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Shannon Watts on Midlife, Motherhood, and Becoming a Reluctant Activist · The Iconic Midlife with Roxy Manning

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  As
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  the
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  saying
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  goes,
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  if
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  you
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  don't
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  have
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  a
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  seat
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  at
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  the
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  table,
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  you're
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  probably
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  on
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  the
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  menu.
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  And
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  right
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  now,
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  women
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  are
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  very
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  much
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  on
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  the
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  menu.
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  You
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  have
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  to
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  reach
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  out
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  and
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  ask
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  people
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  for
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  help.
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  It's
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  really
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  hard
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  to
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  do
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  that.
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  You
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  don't
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  want
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  to
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  do
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  that.
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  I
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  love
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  this
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  idea
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  of
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  a
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  virtuous
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  circle.
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  It's
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  just
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  such
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  a
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  beautiful
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  idea
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  that,
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  you
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  know,
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  your
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  courage
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  gives
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  other
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  people
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  courage.
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  People
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  kind
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  of
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  put
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  up
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  these
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  roadblocks
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  and
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  it's
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  like,
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  I
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  can't
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  feel
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  this.
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  I
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  can't
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  feel.
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  It's
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  just
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  like.
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  Just
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  let
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  the
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  feeling
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  go
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  through
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  you.
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  And
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  it's
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  funny
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  how
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  when
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  you
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  go
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  to
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  therapy,
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  when
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  you
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  think
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  you
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  have
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  nothing
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  to
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  talk
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  about,
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  you
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  actually
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  end
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  up
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  having
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  a
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  lot
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  to
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  talk
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  about,
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  feeling
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  like
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  you're
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  winning,
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  finding
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  your
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  people.
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  Those
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  are
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  really
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  the
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  things
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  that
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  sustain
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  us
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  no
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  matter
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  what
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  we're
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  doing
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  in
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  our
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  lives.
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  I
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  don't
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  think
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  you
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  can
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  live
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  on
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  fire
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  alone.
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  I
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  do
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  think
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  you
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  have
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  to
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  have
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  what
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  I
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  call
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  a
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  bonfire
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  or
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  a
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  community
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  of
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  women.
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  You
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  know,
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  I
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  could
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  see
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  how
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  Buddhism,
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  too,
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  is
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  such
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  a
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  powerful
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  tool
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  for
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  you.
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  You
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  know,
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  my
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  dad,
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  he
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  always
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  laughs
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  that
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  he
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  thinks
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  yoga
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  was
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  the
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  gateway
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  to
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  my
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  Buddhism.
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  It's
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  always
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  the
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  gateway
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  during
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  the
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  yoga,
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  right?
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  Yes.
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  Are
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  you
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  60
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  and
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  want
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  to
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  go
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  to
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  medical
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  school?
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  Great.
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  There
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  is
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  no
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  reason
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  that
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  you
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  can't
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  be
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  productive
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  and
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  helpful
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  and
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  share
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  your
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  wisdom
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  forever.
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  Today's
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  guest
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  is
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  the
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  definition
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  of
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  fired
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  up.
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  And
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  she's
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  proof
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  that
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  one
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  woman's
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  voice
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  can
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  become
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  a
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  national
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  movement.
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  Shannon
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  Watts
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  is
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  the
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  founder
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  of
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  Moms
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  Demand
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  Action,
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  one
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  of
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  the
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  most
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  powerful
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  grassroots
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  organizations
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  in
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  the
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  country,
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  with
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  over
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  10
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  million
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  supporters
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  fighting
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  for
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  gun
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  safety
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  and
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  policy
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  change.
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  And
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  she
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  didn't
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  come
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  from
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  politics
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  or
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  activism.
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  She
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  was
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  a
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  stay
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  at
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  home
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  mom
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  who
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  turned
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  outrage
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  into
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  action
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  after
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  the
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  Sandy
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  Hook
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  shooting.
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  Now
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  she's
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  the
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  author
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  of
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  the
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  fierce
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  and
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  necessary
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  new
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  book,
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  Fired
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  up
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  how
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  to
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  Fight
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  for
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  Justice
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  Without
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  Burning
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  Out
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  a
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  roadmap.
