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Episode 6 - Work Life: When home life can’t wait. · Keeping it Real with Erin and Terry

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Welcome to Keeping It Real with Erin and Terry.
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Sponsored by Imperfection by Erin.
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And produced by Magic Door Studio.
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On this week's episode, we talk about public life and the fact
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that home can't wait. No.
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People see the panto, they see the photo shoots, they see the
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gigs, but they don't really see what goes on behind closed
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doors. And behind that front door there
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is a whole other 24/7 job that nobody gets to see.
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And believe me, it has 0 schedule so it's open the air
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24/7, anything goes. So we are going to talk about
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what is actually like trying to juggle it all, and we're going
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to talk about this week especially because I'm not gonna
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lie, it has been a tough week. Very tough so.
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Emotionally, emotionally, physically, mentally, mentally.
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So in true Erin style, she has the lunch of her new jumpers.
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She's doing a pop up show with Denise and Pell in Newbridge.
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She's renovating her sitting room.
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Yes, and I love the way she says.
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Her, her, her. It is we, we, we.
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It's all we, we, we. But what I'll say is the reason
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I'm saying she is because if I didn't do that.
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Right, so she comes up with all the ideas.
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I'll come up with all the ideas and Terry just has to be part of
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it. So this is what I mean.
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So this is what I'm saying. This is what I really looks
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like, right? So I come up with all these.
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Ideas. Listen, can I just say one thing
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as well? Thank you so much for having me
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on your podcast today. I really appreciate the invite.
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You're so welcome. Thanks for like.
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I know your lip is actually moving this week.
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Yeah, my, my Botox is frozen up a little bit.
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I kind of miss it just to look good though.
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Absolutely. OK, so I juggle a lot of balls,
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OK. Yeah, really.
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And Terry says I, well, I throw the balls in the air, yes.
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And then I walk off and he has to catch I.
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Have to catch them all. OK, so this is the reality the
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stock lands. Where does the stock land?
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Yeah, at our house. At our house, so we pick see.
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Do I use we when it's actually Terry?
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Yes, you're mean. So it's we whenever you you get
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the gist, ladies and gentlemen, you get the.
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Gist. So when I say we, that really
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means Terry. And when I say me, it means that
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means both. No, that means I brainstorm the
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idea. And they're usually amazing
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ideas, by the way. Right.
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Go on, carry on. I'll give you that one.
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Yeah. You are brainstorming.
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Yeah. OK, so just.
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You brought a storm to my brain 12 years ago and I had one left.
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Tell no. Tell them what you you were
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reading your star sign before you met me and what?
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I said, Oh yes, I was, I used to do this, these tire card
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readings and all I kept on saying was I thought it was
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actually a RIP off. Yeah, to a wind me up, right.
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All I kept saying was your life is going to get very, very busy
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very soon, so put on your seat belt and hold outside.
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And I was like this is a wind up, this is a wind up.
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And hence the tire cards were right.
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So this week alone, OK, we had stock landing for imperfection
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branch for our jumpers. Yeah, we're also getting ready
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for a pop up show. And what happens there is is we
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are the branch. We have to come up with campaign
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ideas. Sorry, we just before you on the
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day the stock landed. Yeah, real quick.
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I couldn't even be there to actually accept the stock.
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Yeah, because I had to bring my math to the hospital.
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So these are the things that people don't see, they're in.
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For check UPS and all that. Kind of stuff house they're in.
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We do everything. We come up with all of the
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concepts. We are the team.
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Although we did hire somebody recently to help us with social
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media because it was just too much.
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And picking, packing photo shoots.
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So I asked Terry to come to Belfast with me to do the photo
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shoot because obviously I have the model, I have to be the
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model and the reality of all this is, is we are just a very
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small brand building. I think the best way to describe
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it is you are the face and the marketer right?
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IE seller. I am the behind the scenes
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logistics, packing, getting them out the door, doing all the
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admin stuff, that kind of thing. So it walks in that way for us.
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But it is a lot for two people only to do.
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So we brought in this girl. Yeah, well, we, we tried to like
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do the website. We tried to like pick and pack.
