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Feel Like You’ve Lost Yourself and Don’t Know How to Get Back (Start Here) · Your Utmost Life

• 0:00
  Misty Celli: You didn't lose yourself.
• 0:01
  Misty Celli: You just stopped picking up when she reached out.
• 0:04
  Misty Celli: If you are a woman who used to have opinions, curiosities, and a sense of what lit you up, a version of yourself that felt like you, but somewhere in the last several years, your opinions have gone quiet and you feel like you've lost the woman outside of the rules.
• 0:19
  Misty Celli: Hear me when I say this is such a common occurrence for ambitious women who become great mothers.
• 0:24
  Misty Celli: You've shifted from tackling the world to tackling the role of motherhood, being a wife who runs a life like she's running a multi-billion dollar company.
• 0:32
  Misty Celli: You've spent years knowing your husband's schedule better than he does, coordinating your parents' doctor's appointments around your own calendar without being asked, sensing which of your kids is quietly stressed about finals or a new job or a move across the country before they've even said a single word about it, handling it all with a precision that would make a project manager jealous.
• 0:54
  Misty Celli: You have done this so long, it doesn't even register as effort anymore.
• 0:59
  Misty Celli: It's just a normal Tuesday.
• 1:00
  Misty Celli: And somewhere in the middle of all of that competence, if I asked you a question that wasn't about anybody else, if I said, what do you actually want this week just for you?
• 1:11
  Misty Celli: I think you'd stall.
• 1:13
  Misty Celli: Not because you don't have once, because you haven't been asked that question in your own language in so long that you've lost the reflex of answering it quickly.
• 1:21
  Misty Celli: You'd have to go looking for the answer instead of just having it.
• 1:24
  Misty Celli: And that gap, that little hesitation, that's the thing I want to talk about today, because I don't think it means what you think it means.
• 1:32
  Misty Celli: If you are an ambitious mother who feels like you've been living for everyone else and you catch yourself thinking, is this all there is?
• 1:38
  Misty Celli: You are in the right place.
• 1:40
  Misty Celli: You were never meant to disappear into your roles, but somewhere between everyone's needs and everyone's expectations, you became invisible, disconnected, and living on autopilot.
• 1:48
  Misty Celli: Feel present, self-led, and decisive in six weeks, reclaiming the woman under the rules by following the identity b-step feel like yourself again six weeks series to reclaim who you are.
• 1:59
  Misty Celli: Design a life that is fully and intentionally yours, and show up every day as the utmost woman you've always been, not just for everyone else, but finally fully for yourself.
• 2:08
  Misty Celli: This is where you begin the process of returning to your utmost self, not by accident, not by obligation, but by design.
• 2:14
  Misty Celli: Welcome to your utmost life podcast.
• 2:15
  Misty Celli: I'm Misty, Identity and Self-Leadership Coach for Ambitious Mothers.
• 2:19
  Misty Celli: I am betting that the hesitation you just felt is proof to you.
• 2:24
  Misty Celli: Proof that you don't know yourself anymore.
• 2:27
  Misty Celli: Proof that whoever you used to be is genuinely gone.
• 2:31
  Misty Celli: Not just quiet, but gone.
• 2:33
  Misty Celli: You feel like the woman you used to be has packed up left, and there's nothing left but distant memories and an ache of longing.
• 2:41
  Misty Celli: And so when someone says you need to find yourself again, it lands like a joke because how do you find someone you've already decided doesn't exist to be found?
• 2:51
  Misty Celli: I have had some version of this conversation over and over with women who are competent, capable, and completely on top of their lives.
• 2:59
  Misty Celli: And they share a version of the same sentence with me.
• 3:02
  Misty Celli: I don't even know where to start.
• 3:04
  Misty Celli: And they say it like an admission of failure, like something is wrong with them.
• 3:09
  Misty Celli: I promise you, you are not lost.
• 3:12
  Misty Celli: You just haven't been asked the right question in a long time.
