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398: Human Design Type - The Reflector · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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Nicole Laino: Welcome to Unshakable with Human Design, the show dedicated to helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to flow without sacrificing results.
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Nicole Laino: Come here to become an unshakable human and build an unshakable business according to your human design.
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Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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Nicole Laino: Hello and welcome to Unshakable with Human Design.
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Nicole Laino: I'm your host Nicole Laino and we're here for our last, our final episode in our type series.
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Nicole Laino: That one quick, right?
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Nicole Laino: This was a fast one.
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Nicole Laino: It's only five episodes.
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Nicole Laino: Five types, five episodes, Quick and dirty.
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Nicole Laino: And especially on this show where we do two episodes a week, we didn't even get through a whole month.
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Nicole Laino: But I hope that you enjoyed this.
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Nicole Laino: I hope you loved the deep dive into each of the types.
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Nicole Laino: The reason that we started this series and why I think type is important is it's the start of everything.
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Nicole Laino: This is our intro into human design, but it also holds so much more richness than I think a lot of us give it credit for and give it time and respect for.
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Nicole Laino: So type tells you how you operate correctly.
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Nicole Laino: It gives your strategy, it gives your signature, it gives your not self theme.
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Nicole Laino: It helps you become acutely aware of your alignment and your misalignment in a very specific way.
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Nicole Laino: So I always say it's difficult.
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Nicole Laino: You know, when we say something about like self awareness, you have to be self aware.
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Nicole Laino: Self aware of what?
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Nicole Laino: You know, I think it takes a lifetime to really say like what's important for me to be aware of and what.
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Nicole Laino: I think one of the values of human design is that it can help you understand very quickly what are the things that you need to be aware of.
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Nicole Laino: You specifically, I have to be aware of different things than my husband does.
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Nicole Laino: As a self projected projector, I have to be aware of different things than, you know, my best friend growing up who's a reflector, she has a different life experience, I have a different life experience.
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Nicole Laino: I think we can also get very caught up in how things should be.
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Nicole Laino: You know, I should be like this.
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Nicole Laino: I hear so often.
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Nicole Laino: I've done, you know, hundreds of readings at this point, and almost every single one, people tell me how seen they feel and how validated they feel with the life that they've had or the experiences they've had that they don't feel like it's them anymore, that something's wrong with them, that something should have been different or they should have been more like somebody else.
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Nicole Laino: They're like, oh, that's why it's been like this.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not crazy is I think the big headline and no, you're not.
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Nicole Laino: So I wanted to take this time to go through, give each type its due and give its own episode.
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Nicole Laino: We're at the last one now.
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Nicole Laino: We did Manifestors, then we did manifesting Generators, projectors, and now here we are at the Beautiful reflectors.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, so before we get started, I do want to call out.
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Nicole Laino: We have a very cool thing that we put together if you're into human design and business and how these two things come together so that you can have an aligned and profitable business.
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Nicole Laino: So not just aligned where it feels good, because it can't feel good if it isn't making money unless you are independently wealthy and you don't care.
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Nicole Laino: But most of us are not.
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Nicole Laino: We need to be profitable.
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Nicole Laino: And for that you need some other tools.
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Nicole Laino: For that, you're going to need probably a mix of proven business strategies, marketing strategies, and then alignment to help you one, master yourself, master your magnetism.
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Nicole Laino: Know what people come to you for.
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Nicole Laino: Really get focused on what makes you and how you operate and how you operate best.
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Nicole Laino: Because if you can remove resistance, everything gets easier.
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Nicole Laino: When it gets easier, you do more of it.
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Nicole Laino: Human design's a beautiful window into that.
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Nicole Laino: We'll also have it in the show notes for you.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, so let's do it.
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Nicole Laino: Let's dive into our last type, the reflectors, the most mysterious and rare.
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Nicole Laino: And I think that they're mysterious for a number of reasons.
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Nicole Laino: One, there's so few of them.
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Nicole Laino: So it's not like you're surrounded by them.
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Nicole Laino: They're 1% of the population, so very few of them.
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Nicole Laino: But there's billions of people on Earth, so there are lots of them.
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Nicole Laino: They're just fewer and further between than the other types.
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Nicole Laino: So they're a little mysterious to us.
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Nicole Laino: They're mysterious also because of the way that they are.
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Nicole Laino: They're so different.
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Nicole Laino: They're so different than us.
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Nicole Laino: And I don't mean that.
