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288 - The New Way to Slay Goals with 1/3 Pure Generator Kaitlin Anthony · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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flow without sacrificing results.
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Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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according to your human design.
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I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and I am not here alone today for a change.
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I have the most amazing guest.
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I am so excited for this incredible human to be on the show.
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She is a client of mine.
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She is a friend.
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She is just an amazing life coach and business mentor.
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She is the creator of the Beam Life Method, which is this incredible
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method for slaying your goals while remaining sane and true to yourself and
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not giving your life or your freedom away to your goals, but actually
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making them part of your journey.
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And I don't know anybody who does this better than her.
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She just has this most amazing energy.
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She's also the host of the brand new podcast, The Goal Slayer Podcast, which
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I am so, so proud of and excited for you.
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Kaitlin Anthony is here with us.
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Kaitlin, welcome to the show.
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Thank you, Nicole.
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And you don't take enough credit for helping me to name
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the new podcast, Goal Slayers.
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So of course, that came from diving deep into my human design
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and purpose and all of that.
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So I could not be happier to be here.
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I love everything that we have worked on together.
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And it has helped me not only enhance me as a human being, but
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also the way I serve in my business.
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And I can't wait just to light it up today with you.
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We're going to have so much fun.
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This is going to be really fun because you just have the most amazing
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energy, so I'm excited to have you on.
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I should also say that you are also a 1/3 Pure Generator.
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And you embody this, and we're going to talk a little bit about human design.
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We're going to talk about all the things that we have been working on
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together because you are a client inside the business by design mentorship.
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So I've been fortunate enough to be part of your journey and not just observing it.
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And one of the things, like I said in the intro, that amazes me about you,
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and I should say that Kaitlin has eight of the nine centers defined.
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You have a super defined chart.
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You have a lot of energy, three motors.
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The only thing that's not defined as your emotional center.
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So it's the only place you're open to other people's stuff.
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The rest of it, you've got it all internally and consistent for you.
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So, there's a lot of energy there, and I think you've channeled it so beautifully.
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You've achieved some really incredible things.
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You have overcome a lot of incredible things, and it's been gratifying and
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really fun to watch you navigating all of what you do and how you do it
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through the lens of your human design, through the talents that you have in
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your channels, through the consistency that you have in your centers.
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But one of the things that I think you do better than pretty much
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anybody that I have really come across is goals with a heart.
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It isn't about just achieving for achieving's sake.
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Always at the forefront for you is about putting yourself first and making sure
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that the goals suit your life rather than just blindly pursuing goals.
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And then breaking those goals down in a manageable way where they feel possible.
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So can you tell everybody about your process and how you take your
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experience and your training as a life coach and you've applied that
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to getting shit done, which is pretty much what you're known for.
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Yeah.
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Getting shit done.
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So generator of me, huh?
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It's like stereotypical.
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Here we go.
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But truly thank you so much for saying all of that.
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That is so kind of you.
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And I think before I talk about my process, it's relevant to talk about a
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few of the things that have come across my path maybe in the last 13 years or so.
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And that is really what's led me all the way up to here.
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So when you mentioned, I have done some incredible things, for those
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of you listening, I don't know if I always say that they're incredible
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things, some of which are incredible, but also some were really gut
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wrenching and hard, and I didn't quite understand how all of those things
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fit in or how it would show up for me.
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And now that I am doing some of this work and how I want to guide my clients,
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it's all starting to make sense.
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So some of the things that Nicole referenced is over the course of the
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last 13 years, I've gone through a really huge fitness and health journey.
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So I've lost over 80 pounds, doing a combination of some endurance, some
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really intense endurance running, completing an Ironman triathlon.
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I've also gone through a really rough divorce.
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I'm a mom of a now seven year old, but we got divorced when she was three.
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And that was difficult because not only was the divorce hard, but I
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had built a business with my now ex husband that was a family, a gym.
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And we had a ton of people that I cared for deeply.
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And so, leaving that relationship was also like leaving a big family.