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We. Tried to sell.
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You don't need to start moaning about it, no.
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I need to tell. We've, I know we're large,
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people do realise what's involved.
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We know, right? I disagree.
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Well, some people do. People who are in our position
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do. No, I'm going to say, I'm going
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to be honest here, OK? I don't come from a business
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background, right? So the things I would not have
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taken into consideration is is you buy all this stuff, OK, You
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have to pick like places somewhere, which just costs
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money. Then people have to pick and
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pack it, which costs money. Then you need photographers,
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which costs money, OK, which obviously people should know
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that, but I'm not a business woman, so I didn't know any of
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this. So all of this stock, you
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actually have to earn all this money before you even break
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even. Oh yeah.
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So before you even get one cent, you are banjoed.
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I think the summary of what you're saying is working for
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yourself. I'm not just saying in this
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country, but my only experience of working in for myself is in
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this country. It's not all it's cracked up to
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be. It's not glitz and glam and oh,
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you're a business owner, Oh my God, it's amazing and this and
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that because the person walking for you just has to get there a
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few quid at the end of the. Week here maybe?
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There's a lot more. There's a lot.
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I know a lot of people, right, who won't businesses yet who are
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paying their workers more than they're taking on themselves.
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Really, Yes. And that's not today or
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yesterday. I did not know.
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That yeah, well, I can tell you that for a Fact Check.
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That's that's the preconceived ideas, right?
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Because either way, them families are contract
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contractually they they must get their money to feed their
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families them people. Yes.
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So like, I, I don't know, maybe naively or stupidly, you think
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this person owns a business, so they must be loaded and this
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that and do that. And then you're like.
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Not the case. Wow.
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Not always the case. So this is what we do.
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I dragged Cherry into this business idea and I'd like to
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say he gets sex for Dooney, but he doesn't.
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And we will talk about that or we have talked about that on a
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different episode. Very.
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Severe corner. What happened there?
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Well, because I can't give you anything for doing the the walk
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you do don't. Worry about it.
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But that's Grant then. You heard it.
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He said it. That's not right.
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Do you want to pay any to do it then?
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It's pro bono. Or what does that mean?
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Free forever. No.
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So when is my? Contact.
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I'll have to renegotiate. OK, you don't get holiday pay.
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When did they ever? OK, so how do we juggle it?
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All right. So look, we're sitting here,
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we're we're in great form. We're having a laugh.
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We do this podcast. This is a form.
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Can I just say to you, we're in great form, right?
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But we're actually in great form considering what kind of week
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we've had, which is really what we're getting on about this
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podcast. OK, Yeah, yeah.
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Because it's not about the behind the scenes of the
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business. Yes, there's a lot there.
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People do know this stuff, but people do not know this kind of
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stuff dealing with autism. Yes.
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Right. A lot of people do.
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Very few do. Be the business owner, being a
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sole trader, working for yourself, all them things,
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basically no work, no money and autism.
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All I do is work and still there's just sometimes no money.
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But autism is emotionally expensive, physically expensive,
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and it's financially expensive. Yeah.
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So these are the things that few will probably know about.
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So this week we had a photo shoot for the new clothes.
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I just said that and. Which looks lovely.
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I can see that portable. That's the new one.
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Thank you. We went to Belfast and I asked
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Terry, would you like to accompany me to Belfast?
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And he was like, what do you want me to do for you?
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And I was like, no, no, no. We haven't spent any time
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together because Terry was in London gigging.
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So basically I was manipulated. No, we had a date day.
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Let's spend time together now. In fairness, she didn't put me
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under pressure under there, so it was nice she was just
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sitting. It was nice, it was.
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Watching me in my underwear a lot of the time getting changed,
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didn't I? So I mean, that was it.
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Was very, very hard job that. Was there that was a few that
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was a few Bob for packing for. Me.
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A lot of me. Yeah, exactly.
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So then we came home and then the next day I had panto photo
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shoot. Yeah.
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That's right. Stock had landed and then in
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between our crazy lives, Harry is not having a good week.