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Nicole Laino: I'm going to go back to something that I said in the previous episodes about this.
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Nicole Laino: This isn't about labels.
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Nicole Laino: This isn't about, like, oh, reflectors are weird.
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Nicole Laino: No, they just.
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Nicole Laino: They have a different experience.
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Nicole Laino: And I think validating that experience helps them sink into it.
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Nicole Laino: Feel like everything that they're doing is right versus everything that they're doing is wrong, or they should be a different way.
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Nicole Laino: And I think that they have many gifts that, you know, this whole series has really been about getting really comfortable with your gifts, so you're not taking them for granted.
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Nicole Laino: And I think reflectors can really take theirs for granted because what they are, these great observers, because we talked about the aura for each one.
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Nicole Laino: Oh, let me tell you how you become a reflector.
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Nicole Laino: It's super simple.
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Nicole Laino: There's no centers defined in your chart.
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Nicole Laino: If you are a reflector, you'll look at your chart and every single.
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Nicole Laino: All nine centers will be white.
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Nicole Laino: There will be no channels, and you will be what we call a lunar being, not a solar being like the rest of us.
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Nicole Laino: So this is what makes you different.
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Nicole Laino: You get your energy literally from different places than we do.
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Nicole Laino: You operate more under the lunar cycle than you do under the solar influence that the rest of us do.
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Nicole Laino: It doesn't mean the sun doesn't have its effect on you.
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Nicole Laino: Your conscious sun still plays a role, a huge role in your life.
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Nicole Laino: But the way that you move, you're going to change.
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Nicole Laino: Your chart gets activated based on the Moon's movements and is how you're probably going to get the most stability in your life.
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Nicole Laino: The Moon moves in a predictable pattern, so that's the only predictable thing in a reflector's life as far as the energy is concerned.
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Nicole Laino: So they're naturally kind of more fluid in nature because of all of that openness.
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Nicole Laino: Again, don't let the word fluid.
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Nicole Laino: You put like a label or some sort of idea on top of that.
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Nicole Laino: Every single thing about design.
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Nicole Laino: I'm speaking about tendencies, and I'm speaking in generalities based on the types, but there's always a unique human being on top of the chart, so there's always room for that.
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Nicole Laino: So I always go out of my way to say that because I think some people can be like, no, I'm not like that.
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Nicole Laino: And there can be a little bit of defensiveness, or they think, no, that's not true for me.
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Nicole Laino: And they can almost take it, like, I don't want to say offense, but like, they're explaining it and it's like, no, you are a unique and individual person.
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Nicole Laino: These are just some tendencies of a particular type.
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Nicole Laino: So reflectors can tend to be fluid, meaning changeable.
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Nicole Laino: And where they can sometimes get stuck is feeling like they shouldn't be changeable, that they should be one thing, that they should commit to something.
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Nicole Laino: Their aura is very different.
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Nicole Laino: So we talked about the auras for each type and the type.
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Nicole Laino: The aura for a reflector is what we call a sampling aura.
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Nicole Laino: It's actually much more resilient to conditioning by other people than a projector who's literally in the energy of everybody else.
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Nicole Laino: That's not how the reflector energy works.
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Nicole Laino: Their aura works in this.
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Nicole Laino: Like, it looks a little crazy when you see, like, pictures of it, when you see, like, drawings of what it would look like.
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Nicole Laino: It's out there, sort of like sampling everything.
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Nicole Laino: It's beyond their body, sort of sampling everything in the atmosphere, in the group, in the community.
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Nicole Laino: There's a quiet wisdom that comes with this.
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Nicole Laino: They tend to know more about life than they do about necessarily the specific individuals.
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Nicole Laino: Their energy, their aura isn't doing what a projector's does, which is go into a person.
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Nicole Laino: Their aura is picking things up on more of a collective group nature.
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Nicole Laino: They're picking up on the bigger picture.
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Nicole Laino: They see the bigger picture of, like, life.
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Nicole Laino: That's what their genius is.
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Nicole Laino: That is what their value is.
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Nicole Laino: And a lot of times they will discount it, because who am I to say that I know something about these big things?
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Nicole Laino: So there are people.
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Nicole Laino: You know, I think that the life of being a reflector can be a little disorienting at times because you are taking in a lot about everyone, about everything, and you're pulling it in.
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Nicole Laino: So when you try to have, like, a regimented or, you know, finely laid out life, that can feel a little bit hard.
