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Unexpected Turns: Makeup Mishaps, British Woes, Online Dating and AARP, again? · All About The Joy

0:00
Carmen Lezeth: Hey, rick, how you doing.
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Carmen Lezeth: Hey, Carm, I'm good.
0:02
Carmen Lezeth: How are you?
0:03
Carmen Lezeth: Hey, everyone, welcome to All About the Joy.
0:05
Carmen Lezeth: We hope Cynthia is going to be able to make it.
0:08
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, so I'm not going to say what's going on with Cynthia, but I really want her to come on and tell us, because then I'll feel better.
0:15
Carmen Lezeth: She's fine, she's absolutely fine, but she's just racing home to see if she can get online quickly.
0:21
Carmen Lezeth: So, rick, how was your week?
0:24
Rick Costa: It was pretty good.
0:25
Rick Costa: Work wasn't too bad, so that's good.
0:28
Rick Costa: One order I was stressing about, an expensive one, finally came through and everything worked out.
0:33
Carmen Lezeth: No, wait what I missed something, because I was not.
0:35
Carmen Lezeth: I don't multitask and I was trying to put your volume up.
0:38
Carmen Lezeth: Say that again.
0:39
Rick Costa: Oh, something at work.
0:40
Rick Costa: It was a big, a big ticket item stuff.
0:44
Rick Costa: I guess that was ordered and it was stressing me out because they were like we need it by the end of the month or we're not going to want it.
0:48
Rick Costa: So I literally got there on the last day of the month, on Monday.
0:52
Carmen Lezeth: I was like wow, oh, so it got there.
0:54
Carmen Lezeth: Hey, melanie Cynthia's on right now.
0:58
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just letting her get her camera fixed so that she looks beautiful and everything.
1:02
Carmen Lezeth: But I see her fix so that she looks beautiful and everything.
1:10
Carmen Lezeth: But I see her.
1:10
Carmen Lezeth: I see her in the green room.
1:11
Carmen Lezeth: Give me a thing like this when you're ready to come on cynthia.
1:13
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, she's ready.
1:14
Carmen Lezeth: I don't want to do you wrong like that.
1:18
Carmen Lezeth: How you doing, cynthia?
1:19
Carmen Lezeth: Oh we're good, hey look.
1:22
Carmen Lezeth: I want to call you because Melanie can't hear you, so I guess it is also up there.
1:28
Carmen Lezeth: You're going to have to tell everyone what's going on, because I just made it all dramatic after saying but she's fine, hold on.
1:36
Cynthia Ruiz: Let me show you real quick.
1:38
Rick Costa: Love me.
1:40
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, xavier, the song.
1:43
Carmen Lezeth: Xavier broke his leg.
1:46
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, xavier, my house Xavier broke his leg, oh my God.
1:48
Cynthia Ruiz: He broke his ankle.
1:49
Cynthia Ruiz: It has rods in it right now In it In his legs.
1:53
Cynthia Ruiz: Yeah, so there's rods sticking out.
1:56
Carmen Lezeth: And he's having major surgery.
1:57
Carmen Lezeth: Why are the rods sticking out?
1:58
Carmen Lezeth: Why are the rods sticking?
2:00
Cynthia Ruiz: out.
2:00
Cynthia Ruiz: It's pre-surgery because he had so much swelling.
2:04
Cynthia Ruiz: So they're going gonna do the surgery on monday and the rods are there to support everything and align his ankle and everything but he still looks so cute.
2:13
Carmen Lezeth: And the pictures in the back seat.
2:15
Carmen Lezeth: You know, I love me my xavier.
2:17
Carmen Lezeth: He's so cute, but he how did we break our leg?
2:20
Carmen Lezeth: What happened?
2:21
Cynthia Ruiz: we fell down the stairs.
2:22
Cynthia Ruiz: Okay, yeah, sorry, I'm just letting my charger here Are you feeling comfortable right now.
2:31
Carmen Lezeth: I told you you don't have to come on.
2:32
Carmen Lezeth: I was like I'll walk in with Rick, you know, even though I don't want to do this with Rick by myself.
2:38
Rick Costa: Fun fact, I have metal rods in my back too.
2:42
Carmen Lezeth: In your back.
2:43
Carmen Lezeth: Is it all about you?
2:43
Carmen Lezeth: I have a rod in my hip.
2:47
Rick Costa: Okay, cynthia, you have any rods?
2:49
Cynthia Ruiz: No rods.
2:51
Carmen Lezeth: Why is it all about you?
2:53
Carmen Lezeth: I just had to do that to you.
2:57
Rick Costa: I just wanted to feel a part.
2:59
Carmen Lezeth: A part of having an injury.
3:01
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you're so crazy.
3:02
Carmen Lezeth: I was telling Rick earlier that I was hoping that you would come on quicker, right, because that's why I text you yeah, because I was like we'll go on early so we could do a little recap of 9-1-1, and I wanted to give you some insight as to what happened.
3:19
Carmen Lezeth: I know rick has not watched the show, even though we've tried to implore him to do it.
3:25
Cynthia Ruiz: I only watched the first episode.
3:27
Cynthia Ruiz: I haven't watched today's episode Because it's coming on.
3:30
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, yours already aired, mine hasn't aired yet.
3:32
Carmen Lezeth: It comes on at nine o'clock, so it's on right now.
3:34
Carmen Lezeth: Oh For you.
3:35
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
3:37
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I haven't watched the second episode either, but let me just say this I'm totally like not loving the bees, but yeah right, it was kind of campy, weird, okay.
3:49
Carmen Lezeth: So we'll wait to see the second episode.
3:50
Carmen Lezeth: But the reason why I wanted to bring this up is I reached out to the los angeles fire department.
3:56
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, for those of you who don't know, the show 9-1-1 actually is about.
4:05
Cynthia Ruiz: Fire.
4:06
Carmen Lezeth: Station 118 here in Los Angeles.
4:09
Carmen Lezeth: It's not about them exactly, but it is actually a fire station here in Los Angeles.
4:13
Carmen Lezeth: So I had bought myself a t-shirt from the LAFD and I bought one for Cynthia, one for Wong and I sent some as a gift or whatever Because I wanted to support the Los Angeles Fire Department and I sent some as a gift or whatever because I wanted to support the Los Angeles Fire Department.
4:24
Carmen Lezeth: But here's the thing they have unisex size, which I can't stand because it's really men's.
4:30
Carmen Lezeth: That's what it's men's.
4:32
Carmen Lezeth: And then we just have to fit into it and it just anyways.
4:35
Carmen Lezeth: I cut up my shirt, my t-shirt, and it's now ruined completely because it does not.
4:40
Carmen Lezeth: I have a body people, okay.
4:48
Carmen Lezeth: I got boobs and a waist and I like my shit to work, okay.
4:52
Carmen Lezeth: So I emailed the lafd.
4:53
Carmen Lezeth: I was like hi, my name is carmen.
4:55
Carmen Lezeth: They responded in their next meeting they're going to talk about having women's sizes on their website.
5:02
Carmen Lezeth: And and I said to them how do you not know that this show has been on since 2018?
5:08
Carmen Lezeth: They had no idea what.
5:10
Carmen Lezeth: Somebody must know.
5:12
Carmen Lezeth: But the people who handle the nonprofit that handles all their clothing.
5:16
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like you guys could have been making so much money.
5:18
Carmen Lezeth: I was on Reddit and Reddit doesn't know where to get clothing from the show what I'm like.
5:25
Carmen Lezeth: Are you people crazy?
5:27
Cynthia Ruiz: Because I would have definitely missed an opportunity there.
5:30
Carmen Lezeth: That's what I mean I needed to.
5:32
Carmen Lezeth: You know, I needed to fit all the parts correctly, okay, Women have curves, okay, hello.
5:39
Carmen Lezeth: No, I don't.
5:39
Carmen Lezeth: Women's fits differently than men's, wouldn't you agree, cynthia?
5:43
Carmen Lezeth: Like men's is a boxy shirt and it just and there are women firefighters.
5:49
Carmen Lezeth: It's just also lazy.
5:51
Carmen Lezeth: It's just.
5:52
Carmen Lezeth: Don't call it unisex.
5:54
Carmen Lezeth: Just say we only have men's sizes, because unisex is just men's sizes, that's all it is.
5:59
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, that's very true.
6:00
Carmen Lezeth: I have never bought a unisex shirt that fit me well, never, not once.
6:05
Carmen Lezeth: But anyway, I thought that was funny and they went back and forth with me.
6:09
Carmen Lezeth: Whoever it was, I forget what her name was.
6:11
Carmen Lezeth: I want to say Kathy, she was on her iPhone and I said I'm so sorry to bother you on a Saturday morning and she's like no, this is good, we have our meetings on Monday and I was like, if you could let them know, it's so good, I'll send you all the emails because it was hilarious, oh my god.
6:30
Carmen Lezeth: Anyways, I just wanted to mention that.
6:33
Carmen Lezeth: So, yeah, okay, whatever, okay.
6:36
Carmen Lezeth: So I sent you guys some information of what I wanted to talk about.
6:42
Carmen Lezeth: Let me just throw on the you know what.
6:44
Carmen Lezeth: First, let's talk about last week's show, which, by the way, highest rated show ever.
6:50
Carmen Lezeth: Let's go like a day later.