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  For
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  anyone
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  who's
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  ever
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  asked,
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  but
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  what
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  can
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  I
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  do?
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  The
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  conversation
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  is
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  about
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  power,
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  purpose,
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  and
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  what
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  midlife
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  makes
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  possible.
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  We
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  talk
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  about
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  legacy,
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  burnout,
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  motherhood,
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  and
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  why
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  being
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  told
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  you're
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  too
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  much
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  might
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  actually
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  mean
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  you're
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  right
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  on
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  track.
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  If
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  you've
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  ever
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  felt
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  angry,
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  exhausted,
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  invisible,
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  or
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  just
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  done
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  with
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  playing
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  small,
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  this
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  episode
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  is
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  for
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  you.
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  So
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  settle
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  in.
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  Shannon's
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  about
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  to
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  drop
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  wisdom
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  that'll
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  stay
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  with
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  you
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  long
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  after
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  the
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  credits
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  roll.
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  And
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  don't
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  forget
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  to
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  follow
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  the
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  iconic
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  midlife
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  wherever
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  you
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  get
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  your
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  podcasts.
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  And
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  share
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  this
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  episode
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  with
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  one
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  woman
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  who's
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  ready
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  to
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  use
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  her
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  voice.
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  Shannon,
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  welcome
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  to
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  the
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  iconic
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  midlife.
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  I'm
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  so
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  excited
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  to
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  have
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  you
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  here.
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  I'm
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  thrilled
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  to
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  be
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  here.
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  Oh,
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  my
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  gosh.
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  Well,
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  it's
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  just
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  so
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  lovely
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  to
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  get
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  to
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  chat
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  with
• 2:24
  you
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  again.
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  You've
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  been
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  so
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  busy.
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  First
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  of
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  all,
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  how
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  is
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  your
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  summer
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  going?
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  Is
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  it
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  summer?
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  It
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  certainly
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  feels
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  like
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  it.
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  You
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  know,
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  writing
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  a
• 2:34
  book
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  is
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  such
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  an
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  interesting
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  process
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  because
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  I
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  went
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  from
• 2:38
  really
• 2:38
  rallying
• 2:39
  the
• 2:39
  troops
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  of
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  Mom's
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  Domain
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  Action.
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  I
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  probably
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  traveled
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  two
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  weeks
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  a
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  month
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  to
• 2:43
  sitting
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  in
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  a
• 2:43
  chair
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  for
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  nine
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  months.
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  Like,
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  I
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  felt
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  like
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  it
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  was.
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  I
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  was
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  giving
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  birth.
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  It
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  really
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  took
• 2:47
  nine
• 2:47
  months.
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  And
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  every
• 2:48
  day
• 2:48
  you
• 2:48
  sit
• 2:49
  down
• 2:49
  by
• 2:49
  yourself,
• 2:49
  it's
• 2:50
  a
• 2:50
  lot
• 2:50
  of
• 2:51
  solitude.
• 2:52
  You
• 2:52
  stare
• 2:52
  at
• 2:52
  a
• 2:52
  computer
• 2:53
  screen,
• 2:53
  you
• 2:54
  think,
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  and
• 2:55
  it's
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  just
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  a
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  lot.
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  It
• 2:56
  was
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  such
• 2:57
  a
• 2:57
  difference
• 2:57
  between
• 2:58
  what
• 2:58
  I'd
• 2:58
  been
• 2:58
  doing
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  and
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  then
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  you
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  have
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  a
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  year
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  between
• 3:01
  when
• 3:01
  you
• 3:01
  finish
• 3:01
  the
• 3:01
  book
• 3:01
  and
• 3:02
  it
• 3:02
  comes
• 3:02
  out
• 3:02
  and
• 3:02
  you're
• 3:03
  doing
• 3:03
  all
• 3:03
  this
• 3:03
  publicity
• 3:04
  and
• 3:04
  going
• 3:04
  on
• 3:04
  the
• 3:04
  road.
