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Happy Hour #157: Don't Ask, Don't Tell (SATC S3, Ep 12) · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha.
• 0:06
  Speaker 2: I hope your stuff. I never told you production of iHeartRadio.
• 0:18
  Speaker 1: And welcome to the return for twenty twenty five our
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  Speaker 1: viewing and I guess our reaction to Sex and the City. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we're coming back. I feel like, at the very least
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  Speaker 1: will end season three this year. And those are my hopes.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, that's a goal, all right, But yes, we.
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  Speaker 1: Were back when we are back in viewing Sex and
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  Speaker 1: the City, some such as Annie for.
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  Speaker 2: The first time, that's true, this is my first time. Also,
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  Speaker 2: we have chosen our winner for the list who's going
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  Speaker 2: to come on and view the next episode. I believe
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  Speaker 2: with us, they've already been contacted. If you did not win,
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  Speaker 2: please don't be discouraged, because we're going to do it again.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, this is going to be at least the once
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  Speaker 1: a season thing, if not more. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Who knows, Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And it's so randomly.
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  Speaker 2: I used my dungeons and dragons dice that's out. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I assigned numbers and yeah, I rollodize, so it's random.
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  Speaker 2: But yes, if you didn't get it this time, please
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  Speaker 2: feel free to try again, but.
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  Speaker 1: In your name, yeah, do it through the social media's
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  Speaker 1: whatever whatnot, because we will definitely we do include those.
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  Speaker 1: So but yes, we are back. It is season three,
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  Speaker 1: episode twelve. Now, but before we start, because this is
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  Speaker 1: a happy hour. So if you're doing any of the
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  Speaker 1: things that we talk about in happy hour times or
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  Speaker 1: do so and participate in, do so responsibly. We love you.
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  Speaker 1: Be good to yourself. We do one any are you
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  Speaker 1: doing something responsibly? Are you sipping on anything or responsibly?
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  Speaker 2: I am indeed, I'm still in my rose that I
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  Speaker 2: mentioned last time. It is as we record this as
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  Speaker 2: it comes out. It's Gallentine's Day and Valentine's Day.
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  Speaker 1: Happy Galentine's y'all.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Happy Galentine's Day. So I just felt like it'd
• 2:24
  Speaker 2: be appropriate. Yeah, yeah, I have plans on Valentine's Day.
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  Speaker 2: Not romantic plans obviously, I mean, obviously to.
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  Speaker 1: People who don't be But.
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  Speaker 2: Today they were like, I can't wait to celebrate Gallentines
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  Speaker 2: with you, and I was like, I hope you know
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  Speaker 2: that Gallentine's actually is a thing that happens the day
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  Speaker 2: before Valentine's because I swear if you show up at
• 2:50
  Speaker 2: my apartment on the wrong day, I should just clarify
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  Speaker 2: that I should make sure that you.
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  Speaker 1: Need clarifying is good, Yeah, communication, but I mean further relationship.
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  Speaker 2: Said, we have the date and it says Valentine's Day,
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  Speaker 2: so I think they know, but I just want to
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  Speaker 2: make sure verify.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, verify. It's always good to verify. Yeah, all, I
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  Speaker 1: love that. Well. I am actually gonna try one that
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  Speaker 1: I had bought for us, and it's the Buzzkill, which
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  Speaker 1: is the alcohol removed Cabernet Savignon. Buzz Kill is a
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  Speaker 1: company owned by a woman, and I'm not gonna lie.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have it pulled up. We'll probably talk a
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  Speaker 1: little more about it later. And it has less than
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  Speaker 1: point five percent. So I'm really excited because again, as
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  Speaker 1: many of you regular listeners and those who are just
• 3:36
  Speaker 1: joining may know, I am sleepy when I drink too
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  Speaker 1: much or not even too much when I drink at
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  Speaker 1: all period us up or two whatever, So this is
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  Speaker 1: a nice little change. I'm gonna open the can CORILP
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  Speaker 1: no sound effects. Oh it's nice. It's more tart the nights,
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  Speaker 1: but I guess that's probably what happens if you remove
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  Speaker 1: the alcohol.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah you know, yeah, I have one. You you bought
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  Speaker 2: me one as well, I'm excited to try it, so we'll.
