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Bachelor Journeys Evolved · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I almost Famous podcast
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Speaker 1: with her radio Welcome to the Almost same As podcast
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Speaker 1: Wango Tango. Addition, we got a lot of Bachelor faives
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Speaker 1: in attendance at this Wango Tango. We got Claire, Carly, Kendall, Blake,
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Speaker 1: h Blake, m Hannah, Dylan, Michelle, Nate, Heather and Becca.
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Speaker 1: Yeah they're all here. It's Bachelor infested here at Wango
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Speaker 1: Tango where Yeah, I know right, we had fast you know,
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Speaker 1: and thanks to Hyundai for making this happen, This Whango
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Speaker 1: Tango Extraordinaire podcast. Hyundai is all about talking about evolving
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Speaker 1: your journey. You know, Ben and I have talked numerous
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Speaker 1: times in this podcast over the palast like I don't
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Speaker 1: know six months about how we've evolved our journeys since
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Speaker 1: being on the show. I mean obviously and then my
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Speaker 1: husband we got married, well actually we were friends for
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Speaker 1: a long long time. We got married, we had a baby, like,
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Speaker 1: we moved away. Lots of evolving h same with Ben.
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Speaker 1: You know, look at like where his life has come
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Speaker 1: because of the show. And now I am joined with
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Speaker 1: somebody else who has been has had quite the journey
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Speaker 1: and Bachelor Nation quite the journey almost a decade long.
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Speaker 1: Almost right, it's Claire Crawley. That's insane. It's good. Right,
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Speaker 1: So today, guys, today's our anniversary. The anniversary Claire I
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Speaker 1: actually met a whole seven years tomorrow because he came
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Speaker 1: in like a day late into Paradise. But today we
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Speaker 1: felt like a lifetime by the way, which oh my gosh,
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Speaker 1: I can't believe. It was twenty four hours on and
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Speaker 1: everybody's like coupled up, everybody's taken, we're wasting your time.
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Speaker 1: And I was like, say less, guys, okay, I'm out.
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Speaker 1: At least let me bungee jump. Okay. It's like everyone's
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Speaker 1: taking except for Jared, who he's taken in Ashley's mind,
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Speaker 1: but you can definitely get the wrap. But if I
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Speaker 1: got a good bungee jump out of it, I'm good
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Speaker 1: and some friends. So that seven years ago today, and um,
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Speaker 1: Claire was on you know, the whole season before that.
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Speaker 1: So eight years, eight years in this franchise. Talk about
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Speaker 1: how your journey has evolved, Like it hasn't been for
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Speaker 1: the positive because you know, we've seen a lot of
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Speaker 1: what people may say are like I don't want to
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Speaker 1: even say they're not failures, but their relationships that have
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Speaker 1: not gone the distance for you, how do you how
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Speaker 1: do you classify your your journeys? I would first of
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Speaker 1: all say that to be in my world considered a
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Speaker 1: failure would be to not try and be left with
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Speaker 1: what ifs. People on the exact though that I can't
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Speaker 1: stand living a life with what ifs in them. I
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Speaker 1: am exactly the same way, So I to be honest,
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Speaker 1: even the ones that have not worked out, the relationships,
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Speaker 1: the chances that the goes on the shows, everything that
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Speaker 1: has quote unquote not worked out, has really been in
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Speaker 1: my best benefit for my higher self, if that makes sense.
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Speaker 1: And I look at everything like it divinely is meant
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Speaker 1: to be that way. So whether it's for a day,
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Speaker 1: whether it's for us just um one season of an whatever,
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Speaker 1: an episode or whatever, or an entire relationship, even if
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Speaker 1: it didn't work out to me, I got something from it.
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Speaker 1: I learned something from it. And even my and I
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Speaker 1: can say this, my worst relationships, I have got stuff
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Speaker 1: from them to serve me for my great or good
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Speaker 1: and it has made me in relationships the person I
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Speaker 1: am today. There's a lot of things that I work on,
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Speaker 1: but it also shows me and reflects to me what
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Speaker 1: I do need to work on and where I lack
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Speaker 1: for myself and and how I can come back better
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Speaker 1: for the next person. And it's only setting me up,
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Speaker 1: I believe for success. What do you feel like you
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Speaker 1: learned the most of the most from from your last relationship?
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Speaker 1: Be ending with you? What have I learned the most?
