Latest / Let's Ask the Mamas! / Canceled Grandma

Transcript

Canceled Grandma · Let's Ask the Mamas!

• 0:00
  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mama's, have
• 0:02
  Speaker 1: we canceled grandma in America?
• 0:04
  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mama's Alma mama.
• 0:19
  Speaker 1: And joining us now our American mama is Terry Ediville
• 0:21
  Speaker 1: and Kimberly Burtherson. No one is going to cancel my parents,
• 0:27
  Speaker 1: my kids grandparents. That's just good luck trying to cancel.
• 0:33
  Speaker 1: It will not happen. But what is what is the
• 0:37
  Speaker 1: media of this canceling grand.
• 0:39
  Speaker 3: Well, this is growing and this is very disturbing to me,
• 0:42
  Speaker 3: but there is a growing trend. We've actually talked about
• 0:44
  Speaker 3: it on the show before where grandparents are being basically
• 0:48
  Speaker 3: pushed out of people's lives and people are feeling very
• 0:51
  Speaker 3: validated and doing that. And so this woman kind of
• 0:55
  Speaker 3: went on a rant talking about she feels like she's
• 0:58
  Speaker 3: being canceled as a grandmother because her own children can't
• 1:01
  Speaker 3: handle her saying anything constructive about the way she parents
• 1:06
  Speaker 3: or you know. So we kind of pose the question
• 1:08
  Speaker 3: at home with our with our spouses, and my brother
• 1:12
  Speaker 3: in law was like, I don't want anybody, I don't
• 1:14
  Speaker 3: want my parents telling my kids.
• 1:16
  Speaker 2: What to do.
• 1:17
  Speaker 3: And I said, yeah, but what if it's good advice.
• 1:20
  Speaker 3: I mean, what if it's a good thing, why wouldn't
• 1:21
  Speaker 3: you want that? And I think it depends on the
• 1:24
  Speaker 3: relationship you have with your parents, right, That's what I think.
• 1:28
  Speaker 4: Well. I think that his point was that when he
• 1:31
  Speaker 4: was there with their children, three children, and his parents
• 1:35
  Speaker 4: were there when they tried to step in if something
• 1:37
  Speaker 4: was going on, and the and his father came in
• 1:40
  Speaker 4: and tried to be the disciplinarian to his children. He
• 1:43
  Speaker 4: was like, hey, I'm here, I got this kind of thing,
• 1:45
  Speaker 4: like you know. And I think that's probably that's the
• 1:48
  Speaker 4: only time I can think of quote unquote canceling a
• 1:51
  Speaker 4: grandparent is just saying, you know, this is why I'm
• 1:53
  Speaker 4: going to parent. I don't need you to come in
• 1:55
  Speaker 4: and spank and come in and I'm here, so, but
• 1:58
  Speaker 4: when you're not there, you have to trust that the
• 2:01
  Speaker 4: grandparents will honor, you know, honor the rules that they
• 2:05
  Speaker 4: have set. That's been the hardest part for me because
• 2:08
  Speaker 4: I don't Kevin's the same way with our own grandchild,
• 2:13
  Speaker 4: who is too. I don't want to be that. I
• 2:16
  Speaker 4: will be constructive and help him along and guide him
• 2:19
  Speaker 4: if he's making a mistake. Oh no, we don't. We
• 2:20
  Speaker 4: don't hit the dogs, you know, that kind of thing.
• 2:23
  Speaker 4: But I won't spank. Well, we're not going to spank him.
• 2:25
  Speaker 4: We're not gonna be harsh, you know, like sometimes Still
• 2:28
  Speaker 4: will say, you know, if you if you do that again,
• 2:31
  Speaker 4: we're going to the side chair. And no matter what's
• 2:33
  Speaker 4: going on, even if it's the last play of the
• 2:35
  Speaker 4: Super Bowl, if he does that thing again, Still's gonna
• 2:38
  Speaker 4: be Okay. I told you what the consequence would be.
• 2:40
  Speaker 4: He will march himself up to wherever the side chair is.
• 2:44
  Speaker 4: But you won't see me do that. I'll never do that.
• 2:47
  Speaker 4: So I even though a Tristan and Steele have had
• 2:51
  Speaker 4: to say to me, listen, we need you like when
• 2:54
  Speaker 4: he is disrespectful to you and like no, go go,
• 2:59
  Speaker 4: we need you to say, oh no, sir, we don't,
• 3:01
  Speaker 4: we don't do that. And I said, I will. I'm
• 3:02
  Speaker 4: not going to say it like y'all, but I'll go,
• 3:04