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Yeah, he's kind of gone through a little period down to moment
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where we don't know whether it's hormonal growing pains, whether
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he has an infection or what it is, I don't know.
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We just we just kind of go with the flow and do our best from
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see what we could do. And here is a good point that
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I've made and other people will agree, is when we are stressed
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out and when our workload is a little bit heavier than normal
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and we're not, let's say, calm and centred, that it definitely
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impacts Harry. Yeah, I think we passed a bit of
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the maniqueness on to Harry Heel, kind of.
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Well, we're not as we're. Not doing it like purposely, but
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we're all over the place. Running around and chaos to him
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heightens his nerves. Basically, and then you're
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battling the guilt of that because you're like, I'm trying
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to like earn a living, I'm trying to build a future, I'm
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trying to walk from home and centre our whole life around
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Harry. So the reason that we walk from
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home, the reason I walk from home, the reason I do the
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content at home is so that I can walk around Harry because there
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is times where he's not great. He can't go to school, he's
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having a really bad day and there's like self harm.
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And like last night he was like grabbing me by the face.
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He wanted to bite me. He wanted to head butt me for
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whatever. Frustration.
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Whatever was happening for him, and I don't know what's
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happening. And that's really difficult as a
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parent. And then I'm thinking about the
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photo shoots, the podcast, the pop up shop, the jumpers, like
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my friends and people are coming out of like the woodwork trying
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to help like pack like my auntie who's not my auntie, but is my
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auntie, she's my mom's best friend, came over and helped me
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unpack all the jumpers and place them in boxes, small, medium,
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large, extra large, so they could go to the show.
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But I, I have to rely on all these people because I'm like, I
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don't know how to do all this. And then when Harry's like that,
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I nearly feel a little bit guilty because I'm like, I'm
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trying to do all this for him. But then I'm like is.
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It affecting them? Is it affecting them in a
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negative way? Yeah, And I've often thought
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about should I go back to work like three days a week?
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But is that possible? Because what if he has a bad day
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or a bad night and I I can't ring in sick.
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So all of these things that maybe people might not
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understand when you're dealing with a child with autism, there
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is a campaign going on at the moment.
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It's what happens when we die. Because basically if a child
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with a disability has no guardian or sibling who is
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willing and able to become the now adult, special needs adult,
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their guardian, where do they go?
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And it actually, I'm, I'm trying not to get upset, but it
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actually goes to tender. So it goes to the HSC and it
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goes to tender to see who or where this beautiful adult is
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going to go. So their whole world has been
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upside down. They've lost their parents,
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which change is huge, like we just said.
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Is Harry a little bit off? Because there's a lot going on
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in the house, you know, mum and dad aren't as available to him.
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And then in the back of my mind when I'm walking like this and
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I'm trying to succeed, it's always with the intent just to
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be able to leave him with something.
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Just to be like, like, I feel like I know this is this is
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probably real stupid to people, but it's like I feel like I
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can't die without a plan. I can't die without saying I
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need to make sure that there's enough for him.
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There's enough for him. It's we.
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Sorry. It's we.
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I don't know why I do that. I don't know whether it's
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because I've just, I take it upon myself that like.
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Well, you're with me now. 12 years.
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Yeah. So it's we.
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It's not I or me. It's we OK?
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And I think we've also spoke about that, though you look more
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at the short term, I look more at the long.
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Term, but either way we get it done.
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Yeah, Terry's bad cop and I'm good cop.
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So yes, Oh yes, So yesterday, I'm going to get into this one
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now. So we had to bring him to get
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his bloodstone because I want to know what is going on in my
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son's body. OK.
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I'm obsessed with the study of autism as a whole, right,
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because it affects all so much and I know other people are
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speaking to a fellow from Glasgow yesterday who, who was
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he'll text me from time to time and looking for a little kind of
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tips or I'll get tips off him. He actually gave me a tip
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yesterday. So that's I always say that it's
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about networking, communication between parents if you can,
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because yes, we are told things by the HSE, but they're not
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always right. And also each child is always
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very different. We've spoke about this on last
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week's pods. I'm not going to get mad into it
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again. Listen to last week's again.
