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129) Digital Nomad Psychology: 10 Ways You’ll Change After Becoming a Digital Nomad · Digital Nomad Life Podcast

• 3:36
  SPEAKER_00: Hey there and welcome to the Digital Nomad Life Podcast.
• 3:39
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Krista, also known as Kristabella Travels on social media.
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_00: And if you can tell by the title of my handle, I am someone who is really passionate about traveling.
• 3:50
  SPEAKER_00: I always have been.
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_00: And that is initially what motivated me to become a digital nomad.
• 3:56
  SPEAKER_00: Now, as someone who has been living abroad since 2013, traveled to 70 countries, lived out of my suitcase for four of the years that I have been free.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_00: There have been a lot of changes that have happened within me over the years since I got started with my new life.
• 4:19
  SPEAKER_00: I'm doing air quotes with my fingers right now because I actually really see my life and even my personality as a pre-nomad life and nomad life.
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_00: When you adopt this lifestyle, your brain chemistry changes.
• 4:37
  SPEAKER_00: I want to make this episode to share with you essentially the spiritual journey or the spiritual awakening that you will have when you choose this path.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_00: And when I say spiritual awakening, please don't leave if you're like, I'm not woo-woo.
• 4:54
  SPEAKER_00: I just mean that it's like your spirit will literally come online in a new way that you just have never experienced before.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_00: And it's magical and it's profound and it's full of growth and learning about yourself and learning about the world and taking ownership and autonomy over your life and just claiming your dreams in a brand new way.
• 5:16
  SPEAKER_00: And you will get to take all of the amazing lessons and transformations with you through the rest of your life when you choose this path.
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_00: So I've come up with 10, 10 things that change about your brain chemistry, about your psychology when you become a digital nomad.
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_00: I just think being a digital nomad and having the freedom of having my own online business has been the greatest gift of my entire life.
• 5:43
  SPEAKER_00: And I hope that it gets to be a gift of your life too.
• 5:46
  SPEAKER_00: And before I share what all the different things are, I just want you to know that if you are listening to this and you are the kind of person who is resonating deeply with what I'm saying, but you feel like it's so far away or you don't know how you're ever going to get there, I have dedicated my career, my business, my life around helping other people live this life as well because I feel so passionately about it.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_00: If you are someone who wants to have an online business, but you have no idea what skills you have that could translate into online work, first of all, you would be shocked at the things I can pull out of you, but I can pull that out of you.
• 6:29
  SPEAKER_00: I can, I can, I can talk with you and learn about you and help you identify what are your greatest gifts, your hidden talents, the most translatable, transferable skills that will help you start an online business sooner rather than later.
• 6:48
  SPEAKER_00: Not something that has a really long runway, not something that involves a huge upfront investment, something that you can build with just your energy and your time and your love and your knowledge.
• 7:01
  SPEAKER_00: That is what I help people do.
• 7:03
  SPEAKER_00: So if you don't have a business idea, send me a direct message on Instagram with the word career assessment, and we can talk about my process of how I help people come up with very aligned business ideas.
• 7:16
  SPEAKER_00: Or you can always listen to episode 33 of this podcast to hear more about how that works.
• 7:22
  SPEAKER_00: The episode is called 33, how my career assessment process works and examples.
• 7:27
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so that being said, I want to share with you about how your psychology will fundamentally change when you actually do step up, build your online business, free yourself, and become a digital nomad.
• 7:43
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so getting into the 10 things that change about you fundamentally, spiritually, psychologically when you become a digital nomad, aka when freedom becomes your default.
• 7:55
  SPEAKER_00: So this episode is not, again, it's not about traveling.
• 8:01
  SPEAKER_00: It has nothing to do with traveling.
• 8:02
  SPEAKER_00: It's about who you are, how you relate to yourself, how you relate to the world around you, and how you relate to life itself when you have all the freedom in the world to be where you want to be and to not have to worry about money because you're making it as you go.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_00: So the first thing that changes fundamentally about yourself is that you realize that you are the true CEO of your life.
• 8:31
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, CEO is a glamorous title, right?
• 8:35
  SPEAKER_00: And in theory, maybe lots of people would say, oh, being a CEO is is an awesome thing.
• 8:41
  SPEAKER_00: But actually, most people would never really want to be the CEO of anything if they didn't have to, because they wouldn't want the responsibility.
• 8:51
  SPEAKER_00: They probably wouldn't want the responsibility of having all the decisions that were made ultimately fall back on them.
• 9:00
  SPEAKER_00: They might not want to be the one who's responsible for all the money that is made within the organization or again, within your life.
• 9:07
  SPEAKER_00: They might not want to be the one who is responsible for the happiness of all the employees, aka you, because we're talking about your life here.
• 9:17
  SPEAKER_00: When you are not the CEO, but you're an employee, a lot of that responsibility is deferred to someone else.
• 9:25
  SPEAKER_00: And so if you're unhappy or something doesn't go your way, then you kind of get to say, well, it's not my fault.
• 9:31
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just a victim here, and therefore there's nothing I can do, and I'm just gonna surrender to life.
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_00: But when you step into the CEO position of your life, yes, it is a lot more responsibility and there will be a learning curve for you to get used to that job, for example.
• 9:48
  SPEAKER_00: You might need to go through some training and you might make some hiccups and mistakes, but ultimately you settle into this flow that you realize that your energy matters more than any particular hours on the clock.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_00: Like the fact that people work between nine and five is so arbitrary and so irrelevant to your life because why nine to five?
• 10:13
  SPEAKER_00: Like who made those hours up?
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_00: Someone else in society, but that's not your company.
• 10:18
  SPEAKER_00: Your company is you.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_00: So you are the one that gets to decide.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_00: And you are gonna be making those decisions based on data that you have from witnessing yourself and witnessing your energy.
• 10:33
  SPEAKER_00: You're also going to decide what needs to happen now versus what can happen later.
• 10:40
  SPEAKER_00: When people, again, have the employee mindset versus a CEO mindset of their own life, then someone else tells them what they need to be working on, which is kind of a relief for a lot of people because a lot of people don't want to have to think about what it is that they're gonna do next.
• 10:57
  SPEAKER_00: They just want someone to give them the rules, give them the order, and then they can follow it.
• 11:01
  SPEAKER_00: But when you're the CEO of your life, you're making the rules, you're deciding what needs to be prioritized.
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_00: But the thing is, why this changes you fundamentally is that you realize that you get to prioritize whatever it is that you want.
• 11:18
  SPEAKER_00: Me as my CEO of my company slash my life, I literally prioritize sunset every single day.
• 11:26
  SPEAKER_00: It is in my calendar as a recurring appointment daily.
• 11:30
  SPEAKER_00: And I give myself an hour and a half because I know I need a certain amount of time to get to wherever I'm viewing the sunset.
• 11:36
  SPEAKER_00: I want enough time to watch the sun dip and change colors.
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_00: And then I want to have enough time for me to go back to doing whatever it is that I want.
• 11:43
  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes I'll invite people to my sunset, or other times it's just for me.
• 11:47
  SPEAKER_00: But either way, I don't want anybody telling me that that we should have a call at 6 p.m.
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_00: when sunset is at 6:30.
• 11:55
  SPEAKER_00: Like, hell no, I'm the CEO and I get to decide what matters to me.