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Speaker 1: Um and like what I'll tell you exactly what I
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Speaker 1: learned to go for I learned truly that. I mean,
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Speaker 1: there's a lot of things I learned, but the biggest
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Speaker 1: thing would be that I'm trying to figure out how
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Speaker 1: to say this in the right words, but it's it
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Speaker 1: was for my greater good. I I somehow I was
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Speaker 1: in such a low spot after the pandemic, right before
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Speaker 1: the show started filming that you know how it was
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Speaker 1: with like isolation and being alone. I was alone for
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Speaker 1: four months, literally alone alone. Yeah, and I was like
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Speaker 1: in a house by yourself because you were going to
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Speaker 1: visit your mom or you weren't able to. I wasn't
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Speaker 1: able to glass. It was really really hard, to be honest,
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Speaker 1: and it was hard for everybody, but for me, it
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Speaker 1: just was this intense sense of like loneliness and so
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Speaker 1: when I met Dale, when I went on the show,
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Speaker 1: when when I met all the guys, it was this
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Speaker 1: need for connection and I found that. I found that
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Speaker 1: and so the biggest thing I learned though it was
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Speaker 1: it was always like I need a partner. I don't
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Speaker 1: want to be alone. But throughout that, in the depths
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Speaker 1: and the hardest parts of that relationship, everything that I
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Speaker 1: went through, I went through a lot of it alone
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Speaker 1: and not I mean I have friends, I have my
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Speaker 1: family and stuff. But it was certainly it was the
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Speaker 1: self work that got me to where I'm at today,
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Speaker 1: and that was like the biggest lesson for me is
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Speaker 1: that I can depend on myself. I can take care
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Speaker 1: of myself in the best way possible. What was your
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Speaker 1: biggest heartbreak? Was it? Dale? I don't think that that's
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Speaker 1: a heartbreak trying and going for what you want and
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Speaker 1: going after what Like I'm not a woman who sits back.
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Speaker 1: I think that's an obvious thing. Like I go for
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Speaker 1: what I want, and I think that's an asset in anything.
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Speaker 1: If I go for that and work, I go for
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Speaker 1: that in life, I go for that. If it's fighting
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Speaker 1: for something I believe in, I go for it. And
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Speaker 1: if it's somebody I I'm you know, forty yours, you know,
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Speaker 1: forty years old, so it's like I'm actually forty one.
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Speaker 1: So forty is easier to say though. But if it's
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Speaker 1: something that I want, to go for it and at
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Speaker 1: that time, that's what I wanted and I went for
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Speaker 1: it and I got that. So that's not a failure
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Speaker 1: to me. Oh, absolutely not. I love that answer. I
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Speaker 1: love that answer. So, Um, Matt, Matt James is also
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Speaker 1: somebody that you weren't exactly. Um, you weren't a relationship
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Speaker 1: with him, that's for sure. So he was supposed to
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Speaker 1: be you know, he was supposed to be on your season.
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Speaker 1: He was castid to be on your season. Um, but
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Speaker 1: before your season even started filming, they actually just went
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Speaker 1: and announced him to being the Bachelor. I guess they
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Speaker 1: you know, they knew him through Tyler. They really wanted
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Speaker 1: him to be the Bachelor. But you guys have had
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Speaker 1: a lot of drama. But I feel like you've never
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Speaker 1: met in real life. I've never met him, so how
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Speaker 1: and how and why is there so much drama? Can
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Speaker 1: give a little backstory on this cameo situation because it
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Speaker 1: all started when he was on cameo before filming your
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Speaker 1: season and before he was announced the Bachelor. Yeah, I I,
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Speaker 1: to be honest, if held back a lot with what
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Speaker 1: information I do have and what has been presented with me.
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Speaker 1: And I will say this is that having the opportunity
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Speaker 1: if it was a bonus or good or bad thing,
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Speaker 1: but I had the opportunity of those four months before
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Speaker 1: going on this season to see who these guys were
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Speaker 1: and see who was coming on the season. And it
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Speaker 1: was unique, like that's never happened before. But I got
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Speaker 1: that opportunity. And what also came with that is DM
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Speaker 1: every single day of this I'm this person's girlfriend or
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Speaker 1: I know this about that guy. And there was a
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Speaker 1: lot of stuff that I just you just blow aside
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Speaker 1: and you're just kind of like, I get it whatever.
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Speaker 1: But there was nobody that I had more messages from
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Speaker 1: than him about him. Um, I actually got yeah, I
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Speaker 1: actually got videos of him talking about me in a
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Speaker 1: negative way and directly from him, but from other people.
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Speaker 1: Nothing directly from him, But I got a lot, I
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Speaker 1: mean well over thirty different from the same story from
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Speaker 1: different women and different people that were parting with him
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Speaker 1: and going out with him. So that initially rubbed me
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Speaker 1: the wrong way. And the stuff he was saying that
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Speaker 1: I'm not going to repeat um was it was hurtful
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Speaker 1: and it wasn't okay. And I thought, I don't want
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Speaker 1: him to take up a spot of somebody that really
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Speaker 1: I would want to be there for me. And if
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Speaker 1: they knew, the show knew and he knew that he
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Speaker 1: just wanted to be the next Bachelor, fine, all good.