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  And,
• 3:05
  I
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  mean,
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  no
• 3:06
  one
• 3:06
  necessarily
• 3:07
  realizes
• 3:07
  it's
• 3:08
  a
• 3:08
  two
• 3:08
  or
• 3:08
  three
• 3:09
  year
• 3:09
  process.
• 3:09
  Wow.
• 3:10
  So,
• 3:10
  like,
• 3:11
  from
• 3:11
  start
• 3:11
  to
• 3:11
  finish,
• 3:12
  I
• 3:12
  mean,
• 3:12
  were
• 3:13
  there
• 3:13
  days
• 3:13
  did
• 3:13
  you
• 3:14
  experience,
• 3:14
  like,
• 3:15
  writer's
• 3:15
  block
• 3:15
  where
• 3:16
  you
• 3:16
  just
• 3:16
  couldn't
• 3:16
  even.
• 3:18
  I
• 3:18
  mean,
• 3:18
  there
• 3:19
  I
• 3:19
  was
• 3:19
  in
• 3:19
  tears
• 3:20
  a
• 3:20
  lot
• 3:20
  because
• 3:21
  it
• 3:21
  is.
• 3:22
  It's
• 3:23
  frustrating
• 3:24
  to
• 3:24
  try
• 3:25
  to
• 3:25
  figure
• 3:25
  out
• 3:26
  what
• 3:26
  you
• 3:26
  want
• 3:26
  to
• 3:27
  say
• 3:27
  when
• 3:27
  you
• 3:27
  have
• 3:27
  so
• 3:27
  much
• 3:27
  to
• 3:28
  say
• 3:28
  about
• 3:28
  something.
• 3:28
  And
• 3:28
  then
• 3:28
  there
• 3:29
  are
• 3:29
  days
• 3:29
  when
• 3:29
  you
• 3:29
  think,
• 3:31
  who
• 3:31
  wants
• 3:31
  to
• 3:31
  hear
• 3:31
  what
• 3:32
  I
• 3:32
  have
• 3:32
  to
• 3:32
  say?
• 3:32
  Or,
• 3:33
  what
• 3:33
  if
• 3:33
  I
• 3:33
  don't
• 3:33
  say
• 3:34
  the
• 3:34
  right
• 3:34
  thing?
• 3:34
  Or
• 3:35
  what
• 3:35
  if
• 3:35
  I'm
• 3:35
  just
• 3:36
  saying
• 3:36
  it
• 3:37
  the
• 3:37
  wrong
• 3:37
  way?
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  And
• 3:38
  I
• 3:38
  had
• 3:38
  a.
• 3:39
  I
• 3:39
  hired
• 3:39
  a
• 3:39
  book
• 3:39
  coach
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  probably
• 3:40
  six
• 3:40
  months
• 3:41
  in,
• 3:41
  and
• 3:41
  that
• 3:41
  was
• 3:42
  hugely
• 3:42
  helpful.
• 3:43
  I
• 3:43
  interviewed
• 3:44
  a
• 3:44
  bunch
• 3:44
  of
• 3:44
  people.
• 3:44
  When
• 3:44
  she
• 3:45
  said
• 3:45
  to
• 3:45
  me,
• 3:45
  I
• 3:45
  will
• 3:45
  be
• 3:45
  your
• 3:46
  left
• 3:46
  brain,
• 3:46
  I
• 3:46
  was
• 3:47
  like,
• 3:47
  you're
• 3:47
  hired.
• 3:47
  Oh,
• 3:48
  my
• 3:48
  gosh,
• 3:48
  that's
• 3:48
  amazing.
• 3:49
  So
• 3:49
  you
• 3:49
  had
• 3:49
  somebody
• 3:49
  you
• 3:49
  could,
• 3:50
  like,
• 3:50
  bounce
• 3:50
  your
• 3:50
  ideas
• 3:50
  off
• 3:51
  of.
• 3:51
  Yes.
• 3:52
  Because
• 3:52
  that
• 3:52
  just
• 3:53
  seems
• 3:53
  so
• 3:53
  daunting
• 3:54
  anyway.
• 3:54
  Like,
• 3:55
  writing
• 3:55
  a
• 3:55
  book.
• 3:55
  I
• 3:56
  mean,
• 3:57
  wow.