• 12:01
  SPEAKER_00: So when you're the CEO of your life, maybe what matters to you is your children or a sport that you love.
• 12:09
  SPEAKER_00: Or yeah, could also just be a time of day.
• 12:12
  SPEAKER_00: And do you know what?
• 12:14
  SPEAKER_00: If there is something that is really important that I decide I need to make an exception for, I can also change my recurring sunset appointment.
• 12:22
  SPEAKER_00: I can't change a sunset, but I can decide if I want to prioritize something else because I also know that I experience the consequences of all of my choices.
• 12:33
  SPEAKER_00: If I decide that I don't want to work very much and I start making less money, there's no one else to blame but me.
• 12:40
  SPEAKER_00: And what that does is that makes me actually more motivated to really look at my schedule and decide how do I want to spend every little bit of my day.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_00: And if you can imagine, when you're really looking at your calendar that way, at your life that way, it makes you think about how do I want to be living?
• 13:01
  SPEAKER_00: When you have freedom and you are the CEO of your life, you decide what matters.
• 13:06
  SPEAKER_00: And then you're responsible for building around it.
• 13:09
  SPEAKER_00: That kind of self-responsibility changes you so much.
• 13:14
  SPEAKER_00: And that leads me into the second thing, which is when you are really tuning into what matters to you, how you want to spend your hours, how you want to spend your day, it naturally makes you learn more about yourself.
• 13:28
  SPEAKER_00: And therefore, you become way more authentic of a version of yourself.
• 13:34
  SPEAKER_00: When no one is controlling you, not your boss, not your parents, not the societal expectations, you end up doing what is actually right for you, not as right for what everybody else thinks is the right thing to do at the right time.
• 13:49
  SPEAKER_00: I am talking about the difference between what you actually want versus what you were conditioned to want.
• 13:56
  SPEAKER_00: For me, growing up, I was conditioned to want to get a college degree.
• 14:01
  SPEAKER_00: Looking back, like, I'm not gonna say that I'm not grateful for my college degree, but was getting a college degree actually authentic to me, or was that an idea that was planted in my brain, in my subconscious from a really young age, from my grandmother saying, Oh, she never went to college and she wished that she had.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_00: And then, you know, my dad having gone to college, he was the first one in his family line, and that was such a big deal.
• 14:25
  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, like we are conditioned by our parents, by our family, by our society to want certain things.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_00: But when you break free and you're no longer in the system that everyone else is in, you start realizing, oh my gosh, wait a minute.
• 14:40
  SPEAKER_00: I don't have to do that.
• 14:42
  SPEAKER_00: I also don't have to do this.
• 14:43
  SPEAKER_00: I also don't have to want that.
• 14:45
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe I don't actually want that.
• 14:47
  SPEAKER_00: What do I want?
• 14:48
  SPEAKER_00: What time makes sense for me to wake up?
• 14:51
  SPEAKER_00: I get that everybody else is waking up at seven and they're getting to work by nine, but maybe I actually want to go to bed late and sleep until nine.
• 14:59
  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe actually I want to go to bed early, wake up super early, be done with my work by 11 a.m., and then have the rest of the day to enjoy because I love kite surfing or I love going on or picking my kids up from work, picking my kids up from school.
• 15:16
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe something else that you realize is that, you know, when you were at work, you were forced to socialize at 9 a.m.
• 15:24
  SPEAKER_00: every day with people that you don't necessarily really enjoy.
• 15:28
  SPEAKER_00: Like you wouldn't choose to have these people in your life, but you have to interact with them.
• 15:33
  SPEAKER_00: And therefore, you are kind of masking the way that you feel because you don't really want to be there interacting with those people.
• 15:41
  SPEAKER_00: And you get we get used to masking.
• 15:45
  SPEAKER_00: We get used to showing up with a fake face and pretending like we're doing exactly what we want because you know, we don't want to make other people around us upset because we're part of a team or whatever.
• 15:56
  SPEAKER_00: But um, you're not really part of a team anymore when you are completely free.
• 16:02
  SPEAKER_00: You get to choose who you collaborate with.
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_00: So I don't want this to sound like it's lonely because it's not, unless you want it to be.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_00: And then in that case, go for it.
• 16:14
  SPEAKER_00: If you're actually a super introvert and you just despise networking, then you know, that's something that you might not have actually realized about yourself when you were forced to do it all the time and forced to put on a happy face about it.
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_00: When suddenly you don't have to be networking anymore.
• 16:31
  SPEAKER_00: You might realize that you just do it naturally anyway because you like it, or you might realize that you never do it.
• 16:36
  SPEAKER_00: And then one day you're gonna wake up and be like, wow, I haven't done any networking in years.
• 16:40
  SPEAKER_00: And that is a-okay with me.
• 16:43
  SPEAKER_00: I guess that's just me.
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: I guess when I was doing it, it was never because I really liked it, but it was because I thought that I should.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_00: And now I understand that I am authentically more of an introverted person, and that is okay.
• 16:54
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that that's actually really cool that you get to figure that out because you are free.
• 17:00
  SPEAKER_00: What I'm trying to say is that your identity becomes something that you are actively exploring rather than something that you just subconsciously inherit from your family or society.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_00: You are gonna stop asking, who am I supposed to be?
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: And you start discovering who am I when I am allowed to choose.
• 17:22
  SPEAKER_00: I think one of the greatest gifts of being free is being able to discover what part of your personality are actually yours, like that are real to you, and which parts were just survival strategies for an environment that you didn't really belong in.
• 17:37
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so for number three, along the similar themes of being the CEO of your life and being responsible for your life, and then the second one of learning who you actually are, of becoming more authentically you, you are gonna be, again, really tuning into what it is that you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're going to be more connected to your desire.
• 17:57
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna be more connected to what brings you joy.
• 18:01
  SPEAKER_00: And therefore, when you are more connected to what brings you joy, you are gonna be more likely, more wanting to say yes to spontaneous things.
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't just mean travel adventures, I mean different, maybe romantic relationships or different professional opportunities, different experiences, different learning experiences.
• 18:26
  SPEAKER_00: Because when you are living a conventional lifestyle, right?
• 18:29
  SPEAKER_00: When you have a nine to five or some kind of job where someone else is, you know, making you be somewhere at a certain time at a certain place, you need to plan your lifestyle around so many fixed commitments.
• 18:43
  SPEAKER_00: Like you get a certain number of vacation days and a limited amount of availability of when you can actually take that vacation.
• 18:51
  SPEAKER_00: Or, you know, there's also maybe societal pressure that you just need to abide by, even if it's not written down.
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_00: Like when you're living this conventional lifestyle, every time that you are given some kind of opportunity, there's always going to be a little like, hold on, like pause, let's just check and make sure that nobody is gonna be hurt or offended or mad or that have their boundaries violated by me going and pursuing my joy.
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_00: But when you are completely autonomous because you're a digital nomad, because you work for yourself, because you can be wherever you want, you get to be as spontaneous as you want in any category of life.
• 19:33
  SPEAKER_00: If you are someone that identifies as being a control freak, I can almost guarantee you that when you start living this lifestyle, that need to cling on and control things will naturally start to dissipate.
• 19:48
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you're just not gonna feel as stressed when plans need to change.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_00: And plans do need to change often.
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever heard that phrase?