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Speaker 1: I would never have a problem with that. Go get it,
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Speaker 1: you know. But it's how he was talking about me
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Speaker 1: and things he was saying about me that I was
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Speaker 1: not okay with a man coming on the season taking
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Speaker 1: up a spot who was doing that? Do that on
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Speaker 1: somebody else's time. And his whole defense of being on
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Speaker 1: cameo was that he was a former football player and
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Speaker 1: he was doing it for charity. He was also part of,
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Speaker 1: you know, the quarantine crew with Tyler. Do you believe
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Speaker 1: that it was all going to charity or that was
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Speaker 1: that was his intention on cameo. I don't know or
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Speaker 1: care either way. You I mean, I don't care either way.
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Speaker 1: I feel like if that's the situation, that's the situation,
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Speaker 1: then you should probably on your cameo say that that's
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Speaker 1: going to charity and not have your title as the
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Speaker 1: bachelor and and use his title was the bachelor. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I mean when I saw it when he was sent
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Speaker 1: to me, so it it just rubbed me the wrong way.
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Speaker 1: Like I said, So, whether he's a good I'm sure
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Speaker 1: he's a great human being, I'm sure he's a great guy,
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Speaker 1: a great boyfriend. I have no idea, but it just
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Speaker 1: was not something I wanted on my season. There was
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Speaker 1: no beef. I just didn't want. I had a choice
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Speaker 1: of who my options are today, you know, and that
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Speaker 1: would not be one of them. Well, especially somebody who
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Speaker 1: calls me their mom. So we'll leave that right there. Okay, okay,
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Speaker 1: we'll leave that there. And would you guys ever be
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Speaker 1: open to speaking together on a public platform since you
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Speaker 1: guys kind of do end up talking about each other
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Speaker 1: separately on different podcasts and TV shows. Honestly, at this point,
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Speaker 1: it's been I feel like over two years. Like I said,
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Speaker 1: there's no drama on my part of it, but I
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Speaker 1: think my name keeps getting attached to it and he
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Speaker 1: I don't know, if he like wrote a book and
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Speaker 1: talked about me and all that kind of I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I don't know that's that's what gets you views and
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Speaker 1: looks and reads. Then by all means use my name,
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Speaker 1: but I don't. I mean, it's just to me, it's
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Speaker 1: so far dead that I could. I'm just indifferent to it.
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Speaker 1: Claire's not unsure whether or not she would sit down
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Speaker 1: on a podcast with Matt, but maybe one day it'll happen.
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Speaker 1: Who knows. Why do we have to though I don't
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Speaker 1: know the guy I'm not. Nobody says we have to
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Speaker 1: be friends, and it's that's okay. You know, it's not
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Speaker 1: a negative thing or a bad thing, and I would
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Speaker 1: be um, i'd really be getting the fans mad. If
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Speaker 1: I didn't ask you about your dating life, you can
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Speaker 1: was the last time you kissed a guy? That's I'll say,
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Speaker 1: because that was a question I wanted to say last
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Speaker 1: night when we had our girls night, and I didn't
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Speaker 1: get around to asking you specifically. Okay, my question is
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Speaker 1: why do you want to know that? Well, because that'll
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Speaker 1: kind of allude to like when the last time you
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Speaker 1: kind of had a crush on a guy or like
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Speaker 1: a date. That's true without you actually having to give
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Speaker 1: a name. I don't think a kiss equates oh so
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Speaker 1: more scandalous probably if you don't ask me because I'm
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Speaker 1: trying to kid. But my my dating life is not lacking. Okay, good,
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Speaker 1: you're good. So it's been recent that like you're getting
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Speaker 1: some action. Okay, great, all right, sounds good. She's she's
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Speaker 1: not making like some sexy claar faces. All right, Claire,
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Speaker 1: thank you for joining us again today on this special
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Speaker 1: Hundai episode. We really really appreciate it. Thank you for
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Speaker 1: having me. Next up, I am joined by Hannah and Dylan,
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Speaker 1: one of our one of my fellow Bachelor in Paradise
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Speaker 1: couples that are still together after three years. The years guys, yeah,
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Speaker 1: rengrats an amazing you know, I said, I keep saying it.
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Speaker 1: People aren't like, Okay, actually we've got It's been seven
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Speaker 1: years today since I met Jared on the Saturday on
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Speaker 1: the sands of Bachelor Paradise. Congrats, that's that's a big deal.
