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Happy Hour #59: The Monogamists (SATC Ep. 7) · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Steph
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  Speaker 1: welcome to another sub sub segment of the Happy Hour
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  Speaker 1: episodes in which we watch sex in the City and
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  Speaker 1: we act. I get to watch any react because she
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  Speaker 1: is a newbie. Yes, it's my first time. Yes, yes,
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  Speaker 1: in our very long running segment of watching sex in
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  Speaker 1: the City. And yeah, it's been it's been a fun ride.
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  Speaker 1: I hope that you're all enjoying. We are sipping on
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  Speaker 1: some Moses keeping it sex in the city like, keeping
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  Speaker 1: it sex in the city like as always, drink responsibly
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  Speaker 1: if you choose to do so. Uh and jeers. Thank
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  Speaker 1: you for being with us. Yes, thank you for joining us.
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  Speaker 1: And we are on episode seven of season one. Slowly
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  Speaker 1: getting there, slowly getting there. Any can you please give
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  Speaker 1: us a recap? Okay? Yes, So we've been introduced to,
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  Speaker 1: you know, the main players, the four main characters. We've
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  Speaker 1: seen big pop up and now he and Carrie seemed
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  Speaker 1: to be in a relationship. We've had discussions around single
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  Speaker 1: hood and marriage and models and uh, sexuality, all kinds
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  Speaker 1: of things. We've really covered some grow oh anal sex.
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  Speaker 1: We talked about that as well. Yeah, secret sex, secret sex,
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  Speaker 1: also sex with twenty year olds. Uh huh. So we've Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's only been seven episodes, but I feel like a
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  Speaker 1: lot of ground has been covered. Yes, they definitely trucked
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  Speaker 1: through and trying to explain and established characters. Indeed, and
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  Speaker 1: we've definitely talked about a lot of the development of
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  Speaker 1: the characters because of the show. And just like that,
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  Speaker 1: I get to point out this is what they're referencing,
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  Speaker 1: which I try to point out earlier. Yes, um, when
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  Speaker 1: it comes up, because they did a good job of
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  Speaker 1: throwing back to the original series. Alright, any you ready
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  Speaker 1: for this? So this title is called the monogamoust What
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  Speaker 1: do you think this is about? So I saw this
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  Speaker 1: was the next title after we watched the last one,
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  Speaker 1: and I've been thinking about it and I'm still clueless.
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  Speaker 1: I gotta remember this. This ties in as a series. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: is it like a secret clue? Just saying I feel
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  Speaker 1: like maybe there will be discussions around people who you
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  Speaker 1: know are strictly monogamist and you know, don't want like
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, when you have your in that relationship
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  Speaker 1: and you have that moment of like, are we exclusive,
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  Speaker 1: are not expensive? That was a big question. Is it
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  Speaker 1: is a big question? Is it still? I think so?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I think people are more open to other
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  Speaker 1: experiences now, and that's not like judging on either way. Now,
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  Speaker 1: today's today's conversation for me, which was different from me
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  Speaker 1: dating in the early like mid early two thousand's, I guess,
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  Speaker 1: like two thousand ten, two thou five in between that
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  Speaker 1: era was this is now the new call. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: into open relationships, but if you are, let me know,
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  Speaker 1: now change that And that's now become a part of
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  Speaker 1: the defining the relationships or the d t Oh have
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  Speaker 1: you ever had that? So the dt R defining the relationship?
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  Speaker 1: Now at this point in time, I have that conversation,
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  Speaker 1: It's like, that's cool if you are, that's not my thing,
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  Speaker 1: so I would rather not. But instead of just being like,
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  Speaker 1: are you my boyfriend? Are we exclusive? Okay? So I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I'm gonna get zero percent on this one.
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  Speaker 1: But I think it's something like that, like I'm talking
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  Speaker 1: about that kind of thing zero person. I like it.
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  Speaker 1: All right, Well, let's begin, I'd forsaken my girlfriends from
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  Speaker 1: my new boyfriend. I faced the tune of forsaking your
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  Speaker 1: girlfriends or your boyfriend that that is a big no
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  Speaker 1: no in my world. Yeah. I am a very loyal friend,
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  Speaker 1: but if you leave me for your I will always
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  Speaker 1: be there for you. Don't get me wrong, but to
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  Speaker 1: be left And I felt like this was a younger
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  Speaker 1: age when I was so dependent on hanging out as much.
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  Speaker 1: But now that I'm older, I'm like, no, I'm good.
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  Speaker 1: We don't have to hang out all the time. That
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  Speaker 1: I feel better. But like once upon a time, mm hmmm, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: to me, it makes sense, like if you change, you
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  Speaker 1: want to hang out with somebody else time. I get that.