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  Speaker 1: Have to try it together. But I just wanted one
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  Speaker 1: because I have a few in there, and I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I want to do something. And now it's Gallentine's Valentine's weekend,
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  Speaker 1: a weekend of romance, which is what sets in the
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  Speaker 1: city is of nothing else, all about relationships. I needed
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  Speaker 1: to sip on something. Bubble and wine. There's nothing more
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  Speaker 1: romantic than wine, right.
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  Speaker 2: It's pretty romantic. Yeah, I would agree.
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  Speaker 1: I would great a drink was romantic. Maybe, I don't
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  Speaker 1: know what else would be? Orange juice is that romantic? No? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: see I tried.
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  Speaker 2: To clash with a bunch of other flavors. If you
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  Speaker 2: have any kind of sore in your mouth, it would hurt.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, it's that trick or trauma. Okay, unexpected?
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  Speaker 1: But would that. Now we're going to get into it,
• 4:55
  Speaker 1: and as you know, we have a whole little system
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to us watch it. Well, you may
• 4:59
  Speaker 1: not know, but if you've been a regular, you know
• 5:02
  Speaker 1: that we have a little system on how we set
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  Speaker 1: up these viewings. And we start with Annie telling us
• 5:08
  Speaker 1: a quick review of what has happened thus far in
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  Speaker 1: this season.
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  Speaker 2: Which is not an easy task because it has been
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  Speaker 2: a couple months since we've done this.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I try not to look anything up because
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  Speaker 2: I like to.
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  Speaker 1: I want to be often as well as I quiz
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  Speaker 1: you and you can't cheat. Yeah, so I believe.
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  Speaker 2: In the last episode, so like one of the overarching
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  Speaker 2: themes of this has been Carrie has found a happy
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  Speaker 2: relationship with Aiden. It seems healthy, but she is used
• 5:46
  Speaker 2: to this unhealthy relationship with Big, and so she keeps
• 5:50
  Speaker 2: she's cheating on Aiden with mister Big, and now all
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  Speaker 2: of her friends know. All of her friends have found
• 5:58
  Speaker 2: out separately, Samantha, the Miranda, and Charlotte, and they all
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  Speaker 2: had different kind of different reactions. And I think the
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  Speaker 2: last one ended with Carrie, you kind of fleeing the
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  Speaker 2: apartment of mister Big with his fiance, his wife wife,
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  Speaker 2: his wife, his wife Natasha, Yeah, seeing her and being
• 6:22
  Speaker 2: like I see you, and they chase each other down
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  Speaker 2: the stairs and then Natasha falls and hurts herself and
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  Speaker 2: Carrie has to take her to the hospital and she's like, no,
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  Speaker 2: we can't keep doing this to mister Big. And then
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  Speaker 2: she goes back to her apartment and still doesn't really
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  Speaker 2: tell Aiden what's happening, but he's pretty suspicious. He's like, oh,
• 6:46
  Speaker 2: something's amiss. I think this is correct. And then, as
• 6:53
  Speaker 2: I always say, Samantha's doing her Samantha thing. She did
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  Speaker 2: have a whole kind of scare with an STI and
• 6:58
  Speaker 2: they had a lot to talk about that and getting tested.
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  Speaker 2: Charlotte's about to get married to Trey, and she's she's
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  Speaker 2: living her bride life. We were introduced to Anthony, who
• 7:11
  Speaker 2: becomes a bigger character later, who's helping her with dresses.
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  Speaker 1: And then.
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  Speaker 2: Miranda was talking to She's recently broken up with somebody
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  Speaker 2: she thought she might settle I don't want to say
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  Speaker 2: settle with, that's not right, but somebody she was comfortable with,
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  Speaker 2: like she'd found a comfortable life with. And then they
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  Speaker 2: broke up Steve, and now she's kind of getting back
• 7:36
  Speaker 2: out in the dating world, and she was talking to
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  Speaker 2: some guy. They're having phone sex. But then he was
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  Speaker 2: talking to some other lady, I guess, and so that
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  Speaker 2: was the end of that.