6:53
Carmen Lezeth: The numbers were I think it was his people, but I don't care.
6:57
Carmen Lezeth: Shout out to our people too.
6:59
Carmen Lezeth: We love you, and LinkedIn is off the hook.
7:01
Carmen Lezeth: I just love you people.
7:03
Cynthia Ruiz: It's so cool that was a really good show.
7:06
Cynthia Ruiz: I wasn't on it, but I watched it and I was so interested I was invested.
7:12
Cynthia Ruiz: Like you saw, I was commenting on everything I was in there.
7:17
Rick Costa: You were Netflix before Netflix was.
7:19
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, that was a good clip.
7:20
Carmen Lezeth: I put that clip up or whatever.
7:22
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, so he was a cool guy.
7:24
Cynthia Ruiz: Yeah, he was a cool guy.
7:25
Cynthia Ruiz: Yeah, he was very easy to talk to, easy to understand all the technology and everything that he was saying, like it was awesome.
7:32
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, yeah, we'll have him back on the show.
7:34
Carmen Lezeth: He's doing the rounds.
7:35
Carmen Lezeth: They're really excited.
7:36
Carmen Lezeth: I emailed them and everything and we'll put up more of their clips of their show and try to help promote them.
7:41
Carmen Lezeth: I thought it was a really easy interview, but it was also fun and connected to us in a way.
7:47
Carmen Lezeth: Do you know what I mean?
7:47
Carmen Lezeth: I want more people to be part of the show that are connected to us in one way, shape or form.
7:52
Carmen Lezeth: It doesn't have to be about movies and Hollywood.
7:54
Carmen Lezeth: But what is all that noise?
7:56
Carmen Lezeth: Is that feedback on my end?
7:58
Cynthia Ruiz: No it's feedback on my end.
8:00
Cynthia Ruiz: Oh, the way she just looked at Xavier.
8:04
Cynthia Ruiz: It my end.
8:10
Cynthia Ruiz: Oh, all right.
8:11
Cynthia Ruiz: Oh the way she just looked at him.
8:12
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, it's wine okay, anyways, it's all good.
8:13
Carmen Lezeth: So, yeah, I just wanted to talk about that and, rick, thank you for being on that show and said you think we're supporting everybody else who chimed in and also liked everything that we did.
8:24
Carmen Lezeth: It was just just really fun, and I want to do more interviews, but it does take a lot of work, as Rick knows.
8:29
Carmen Lezeth: We had to do a lot of research and we have to, you know, and have all the right questions and whatever.
8:34
Carmen Lezeth: And also, I didn't even prep him, so he was an anomaly, because usually you want to meet people before you put them on the show.
8:41
Carmen Lezeth: But he was fantastic.
8:42
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, maybe that's a trick.
8:44
Carmen Lezeth: You don't want, no, no, no, because it'll work against us next time.
8:47
Carmen Lezeth: It'll be so good.
8:48
Carmen Lezeth: We don't want to show us something, but he was great.
8:51
Carmen Lezeth: So, okay, great.
8:53
Carmen Lezeth: Let me just say I do have one.
8:57
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I have one news item to let everyone know about.
9:00
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know how many of you do shorts, rick, I think you do shorts on YouTube, right, you post up.
9:11
Carmen Lezeth: Starting October 15th, shorts will now be up to three minutes, which is great, because all my shorts are over a minute, so they're never viewed by anybody because YouTube does not push them out if they're over a minute, so they can only be under a minute, but as of October 15th, you can go up to three minutes and they'll push your videos out.
9:26
Carmen Lezeth: It does not include all the past YouTube shorts you've done, so all of those that I've put up are never going to get, but, anyways, just wanted to let everyone know about that for those of you who are using shorts Cynthia, you don't do shorts, right, it's TikTok, but YouTube, no, yeah, okay, cool, all right.
9:45
Carmen Lezeth: Don't do shorts, right, it's tiktok, but youtube, no, yeah, okay, cool, all right.
9:47
Carmen Lezeth: So I'm going to, I'm going to show this tiktoker whose name is brit ashley, I think.
9:53
Carmen Lezeth: Wait, let me just see.
9:54
Rick Costa: I think I'm messing up his name already I'm gonna hear a funny story really quick for you no, because it's never a funny.
10:01
Carmen Lezeth: See.
10:01
Carmen Lezeth: The thing is, where's the trick?
10:02
Carmen Lezeth: Never a funny story.
10:02
Carmen Lezeth: Am I lying?
10:03
Carmen Lezeth: Never a funny See, where's the trick?
10:05
Carmen Lezeth: Never a funny story, am I lying?
10:06
Carmen Lezeth: Never a funny story when Rick says that, okay, wait, I'm going to do this quick, you're going to be so impressed.
10:12
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, rick is like what a bitch, although he would never.
10:16
Carmen Lezeth: I know, baby, I know you would never.
10:18
Carmen Lezeth: Ever, let me see.
10:19
@britishashley: What are some of the common misconceptions?
10:21
@britishashley: Okay, wait.
10:21
@britishashley: What are some of the common misconceptions.
10:22
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, wait, here we go.
10:24
Carmen Lezeth: Can you guys see it.
10:26
@britishashley: Yeah, all right.
10:26
@britishashley: What are some of the common misconceptions that British people have about Americans and just America as a whole?
10:33
@britishashley: The first one is we think that all Americans live in massive houses.
10:38
@britishashley: And you know what, when I think about why do we think this and why did I think this until I came here, I would say the movies are the reason for that.
10:46
@britishashley: We watch things like I don't know, home Alone American Pie Planes, trains and Automobiles any you name it, any of them and they always have big houses all the time.
10:56
@britishashley: You can't blame us for thinking so.
10:58
@britishashley: And as well, because America's so big, especially compared to the UK, you've got much more land to to work with.
11:06
@britishashley: So we just I don't know we would.
11:07
@britishashley: It seems logical when we see it in the movies that we think, yeah, that's probably the way it is, but it isn't.
11:12
@britishashley: We think americans are rich because you all live in massive houses.
11:16
@britishashley: As far as we're concerned, again I think the movies are guilty of making us think this way because, again, if all we know is what we see on tv and in the movies, and it is just the big houses all the time, like mansion style houses, almost are you froze what it froze.
11:34
Carmen Lezeth: No, you, but you're screaming.
11:36
Carmen Lezeth: And it's so funny because now in the whole podcast I'm just going to be this.
11:41
Carmen Lezeth: Can you not see it?
11:44
Cynthia Ruiz: It froze on my end.
11:46
Rick Costa: Are you using your?
11:47
Carmen Lezeth: 1987 phone.
11:49
Cynthia Ruiz: Okay.
11:51
Carmen Lezeth: You're going to have to just listen, but can you hear him?
11:55
Rick Costa: Oh, no Are you serious.
11:56
Rick Costa: And look how Cynthia's screen is like this instead of like this now, because she has a phone from 1924.
12:03
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know what to say, Okay, I'm just going to play the rest of it because oh, but Cynthia, how are you going to engage?
12:10
Rick Costa: in the conversation.
12:11
Carmen Lezeth: Somebody needs a new phone.
12:12
Carmen Lezeth: I told you I would buy it for you.
12:15
Carmen Lezeth: Oh my God.
12:16
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, wait, that was such a good video.
12:19
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know what happened.
12:21
Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia, it's your phone.
12:23
Rick Costa: You didn't see or hear none of it.
12:24
Cynthia Ruiz: You didn't hear, not one word of it.
12:30
Carmen Lezeth: I heard, like the first little bit and then it just stopped.
12:31
Carmen Lezeth: No, it was fine.
12:32
Carmen Lezeth: I stopped it because you kept talking and I was like, okay, that's all right.
12:35
Carmen Lezeth: Why?
12:37
Rick Costa: Because for her it froze.
12:38
Rick Costa: So she's like did it for you.
12:39
Rick Costa: She's like fine.
12:46
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like it's going to be, it doesn't matter now, okay, wait, I don't know what to do now, because you're not going to be able to be part of the conversation.
12:51
Carmen Lezeth: Do you want to try it again?
12:52
Carmen Lezeth: That's okay, the way you said it.
12:54
Carmen Lezeth: Did you not try to use the new laptop I sent you?
13:00
Cynthia Ruiz: I didn't try the, I didn't try the camera.
13:02
Cynthia Ruiz: Oh my God, I sent you a laptop and you didn't try the camera.
13:05
Carmen Lezeth: Oh my God, I sent you a laptop and you didn't even try it.
13:09
Carmen Lezeth: No, I haven't tried the camera yet.
13:13
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I don't know how the camera's going to work, but it'd probably work better than your 1942 cell phone.
13:19
Carmen Lezeth: Notice how the year changes every time.
13:22
Rick Costa: But she's freezing a lot too, so it could be her internet.
13:25
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, she's freezing a lot too.
13:26
Carmen Lezeth: It's her phone.
13:27
Carmen Lezeth: I am 100% sure that it is her phone.
13:31
Carmen Lezeth: Anyways, okay, so I'm not going to play the whole thing, because now I'm going to have to.
13:36
Carmen Lezeth: Anyway, he talks about, he's British and he's living in Arizona and his name is Ashley and he does all these great videos about what he loves or what is different or whatever about the United States, and it's this really cool video and he talks about.