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  Speaker 1: But if you do it like constantly and I never
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  Speaker 1: I feel like an old toy on the shelf. We're like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: when I'm bored, I'll come back to you. Personally, I'm
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  Speaker 1: loving it up to the point where the guy wants
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  Speaker 1: me to swallow. I want some men just take it
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  Speaker 1: so personally, if you don't, some guys don't give you
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  Speaker 1: a choice, well that's just bad behavior. That's called the
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  Speaker 1: salt when someone doesn't give you a choice. Yeah. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we've had this conversation before, So this is what I
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  Speaker 1: was referencing when I said that's a Sex in the
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  Speaker 1: City episode blow job conversation. Yeah, that's I have friends
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  Speaker 1: who love it. They love it for the sense of power.
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  Speaker 1: I have one friends who's like, I really like the taste. Sure,
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  Speaker 1: chemy is on the way out again. So monogamy as
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  Speaker 1: a trend, that's interesting, kind of in the early late nineties,
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  Speaker 1: dozens of a new sexual awakening. That was the conversation
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  Speaker 1: at what do we want? I was striving for noncommittal,
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  Speaker 1: but I was worried I had just bordered on shrill,
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  Speaker 1: which I hate the term shrill because it's only referred
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  Speaker 1: to women. Yeah, yeah, nonsense. And Samantha and I've had
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  Speaker 1: we've had conversations about the nagging housewife, who really, when
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  Speaker 1: you think about it, she's just like literally trying to
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  Speaker 1: like not do everything by herself. Oh hi, guys, Skipper,
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  Speaker 1: Oh oh hey Alison, this is Miranda, and carry Miranda
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  Speaker 1: carry this house. Hello. Now would you ever do that?
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  Speaker 1: Would you bring I'm not saying this is what he's doing,
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  Speaker 1: but would you like bring a friend to pretend to
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  Speaker 1: be your significant other to make someone else jealous? Not
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  Speaker 1: to make someone jealous, but to have someone else with me.
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  Speaker 1: I've done that I've done that. I've taken people to weddings, weddings,
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  Speaker 1: I've taken people to events. And I told you, like
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  Speaker 1: my good guy friend. For a long time, he and
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  Speaker 1: I were the single ones and we would just do
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  Speaker 1: things together. We were also very close, like he was
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  Speaker 1: one of my best friends. So we would be like
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  Speaker 1: we would do things together immediately, like something would happen
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  Speaker 1: an hour, going to go. But she Miranda is now jealous. Jealous.
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  Speaker 1: Well that's true, Miranda, you're his type. But you broke
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  Speaker 1: up with him. Remember something looks different. Has she been
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  Speaker 1: working out? Oh no, yeah, yeah, this is like after
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  Speaker 1: you break up and all of a sudden they look
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  Speaker 1: so good. It's never been a thing for me. It's
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  Speaker 1: never always compared myself to the new and I think
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  Speaker 1: how much better they are than me? Probably that's my
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  Speaker 1: own self steam issues, but never like I'm better than her?
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  Speaker 1: How dare she? I hope you know? Hey Skipper, here
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  Speaker 1: as hi Skipper. It's Miranda. Um, I just want to
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  Speaker 1: say running in in the middle sex skip her hair.
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  Speaker 1: Marianna called, I thinks up in the middle, picked up
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  Speaker 1: the phone. Oh that's it. I'm done with that. I
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  Speaker 1: just you know, I thought we could. The phone. They're
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  Speaker 1: having a conversation planning a day while he's in the
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  Speaker 1: middle of having sex with this woman and the cord
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  Speaker 1: is right in her face and they're still juggling about
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  Speaker 1: I've got to be totally honest with you. The woman
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  Speaker 1: who I think I love just called and asked me
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  Speaker 1: back packing up with me while you're still inside of me,
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  Speaker 1: while you're still inside of me. The line you're breaking
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  Speaker 1: up with me while you're still inside of me? The
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  Speaker 1: best lines the worst thing he's announced. Wow, God, now
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  Speaker 1: that I have many like I do have. I've talked
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  Speaker 1: about being broken up with within emoticon while we were
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  Speaker 1: chatting and whatever whatnot. But that would be worse that
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  Speaker 1: if somebody broke up with me while we're having sex.