• 3:16
  Misty Celli: You've probably told yourself this is just a busy season, that things will calm down on once your parents' health stabilizes, the kids are fully settled, work quiets down, or once you get through this next thing.
• 3:27
  Misty Celli: And I want to ask you, how many years have you actually been saying that?
• 3:32
  Misty Celli: Because for most great moms, it isn't even 11 months.
• 3:35
  Misty Celli: It's not even two years.
• 3:36
  Misty Celli: It's been five years, seven years, sometimes longer.
• 3:40
  Misty Celli: And our season that lasts seven years isn't a season anymore.
• 3:45
  Misty Celli: It's the actual shape of your life, and it's a sentence you tell yourself to make it easier to live with.
• 3:49
  Misty Celli: It's not that you're lying when you say it because you really believe it.
• 3:53
  Misty Celli: And that's what makes it so easy to miss.
• 3:55
  Misty Celli: It doesn't feel like denial from the inside.
• 3:58
  Misty Celli: It feels like patience and realism, like being the reasonable one who doesn't make a big deal out of things.
• 4:04
  Misty Celli: So you keep waiting for the season to end, but it doesn't end because it was never actually a season.
• 4:10
  Misty Celli: Underneath the waiting, a pattern is running.
• 4:12
  Misty Celli: When someone asks how you are, you say, fine, good, busy, before you've taken a single breath to check whether that's even true.
• 4:21
  Misty Celli: You've gotten so fast at it that it's barely an answer anymore.
• 4:25
  Misty Celli: It's just a reflex.
• 4:26
  Misty Celli: You've become an expert at reading the room, knowing exactly what your husband needs after a hard day, what your mom needs when she calls sounding off, exactly what your kid isn't saying out loud.
• 4:38
  Misty Celli: But unfortunately, you can't read yourself with that same care.
• 4:43
  Misty Celli: What you're carrying is not a character flaw and it's not in gratitude.
• 4:48
  Misty Celli: You know that you have a good life.
• 4:50
  Misty Celli: The issue is you can know that fully and still be quietly grieving a version of yourself you haven't gotten to be in years.
• 4:57
  Misty Celli: Both of those are true, and both of those can be true at once, but nobody ever told you that feeling both of those truths is allowed.
• 5:05
  Misty Celli: You didn't lose your ability to want things.
• 5:08
  Misty Celli: You constantly want things.
• 5:09
  Misty Celli: You want your husband's business call to go well.
• 5:12
  Misty Celli: You want your kids to land where they're supposed to land, wherever that ends up being.
• 5:16
  Misty Celli: You want your mom to get good news from the doctor.
• 5:18
  Misty Celli: Your wanting muscle works fine, but it's been pointed at everyone else for so long that pointing it back at yourself feels like using a limb that you forgot you had.
• 5:28
  Misty Celli: That's not disappearance, that's atrophy.
• 5:30
  Misty Celli: And atrophy is not the same as absence.
• 5:33
  Misty Celli: And muscle you haven't used still exists.
• 5:36
  Misty Celli: It just needs to be asked to work again.
• 5:38
  Misty Celli: Gently, without assuming something's permanently broken because it's a little step on the first attempt.
• 5:44
  Misty Celli: I believe there's a confession underneath all of this that you don't want to admit, not even to the people closest to you.
• 5:50
  Misty Celli: It's one that you push away as fast as a heartbeat, and it's one that says, I don't even know who I am anymore, so I wouldn't even know where to start.
• 5:58
  Misty Celli: I'm not going to give you a five-step plan right now.
• 6:01
  Misty Celli: I'm not going to tell you to journal for 10 minutes a day or make a vision board because I don't actually think that's your problem.
• 6:08
  Misty Celli: You're not missing a method.
• 6:10
  Misty Celli: If you're honest, you don't actually believe that you're findable.
• 6:15
  Misty Celli: You believe there isn't anyone to look for.
• 6:17
  Misty Celli: That the woman you mourn at 2 a.m.
• 6:19
  Misty Celli: when you're lying in the dark with a tear running down your cheek is long gone and dead.
