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Come Back To Love, May 21 2026 Beyond Divorce · Come Back to Love:

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to come Back to Love with your host, Robin Vogel.
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  Speaker 1: Each week at this same time, come Back to Love
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  Speaker 1: covers an endless array of topics related to relationships, love
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  Speaker 1: and intimacy, along with all the reasons you may be
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  Speaker 1: keeping love at a distance. Can a shattered heart be
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  Speaker 1: your doorway to your greatest love story? Robin will give
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  Speaker 1: you practical tools that can be used to heal the
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  Speaker 1: past and help you to safely love again. And now
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  Speaker 1: today's come back to Love.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everyone, and welcome to come Back to Love. We
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  Speaker 2: are on KMT Radio and I am here every Thursday
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  Speaker 2: at one thirty pm Pacific four thirty pm Eastern time,
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  Speaker 2: and this is come Back to Love. I'm Kmet, I
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  Speaker 2: am Robin Vogel. I'm a psychotherapist, a love an intimacy coach,
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  Speaker 2: and the author of the new book come Back to Love,
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  Speaker 2: a Path to Healing that was published earlier this year
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  Speaker 2: buy Coolar Books and you can find it anywhere that
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  Speaker 2: you buy books online. For over twenty years, I've been
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  Speaker 2: helping people do what I had to learn to do myself.
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  Speaker 2: Heal the past, heal my heart, understand the patterns that
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  Speaker 2: were created because of past trauma and create the kind
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  Speaker 2: of love for myself that was real, and create love
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  Speaker 2: in the world that I was so desiring after all
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  Speaker 2: of those years of healing. Not the love that looks
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  Speaker 2: good on paper, not the love that feels like a
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  Speaker 2: roller coaster that you just can't get off, but the
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  Speaker 2: love that feels like finally, this, this is what I
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  Speaker 2: have been yearning for. Welcome, Welcome to my new radio show,
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  Speaker 2: Come Back to Love and Again. We are live on
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  Speaker 2: km e T every Thursday at one thirty pm Pacific
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  Speaker 2: and four thirty pm Eastern time. You can also listen
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  Speaker 2: to this show on all podcast platforms. Thank you so
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  Speaker 2: much for tuning in. Today. Our topic is beyond divorce.
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  Speaker 2: Beyond divorce, the work that I do is supporting anyone
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  Speaker 2: who has gone through a major life transition, whether that
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  Speaker 2: be a heartbreak or a loss, divorce, separation, even just
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  Speaker 2: a major life transition that you're in like a new identity.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes people go through what we might call a midlife
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  Speaker 2: crisis or a mid life I'd like to call it
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  Speaker 2: a mid life transition, and when that happens, there are
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  Speaker 2: sometimes unforeseeable losses that come to the surface. So although
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  Speaker 2: today's topic is beyond divorce. If you haven't been divorced,
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  Speaker 2: but you've had a major loss or again a major
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  Speaker 2: heartbreak or transition in your life, this show is for
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  Speaker 2: you today. So as we begin to dive into this
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  Speaker 2: topic of beyond divorce, we're actually going to look at
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  Speaker 2: let me say this first, We're going to look at identity.
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  Speaker 2: We're going to look at how as humans we sometimes
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  Speaker 2: hold on to things unnecessarily. We overidentify with our pasts,
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  Speaker 2: and this keeps us stuck. Stuck. Even though you might
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  Speaker 2: be doing therapy, even though you've done tons of coaching,
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  Speaker 2: even though you've spent thousands of dollars if you have,
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  Speaker 2: even though you've cried your eyes out a million times
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  Speaker 2: to your friends, even though it's been years, all these reasons,
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  Speaker 2: we can still be really stuck in the past. And
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  Speaker 2: some people ask me, so I want to address this first,
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  Speaker 2: like how do I know that I'm stuck? Like? How
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  Speaker 2: do I know that I'm not moving forward? Seems like
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  Speaker 2: I am. I've done a lot of work, I have
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  Speaker 2: a new relationship, but it's not so great. It really
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  Speaker 2: resembles the past. Again, I feel like I'm repeating a pattern. Well,
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  Speaker 2: stop right there, that is the way to know that
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  Speaker 2: you're stuck in the past. Sometimes you're not moving forward,
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  Speaker 2: and you're just aware that I'm not moving forward in life,
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  Speaker 2: in work, in relationship, maybe in your health and wellbeing.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes you do notice that you're repeating patterns over and
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  Speaker 2: over again, and you keep attracting the same kind of person.
