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Advice for Your Younger Self · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  We got a question for American mama. Dear mamas, if you could give
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  your younger self some advice, what would it be. Let's ask our American
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  mamas. Mama, Mama, and joining is now our American mama's Terry Nedeville
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  and Kimberly Burlison. Okay, so you have a chance, you get a
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  chance to go back talk to your younger self. We're gonna assume your younger
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  self isn't freaked out by seeing you and is willing to receive a little bit
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  of wisdom from you. What would you share with your younger self. You
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  know what I was thinking about this when we talked about talking about this,
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  and I thought about myself at different phases of my life, because life is
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  just such a series of phases, and I thought I would tell myself different
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  things at different times, like the things that mattered to me when I was
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  in my twenties, the things I wanted. I don't it's funny, it's
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  laughable that I cared about some of the things that I wanted. But I
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  would tell myself, like in my twenties, I'd say, keep going,
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  you're doing good. You pick the right man. You know you're doing the
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  right thing. In my thirties, I'd say, relax, stop being afraid
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  of things, Go for things. It doesn't matter if you fail or if
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  you succeed. Don't be afraid. Forties, i'd say, didn't you hear
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  what I said? When you're in your thirties, relax, don't be afraid,
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  because I feel like that's been pretty much my life has been a series
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  of too afraid to do things, And so I would tell myself it doesn't
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  matter, let it go, relax, have fun. And now here I
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  am in my fifties, finally taking that advice from my pretend. Yeah,
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  what about you, tea, I think I would say, make sure that
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  you continue to surround yourself with good people. Yes, no matter what age
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  you are, your gut will tell you the ones that are there for the
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  right reasons and there to help elevate you, and you're there to help elevate
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  them to their next level. And you know, I would just say let
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  go because you know how I am. I'm like, I love, I
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  trust, I love and trust everybody until somebody does something that you go,
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  oh, I didn't do that, coming right, So I would just say
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  to trust your gut on the people that you surround yourself with, because that
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  is pivotal in your happiness and your ability to strive. I had a friend
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  when I was at Southfield. We were moms together, Claudia Gary. When
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  she came to that school, she and I clicked. But it was one
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  of those things where every idea I had, she was like, well,
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  we're going to make it happen, and it would be elevated and it would
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  happen. It was amazing. Her husband was the centiniary coach basketball coach.
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  She had ideas for what to do for the basketball team. I was like,
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  I'm your girl, gotcha. We will get our you know, We'll
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  get all our stuff together, our people together and make it happen. And
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  it was such a recognition of the importance of having people who really really have
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  your best intentions right at hearts and people who can fill in the gaps for
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  you. Yeah, that's yes exactly. I would also say to me my
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  personality, don't sweat the small stuff. Yeah, don't, don't. Let
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  don't. I'm an overthinker, so something might be said and then in my
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  mind it's built up bigger and bigger and worse, you know, Like like
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  if I used to write stuff and people say, oh, I love that,
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  you know, I love your writing. I'd have one person go,
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  uh, this was way too long, too wordy, and that's you know,
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  that's which was true, but that's what I would throw fixate on.
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  So I would just say, don't sweat that stuff doesn't matter, just doesn't
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  matter what about you. That is really difficult because when I think back on
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  this, there were actually people who were giving me good advice at the time.
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  For a variety of different stages of my life. I've been fortunate to
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  have had good mentors at different places. One of the one of the ones
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  that I think back on was, you know, when I was in elementary
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  school, actually was my mother and she was saying, look, you know,
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  people may not like because you're smart now, but when you're an adult,
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  people really like you because you're smart now. As a kid, that
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  did not help, but it was it's something that I've sack with you that
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  stuck with me. I've had different good mentors throughout time, so I don't
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  feel like I needed to go back and tell myself something because I had those
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  mentors now. Then what I would really like is for future me to come
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  back to me now and tell me some stuff. Now, that's what that's
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  what I really I'm like, oh man, that would be that'd be kind
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  of cool to get something from future me, because future me's got to know
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  something I don't know right now. Right well, and we both we know
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  that you you advise a lot of people at your church. I do a
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  lot of that. So what is the main takeaway they get when they're with
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  you? And this is not you talking to you, this is you talking
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  to these people who come to you for wisdom. What is your main the
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  main thing when when people when I end up doing that, when I under
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  doing it, I don't. It's not really counseling. It's not really therapy,
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  but for lack of a better word, that's what that's kind of what
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  it ends up being is counseling. But whenever I'm actually counseling, I'm mentoring
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  somebody else. I think the biggest takeaway somebody else gets is that God is
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  real and the Holy Spirit is active in that conversation, because more times than
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  not, what's happening is the Holy Spirit's pouring into me so that I can
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  tell them something that blows their mind right. Because the Holy Spirit is actually
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  there, and a lot of people will walk away going I didn't realize God
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  was that real? Yes, And I think that's that's something that a lot
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  of people get when I when I spend time with them. Yeah, I
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  mean God is real. I don't know a better message than that. Because
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  He is. We feel it. And if you really want to get some
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  good advice going forward, you're not going to get it from other people.
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  You're not going to get it from your future self. You need to be
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  tapping into the power of the Holy Spirit. You need to be talking to
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  God on a regular basis, and more importantly, you need to be listening
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  to God on a regular basis. Am In. If you'd like to ask
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