• 6:23
  Misty Celli: That she's in the past and you will never feel that vibrant, focused, fully alive version of yourself again.
• 6:30
  Misty Celli: And those are two completely different problems that need two completely different responses.
• 6:35
  Misty Celli: What you're feeling isn't burnout and it isn't depression, even though it can look and feel like both from the inside, you are not falling apart.
• 6:44
  Misty Celli: You are still running the household, still showing up for work, for the kids, for your marriage.
• 6:49
  Misty Celli: Nobody watching you from the outside would say you're struggling.
• 6:52
  Misty Celli: That's exactly what makes this so hard to name.
• 6:55
  Misty Celli: You are fully functional and fully invisible to yourself at the same time.
• 7:00
  Misty Celli: Those aren't supposed to be able to coexist.
• 7:03
  Misty Celli: And yet, here you are.
• 7:04
  Misty Celli: Here's what it actually looks like in the small moments nobody else clocks.
• 7:09
  Misty Celli: Someone asks what you want for dinner and you defer.
• 7:12
  Misty Celli: Whatever is easiest, I don't care.
• 7:15
  Misty Celli: Even though you might have a real preference if you've given yourself, you know, even half a second to check.
• 7:20
  Misty Celli: You start a sentence about yourself, what you think, what you want, or how you actually feel, but then trail off before you finish it because some part of you doesn't fully believe the sentence is even worth completing.
• 7:33
  Misty Celli: Someone asks what you want out of your life, the whole thing, and you go blank.
• 7:38
  Misty Celli: Not because there's nothing there, but because the signal's been turned down so low for so long that you've mistaken quiet for absence.
• 7:46
  Misty Celli: And here's the part that makes it so confusing.
• 7:49
  Misty Celli: You are needed constantly, every day, by multiple people you love.
• 7:54
  Misty Celli: But somewhere along the way, needed and valuable got fused together in your mind.
• 8:00
  Misty Celli: As if being needed constantly should automatically mean you feel valuable constantly, but you don't.
• 8:08
  Misty Celli: And that gap between how needed you obviously are and how invisible you actually feel doesn't make sense on paper.
• 8:16
  Misty Celli: It just produces shame because you can't explain a feeling that contradicts all the evidence of a full loved wanted life.
• 8:23
  Misty Celli: You've probably tried to say some version of this out loud before, and I bet it didn't land the way you needed it to.
• 8:29
  Misty Celli: I feel lost sounded vague.
• 8:31
  Misty Celli: Even to you, as it left your mouth.
• 8:33
  Misty Celli: I don't even know who I am anymore, sounded dramatic, and you watched the person across from you, not quite sure what to do with it, and suggested a girl's trip, a you should journal, a gentle nudge toward therapy, all of which might genuinely help something.
• 8:48
  Misty Celli: None of which touched the actual thing.
• 8:51
  Misty Celli: So you stopped saying it.
• 8:52
  Misty Celli: And the thing you stopped saying didn't go away.
• 8:54
  Misty Celli: It just got heavier because now it was unsaid on top of unfelt.
• 8:58
  Misty Celli: Here's the actual mistake, and I want to be precise about this because I think it's what's been keeping you stuck more than anything else.
• 9:06
  Misty Celli: You've been assuming that getting back to yourself requires knowing exactly where you are.
• 9:11
  Misty Celli: Like returning is a retracing, like you have to reconstruct the exact trail, pinpoint the exact moment before you're allowed to move.
• 9:21
  Misty Celli: And you can't find that trail.
• 9:22
  Misty Celli: There wasn't one dramatic moment.
• 9:25
  Misty Celli: There were a thousand small, loving, reasonable choices, and no single one of them was the mistake.
• 9:33
  Misty Celli: So you've been standing still waiting to locate a trailhead that was never going to appear because that was never actually how you get back.
• 9:42
  Misty Celli: This has a name, and I want you to have it because a thing with a name is a thing that you can work with instead of just carry.