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Episode 4 guys Episode 4 sorry Terry talks about.
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Apologize again, mixed up. So if you want to listen to him
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what we have to say and just click into that.
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But this week we had to bring up our bloods and Connolly Hospital
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was suggested to us. We tried Tally which would be
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would be the local. So explain why Connolly so
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Harry. Connolly is more.
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Specialized. Specialized in for autistic kids
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to take blood. Let's just say you're a listener
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and you don't understand the dynamics of a child with
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additional needs. We can't just give medicine.
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We can't just bring them to the dentist, it does not walk like
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that. So Connolly Hospital, we have
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brought him to tell a hospital and it takes five people to hold
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him down to get bloods OK, which is extremely traumatic and I
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refuse to go back for three years and our professor was like
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Aaron, we need to do it. There is a specialised area in
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Connolly in Blanchardstown where they are trained for children
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with autism. OK, probably more, but.
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Don't get me wrong, Tally are wonderful.
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Amazing. Wonderful they carried out.
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They have the sensory room and everything there for autism, I'm
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sure loads of people know that. But in this particular area,
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Conley are the superstars. OK, so here's another part that
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people might not know. This is where we'll say Terry's
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the bad cop. Terry will get it done.
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He will go in and he'll be like, you're doing it where I would be
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Harry's more emotional safe space.
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If it was left to just me, we wouldn't do it.
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And if it was left to just me, we wouldn't do it.
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So basically we walk really well.
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So I try to give Harry that emotional, but I need Terry to
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action OK, Now it's the time to actually hold him in position.
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So he has to get. We kind of know over time.
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At the start we would have been both flipping out, but now we
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know when is the time to just OK.
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Now it's the time enough plummers and now we need to just
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go boom. So I was going to be a little
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bit selfish and not go because I was like, I didn't want to go.
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But I knew Terry was a bit stressed out yesterday and as I
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said, Harry hasn't been having a good week.
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So I said no, I'm going to show up for Terry and Harry and I'm
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going to be there and put this to the side and we're going to
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do this. So when we went in, there is a a
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mask like a gas like Aaron, you know, like when you're having
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your. It's like a kind of a relaxing,
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happy gas kind of thing, isn't it?
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So Harry didn't mind. So we tested him.
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He was fine in the room. He's, you know, we, I was
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putting it up. He was laughing.
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I was like, would he actually doesn't have the cognitive sense
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to inhale hail? He hold his breath, gone.
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I don't know what this is. So for it to ask, you know what
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I mean, for it to actually walk, he has to breathe it in.
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Continuously breathe in for about 20 breaths.
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Which is. Quite a bit.
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It's quite a long time, yeah, but it depends on your artistic
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trait. Because some kids are fine at
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doing that and then others aren't, and art just happens to
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be the one that isn't. So we were there about 20
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minutes, 1/2 an hour, and Terry was like, no, it's time, OK.
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Yeah. No, you had got, in fairness to
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you had got 5 to 6. Into them.
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But it was like because he knew and he saw into intuitive, he
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knows that we're about to do an operation of sorts on him.
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Yeah, I don't. When I say an operation, I mean
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we are about to do something that involves it's him, right?
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We explain, I take time every single time to explain to him
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what's going on. Yeah, I tell him because I think
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it's really important. Yeah.
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I found that when a child is non verbal, yeah, that a lot of
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people treat them with the same thing you would do with a baby.
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Like you don't tell a baby, OK, I'm going to put you in the
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boogie now, OK, we're going to go on a walk because it's just a
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new baby. And I find people nearly would
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not like physically drag Harry along but not tell him things.
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So I will explain things bit by bit to Harry and I will take
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that time out to sit there and say to him this is what's going
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to happen. It's going to be OK Mam will
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never let anything happen to you as she will always protect you.
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I do. I do think that works.
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He listens. He does listen.
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He listens to, to the, to the, to the important parts, right.