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Speaker 1: It's a big deal. Yeah. When we start the sixth,
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Speaker 1: the six on my dad's first day. Yeah, so you
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Speaker 1: guys three years ago. Yeah, well, I mean, oh, you
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Speaker 1: guys met beforehand. Oh that's known information. We were not
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Speaker 1: briefly before, but that was it. We got like a
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Speaker 1: group dinner with not now very local spot called there
12:42
Speaker 1: are some like bachelor people and stuff like that. It
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Speaker 1: was Craig. It was a joke. Well, okay, now if
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Speaker 1: we talked about l A landmarks, you guys just moved
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Speaker 1: after you bought a house. I feel like within the
12:52
Speaker 1: past two years in the San Diego area. It had
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Speaker 1: a great patio. Everybody was talking about how much I
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Speaker 1: love the patio on Instagram and then all of a sudden,
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Speaker 1: guys were like, we moved, Where did you move and why?
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Speaker 1: So we moved honestly, like four minutes away from our house.
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Speaker 1: Now it's like four or five minutes. Yeah, it's a
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Speaker 1: really close drive. Um. It was just timing, like with
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Speaker 1: the market, honestly, like we weren't looking, um, but we
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Speaker 1: kind of saw it and we're like, oh wow, this
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Speaker 1: is cool. And at the same time, our realtor was like, hey,
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Speaker 1: by the way, somebody's like kind of interested in look
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Speaker 1: buying in this neighborhood. This is the neighborhood, and they
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Speaker 1: wanted one story, which is what we had. And it
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Speaker 1: was just honestly like the perfect I don't even want
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Speaker 1: to say storm. It kind of worked out perfectly. We
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Speaker 1: we missed our backyard. We loved it, but like our
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Speaker 1: new house. Were just like so happy about it, Like
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Speaker 1: it was just like a really really cool timing thing. Honestly,
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Speaker 1: we have a movie theater in the new house. So
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Speaker 1: it flooded. Update as of last week. We don't know
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Speaker 1: really we're figuring that all this week. But it got flooded,
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Speaker 1: so we moved all of the movie seats and stuff
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Speaker 1: and the floor was like really what Yeah, pretty depressing,
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Speaker 1: but hopefully it was fixed this week. Okay, great. Dylan's
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Speaker 1: on that. I was like, Dylan, and you do that
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Speaker 1: kind of stuff, and I'll handle like decorating. Yeah, I'm decorating. Yeah, exactly, decorating,
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Speaker 1: doing logistics and stuff like let him decorate at all,
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Speaker 1: because I really don't like Dara touching. But no, we
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Speaker 1: have interior designers that he was working with, and the
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Speaker 1: ideal I deal with it. And at first Dylan was
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Speaker 1: involved a little bit and like on the meetings and
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Speaker 1: stuff like that, and then he was like and I
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Speaker 1: really don't want to do this, like I want you
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Speaker 1: to do this, I don't feel comfortable doing it. And
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Speaker 1: I was like, alright, perfect, let's go. So I've been
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Speaker 1: taking it over. I try to make a conscious effort
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Speaker 1: to not be involved. Well, just live in a nice place.
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Speaker 1: That's all that matters. It's hard to I told him,
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Speaker 1: I don't really care. What if it was paining, could
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Speaker 1: be fun. Well, now it comes to, you know, setting
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Speaker 1: up something else beautiful that would be your wedding. You
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Speaker 1: guys went to Italy recently to pick out a wedding spot.
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Speaker 1: You went to like Cuomo, did you go to Venice?
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Speaker 1: We're in Venice from Floridance, Monico Can santra Pez. Oh,
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Speaker 1: you guys went the whole country tour. We went for it.
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Speaker 1: So what are we deciding on? And when? I mean,
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Speaker 1: it's so beautiful and it's definitely an option to do
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Speaker 1: like Lake Como, But um, I feel like we need
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Speaker 1: to look at spots in California to validate everything, just
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Speaker 1: because it's hard to get people to like go over
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Speaker 1: season stuff, which is totally understandable. Um, it's not a no,
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Speaker 1: but we're like we should at least see some spots
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Speaker 1: here and at least validate for like, okay, like we
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Speaker 1: could totally make it work here or like maybe like
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Speaker 1: Honeymoon out there pen Field Mediterranean and yes, totally totally.
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Speaker 1: We did the honeymoon in Italy in peace and it
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Speaker 1: was both of them. So we've we've been wanting to
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Speaker 1: go to Greece. Yeah, I'm trying to get hand in
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Speaker 1: a Planet surprise grease trip for me for my birthday
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Speaker 1: in two weeks. And your Greek? I am Greek. Have
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Speaker 1: you ever been there? Yes? Okay, but I was younger,
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Speaker 1: so I don't really count it. Okay, all right, Well, um,
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Speaker 1: wedding planning, like, do we have a date, do we
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Speaker 1: have like a time period? You have a have a date?