• 19:57
  SPEAKER_00: We make plans and God laughs.
• 19:59
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 19:59
  SPEAKER_00: When you are autonomous, when you are a digital nomad, when you work for yourself, when you can be anywhere, some kind of crazy thing happens, some kind of earth-shattering plot twist, you're gonna get to roll with the punches so much more.
• 20:15
  SPEAKER_00: And it's gonna feel okay for you to do that.
• 20:17
  SPEAKER_00: It's not gonna necessarily be that you're completely surrendering to life and that that's a practice.
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be that you're like, okay, oh, something changed.
• 20:27
  SPEAKER_00: All right, well, good thing I'm free.
• 20:30
  SPEAKER_00: Good thing I'm free, and this isn't actually that big of a deal.
• 20:33
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe it's not even that it's not a big deal.
• 20:37
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's also an opportunity.
• 20:40
  SPEAKER_00: Like for me, I always have all these half-created plans.
• 20:44
  SPEAKER_00: Like I have ideas of things that I want to do in the future, places that I think that I might want to be, but I don't feel like I need to book them right away because I am so aware that ideas could change, situations could change, new things could come up.
• 21:01
  SPEAKER_00: And I just feel like there's no need for me to lock myself into something if I am so aware that my life is incredibly flexible.
• 21:11
  SPEAKER_00: And because my life is flexible, I get to flex with life.
• 21:15
  SPEAKER_00: So when I say that you're gonna become more spontaneous, I don't just mean you're gonna start doing more spontaneous things.
• 21:23
  SPEAKER_00: I mean you're going to be oriented towards life in a different way.
• 21:29
  SPEAKER_00: You're just gonna be calmer, you're gonna be more flexible, you're gonna be more tolerant when things don't go exactly as you planned.
• 21:39
  SPEAKER_00: And do you know what is the best part?
• 21:42
  SPEAKER_00: You are never, ever, ever, ever gonna have to say, Oh, sorry, I can't.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: I wish I could, but I have to work.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_00: Just this past summer, I went to my best friend's wedding in Canada, and I was there at this lake house after the wedding, and one of my friends said, Hey, there's this road trip opportunity that I want to go on.
• 22:03
  SPEAKER_00: It's leaving from San Francisco in two days.
• 22:07
  SPEAKER_00: Does anybody want to come?
• 22:08
  SPEAKER_00: And you know what I didn't say is, oh no, I have to work.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_00: I said, Oh, okay, is it do you think that we can pull over at certain points so that I can get my work done?
• 22:20
  SPEAKER_00: And the answer was yes.
• 22:21
  SPEAKER_00: So I went and it was genuinely the highlight of my entire year.
• 22:27
  SPEAKER_00: I recently have just been making a bunch of reels on Instagram and I've been getting, grabbing a lot of footage of me working from different places all around the world.
• 22:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I've just been looking back over my past few years and I've been like, wow, I have gone to so many amazing places and things that I've done super spontaneously.
• 22:48
  SPEAKER_00: Um, on New Year's, actually, I made an episode called Uh Saying Yes to Life Even When It Feels Irresponsible.
• 22:55
  SPEAKER_00: And that is just the freaking point.
• 22:59
  SPEAKER_00: I I just personally do not think that the point of life is to be sitting behind a desk working on someone else's schedule, making some already rich person even richer.
• 23:12
  SPEAKER_00: I just don't think that that's what we're here for.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_00: I think that we're here to experience joy.
• 23:17
  SPEAKER_00: I think that we're here to awe at the wonders of nature, at the gifts that God has given us as humans that are the playground of this earth.
• 23:26
  SPEAKER_00: Like that is what we're here for.
• 23:29
  SPEAKER_00: But I think that when people are so caught up in the nine-to-five system, the corporate way of life, it's so easy to forget because everyone else has forgotten.
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_00: There's this like collective, erased memory of what really matters.
• 23:47
  SPEAKER_00: But you're listening to this episode because I know you haven't forgotten what really matters.
• 23:53
  SPEAKER_00: And it's more than just what you do, right?
• 23:56
  SPEAKER_00: It's also how you show up in the world.
• 23:59
  SPEAKER_00: And so this brings me to number four, which is when you are a digital nomad, you know what?
• 24:05
  SPEAKER_00: You might falter a little bit on your diet as you try to develop some systems.
• 24:13
  SPEAKER_00: It's way easier to eat well when you actually have stability.
• 24:18
  SPEAKER_00: But I promise you the relationship with your body will actually become healthier because if you value health, that is, you will be able to exercise when you feel good.
• 24:32
  SPEAKER_00: You will be able to prioritize sleep when you want to.
• 24:36
  SPEAKER_00: You will be able, again, to choose your food, not because you were rushing late in the morning.
• 24:43
  SPEAKER_00: So therefore you didn't get to pack your lunch, and now the only thing that's available to you on your lunch break is McDonald's or some other kind of fast food.
• 24:50
  SPEAKER_00: Like you will just never ever be in that situation again.
• 24:55
  SPEAKER_00: You will not be working late, burning the midnight oil at your office, and then having all the restaurants close.
• 25:01
  SPEAKER_00: So now you've got to eat french fries out of your freezer.
• 25:05
  SPEAKER_00: Like you just will never be in that situation.
• 25:08
  SPEAKER_00: You have more time and space to actually think about what you're consuming and how you want to consume and the rhythm that you want to consume.
• 25:16
  SPEAKER_00: And again, sleep and also exercise.
• 25:20
  SPEAKER_00: When you have freedom, you get to treat your body as something to listen to rather than something to force into compliance.
• 25:31
  SPEAKER_00: Like something that I think about all the time is that.
• 25:35
  SPEAKER_00: I think about Taylor Swift.
• 25:37
  SPEAKER_00: Stay with me here.
• 25:38
  SPEAKER_00: Taylor Swift did this Eras tour, right?
• 25:41
  SPEAKER_00: Where she went, she performed at these insanely huge production concerts where she was dancing on her feet, singing.
• 25:51
  SPEAKER_00: That is like so much energy expulsion all day, like the entire time of her show.
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_00: And it wasn't just her, it was also all of her dancers.
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_00: And mostly women who, unlike some of them, are gonna be on their period.
• 26:09
  SPEAKER_00: What the hell are they doing up there?
• 26:11
  SPEAKER_00: Like that is crazy.
• 26:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and you know, whether you're a woman or a man listening to this, it doesn't really matter.
• 26:19
  SPEAKER_00: The point is that our bodies go through things sometimes.
• 26:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like sometimes we're sick, sometimes we are feeling a little bit down, or sometimes we feel really high energy.
• 26:31
  SPEAKER_00: But when you have to show up on someone else's schedule in someone else's environment, then you don't get to listen to your body.
• 26:41
  SPEAKER_00: You don't get to prioritize your body, you don't get to pay attention to all the nuances, things that your body needs when you are on that schedule.
• 26:50
  SPEAKER_00: But when you are on your own schedule, when you are the CEO of your life, when you realize that you are autonomous and you learn what is authentic to you and you start paying attention to who you really are, and you're saying yes to things that you actually desire, and no to things that you don't want to, your body just comes more online somehow.
• 27:14
  SPEAKER_00: You get to start listening to it more.