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So then we have to get to a stage where all the balmazing
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has basically run its course. And now it's like right as,
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listen, now I have to do this now, OK, I'm sorry, but I have
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to do this. I'm sorry, son, I have to do
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this. And I literally had to lie on
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the bed, on the hospital bed, put them in between my legs.
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And basically I put a bear hog around them and put me two feet
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on his legs so he couldn't jump up.
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Because if he jumps up and they're trying to put a needle
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in his arm, it could tear his arm.
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And this is the thing that I don't want to happen, right?
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And. He's pretty strong when he.
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Gets a jerk in motion. Like it's just like, you have to
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really contain him, right? And for me to do that, it's so
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emotionally challenging. I cannot believe that I have to
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inflict this much for some of his son just to get a simple
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thing done. And it absolutely breaks me
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every time. It breaks me.
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I was literally crying after doing it yesterday.
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But thank you, God, right? It was a very short lived
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experience, right? But I had to just keep them
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going. And it's on the other side of it
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is I'm going in my mind, I'm like this.
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These are all my son, including me.
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I'm not thinking about myself, but I'm going to, I'm going to
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kill all these. What?
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You know what I mean? Like it's that instinct
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protection of your kid that you get me.
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So thankfully a guy came in down and was just an absolute genius.
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Yeah, he was just bomb, bomb. We're in.
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I was like, OK, tell me when to release the grip.
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Release the grip, release the grip.
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And OK, we're don't Terry Grant Bull.
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Thank God for that. And then I had to console them
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and said sorry, son, I'm so sorry about that.
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I swear to Jays, I couldn't. I couldn't even hold it back.
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So, so Terry, Terry start crying and he sat down in the corner.
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So I'm trying to no. One says that cry.
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I didn't go into like to like convoluted.
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I just got very, very welled up and emotional and I'm like.
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That's your form of crying though.
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Why does it have to be like this?
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Do you know what I mean? Like why?
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What is this all about? You know what I mean, this
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autism thing. But anyway, that's neither here
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nor there. I'm never going to get an answer
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for that bull. And then one person said to me,
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I did a live last night on Instagram.
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And I remember a year when I got into recovery years ago, forced.
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We always found it very difficult to get in touch with
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our emotions or else they would you'd always blocked them out,
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which was what, which is what I've done in Army life.
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I've, I spoke about that before on this ball.
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I remember Max saying to me, Terry, real crying is a release
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of pain. It's OK to cry because believe
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me, no matter what, and I love loads of people do, no matter
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what as a man or a woman, when you cry, when you finish crying,
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you always feel better. You feel like you've emptied or
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you've shed away off you, you know, that kind of way.
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So that was grand. We got through that, and this
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poor little lamb had the little Mac.
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And even last night he was rubbing at the odd time and I
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was just like, oh, Jesus. Thank God.
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That's all. Now we've finally got to find
24:49
out what's going on inside him, you know, because it's so
24:52
important. We cannot be selfish in this
24:55
regard. It's for his benefit because he
24:58
could have something he could be deficient in somewhere.
25:00
We can fix it. Yeah.
25:02
He could have an underlying condition.
25:04
We can fix it. Yeah.
25:05
And in fixing it, he may develop neurolog neurologically, yeah,
25:10
for the better. And that's the main goal, right?
25:14
And while all that is gold on I after doing 2 photo shoots,
25:21
which takes a lot out of you because when I'm being the model
25:25
and I'm being the brand campaign, I'm being the CEO, I'm
25:30
the marketing or I'm the analyst, I have to do all the
25:33
research, what people will buy, what you know, the basic risk.
25:39
Yeah, you have to read the market.
25:40
You have to. Read the market, buying the
25:43
stocking, hoping that we make it making the right choices,
25:48
because I have made a lot of stupid mistakes in in in
25:51
business and also I have to do my.
25:55
But I'm going to give you a good compliment here, right?
25:58
Yes, we have made the mistakes in the business.
26:01
Yes, that's not There's no doubt we we were starting off from
26:04
scratch. Yeah.
26:06
But we learned quickly from them.
26:09
Yeah. You learned your bit quickly.