• 9:47
  Misty Celli: It's called the identity eraser effect.
• 9:50
  Misty Celli: It's what happens gradually and almost invisibly when a woman gives so completely to everyone else's life that her own goes quiet, not gone, but quiet.
• 10:00
  Misty Celli: It happens with one reasonable choice at a time, none of them a mistake.
• 10:04
  Misty Celli: It didn't occur in one moment.
• 10:06
  Misty Celli: It happens in gradual stages that you can't feel while it's occurring.
• 10:11
  Misty Celli: And next week, I'll walk you through exactly what those stages are so you can see precisely where you are right now.
• 10:18
  Misty Celli: But for today, I want you to have the name so you can stop treating this as a personal failure supposed to be able to explain and start recognizing it as a pattern with a shape, a cause, and a way back.
• 10:30
  Misty Celli: If you truly thought that you were findable, if some part of you actually believed there was a whole specific real woman still inside you, you would have started already.
• 10:42
  Misty Celli: Badly, probably, messily maybe, but you would have started because that's what people do when they believe the thing they're looking for is actually there.
• 10:50
  Misty Celli: Imagine someone you loved was missing.
• 10:52
  Misty Celli: You didn't know exactly where they were, but you knew they were out there needing to be found.
• 10:57
  Misty Celli: You wouldn't wait for a perfect map before you went looking.
• 11:00
  Misty Celli: You'd just start.
• 11:01
  Misty Celli: You'd start searching, calling her name, course correcting as you go.
• 11:05
  Misty Celli: So the truth is, I don't know where to start was never really about the starting point.
• 11:11
  Misty Celli: It's about whether there's anything worth starting toward.
• 11:14
  Misty Celli: That belief is serious and makes sense.
• 11:16
  Misty Celli: You didn't pull it out of thin air.
• 11:18
  Misty Celli: You have evidence for it, years of it.
• 11:21
  Misty Celli: Every time you put yourself last and nothing fell apart, you got a small confirmation that you were dispensable to your own life.
• 11:28
  Misty Celli: Every time you didn't have the bandwidth to ask what you wanted because someone needed a permission slip signed or an illness tended to, or a fight refereed, you filed it away as one more data point.
• 11:39
  Misty Celli: My wanting things isn't the priority here.
• 11:42
  Misty Celli: Nobody handed you that belief in a single moment.
• 11:44
  Misty Celli: You built it one exhausted Tuesday at a time out of love, not failure.
• 11:49
  Misty Celli: But I think you're deserving a full picture.
• 11:51
  Misty Celli: One where you can see all the options and make a decision based on your needs and the facts.
• 11:57
  Misty Celli: I want you to look at what that belief is actually costing you because I don't think you'll let yourself add it up.
• 12:03
  Misty Celli: This week, right now, it's costing you the ability to answer a simple question about your own life.
• 12:09
  Misty Celli: What do you want?
• 12:10
  Misty Celli: What do you like?
• 12:11
  Misty Celli: How are you really?
• 12:13
  Misty Celli: Without deflecting it back onto somebody else.
• 12:15
  Misty Celli: Underneath that, at a quieter, deeper level, it's costing you something in your closest, most long-term relationship.
• 12:23
  Misty Celli: The one you had visions of growing and building over 20, 30, 40 years.
• 12:28
  Misty Celli: Your husband is getting a version of you that's managing the household instead of a version of you that's actually present in the room with him.
• 12:36
  Misty Celli: That's a real loss.
• 12:38
  Misty Celli: One on a trajectory that's taking you away from your original dream and vision.
• 12:42
  Misty Celli: And it's been happening quietly enough that you filed it under just the busy season instead of naming it as the loss it actually is.
• 12:50
  Misty Celli: And if this doesn't shift, there is a cost.
• 12:53
  Misty Celli: And if you're honest, you know there is, and it's one that actually keeps you up at two in the morning.
• 12:59
  Misty Celli: It's not a dramatic collapse.
• 13:01
  Misty Celli: It's the opposite.