• 27:17
  SPEAKER_00: Like ask yourself, how do you think you would show up in the world if you always had a great night's sleep, if you were always feeling like you got to move your body when you needed to move your body, that you got to rest when you needed to rest it, and that you got to eat healthy, nourishing foods also on a schedule that makes sense with your body.
• 27:40
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 27:41
  SPEAKER_00: How would you show up?
• 27:42
  SPEAKER_00: It would probably be different.
• 27:45
  SPEAKER_00: There's this word, it's called introsception.
• 27:48
  SPEAKER_00: I learned it from a personal trainer at the gym, actually, but it's about how your body perceives, or it's about how we perceive our internal bodily signals.
• 27:59
  SPEAKER_00: And this is really useful when you're at the gym, but it's also really useful when you are just trying to make aligned life decisions.
• 28:08
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I also think that in our society, in corporate, in this nine-to-five system, our healthcare systems, we are often encouraged to medicate for mental health issues like anxiety.
• 28:24
  SPEAKER_00: Whereas anxiety actually is probably coming from something in your mind, it's coming from something in your nervous system.
• 28:34
  SPEAKER_00: But if you don't get an opportunity to heal your nervous system because you're operating on a schedule that is not authentic to your bodily rhythms, of course you need medication to suppress it because you don't have a choice to actually heal your anxiety naturally.
• 28:49
  SPEAKER_00: But when you can work for yourself, when you're on your own schedule, you get to tend to yourself, you get to pay attention to those signals and care for them and love them rather than make them an inconvenience that needs to be suppressed or medicated.
• 29:06
  SPEAKER_00: In summary, when you are a digital nomad, your body will no longer have to survive the life that it was put into.
• 29:16
  SPEAKER_00: You will get to build a life that actually supports your body.
• 29:22
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, now we're getting into some of the deeper stuff.
• 29:25
  SPEAKER_00: So what I've talked about so far is a lot about, you know, the way that you operate in life, kind of the way that you show up, the way that you spend your time, the way that you spend your energy, the way that you make decisions, etc.
• 29:40
  SPEAKER_00: But this next one, number five, is maybe my favorite thing, which is that you expand your sense of what is even possible for your life.
• 29:52
  SPEAKER_00: I am talking about stepping into the identity of being someone who dreams big because suddenly you don't have so many barriers anymore that are preventing you from feeling like those dreams could ever be part of your reality.
• 30:08
  SPEAKER_00: I remember I used to use the term pipe dream all the time when I was working in corporate, when I had more of a quote, normal life.
• 30:17
  SPEAKER_00: Like I had to say, I had to clarify that a dream was a pipe dream because I would know or I would feel like, okay, I could dream about being a millionaire or something, but um that's a pipe dream.
• 30:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like I know that's probably not actually gonna happen.
• 30:33
  SPEAKER_00: And it was like I was negating my ability to dream while even saying the dream out loud for the first time.
• 30:41
  SPEAKER_00: But now it's like now that I know that I'm free and I've done amazing things in my life.
• 30:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like again, I've traveled all around the world.
• 30:50
  SPEAKER_00: I've made more money than I ever thought that I could in a year.
• 30:54
  SPEAKER_00: Like I never thought that I would make more than 100K in a year.
• 30:58
  SPEAKER_00: And in my best year, I made 300K as a as a completely autonomous digital nomad with my own business.
• 31:06
  SPEAKER_00: Like I just that that number to me was unfathomable.
• 31:11
  SPEAKER_00: I can't believe that I did that, but I did that.
• 31:13
  SPEAKER_00: I can't, I did that.
• 31:14
  SPEAKER_00: And that would have been a pipe dream once upon a time.
• 31:18
  SPEAKER_00: Because again, I never thought that I would even be capable of making 100K.
• 31:22
  SPEAKER_00: So now, even though I did hit a million dollars in my business, but I haven't made a million dollars in one year yet.
• 31:28
  SPEAKER_00: I can say yet, and I would never dismiss my dream by calling it a pipe dream.
• 31:34
  SPEAKER_00: Rude.
• 31:35
  SPEAKER_00: I just wouldn't.
• 31:37
  SPEAKER_00: And it's not even that it's like rude to myself, it's not really about negative self-talk.
• 31:41
  SPEAKER_00: It's about just like genuinely how I operate and move through the world.
• 31:46
  SPEAKER_00: My imagination no longer has to be constrained by anything that I am currently experiencing or have experienced, because I know that my life is set up in a way that anything could happen.
• 32:00
  SPEAKER_00: Anything could open up my ability to experience more.
• 32:06
  SPEAKER_00: Because your ability to experience more opens up so much when you are a digital nomad, when you work for yourself, when you are completely free, you start doing things that you once thought were impossible.
• 32:22
  SPEAKER_00: And um, you know, I have a whole podcast episode on building confidence, but what I'm wanting to say now is that I have this uh concept called a confidence collection.
• 32:33
  SPEAKER_00: And that is the way that you build confidence is you collect lots of little pieces of evidence that prove that the thing that you want to believe is true.
• 32:42
  SPEAKER_00: So when you're a digital nomad and you start opening up your life and your world to new experiences and you start doing lots of things that you once thought were impossible.
• 32:53
  SPEAKER_00: For example, sleeping in until 11 a.m.
• 32:56
  SPEAKER_00: on a Wednesday and having it not ruffle anybody's feathers, like that was once impossible and now it's not.
• 33:02
  SPEAKER_00: That little thing of like, oh, maybe the impossible is possible goes in your confidence collection.
• 33:08
  SPEAKER_00: And when you collect so many things like that, you just start to dismantle the belief that anything at all is impossible.
• 33:17
  SPEAKER_00: And I want to ask you, what do you think your life would look and feel like if you genuinely believed that whatever it is that you could dream of, that you could ultimately be, that you would never not pursue something because you thought it was impossible.
• 33:34
  SPEAKER_00: You might not pursue something because maybe the amount of work that it would take to get there would feel like not aligned with where you actually are, or that you actually want to prioritize something else.
• 33:45
  SPEAKER_00: Like the only reason why you should, let's say, like not pursue a dream is because you've actually thought about how to practically and pragmatically make it happen and then consciously decided that you don't want to go through those steps.
• 34:00
  SPEAKER_00: That is the only reason why you would ever like eliminate a dream from your life, but you would never eliminate a dream because it's a quote pipe dream or because it's actually too far-fetched.
• 34:13
  SPEAKER_00: There is no such thing as too far-fetched when you work for yourself.
• 34:18
  SPEAKER_00: And I am consciously saying work for yourself right now versus just being a digital nomad, because I think that when you are a remote employee, you are still being governed by someone else's paycheck.
• 34:32
  SPEAKER_00: You're collecting a paycheck.
• 34:34
  SPEAKER_00: And therefore, Sky is not the limit with how much money that you can make.
• 34:39
  SPEAKER_00: Sky is really only the limit when you work for yourself.
• 34:44
  SPEAKER_00: And I really have noticed a difference between what I think is possible from when I was a digital nomad traveling all around the world with a job, which by the way, like I had a job, a remote job for four years.
• 34:57
  SPEAKER_00: And I did, that was actually when I was living out of my suitcase and I was traveling nonstop for years.
• 35:03
  SPEAKER_00: But I, it was not possible for me to go to New Zealand or Hawaii or China or South Korea or like all these Taiwan, Philippines, like all these East Asian places that I really wanted to go.