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And through that, I also came out as queer, in my thirties, which was a big
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shock to some, and to some other people, they're like, well, that's just Kaitlin.
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She's going to live her life and do her thing and not surprised at all.
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So there was a lot of those things and through all of that, finding my
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calling, which meant switching careers twice and finally landing here in.
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And what I realized is I've been coaching my entire life pretty much
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in different ways, but it all showed up for me when I was needing an outlet
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for all the things I was going through and people were really resonating.
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And what was the biggest thing for a lot of people was, I didn't have necessarily
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a trust to start a business, right?
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I wasn't born with a six pack and an athlete mentality to
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be able to run these races.
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I came from a divorce family, and so I was not necessarily equipped
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emotionally to go through a divorce or these kinds of things.
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So I didn't have all of the tools, as many of us don't when
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we're navigating these things.
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And people were like, how are you doing this?
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How are you getting through this?
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How are you starting businesses?
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How are you accomplishing these big races and feeling like you can manage it?
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And I will say, social media makes things look a lot more shiny than they really
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were at times because yes, I got through it, but it hasn't always been pretty.
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And through all of the grittiness and the hardness is actually how I
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did create this Beam Method that I've been able to really, with so much of
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your help and guidance, get so clear on how I can take my experience, and
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also how to actually cross the finish line and help my clients do the same.
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And so much of what that process looks like is getting clear on what
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it is you actually want for yourself.
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And I think you probably can resonate with this being a business mentor, is
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you probably have a lot of clients.
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Myself was probably one of them.
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Where we think what we want is like, I want the 50k months.
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I want to buy this big shiny car or house or do all the things that you're
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supposed to do as a business owner.
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But when we really start to uncover, it's not really what the motivator is, right?
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That's not actually what we want.
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What we want is the feeling that those things come with sometimes.
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So what we want is to feel confident.
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We want to feel successful.
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We want to feel like we are making an impact and we're feeling purposeful
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and connected and all of these things.
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And that's what we're really looking for often and we miss that a lot.
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And a lot of coaches don't see that or hear that.
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They only hear, oh, you want a 50k month?
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Here, let me help you do that and show you how I did it.
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That's not actually going to serve you in the long run.
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What we really need to get down to the heart, too, is like,
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why do you want this so bad?
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Why is this the thing?
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And through that process, that's when the feeling comes.
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And that's when we really start to discover what it is that you want.
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And from there, we take a look at your life, and we really start to look
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at what is your capacity right now?
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If they're going through a big divorce, maybe launching the biggest
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part of their business is not the best idea right now, but how can we
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work on a small piece of that, you
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That's one of the things I've found human design to be incredibly helpful
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with, because it takes all of the expectations away, because the sacral
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doesn't care about expectations, the invitations don't care about expectations.
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It's really about just pausing long enough to trust what
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you're really being drawn to do.
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And allowing that to happen rather than just having an agenda and carrying it out.
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I mean, millions of people create success that way.
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However, they create a certain kind of success that may or may
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not be well rounded success, where they have the life that they want.
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They may have the money that you want.
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But they don't necessarily have the life.
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Usually, there is some trade off, where they would gladly trade places with you
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in some aspects, and you would gladly trade places with them in other aspects.
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So, that's one of the big things, and I think one of the talents that
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you have, and one of the things that I know we worked with your design,
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that I think helped to fine tune you on who you are meant to help.
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Because this is where it can all sound very general, but what you
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do, and I think the retreat that you just concluded, Kaitlin just
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facilitated a retreat in Bali.
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You just got back, so thanks for making time for us, like right when you landed.
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But that retreat and the people that were attracted to it, it's because it's about
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goals, and it is about navigating change.
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And that's what's true in your story.
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It's what's true in your life.
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And when you started to observe your own journey from a place of curiosity
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and seeing how you're naturally gifted at certain things, and what you have
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to offer others because of that.
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It's about achieving.
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It's about creating.
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It's about slaying your goals, but it's also doing that while life does not
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look as perfect as we think it should.