26:12
I learned my bit quickly. Yeah.
26:14
So we know now, gentlemen. So we're a fully oiled machine
26:17
here, and imperfection is here to stay.
26:21
No, I hope. So.
26:23
I hope so. It is here to stay.
26:25
So I went home and again, here is the part that maybe you guys
26:30
don't realize. So a lot of the content that you
26:33
would see of me like trying on different outfits, all of that
26:38
really is, you know, we're building a community, we're
26:41
shown what to wear, we're building insights to see what
26:46
you guys want. A lot of that stuff, you'd see
26:51
the big, big influencers doing it all the time.
26:54
But a lot of the time, especially when you're a smaller
26:57
influencer and even the bigger ones, they're not paid.
27:01
So all of the content that you will see, which most of my
27:06
content doesn't have add on. It is all just me, my time, my
27:13
energy, and it's because I'm trying.
27:15
To build something. It's because I'm trying to build
27:19
something. And when you have moments like
27:23
that with Harry and you feel like you're on this treadmill
27:27
and you feel like you're getting nowhere, you kind of say to
27:30
yourself, what is this all about?
27:35
So I guess that's an insight and most people on social media,
27:40
like even saying this to you guys, it's really hard because
27:45
most people would say not to talk about that on social media.
27:50
Never let brands know that other brands aren't working with you.
27:53
Never tell. Like it's like you have to
27:56
portray this like that you're the best and people should want
28:00
to walk with you. And I walk with some amazing
28:02
brands and the brands I walk with, I'm with them like 6 and
28:06
seven years like Voodoo, Be Perfect Panto, like these are
28:11
year long brands that I have built.
28:13
Relationships with people. Loyal people, loyal to the core.
28:17
But also you are loyal. I'm very.
28:19
You absolutely go above and beyond for every single brand
28:22
that you work for, even if it's a once off job, you will do
28:26
absolutely every single thing possible to make them look the
28:30
very, very, very best that they can be.
28:33
Yeah. So they should be grateful,
28:34
yeah. And sometimes I, I struggle
28:37
trying to do it all. I, I, I definitely do struggle.
28:41
I, I struggle trying to do it all.
28:44
And then again, not really been allowed to express that on
28:52
social media because it's not brand friendly.
28:55
So you need to be brand friendly.
28:59
You know, you can't maybe say at times what the industry is
29:04
really like. But you see, and the difference,
29:06
the difference with that is right.
29:08
Like yes, that is becoming more of a thing now because people of
29:13
now love drama where before all people wanted to see was the
29:18
Little House on the Prairie on the television because they use
29:21
television and screens as an as entertainment, right?
29:26
Where now we use screens, right, and TV's as our own personal
29:32
platforms to rant, conversate or whatever.
29:35
We do it ourselves. Yeah, I, I, I get that.
29:39
I get that. But sometimes I see things
29:41
happening on social media and I'm like, why are you doing?
29:45
Like, I understand maybe talking about like a bit more of a
29:48
serious topic or maybe if there's like a bullying in a
29:51
workplace or maybe unfair treatment.
29:55
But sometimes I don't get the drama.
29:56
I don't think you do see it on TikTok.
29:58
But I'm like you. Nobody is monetized.
30:00
But do you want me to, do you want me to spell it out for you?
30:02
What I think it is, yeah. I think a lot of people, yeah,
30:06
on because it's so easy to access a platform are they're
30:13
not really, they're just ranting a lot of time and they're
30:19
possibly delusional about some certain things.
30:22
Maybe. I, I listen, I'm not saying
30:24
everybody, some people are dead right and what they're doing,
30:27
but a lot of people I see, I'm going, what are you even talking
30:30
about? But I do think as well, Terry,
30:32
where everybody's job, OK, even let's say the guys here behind
30:36
the screen, OK, I'm sure we do not really know how much work
30:42
goes into things, nobody ever really.
30:46
Knows. How much war goes into things?
30:49
I see athletes or actresses or whatever you think that you
30:54
know, they've just made it. The reality is, is there's
30:57
probably all of these things that we spoke about, all the
31:01
difficulties all day. Should we give up?