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  Speaker 2: You keep having short relationships and ending them, or maybe
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  Speaker 2: you have a couple of years of relationship and then
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  Speaker 2: they're over and you're just frustrated and confused and stuck.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes people say, my heart isn't open. I just don't
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  Speaker 2: feel like my heart is open. If you notice that
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  Speaker 2: about yourself, for one thing, I want to congratulate you,
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  Speaker 2: because for some people that's hard to recognize. But when
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  Speaker 2: you notice that your heart isn't open, then that is
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  Speaker 2: something to on the one hand, celebrate because you're aware
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  Speaker 2: and you're noticing something about yourself that's really important. So
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  Speaker 2: the work of come Back to Love is about he
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  Speaker 2: healing the past, healing the heartbreaks, learning how to stop
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  Speaker 2: repeating patterns and really create what you want in your life.
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  Speaker 2: Create something new, create yourself a new become somebody who
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  Speaker 2: has moved beyond and is ready for again. Love in
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  Speaker 2: the way that you define it, because for me, the
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  Speaker 2: work is about coming back to love with yourself and
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  Speaker 2: looking at that on all the levels emotional, mental, spiritual, embodied.
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  Speaker 2: But you get to then define what you want to
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  Speaker 2: do with that love. Whether you want to be in
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  Speaker 2: relationship or you don't want to be in relationship, that's
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  Speaker 2: up to you. So I'm tuning in right now from
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  Speaker 2: hot and humid Boston, Massachusetts. I'm curious how it is
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  Speaker 2: where you are when you're listening to them. Yes, please
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  Speaker 2: feel free to shoot me an email anytime, Robin rob
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  Speaker 2: y N at comebacktolove dot com. Let me know how
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  Speaker 2: you're doing, let me know how you're enjoying the show.
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  Speaker 2: Please suggest topics that you would like me to address.
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  Speaker 2: I have a long list after twenty five years of
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  Speaker 2: doing this work, and still I am open, of course
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  Speaker 2: to hearing what topics you would like me to address
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  Speaker 2: on this radio show. So please do feel free to
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  Speaker 2: be in touch anytime and you can always find me
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  Speaker 2: at comeback toolove dot com. Okay, so onto the topic
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  Speaker 2: of beyond divorce. I want to take a moment to
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  Speaker 2: invite you to begin noticing something when you think about
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  Speaker 2: what you've been through again, whether it's divorce, separation, the
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  Speaker 2: unraveling of a life that you built. What words come up?
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  Speaker 2: How do you refer to your own experience when you
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  Speaker 2: talk to friends, when you talk to perhaps a therapist,
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  Speaker 2: or when you're talking to yourself at two in the morning.
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  Speaker 2: I'm guessing you say my divorce, my failed marriage, my heartbreak.
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  Speaker 2: I did too, before I understood what that language was
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  Speaker 2: quietly doing to me. I said that exact thing. And
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  Speaker 2: what we know is that when you say, you're identifying
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  Speaker 2: with exactly your experience with the crisis, with the trauma,
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  Speaker 2: with the heartbreak, and it stays in the body and
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  Speaker 2: it creates your life. We're going to go into this
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  Speaker 2: more deeply. So I want to name one thing about
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  Speaker 2: what this time together is about. It's not about rushing
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  Speaker 2: you out of grief or telling you to just move
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  Speaker 2: on and stop saying the word my divorce. It's really
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  Speaker 2: about something more subtle and more powerful than that. And
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  Speaker 2: I know you're listening to me on the radio or
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  Speaker 2: on podcast. If you have a moment to pause what
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  Speaker 2: you're doing, to take out your journal, take out a pen.