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  Speaker 1: I would yes, listeners, and if you want to talk
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  Speaker 1: about your worst break up, place in that not that
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  Speaker 1: there's some fascination to. Oh my god. And also for
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  Speaker 1: those who have warned those badges, we would need to
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  Speaker 1: tell people because it's so unbelievable. Yeah, how many women
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  Speaker 1: are you dating in the Tri State area? How many
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  Speaker 1: women are you dating in the Trying State area. I
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  Speaker 1: once was in a weird I wasn't dating anybody, but
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  Speaker 1: I was in four relationships where they all thought I
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  Speaker 1: was dating. And then two of them got in a
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  Speaker 1: fight with each other and say, oh god, they got
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  Speaker 1: into a fight. Yes, no joke. I went to a party.
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  Speaker 1: All four of them showed up. They weren't friend like
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  Speaker 1: it was to this day. I'm like, that was some
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  Speaker 1: god that just was mad at me. There's no way
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  Speaker 1: all four of them would show up, but they got
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  Speaker 1: a fight. Yeah, that's funny. Alright, this he has cost fights.
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  Speaker 1: I haven't m There was another one where both guys
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't leave, and I was like, I'm not dating either
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  Speaker 1: of you. I don't know what's happening. I did not
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  Speaker 1: consent to either. Were like they were going to standoff.
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  Speaker 1: The most awkward thing. I'm so happy to hear from
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  Speaker 1: you that we were still doing it while I was
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  Speaker 1: talking to you, and I didn't even realize. Oh why
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  Speaker 1: did an idiot? He just told Miranda that they were
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  Speaker 1: having sex when he answered Randa's phone call. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: ready for a full blown relationship thing. Oh, Miranda doesn't
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  Speaker 1: want a relationship. Yep, we can see each other and
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  Speaker 1: still see other people, right, she doesn't want to be
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  Speaker 1: monogamous now or with Charlotte and Michael, who, by the way,
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  Speaker 1: Michael said he wanted to speak exclusive problem. She's very happy.
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  Speaker 1: I hate doing it. You hate giving blow jobs? That
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  Speaker 1: big of a deal, is it? And also we talked
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  Speaker 1: about this, but I hate this transactional like on my birthday,
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  Speaker 1: you have to give me a blow job? Would you
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  Speaker 1: really want me to do something that I didn't want
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  Speaker 1: to do? That's the question. So he's like, you do
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  Speaker 1: it for me? She's like, what do you really want
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  Speaker 1: me to do something I don't want to do? Like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that seems reasonable. Why would you want someone to do
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  Speaker 1: something they don't want you at least lick my balls? Goodbye, Michael.
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  Speaker 1: That's awful. I hate this guy. I want you to
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  Speaker 1: be honest. While she was able to stand up for
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  Speaker 1: herself because to me, Charlotte would not have been the
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  Speaker 1: character to stand up to that, which I'm glad she did. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: But what's so funny is and just like that she
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  Speaker 1: does like giving a blow jobs and it is almost
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  Speaker 1: caught by her daughter and slams the door in her face.
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  Speaker 1: But it is That's the thing is like you change
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  Speaker 1: as you grow, and the people you care about and
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  Speaker 1: they are not forced to right, Like, it's possible, definitely
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  Speaker 1: that she would, you know, eventually be like, oh, we're
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  Speaker 1: in this stable, safe relationship and that's the conversation, right,
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  Speaker 1: feel safe, So let's do this. I feel like I
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  Speaker 1: can enjoy this with you and there's no pressure, right,
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  Speaker 1: instead of it being like I'm going to break up
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  Speaker 1: with you and you don't do this, right, it's terrible
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  Speaker 1: and we'll shove your head down like that. Yeah. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: So if any men who are into these relationships unless
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  Speaker 1: you have a stated affair of like that's how you
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  Speaker 1: direct yourself. Sure, but outside of that, don't do that.
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  Speaker 1: And this is the back I've been waiting now front
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  Speaker 1: for They had a confusion of what's front and back.
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  Speaker 1: That's the front you were waiting at the street entrance.
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  Speaker 1: This is another thing that would yea but also another
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  Speaker 1: moment of oh, miscommunication. I can't necessarily date more than
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  Speaker 1: one person at a time, and because we really flustered
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  Speaker 1: and confused, but a lot of people do, and that's okay.
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  Speaker 1: Dating around is okay. You just need to communicate. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that's very, very, very important. So I would not say
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  Speaker 1: that Big is in the wrong but at the same time,
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  Speaker 1: y'all both need to communicate damnage. All right, Anny, that's
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  Speaker 1: great you I think this is the highest score you've gotten. Yes, yes,
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  Speaker 1: and you're taking it pretty pretty pretty on the news.
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  Speaker 1: I feel good with the whole Like, yes, this monogama
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  Speaker 1: is talking about all what kind of relationship and communicating?