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Nicole Laino: Usually reflectors aren't giving themselves enough time by themselves to.
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Nicole Laino: Because the challenge is for them to just be.
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Nicole Laino: Not be anything specific, because that will change, to give themselves permission to change and to give themselves permission to share their perceptions of what they're picking up about everyone.
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Nicole Laino: So, you know, they just have to share and not worry about how those perceptions will be received.
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Nicole Laino: And they have to be open to their perceptions, maybe changing over time as well as things change again, there's no.
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Nicole Laino: I think it can be the only certainty in a reflector's life is the uncertainty.
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Nicole Laino: So I think that they have the potential to be really wise and sort of masters of that, of living and sort of riding through life.
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Nicole Laino: They are generally very helpful, insightful, highly empathic people when they are aligned.
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Nicole Laino: And they can be controlling, withdrawn, and kind of critical when they're not.
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Nicole Laino: So they tend to feel like when they over give, you know, that open G center is really everything that open G center is pulling them into all these different environments.
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Nicole Laino: And people usually like to be around reflectors because they reflect back a lot of who we are through that open G center.
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Nicole Laino: And we like to see ourselves, we like to see a nice reflection of us, but that can be really draining for them.
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Nicole Laino: So we want them to be everywhere.
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Nicole Laino: And they're like, I wish I could just be by myself.
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Nicole Laino: I want to go like hug a tree and.
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Nicole Laino: But be alone, you know.
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Nicole Laino: These are people that connect very deeply with animals and nature and they can really feel like they want to make a difference in the world because they can sense the difference that's needed, that can feel big sometimes to them.
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Nicole Laino: And if you're a reflector listening to this, then I encourage you to work on owning the bigness of that.
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Nicole Laino: And you wouldn't have been given this gift if it wasn't meant to be used.
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Nicole Laino: So can you start to become comfortable with the fact that you might be here for big things?
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Nicole Laino: This doesn't necessarily mean big publicly, but you might be here to make a really significant impact.
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Nicole Laino: And you can't do that unless you're telling people what you feel.
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Nicole Laino: Because I always say that it's important for reflectors to stop thinking about what they feel and instead tune into or stop thinking about how they feel and tune into what they feel.
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Nicole Laino: I got it reversed there for a second.
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Nicole Laino: So when they're focused on how they feel, I don't feel good and instead focus on if can you tune into what it is that they are feeling.
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Nicole Laino: So when you feel bad as a reflector, what's really underneath that?
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Nicole Laino: What are you feeling underneath the bad feeling underneath, you know, if you feel sick, can you tune into that a little bit more?
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Nicole Laino: They're highly intuitive beings and a lot of them would not necessarily call themselves psychic or an intuitive.
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Nicole Laino: Like they wouldn't identify with that because what they're doing is.
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Nicole Laino: I think that these are, you know, there's that clairsentience.
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Nicole Laino: There is that I just know things I just sense things.
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Nicole Laino: They're sensing something deeper, something bigger.
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Nicole Laino: They're sensing what's needed, they're sensing what's not needed.
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Nicole Laino: They're sensing a direction.
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Nicole Laino: They can be conditioned, but they're conditioned more by the group than by the individual.
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Nicole Laino: I think a reflector could be in a cult kind of thing.
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Nicole Laino: Like there can be that type of thing because they can really start to identify with the group's stuff.
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Nicole Laino: They could probably be seen as a leader in that space.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not saying that reflectors are cult leaders or anything like that, but do you see what I mean about being pulled by the group, being pulled by the community or the larger energy versus the individual's energy?
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Nicole Laino: One person is not going to condition a reflector as much as the community that they are around.
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Nicole Laino: And the way to not be conditioned is to be aware, is to spend time by yourself, is to really pay attention to what you are feeling and the quality of it.
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Nicole Laino: And what are you really perceiving under all of that.
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Nicole Laino: My favorite example, if you listen to the show a lot, you've maybe heard me say this before, but my favorite example of a reflector is Margaret Atwood, who wrote the Handmaid's Tale.
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Nicole Laino: This is something where it's not one person that she was around that influenced that story.
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Nicole Laino: It is a systemic, collective problem that she sensed with the way that women are treated and have been treated.
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Nicole Laino: And she had a vision for where this was going.
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Nicole Laino: Not a good one.
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Nicole Laino: I don't like her vision, but I also don't see necessarily that she was wrong, unfortunately.
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Nicole Laino: It's extreme.