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  Speaker 1: Nice That was a good world, right for the most part. Yeah. See,
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  Speaker 1: Aim wasn't necessarily suspicious. He was like a cute like
• 7:58
  Speaker 1: found out she was smoking again. Okay, okay, I think,
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  Speaker 1: and that's kind of that bigger conversation and then he says,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I love you, I'm your person type of thing.
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  Speaker 1: It's okay, they'll find their way back home once they stray.
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  Speaker 1: Was that kind of theme because she lost the dog
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  Speaker 1: for a second. Oh yeah, the dog. Oh yeah, but yeah,
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  Speaker 1: she had to chase after the dog. It was a
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  Speaker 1: whole thing. Yeah, there's so many things that might have
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  Speaker 1: been before. Actually that was a previous one.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I mean it was part of like, clearly
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  Speaker 2: she's letting all these balls kind of drop.
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  Speaker 1: In her. She does, but she does exit and she's like,
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  Speaker 1: we're so we're so done. There need any work. We're done, right,
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  Speaker 1: We're so over one of those two things. I think
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  Speaker 1: it may be doing worse than you are. And I've
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  Speaker 1: seen this like ten times.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I know I'm gonna be quizzed on it, so
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  Speaker 2: I won't.
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  Speaker 1: Like the night before, I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Literally like trying to remember any what happened.
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  Speaker 1: With spring on you on a day we're not watching
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  Speaker 1: it and be like, do you know I probably would
• 9:03
  Speaker 1: be terrible if we love it? Well, we are coming
• 9:06
  Speaker 1: on episode twelve, a lot of climax I'm telling you
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  Speaker 1: this season is just a season a lot of discovery,
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  Speaker 1: really big turnaround. You would think it's like four seasons
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  Speaker 1: in one. But this episode is titled Don't Ask, Don't Tell.
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  Speaker 1: Can you give me a prediction of what you think
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  Speaker 1: is going to happen? Okay?
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  Speaker 2: So I feel like that's when you know. It's like
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  Speaker 2: no mission of it's when you lie. But if somebody
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  Speaker 2: doesn't ask you about it, it's cool, right, Like right, well,
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  Speaker 2: we both know maybe there's a lie happening here, but
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  Speaker 2: if we don't talk about it, it's fine. So I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to guess. I really don't know what's going to
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  Speaker 2: happen with Charlotte's wedding. I have no idea, but some
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  Speaker 2: something there. I think Carrie, I think, given what I
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  Speaker 2: know about future seasons, I think she is going to
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  Speaker 2: get back with Big. I don't think she's done, is
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  Speaker 2: done or whatever she said. I think she's going to
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  Speaker 2: go back. I think a lot of shoes will be revealed.
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  Speaker 1: How about that truth? Truths? Okay? I heard shoes, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, in this show, maybe it could be oh brunch,
• 10:32
  Speaker 1: and this protection does brunch. Alright, let's jump into it.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, for Miranda, the only thing worse than being Charlotte's
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  Speaker 3: thirty four year old bridesmaid was being a thirty four
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  Speaker 3: year old bridesmaid without a date.
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  Speaker 1: Are your type gone now? But needing a date for
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  Speaker 1: a way? You've never even known that.
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  Speaker 2: I knew, like, usually you come with somebody, but I
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  Speaker 2: didn't think it had to be a date.
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  Speaker 1: So either. I guess if your friend though, and all
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  Speaker 1: your friends are going to be there, that can't be
• 11:15
  Speaker 1: your plus one. But that would be just as fun
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  Speaker 1: to be fine. Yeah, I'm a lawyer at a mid
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  Speaker 1: size firm.
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  Speaker 3: Actually I was recently made partner.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a lawyer. None of them are going to like it.
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  Speaker 1: They're like, she's too careful school, I'm a stewardess. Why
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  Speaker 1: would you look at her that way?
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  Speaker 4: Really?
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  Speaker 1: I still think we could try to do a speed
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  Speaker 1: dating for you, but why why not? Because we want
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  Speaker 1: to know the experience.
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  Speaker 2: Annie, Wait, I can't remember. Have you done it?
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  Speaker 4: No?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, okay.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like it would be rude to somebody because it.
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  Speaker 1: It's like an experiment, and I'm trying to find somebody
• 12:10
  Speaker 1: to reject you. This is too much, and you're rejecting me.