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  Speaker 1: So you didn't get that? How would you rate this episode? Okay?
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  Speaker 1: You know what? Maybe I know we're in episode seven
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  Speaker 1: at this point. However, we probably should be doing like
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  Speaker 1: culturally appropriate to the to today. How does it translate,
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  Speaker 1: how does it translate today's relationships? And how do you
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  Speaker 1: do like it? Yeah? I do think there's so many
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  Speaker 1: topics they cover in the show that I'm shocked at
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  Speaker 1: how relevant they still are. Um and that being one,
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  Speaker 1: And I know I always bring it back to pan fiction,
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  Speaker 1: but I have recently seen this like surge in Polly
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  Speaker 1: am Rious relationships and fan fiction, and at first I
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  Speaker 1: was like, no, I could never read that, and I
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  Speaker 1: started reading, I was like, oh, okay, but it is
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  Speaker 1: all about the communication. Like I feel like that's in
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  Speaker 1: every relationship, whether it's familial, whether it's like romantic friendships,
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  Speaker 1: all of those. Yeah, it's true, and it's I know,
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  Speaker 1: I've said it before, but it's funny to me how
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  Speaker 1: we all know that, and yet we all pretty we
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  Speaker 1: fail at it. Pretty I still do. Oh, I do too,
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  Speaker 1: I do too, And it's and I know it. I'll
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  Speaker 1: put off things because I don't want to deal with
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  Speaker 1: it right now, and I just keep putting it off.
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  Speaker 1: So I think I think there's been a lot of
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  Speaker 1: conversation around what does the relationship look like now? What
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  Speaker 1: does it have to look like? It doesn't have to
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  Speaker 1: look like anything, But like, I think people are becoming
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  Speaker 1: more open minded that there are other things other than
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  Speaker 1: this one type of relationship that we've kind of been
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  Speaker 1: fed is this is the successful relationship. Um. So I
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  Speaker 1: find that interesting that in the nineties they were talk
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  Speaker 1: thinking about this. I mean, it makes sense, but it
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  Speaker 1: is interesting that we're still having that. In my little
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  Speaker 1: niche nerd world. It seems that people are are having
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  Speaker 1: those conversations and are pursuing relationships that are outside of
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  Speaker 1: the traditional relationship. What's the funny is, I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to say culturally or whether it translates today. I think
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  Speaker 1: also they did make the LGBTQ slash queer, overly sexual,
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  Speaker 1: irresponsible in these episodes, and I don't like that obviously
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  Speaker 1: very because I'm like, to me, most of my queer
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  Speaker 1: friends are probably the more committed relationship than my hetero
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  Speaker 1: sexual friends, so it's kind of funny. But they've just
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  Speaker 1: been really seeking a partner, not just to have sex,
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  Speaker 1: but they've been seeking and being validated and seeking a partner.
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  Speaker 1: So I do feel like they've played into that trope,
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  Speaker 1: which is also the critique is like they were overcomversating
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  Speaker 1: in the new series, but like that in itself was
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  Speaker 1: like a okay, Um, maybe they were overstating the sexist
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  Speaker 1: idea of women finally being able to be themselves after
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  Speaker 1: locking in that partner, that whole thing. But I think
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  Speaker 1: it's still like the DTR as we saw the find
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  Speaker 1: the relationship. Now we have have a bigger conversation because
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  Speaker 1: that relationship is no longer just binarya to yes or
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  Speaker 1: no to like more of the okay, beyond this, what
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  Speaker 1: do we see YadA, YadA, YadA. So I do think
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  Speaker 1: but that has gotten better in that we at least
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  Speaker 1: they do talk about it. The whole using of other
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  Speaker 1: people not lovely do we do it? Yes? Is it great.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, I found that interesting. Oh yes, I'm excited.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, because we have One of the things I
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  Speaker 1: was supposed to do was ask you what do you
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  Speaker 1: think is coming? Like, what do you think is coming
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  Speaker 1: in this show? That's such a vague question that I
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  Speaker 1: didn't add them. I think is too much, especially not
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  Speaker 1: knowing what it was. I think you've got a pretty
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  Speaker 1: good handle on it now, But what do you think
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  Speaker 1: is going to come? Oh my gosh, I have no
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  Speaker 1: idea to be like, I know the general how it's
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  Speaker 1: going to play out just based on conversations. We're bad
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  Speaker 1: picking it up. I don't know, no, no, and I
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  Speaker 1: really are not to look at the TV because there's
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  Speaker 1: a description of what's happening, right of course the next episode. Yeah, okay, alright, alright,
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  Speaker 1: it's fine, all right. I have to ask hey, listeners,
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