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And all the time people come into Business by Design because it is a business
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and human design program, and almost without fail they go through a phase of
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feeling like I've got to make all of this work immediately and have it all done.
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From moment one they're feeling like I'm behind already.
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I should be further along.
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And you start making decisions from lack when you do that, and when you
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make decisions from lack, in the human design world, you're in the not self,
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you're not going to get what you want and that emotional frequency that
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creates inside of you, that fear, that anxiety, that feeling is only going to
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keep you in that same Pattern of lack.
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So this is why we get stuck.
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And I think that this is why there's this new paradigm of leadership that I
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think we're stepping into in business, where we aren't looking at things from
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purely let's accomplish this goal.
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What's the next step?
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What's the next action?
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That's part of it, because you do need to take action.
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And I want to talk to you about this too, because you didn't lose 80 pounds by
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purely meditating and being introspective.
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No.
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And, let's talk a little bit about this.
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I refer to it in our program, you start off, you're gonna learn to walk.
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And you're gonna learn to walk, and then we're gonna start chewing gum.
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And you're going to be like, I can't do both together.
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And it's like, it's okay, you'll learn.
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Eventually, we're going to get to the point where you're walking
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and you're chewing gum together.
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You're going to be able to be in alignment and understand what your
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alignment feels like and looks like.
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And you're going to have these business foundations built.
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But when you're trying to do both, if you're thinking about how long it's taking
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or whether you're there yet, or whether you're doing it right, you're probably
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just going to be hitting either the pause button or rewind, rather than the fast
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forward that you think you're pushing.
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So, can you talk to me about how you've balanced the inner growth,
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and how you do this with your clients, how you've balanced the
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inner growth with taking action.
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And you're a 1/3, so as a 1/3, you're about taking in,
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introspection, going deep, and then, okay, now let's go do the thing.
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So you're built for that, but talk to me about your process behind it.
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Was it always easy for you to do both?
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Or did that, was that something that you had to fine
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I I think it's always felt pretty, I'm always like, I've always
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said I'm a hands on learner.
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I never knew what that meant until now, but I totally get it where I'm
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like, okay, the way that I learn is I need to get my hands on it.
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I need to feel it, try it on.
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And it's so funny, everyone has always been like, you're such
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a great promoter of things.
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Growing up with people like, if you love something, how do you get everyone to
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get on board and be excited about it?
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And I couldn't do that for any random thing, but if I'm really
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obsessed with something, like I just can't help but talk about it.
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And it's genuine.
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I just really love it.
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But I can't do that unless I have experimented with it in some way,
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which is why I feel like my vast amount of experience in many different
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topics and things really helps me to be an expert coach and to lead
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you through navigating change.
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And being okay to try things on, and also being okay if you tried something
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on and it doesn't work for you.
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That's a huge part of my process because that's really what stalls
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so many people is the fear of, what if I do it and it doesn't work?
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And my counter to that, well, that's what you're doing right now.
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by not doing it, you're where you are right now.
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So by doing it, the worst that can really happen is you're just going
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to be where you are right now.
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And so what is really the message here?
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What's really stopping you?
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You know?
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My favorite question to ask myself and people is, what is
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it that you don't want to feel?
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And what are you afraid of feeling?
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Because that's ultimately what's holding you back, is what are
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you afraid of feeling right now?
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So I don't want to action.
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I'm not taking this action.
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And we have this come up in our group all the time because this is just
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a natural part of entrepreneurship.
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But anytime you're trying to achieve something, entrepreneurship though,
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there's nobody pushing you but yourself.
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And then maybe the bills and your lifestyle.
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or what you want to achieve, but ultimately that's driven by you.
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So it's you against you.
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And the difficult thing about that is that there is a fully unconscious
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side of you that is pulling the strings and is guiding your actions.
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And usually it's guiding a lot of inaction as well.
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I mean, there's some people that are just built for pure action, and they don't
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have hang ups, and they had lives where they didn't have a ton of conditioning
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or trauma, and God bless them.
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That was not my experience.
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I had a lot of unwinding and a lot of deconditioning.