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Speaker 1: Heart exclusive? No? No, we don't have a date, like no,
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Speaker 1: I'm saving that for Instagram. Very bad business. I mean
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Speaker 1: it's it's literally just um going to depend on if
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Speaker 1: we find a location. Like the location thing I think
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Speaker 1: is literally literally going to assuming months from when we
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Speaker 1: find the location. That's great timeline. So yeah, exactly what
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Speaker 1: we did. Yeah, I feel like something like that because
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Speaker 1: Newport Rood Islands. Yeah, yeah, would you ever do it?
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Speaker 1: And you guys are mischiean? What's your where are you
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Speaker 1: from from? Wisconsin? Orange County? I know, but where do
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Speaker 1: you guys have that lakehouse? Wisconsin? Yeah? I know, we
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Speaker 1: wouldn't do it there I wouldn't be. I don't know
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Speaker 1: if we would do it there, but I feel like
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Speaker 1: it could be a vibe. No, it does rain a
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Speaker 1: bit too. The rain thing would be a little riskue
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Speaker 1: yea yeah, yeah. Wedding venue TVD theme, it's been decided
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Speaker 1: it's carnival themed. Along with that, we'll see it's fun dress.
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I have no clue. Did you have
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Speaker 1: like a moment where you were like, this is the
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Speaker 1: dress we like? Actually, I don't know if my dress
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Speaker 1: was Um, I just I did and I was like,
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Speaker 1: it's too much, it was too expensive, and then I
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Speaker 1: said yes to another dress which ended up being my
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Speaker 1: rehearsal I mean my my reception dress, because I went
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Speaker 1: back and I got the dress that I thought was
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Speaker 1: too expensive. Yeah, so yes, yes, I don't know if
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Speaker 1: I I don't know if I'll have that wow moment.
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Speaker 1: I don't really know. It's my body too, so like
17:44
Speaker 1: we made it a sweetheart when it wasn't actually a sweetheart.
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Speaker 1: So you made it what you wanted sleeves and we
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Speaker 1: took off the sleeves like, yeah, you made it, you
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Speaker 1: made it how you wanted. I can't tell if I'll
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Speaker 1: be one of those people. I don't know. I'm ever
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Speaker 1: it's the best time, it's the most fun. I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: go for it. We'll see, I don't know. I hope
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Speaker 1: we see it all on Instagram. Obviously, not the dress,
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Speaker 1: but like all the dress drying on you, absolutely because
18:05
Speaker 1: you are a sherry Hill model and I mean I
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Speaker 1: love sherry Hill dresses. It'll all be on Boucher in Paradise,
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Speaker 1: filmed live. Everyone can come. Are they having you guys?
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Speaker 1: Come back and make a little cameo? No little cameo
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Speaker 1: if your students. No, they are not. Unfortunately, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I actually didn't tell you that. I'll tell you. I'll
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Speaker 1: tell you now, but maybe you know. What's funny is
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Speaker 1: that we're doing a trip to I say, I sound
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Speaker 1: like such a paradive orta pray to for Riorda and um,
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Speaker 1: we're actually doing it like June sixte and that's probably
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Speaker 1: when they're filming. But it's funny. We didn't plan it.
18:44
Speaker 1: It's just for his birthday, so it's just funny time.
18:46
Speaker 1: And they'll be like, oh flights, yeah, come down, we'll
18:50
Speaker 1: see a little bit. We'll see, we'll see Dylan has
18:53
Speaker 1: something definitely not going, definitely not coming. We're gonna have
18:57
Speaker 1: ourround vacation. Okay. He wants his birth to be like chill,
19:01
Speaker 1: which is understandable, very very good, John Free, drama free,
19:04
Speaker 1: be day. You guys are gonna have kids with great
19:07
Speaker 1: hair potentially, and I have I think gray hair, great hair.
19:14
Speaker 1: And I also just want to say that it's really
19:16
Speaker 1: cool that, like I can confidently say that we're going
19:17
Speaker 1: to have like another Bachelor Paradise married couple easily. That's happening.
19:24
Speaker 1: It's happening, alright, Thank you, thank you. Next up, we
19:40
Speaker 1: have Heather Martin. Heather Martin, as you guys may remember,
19:43
Speaker 1: was on Colton season and then made a brief appearance
19:47
Speaker 1: on Matt James season. Heather, Hey, So, okay, so you're
19:53
Speaker 1: on our podcast yesterday. So we caught up a little bit.
19:55
Speaker 1: Then you guys check out Art Girls Night episode. So
19:58
Speaker 1: much fun. We talk otherhood dating, um, all kisses, and
20:05
Speaker 1: Heather's like, please don't ask me about because it again
20:07
Speaker 1: and don't worry. I am not going to do that. Um,
20:10
Speaker 1: But what I am going to ask you is how
20:12
Speaker 1: is your bestie Hannah Brown? Because I feel like you
20:16
Speaker 1: are probably the closest Bachelor Men Nation member to Hannah. Yeah,
20:21
Speaker 1: Hannah has been really good. Hannah's like in a relationship,
20:24
Speaker 1: like serious relationship, probably leading towards marriage. Is that I'm thinking,
20:30
Speaker 1: and she's thinking. I think, Yeah, I know, Hannah isn't
20:33
Speaker 1: really I think she's like very settled. She's in Santa Monica.