13:52
Carmen Lezeth: Like you know, europeans always think that Americans are not very well-traveled at all, and the fact is that in Europe, people don't understand how massive the United States is.
14:04
Carmen Lezeth: So you can be in your state of California or Texas and you can drive six hours and still be in Texas or still be in California.
14:15
Carmen Lezeth: Or you can drive three hours and go from one state to the other state and still be in the United States.
14:21
Carmen Lezeth: But in Europe, if you travel from one place, you can go two hours and you'll be in France or you'll be in Germany.
14:28
Carmen Lezeth: So it's much smaller.
14:30
Carmen Lezeth: And so what he was saying is this thing he was saying these misconceptions that we have, or that they have about Americans, and all of his videos are about that.
14:40
Carmen Lezeth: And it's really funny and it's really interesting because you start.
14:44
Carmen Lezeth: Usually I hear negative things about people who basically hate us.
14:48
Carmen Lezeth: Some of it is jealousy, some of it is fair.
14:51
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, because we think we're the best country in the world, and sorry to tell y'all we're not, but we're not.
14:56
Carmen Lezeth: We're not the best country in the world, and sorry to tell y'all we're not, but we're not.
14:58
Carmen Lezeth: We're not the best country in the world.
14:59
Carmen Lezeth: Unless you've been to every other country in the world, you really can't make that statement.
15:03
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, because in a lot of ways we're lacking and this isn't about politics, this is just factual.
15:10
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, like in certain things, like in education and in health, in so many different ways, in happiness.
15:18
Carmen Lezeth: There are all these different studies that are done.
15:22
Carmen Lezeth: So I just think it's interesting to hear people from other countries talk about what they see as different as we.
15:29
Carmen Lezeth: Being from the United States, I just thought it was an interesting thing, but it's not as much fun when I am saying it.
15:35
Carmen Lezeth: That's why I was having a video on.
15:39
Rick Costa: Yeah, for a lot of them they do.
15:40
Rick Costa: I think we would be surprised how much american tv they watch and movies and everything like so much is from here.
15:47
Rick Costa: As soon as he said big houses, I start thinking cosby show um fresh prince of belgium.
15:54
Rick Costa: They think that's normal, no Right.
15:57
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, he said some other things too.
15:59
Carmen Lezeth: I don't remember them all Because it's a four minute TikTok, but he does a lot of them.
16:06
Carmen Lezeth: But he was also talking about how there's another video that he talks about different words that we use that he doesn't know, and that some of the words that we use mean very different things in other countries.
16:16
Carmen Lezeth: So it's a fascinating, fascinating TikToker.
16:19
Carmen Lezeth: I follow him.
16:20
Carmen Lezeth: His name is British Ashley.
16:23
Carmen Lezeth: I think he just changed his name to because somebody tried to copy his thing or whatever.
16:27
Carmen Lezeth: So, anyways, cynthia, we're going to have to do something about your I'm not kidding though I do I need you.
16:33
Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to.
16:33
Carmen Lezeth: I'll buy you a new phone I don't even know how else to say that because I want you to be part of the show, but I can't.
16:39
Carmen Lezeth: And I do think it's your phone.
16:42
Carmen Lezeth: You have the weirdest issues.
16:44
Carmen Lezeth: You're like I don't enjoy, I cannot see joy.
16:52
Cynthia Ruiz: So can I just buy you a phone?
16:52
Cynthia Ruiz: I don't want you to waste money, I'm not.
16:56
Carmen Lezeth: But it's not a waste.
16:57
Carmen Lezeth: It's not a waste.
16:57
Carmen Lezeth: Because this is a waste, I have a whole thing to talk about.
17:02
Rick Costa: Even Carmen Ajita.
17:04
Carmen Lezeth: I know, and we cannot talk about it now because I didn't play it.
17:08
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
17:11
Rick Costa: I remember I saw a video of a British guy and he goes I'm going to find the deepest South Southern accents I could find in America and play back the video in front of you guys and give you my reactions.
17:21
Rick Costa: And he's just like what did he say?
17:24
Rick Costa: I can't understand a word.
17:25
Rick Costa: He said, it's so funny.
17:28
Carmen Lezeth: There's another video of him and someone told him to try a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.
17:33
Carmen Lezeth: So he makes a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and he doesn't do it right, like he puts on the peanut butter like it's butter, like just a little, and then he puts all this jam on it and everyone knows.
17:48
Carmen Lezeth: So he does like four videos trying to make a peanut butter and jelly and every time he eats them it's just the peanut butter and jelly.
17:55
Carmen Lezeth: He's not impressed.
17:55
Carmen Lezeth: Every time he eats them it's just a bit of jelly he's not impressed, but I think he's also good.
18:07
Rick Costa: He gets sarcastic because one of the videos he puts like a glob of just a little bit of jelly.
18:11
Rick Costa: The church fan is broken.
18:12
Carmen Lezeth: The members will not be attending.
18:13
Carmen Lezeth: It's so funny, it's great.
18:14
Carmen Lezeth: Listen, I think it's good to start again.
18:17
Carmen Lezeth: It's always all about the joy.
18:19
Carmen Lezeth: I'm always looking for people who are uplifting and not putting down.
18:22
Carmen Lezeth: I think some of the things I hate is when I see people from other countries putting down the United States.
18:27
Carmen Lezeth: Right, it's so easy to do that, and I'm not saying that some of it isn't justified.
18:32
Carmen Lezeth: But again, it's about all this hate.
18:34
Carmen Lezeth: What do you want to do with all that energy?
18:36
Carmen Lezeth: How does that change anything?
18:38
Carmen Lezeth: So, cynthia, I'm not trying to embarrass you.
18:41
Carmen Lezeth: I know you can afford your own phone, but I know you don't want to get a new phone because you don't want to deal with the newness of it.
18:47
Carmen Lezeth: But can I just tell you from my heart I've told you this before, but now also for the show I think you should get a new phone.
18:53
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I know I do have to get a new one.
18:55
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I just think it's time and I think this is evident.
18:58
Carmen Lezeth: So I'm just going to let me just throw all this away.
19:01
Carmen Lezeth: You can still go over that.
19:03
Carmen Lezeth: It's not like I have a video.
19:05
Carmen Lezeth: I do want to talk about this.
19:07
Carmen Lezeth: But, rick, tell us your funny story.
19:10
Rick Costa: I was going to say first of all, if you're that attached to your phone, then just use a new one for the broadcast and stick with your old piece of crap.
19:17
Rick Costa: I mean with your old phone, old phone.
19:23
Carmen Lezeth: I tried to give her my old phone, which is basically a much newer phone, but she didn't want that.
19:26
Carmen Lezeth: But I think now you're feeling the pain, you're feeling bad.
19:29
Carmen Lezeth: Now I can tell, because she's doing this.
19:32
Carmen Lezeth: She's like trying not to smile.
19:37
Carmen Lezeth: She don't want to say yeah.
19:38
Carmen Lezeth: She's like trying not to smile.
19:38
Carmen Lezeth: She don't want to say yeah, she right, carmen, no one ever likes to say that it's so funny.
19:43
Carmen Lezeth: Because I don't let them live it down.
19:45
Carmen Lezeth: That's why, because I will hold on to it for emma.
19:47
Carmen Lezeth: That's not true.
19:48
Carmen Lezeth: Why are you doing that?
19:50
Carmen Lezeth: It's not true.
19:51
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just letting you know.
19:52
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I'm gonna switch to my plan b subject, because I did have a plan b.
19:56
Carmen Lezeth: Just I wanted to talk about this.
19:57
Carmen Lezeth: So I was reading on aarp, who is no longer going to be our sponsor.
20:02
Carmen Lezeth: After I talk about this.
20:08
Rick Costa: Oh, I saw an article pop up the other day.
20:09
Rick Costa: I was like what?
20:11
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, what was the article that popped up for you?
20:14
Rick Costa: Senior citizen and masturbation.
20:16
Rick Costa: No, I don't want to read about that.
20:18
Rick Costa: Go away.
20:20
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, let me tell you something.
20:21
Carmen Lezeth: You can go on the website and pick what things you want to see.
20:24
Rick Costa: There was a pop-up, I was like, no, we don't need to read about that Okay, but you can say you don't want to.
20:29
Carmen Lezeth: Senior citizens have masturbation.
20:32
Carmen Lezeth: Na na na, na, na, na na na na na na.
20:34
Carmen Lezeth: Everyone has needs, rick.
20:38
Carmen Lezeth: Just because you're old doesn't mean you ain't got them.
20:41
Carmen Lezeth: Did you read the article?
20:44
Rick Costa: I just looked at it to see if it was real, I was like no, no, I didn't read every word, no, Look, there are some articles that are for you and some that are not for you, but it doesn't matter.
20:56
Carmen Lezeth: Look, I read an article today.
20:58
Carmen Lezeth: I got so angry and upset I went to comment, which I've never commented before, but I'm so sick of this subject so I went to comment and they would not put my comment.
21:08
Carmen Lezeth: Shut up, mario.
21:09
Rick Costa: Shut up, Mario Love you.
21:11
Rick Costa: Okay, here's what it is.
21:14
Rick Costa: I am Love you.
21:16
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, here's what it is the seven common makeup mistakes women over 50 make.
21:23
Carmen Lezeth: It's by Kelly James.
21:25
Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to say it.
21:26
Carmen Lezeth: She wrote a whole article about things that you shouldn't do.