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I did a lot of crying for many years in my, in solitude, but productive crying.
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The stuff where I was really working out all the things I didn't myself
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to cry about before, or really dealt with the pain or the fear that I was
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feeling about taking an action, or feeling like such a failure because
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I wasn't getting these results.
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And the thing is that if you're not getting the result that you want, and
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you feel like you're doing all the things, which is a really common thing.
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I feel like I'm doing all the things, but I'm not getting the result.
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You got to look at what you're doing then.
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Because the truth is that you're probably not doing things that are
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really associated with that result.
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And if you can look at the thing that, what would get me that result, what could
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get me that result, if you're not doing that thing, you've got to ask yourself,
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what is it that I'm afraid of feeling?
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If this thing doesn't work, or if I do this thing, am I afraid I will be judged?
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Am I afraid that will be abandoned?
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Am I afraid that I will not be enough?
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Then those are the feelings you have to deal with because that's the next
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door you need to kick down in order to be able to get to your next level.
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It's like a bouncer at the next level that's sitting there
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going, you got to deal with me.
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I am shame.
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And like, you can't walk through here until you give me the secret password.
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And then you get to go through the velvet ropes.
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You get to go to that party.
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And then it's the next party that you're trying to get into.
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And that is the game that I think gets missed in a lot
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of traditional goal coaching.
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And I think that's what makes you unique, special, and different
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is the fact that you incorporate life coaching into this, that
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Yes.
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You're coaching people through, if just goals, then
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it would be like a duh process.
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Okay, do the thing.
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It's not do the thing.
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It's why aren't you doing the thing?
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Or why'd you do that thing instead of this thing?
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Yeah.
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That's the part that it requires usually some other third party to come in
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and go, let's look at this, shall we?
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Can I ask you a really interesting question about this?
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And I mean it with love.
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And it's so important, but also I think a big part of everything that
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you're talking about too is not only dealing with some of the things that
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may be on why aren't you doing this, but also how can you get a taste now
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of who you're wanting to be as well?
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This tug and pull between the both is really part of the goal slaying
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process, if you will, because you do have to do the crying, which
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I always say crying is an action.
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You are doing something by crying.
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You got to do that.
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You got to feel.
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Feeling is an action.
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So we have to do that.
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That is part of it.
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Even when it doesn't feel productive, it is one of the most
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productive things you can do.
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Along with working with what's already there.
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We have to also work with the thing that doesn't quite exist yet, right?
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Which is where we're going.
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And another big reason why people don't get where they want to go
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is there's a huge gap, right?
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We are here.
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We want to be there.
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Wow, there's this huge, massive bridge that we have to cross.
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It feels really far away.
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But when we start thinking about, and identifying, getting clear, what
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does that look like, there are some things we can do in the very here
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and now to start getting a taste of who that person is and is becoming.
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And so really marrying the two.
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Not only do we have to take massive action, but massive action can be
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also very tiny steps, I always say.
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Dealing with this and also feeling this.
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So, it's like a big ecosystem that kind of has to work together.
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In general, I think in life there's no one step to anything.
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There's multiple steps, there's multiple dimensions to everything.
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Particularly if you have big goals, big aspirations, you're looking to
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create real lasting change, then it's going to encompass more than one thing.
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And if you can get really comfortable with that, and I think that's one of the
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interesting things that we're seeing in the industry now, is this incorporating
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of maybe not everything that you need, but here's everything that you need for
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this particular stage that you're in.
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Or, here's this well rounded approach.
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One thing to rule them all is a very successful slogan and hook.
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Here's the one thing I did, or here's the five did and it's all Instagram
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related and it happens to be what I sell.
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That's very self serving and that might have worked for that particular person.
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However, for most people, it doesn't, it involves other things.
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There's Instagram, but there's messaging strategy.
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If you don't have a messaging strategy, then your social media is probably not
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going to perform the way you want it to.
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There's something underneath it.
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And if you want to slay your goals, then you have to be the
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operator of your strategy, of the way that you go through life.
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You've got to go out there and perform the action and perform
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it in a way that it gets results.
