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Speaker 1: We got a question in for American mamas to dear mamas,
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Speaker 1: how do you deal with people who are using you
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Speaker 1: in business and not respecting you enough to be fair
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Speaker 1: with you. Well, let's ask our American mamas.
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Speaker 2: A mama and joining is now our American mama was
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Speaker 2: Terry Needville and Kimberly burle Isten.
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Speaker 1: Surely that's never happened to either one of you. Someone
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Speaker 1: would take advantage of your your.
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Speaker 3: I'm so naive that they probably did many many times.
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Speaker 3: I just didn't know it until I You.
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Speaker 4: Know, that was a big experience for me in business.
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Speaker 4: You know, we had the magazine Millionaire Blueprints, right Donny Deutsch,
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Speaker 4: y'all know Donny Deutsch? Sure, Donny Deutsch had a show
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Speaker 4: called The Big Idea, right, and I think it was CNN,
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Speaker 4: And I would go and I'd go like every couple
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Speaker 4: of weeks and I'd be on the show talking about
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Speaker 4: business or whatever. But because we had the magazine, we
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Speaker 4: had access to all of these self made millionaires, right,
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Speaker 4: which was the whole basis of his show is telling
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Speaker 4: these stories. So it got to a point where every
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Speaker 4: single week a producer would call me. You got to
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Speaker 4: pitch for us? You got to pitch for us. I
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Speaker 4: am giving them everything I have. I gave them my rolodex.
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Speaker 4: I called the people. I called the people. I had
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Speaker 4: Tito beverage from Tito's vodka that had never been on TV.
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Speaker 4: I had. I mean, I was working it because I
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Speaker 4: felt like it was going to benefit me inside a system.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Sure, nice for you.
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Speaker 4: You're gonna help me with my magazine.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 4: Well, it got to a point where I was working
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Speaker 4: my rear end off for these people and I wasn't
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Speaker 4: getting any credit for anything right, And I was like,
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Speaker 4: I am being so used, I'm being so used, but
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Speaker 4: I'm such a nice person, and that I'm like, what
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Speaker 4: am I doing? But I couldn't get out of it
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Speaker 4: at that point.
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Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question, when was the moment
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Speaker 1: that it changed for you?
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Speaker 4: The moment it changed for me is when another big
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Speaker 4: famous producer. I had a show idea and it was
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Speaker 4: How'd you Get So Rich? And I went to New
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Speaker 4: York and I pitched it to the executive producer of
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Speaker 4: the Big Idea with Donnie Deutsch. They loved it, and
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Speaker 4: the next thing I know, they're not interested. A year later,
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Speaker 4: I see Joan River starring in How'd you get so rich?
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Speaker 4: And I couldn't believe it, and I waited. I watched
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Speaker 4: it just I looked to see if I even had
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Speaker 4: like a producer credit on it. Nothing. They just took it.
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Speaker 4: And I didn't have the money to sue. I didn't
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Speaker 4: have the pro you know, all I have was my papers,
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Speaker 4: my little pitch right, And I thought, what have you done?
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Speaker 4: You stupid little girl? That's how I felt. I felt
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Speaker 4: stupid because my dad had died and I'm trying to
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Speaker 4: take over his business and I'm trying to build it
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Speaker 4: up into something big, and I felt what a failure?
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Speaker 4: So Noah, you're so I felt like what a felt like?
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Speaker 4: I'm trying so hard and I trusted people.
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Speaker 1: So how have you changed since then?
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Speaker 4: Well? Did it harden? It hardened me? You know, I don't.
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Speaker 4: I feel like I'm more forward. I'm more direct when
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Speaker 4: it comes to business, not relationships, but in business I'm
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Speaker 4: more bold than what I ask for. You know, if
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Speaker 4: I'm going to do something for you, I'm like, well,
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Speaker 4: can you do this for me? Can I get this
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Speaker 4: kind of credit? So it's an upfront negotiation almost.
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Speaker 3: And do you have a radar about how you feel
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Speaker 3: because when I to this day, when I see Donnie
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Speaker 3: Deutsch come on, you know, seeing enter miss, and I
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Speaker 3: recoil at his voice, like when he said he heard
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Speaker 3: comments that I fell in love with her. I think
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Speaker 3: I just fell in love with her. He's so so
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Speaker 3: much part of the propaganda of the left that he
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Speaker 3: grosses me out because I also know what he did
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Speaker 3: to Kimberly.
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Speaker 4: But Donnie didn't do it his producers. He probably didn't
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Speaker 4: even know that they were calling me. Oh well, okay,
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Speaker 4: you know it was the producers, but you know, I
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Speaker 4: can't say it was him.
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Speaker 1: So there's this thought that's popping in my head here,
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Speaker 1: and it's a phrase that that I've been told, and
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Speaker 1: I've tried to challenge it and see, you know, because again,
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Speaker 1: don't just believe everything you think, right, It's important to
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Speaker 1: challenge your own ideas. But I've challenged this idea multiple
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Speaker 1: times and I keep coming back and I think this
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Speaker 1: is right. Every failure is a failure of prayer. Ultimately,
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Speaker 1: every failure is a failure of prayer because things like this.
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Speaker 1: So I had a business situation that was going on
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Speaker 1: where I'm working for this other person because I felt
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Speaker 1: called to work for that person, and I stayed working
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Speaker 1: with that person, even though for five months, I went
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Speaker 1: without getting paid, no money for five months, even though
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Speaker 1: working through but because I felt called to do it
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Speaker 1: until the moment that I no longer felt called to
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Speaker 1: be there, and I left that day without any you know,
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Speaker 1: and look there's forgiveness too. I was like, you know what,
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Speaker 1: you know what, I'm gonna forgive whatever it is you
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Speaker 1: guys owe me five months worth of pay. I'm forgiving
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Speaker 1: all of that. I'm walking away. And that walking away
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Speaker 1: has led directly to this show today. Point being that
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Speaker 1: I might have left earlier if I had been praying
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Speaker 1: for all right, show me God if I'm supposed to
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Speaker 1: be here still, because it took a bigger sign for
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Speaker 1: me to leave than it probably needed to. Does that
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Speaker 1: make sense? Yes, So that before I go into a
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Speaker 1: business situation now and there have been a couple of
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Speaker 1: other business situations that have come up since then, where
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Speaker 1: I said to God, look at this is not right.
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Speaker 1: Throw up stop signs. And he threw up some stop
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Speaker 1: signs that were pretty big. I saw things that I
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Speaker 1: wasn't going to see otherwise, and that that was what
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Speaker 1: I learned from it. Was that every failure is ultimately
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Speaker 1: a failure of prayer. And that includes going into a
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Speaker 1: business situation where I felt called to give as much
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Speaker 1: as I could until it wasn't reciprocated, and then I
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Speaker 1: was like, wait, okay, it's time for.
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Speaker 4: Me to go, so we need to pray for discernment
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Speaker 4: in all.
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Speaker 1: Cases, I said, God, if I'm not supposed to do this,
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Speaker 1: throw up stop signs. If you like askar America Mama
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Speaker 1: Netiville Ki really girls, and thank you so much.
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Speaker 4: Thank you