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  Speaker 2: I really invite you to take some notes, but also
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  Speaker 2: to follow along and do some journaling and do some
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  Speaker 2: writing about this topic. It's really really important because language
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  Speaker 2: creates identity, and identity creates reality. And if you're somebody
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  Speaker 2: right now who's listening in who feels like I am
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  Speaker 2: not living the life I want to be living. I
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  Speaker 2: do not have the love in my life that I want,
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  Speaker 2: I do not have the partner in my life that
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  Speaker 2: I want, or I haven't even finished moving through this
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  Speaker 2: divorce and it's driving me absolutely crazy. Keep listening. We
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  Speaker 2: use the word my very carefully in life, my child,
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  Speaker 2: my home, my body. When we say my, we are
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  Speaker 2: claiming ownership. We are saying this is part of me.
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  Speaker 2: When we say my divorce over and over, we are,
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  Speaker 2: without realizing it, making the divorce part of who we are.
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  Speaker 2: Ongoing now, we do, have, of course, an experience of
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  Speaker 2: acute grief when there's been a loss, any kind of loss,
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  Speaker 2: and then there's processing that hopefully we have time and
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  Speaker 2: space to do. And then there's healing, which again hopefully
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  Speaker 2: you've had time and space to do. But if not yet,
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  Speaker 2: then just recognize where are you in the process. Are
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  Speaker 2: you in acute grief, are you in initial processing, or
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  Speaker 2: are you in healing, or the next phase, which is
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  Speaker 2: the stuck place. We've got five phases here that just
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  Speaker 2: want to name again, acute grief phase one, Phase two processing,
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  Speaker 2: and the early sort of starting to realize what actually happened.
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  Speaker 2: There can be a lot of shock and a lot
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  Speaker 2: of like disillusionment, step three, Phase three, healing, Phase four,
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  Speaker 2: the stuck place, Yes, phase five becoming. So most people
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  Speaker 2: probably are somewhere between healing and the stuff place. You've
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  Speaker 2: done a lot of real work, but still somehow things
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  Speaker 2: aren't moving. You're still identifying divorce. It is part of
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  Speaker 2: your perception. It's part of your identification. You see yourself
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  Speaker 2: as someone who has failed at love, so you unconsciously
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  Speaker 2: look for evidence that confirms it. It shapes your choices.
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  Speaker 2: You stay smaller, You don't put yourself out there. You
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  Speaker 2: protect yourself from another divorce or another loss, rather than
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  Speaker 2: opening up to something new. It becomes your story with
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  Speaker 2: new people that you meet. The divorce becomes chapter one
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  Speaker 2: of how you introduce yourself, and it colors everything that follows.
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  Speaker 2: So without judgment, just take a moment, tune into yourself
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  Speaker 2: and ask yourself, where do you feel you are on
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  Speaker 2: that spectrum right now? Phase are you in? What phase?
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  Speaker 2: Are you in acute grief processing, healing, stuck or becoming
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  Speaker 2: something new? That you'd have a breath with me, And
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  Speaker 2: because you're just listening to me on the radio, you know,
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  Speaker 2: you just get to do this privately. You know you're
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  Speaker 2: welcome to share, obviously, you're welcome to share with me,
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  Speaker 2: welcome to share with you know, your trusted people in
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  Speaker 2: your life. But just acknowledge to yourself with some humbleness
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  Speaker 2: and some honesty about where you are in your life,
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  Speaker 2: and just let that be again without judgment. So healing
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  Speaker 2: is very different than becoming, right, healing is so important,
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  Speaker 2: It's obviously a big part of the work that I do,
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  Speaker 2: but they're two very different journeys. Most people, in some
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  Speaker 2: ways know how to heal. We talk a lot about
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  Speaker 2: healing in our culture, especially in our in our our
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  Speaker 2: Western culture, we speak about it in a very specific way.
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  Speaker 2: We're very attached and connected with psychotherapy and other healing modalities.
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  Speaker 2: But the concept of becoming is something different. Healing is necessary,
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  Speaker 2: absolutely necessary. I want to be clear about that. Understanding
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  Speaker 2: what happened, grieving what was lost, making sense of the past.
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  Speaker 2: That work has to happen if you haven't done that yet,
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  Speaker 2: I invite you to consider doing it and think about
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  Speaker 2: how you want to do it. But healing is looking backward.