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And that takes different work than just showing up.
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But showing up is a big part of it.
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You have to show have to do the
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It's,
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I wanted to ask you, you talked about crying.
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And raising your hand.
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about crying.
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And I love crying.
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I was wondering, was that always something that you were comfortable doing?
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You have an open solar plexus.
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So I'm curious if you were always good at facing your
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emotions and dealing with them?
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Or was that a skill you developed later on?I Ha ha ha ha ha
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I
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still
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hate facing emotions ha ha
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do not let me give you that idea that I love emotions.
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No, I do not love emotions, but I also recognize the power it has of allowing
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them to just be, and there are seasons in my life where that has felt easier.
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Never easy, easier.
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And then there's more seasons than those that have felt really difficult because,
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I grew up with a mom who lived in a man's world, worked in the real estate
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world, very intense, and that was the role model for me, is that when you cry,
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that means you're weak, and you're going to be taken advantage of, and so you
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need to be strong, you face your fears.
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My dad's side, they're all entrepreneurs, immigrant family, right?
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So you do the thing, you show up, do not let them smell your fear.
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And so I've always had this tenaciousness, which has served me very
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well, but being tender is difficult.
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It's very difficult.
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And it's something that with my daughter, which I've talked to you
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a lot about, who is so emotional and so in tune with her feelings.
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That has been my biggest teacher is being a parent.
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And it has shown up in my coaching, because oftentimes in my earlier
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coaching days I would look at my clients and be like, I don't understand
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why they just can't get through this.
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What is happening here?
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And then I was like, I so get it.
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We have to sit with it and we need to deal with it.
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And I've done, whew, thank God for tapping.
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You have helped me understand how to release a
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a godsend, EFT is my drug of choice for working your emotions and processing them.
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I think it's really interesting.
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Our kids are so interesting, and knowing their design can be a, big eye opener
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into, that's why they're like that.
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Cause you don't realize how much your brain is trying to
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say, why is she like this?
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Why is she always this way?
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Why is she not more like me?
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Why is she driving me crazy?
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And instead we can say oh, she's not built that way.
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It doesn't mean that it's always easy in the moment to deal with what they
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are being, but it takes that mind trying to figure it all out, out of the way.
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But I think it's, I think it's so interesting that you were given
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an emotional projector daughter.
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You are a highly defined generator with three motors going.
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You talked about being tenacious.
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You have the channel of tenacity, pretty much, the channel of struggle.
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Yeah.
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have all this real powerful energy, the channel of initiation, you have a lot of
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energy and you have this emotional child.
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And one of the things that I think is really interesting for generators
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who get these projector kids.
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First of all, your daughter tuned you into probably the aspect of your design.
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For you your greatest, potential for wisdom is in your solar plexus, but
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it's the area you don't want to go in.
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So I think what's so interesting is to say my daughter was my greatest
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teacher, is the fact that she forced you to go into that place and to
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see it and to see it differently.
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And to see you how you feel it and how you pick up and amplify her emotions.
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Like she sent you to school in emotions and by doing that I'm gonna guess that
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you've become a much better coach and that you have become more grounded because
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you had to clean out that emotional closet, which is what the solar plexus can
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become, when non emotionals tend to say, I don't want to deal with my emotions.
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Ick.
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Gross.
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Hate them.
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No.
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Inconvenient.
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Deal with that later.
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And it's like a ham sandwich that you put in your purse.
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You didn't get rid of it.
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It's just funking up everything in your purse and you don't
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want that sandwich anymore.
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That's what happens when we let emotions fester.
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So I think it's so interesting, my son is a projector as well and I'm a mani gen.
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Him being a mirror for my emotions, he's not emotional.
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I am emotional.
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So I notice my energy through the way that he's acting around me.
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And if I look at him like a mirror to me, which is what projectors
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really are, they are amplifying.
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And when they know what they're doing, they're able to
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intellectualize it and tell you.
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So a projector coach could give you insight.
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But a projector kid is just going to, although he comes out with
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some really insightful, weird, like Yoda y stuff sometimes.