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  Speaker 5: This is mean, let's speak, drink and be married, eat,
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  Speaker 5: drink and be married.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I find marriages are full of like the
• 12:30
  Speaker 2: really cliche puns. So yeah, I get it should be
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  Speaker 2: your will help it should be. But I like to
• 12:37
  Speaker 2: go for the stranger, dorkier things, not the romantic suite
• 12:42
  Speaker 2: like I'll find it hanging over the sink type things.
• 12:47
  Speaker 2: His name was Galeb, right, wow seeah, I also know
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  Speaker 2: it's a trope to like hook up at a wedding.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, usually the guzman and a bridesmaid.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I caught the bouquet ones and I did get
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  Speaker 2: hit on a lot. And I was like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: this is a superstition, I believe, right.
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  Speaker 1: I've been in many weddings that was never my case.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe I apparently do not have a welcome sign on
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  Speaker 1: me anyway, except for like the ones who does love
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  Speaker 1: a challenge and then are a little too like eager.
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  Speaker 1: I had a wedding where I had a dress and
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  Speaker 1: a beige color. So it was a color that was
• 13:29
  Speaker 1: the color of my skin. Yeah, I looked interesting, thinking
• 13:34
  Speaker 1: is it was poofy? It was a poofy one yeah,
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  Speaker 1: well a corset puffy down. Yeah, it was one of
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  Speaker 1: those Okay, I'm pretty sure I got rid of that
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  Speaker 1: so quickly.
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  Speaker 2: I had the first time I went to a wedding
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  Speaker 2: as a bridesmaid, it was for my cousin, and I'm
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  Speaker 2: pretty sure she didn't want me in it. But anyway,
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  Speaker 2: it was a beige dress and my mom and I
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  Speaker 2: think rightfully, she was like, we're not buying any prom dresses.
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  Speaker 1: You're wearing this dress. I didn't did that, No, I didn't.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, okay, it was a nice dress. It was
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  Speaker 2: not what I would have chose, but it was a
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  Speaker 2: nice stress.
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  Speaker 4: I am.
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  Speaker 3: That night, Harris got to make love to a stewardess
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  Speaker 3: and Miranda didn't have to say anything.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, that's an interesting conversation.
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  Speaker 3: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: Basically she had this downplay what she's done.
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  Speaker 2: Right, even though there's nothing wrong with being a stewards.
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  Speaker 1: One of those things, it is very insulting in both
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: of those days that, in fact, they make a lot
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  Speaker 1: of good money.
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  Speaker 4: She has a.
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  Speaker 1: Degree in there, and she kept the scarf on. That's funny. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I know it is funny. It matches her bra Come on,
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  Speaker 1: it does it does?
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  Speaker 3: I am trying.
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  Speaker 1: The end of dating, all right? Then it's also the
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: end of the possibility that your next grade is just
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: around the corner.
• 15:06
  Speaker 3: Well my next grade, Yeah, he is.
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: Just around the corner. A sad moment here. She actually
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: just did an interview about her sex scenes and how
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: she really wished that there had been sex, and how
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: uncomfortable she was and how she hid after the scene. Yeah,
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: she just hopes that makes sense. But sweetie, you're not
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: a virgin boy. I am in this relationship, and I.
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  Speaker 5: Think it's romantic.
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  Speaker 2: See, I have a friend who used to tell me
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: that all the time, and I wonder if she didn't know.
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: But she got it from this. You take the test,
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: take them for a test drive before. I think that's
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: just the same it could be.
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: But she was very conservative, and but she that was
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: her like liberal fault as you should take them for.
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: I mean, sexual compatibility can make or break a marriage
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: and relationship.
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: Well, now I'm pretty I don't think it's gonna work
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: out well, just because I know this show, that's your
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: new prediction.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's not gonna go well. I don't
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: know how or why. Sometimes and of course it doesn't
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: do it for me. It just doesn't do it for Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I can get.
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: The sales up.
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: Can't bring it into the harbor.
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: All right. That's a euphemism I have ever heard before
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: when it comes to Trey. There's a lot of nautical
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  Speaker 1: okay that you're gonna find out about. Okay, not to
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: spoil it for you, but so.