• 13:02
  Misty Celli: It's more of the same for another decade.
• 13:05
  Misty Celli: The same disconnect, the same invisibility, the tears late at night, a deep ache of something being off or missing.
• 13:14
  Misty Celli: Relationships that are functional but not deeply connected.
• 13:18
  Misty Celli: Your kids are fully grown and gone, needing you less and less, and you're standing in a quieter house, not entirely sure who that woman is, staring back at you in the mirror.
• 13:26
  Misty Celli: The fear isn't that something bad happens, it's that nothing happens.
• 13:31
  Misty Celli: That you wake up one day and realize you spent decades giving your whole capacity to everyone else's life and never gave yourself the gift of a life that included you.
• 13:42
  Misty Celli: Yes, your role as a wife and mother is vital.
• 13:45
  Misty Celli: But can you say that in a life of 80 plus years, you were only allowed 20 of them for you as a woman?
• 13:54
  Misty Celli: And the other 60 are meant to be spent as logistics manager for everyone else.
• 13:59
  Misty Celli: Your first 20 years had opinions, dreams, goals, and the vibrancy of a woman becoming.
• 14:06
  Misty Celli: Those years gave you memories, experiences, and wisdom that brought value to everyone around you and to the life that you've built.
• 14:14
  Misty Celli: Is it possible those same truths can still exist for you?
• 14:18
  Misty Celli: Your husband before you married was a man with vision, hopes, dreams, and goals of his own, not just about going to work every day to provide for you and the kids.
• 14:27
  Misty Celli: You still see his greatness, his purpose, the fullness of the man that you fell in love with.
• 14:33
  Misty Celli: You don't just see a man bringing home a paycheck.
• 14:36
  Misty Celli: You are not just a logistics manager either.
• 14:40
  Misty Celli: You are a woman with so much to offer.
• 14:42
  Misty Celli: Your kids are the same.
• 14:44
  Misty Celli: You look at them and see the future of greatness they dream of.
• 14:47
  Misty Celli: You don't look at them and see all of that ending in their 20s once they become a spouse and a parent.
• 14:53
  Misty Celli: They are a human being on this earth with so much to offer.
• 14:57
  Misty Celli: Being a spouse or a parent isn't their only role or purpose.
• 15:01
  Misty Celli: That same truth exists for you.
• 15:04
  Misty Celli: So here's what you actually need to hear.
• 15:07
  Misty Celli: You are not unfindable.
• 15:09
  Misty Celli: You've just gone a long time without looking in the right place.
• 15:12
  Misty Celli: The deep ache you feel is not a malfunction.
• 15:16
  Misty Celli: Even though you feel it's genuinely a good life with a husband who loves you and kids who are thriving, it's the woman you're missing, calling out to you.
• 15:24
  Misty Celli: A quiet whisper, easy to ignore among the busyness of life.
• 15:28
  Misty Celli: But it's her.
• 15:29
  Misty Celli: She's the reason you clicked on this episode instead of scrolling past it.
• 15:32
  Misty Celli: A woman who was actually gone wouldn't ache to be found.
• 15:36
  Misty Celli: You can't grieve someone who never existed.
• 15:39
  Misty Celli: That restlessness, the thing that makes you scroll at extra 40 minutes at night instead of sleeping, that's her calling out to you, still hoping for an answer, hoping even now, even when you've stopped listening, that you will hear her, seek her, and pause long enough to let her in.
• 15:56
  Misty Celli: You are more than everyone's everything.
• 15:59
  Misty Celli: You are someone, and someone doesn't disappear just because she's been quiet for a while.
• 16:04
  Misty Celli: One night at dinner, my husband, half joking, asked, Do you even remember what you wanted before all of this?
• 16:10
  Misty Celli: And I opened my mouth to answer and nothing came out.
• 16:12
  Misty Celli: Not because I was tired, but because I actually didn't know.
• 16:15
  Misty Celli: I had not thought about a goal or a dream that didn't have something to do with making sure everything ran smoothly for everyone else.
