
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  instantaneously angry. If this job does not make us
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  happy, then we damn near become instantly angry.
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  It's like it's like instant noodles.
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  Instant anger, Michael. We we microwave the anger while
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  you know, it's like not because we had worked for a certain
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  amount of time. It's like we slow.
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  We we put the damn anger in a crock pot and we are just
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  crocking and potting all goddamn daily.
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  We come home and take it out on you.
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  I know it made the job out of there, y'all, but it's not, you
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  know, abuse. It's not funny.
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  Y'all know. I just had to add a little
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  splash here, man. I'm not trying to, you know?
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  I'm not trying to chastise you or just make fun of you in any
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  way, shape or form. I'll help you understand that
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  right there. I'm sorry if it came out that
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  way. It was just like, seriously,
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  that was my that's not my intent, but I know the
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  difference between intent and impact.
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  If I impacted you in that way, I'm truly sorry.
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  But yeah, yeah, but this, it comes along with you though.
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  Y'all. It really, really does.
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  So I tell people all the time, narcissistic, toxic people, if
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  they are not happy at that job, you're going to get the brunt of
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  it. If you are their partner, if
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  you're their child, if you are their parent, if you are, if you
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  have any role in their life, you're going to get the Brunner.
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  Because that narcissist, the person is chasing happiness.
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  They work. They might work towards a dream
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  job. They might be a famous actor
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  that is super unhappy with their damn life.
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  A famous athlete. I've made it to the NFL.
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  I'm supposed to be happy, but I'm not happy.
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  You know why? Because of my wife and kids.
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  Or maybe it's in a W NBA. Whatever the situation is, y'all
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  y'all know women can be Narciss as well.
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  Yeah, narcissist the people. Have a lot of them have a high
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  turnover rate in in, in work because some of them this are
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  some of them absolutely lazy and think they deserve to be taken
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  care of by their partner. Yeah you get some lazy bastard
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  narcissist that just feel like they are entitled to not work.
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  So they go, they they work a couple weeks, get fired or quit.
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  Their job wasn't for me. They wouldn't let me.
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  You know what? They wouldn't let me take an
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  hour nap on my 15 minute break. How dare they?
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  Do they know who I am? Do they know who I am?
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  I try to take a hour long nap on my 15 minute break and they
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  fired me. To hell with them.
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  They don't know what they lost. Blah blah blah Boo Boo, Boo, BBB
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  Y'all understand what I'm saying because that's a lot of
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  narcissistic people do feel that way out, the high turnover rate
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  because they're unfulfilled or they just think that they're
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  more qualified to for their job than they actually are, you know
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  what I mean? And some narcissisted people, if
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  they are your boss, they might get fired for treating you badly
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  because they're not happy with their higher position.
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  I thought being a supervisor or manager would make me happy.
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  I thought being a CEO would make me happy.
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  But guess what? I'm not.
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  So everybody underneath me is going to get it.
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  Everybody underneath me, air quotes underneath me is in for a
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  rude awakening. Everybody who is around me is in
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  for a rude awakening because I'm unhappy.
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  Your ass is going to get it. How dare me not be in how dare
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  me not be happy. It's your fault in some way,
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  shape or form. But that's what that's that kind
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  of comes with the territory sometimes when you deal with
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  toxic, narcissistic gas people. I'm not justifying their abuse
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  or toxicity. I'm just saying that in the mind
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  of a narcissist, they justified themselves.
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  You know, we justify our behaviors by your existence or
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  you being around us or something along those lines.
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  You know what I mean? It just does happen.
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  The high turnover rate, they keep going.
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  If they had 20 jobs in two years, y'all got to.
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  I don't try my heart. Y'all.
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  If they have had all these jobs in two years or less or however
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  long, or they just stop working, Y'all I'm just telling you if
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  they think you're going to take care of them, they will
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  absolutely make you feel like you take care of them.
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  Like if you were a single parent or not.
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  If you were married to this person and they just don't work
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  at all. Not single, not stay at home
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  parents. That's about unemployed parents.
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  There's a difference between stay at home parents and
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  unemployed parents. Unemployed parents are just
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  like, I'm just not going to go to work, stay at home.
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  Parents are people who stay at home with the kids and you know,
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  whatever what not stay at home spouses, unemployed ones are
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  people who are willingly unemployed to keep.
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  They can't hold down the job, You know what I mean?
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  If you have an unemployed spouse or partner, they're going to
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  remain consistently unemployed because they think that you they
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  deserve to be taken care of by you.
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  And if they don't, if they, if they stay in this situation or
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  this scenario for an extended period of time where you're
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  taking care of them, they're going to get used to it and
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  they're not going to want to work.
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  They're going to they're yeah, they're going to fight.
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  They're going to fight you for their ability to stay at home
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  and be lazy as hell and get in your nerves and frustrate you.
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  Then look up, look up the term married single parent.
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  You can be a married single parent.
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  You can be a married single. I'm just telling y'all.
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  It is a rough existence sometimes when you're dealing
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  with a narcissistic person. Y'all on this level.
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