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: He's not leaving the picture at this point, I don't know, get.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: Your sales up with excitement because it's coming. Stop flirting
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  Speaker 1: with me.
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  Speaker 3: I'm all I could think about was the fact that
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: I was a cheater. I cheated and lied in fifth
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: grade and I was still doing it.
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: Got the size difference, he looks like a he does.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: I think about that when you have like really petite
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: women paired with really light large men like that. They
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: do this on purpose to make women be like, this
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: is how small we should be too me. By the way,
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: the stoop apparently has a sign on it now because
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: so many people wanted to take pictures in front of it,
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: and so the owners of the brownstone, like, I think
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: they're going to actually renovate it so it doesn't look
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: the same because that's so tired of people coming to
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: take pictures. Yeah, I think that's fair. It's unfortunate a
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: long time.
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  Speaker 2: It's a lovely. Yeah, exterior, but yeah, that's that would
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: get rough.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: To be fair, Like people would have to really and
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: I know there's tours and such, so maybe that's how
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: people find out. Yeah, but like you would have to
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: research if you were doing it on your own because
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: there's so many buildings. I got to look similar to that,
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: and I'd be like, is that it?
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: And that'd be really funny. If somebody set up a
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: fake a fake out charge some books. Eventually you'd go
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: to jail, but it might be worth it in a
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: while for a while, would like, is there I think
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: if you were fraudy fraud I think would I don't know.
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: I mean there's your fake Elmos and Times Square.
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: I don't know, off Rand just do one.
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: Thing's a little off, but I think it's too if
• 18:47
  Speaker 4: you lied and was like this is the place, I
• 18:53
  Speaker 4: think you could get trouble if you were just like, yeah.
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: This aiden I slept with my ex boyfriend. You met
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: him at the furniture show and then we slept together
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: and I didn't tell you, And I'm sorry.
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: Weird way to announce that, And she does it in
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: such a way that makes it sound like she's angry
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: at him. You that.
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  Speaker 3: M we were going out once, oh more than once,
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: and he was married and it was a mess. And
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: I don't know what I was thinking. I wasn't thinking,
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: but it is so so over and I and it
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: was wrong and I just I just hope you can.
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: What a time m hmm.
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: I mean I guess, like, yeah, she should tell him,
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: but what a time to tell him.
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: It's also a selfish time, too, like for her to
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: do this, she is the worst in the season. Like
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: this is where I think everybody started turning on her
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: and be like, you're actually the villain in this story.
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: I don't say.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe it's because I was like I
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: was in the first wedding at like seven when I
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: came into the US, and then I proceeded to be
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: in more weddings at twelve, fourteen, sixteen, so many. I
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: think at one point I was like in twelve weddings. Oh,
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: I never wanted one. I've never There's never been nothing
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: about that that has ever interested me. And I've tried
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: to really pretend like I had a mount. There's nothing
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: like walking down the aisle for people to stare at
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: me with me probably falling out.
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: I've seen that happen before with a bride's maid. She
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: passed out like on the ground.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I wouldn't pssed that. I think I'd just
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: trip on something and that'd be the end. No, she
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: passed out. Well, it was hot. Our shoes were really uncomfort.
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: Drake can't get it up?
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: What he slept together last night?
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: And he couldn't get it up?
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: Was he drunk? No, I was drunk.
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: He was fine. Well, then it must have just been
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: a wedding night jitters, He says. It happened sometimes.
• 21:19
  Speaker 5: Since she was already in the big white dress, I
• 21:22
  Speaker 5: reached for a little white little.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: Time to have, like doubt happens to everybody.
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I just should have slept with them the first date.
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: I mean, but it's true. It does happen to everybody.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: It does.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: It does it a weird like pressures like for women
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: to like sometimes they just don't get into it.
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: I do love him and he loves you.
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: You can work on that stuff later and you got
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: plenty of time. Like, sometimes it doesn't work out. Sometimes
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: it does, right if it's someone who cares about you.
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: Right, But if it's that big a concern, then yeah,
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: run away girl, don't get married just because if you're
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: truly concerned, I mean, like the decisions you need to
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: if it's worth working it out. But it's worth working
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: it out.