31:04
Should we keep going the nitty gritty because nobody really,
31:09
really knows what it takes to be in that industry.
31:15
We understand nurses, doctors, healthcare workers, SN as
31:20
teachers. We know that their work is so
31:24
difficult because we see it and it's so important.
31:27
And obviously I would never, ever compare to that.
31:30
OK, like, ever. There are angels, there are
31:33
superheroes, and they deserve to be bowed down to every time.
31:38
But I'm just talking about as walkers as people running
31:42
around. As entertainers.
31:44
But but anyone? Nobody sees what really goes on
31:48
behind closed doors of business. You know what?
31:52
You know I did. I did college, music performance
31:54
college back in 2010. My mentor who I spoke about last
32:02
week, who passed away recently, he encouraged me to go to
32:06
performance, musical performance school.
32:09
And I did it in body frame. And one of the main main things
32:15
that Jerry, now Jerry was hired, right?
32:17
Allen was, they were both really staring figures, but Jerry was
32:20
like giving it to a straight yeah, you want to be a musician.
32:25
What you're seeing is 10% of what goes on the stage part.
32:33
The performance part is 10%. If you're lucky.
32:38
There's another 90% logistical nightmare going on behind that.
32:43
Yeah. That until you make it to the
32:46
absolute very pinnacle of that, you are doing most of that
32:49
yourself. You're literally.
32:51
And that's where that's where your loyalty to your craft comes
32:54
in basically or your scale or your, your performance,
32:58
whatever. But you'll even see me a panto
33:00
right just before, like when I get the script, the four weeks
33:03
before pants are like, I am literally not messing a
33:05
psychopath. I'm like, I can't do this.
33:07
I can't do this. I sit in the kitchen and I'm
33:09
like it. Does be actually funny because
33:12
she'll be, I'll be out the backyard, right?
33:16
And she'll be in, she'll be in the kitchen like this look, and
33:23
you know, all this stuff like this, right?
33:27
And I'll be in the back garden and I'll home in on this look.
33:29
I'll just go. Panto season has begun.
33:33
But you know what? You know what?
33:35
But it's. Correct.
33:36
It's gas help because you know why?
33:38
No matter what I've always said it to you, no matter what, when
33:40
it comes to D-Day, you have it nailed.
33:43
So you, you learn it, you get it, you do.
33:45
Get it? Give it my.
33:48
But you're doing. How long you doing now?
33:50
If you didn't do it right, they wouldn't have your back.
33:52
True, True. True, but I do.
33:54
I love that release and panto. Panto is probably that one time
33:57
of the year we're doing 3 shows a day is an actual break.
34:01
From that's why I that's why I like you doing it even though
34:04
it's a it's a like December is a family Christmas.
34:08
This that you're I like you doing it because it's your, it's
34:11
your one time that you actually leave the house for a block
34:14
period of time to get a release from the house.
34:19
And that's why I'll never ever, ever, I'll never stop you doing
34:21
that in any anyway. But, umm, I I encourage you to
34:26
keep doing that, yeah. You know, and, and there's a lot
34:28
of juggling and around that we have to juggle a lot and we.
34:31
Do juggling. Listen.
34:32
We just listen. Just grab people.
34:34
And we have our people now. We know.
34:37
Yeah, and I mean even yesterday. So Terry's UMM is the sole care
34:43
for his mother also. So last night he was down.
34:46
Oh, you never heard a story like it?
34:48
Let me tell you this. Right.
34:49
So I came out with the dogs last night, right?
34:51
Our neighbor loves dogs. She does, right?
34:53
Where's Kennedy? Where's Kennedy?
34:54
I. Come on, bring him out.
34:56
Where's Cooper? I said Cooper is your favorite
34:58
now? No, no, I love Kennedy.
35:01
Right? Blah blah blah.
35:01
Right. So we went on anyway as a torn
35:04
down Harley was hungry and he for some reason wanted to go for
35:08
a drive in the car. It's the new thing.
35:10
Now he wants to just drive in the car.