• 16:21
  Misty Celli: That silence is what did it.
• 16:23
  Misty Celli: Not an idea I talked myself into, a blank space where an answer should have been, sitting across the table from the person who loves me most, watching me not be able to answer a simple question about my own life.
• 16:34
  Misty Celli: He caught the tear in my eyes.
• 16:36
  Misty Celli: I had no answer for why it was there, just shame for feeling sad.
• 16:40
  Misty Celli: Something was off and I felt empty with no reason I could point to.
• 16:44
  Misty Celli: And because there was no real reason for it, I felt stupid and dramatic and incredibly ridiculous.
• 16:50
  Misty Celli: Later that night, alone in the shower, the same tears I had had plenty of times before came again.
• 16:56
  Misty Celli: Except this time, they didn't feel like proof I was failing.
• 16:59
  Misty Celli: They felt like grief.
• 17:00
  Misty Celli: Real grief for someone real.
• 17:02
  Misty Celli: And you don't grieve someone who never existed.
• 17:05
  Misty Celli: I didn't fix anything that week, but the next time someone asked how I was doing, I didn't answer with what everyone else needed.
• 17:12
  Misty Celli: I said, fine.
• 17:13
  Misty Celli: And then I said the true thing.
• 17:16
  Misty Celli: Even though it was three words, even though it felt strange coming out of my mouth.
• 17:20
  Misty Celli: That was the whole beginning.
• 17:22
  Misty Celli: Not a breakthrough, just one honest sentence where a deflection used to go.
• 17:28
  Misty Celli: Now I know what might be sitting with you right now.
• 17:31
  Misty Celli: I don't have the bandwidth for one more thing right now.
• 17:34
  Misty Celli: And I understand that, but this isn't one more thing added to your list.
• 17:39
  Misty Celli: This is the thing that makes the rest of the list survivable.
• 17:42
  Misty Celli: You're not choosing between your responsibilities and yourself.
• 17:45
  Misty Celli: You're choosing whether the woman doing all the responsibilities gets to have anything left in her by the end of it.
• 17:51
  Misty Celli: And let's be honest, there's probably another thing sitting with you at a deeper, more real level.
• 17:57
  Misty Celli: I'm not sure this will actually be different for me.
• 18:00
  Misty Celli: Here's the thing: you don't have to be sure.
• 18:04
  Misty Celli: You don't even have to have hope yet.
• 18:06
  Misty Celli: All I'm asking for is curiosity, the willingness to be a little bit wrong about the belief that you are unfindable.
• 18:15
  Misty Celli: That costs you nothing.
• 18:16
  Misty Celli: Let me give you two Tuesdays.
• 18:18
  Misty Celli: Here's the one you're probably living right now.
• 18:21
  Misty Celli: The alarm goes off, and before your feet fully hit the floor, you're already feeling behind in three requests deep.
• 18:27
  Misty Celli: A text from your mom, something your husband needs before his meeting, a question from one of the kids, even though they're grown and stayed away now.
• 18:34
  Misty Celli: You move through the whole day, fluent in everyone else's needs, and mildly out of practice in your own.
• 18:40
  Misty Celli: By the time you get a quiet minute, you're too tired to use it on anything you've hoped to get done for yourself.
• 18:45
  Misty Celli: You pick up your phone, trying to remember what needs to go on the grocery list, and find yourself scrolling instead.
• 18:51
  Misty Celli: And even that doesn't feel like rest.
• 18:53
  Misty Celli: Then you realize how much time you've spent and you're frustrated with yourself with so much still left to do on your list.
• 18:59
  Misty Celli: Now, here's the other one.
• 19:00
  Misty Celli: A few weeks down the road after you've actually begun looking for her and answering when she calls.
• 19:06
  Misty Celli: You wake up on a Tuesday and it's not a dramatically different Tuesday.
• 19:10
  Misty Celli: But before you begin answering anyone else's needs, you're sitting with a cup of coffee that's still hot, sun streaming through the window, and you're just there.