21:29
Carmen Lezeth: Over Each one of them, I'm like bitch, I'm doing it tomorrow.
21:32
Carmen Lezeth: Don't wear red lipstick.
21:33
Carmen Lezeth: Are you fucking kidding me?
21:35
Carmen Lezeth: Do whatever you want, she's saying.
21:37
Carmen Lezeth: Wear a different shade because it makes you.
21:39
Carmen Lezeth: What she should say is if you have pale white skin, maybe you shouldn't wear red lipstick.
21:44
Carmen Lezeth: Right, that's not what she's saying, but you shouldn't.
21:47
Carmen Lezeth: I think you should wear whatever you want.
21:49
Carmen Lezeth: But she was right.
21:49
Carmen Lezeth: In all this stuff, you need to use a primer.
21:52
Carmen Lezeth: What, like?
21:54
Carmen Lezeth: No one is going out there with Pacing a wall.
22:05
Rick Costa: It's a.
22:05
Rick Costa: What is going on?
22:06
Carmen Lezeth: It's the same concept because supposedly you have to make your pores certain ways.
22:12
Carmen Lezeth: It evens everything out.
22:14
Carmen Lezeth: It evens everything out and then you put on your foundation.
22:16
Carmen Lezeth: You know what?
22:17
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sick of Telling women what to do with their makeup, with their face, or telling them that they have to wear makeup or whatever they want.
22:24
Carmen Lezeth: One.
22:25
Carmen Lezeth: There's one in here that said oh yeah, she wrote failing to use a primer like that's a bad thing, like primer, whatever, okay, wait.
22:33
Carmen Lezeth: The other one was oh, wearing black liquid eyeliner.
22:38
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, let me just say this I have never in all my life worn black liquid eyeliner because I can't do it.
22:44
Carmen Lezeth: All I wanted to do was get like cheap red lipstick and like liquid eyeliner and do the cat thing.
22:51
Carmen Lezeth: I was so pissed at this thing and she said they look like 70s disco people when you do that.
22:57
Carmen Lezeth: She wrote that shit in here.
22:58
Carmen Lezeth: How old is this woman?
22:59
Carmen Lezeth: Her name?
23:01
Carmen Lezeth: Let me say it again.
23:02
Rick Costa: Let me say it again kelly james.
23:03
Rick Costa: Kelly james, because I know what's on my name kelly k james.
23:07
Carmen Lezeth: Is she like 80 or 90 years old?
23:08
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
23:09
Carmen Lezeth: She's been writing for them for a while though.
23:10
Carmen Lezeth: I was trying to find her bio and because I was like I wrote kind of a quirky funny, not mean.
23:15
Carmen Lezeth: I was like can we here's?
23:17
Carmen Lezeth: I wrote.
23:17
Carmen Lezeth: I wrote something to the effect of can we get to a place where we stop telling women what they can and can't do over at any age?
23:24
Carmen Lezeth: If women want to wear red lipstick, let them wear red lipstick.
23:27
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
23:28
Carmen Lezeth: And I said I right now I'm going to go out and do my best 70s and get me some black eyeliner liquid or whatever.
23:33
Carmen Lezeth: I was like a little bit funny and I went back a couple of times to look and it wasn't on there like they did.
23:38
Carmen Lezeth: But they let other people's comments come on Austin.
23:41
Rick Costa: I'm like.
23:42
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, you see what they did.
23:43
Carmen Lezeth: I see what you did there.
23:44
Carmen Lezeth: So I'm like I'm all over it now.
23:46
Carmen Lezeth: I just think it's weird Like you have the one extreme on Tik TOK, where they're, you know, 18 year olds and 22 year olds wearing 17 layers of makeup.
23:54
Carmen Lezeth: Like Let me just tell you what I do every day when I go up for my everyday makeup, and it's like a 10-minute long TikTok and they're like I look caked on All the contouring.
24:10
Carmen Lezeth: I never even knew what the fuck contouring was until I got on TikTok.
24:16
Rick Costa: I remember a Spanish lady saying listen, ladies, if you look like a palazo, you're doing too much.
24:20
Rick Costa: Palazo means clown for the English.
24:26
Carmen Lezeth: Some of them they do the makeup so beautifully, but I've never had that much makeup on unless I was on stage, and even then it's less than what some of the TikTokers do.
24:35
Carmen Lezeth: So it's either that extreme or the other extreme, where now you're telling people who are putting oh, she said something about not using I don't know.
24:43
Carmen Lezeth: She said something about wearing too much loud blue or green.
24:47
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like you, do you?
24:49
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, my God, you want to wear green eyeshadow?
24:52
Carmen Lezeth: Go ahead, girl, do your thing Tomorrow.
24:55
Carmen Lezeth: Red lipstick, green eyeshadow Liquid.
24:57
Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to have a liquid out.
24:59
Carmen Lezeth: Girl, do your thing Tomorrow.
24:59
Carmen Lezeth: Red lipstick, green eyes liquid.
25:01
Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to have liquid out to here with the cat eyes and I'm going to put on the big flashy.
25:06
Cynthia Ruiz: You all look like Tammy Faye Baker.
25:09
Carmen Lezeth: That's who started all that.
25:11
Carmen Lezeth: You know, it's true, right yeah.
25:14
Rick Costa: My thing is if I ain't sleeping with you, you ain't got no say in what I look like.
25:17
Rick Costa: Don't bother with you, you ain't got no say in what I look like Don't care what you think.
25:20
Carmen Lezeth: Wow, Rick went down a really interesting.
25:23
Rick Costa: I'm just saying.
25:24
Carmen Lezeth: I ain't sleeping with you, okay.
25:26
Carmen Lezeth: But even if they are, what do you care?
25:29
Carmen Lezeth: I guess you'd have to be attracted to that person.
25:31
Rick Costa: Well, yeah.
25:33
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, don't get me wrong.
25:35
Carmen Lezeth: I think people wear a lot of makeup all the time.
25:39
Cynthia Ruiz: I love the videos where they show an older person or someone who just looks like they woke up out of bed and then they're putting all these pounds of makeup and they look like they're 20 years old.
25:51
Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
25:51
Carmen Lezeth: Do you sleep with your makeup on?
25:53
Carmen Lezeth: I never sleep with my makeup on.
25:54
Cynthia Ruiz: I don't wear makeup.
25:55
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, look at Cynthia Me.
25:57
Carmen Lezeth: Neither Me, neither I do.
26:01
Carmen Lezeth: You can see, I have on eyeliner and mascara, can you see?
26:05
Cynthia Ruiz: I don't even do that, because I rub my eyes so much that it would smudge.
26:11
Carmen Lezeth: When I don't wear eyeliner or mascara, my eyes are really.
26:15
Carmen Lezeth: You know, you can't really see them.
26:18
Rick Costa: Is it the black liquid eyeliner?
26:20
Carmen Lezeth: It's not black liquid, but tomorrow it will be no, it's just regular it's not even black.
26:26
Cynthia Ruiz: Is it the old school one you had to burn?
26:29
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, remember that one.
26:30
Carmen Lezeth: It was Maybelline, a Revlon One of those, and you would burn it.
26:35
Carmen Lezeth: Oh my God, back in the day I don't even think I wore makeup that much back in the day either.
26:41
Carmen Lezeth: I don't remember.
26:43
Carmen Lezeth: I don't think I've ever worn.
26:44
Carmen Lezeth: I don't wear foundation, but I wear.
26:47
Carmen Lezeth: You don't even wear eye makeup.
26:49
Carmen Lezeth: What's your daily routine?
26:52
Carmen Lezeth: So you get up in the morning, you do what?
26:55
Cynthia Ruiz: I just wash my face.
26:56
Cynthia Ruiz: You just naps to me.
26:57
Cynthia Ruiz: I barely put just wash my face, I don't.
26:58
Cynthia Ruiz: You just naps to me.
26:59
Cynthia Ruiz: I barely put cream on my face.
27:02
Carmen Lezeth: Really, rick, what's your whole thing?
27:06
Rick Costa: I don't put nothing on my face.
27:07
Rick Costa: I just wash my face and that's it.
27:08
Carmen Lezeth: Rick, who's growing a beard?
27:10
Rick Costa: I see I need to shave, but people say I don't look 54, so I guess I ain't doing anything too bad.
27:17
Carmen Lezeth: What was the age?
27:18
Carmen Lezeth: What just happened?
27:19
Carmen Lezeth: I just got a look what.
27:21
Carmen Lezeth: He doesn't look 54, so oh, did someone think you looked 54?
27:27
Rick Costa: No, that's what I'm saying.
27:27
Rick Costa: Everybody thinks I'm younger, so I can't be doing, you know, something too bad if I'm still looking younger than I am.
27:33
Carmen Lezeth: I told everyone.
27:33
Carmen Lezeth: I tell everyone all the time I get Botox here.
27:36
Carmen Lezeth: I told everyone.
27:36
Carmen Lezeth: I tell everyone all the time I get Botox here.
27:37
Carmen Lezeth: I do that, I do wear.
27:38
Carmen Lezeth: I have no problem sharing this.
27:39
Carmen Lezeth: I don't think there's anything wrong with wearing makeup.
27:41
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
27:42
Carmen Lezeth: I just don't like people telling people what they can and can't do.
27:46
Carmen Lezeth: And also it's like can we get to a place where we think being older is okay?