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: When you were watching this the first time, did you
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: have any like, did you think Charlotte might run away?
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: Was there any second in your mind where you were like, God,
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: she might be a runaway ride.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I ever like pre think unless
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: it's a mystery, a mystery that you have to unsolve,
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: or like there's a guessing game in the end, like
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: you know, like yeah, I'm like, eh, yeah, this makes sense,
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: this is how it goes. What's happening? I was thinking
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: how horrifying dress to be, like the dude in the
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: front waiting and waiting and waiting, also the reality and
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: then also the reality of like you see the bridesmay
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: coming and she gets pulled back, I'd be like, what's happening?
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: Are they okay? And then all the fact that you
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: could also see them yeah, very clearly talking. Yeah, I
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: have all those thoughts. And then this random dude who
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: plays the father that we've never met and we'll never
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: meet again, never seen. No, I'm like, well, I guess
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: that's the dad. I think about that too a lot,
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: when like they're supposed to be the parents that you've
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: already met in a sitcommerce show and you never see
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: them again even when they do get married. Be like,
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: why wouldn't you see them? Yeah, and wouldn't they be
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: at this wedding if faciliar? Like recast later someone else
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: and you're like, was that the same?
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: No?
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: Like New Girl has this point where she's getting married
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: and then decides not to, and Taylor Swift pops up
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: in this episode. Yeah, but like her mom's the one
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: that's pressuring her to get married, but you never see
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: her mom, and then like seasons down the road, she
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: gets married to one of the main characters and they
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: had never met her. I'm like, how confusion. I shouldn't
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: know about this. I just wanted to be honest with you.
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: When people make mistakes.
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: Maybe that was not There was a lot of mistakes.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: It was a choice that you made for months. Yeah,
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: that's not how that works. That's a mistake. Yeah, just
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: no myself, this is the kind of thing I can
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: get over. That makes me angry actually, and she doesn't
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: deserve him. I just need to be well, I don't
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: know for quaw, I say, as if I do. I
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: have no dog in this right, you do as a viewer.
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: As a viewer, that's correct.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: A shipper for sure, Non schipper.
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: Wow, the wedding episode, I told you this gets intense.
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: It was.
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: It was intense.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: I mean, so there was no brunch. I'm sorry to
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: take that one.
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: Every time I feel like a wedding is a brunch situation.
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: You would think they would go, but she's pretty busy,
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: so a bachelorretpe party would probably make the sense. That's
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: what that was. I'm sorry, sorry to you for the
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: bad guess how dare you? I can't remember what your
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: other guests. I don't know why. I just went out
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: of my head.
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: Uh.
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: I basically said like a truth would be revealed. That's right.
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I got caught off by thinking that you
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: said choose. Yeah, yes, so there you go. That is correct.
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: Okay, and brunch and I got that one wrong. Yeah,
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: I missed it.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: Fifty to fifty seventy five. We'll give you back.
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: I love your random grading, Rubric.
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: I never know makes it better? It does? No one
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: knows the scale, no one but you're anyway. So this
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: is one of those episodes. I'm like this this season
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: hits hard. You would think that was the finale about
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: what's going to happen next, how like all this, But
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: it's not. We're only halfway through a little more than
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: halfway through a little more. There's several more episodes come,
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: including the one with Yes listener guests can can't wait
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: for that one. It's an interesting one. I try to
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: pick a more lighthearted one to uh do that with,
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: but yes, this one is like the fils Aiden's got hurt.
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: He was making a beautiful gift, you know. Uh, Miranda
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: played her games and she's still lost in that game
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: somehow with a giant cut that kept bleeding apparently on things.
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: And then we've got Sam. She was triumphant, got her
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: Scottish man. That's true, you do you that's true. Charlotte
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: did get married. But we'll see what happens with this marriage. No, okay,
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: there's a lot. There's a lot here. I kind of like,
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: I wonder how the estimated cost to that wedding. Oh,
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: it had to be really expensive. The church, the amount
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: of people.
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, well you're talking about the addresses in show cost
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: and not the like how to film.
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: It cost yeah, no, no, as in like if it
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: was an actual wedding. Yeah, I wonder how much that
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: would be.
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: She she did the Charlotte did the prenup and the.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: She has a baby.