  Speaker 4: oh no, we don't do that. You know, I can't
• 3:06
  Speaker 4: do it, but I do. I can see where our
• 3:08
  Speaker 4: brother in law is coming from. If I'm there and
• 3:13
  Speaker 4: I and I'm the parent of these little kids and
• 3:17
  Speaker 4: I'm doing my thing, and all of a sudden, you know,
• 3:19
  Speaker 4: I see maybe there's a fight that just that, uh,
• 3:21
  Speaker 4: that two of my children are starting. I don't need
• 3:25
  Speaker 4: a grandparent to come in there and say, get you
• 3:27
  Speaker 4: stop this right now. You go to this room where
• 3:29
  Speaker 4: I got this. I'm the parent, you know what I'm saying.
• 3:32
  Speaker 4: So I think that's the cancelation thing, do you they?
• 3:35
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 3:35
  Speaker 3: I think it's kind of debatable because it's you know,
• 3:37
  Speaker 3: you're hearing different stories of a girlfriend. And she is
• 3:41
  Speaker 3: a very strong, very dynamic woman, not a gentle parent.
• 3:45
  Speaker 3: Was it with her own two children and she's not
• 3:48
  Speaker 3: with her grandchildren. She's given her children a huge life,
• 3:52
  Speaker 3: beautiful life, houses, cars, like, giving them everything. She lives
• 3:55
  Speaker 3: on a ranch, she had built a home for her child,
• 3:58
  Speaker 3: where her grandchild is and we're over there not too
• 4:00
  Speaker 3: long ago, and she said, uh, my daughter's not talking
• 4:04
  Speaker 3: to me right now. And I'm like why, and she said,
• 4:06
  Speaker 3: because I had to get on to my grandson. I
• 4:08
  Speaker 3: am not going to allow any child to be disrespectful
• 4:11
  Speaker 3: to me. And she thought that I crossed the lines.
• 4:14
  Speaker 3: So now she's not speaking to me. So, of course
• 4:16
  Speaker 3: the situation is that will get they'll get over that.
• 4:18
  Speaker 3: Real quick because her life is her mother has provided
• 4:21
  Speaker 3: this huge life, right. But I did think when she
• 4:24
  Speaker 3: said that if it wasn't being provided, what would have
• 4:27
  Speaker 3: happened there? What would have happened there?
• 4:30
  Speaker 1: And I also wonder if we hear about cancelation and
• 4:34
  Speaker 1: some of this is about politics, and that there are
• 4:37
  Speaker 1: young parents that come in and go, well, I don't
• 4:39
  Speaker 1: want you hanging around my parents because they're Republicans, they're
• 4:42
  Speaker 1: Trump supporters, they they like guns. Yeah, we're not doing that.
• 4:46
  Speaker 1: And I think you still have some of that going
• 4:48
  Speaker 1: on too.
• 4:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah, right, I think you are right, And to me
• 4:51
  Speaker 3: that is really almost that, you know, I don't want
• 4:53
  Speaker 3: to pick on the left, right, you know, but I
• 4:56
  Speaker 3: definitely feel like that's how they operate. They make you
• 4:59
  Speaker 3: pay some way there. There doesn't seem to be a
• 5:02
  Speaker 3: whole lot of common sense or a lot of commun
• 5:05
  Speaker 3: system or common ground. Yeah, common sense, common ground, But
• 5:09
  Speaker 3: I do think that they like to make you pay,
• 5:11
  Speaker 3: and I can definitely see where that's probably the biggest problem.
• 5:14
  Speaker 1: And the problem with it really is that this is
• 5:17
  Speaker 1: supposed to be a generational country that it says in
• 5:20
  Speaker 1: our we're talking about this on the show all the time.
• 5:22
  Speaker 1: It says in the Preamble to the Constitution, in order
• 5:26
  Speaker 1: to make a more perfect union for ourselves and our posterity.
• 5:31
  Speaker 1: That's the people who come after us. The whole point
• 5:34
  Speaker 1: of our government is that it's trying to make life better.
• 5:38
  Speaker 1: Let us make life better for the generations that come after.
• 5:42
  Speaker 1: If you like to ask America Mamas a question, go
• 5:44
  Speaker 1: to our website American I Radi dot com slash moments
• 5:46
  Speaker 1: a click on the ask the Momas button. Needeboe, Kerry Burtherson.
• 5:49
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Thank you,