• 35:16
  SPEAKER_00: I just couldn't go because it wouldn't make sense for the time zone.
• 35:22
  SPEAKER_00: And um yeah, so now like literally the entire world is my oyster now that I work for myself and I've gone to the far stretches and edges of the earth.
• 35:33
  SPEAKER_00: I literally went to Antarctica a couple of years ago.
• 35:36
  SPEAKER_00: A few years before that, I went to the North Pole.
• 35:40
  SPEAKER_00: And again, sky was the limit with making money.
• 35:43
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you know what?
• 35:44
  SPEAKER_00: I like I said, my biggest year was 300K.
• 35:48
  SPEAKER_00: And I had this dream of making a million dollars in a year, but then I I uh dispelled that dream.
• 35:56
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I think I might revive it, but I realized like if I actually want to make a million dollars with my current business model, it would mean that I would be less available to all of my clients.
• 36:08
  SPEAKER_00: And I actually really, really like what I do.
• 36:11
  SPEAKER_00: I really love talking to my clients.
• 36:14
  SPEAKER_00: I love that I know all of their stories, I know all of their backgrounds, I know their hopes and dreams, I know their fears.
• 36:21
  SPEAKER_00: I love that.
• 36:22
  SPEAKER_00: Like I love the personal connection that I get as a coach.
• 36:25
  SPEAKER_00: And I just think if I were to scale this business to a million dollars a year, I would lose that thing that I love.
• 36:30
  SPEAKER_00: And therefore I'm like, okay, well, then that's why I'm changing that dream, but not because it's not possible.
• 36:38
  SPEAKER_00: It's because I've decided that the cost-benefit ratio is actually not really aligned with um what's authentic to me.
• 36:48
  SPEAKER_00: And do you know what?
• 36:49
  SPEAKER_00: I want to tell you a very quick story.
• 36:50
  SPEAKER_00: And it is, it is this like that a few years ago I was pursuing making a million dollars in a year with the Digital No Mad Life Academy, which is my current business.
• 37:01
  SPEAKER_00: And I realized I started losing inspiration and motivation for marketing it.
• 37:11
  SPEAKER_00: And I think I actually was self-sabotaging myself as a business owner because again, like I said, to if in order for me to do that, to scale the business in that way, it would, it would change what I fundamentally love about the business.
• 37:27
  SPEAKER_00: And I I got a little bit like losing the plot on that and um actually started questioning, like, oh, maybe if I'm losing motivation, it's because maybe I actually should be doing something else with my career or with my life.
• 37:41
  SPEAKER_00: And you know what?
• 37:43
  SPEAKER_00: That was actually quite scary for me because I have put so much effort and so much love and so much time into this business.
• 37:54
  SPEAKER_00: And when I built the business, I was like, this is my dharma, this is my life business.
• 37:58
  SPEAKER_00: I don't think I'm ever gonna do anything else.
• 38:01
  SPEAKER_00: And for me to think, oh shit, like maybe I want to do something else was was scary because I didn't really have any other ideas.
• 38:10
  SPEAKER_00: But that leads me into number six, which is that because I work for myself, I know that I am never ever stuck doing something that I don't want to do.
• 38:24
  SPEAKER_00: If you don't know about the Digital Nomad Life Academy, that's it's the business that I spoke about a little bit earlier when I was telling you about the career assessment.
• 38:32
  SPEAKER_00: But basically, the Digital Nomad Life Academy, people come to me from all walks of life, all different backgrounds, so many different career paths.
• 38:39
  SPEAKER_00: And they all come because they want to change their life.
• 38:43
  SPEAKER_00: They want to work online, but you know, uh maybe about 30% of the people that come to the program, they have a business idea.
• 38:50
  SPEAKER_00: They know what their transferable skills are.
• 38:53
  SPEAKER_00: But the other 70% mostly need to do a career assessment with me.
• 38:57
  SPEAKER_00: And the number one thing that they say is it feels like I'm stuck in my current career.
• 39:06
  SPEAKER_00: Because do you know what?
• 39:08
  SPEAKER_00: Like, probably I'm maybe one of the only people that will tell them that they're not and I'll show them that they're not.
• 39:14
  SPEAKER_00: But the way that I think about career is apparently very, very different than the rest of society.
• 39:22
  SPEAKER_00: Um, literally just today, I did a career assessment call with one of my new clients.
• 39:28
  SPEAKER_00: And um, it was an interesting call for me because, you know, like I said, I work with people from all walks of life, from so many different kinds of professional backgrounds.
• 39:38
  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes when people come with a corporate background, they do have a lot of transferable skills, like just yeah, then and there's a lot of different things that they could do, and they have a natural tendency to be learning certain things.
• 39:52
  SPEAKER_00: Um, this client came from the construction industry, which weirdly, like a decent percentage of people that come to me are from construction.
• 40:01
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what that's about.
• 40:02
  SPEAKER_00: But anyway, it's a it's a pattern and it's a trend.
• 40:05
  SPEAKER_00: And interestingly, they've all gone on to do really, really different things.
• 40:10
  SPEAKER_00: Because even though their background in construction might not necessarily translate into online work, people are so much more than what they do at their job.
• 40:23
  SPEAKER_00: But I think our society conditions people to believe that your job is who you are.
• 40:29
  SPEAKER_00: Your job is what you do, it is what you can do, your job is what you're capable of.
• 40:35
  SPEAKER_00: So if you've been siloed in a specific job or career and you want to work online, then therefore you just cannot because it doesn't translate.
• 40:45
  SPEAKER_00: But I don't think about it that way.
• 40:47
  SPEAKER_00: When I did the career assessment for this client of mine, the kind of construction that he works in or the department in construction is he's in the purchasing department.
• 40:58
  SPEAKER_00: So basically he's buying, he's buying material for different projects.
• 41:03
  SPEAKER_00: And it sounds like the work is pretty same-same-y, if you will.
• 41:09
  SPEAKER_00: Like he's been doing the same thing for a really long time.
• 41:12
  SPEAKER_00: There's not a lot of room for growth in the company because he just they need a person to do this one job, and that's the job that needs to be done, and that's kind of it.
• 41:20
  SPEAKER_00: So it's interesting for me getting on a career assessment like that at the beginning because I'm always like, okay, when someone has more limited hard skills, it means that we got to get creative looking at the soft skills.
• 41:33
  SPEAKER_00: And soft skills could include your network.
• 41:37
  SPEAKER_00: Like, who do who, what kind of people do you actually have access to?
• 41:42
  SPEAKER_00: And um, what are different things that you've done in your life outside of work that could be relevant?
• 41:49
  SPEAKER_00: And long story short, he's gonna go into doing search engine optimization.
• 41:54
  SPEAKER_00: And we had a whole bunch of reasons why we decided that for him.
• 41:58
  SPEAKER_00: But um, yeah, I love showing my clients that they're not actually stuck, that they are capable of learning new things, that it doesn't take that long.
• 42:07
  SPEAKER_00: You don't need a college degree to go learn a new thing that can make you a valuable person in the digital marketplace.
• 42:16
  SPEAKER_00: So, anyway, to get back on track with this episode, what I'm talking about is the knowledge that I'm never stuck because I have my own remote business.