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: Oh gosh, that's so strange to me.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: And I think it has to be a son. You
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: get less the water. Oh my, I remember correctly. I
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: might be mixing that up.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: We need to do an episode on prenupts. We talked
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: about it in that episode.
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but yeah.
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: That's so they have a lot of money. I'm sure
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: it was a very expensive writing.
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: Well I think about that a lot because people like
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: it's only going up obviously, cost the flowers is a
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: huge amount, a photographer is a huge amount, a videographer
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: is a huge amount. And then those dresses, and you
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: know they're all designer tailor made for each one of
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: the bridesmaids. All the kilts I'm sure were also tailor
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: made because it was actually they have like their own style,
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: like they have to wear a specific pattern for their family,
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: like crest, all those things. It costs a lot of
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: money to come together, like and just planning a wedding today,
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: I could not imagine. I remember, like just having so
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: my sister when she first got married way back when,
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: was I like in the nineties, in the nineties, y'all. Yeah,
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: her budget was around seven thousand, and that included a
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: free church because you didn't have to pay for the
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: church that our church that we were at. That included
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: a friend of her or a friend of the family
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: making the dresses. And I think that they just bought
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: material and it was itchy material. Very peach and mint
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: were the colors. Peach and meant.
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: Oh wow, Okay, it does feel like a very southern wedding.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so no alcohol, but they did have like foods.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: But the food is like this is how I grew up,
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: was all like buffet level. Someone else made all those things,
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: and we all brought food together. My mom made a
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: bunch of like she makes these really good like wedding mints.
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: I loved those. I melt in your mouth wedding man.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: So it's almost like a moose type. I guess it's
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: almost like a meringue, except not foamy, a little more
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: sturdy er. Okay, so I'm sure something specific I don't remember,
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: but anyway, that's the wedding that I knew. So that
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: was a lot covered that seven thousand went for flowers,
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: it went for photos, and it went for her dress
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: and his tuxato so clothing. I think this is a
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: little bit for the food, Like paid for the food
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: to be made, but it wasn't catered. I want to say.
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: The wedding cake was made by a friend as well.
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: So even with that, it still costs seven thousand. And
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: I know that's a very cheap wedding. And everybody's like,
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: huh what because now people spend around I think I
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: thought they needed to save about twenty to thirty thousand.
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: That would be like open bar, flowers, all these things. Yeah,
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: and then if you upgraded with more, with the decorations,
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: the location, all of that, like that's the cause. So
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: I can't imagine that makes me nauseous in New York
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: as well.
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I feel like most of the weddings I've
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: been to recently with people who are relatively where I
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: am monetarily give or take. It's sort of a local
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: restaurant that's not fancy. They bought food from there, bring
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: your own alcohol to stalk the bar. Yeah, and then
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: the decorations are usually DIY a friend, maybe your friends
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: did it and I'm sure it was still expensive. But
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: I have seen a lot of people take these like
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: cost cutting measures, and they were all lovely, like all
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: of them no notes, had a great time. But I
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: can only imagine listeners, please write in what the situation
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: is like now.
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: Tell us your experience, because I find that fascinating again
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: as a person who has like no interest in getting
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: married anytime soon. But also like if I did, it
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: would not be like I've always said, we would like
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: do an elopement or like a small and me and
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: him and that'd be it and then have a giant party.
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: But even then, like I've had nightmares about like how
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: to do it because my family is so straight laced
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: and very like against alcohol, very religious, like we have
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: to have these things. And then the sermon almost have
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: an altar call, as in like people to come pray
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: to be saved in the middle of their weddings, like
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: they they don't always, but it feels like it that
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: you have to have a sermon where it's interesting they
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: have to preach a sermon.
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: M h.
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: Oftentimes, maybe I'm wrong, Maybe it's been a long time
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: and that's exaggerated in my head since I've been to
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: a wedding like that, but like they have but they
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: go to that route versus like I believe, like Mike,
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: if it was my current partner, his family, not that
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: they would expect anything, but they're more low kilter. They
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: just want to be there with the family and celebrate.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: They do that with like drinking and dancing and like
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: I don't know if they would dance, but they would.