20:37
Speaker 1: She's just happy. She's really really happy, which makes me happy.
20:41
Speaker 1: That's good. What do you guys usually do when you
20:42
Speaker 1: have your girls? Nice? So, Hannah, both of us are
20:46
Speaker 1: just like we could sit on the couch were probably
20:49
Speaker 1: That's what I always imagine Hannah Brown hangouts to be
20:52
Speaker 1: like totally my kind of girl. Hang out. We could
20:54
Speaker 1: like all day we like wake up, watch a movie,
20:58
Speaker 1: eat yeah, he talk yeah, we like talk another movie yeah,
21:04
Speaker 1: and then eat again and then hang out, talk movie
21:10
Speaker 1: and then eat again. I never Yeah, You're just like
21:13
Speaker 1: so happy, you know, just like hang out. It's great.
21:17
Speaker 1: What's your day to day life? Like? Are you still
21:19
Speaker 1: in San Diego? I'm in San Diego, North County, San Diego,
21:22
Speaker 1: San Diego. Yeah. We're just like chilling. Nothing crazy. It's
21:26
Speaker 1: like I feel like I never have anything like crazy
21:28
Speaker 1: need to report. But except for when I asked you
21:30
Speaker 1: about boys. You want to tell me about boys. I
21:33
Speaker 1: know about like your celebrity stalking. I have a lot
21:40
Speaker 1: of celebrity stalking, but not boys. Dating is hard. I like,
21:47
Speaker 1: I wish I never had a date ever again. I
21:50
Speaker 1: hate it. Well, okay, so when was your last date? Um,
21:54
Speaker 1: she's like, so long ago. I don't want to talk
21:55
Speaker 1: about this year. Okay, yeah, I just not that good. No,
22:04
Speaker 1: I did it someone for a bit of time. It's
22:08
Speaker 1: just very a lot. There's just a lot. Why, so
22:13
Speaker 1: many reasons? Wait? Why so? I actually asked me so
22:19
Speaker 1: many questions my job, Um, you have great teeth, thank you? Questions.
22:33
Speaker 1: There's just like so many details. So I'm like, I
22:35
Speaker 1: just want to be like a normal Like was he famous? No,
22:40
Speaker 1: just like a lot. But I talked to Jared about
22:44
Speaker 1: this and I was like, I can't tell you Jared
22:46
Speaker 1: after the podcast on his podcast, and I was like,
22:50
Speaker 1: because this guy like really doesn't like being talked about publicly.
22:52
Speaker 1: It's just like the situation like doesn't like I can't
22:55
Speaker 1: like it. I can't talk about it. Like it's like
22:58
Speaker 1: there's like I feel like she's like's like there's like
23:03
Speaker 1: three hours of conversation. I don't know. It's complicated. It's complicated.
23:07
Speaker 1: He's like a vampire, so I talking about it. Yeah,
23:10
Speaker 1: he's in the a he's killed some people. I can't
23:14
Speaker 1: talk about it. I'm not dating anyone right now, but yeah,
23:20
Speaker 1: it's hard. It's because, like you know, it's a Bachelor
23:22
Speaker 1: podcast or Bachelor Nation members and it's just like everybody
23:26
Speaker 1: wants to know about relationships. And she's like show, like,
23:29
Speaker 1: actually tell me how to date. I don't know, like
23:31
Speaker 1: I know either, because like you do know. I mean
23:35
Speaker 1: you're married and a child, but like thing is jar
23:38
Speaker 1: and I really like are dating was like being friends
23:41
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, once we became people
23:43
Speaker 1: who were dating, we were like married. I feel like
23:48
Speaker 1: actually honestly, like you're like you're like thinking that that's
23:50
Speaker 1: the way you'd like you're my inspiration. I'm not kidding,
23:53
Speaker 1: Like I've told me sisters, and like actually like the
23:56
Speaker 1: anomaly where it's like you just like you like you
23:59
Speaker 1: like some one and it's just like it's like not normala,
24:02
Speaker 1: definitely not normal. That it was way it was way
24:06
Speaker 1: too hard, but also like way too easy, and we
24:10
Speaker 1: ended up dating. It was so easy, and then I
24:14
Speaker 1: didn't even have to like try to get him down
24:16
Speaker 1: on one day. It was just like we've been together
24:18
Speaker 1: three months and now you you're proposed it just worked out,
24:21
Speaker 1: but like you're the normally to the rule, Like it's
24:23
Speaker 1: like he's just not that into you. I am one
24:29
Speaker 1: thousand persin actually, So I don't want any girls out
24:32
Speaker 1: there being like like that's what's going to happen to me,
24:35
Speaker 1: Like no, I am the chick flick, Like I don't
24:37
Speaker 1: know how it happens. I got the Chicken's inspiring. I
24:40
Speaker 1: think it makes me feel like Okay, it's like I
24:43
Speaker 1: want people to believe in chicken flicks and all that,
24:45
Speaker 1: but I also want to have a sense of realism.