• 3:57
  But
• 3:58
  you
• 3:58
  were
• 3:58
  definitely
• 3:59
  inspired.
• 3:59
  What
• 3:59
  was
• 4:00
  the
• 4:00
  thing
• 4:00
  that
• 4:00
  really
• 4:01
  made
• 4:01
  you
• 4:01
  want
• 4:01
  to
• 4:01
  write
• 4:02
  at
• 4:02
  this
• 4:02
  time?
• 4:02
  What
• 4:02
  was
• 4:03
  like,
• 4:03
  okay,
• 4:03
  I
• 4:03
  have
• 4:03
  to
• 4:03
  put
• 4:03
  this
• 4:04
  pen
• 4:04
  to
• 4:04
  paper
• 4:04
  and,
• 4:05
  you.
• 4:05
  Know,
• 4:05
  I
• 4:05
  wrote
• 4:05
  a
• 4:05
  book
• 4:05
  in
• 4:06
  2019
• 4:06
  called
• 4:06
  Fight
• 4:06
  Like
• 4:07
  a
• 4:07
  Mother.
• 4:07
  And
• 4:07
  that
• 4:07
  was
• 4:08
  really
• 4:08
  about
• 4:09
  how
• 4:10
  women
• 4:10
  could
• 4:10
  do
• 4:11
  what
• 4:11
  I
• 4:11
  had
• 4:11
  done
• 4:12
  in
• 4:12
  their
• 4:13
  communities
• 4:13
  or
• 4:14
  their
• 4:14
  states
• 4:15
  on
• 4:16
  whatever
• 4:16
  issue
• 4:17
  really
• 4:17
  resonated
• 4:17
  with
• 4:18
  them.
• 4:18
  And
• 4:18
  I
• 4:18
  just
• 4:18
  wanted
• 4:19
  to
• 4:19
  memorialize
• 4:19
  what
• 4:20
  we
• 4:20
  had
• 4:20
  accomplished
• 4:21
  and
• 4:21
  how
• 4:21
  we
• 4:21
  did
• 4:21
  it
• 4:22
  with
• 4:22
  Moms
• 4:22
  Demand
• 4:22
  Action.
• 4:23
  And
• 4:23
  it
• 4:23
  was
• 4:23
  very
• 4:23
  focused
• 4:24
  on
• 4:24
  gun
• 4:24
  safety.
• 4:25
  And
• 4:25
  so
• 4:25
  then
• 4:25
  when
• 4:26
  I
• 4:26
  decided
• 4:26
  to
• 4:26
  step
• 4:27
  back
• 4:27
  at
• 4:27
  the
• 4:27
  end
• 4:28
  of
• 4:28
  23,
• 4:29
  I
• 4:29
  can
• 4:30
  remember,
• 4:30
  I
• 4:30
  was
• 4:30
  running
• 4:30
  on
• 4:31
  the
• 4:31
  treadmill
• 4:31
  one
• 4:31
  night
• 4:31
  and
• 4:32
  I
• 4:32
  looked
• 4:32
  down
• 4:32
  and
• 4:32
  my
• 4:33
  call
• 4:34
  said
• 4:34
  I
• 4:34
  was
• 4:35
  getting
• 4:35
  a
• 4:35
  call
• 4:35
  from
• 4:35
  Maria
• 4:36
  Shriver,
• 4:36
  who
• 4:36
  I.
• 4:38
  And
• 4:38
  as
• 4:38
  one
• 4:38
  does
• 4:38
  when
• 4:38
  they
• 4:39
  get
• 4:39
  a
• 4:39
  call
• 4:39
  from
• 4:39
  Maria
• 4:39
  Schreiber,
• 4:40
  they
• 4:40
  jump
• 4:40
  off
• 4:40
  the
• 4:40
  treadmill
• 4:40
  and
• 4:41
  answer
• 4:41
  it.