35:12
I'm. Going to say this real quickly
35:13
though. I was right because there's a
35:15
quite a bit in this right. So I said to myself, right jump
35:19
him in the car, put the pizza in when I'm in the box grand you
35:23
can eat. And I said to myself, I have to
35:25
go down to be miles in anyway to get a primary care certificate
35:29
for right for I'm looking for a simple parking permit so my
35:35
mother whose heart conditions and asthma doesn't have to walk
35:39
and. Kidney.
35:40
And kidney infection and kidney issues does not have to walk.
35:44
I miss you fighting to nail for this thing, right?
35:46
So it's ridiculous. But anyway, we're doing what we
35:49
do, right? So I have to go down to it to
35:50
get the letter. I said, you know what, let's go
35:52
hard. Let's go on a drive down here.
35:54
Went down, right? Me, my goes to me the, the, the,
35:59
the hot wireless tablet top is not working in the kitchen.
36:04
So like Grant. So I torn on the top, see if it
36:05
was airlocked, blah, blah blah. Did everything I had to do
36:08
didn't work. Next one I went into the hot
36:11
press, right And there's this little box here.
36:13
Yeah. And I got I said, what's the
36:16
start with that box, man, what's that?
36:18
And all the light used to be on and that it's not on anymore.
36:23
So I goes, well, it must be a fuse.
36:24
And I flipped out the little yoga.
36:25
The fuse. Yeah, touched off the fuse.
36:28
The whole gaffe went Into Darkness.
36:31
Yeah. Not a lie.
36:34
Not a plug. Was walking right?
36:36
And laid back. Terry was so laid back about the
36:40
whole thing. I mean, I have to worry about
36:42
was Army field will go off in the freezer.
36:46
I said. Man, the whole gaps in darkness,
36:49
we've a little bit more to worry about in the field, Yeah.
36:52
Don't mind, don't mind. She knows what I'm like.
36:56
But anyway, as a torn down, it was this box that was tripping
36:59
everything, but it just goes to show you.
37:03
Then Harry started down because we were spending our time down.
37:05
I had to get a neighbor in to fix it.
37:07
Thank God for for days right and.
37:10
Harry was going into meltdown. He was going into meltdown
37:12
miles. So now I'm like, I'm going to
37:15
literally the lid now. In a minute, right?
37:19
And I'm at home taking all of the new stock out of the
37:22
packaging, putting them into box small, medium, marriage, extra
37:25
large, double extra large, trying to get ready for a show.
37:27
And I'm thinking to myself, Terrye disappeared because he
37:30
doesn't want to. I didn't.
37:32
Want to do the jumpers when I was actually delayed trying to
37:35
get my mass gap up and running. So then Terry came home.
37:38
Now remember, I'd done all my filming for the content.
37:40
OK, So if you see that with my social media, please interact
37:43
with it because I did work at it.
37:45
So then Terry came home stressed out of his head and I was like,
37:48
our new sofa is coming tomorrow. So we actually have to move the
37:51
sofa and all the stuff that is in the sitting room out.
37:54
And he's like right now. And I'm like, well, they're
37:56
going to be here at 8:00 in the morning.
37:58
So if we don't do it now, what are we going to do?
38:01
So I brought Harry to bed. He wasn't really great.
38:05
There was a few head butts, a few pinches and then we had to
38:08
move all the sofa. And then we woke up this
38:10
morning. I was like, hey Terry, all the
38:12
boxes in the sitting on the kitchen.
38:14
Can you move up to the room? And now we're hearing a podcast.
38:18
And then we got a phone call to say Harry wasn't feeling great.
38:22
He had a Nosebleed and can he be collected from school?
38:26
So his sister has gone to collect them because we are mid
38:28
podcast and that is the day in the life and Terry.
38:35
Yeah, pretty much. Yeah.
38:37
And you know when I find my peace?
38:39
When I'm on stage at 5:15. And bad bobs, baby.
38:42
Have you got 2 gigs today? Yeah, you can take it behind the
38:46
scenes for that. Thank you my man.