• 42:28
  SPEAKER_00: There is literally nothing stopping me from burning it all down and starting something new, or starting something new on the side before I shut this down, or changing my offer, or pivoting my brand so that I can start working with a slightly different kind of clientele.
• 42:47
  SPEAKER_00: Like there are so many things that I can do to change up my career.
• 42:52
  SPEAKER_00: So even though I absolutely love, love, love being a career coach, I feel like I'm really utilizing all of my gifts in what I do.
• 43:00
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if I will continue doing it in the digital nomad capacity forever.
• 43:05
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but who knows?
• 43:07
  SPEAKER_00: I might not be doing it within the digital nomad life academy forever, but who knows?
• 43:12
  SPEAKER_00: I can change if I want to.
• 43:14
  SPEAKER_00: And that is the whole point.
• 43:16
  SPEAKER_00: And do you know what?
• 43:18
  SPEAKER_00: Like, not being stuck within my career is just part of it.
• 43:22
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not stuck in any country.
• 43:25
  SPEAKER_00: Thank God.
• 43:26
  SPEAKER_00: Like personally, I really don't feel like I resonate with the United States and I therefore don't want to live there.
• 43:34
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't have a passport to another country, but just because I don't have a passport to another country, that doesn't mean I can't live somewhere else.
• 43:41
  SPEAKER_00: Again, I've been living abroad out of the United States for since 2013.
• 43:46
  SPEAKER_00: So um I'm not stuck in any particular place that I don't enjoy.
• 43:52
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not stuck around certain people that I think are toxic to my life, which like I have changed locations because of a personal connection, unfortunately.
• 44:03
  SPEAKER_00: And um also, do you know what?
• 44:05
  SPEAKER_00: I've I've been in long-distance relationships where we don't have to have that much time of distance because I get to go be with the person that I want to be with, because I don't have to be anywhere at all.
• 44:20
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that that's really beautiful is knowing that like I get to say yes to love, I get to say yes to romantic opportunities because I'm not stuck in any particular location.
• 44:33
  SPEAKER_00: And for me, as a single woman who's looking for the love of my life, like and literally nothing less than that, I feel confident that I will get to have that in my lifetime.
• 44:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like I will get to experience very big love in my lifetime because there's no reason why I can't pursue it in whatever form or capacity it arises in my life.
• 45:01
  SPEAKER_00: And on the other side of that, I also have ended relationships because I didn't want to continue.
• 45:09
  SPEAKER_00: And I was able to do that bravely, knowing that I would get to adjust the rest of my life to accommodate my new singledom.
• 45:19
  SPEAKER_00: Um, something that I've seen with a lot of friends is that they're in a relationship with somebody, and you know, that somebody knows their coworkers and they've integrated into the friend group and their routines are all kind of enmeshed with one another.
• 45:35
  SPEAKER_00: So if they were to break up, it not only would be disrupting the actual romantic relationship, but it would be disrupting their whole lifestyle, basically.
• 45:46
  SPEAKER_00: And um, that is just not the case when you are remote, because when you're remote, you no longer need to make friends again or relationships out of convenience.
• 45:58
  SPEAKER_00: You're making friends and relationships out of true alignment.
• 46:01
  SPEAKER_00: And that is back to the autonomous thing and knowing who you are.
• 46:05
  SPEAKER_00: You're not ever stuck in any situation, which actually, I know there's some rumor or belief that digital nomads don't want to commit to anything.
• 46:15
  SPEAKER_00: But actually, I think that it's easier to commit to things when you are free, because when you're committing to something, it's never out of convenience or pressure.
• 46:25
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be out of real desire.
• 46:28
  SPEAKER_00: And you're committing to something because you want to go all in on it because it feels right for you.
• 46:33
  SPEAKER_00: And you also know that if you commit to something now and then you change your mind, it's not like every day that goes by that you remain in the commitment that you're digging yourself deeper and deeper into the hole.
• 46:45
  SPEAKER_00: That's just not part of your life.
• 46:47
  SPEAKER_00: And again, it just makes you feel safer to explore different possibilities.
• 46:52
  SPEAKER_00: It allows you to feel safer, uh, hypothesizing different ways of living life.
• 46:58
  SPEAKER_00: And it allows yourself to actually drop into the present moment and just be with whatever it is that you want to be doing and feeling right now, knowing that you are not stuck ever.
• 47:10
  SPEAKER_00: And this is a natural segue now into number seven, which is learning to trust the unknown.
• 47:18
  SPEAKER_00: I would say this is when it starts to get more of more spiritual.
• 47:24
  SPEAKER_00: When you work for yourself and you are autonomous and connected to your joy and not controlling the outcomes, saying yes to life as it comes up.
• 47:35
  SPEAKER_00: Knowing that you're not stuck when you don't have clarity on what is next, when you don't know where you're gonna be in a year from now, it stops feeling so scary.
• 47:50
  SPEAKER_00: And it actually just starts feeling more normal.
• 47:54
  SPEAKER_00: Like for me, why would I have a five-year plan?
• 47:58
  SPEAKER_00: That just has never made any sense to me.
• 48:01
  SPEAKER_00: I want to give myself permission to continue growing as a spiritual being and to continue getting to know myself on deeper levels and saying yes to things and no to other things and being able to change my mind and pivoting my career if I want to, or responding to the world around me.
• 48:20
  SPEAKER_00: Like I don't know what's gonna happen between now and five years from now.
• 48:24
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if I'm gonna be single.
• 48:25
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if I'm gonna be married.
• 48:27
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if I'm gonna have a three-year-old baby.
• 48:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I have no idea.
• 48:32
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know how much money I'm gonna have in my bank account.
• 48:34
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I don't know what career I'm gonna be doing by then.
• 48:38
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what house I'm gonna be living in.
• 48:39
  SPEAKER_00: And it just doesn't, it just doesn't matter.
• 48:42
  SPEAKER_00: It just doesn't matter.
• 48:44
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that is a really different way of perceiving life than society tells us to live life.
• 48:53
  SPEAKER_00: Society tells us that the right thing to do, or the responsible or the ideal thing to do, is to buy a house that you know you're gonna be able to have for the next 30 years of your life.
• 49:04
  SPEAKER_00: Or society tells us that you really should have a baby by a certain age, otherwise, you're gonna be a geriatric mom and that's not good.
• 49:15
  SPEAKER_00: We're actually now science says the opposite, uh, which is pretty cool.
• 49:19
  SPEAKER_00: But that's for another topic another day.
• 49:22
  SPEAKER_00: Um, society tells us to have a five-year plan.
• 49:26
  SPEAKER_00: Society tells us to plan our finances so that we can spend during retirement.
• 49:33
  SPEAKER_00: Very rarely or literally never, when society, people around you that are very normy muggle people, when they are talking about their five-year plan, they're talking about the plan as if everything is going to go according to plan.
• 49:49
  SPEAKER_00: And they're gonna do whatever they can to make sure that everything goes according to plan when they're just not factoring in the concept that things happen.
• 50:01
  SPEAKER_00: You know, people change, breakups happen, earthquakes happen, house fires happen.
• 50:07
  SPEAKER_00: But aside from disasters, new things enter our lives as well.
• 50:11
  SPEAKER_00: Like new people come into our lives, new opportunities, new experiences that change us to our core.
• 50:20
  SPEAKER_00: You will just start trusting more in the unknown.