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: They would enjoy your typical wedding stuff. So I think
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: it would be an interesting mix and trying to put
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: that together and not trying to leave anybody out. Yeah,
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: but also like that would make me stressed out to
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: have Yeah, to think about that on a constant basis,
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: not the family portion of but like my specific families
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: like more so than anything else, and them feeling welcome
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: and feeling like they're a part of it in the
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: way I would want it, which would be which all
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: I would typically want would be to go do it
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: an elopement and then have my family together, or how
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: have my friends and family and people come together where
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: I'm not cleaning, I'm not cooking, and we're just all
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: hanging around and someone else has done that and we
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: can all even no one clings like whoever I've paid
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: for has done it for me. Yeah, I feel like.
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: We have a friend. I don't want to say her
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: name unless in case I'm wrong, but she basically just
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: did like separate this this family is this way and
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: this family is this way, and sort of separated it
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: out like that. But she did she got the marriage
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: done first, and then that moves more of a hanging
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: out party situation. I'll also say, we didn't really talk
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: about this, but a lot of bridesmaids like there is
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: a cost to being a bridesmaid in times of the
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: dress and in terms of if there is a a
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: a bridal shower or whatever, like however you do it.
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: I would like that to be noted that out of
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: all the damn weddings that I have been in, starting
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: in high schoo in college for my friends, you owe
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: me money. Damn it is a present or a present
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: of some sort. It's expensive.
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: I will say most of the ones I have ever
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: gone to have been really low key, and usually outside
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: of the one I mentioned with my cousin, the dress
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: is like they give you a color scheme or something
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: and you can go buy whatever dress you want and
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: it's instead of what hers was, which is this very
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: expensive specific dress at Dillard's.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: I think it was. Oh, and we're not even talking
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: about like when you come together to throw a showers
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: together and you have clashing, like I remember we did
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: one with a friend who was barely a friend, but
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: she just wanted to be a part of the celebration,
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: which I find that odd. Like they centered themselves so
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: they could be the one that threw the thing, and
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: I was like, why you barely know each other, This
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: is weird. You're not even a bridesmaid. Why are you here?
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: Like or and then they turned into a brizemaid because
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: they were doing so much so that might have been
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: the end goal, but like they were like I want
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: to do all these things and that were great. I
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: as a college was like, I can't afford that. And
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: so she literally was like, well, these are the things
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: we're gonna do and sent out a bill to the
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: rest of us and we were like, no, no, we
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: can't afford that. We did not say yes to any
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: of these things. And because she sent money from family
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: and she didn't have to have a job, and she
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: got all these things, and we are like working two
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: jobs to stay in college baby. No, so that was
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: a weird dynamic that was like, oh hell no, and
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: we never talked to her again. Yeah, but she took
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: over and that's what she wanted and wanted to be
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: classy and I was like what, But yeah, those are
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: the weddings bring out the weirdest things and test the
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: weirdest things.
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: I think they do, and that's why there are so many,
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: so many tropes, so much fertile ground to mine with them,
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: because they really do between all types of different groups.
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: I think I also would be interested if listeners would
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: write in, I'm pretty sure the last four weddings I've
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: been to I've been officiated by a friend. So I'm
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: just curious, just curious if that's like a trend or
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: just my my friend group.
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: I don't know. No, I think so too. The people
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: who are not necessary or family, like someone that their
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: brother or someone. Oh so yeah, this was a heavy episode.
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: Ye lost to it. But we're coming on the second.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: We're going to come back with the what happens now
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: for Carrie? What do you think will happen? Annie?
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: What do I think will happen? Okay, so we got
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: Charlotte's married honeymoon time TRAVELI getting away from.
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: Aiden. I don't know.
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: I think that they all are except for Charott, I
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: guess and Samantha never cares. But Miranda and Carrie need
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: to recalibrate.
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: Recalibrate, yees, reclibrate. That's a great way to face Well.
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: We will find out soon and with our listener guests.
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: So I'm excited.
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: I'm excited too. I'm excited too. Well, listeners, look out
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: for that one. As we said, if you didn't get
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: it this time, we'll do it again.
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: Plenty of episodes await a lot a lot, a lot
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: a lot.
• 38:34
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• 38:37
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• 38:42
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• 38:45
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