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Nicole Laino: But I think what she picked up on and themes that are there and the sentiments that are there are very much real.
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Nicole Laino: She wrote books about them.
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Nicole Laino: So this is someone, you know when we say, like reflectors, oh, the common misconception, oh, they have no energy.
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Nicole Laino: They have energy.
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Nicole Laino: It's just not sustainable.
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Nicole Laino: They're going to need to take breaks.
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Nicole Laino: They're going to probably need to work on their own time.
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Nicole Laino: I think we're all meant to be creative.
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Nicole Laino: Nobody's meant to be producing a hundred percent of the time.
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Nicole Laino: And that's unfortunately, the world that we've built.
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Nicole Laino: So somebody like a Margaret Atwood, who kind of made her own schedule around her books, where she was creative and she had something to say, and if she didn't, she wasn't writing, although she was quite prolific, but I'm guessing she didn't wake up every single day and write all day long.
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Nicole Laino: Maybe she had her writing periods, but she was given that Freedom to say what she needed to say to ring the alarm bell.
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Nicole Laino: That's what reflectors do.
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Nicole Laino: They're also known as the canary.
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Nicole Laino: In the coal mine, canaries were used by miners.
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Nicole Laino: When they would go down into the mines, they would bring canaries with them because canaries are extra sensitive toxic gases that could kill you.
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Nicole Laino: And they were so sensitive that the canary would pass out before it became too much for the people down there.
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Nicole Laino: So if the canary passed out, the miners still had time to get out before they were poisoned.
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Nicole Laino: So I also think it's important they took the canaries out with them.
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Nicole Laino: They saved the canaries.
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Nicole Laino: They didn't leave them down there because the canaries weren't dead, but they would pass out.
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Nicole Laino: And this is kind of like a reflector.
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Nicole Laino: They're ultra sensitive to things that the rest of us are too busy with other things to perceive or just not sensitive enough frequency wise.
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Nicole Laino: They're picking up on a frequency, they're picking up on these deeper themes that are more widespread than probably the rest of us are able to pay attention to or able to pick up on.
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Nicole Laino: So they are that canary.
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Nicole Laino: So they get sick, their body starts to feel these things, they can get very upset.
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Nicole Laino: They can really take things to heart.
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Nicole Laino: They can really feel overwhelmed by this stuff sometimes.
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Nicole Laino: That's the canary.
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Nicole Laino: But like I said, if they're not just like, the way that they can get caught up in this and why design is so helpful is they might just think that they are somebody who can't handle things, that they're too sensitive.
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Nicole Laino: You know, if you don't know you're a reflector, you might have been made to think that you were just overly sensitive and dramatic.
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Nicole Laino: But the truth is that you're highly intuitive and sensitive.
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Nicole Laino: That's a very different thing.
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Nicole Laino: Now, if you're the canary in the coal mine now you've passed out.
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Nicole Laino: It's what am I feeling that made me have such a reaction?
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Nicole Laino: What do I need to say to everyone around so they have enough time to get out of the mind before it affects them too?
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Nicole Laino: How can we change things?
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Nicole Laino: That's the role of the reflector and it's a beautiful role.
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Nicole Laino: But I think that it's, you know, I don't mean to make it sound like it's easy because they're not going to be producing, they're not going to be showing up all the time, they're not going to want to.
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Nicole Laino: So freedom is really important for the reflector.
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Nicole Laino: If you're a reflector, are you giving yourself enough Flexibility in your life to be what you need to be today and then allowing yourself to be what you need to be tomorrow.
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Nicole Laino: Are you noticing what you're feeling when you're coming in contact with things?
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Nicole Laino: Are you noticing, you know, what's the quality of what I'm picking up?
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Nicole Laino: Are you honoring the fact that you are intuitive or are you batting it away like that's for other people?
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Nicole Laino: There's a lot of wisdom in reflectors.
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Nicole Laino: They can sense things that the rest of us can't.
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Nicole Laino: So if that's you, can you own that a little bit more every day and give yourself the freedom to kind of move through this life being whoever you need to be, whatever is coming to you at that time, and just taking notice of what's happening underneath, what's driving these changes, what's making you feel that way?
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Nicole Laino: Get curious about yourself.
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Nicole Laino: I think journaling is a wonderful exercise for everybody.
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Nicole Laino: So certainly for reflectors, because you really will have a lot to reflect on if you're really paying attention to how you feel every day and what those feelings, what's really underneath them.
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