27:52
Carmen Lezeth: That was the other part of this whole thing that I wrote is she's making it sound like it's not okay to look older.
27:59
Carmen Lezeth: You're wearing black eyeliner liquid, whatever mask, whatever it is eyeliner and it makes you look old.
28:11
Carmen Lezeth: Me too, brother, me too, me too I don't wear no makeup and my whole thing is can we just normalize that we are getting older and we look fabulous, no matter what, or we look ugly, no matter what, or whatever.
28:22
Carmen Lezeth: Like you have good days, bad days, but this idea that being older is horrible.
28:26
Carmen Lezeth: I we get mad at hollywood, right for.
28:29
Carmen Lezeth: But actually we do it all to ourselves, like we all do it all to ourselves, and we keep perpetuating it with articles like this Stupid AARP, we're no longer going after you.
28:41
Carmen Lezeth: I know I'm so bad.
28:42
Carmen Lezeth: I was going to go after them to see if we could be on their show, but now I'm pissed because they didn't let my comment go through.
28:46
Carmen Lezeth: You see how quick our no one's going to sponsor us, because if they piss me off, what if it's just taking them a long time to get to all the comments?
28:54
Carmen Lezeth: That could have happened, no because I was looking, I was checking and other people were writing.
29:05
Rick Costa: There weren't no all comments and there's dates and it showed the time it was a new article.
29:07
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, yeah, no, good try for effort.
29:07
Rick Costa: Yeah, that's trying to be devil's advocate though and I know it's all right.
29:10
Carmen Lezeth: Look at, I think it's over.
29:11
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't really try to get us on to arp, but maybe they will, because you know we're lively and fun and fresh Young.
29:18
Carmen Lezeth: We're not old, we're young.
29:20
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, on relationships ghosting have you ever ghosted anyone?
29:27
Carmen Lezeth: Has anyone ever ghosted you?
29:31
Cynthia Ruiz: No, I do have a friend, though, who was a single mom, and she started talking to this guy and he knew she has a.
29:40
Carmen Lezeth: she had a kid or online be clear.
29:44
Cynthia Ruiz: First online they talked online online and he knew that she had a kid.
29:48
Cynthia Ruiz: Okay, and she's very skeptical about who she brings around her son and stuff like that, which is fine.
29:55
Cynthia Ruiz: And so after a while, after after them talking, they finally met.
29:59
Carmen Lezeth: They met for one day and he ghosted her, oh so they met in person and then he never reached out to her again.
30:07
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, and she tried to reach out to him again.
30:11
Cynthia Ruiz: Yeah, they were supposed to go out one morning for a brunch or something and he stood her up and never called her again wow, that's.
30:21
Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I'm not laughing, I guess, did they actually are never met they did.
30:25
Cynthia Ruiz: They didn't meet once, and then they were supposed to go out again and he stood her up.
30:30
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, okay did she try to call him and ask him right and he never responded.
30:35
Cynthia Ruiz: Never responded and she said he's still like active on his social media and everything and nothing why do people do that?
30:47
Cynthia Ruiz: Yeah, I don't know.
30:50
Cynthia Ruiz: I think that okay, so it's a very attractive girl.
30:53
Cynthia Ruiz: She's a beautiful girl, so I know it doesn't matter.
30:55
Carmen Lezeth: I mean that clearly it's not about her.
30:57
Carmen Lezeth: I mean it doesn't matter if he's not attracted to her.
30:59
Carmen Lezeth: He's not attracted to her.
31:00
Carmen Lezeth: But have a horn is to say something like today.
31:03
Carmen Lezeth: You know what?
31:04
Carmen Lezeth: I'm glad we met yesterday, it was nice to hang out with you, but this isn't gonna work for the two of us.
31:09
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, it happened to me.
31:10
Carmen Lezeth: I'm gonna say his name, michael.
31:11
Carmen Lezeth: I'm not gonna say his last name, but his real name is michael.
31:13
Carmen Lezeth: I don't give a shit.
31:14
Carmen Lezeth: Don't give a shit.
31:15
Carmen Lezeth: We met online.
31:18
Carmen Lezeth: We hung out a few times, we did sleep together, whatever, and then one day didn't hear from him at all, like for two weeks.
31:27
Carmen Lezeth: Don't ghost me when I know where your motherfucking house is, because now I'm going to show up at your motherfucking house.
31:36
Carmen Lezeth: I am that person and nothing happened, that he never gave a reason so I then emailed him and I said you need to tell me what's going on, because okay.
31:46
Carmen Lezeth: So first and this happens to everyone my first thought is something happened right, like yeah, he's not into you, carmen, that's what happened, but he had been on his social media, whatever the hospital yeah, it's what you want, especially when you're seeing someone over and over again.
32:06
Carmen Lezeth: This wasn't like we just met once and then whatever.
32:08
Carmen Lezeth: It's like we had seen each other a few times, more than a few times, and we had slept together.
32:14
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
32:14
Carmen Lezeth: It wasn't like some casual thing.
32:17
Carmen Lezeth: And then I didn't hear from him for two, after talking every day, texting or whatever.
32:22
Carmen Lezeth: That's weird.
32:23
Carmen Lezeth: So finally I said if I don't hear from you by tomorrow, I'm going to go to your house.
32:28
Carmen Lezeth: I was like I will go to your house because now I'm worried and I don't know your family or nothing.
32:32
Carmen Lezeth: But something's got to be up this Domingo.
32:33
Carmen Lezeth: He responded quick.
32:35
Carmen Lezeth: What's his response?
32:38
Carmen Lezeth: This was years ago.
32:40
Carmen Lezeth: He was like it's not you.
32:42
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like, oh, fuck off.
32:43
Cynthia Ruiz: Stop.
32:44
Cynthia Ruiz: I know you're alive now Fuck off.
32:47
Carmen Lezeth: I'm done, bitch Done.
32:49
Carmen Lezeth: I was like, wow, what a piece of shit, because it says more about who you are.
32:54
Carmen Lezeth: If you don't have the maturity or the, just the it's consideration, the respect, to turn around and just tell someone.
33:02
Carmen Lezeth: You know what.
33:03
Carmen Lezeth: This isn't working for me.
33:05
Carmen Lezeth: I thought it was or I met somebody else or I just whatever, I used, whatever it is, just say what you got to say.
33:11
Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, god, ghosting is weird.
33:15
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, who came up with that?
33:17
Carmen Lezeth: Was it called something else before?
33:19
Rick Costa: Standing somebody up.
33:20
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
33:24
Rick Costa: I feel like what rick standing somebody up.
33:26
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, because ghost things are relatively new word in the past 20 years.
33:30
Carmen Lezeth: I just never knew it before.
33:31
Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, I'm shook by that whole thing and I was watching again tiktok and somebody was talking about she was really upset because she kept and she was young, you know what I mean and I just felt for her and she was just like we just had such a connection.
33:46
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like, yeah, no, you did it, sorry.
33:47
Carmen Lezeth: He was crying and I was like, ooh, I'm just glad I'm not on the dating scene now, cause I think it's so hard, the whole online dating thing.
34:00
Carmen Lezeth: I'll never do it again.
34:02
Carmen Lezeth: I'll never do it again.
34:04
Carmen Lezeth: I did it once.
34:05
Carmen Lezeth: Never do it again.
34:06
Carmen Lezeth: And Rick, you're not dating, right.
34:09
Rick Costa: No, right, rick.
34:13
Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm not in a position to if I wanted to even.
34:15
Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
34:15
Carmen Lezeth: And Cynthia, we know you're not dating, right, okay?
34:17
Carmen Lezeth: No, rick, I'm just messing with you.
34:21
Carmen Lezeth: Rick, you were going to go online and meet somebody.
34:25
Rick Costa: For what?
34:25
Rick Costa: Just to be an online friend.
34:27
Rick Costa: That's all it's going to be.
34:29
Carmen Lezeth: We are online friends.
34:30
Carmen Lezeth: Is this not good enough for you, rick?
34:32
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, I love our friendships, yes, but you're saying you wouldn't do so.
34:38
Carmen Lezeth: You don't believe in online love relationships.
34:41
Rick Costa: No, I've seen it work.
34:41
Rick Costa: I've had friends that literally they only met online but then they met in person.
34:46
Rick Costa: They eventually obviously did meet eventually, but it would take a long time online, and then they finally met and then they actually got married and they're still married.
34:54
Carmen Lezeth: Well, Emily did the same thing, right yeah?
34:57
Cynthia Ruiz: Emily and Gavin.
34:59
Carmen Lezeth: yeah, and I know four other people who have met online.
35:02
Carmen Lezeth: I think online is just another option.
35:04
Carmen Lezeth: I just say it's a lot of work and I don't care anymore.
35:08
Carmen Lezeth: I don't have it in me to be all up in it.
35:12
Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, online dating is just another option, I think, to find somebody else.
35:16
Rick Costa: It's going to be easier to reject people online too, because you just block them.
35:20
Rick Costa: You know that's true because you just block them.
35:23
Carmen Lezeth: You know that's true.
35:23
Carmen Lezeth: Not if you start meeting them and then you.
35:26
Rick Costa: No, I'm saying before that point yeah, before that point yeah If it's a coworker, you're going to still have to deal with them.
35:35
Carmen Lezeth: I think there's too many people online too who, and I don't know I haven't done it in a long time but they you put up the facade of who you are.