24:48
Speaker 1: But like you is that it's not realistic, I know.
24:51
Speaker 1: But like you, you didn't want today, so like it
24:53
Speaker 1: happened the way you want to do, even manifesting at
24:55
Speaker 1: the third time, it's like all a whole bunch of
24:57
Speaker 1: contradictory advice here, But I think at the I think
25:01
Speaker 1: really like thinking positive thoughts, thinking everything eventually is going
25:05
Speaker 1: to work out and fall into place the way you
25:06
Speaker 1: wanted to is really the key to making things happens.
25:11
Speaker 1: Like a little you know, you gotta of course have
25:13
Speaker 1: Like ever, I'm not talking about I'm talking about relationships here.
25:16
Speaker 1: I'm not so much talking about like your career, because
25:19
Speaker 1: of course with your career totally have to aspire before
25:23
Speaker 1: imagine dream big, but also be really your relationship. Well yeah,
25:30
Speaker 1: it's both. That's just who you are. You're very sweetiates
25:34
Speaker 1: it's really really nice. Okay, well, Hoather, thank you for
25:38
Speaker 1: all your sweetness. You're always just that is what you are,
25:41
Speaker 1: your sweetness. I hope that we see you again. You know,
25:44
Speaker 1: why aren't you first stand in Paradise? You should? You
25:49
Speaker 1: think it's for you where you asked no, but it's
25:51
Speaker 1: just not for me, Like it's just not a thing
25:53
Speaker 1: that I will do. Okay, yeah, all right, it's not.
25:57
Speaker 1: I don't think it's for me either, but and it
25:59
Speaker 1: obviously but I didn't work out there, but it worked
26:02
Speaker 1: out later, you think, Thank you, thank you. We're back
26:10
Speaker 1: and we are joined by Kendall Long and her new
26:13
Speaker 1: boyfriend Mitch, which we were all just like so very
26:15
Speaker 1: thrilled that she has like this new love in her life.
26:18
Speaker 1: And you are so cute together, and you're so tall.
26:21
Speaker 1: He is a tall man. Yeah, you're perfect height now
26:29
Speaker 1: you're six four what or something like that. You guys
26:31
Speaker 1: are so cute. Yesterday on the podcast, on our Girls
26:34
Speaker 1: Night podcast, we talked all about how kendall Um felt
26:39
Speaker 1: when she first saw you, and like she was really
26:43
Speaker 1: turned on by your nerdy This your first impression of Kendall.
26:47
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, this is interesting and curious, gorgeous obviously, Um
26:56
Speaker 1: yeah that I mean, of course beauty, and you know,
27:01
Speaker 1: we it was it was a relatively laid back environment
27:04
Speaker 1: so we could actually talk, which you know, when you're
27:07
Speaker 1: going out on a Saturday night, that's not you know,
27:09
Speaker 1: always what you get when you're in a club and
27:10
Speaker 1: it's crazy loud, you can't really interact like that. While
27:13
Speaker 1: we were in a place where we could talk, and
27:15
Speaker 1: we were going through her book actually and like asking
27:18
Speaker 1: each other questions perfect exactly. So it's just a perfect
27:21
Speaker 1: mingling experience. And I could tell pretty much immediately like
27:24
Speaker 1: you know, she's smart and you know, lots of lots
27:28
Speaker 1: of great thoughts behind her. It's beautiful, she's not just pretty.
27:37
Speaker 1: We just connected on like a lot of similar topics,
27:39
Speaker 1: which is really cool. I think I don't even know
27:41
Speaker 1: what we were talking about that whole night, but a
27:43
Speaker 1: lot of it was. I think like I just noticed
27:46
Speaker 1: immediately that you were somebody that challenged me in um,
27:50
Speaker 1: just like things that you researched, the things that you
27:52
Speaker 1: were curious about, like your curiosity. Was a man that
27:54
Speaker 1: really stood out to me. So I liked that about you. Okay,
27:57
Speaker 1: So how did you ask her out on your first date?
28:02
Speaker 1: Let's see, I probably we hung out that night. We're dancing,
28:06
Speaker 1: a lot, lots of fun, lots of dancing. We actually changed, Oh,
28:10
Speaker 1: we switched outfits on the dance floor, you'd like exchanged.