• 50:23
  SPEAKER_00: And it's gonna make your life so much richer, I promise.
• 50:28
  SPEAKER_00: Now, speaking of richer, that is number eight, and it is redefining what rich actually even means.
• 50:36
  SPEAKER_00: Most of society, if you ask them what rich means, they'd say something like, it's a lot of money in our bank account.
• 50:43
  SPEAKER_00: It means that we have certain material possessions or we've acquired, yeah, things in our life, or that we're set up for success in order to spend money during retirement.
• 50:55
  SPEAKER_00: It's it's very money focused.
• 50:57
  SPEAKER_00: But having a rich life is so much deeper than just money.
• 51:02
  SPEAKER_00: It really means being able to prioritize what actually it is that you value.
• 51:08
  SPEAKER_00: And it becomes a much more multidimensional way to measure the word rich.
• 51:13
  SPEAKER_00: So it's not just about your career progression, it's not just about your income or your prestige or what you've accomplished or achieved.
• 51:22
  SPEAKER_00: It is about do you have good relationships?
• 51:25
  SPEAKER_00: Do you have a sense of purpose?
• 51:27
  SPEAKER_00: Are you healthy?
• 51:28
  SPEAKER_00: Are you enjoying life?
• 51:31
  SPEAKER_00: That to me is what a rich life is.
• 51:34
  SPEAKER_00: A rich life is when it feels rich.
• 51:37
  SPEAKER_00: And you can feel very rich without even having a lot of money.
• 51:42
  SPEAKER_00: Actually, I might argue that time is even more valuable than money.
• 51:47
  SPEAKER_00: Actually, there's this uh thing that I've seen on social media go viral where somebody says, Okay, if I promised you$10 million, would you take it?
• 51:58
  SPEAKER_00: And the person's like, Yeah, obviously.
• 51:59
  SPEAKER_00: And then like, okay, what if I promised you$10 million, but you would only get to live until tomorrow?
• 52:06
  SPEAKER_00: The person would say, Okay, I wouldn't take it.
• 52:08
  SPEAKER_00: And then they're like, Okay, so your life is more valuable than 10 million.
• 52:11
  SPEAKER_00: What if I offered you$10 billion?
• 52:14
  SPEAKER_00: What if I offered you$10 trillion?
• 52:18
  SPEAKER_00: And always the person wouldn't take it because their time, their actual life itself is so much more valuable than any amount of money.
• 52:27
  SPEAKER_00: There is no amount of money that is ever more valuable than time.
• 52:31
  SPEAKER_00: Obviously, you want to have a balance, right?
• 52:33
  SPEAKER_00: You don't just want to have an endless life with no money.
• 52:36
  SPEAKER_00: That wouldn't be very comfortable, would it?
• 52:38
  SPEAKER_00: That wouldn't be very rich either.
• 52:40
  SPEAKER_00: But to be able to have both and have it be more of a balance rather than just all money and no time or no ability to do what actually matters to you, that's not to me rich at all.
• 52:53
  SPEAKER_00: That is actually you're experiencing a lot of scarcity when you're in that situation.
• 52:58
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that causes a lot of people to feel pretty sad, to feel pretty depressed.
• 53:03
  SPEAKER_00: Like you work so hard and you make all this money for what?
• 53:07
  SPEAKER_00: Just so that you can have your nights and weekends off, but you're so burnt out from your intense job that you actually end up probably just like numbing or drinking all weekend and then crashing and not wanting to talk to anybody or do any and do anything after work.
• 53:24
  SPEAKER_00: Like that is not a rich way, no matter how much is in your bank account.
• 53:30
  SPEAKER_00: So you can redefine what your rich life is and know that being wealthy in just one area of your life and bankrupt in the other doesn't count.
• 53:40
  SPEAKER_00: And now, speaking of other areas of your life where you can be rich, so this is number nine, which is being surrounded by people who expand your worldview.
• 53:52
  SPEAKER_00: I'm talking about friends, people that are in your inner circle, which when you are living a traditional life, I kind of spoke about this earlier in one of the other pointers, but you just have less control over who you spend time with, especially when you're going into an office.
• 54:11
  SPEAKER_00: Like those other colleagues, they're chosen for you.
• 54:15
  SPEAKER_00: They're hired by HR.
• 54:17
  SPEAKER_00: You didn't get any say in who you sit next to or who's eating around you at lunchtime.
• 54:23
  SPEAKER_00: You don't get to choose the kind of people that you have small talk with.
• 54:29
  SPEAKER_00: But when you work for yourself, you do.
• 54:32
  SPEAKER_00: You get to like you are just you get to be so much more intentional with who you spend time with.
• 54:39
  SPEAKER_00: And you're naturally going to gravitate towards people who are expanders, people who make you see life in a in a different, more beautiful way.
• 54:52
  SPEAKER_00: You're probably gonna not gravitate towards people who make you feel small or make you feel like your life choices are not good enough because they don't align with societal standards.
• 55:01
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna start choosing people who think the same way as you.
• 55:06
  SPEAKER_00: And when other people think the same way as this, like that see the world full of possibilities, that know that rich is not defined by just cash in the bank, then they will start to fill your brain, influence your brain with different ideas, thoughts, and beliefs.
• 55:26
  SPEAKER_00: Like the whole million-dollar a year thing that I told you about earlier.
• 55:31
  SPEAKER_00: I never would have even dreamed to dream that previously.
• 55:36
  SPEAKER_00: But when I hired business coaches, you know, it's their job to make you more money focused.
• 55:43
  SPEAKER_00: And as a result, I did become more money focused, and therefore I made way more money.
• 55:49
  SPEAKER_00: Where your attention goes, energy flows.
• 55:53
  SPEAKER_00: And I think you probably already understand my perspective uh that like I'm not a super money-driven person.
• 56:01
  SPEAKER_00: But at the same time, that is kind of an old identity because now that I've experienced money, I realize that money can also bring me new opportunities and it also connects me with more interesting, expansive people.
• 56:16
  SPEAKER_00: And that is what makes me more motivated to make money.
• 56:19
  SPEAKER_00: But, you know, if I were still living in my hometown around, I don't know, just more normal people who make normal salaries, I would probably feel pretty maybe pompous for thinking that it's normal for me to want to make that much money.
• 56:39
  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, my point is that your social group expands what you perceive to be possible.
• 56:45
  SPEAKER_00: And just when you're living in a normal life, you don't get to be so intentional about that group being curated.
• 56:53
  SPEAKER_00: But when you are location independent, whenever you spend time with people, you're always gonna have to go out of your way to see them.
• 57:00
  SPEAKER_00: So you're probably gonna choose people that you think are pretty freaking cool.
• 57:05
  SPEAKER_00: And speaking of being pretty freaking cool, this leads me to my 10th point.
• 57:11
  SPEAKER_00: And this is, I think, my favorite one.
• 57:14
  SPEAKER_00: Actually, it's this thought that inspired the entire episode.
• 57:19
  SPEAKER_00: And it is knowing that my 90-year-old self, or however old I am, when I'm at the end of my life, she is gonna be so proud of me.
• 57:32
  SPEAKER_00: She's gonna be so proud of me.
• 57:33
  SPEAKER_00: She's gonna be so proud that I stayed true to my values.
• 57:38
  SPEAKER_00: She's gonna be so proud that I listened to my intuition.