• 4:41
  And
• 4:42
  she
• 4:42
  said,
• 4:42
  you
• 4:43
  know,
• 4:43
  I
• 4:43
  have
• 4:43
  a
• 4:43
  book
• 4:43
  imprint
• 4:44
  and
• 4:44
  I
• 4:44
  really
• 4:45
  admire
• 4:45
  your
• 4:46
  work,
• 4:46
  and
• 4:46
  I
• 4:47
  would
• 4:47
  like
• 4:47
  you
• 4:47
  to
• 4:47
  write
• 4:48
  something
• 4:48
  for
• 4:48
  my
• 4:49
  imprint.
• 4:49
  And
• 4:49
  I
• 4:50
  said,
• 4:50
  sure.
• 4:50
  What
• 4:50
  about?
• 4:50
  And
• 4:51
  she
• 4:51
  said,
• 4:51
  well,
• 4:51
  you
• 4:51
  know,
• 4:51
  what
• 4:52
  have
• 4:52
  you
• 4:52
  learned
• 4:52
  about
• 4:52
  women
• 4:53
  through
• 4:53
  your
• 4:53
  career
• 4:53
  in
• 4:54
  activism?
• 4:55
  Well,
• 4:56
  that's
• 4:56
  a
• 4:56
  very
• 4:56
  big
• 4:56
  book.
• 4:57
  And
• 4:58
  so
• 4:58
  the
• 4:58
  more
• 4:59
  I
• 4:59
  thought
• 4:59
  about
• 4:59
  it
• 4:59
  and
• 5:00
  the
• 5:00
  more
• 5:00
  I
• 5:01
  talked
• 5:02
  about
• 5:02
  it
• 5:02
  with
• 5:03
  friends
• 5:03
  and
• 5:03
  colleagues,
• 5:04
  the
• 5:05
  more
• 5:05
  I
• 5:05
  realized
• 5:06
  that
• 5:06
  what
• 5:06
  I
• 5:06
  had
• 5:07
  seen
• 5:07
  over
• 5:07
  and
• 5:08
  over
• 5:08
  again
• 5:08
  in
• 5:09
  my
• 5:09
  work
• 5:09
  with
• 5:09
  women
• 5:10
  is
• 5:10
  that
• 5:11
  men
• 5:11
  are
• 5:11
  taught
• 5:12
  to
• 5:12
  fulfill
• 5:12
  their
• 5:12
  desires
• 5:13
  and
• 5:13
  women
• 5:14
  are
• 5:14
  taught
• 5:14
  to
• 5:14
  fulfill
• 5:14
  their
• 5:15
  obligations.
• 5:16
  And
• 5:16
  I
• 5:16
  want
• 5:17
  to
• 5:17
  encourage
• 5:17
  them.
• 5:18
  I
• 5:18
  want
• 5:18
  to
• 5:18
  summon
• 5:18
  their
• 5:19
  audacity
• 5:19
  and
• 5:20
  get
• 5:20
  them
• 5:21
  to
• 5:21
  ask
• 5:21
  themselves
• 5:22
  every
• 5:22
  single
• 5:23
  day,
• 5:23
  what
• 5:24
  do
• 5:24
  I
• 5:24
  want?
• 5:25
  And
• 5:25
  just
• 5:26
  to
• 5:26
  have
• 5:26
  that
• 5:26
  question
• 5:26
  top
• 5:27
  of
• 5:27
  mind,
• 5:27
  because,
• 5:29
  you
• 5:30
  know,
• 5:30
  I
• 5:30
  always
• 5:30
  say
• 5:30
  women
• 5:31
  don't
• 5:31
  fear
• 5:31
  their
• 5:32
  fire
• 5:32
  because
• 5:32
  they're
• 5:32
  weak.
• 5:33
  It's
• 5:33
  because
• 5:33
  they're
• 5:33
  wise.
• 5:34
  They
• 5:34
  know
• 5:35
  the
• 5:35
  system
• 5:35
  is
• 5:35
  set
• 5:36
  up
• 5:37
  to
• 5:37
  stop
• 5:37
  them
• 5:37
  at
• 5:37
  every
• 5:38
  step
• 5:38
  of
• 5:38
  the
• 5:38
  way.