• 19:20
  Misty Celli: A quiet, calm, a deep presence, a goal of your own that you're watching come to life.
• 19:27
  Misty Celli: You know a few true specific things about yourself that have nothing to do with what anyone else needs from you today.
• 19:34
  Misty Celli: And you know them the way you know your own name.
• 19:36
  Misty Celli: Your husband asks how you're doing that evening, and this time you actually pause before you answer, and you tell him something real instead of the logistics version.
• 19:45
  Misty Celli: He looks at you with deep interest, moved by how alive you sound, and your child home for the weekend and old enough now to see you, not just as their mother, but as a whole woman, catches something in how you're carrying yourself.
• 19:58
  Misty Celli: They're watching what it looks like when a woman includes herself instead of only ever choosing everyone else.
• 20:04
  Misty Celli: That's not a fantasy you're picturing.
• 20:06
  Misty Celli: That's the same life you're already living with a solid foundation under it instead of a three-legged chair.
• 20:13
  Misty Celli: You're allowed to want the whole version, not the version you feel won't inconvenience anyone.
• 20:18
  Misty Celli: The whole version right now, in this exact season, as the woman you already are.
• 20:23
  Misty Celli: If you want the version that offers connection, depth with those you love, presence and vibrancy in a life that includes you, go to yourutmost.com forward slash starter and get the identity reset starter toolkit.
• 20:38
  Misty Celli: Begin to feel present, self-led, and decisive in seven minutes by drafting your first identity blueprint and install a five-minute daily calibration ritual, taking back your day and reclaiming the woman you are, not just the roles you play.
• 20:52
  Misty Celli: This is your first step.
• 20:54
  Misty Celli: Open it and write the first three words of your identity blueprint, not the whole thing, three words.
• 20:59
  Misty Celli: That's it for today.
• 21:01
  Misty Celli: Say this out loud, even in your car.
• 21:03
  Misty Celli: I hear the whisper and today I choose to listen.
• 21:06
  Misty Celli: A voice is going to show up sometime in the next hour, telling you, who do you think you are?
• 21:11
  Misty Celli: You're being ungrateful and a bit dramatic.
• 21:14
  Misty Celli: That voice isn't the truth.
• 21:16
  Misty Celli: It's just the old pattern trying to reassert itself because you did something different today.
• 21:21
  Misty Celli: Answer it with this.
• 21:22
  Misty Celli: I chose myself today.
• 21:24
  Misty Celli: I'll choose her again tomorrow because I am worth it.
• 21:28
  Misty Celli: You've been calling this a season for a lot longer than a season lasts.
• 21:32
  Misty Celli: You are not too far gone and you are not unfindable.
• 21:36
  Misty Celli: You've just gone a long time without anyone looking in the right place.
• 21:40
  Misty Celli: And the ache that brought you to this episode isn't proof she's gone.
• 21:43
  Misty Celli: It's proof she's still calling out to you.
• 21:46
  Misty Celli: I'd love for you to leave a review.
• 21:48
  Misty Celli: It's how the next woman finds the show.
• 21:50
  Misty Celli: And if somebody came to mind while you were listening, send her the episode.
• 21:54
  Misty Celli: Next week we're diving into week two of our six-week series, and we're talking about why I've lost myself might be the most dangerous lie you've been believing.
• 22:03
  Misty Celli: Because here's the truth: you didn't fail the things you tried before.
• 22:07
  Misty Celli: They failed you because they were solving the wrong problem.
• 22:10
  Misty Celli: Next week, I'll show you the real one, including the stages of exactly how this happened to you.
• 22:16
  Misty Celli: You're going to want to hear this, and you're worth the few minutes it takes to listen.
• 22:20
  Misty Celli: Until then, grab the identity reset starter toolkit and write those first three words.
• 22:25
  Misty Celli: That's the one thing I want you to do today.
• 22:28
  Misty Celli: You are more than everyone's everything.
• 22:31
  Misty Celli: You are someone.