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  Speaker 2: It's asking what happened to me? Why did it go wrong?
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  Speaker 2: What was my part? What was theirs? Becoming is something different?
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  Speaker 2: Becoming looks forward? It asks who am I now that
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  Speaker 2: I have been through this? What do I actually want?
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  Speaker 2: Not what I thought I wanted before, or what my
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  Speaker 2: family told me I should want, or what the culture
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  Speaker 2: tells me I should want, but what I want now
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  Speaker 2: from this wiser, more honest place. And then you might
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  Speaker 2: ask yourself what do I need to release in order
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  Speaker 2: to step into that. I'm going to ask those questions
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  Speaker 2: again so that you really get them. And also if
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  Speaker 2: you're writing them down, you can write them down again
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  Speaker 2: or like clarify what you've written down. Who am I
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  Speaker 2: now that I've been through this? You can fill this
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  Speaker 2: fill in the blank, right, Who am I now that
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  Speaker 2: I've gotten through the divorce? Or who am I now
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  Speaker 2: that I am used to being perhaps a widow or
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  Speaker 2: a widower? Who am I now that I've reached the
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  Speaker 2: age of sixty and I'm making a big transition in
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  Speaker 2: my life? Or my career. What do I actually want again?
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  Speaker 2: Not what I thought I wanted, but what do I
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  Speaker 2: want now from this wiser, more honest, more open, more
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  Speaker 2: mature place. What do I need to release in order
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  Speaker 2: to step into that? You can be fully healed and
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  Speaker 2: still not ready, and you can be not fully healed
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  Speaker 2: and still be becoming. They're not really a sequence. They're
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  Speaker 2: actually two different questions. So they are different phases. But
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  Speaker 2: it doesn't have to be that one absolutely proceeds precedes
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  Speaker 2: the next. Readiness isn't a feeling that arrives one day.
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  Speaker 2: It's a choice you make, usually before you feel completely ready.
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  Speaker 2: I hear this often with my clients and workshop participants.
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  Speaker 2: I often will hear them say I'm ready, I'm getting ready,
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  Speaker 2: I'm almost ready. It's like we want to say we're ready,
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  Speaker 2: and we're not always completely ready, and that's okay, but
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  Speaker 2: let's say it again. It's a choice you make, and
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  Speaker 2: often it's usually just before you're completely ready, and that's
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  Speaker 2: okay because saying the words actually helps you in the
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  Speaker 2: becoming ready. It's the decision to stop organizing your life
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  Speaker 2: around what happened in the past and start organizing it
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  Speaker 2: around what's possible, what's possible now, what's possible in the future.
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  Speaker 2: So what would it mean for you personally to feel ready?
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  Speaker 2: Not like I'm healed and I feel all you know,
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  Speaker 2: all healed and tucked in and no, Just what would
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  Speaker 2: it mean to you personally to feel ready? What's the
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  Speaker 2: difference in your body between these two words. Let's take
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  Speaker 2: that piece so here, I invite you to have a
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  Speaker 2: breath with me again, deep breath in the nose, exal
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  Speaker 2: through the mouth, maybe a sound or a sigh like
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  Speaker 2: I just did. And I want you to take a
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  Speaker 2: moment to feel these words in your body. Feel the
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  Speaker 2: word healing, and just notice where that lands in your body,
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  Speaker 2: notice how it feels. And if you happen to have
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  Speaker 2: a journal, just write that down. Feel the word ready,
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  Speaker 2: or you might try I am ready for and fill
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  Speaker 2: in the blank. I am ready to love myself more.
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  Speaker 2: I am ready to allow myself to grieve. I am
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  Speaker 2: ready for new love. Wherever you are in your journey,
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  Speaker 2: it's exactly the place that you're supposed to be right now,
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  Speaker 2: no right, no wrong, no good, no bad. I am becoming.
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  Speaker 2: Feel the word becoming in your body. That has a
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  Speaker 2: whole different energy to it, and if you're not in
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  Speaker 2: the phase of becoming yet, just notice how it feels
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  Speaker 2: light and know that you'll get there. And that's an
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  Speaker 2: exciting thing to consider that's coming down the path for you. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: So I want to do something practical right now, not
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  Speaker 2: just talk about it, but actually begin to do this
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  Speaker 2: shifting into becoming and readiness so that you have a feeling.