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I don't know.
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I totally get
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his behavior changes and he shifts and I see it in him or I see how
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he's reacting to things or just the little things that he says.
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And if I don't look at it like it's happening to him and I say, how is
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he somehow reflecting me right now?
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I get answers that I could never get on my own.
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I became a much better coach, person.
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friend in two events in my life, finding human design and being
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able to understand myself and the people around me, and my kid.
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And looking at it through that
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Yes.
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So it is such, such an interesting and beautiful way to go through
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life when you can observe that and start to learn from it.
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So I'm curious, talk about your experience with human design and what it's shown you.
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What are your reflections on human design?
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Ha
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my gosh, we would need a whole podcast just for that answer.
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But I will try to give you the quick and dirty.
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So I was really interested in human design.
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I've been interested in human design for a really long time and dabbled into it.
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And it was just this whole new world.
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I knew when I found it, but.
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What I thought was really interesting since working with you was so many things
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out there in human design, just tell you about your type or your profile.
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And it's very generic, but there's a big difference between reading
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and knowing about human design and living by your human design.
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Massive difference.
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And I never understood that.
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Even now I'm still uncovering new things, like right now I'm
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part of your unshakeable human, and you've done my readings.
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I've been diving into human design and I'm still peeling back layers of
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like, holy shit, this is so amazing.
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There's so many little nuanced things.
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So, what specifically, I would say if I had to name the biggest
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thing, it's really awareness.
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And I recognize, like you said, I'm a generator.
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I've got three motors.
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I'm extremely energetic and also powerful, I would say, in my magnetic field of
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what I'm putting out into the universe.
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And you were giving the example of your son, how he's a mirror for you.
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I started to see that on a big scale.
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At the end of the day when I realized, wow, today was just such a kick ass day,
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like Clients were on fire and things were happening in the emails and shit got
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done, and man, my marriage is working and feeling fantastic and connected and wow.
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And then I recognized, that is because this is inside working here.
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I have the awareness of like, I am feeling aligned and connected and
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that's really having an effect on the conversations I'm having and
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the things I'm calling into my life.
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It also has made me aware when things aren't feeling so good, and they're
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feeling really like that resistance, and I'm getting that frustration.
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I'm like, ooh, ooh, ooh, red flag, red Flag.
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What's coming up here and I don't spend as much time in the frustration anymore.
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And I really feel like that has been such a game changer for me because
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as the tenacious person, I tend to be like, this is not gonna stop me.
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I'm just gonna keep going and I eventually won't feel frustrated.
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Actually, no, you need to stop.
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That's not what you're supposed to be feeling.
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You're allowed to actually question this.
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And so I really feel like that has even deepened my ability to
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coach and to lean into things with my clients a little bit more, as
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well as my personal relationships.
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There's a reason that we have this frustration.
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I think the other opposite part of that is the satisfaction piece for me.
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I used to think that I needed to feel like this massive joy and like
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completely lit up all the time.
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And satisfaction is okay.
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Satisfaction is where I want to live.
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This is such a beautiful thing.
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Not having to live in this constant massive state of joy and if it's
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not there then it's not okay.
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I want to be satisfied.
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That's what I'm living for
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exhausting
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So, yeah.
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That's, that's really
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exhausting trying to be super duper high vibe all the time, squealing about
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Yeah.
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new butter being opened.
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Stupid mundane things.
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Forcing yourself to do it, that's not authentic.
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I put out a post yesterday where I was like, your thoughts lie, your
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words lie, but your energy never does.
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And so to say that you're really excited about something means absolutely nothing
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if on an energetic level, it's bullshit.
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It's about true joy, and as generators, we get joy from doing stuff.
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From building things, from creating something, from going through a
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process, from being satisfied.
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And satisfaction begets more satisfaction.
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Satisfaction means that you will not be fighting resistance as much.
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So if you're following satisfaction and you're not taking the bait
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and pushing through frustration.
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We have to do it from time to time.
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I gotta get this done.
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I don't really want to right now.