• 57:43
  SPEAKER_00: She's gonna be so proud that I did the hard thing.
• 57:46
  SPEAKER_00: She's gonna be so proud of all the adventures that I've had.
• 57:49
  SPEAKER_00: She's gonna be so happy to reminisce on all the amazing memories, all the cool things that we've done.
• 57:57
  SPEAKER_00: And she's gonna be so filled with wisdom, not just wisdom that she read in a book, but wisdom that she gained through living life as fully, as rawly, as authentically as possible.
• 58:13
  SPEAKER_00: And I know, and I'm sure you've also heard this statistic that the thing that people regret most on their deathbed are things that they didn't do, like opportunities that they didn't take advantage of.
• 58:25
  SPEAKER_00: And I just know that the way that I live my life, I'm not gonna be one of those people.
• 58:30
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna be the opposite.
• 58:32
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna be so satisfied because, like, even if, well, not even if, like between now and the rest of my life, I'm just, I'm just so the way that I am that I don't see myself going back into societal standards, societal expectations.
• 58:50
  SPEAKER_00: I don't see my personality regressing into being a rule follower, into being someone who's scared to speak my truth, or, you know, who wants to defer my responsibilities to some kind of boss or employer so that I don't have to make decisions myself.
• 59:06
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's that's the opposite of the direction that I'm going in.
• 59:10
  SPEAKER_00: If anything, I'm just getting more and more deeper and deeper into my true authentic self, which who knows what that is going to open up for me in later years of my life.
• 59:21
  SPEAKER_00: But I just know and trust, see, trusting in the unknown, that it's gonna be amazing.
• 59:28
  SPEAKER_00: And that is what I think is maybe the coolest thing about choosing this life.
• 59:35
  SPEAKER_00: And for you, whoever you are listening to this, ask yourself now if nothing changed in your life, if you continued on the path that you are on right now, how do you think your 90-year-old self would feel about it?
• 59:53
  SPEAKER_00: Do you think that you will have regrets?
• 59:56
  SPEAKER_00: Do you think that you will wish that you had done something different?
• 1:00:01
  SPEAKER_00: Because if so, you gotta make a change now.
• 1:00:08
  SPEAKER_00: Even though I said step or number, the first thing that changes about you fundamentally is you become the CEO of your life.
• 1:00:15
  SPEAKER_00: You actually are the CEO of your life all the time.
• 1:00:18
  SPEAKER_00: It's just that most people are not a good CEO.
• 1:00:21
  SPEAKER_00: Most people don't claim it as their role.
• 1:00:24
  SPEAKER_00: Basically, what I should have said at the beginning is you become a good CEO.
• 1:00:28
  SPEAKER_00: You become really good at your job of managing and operating and owning your life and taking full responsibility for the outcome.
• 1:00:37
  SPEAKER_00: Not that you're not surrendered, not that you're not trusting the unknown, but that you're doing what you can, you're making decisions that get your company, your business, your life, yourself towards the goal that you want it to be, which maybe is whatever rich means to you, whether that means spending more time with your family, going to the edges of the world, not being in a long-distance relationship anymore, and actually being able to be with your loved one, having adventures, being a cool grandparent, being getting healthier for your kids, for your spouse.
• 1:01:13
  SPEAKER_00: What is it that matters to you?
• 1:01:15
  SPEAKER_00: And is your life right now conducive to that?
• 1:01:21
  SPEAKER_00: Are you able to be fully living and operating in your values right now?
• 1:01:26
  SPEAKER_00: Because if you're not, you gotta step into that CEO role.
• 1:01:33
  SPEAKER_00: And that is why I started with that number one, because that is the first thing, and that's something that you can do right now before you become a digital nomad.
• 1:01:40
  SPEAKER_00: You can step into that CEO role, you can take unapologetic responsibility for everything that happens in your life.
• 1:01:47
  SPEAKER_00: And that means sometimes making scary investments, like making scary decisions, taking risks, saying yes to things that feel a little bit scary, but you know are getting you closer to your dream life.
• 1:02:02
  SPEAKER_00: So if that involves you starting a remote business, which, as you know my opinion, I think it should, I would love to talk to you about it.
• 1:02:13
  SPEAKER_00: And when I say I would love to talk to you about it, I mean no pressure.
• 1:02:17
  SPEAKER_00: Like we can just have a simple chat in the DMs.
• 1:02:20
  SPEAKER_00: I love speaking to people in my DMs.
• 1:02:22
  SPEAKER_00: It inspires podcast episodes.
• 1:02:24
  SPEAKER_00: It just is part of my purpose.
• 1:02:26
  SPEAKER_00: It's part of my dharma.
• 1:02:28
  SPEAKER_00: And I am genuinely just here to help.
• 1:02:30
  SPEAKER_00: And ultimately, if I think that you would be a really good fit for the Digital Nomad Life Academy, of course, I'll invite you, obviously.
• 1:02:37
  SPEAKER_00: But um also at the same time, like I am the least pressury person ever.
• 1:02:43
  SPEAKER_00: I just really believe that the right people discover me.
• 1:02:47
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like my business is energetically aligned that the people that I can help end up finding me.
• 1:02:55
  SPEAKER_00: So if maybe you're one of them, maybe you're not, maybe you're someone where just a simple conversation or one of my free resources.
• 1:03:02
  SPEAKER_00: I have so many free things that I can send you that would get you closer in that direction.
• 1:03:09
  SPEAKER_00: Um, my favorite resource that I made, like the definitely the best one, it's a training called Five Steps to Work From Wherever.
• 1:03:17
  SPEAKER_00: If you go to my DMs and you send the keyword five steps, I will, my my automation in my DMs will send it to you.
• 1:03:25
  SPEAKER_00: That is a 90-minute business training that will literally teach you everything step by step, like high level, what you need to understand about what it actually takes for you to start a remote business, doing something that's aligned with you, not a pyramid scheme, not some kind of bullshit like business in a box or some gimmicky scam thing where there's a bunch of competition, not something that makes you need to be an influencer or an ads manager, like no, like a business that's true to you, that's unique to who you are.
• 1:03:56
  SPEAKER_00: And again, if you don't want to take a course, we can do a career assessment.
• 1:04:00
  SPEAKER_00: If you actually just want to peruse opportunities, I have a whole guide that you it's like a choose your own adventure type thing where you can explore all the different remote work opportunities in this really interactive document.
• 1:04:12
  SPEAKER_00: I just I have stuff for you.
• 1:04:14
  SPEAKER_00: I have ways to help you for free, for low cost, or for something much more high-touch where you and I can actually develop a real relationship within the program and I can personally guide you in the direction of your dreams.
• 1:04:27
  SPEAKER_00: And that is with the Digital Numid Life Academy.
• 1:04:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I'd love to tell you all about it in the DMs.
• 1:04:32
  SPEAKER_00: So hit me up.
• 1:04:33
  SPEAKER_00: I hope that you are inspired by this podcast.
• 1:04:36
  SPEAKER_00: I hope that you are ready for your spiritual evolution because that is what's coming for you when you choose this path.
• 1:04:44
  SPEAKER_00: And I promise it's going to be the best decision of your life.
• 1:04:49
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for listening to the Digital Numbed Life podcast, and I'll see you in the next episode.
• 1:04:53
  SPEAKER_00: Bye.