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  Speaker 2: It's a really simple exercise, but don't let the simplicity
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  Speaker 2: fool you. What we're going to do is interrupt a
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  Speaker 2: pattern that may have been running for years, and that interruption,
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  Speaker 2: even once, even briefly, right here, right now, creates a
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  Speaker 2: new possibility for you. So I want to invite you
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  Speaker 2: to think about a story in your mind, or if
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  Speaker 2: you're writing, please do write down. I am someone who.
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  Speaker 2: Fill in the blank. I am someone who, and if
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  Speaker 2: you're just listening to me on the radio, whatever pops
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  Speaker 2: into your mind, I am someone who. Maybe you're driving
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  Speaker 2: your car and you're listening to the radio right now
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  Speaker 2: and you're on km E T come back to Love
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  Speaker 2: radio and you're like, I am someone who, and let
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  Speaker 2: whatever comes up about the divorce or heartbreak, let it
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  Speaker 2: come up. Don't edit, just notice what your identity currently
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  Speaker 2: says about you in love, and let that be with
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  Speaker 2: you for a moment. Let yourself be with the words
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  Speaker 2: that come up again, without judgment, without filtering. And now, notice,
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  Speaker 2: how does that sentence feel in your body? Where do
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  Speaker 2: you feel it? Do you feel it in your heart?
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  Speaker 2: Do you feel it in your belly? Do you feel
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  Speaker 2: it in your shoulders? Does it feel heavy tight? Does
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  Speaker 2: it feel familiar? That feeling is the identity that is
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  Speaker 2: living inside you and creating your reality. Because your identity, remember,
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  Speaker 2: creates your reality. Now, I want to invite you to
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  Speaker 2: try something. I want to invite you to place one
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  Speaker 2: hand on your heart if you can, in this moment,
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  Speaker 2: take a breath and complete this sentence instead. I am
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  Speaker 2: someone who is becoming. Fill in the blank again, not
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  Speaker 2: who you were, not who you're healing from, not what
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  Speaker 2: you're healing from, not how you're healing, just who you
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  Speaker 2: are becoming. Let yourself reach for it, even if it
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  Speaker 2: feels unfamiliar, actually, especially if it feels unfamiliar, I am
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  Speaker 2: someone who is becoming. Now, notice what came up. For
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  Speaker 2: some of you, It'll feel hopeful and helpful for some,
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  Speaker 2: it might feel scary for some it might feel unbelievable,
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  Speaker 2: like you're just making it up, and all of that
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  Speaker 2: is completely normal. The discomfort that you're feeling is rewiring.
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  Speaker 2: That's actually happening. Now. I want to take a pause
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  Speaker 2: for a moment here just and go to the concept
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  Speaker 2: of rewiring. There's a lot of talk about rewiring these days,
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  Speaker 2: and for good reason. Rewiring, first of all, wiring, let's
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  Speaker 2: start there, is about how your brain has been holding
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  Speaker 2: and processing what's happened in your life over years and
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  Speaker 2: as a result of, let's say a trauma that has
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  Speaker 2: happened in your life. You make decisions about life, You
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  Speaker 2: create behaviors, you create thoughts, and they get wired in
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  Speaker 2: and they stick with you and sometimes we don't even
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  Speaker 2: notice them. They just stick with you. They become your truth,
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  Speaker 2: they become your reality. I don't have enough money. I'm
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  Speaker 2: never going to have a partner, I'm not going to
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  Speaker 2: have love like that. My job is just okay. I'm
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  Speaker 2: not one who's going to have a really amazing job
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  Speaker 2: and be you know, famous and make lots of money
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  Speaker 2: or you know. We just sit with these limiting beliefs
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  Speaker 2: and they're stuck. This process and the work that I
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  Speaker 2: do and come back to love is deep, deep rewiring.
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  Speaker 2: As I said, this is a simple exercise moving from
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  Speaker 2: I am someone who to I am someone who is becoming.