28:14
Speaker 1: I had an ugly sweater on, had an ugly sweater on.
28:16
Speaker 1: It was near Christmas. This ugly sweater was to reindeer
28:20
Speaker 1: humping or something. I don't know. I saw his sweater.
28:25
Speaker 1: I didn't really process what was on it. I was like, like,
28:27
Speaker 1: your grandma made it, and he's like, my grandma made it,
28:29
Speaker 1: and I was like, it's too reindeer humping. Um. And
28:32
Speaker 1: then I was wearing this white card again. And so
28:34
Speaker 1: on the dance floor we switched outfits. Yeah, and I
28:39
Speaker 1: was cold, so it worked out perfectly. Um. And then
28:41
Speaker 1: we exchanged numbers yeah. Yeah, and I'm a dork. So
28:45
Speaker 1: I just immediately like, all right, when we're hanging out next,
28:47
Speaker 1: what are we doing? Where are we going? He didn't
28:49
Speaker 1: play any games to wait the next day. You texted
28:53
Speaker 1: her that night probably as soon as I get the
28:58
Speaker 1: phone number, it's like, here's my name, text me. He
29:04
Speaker 1: was actually very forward. We were on the dance floor
29:06
Speaker 1: and he's just like, what would you say? You're like something?
29:10
Speaker 1: And I was like, you're like, because I'm interested in you.
29:13
Speaker 1: And I was like, I like how forward he is?
29:16
Speaker 1: So that was nice, creepy like for you know, it's
29:20
Speaker 1: really horrible to say, but if you're attracted to the
29:23
Speaker 1: person you like the forwardness that it's difficult. That's true.
29:30
Speaker 1: I was glad he was forward because I was very
29:33
Speaker 1: intrigued after our Europa conversation about the moon off of
29:36
Speaker 1: Jupiter that had aliens on it. So, so, what's the
29:40
Speaker 1: nerdiest date you guys have been on? Because I know
29:42
Speaker 1: that there's like an appreciation for nerd life here. Well,
29:46
Speaker 1: I feel like the every time we hang out, I
29:49
Speaker 1: mean we've barely watched any TV together. We barely like
29:51
Speaker 1: when we are together, we're just talking about anything and
29:55
Speaker 1: everything that comes into our mind. Recently, we went on
29:57
Speaker 1: a road trip to NAPA and Mitch like podcast lined
30:01
Speaker 1: up for us to listen to and to discuss on
30:03
Speaker 1: our way to not but he's like, okay, so I
30:05
Speaker 1: had this podcast forgot what it was. It was a
30:08
Speaker 1: six hour drive. The podcast was only an hour and
30:11
Speaker 1: a half and we didn't finish it. We didn't finish
30:12
Speaker 1: the podcast, so we like like pose it and we're like,
30:15
Speaker 1: let's discuss this, and so it's just so fun each
30:19
Speaker 1: other's brain candy, Yeah, basically as well as I candy. Oh,
30:23
Speaker 1: he's my arm candy for arm candy candy involved, so happy.
30:30
Speaker 1: So do you know anything about Kendall's um like history
30:34
Speaker 1: on the Bachelor franchise? Just from what I've heard obviously
30:37
Speaker 1: since we've been dating, But I didn't really follow did
30:41
Speaker 1: much of things the crap out of her when you
30:44
Speaker 1: found out? I know, I I stayed away from that
30:46
Speaker 1: because I don't know if it's old fashioned or just weird,
30:50
Speaker 1: but I just wanted to like get to know her
30:52
Speaker 1: for how she was and how she how we actually
30:54
Speaker 1: interacted because you never really know what's out there, right,
30:57
Speaker 1: So um, yeah, no, I stayed away from the from
31:00
Speaker 1: the Google's okay, So I know we have to get wrapped.
31:04
Speaker 1: But I do need to ask you, because I asked
31:06
Speaker 1: Candle this question yesterday. What kind of future steps do
31:11
Speaker 1: you guys see each other taking all of the big ones?
31:19
Speaker 1: What a way to wrap up this podcast. I am
31:21
Speaker 1: thrilled for you guys. Thank you so much for coming on. Honestly,
31:25
Speaker 1: you know, an outsider to this bachelor world. It's it's
31:28
Speaker 1: a fun one. I've I've been enjoying it, honestly great.
31:31
Speaker 1: Thank you. We've really enjoyed your hard launch. Oh hard launched.
31:35
Speaker 1: I didn't even know that was the thing before, Like
31:37
Speaker 1: you hard launched. I was like, yes, thank you. Thank
31:45
Speaker 1: you so much to hund for making this amazing episode happen,
31:48
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31:51
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