35:41
Carmen Lezeth: So I think now, like if you can go see their social media accounts or you could go see, I think probably it's better.
35:46
Carmen Lezeth: But when I was online dating, which was a while ago, like 2008 or whatever 2000,.
35:52
Carmen Lezeth: When did I meet Robert?
35:53
Carmen Lezeth: It was like 2004.
35:55
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, so a while ago it wasn't like we had all these videos and everything you could see people's social media and everything Right.
36:02
Carmen Lezeth: It wasn't like we had all these videos and everything you could see people's social media and everything right.
36:05
Carmen Lezeth: It was just like pictures or whatever.
36:06
Carmen Lezeth: But I guess now you could show your links and just they can find out everything about you.
36:08
Carmen Lezeth: I would think that's why it's harder to then meet someone and then just ghost them.
36:13
Carmen Lezeth: Why wouldn't you just be like oh, I don't think the chemistry is there.
36:22
Rick Costa: Because like you said the maturity is lacking.
36:23
Carmen Lezeth: Maybe yeah, I don't think I could ever turn around and stop talking to someone and not tell them why, or let them know why if it's not an obvious reason.
36:33
Carmen Lezeth: Like you're a stupid fuck tard.
36:35
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean and I probably told you that, but it's just a decent thing to do to be like you.
36:41
Carmen Lezeth: You know what this isn't.
36:41
Carmen Lezeth: I'm glad we had dinner, it was nice to meet you, blah blah, whatever, but I don't think this is going to work.
36:46
Carmen Lezeth: Why is it so hard?
36:47
Carmen Lezeth: And, by the way, you can do it by text now, exactly, you could just text somebody.
36:54
Carmen Lezeth: What's the point of ghosting when you can just text?
36:57
Carmen Lezeth: You can email the motherfucker.
36:58
Carmen Lezeth: You can put a little paragraph together.
37:01
Carmen Lezeth: It's not me, it's you.
37:08
Rick Costa: I had a friend recently you know I'm talking about probably in a minute but we talked every day, just friends, and then all of a sudden something happened, A fence happened on her part, and then all of a sudden just wouldn't talk and I'm like texting Hello.
37:22
Carmen Lezeth: What's going on?
37:22
Carmen Lezeth: I know who they are.
37:23
Rick Costa: You know who they are, and days and days gone by, then finally do what I'm like.
37:29
Rick Costa: You could have just said something before, instead of making me text you every day.
37:35
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, Ooh, in the green room you'll have to give me all the juice.
37:40
Rick Costa: When you hear who it is, you'll be like, oh wow.
37:39
Rick Costa: You'll have to give me all the juice when you hear who it is.
37:43
Carmen Lezeth: You'll be like, oh, wow, I'm like there's so many people in your life that you've had issues with, you're so problematic, I can't keep it straight.
37:51
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, look, I think relationships are hard, but I think you make them harder when you're just not up front about it, and I think the other side of that, too, is am I going to go running after this guy, michael?
38:04
Carmen Lezeth: I was like, oh fuck, no, you know what.
38:06
Carmen Lezeth: I just needed to know.
38:07
Carmen Lezeth: I'm good, I'm done.
38:08
Carmen Lezeth: I'm not going to be like, oh, but no, we good, we know who you are.
38:12
Carmen Lezeth: That's all I needed to know was you showed me more of who you are.
38:17
Carmen Lezeth: In that moment, yeah, yeah, that moment, yeah, yeah, come on through my angelo.
38:26
Carmen Lezeth: When someone shows you, believe them the first, it's true.
38:28
Carmen Lezeth: Why is it such a hard concept to understand, though?
38:30
Carmen Lezeth: I think because we really want people to like us.
38:34
Carmen Lezeth: We really want people to think we're great and wonderful, and it's hard to think that not everyone likes us yeah, nice dark one but why?
38:46
Carmen Lezeth: look at, I am.
38:48
Carmen Lezeth: I have said it before, I'll say it a million more times I am grateful when I know somebody doesn't want to be in my life.
38:54
Carmen Lezeth: I am grateful because all that means is it opens the door and an avenue to the possibility of someone else who is better, or somebody else that might bring more happiness and joy.
39:06
Carmen Lezeth: I don't want people in my life who don't want to be in it.
39:09
Carmen Lezeth: So if you tell me that and you show me that, I'm good.
39:14
Rick Costa: Yeah, yeah.
39:16
Carmen Lezeth: I find it a blessing, like I know.
39:20
Rick Costa: I'm a weirdo.
39:20
Rick Costa: If I drag you down anyway, then see ya yeah, I don't know.
39:25
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
39:25
Carmen Lezeth: I have a feeling that most people don't believe me.
39:28
Carmen Lezeth: But not that don't believe me, but don't practice it right.
39:32
Carmen Lezeth: It's easier to say, but then, when rejection comes, you don't embrace it, you push back on it because it hurts a lot of people think I can fix it, but sometimes you can't.
39:42
Carmen Lezeth: But what do you mean?
39:44
Carmen Lezeth: Fix it?
39:44
Carmen Lezeth: You can't fix another person.
39:45
Carmen Lezeth: I can't make you love me.
39:47
Carmen Lezeth: I know that Some people feel that way.
39:51
Rick Costa: Yes, exactly I went through that with somebody in my life and we had to go to counseling.
39:56
Rick Costa: Out of her mouth said I thought I could change him, I thought I could fix him.
40:02
Rick Costa: Relationship 101.
40:04
Rick Costa: Out of her mouth said I thought I could change him and thought I could fix him.
40:06
Rick Costa: And I'm like relationship 101.
40:07
Carmen Lezeth: What's wrong with you?
40:08
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, this must be your ex-wife, because say no name.
40:11
Carmen Lezeth: He said counts like I'm like.
40:14
Rick Costa: Okay, he's got a terry k is gonna say the name, say the name I know, I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that, I don't know.
40:23
Carmen Lezeth: Look, I think women have always been under the illusion that if you do A, b, c and D, then he will love you.
40:31
Carmen Lezeth: So we think we can fix men, or that's what I don't know.
40:34
Carmen Lezeth: When I was growing up, I think that was the overall thought process Like you can get a good man if you do all of these things, and then to keep them, you have to keep doing all these things.
40:48
Carmen Lezeth: And so what do you mean?
40:48
Carmen Lezeth: Of course I can fix you rick if I do all this, and it's just.
40:50
Carmen Lezeth: You can't fix any.
40:50
Carmen Lezeth: There's nothing to fix.
40:50
Carmen Lezeth: It's just when either you accept it or you don't.
40:54
Carmen Lezeth: Those are your choices.
40:56
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
40:57
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, um, I remember I had a couple friends who were like like they.
41:02
Carmen Lezeth: They met their soon to be husbands, but when they first met them, we were all at a party, whatever.
41:06
Carmen Lezeth: And, oh my God, I love football.
41:08
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like you don't love football.
41:09
Carmen Lezeth: No, I love football.
41:11
Carmen Lezeth: Like I already knew where this was going.
41:14
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, what else I wanted to talk about on being Gen X, fashions from back then.
41:23
Carmen Lezeth: Do you remember, cynthia?
41:26
Carmen Lezeth: You might be too young, but do you remember we used to wear.
41:28
Carmen Lezeth: Remember the roach clips had the feathers, oh my God.
41:33
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, we'd wear them in our hair like we'd have, but only one with all the feathers.
41:38
Carmen Lezeth: I had a purple one, rick is like roach, what, what?
41:43
Carmen Lezeth: None of us smoked pop, but we just thought it was poor.
41:46
Carmen Lezeth: We had the roach clips and we put him in your hair and it would just like walk around like you were a fool yeah, that was one of the things I was thinking about.
41:53
Carmen Lezeth: Gen x okay, what else?
41:54
Carmen Lezeth: Gen x clothing from back in the day it's all coming back.
41:58
Carmen Lezeth: All the baggy clothing is back, all the big stuff like big pants and whatever.
42:05
Carmen Lezeth: What?
42:05
Rick Costa: about the big hair, the big hair, coming back too.
42:10
Carmen Lezeth: The hair.
42:11
Carmen Lezeth: I hope so.
42:12
Carmen Lezeth: I put my hair down.
42:13
Carmen Lezeth: My hair was really big.
42:14
Carmen Lezeth: I just put it down and I got in today.
42:17
Cynthia Ruiz: I think I have a picture of you with your hair out.
42:20
Cynthia Ruiz: I could do it right now.
42:21
Cynthia Ruiz: You and Audrey, both your hairs were like out there.
42:25
Carmen Lezeth: I know, but Cynthia doesn't like people's hair out, so my hair could just be out normal and she's.
42:29
Carmen Lezeth: Oh my God, it's so big, it's so big.
42:32
Cynthia Ruiz: But back in the 80s it was big my hair was big in the 80s.
42:38
Carmen Lezeth: First of all, my hair was really straight in the 80s.
42:42
Cynthia Ruiz: So, first of all, my hair was really straight in the 80s, so I think you're confusion.
42:44
Cynthia Ruiz: I used to have my hair straightened all the time.
42:45
Cynthia Ruiz: I'll bring a picture next time if I can find it.
42:46
Cynthia Ruiz: Where's the picture?
42:47
Cynthia Ruiz: It's somewhere with my albums.