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  Speaker 2: It may seem really simple, but it's a deep rewiring
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  Speaker 2: because if you put that on the chalkboard in your kitchen,
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  Speaker 2: or on the bulletin board in your office, or on
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  Speaker 2: a little sticky right next to you your computer at
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  Speaker 2: your desk, or in your car, or on the mirror
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  Speaker 2: where you brush your teeth, I am someone who is becoming.
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  Speaker 2: Your body, your mind, your energy all reorganize around this
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  Speaker 2: present and future experience of who you're becoming. So again,
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  Speaker 2: notice what came up for you, notice what you feel
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  Speaker 2: in your body, and make this declaration. Share it. Share
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  Speaker 2: it in the ways that I just described. Share it
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  Speaker 2: with your partner if you have one, Share it with
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  Speaker 2: your friends, share it with your children. Most importantly, share
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  Speaker 2: it with yourself. I am someone who is becoming. Topic
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  Speaker 2: for today has been beyond divorce, and basically we've been
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  Speaker 2: talking about how to let go of the identity of
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  Speaker 2: divorce or other kinds of loss that we continue to
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  Speaker 2: reference and live with until we stop, until we pop
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  Speaker 2: and we say, you know, there's grief there's processing, there's healing,
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  Speaker 2: all extremely important, and there's a place of stuckness that
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  Speaker 2: can show up. And then there's becoming again. As I said,
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  Speaker 2: not so linear, but all very important and distinct phases
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  Speaker 2: to really understand the process that you are in, where
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  Speaker 2: you're in, what phase you're in, and looking towards releasing
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  Speaker 2: the identity with my divorce, my loss, my this, my that,
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  Speaker 2: and again. I was doing that incessantly until I realized
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  Speaker 2: that I was holding onto things that I absolutely did
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  Speaker 2: not want to or need to hold onto, and couldn't
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  Speaker 2: really move forward without letting them go and shifting. So
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  Speaker 2: what you just did that small shift? I am someone
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  Speaker 2: who I am someone who is becoming. That is an
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  Speaker 2: entirely new journey. It might seem micro and small, but
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  Speaker 2: it's big and the work that you're doing, and you
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  Speaker 2: do it again and again in bigger and bigger ways
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  Speaker 2: until the new story is more real to you than
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  Speaker 2: the old one makes sense. I hope so, and if not,
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  Speaker 2: just again, shoot me an email Robin rob y N
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  Speaker 2: at comebacktolove dot com. This has been the third episode
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  Speaker 2: of Come Back to Love, and I'm so glad that
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  Speaker 2: we've been here together. If something stirred in you today,
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  Speaker 2: if you felt something open or recognized yourself in what
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  Speaker 2: we explored, I want you to know that you don't
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  Speaker 2: have to figure this out alone. I offer a thirty
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  Speaker 2: minute private conversation, just the two of us, no agenda,
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  Speaker 2: comeback toolove dot com. And if you're not ready for
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  Speaker 2: a private conversation, that's fine too. Come back next week.
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  Speaker 2: Come back either way next week. Next there'sday at one
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  Speaker 2: to Love because I believe with everything in me that
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  Speaker 2: love is not something you find, it's something you return to.
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  Speaker 2: It's already in you. It's already been in you. We're
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  Speaker 2: just finding our way back. I'm Robin Vogel. Be gentle
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  Speaker 2: with yourself. Love is possible, and it starts with coming
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  Speaker 2: back to you. Have a beautiful day everyone. Hi, this
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  Speaker 2: is Robin Vogel, host of come Back to Love. If
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  Speaker 2: you are ready to heal the past and open your
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  Speaker 2: heart to love again, I want to talk with you.
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  Speaker 2: love isn't just possible for you, it's waiting for you.
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  Speaker 3: Today, you've been listening to come Back to Love with
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  Speaker 3: Robin Vogel, a transformative program that covers an endless array
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  Speaker 3: of topics related to relationships, love and intimacy, along with
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  Speaker 3: all the reasons you may be keeping love at a distance.
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  Speaker 1: Tune in each week as Robin gives you practical tools
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  Speaker 1: that can be used to heal the past and help
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  Speaker 1: you to safely love again. Join Robin again next week
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  Speaker 1: at the same time for come Back to Love