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Can also work with that to go and gear yourself up, and come back
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to the thing with newfound energy.
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It's all about learning to navigate.
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And that's I think what was coming through for me with living by your
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design versus knowing about it.
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I'm supposed to be lit up, that's very different than being frustrated, looking
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at it and saying, I'm frustrated.
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What would make me feel good right now?
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Maybe I should take a break.
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And then you go take a break and you do something that feels really good.
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And then suddenly you look at that other thing you were doing before
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that you've got to finish and you're like, I could do that now.
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And I feel totally cool about it.
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That's the difference between being present and being led by your
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design rather than led by draconian rules that you set up for yourself.
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And, and that's.
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That's really fun.
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That's why it's so fun to work with you because to see people, where we get to
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work together for this long period of time, the Business by Design Mentorship
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is a year, but to see you launch your podcast, to see you working through the
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process of living your design, of starting to incorporate it into the positioning,
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not just working on goals, but being the goal slayer who helps people navigate
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tremendous change in their life to have a life that they really want to live.
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And then laying a foundation for recurring repeatable income to build a foundation.
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Because when you have that solid foundation under yourself and you are
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grounded in your human, it feels really safe to take big fat jumps in the air.
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And when you're not grounded in yourself and the ground underneath you is spotty
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or shaky, then it feels really scary to take any move because you're just like,
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all I know is that right here, I'm safe at this moment, so I better not move.
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And the whole game is about making it feel safe for you to take bigger and bigger
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leaps, and that's how we change our life.
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And I think that's so beautiful about the work that you do.
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Tell everybody what beam stands for.
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it actually stands for be everything and more, because as you said in the intro,
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how can we be more because the women that I work with and those that are in my world
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know that they are meant for more and feel that they want more out of life, but
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feel like they have to constantly be in this burnout mode in order to have that.
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And that's just so not true.
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In fact, usually being more means doing less and it's a beautiful thing
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when we can embody that, and be okay with not having our worth tied to our
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output and the things that we check off on our to do list for the day.
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How can we measure the juice of life in different ways and
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really feel more internally.
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So be everything and more is really the name of the game over here.
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And you embody that.
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And I think that's the difference.
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Please check out Kaitlin on Instagram.
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She's @TheBeamLife and you'll see what I mean.
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If you aren't following her already, you'll see that embody
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that be everything and more.
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You embody what you teach, you embody what you preach.
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And your energy is doing the talking for you.
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And it's so much more powerful than just saying the words.
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It's the energy underneath it and you embody it wholeheartedly.
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And so I'm so grateful for you for being here.
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I appreciate you and you are a joy to work with.
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And it's such a pleasure to have you on the show.
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Tell everybody where they can stay in touch with you.
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Where can they learn more about you?
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Her podcast is the Goal Slayer podcast, which is amazing.
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You are such a natural host, but where else can they stay in touch
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with you and learn more about you?
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Yeah, thank you so much again for having me.
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This has been just a blast and I know we're just getting
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started on so many things.
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So, the best way to connect outside of here is on Instagram @TheBeamLife.
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Of course, as Nicole mentioned, my podcast, Goal Slayer, but also I have a 90
35:33
day journal, which you can find on Amazon.
35:36
It can be primed right to your door.
35:38
It is just simply the Beam Life Journal and it's a 90 day goal slaying journey
35:44
to help you get unstuck and really take that intentional action that we have been
35:48
talking about, but also uncover some of those deeper parts of yourself that you
35:53
need to see and put some light on in order to get where it is you really want to
35:57
And we will link all of that up in the show notes for you.
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So don't worry if you couldn't grab those links.
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We will get that all hooked up for you.
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Just drop on down to the show notes and be transported over to any of
36:07
those places that Kaitlin mentioned.
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Thank you guys so much for being here.
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Thank you for making it all the way to the end of this episode with us.
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Thank you Kaitlin for being here.
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I appreciate everybody.
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And remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must
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first become an unshakeable human.
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So thanks for letting us help you become unshakeable with human design, everybody.
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We will see you next time.
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