42:50
Cynthia Ruiz: I'll see if I can find it.
42:51
Carmen Lezeth: You might not be able to because you ain't got a phone that can support that accent.
42:54
Carmen Lezeth: I have pictures of my hair really big on my website.
43:01
Carmen Lezeth: Remember the alligator polo shirt?
43:03
Carmen Lezeth: Eyes on those are back now Big time.
43:07
Rick Costa: Real wild.
43:08
Carmen Lezeth: Did you wear Nike sneakers and Gloria Vanderbilt's jeans?
43:13
Rick Costa: Nope.
43:13
Rick Costa: My parents were like why are we going to buy something that's $100 if I get something for $25?
43:18
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, our parents did not buy us these, we got them at like wherever we got those Biting in the basement Like it wasn't.
43:27
Carmen Lezeth: I was never into fashion.
43:30
Rick Costa: I was never into fashion period at all.
43:34
Carmen Lezeth: And we weren't so you so it was very colorful.
43:36
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, so when you were growing up, what was the thing with you and your friends, what was your thing?
43:42
Carmen Lezeth: And you grew up in Connecticut.
43:44
Rick Costa: Correct.
43:44
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, very bougie, that's very bougie.
43:47
Carmen Lezeth: Connecticut is not as bougie as you think Okay, all right.
43:54
Rick Costa: All right, so I don't know what you're asking me.
43:55
Rick Costa: That would be more specific, please.
43:57
Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
43:57
Carmen Lezeth: So when you were growing up, what was it like as a kid?
44:02
Carmen Lezeth: Did you hang out on the street?
44:03
Carmen Lezeth: Did you ride your bike?
44:03
Rick Costa: Did you do skateboarding?
44:04
Rick Costa: Never had a bike, never had a bike.
44:06
Carmen Lezeth: Never had a skateboard.
44:06
Carmen Lezeth: Do you know how to ride a bike?
44:08
Rick Costa: When I went to Canada once, my cousins tried to teach me and I figured it out.
44:12
Rick Costa: Yeah, I never had a bike.
44:15
Rick Costa: I'm telling you, man, my parents didn't know anything.
44:18
Rick Costa: We weren nothing we weren't allowed to go to them.
44:27
Rick Costa: We didn't own.
44:28
Rick Costa: I didn't own a bike either, but I know how to ride a bike and we all had.
44:29
Carmen Lezeth: We weren't allowed to go to the movies.
44:30
Carmen Lezeth: Couldn't go to the movies.
44:30
Rick Costa: Not allowed to go to movies nope, is this because you were religious?
44:32
Rick Costa: No, they were not religious.
44:32
Rick Costa: They were the ones that stopped me.
44:34
Rick Costa: I'm you know, it was all about them super strict and had to be home by 10 o'clock.
44:40
Rick Costa: I'm like you know, when you get to a certain age 10 o'clock.
44:41
Rick Costa: I'm like you know, when you get to a certain age, 10 o'clock is when the party's starting.
44:44
Rick Costa: No, I don't care how old you are, 10 o'clock.
44:47
Rick Costa: You got to be home by 10 o'clock.
44:48
Rick Costa: It was pretty strict.
44:51
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, but why was it strict?
44:53
Rick Costa: Because that's the way they were.
44:54
Carmen Lezeth: That's the way they were.
44:56
Rick Costa: That's just the way they were.
44:59
Rick Costa: I should be jealous of my cousins because they used to be able to go to movies, they used to be able to go out and they're like oh yeah, your parents are really strict.
45:07
Rick Costa: I know you ain't got to tell me.
45:08
Carmen Lezeth: You're the only child.
45:10
Rick Costa: No, I have a brother.
45:11
Carmen Lezeth: You have a brother.
45:12
Carmen Lezeth: Were they strict with him too?
45:13
Carmen Lezeth: Oh yeah, was he older, younger?
45:16
Rick Costa: Younger.
45:17
Rick Costa: He looks older now, but yeah, I don't know why.
45:19
Carmen Lezeth: I just said that was mean I know that's evil, but you know jesus and everything.
45:23
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just sorry it's always the christian people, someone, always the christian people.
45:31
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so I'm just confused.
45:33
Carmen Lezeth: So this kind of explains your obsession with marveling all of that stuff actually, in a lot of ways.
45:38
Carmen Lezeth: Did you miss out on that as a kid?
45:40
Carmen Lezeth: My dad?
45:41
Rick Costa: he was like if I ever catch you watching Flintstones, I'm going to yabba-dabba-do you upside the head.
45:49
Rick Costa: He did not want us watching cartoons.
45:51
Rick Costa: Of course we snuck and watched them anyway, but very strict.
45:55
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sorry, I didn't mean it.
45:56
Carmen Lezeth: Is this a touchy subject for you?
45:58
Rick Costa: It's history, it's what happened, can't change it.
46:03
Carmen Lezeth: What's your perspective of your childhood?
46:05
Carmen Lezeth: Do you think of it as a good childhood or a bad childhood?
46:09
Cynthia Ruiz: Or a little bit of both.
46:10
Carmen Lezeth: Huh.
46:10
Cynthia Ruiz: Not so great.
46:12
Rick Costa: Not so great.
46:13
Rick Costa: He was an alcoholic, my dad.
46:14
@britishashley: My mom, was fine.
46:15
Rick Costa: I didn't have a problem with my mom, but dad was an alcoholic and it made life really rough.
46:19
Carmen Lezeth: Was that mostly why they were so strict is because he was an alcoholic?
46:24
Carmen Lezeth: It wasn't really.
46:25
Rick Costa: No, it was the way they were brought up in Portugal, azores, farmland, strict.
46:31
Rick Costa: They didn't have no TV, none of that, blah, blah, blah.
46:33
Rick Costa: And he was very abusive and one time he hit me really bad, beat me, whatever, and he goes.
46:38
Rick Costa: You're lucky.
46:39
Rick Costa: I'm like okay.
46:40
Rick Costa: How am I lucky when?
46:41
Rick Costa: And he goes, you're lucky.
46:41
Rick Costa: I'm like okay.
46:42
Rick Costa: How am I lucky when my dad beat me?
46:43
Rick Costa: I flew across the room and there's blood everywhere.
46:45
Rick Costa: At least that ain't happening.
46:46
Cynthia Ruiz: I'm like so you should have compassion, you should understand what it's like.
46:51
Rick Costa: Yeah, yeah, it was not great.
46:55
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, well, I didn't mean to bring us down here.
46:58
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sorry.
47:00
Carmen Lezeth: So how did you, but I'm going to ask you anyway?
47:03
Carmen Lezeth: Did you, cynthia, what's behind you?
47:06
Carmen Lezeth: What's that blue thing?
47:07
Carmen Lezeth: It looks like a leg, but it's a towel, like it, right?
47:11
Carmen Lezeth: Did it look like a weird?
47:16
Rick Costa: It's Xavier's bionic leg.
47:17
Rick Costa: He's getting ready to put in.
47:21
Carmen Lezeth: When you were raising your kid, though, did you make it a point not to be that person?
47:27
Rick Costa: I was so opposite, yeah, so opposite.
47:30
Rick Costa: Never hit him Ever, ever, ever.
47:31
Rick Costa: I didn't have to, because I trained him fear of God From the beginning.
47:35
Rick Costa: People wait too long to be strict.
47:37
Rick Costa: I'm like no, from day one you be strict.
47:41
Rick Costa: You don't let them do anything they want.
47:43
Rick Costa: I'm sorry because the world ain't going to let you do whatever you want either.
47:46
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I'm not a parent.
47:50
Carmen Lezeth: I don't think you know.
47:53
Carmen Lezeth: This is one of those subjects that I do try to stay out of.
47:56
Carmen Lezeth: But I do not believe in beating your kid.
48:00
Carmen Lezeth: I don't see how that ever can help someone and I know too many people who were beaten and it just made them more resentful, but didn't.
48:10
Carmen Lezeth: I was never hit as a kid.
48:12
Carmen Lezeth: I was hit once by my mother and it was the first and last time she ever hit me because she welted my face.
48:18
Carmen Lezeth: She was so upset and it wasn't about me at all and I was just a little kid.
48:22
Carmen Lezeth: But I said F you to her as a little kid.
48:25
Carmen Lezeth: I was like seven or eight years old and she picked me up by the collar and kept hitting me and then people took her off of me and they had to put stakes on my face and I always remember that, I always.
48:36
Carmen Lezeth: I can still remember that like weird.
48:38
Carmen Lezeth: But that wasn't about me.
48:39
Carmen Lezeth: But that's a great example of why you should never want to hit children, because sometimes you're taking out aggression In the same respects.
48:46
Carmen Lezeth: I do understand if a little kid is going to play with the, but I would opt for people never to hit their children.
48:53
Carmen Lezeth: But, cynthia, what do you think?
49:05
Carmen Lezeth: I know that you came into your marriage with a lot of children, a lot of children.
49:13
Cynthia Ruiz: You know what I mean yeah, no, I don't, I've never hit them or my nieces.
49:19
Carmen Lezeth: I was just going to say but what about your nieces?
49:25
Cynthia Ruiz: Right, no, or my nieces?
49:25
Cynthia Ruiz: I was just gonna say but what about your right now?
49:27
Cynthia Ruiz: Or my nieces and nephew?
49:28
Cynthia Ruiz: I'd yell at them, yeah, and I definitely put the fear in them when I yell at them.
49:31
Carmen Lezeth: I met them because I wanted to hit two of them one time under the car I was going to they're better now.
49:39
Cynthia Ruiz: But but yeah, I like even now if I yell, it's like they get flashbacks, they say when I used to yell at them and stuff.
49:49
Rick Costa: But hey, they all turned out pretty good, that's so funny and that's interesting with me too is that if my dad had realized, all you got to do is yell at me, because I'd be like freaking out just from the yelling, you didn't have to yell.
50:08
Carmen Lezeth: Now my brother.
50:09
Carmen Lezeth: On the other hand, when people don't know, when people abuse kids, it's not about the kids, it's about them.
50:11
Carmen Lezeth: It's a weird and this I can say.
50:12
Carmen Lezeth: I feel very comfortable saying this it's a weird sense of power and I love this topic of power, whether you're talking about people who own companies and how they treat employees, or whether it's parenting or whatever.
50:23
Carmen Lezeth: It is a misconception of being the person in charge, which is why you see people hit people and I'm no sociologist, I'm not a doctor, whatever but I'm just saying, as a person who's watched it my entire life from different families, the vantage that I have because of my circumstances I was a part of so many different families and just watching how people parents especially exert power or older siblings exert power, and it's all fake power because it's not based on respect at all, it's based on fear, and when your children fear you as opposed to respect you, you're doing it wrong.
51:02
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean and I know I'm not wrong on that.
51:04
Carmen Lezeth: It's just too much evidence.
51:06
Rick Costa: You know what I mean.
51:06
Rick Costa: That was what my dad was, that was his whole point, was fear.
51:10
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, fear, and as a little kid that sucks.
51:13
Carmen Lezeth: Fear will do damage to you.
51:15
Carmen Lezeth: But as an adult it's not fear anymore, it becomes hate and resentment and lack of respect, which is parents want to be respected but then they go about it all wrong, but anyways, how did we get into it?
51:30
Carmen Lezeth: That's not on the list, people.
51:32
Carmen Lezeth: It's not on the list.
51:34
Carmen Lezeth: This is all Cynthia's fault for not being able to watch our guy giving us good stuff.
51:42
Carmen Lezeth: All right.
51:43
Rick Costa: I'm over keen, and I'm fine.
51:44
Rick Costa: Now I'm over keen, that's the joy.
51:47
Carmen Lezeth: You turned out okay.
51:51
Cynthia Ruiz: Turned out all right.
51:53
Rick Costa: And my son can testify and my son can testify.
51:55
Rick Costa: Never hit, him Never hit him.
52:00
Carmen Lezeth: Did you ever beat up anybody else, though, like in school I?
52:03
Rick Costa: don't see you beating up anybody.
52:03
Rick Costa: Well, me and my brother went roughhouse.
52:06
Carmen Lezeth: Is roughhouse, another word for beating each other up.
52:10
Rick Costa: When, I think, beat each other up like you are trying to permanently not permanently, but you're trying to cause damage or roughhouses.
52:15
Rick Costa: You're just, you're fighting but you're not necessarily trying to really hurt them.
52:19
Rick Costa: It's like when people watch, you ever see kids play wrestling.
52:22
Rick Costa: They watch wrestling and then try to throw each other on the bed or whatever, like a wrestler does, just like that, trying to hurt them.
52:30
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I don't know anything about that.
52:32
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
52:33
Carmen Lezeth: I'm being honest, I don't have kids, I don't know, and all my kids are girls, except for Rockwell, who's two.
52:39
Carmen Lezeth: Rockwell is two.
52:44
Rick Costa: I except for Rockwell who's two?
52:45
Carmen Lezeth: Rockwell is two.
52:45
Carmen Lezeth: I can't picture you throwing Cynthia on the bed Me throwing Cynthia on the bed.
52:47
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I can't picture that Cynthia and I didn't have that relationship.
52:50
Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia, I think, hated me for most of my life.
52:54
Cynthia Ruiz: No, I didn't.
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Cynthia Ruiz: Oh, this really got interesting.
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Carmen Lezeth: Rick is now.
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Carmen Lezeth: Now we're going to close down the show.
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Rick Costa: We ain't talking about me, no more, I'm done Now.
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Rick Costa: Now we're going to close down the store.
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Rick Costa: We ain't talking about me, no more.
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Rick Costa: I'm done Now.
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Rick Costa: It's all her.
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Rick Costa: It's all her, right there, it's actually funny.
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Cynthia Ruiz: Today I was at work and I was just bored and so I went on our website and our employee website and there's this little thing that you can like, a little survey you can do to see if you have any mental illness, any depression stuff like that.
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Cynthia Ruiz: Apparently I have anger issues.
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Cynthia Ruiz: What do do to see if you have any mental illness, any depression stuff like that apparently I have?
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Carmen Lezeth: anger issues?
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Carmen Lezeth: I agree, you do.
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Carmen Lezeth: You're, it's always the quiet ones, always, I'm telling you, always the quiet ones.
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Carmen Lezeth: Is that when it said you have anger issues?
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah?
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Cynthia Ruiz: and it was funny because it was one of the questions where was when someoneys you do you feel like punching them?
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Carmen Lezeth: And I put yes.
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Carmen Lezeth: You do Because you don't tell okay.
53:48
Carmen Lezeth: This is why you don't tell people how you feel immediately.
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Carmen Lezeth: What oh, no, it's okay Is the morning green.
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Carmen Lezeth: What is the bringing?
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Rick Costa: Wait, don't tell me you pushed Xavier to understand.
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Rick Costa: I'm just kidding, I know, oh no the truth goes out.
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Carmen Lezeth: No, okay, did you find that surprising that it came up?
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm not surprised that it said you.
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Cynthia Ruiz: No, actually I wasn't surprised.
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Cynthia Ruiz: I was laughing about it, because Juan has always said that I have anger issues.
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Cynthia Ruiz: I think you do too, yeah.
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Cynthia Ruiz: I do get road rage, sometimes here's the thing.
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Carmen Lezeth: You would never do anything about it, so you hold it all inside.
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Cynthia Ruiz: Yeah.
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Carmen Lezeth: Whereas I'm the opposite, like if I'm mad at you, I'm a tell you, I'm a let it out, so don't build up yeah.
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Rick Costa: Holding stuff like that and it's not good for you actually.
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, but, rick, I don't think you would yell and scream at anybody either if you were upset.
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Cynthia Ruiz: Well see, xavier just said that Cynthia will tell you about yourself.
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Cynthia Ruiz: No, no.
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Carmen Lezeth: But we had to try it.
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Carmen Lezeth: Okay, that's different.
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Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I mean, as a kid, that's different, that's different.
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Carmen Lezeth: But when we were growing up I didn't really hang out with you.
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Cynthia Ruiz: Well, where were you?
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Cynthia Ruiz: I was like little, while you guys were going out.
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, okay, yeah, but you were like a quiet, good little girl, mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
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Carmen Lezeth: And now, how did we connect?
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't even know how we became friends.
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Carmen Lezeth: When did that happen?
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Carmen Lezeth: Like I'm closer to you, I don't even talk to your sisters anymore.
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Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I said happy birthday to Audrey the other day, but I don't really talk to them at all and they're more my age.
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Carmen Lezeth: But you and I connected.
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Carmen Lezeth: I know why we connected, but I don't understand how we connected.
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Carmen Lezeth: Interesting We'll have to talk in the green room.
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Carmen Lezeth: Interesting.
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Carmen Lezeth: I know why we connected because we have similar issues with fathers.
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, oh yeah.
55:45
Carmen Lezeth: So I know that I got that, but I don't remember when that actually happened.
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Carmen Lezeth: So we'll have to investigate that and then write a book about it.
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Cynthia Ruiz: All right.
55:55
Carmen Lezeth: We're past the hour mark and, yeah, we're going to do a lot of editing on this or we'll just do a whole different podcast.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't know lot of editing on this or we'll just do a whole different podcast, I don't know.
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Cynthia Ruiz: But that was random and all over the place and cynthia is gonna buy a new phone yeah, I don't think at some point.
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Carmen Lezeth: Oh my god, I will.
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Carmen Lezeth: Okay, we're gonna talk in the green one.
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Carmen Lezeth: I will buy you a new phone.
56:15
Carmen Lezeth: I'll give you my credit card.
56:17
Carmen Lezeth: Just buy the damn phone.
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Carmen Lezeth: Um, um, rick, as always, thank you so much, cynthia.
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Carmen Lezeth: Thank you for coming on, even though you ruined my whole four minute thing on this pretty guy.
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Carmen Lezeth: But the whole topic of the show, but it's all good.
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Carmen Lezeth: We just went down a whole other random area.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm half and sad about rick's terrible childhood and about alcoholism and about ghosting, but whatever, it's all about you.
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Carmen Lezeth: We love you All good.
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Carmen Lezeth: Thank you for stopping by.
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Carmen Lezeth: Everyone, remember it really is all about the joy.
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Carmen Lezeth: We'll see you next week.
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Carmen Lezeth: Bye, bye.
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Carmen Lezeth: Thanks for stopping by.
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Carmen Lezeth: All About the Joy.
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Carmen Lezeth: Be better and stay beautiful.
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Carmen Lezeth: Folks, have a sweet day.