• 5:39
  Because
• 5:40
  all
• 5:40
  of
• 5:40
  these
• 5:40
  obligations
• 5:41
  and
• 5:41
  all
• 5:41
  these
• 5:41
  shoulds
• 5:42
  are
• 5:42
  roles
• 5:42
  that
• 5:42
  we
• 5:43
  have
• 5:43
  taken
• 5:43
  on
• 5:44
  either,
• 5:45
  you
• 5:45
  know,
• 5:45
  by
• 5:45
  defect,
• 5:46
  de
• 5:46
  facto
• 5:47
  in
• 5:47
  society,
• 5:47
  or
• 5:48
  because
• 5:48
  we
• 5:48
  need
• 5:49
  to.
• 5:49
  But
• 5:50
  they
• 5:50
  just
• 5:50
  become
• 5:51
  so
• 5:51
  all
• 5:51
  encompassing
• 5:52
  that
• 5:52
  they
• 5:52
  become
• 5:53
  our
• 5:53
  identity.
• 5:54
  You
• 5:55
  know,
• 5:55
  I
• 5:55
  think
• 5:55
  what
• 5:55
  you've
• 5:56
  done
• 5:57
  has
• 5:57
  been
• 5:57
  absolutely
• 5:58
  amazing.
• 5:59
  And
• 5:59
  I
• 5:59
  think
• 5:59
  it's
• 5:59
  interesting
• 6:00
  because
• 6:00
  I've
• 6:01
  been,
• 6:01
  you
• 6:01
  know,
• 6:01
  reading
• 6:01
  your
• 6:02
  books,
• 6:02
  and
• 6:02
  they're
• 6:02
  so
• 6:03
  good.
• 6:03
  And
• 6:03
  you
• 6:04
  have
• 6:04
  referred
• 6:04
  to
• 6:04
  yourself
• 6:05
  as
• 6:05
  an
• 6:05
  accidental
• 6:06
  activist,
• 6:07
  which
• 6:07
  I
• 6:07
  thought
• 6:07
  was,
• 6:08
  like,
• 6:08
  brilliant.
• 6:08
  I'm
• 6:09
  like,
• 6:09
  oh,
• 6:09
  my
• 6:09
  gosh,
• 6:09
  this
• 6:09
  is
• 6:10
  great.
• 6:11
  Because
• 6:11
  it's
• 6:11
  not
• 6:11
  like
• 6:12
  from
• 6:12
  the
• 6:12
  beginning,
• 6:13
  you
• 6:13
  set
• 6:13
  out
• 6:14
  to,
• 6:14
  you
• 6:14
  know,
• 6:15
  create
• 6:15
  this.
• 6:16
  This
• 6:16
  amazing
• 6:17
  movement
• 6:18
  and
• 6:18
  really
• 6:18
  put
• 6:18
  yourself
• 6:19
  out
• 6:19
  in
• 6:19
  front.
• 6:20
  So
• 6:21
  what
• 6:21
  do
• 6:21
  you
• 6:21
  think
• 6:21
  that
• 6:22
  says
• 6:22
  to
• 6:22
  the
• 6:22
  power
• 6:23
  of
• 6:23
  women
• 6:23
  in
• 6:24
  midlife
• 6:25
  to
• 6:25
  be
• 6:25
  able
• 6:26
  to
• 6:26
  do
• 6:26
  something
• 6:26
  like
• 6:27
  this?
• 6:28
  Yeah,
• 6:28
  you
• 6:28
  know,
• 6:28
  I
• 6:29
  started
• 6:30
  Moms
• 6:30
  demand
• 6:30
  action
• 6:31
  at
• 6:31
  41
• 6:32
  after
• 6:32
  I
• 6:33
  had
• 6:33
  been
• 6:33
  living
• 6:33
  on
• 6:33
  autopilot
• 6:34
  in
• 6:34
  a
• 6:34
  lot
• 6:34
  of
• 6:35
  ways
• 6:35
  for
• 6:35
  a
• 6:35
  long
• 6:35
  time.
• 6:36
  I
• 6:36
  found
• 6:36
  myself
• 6:37
  in
• 6:37
  a
• 6:37
  career
• 6:38
  I
• 6:38
  didn't
• 6:38
  want.
• 6:39
  I
• 6:39
  found
• 6:40
  myself
• 6:40
  in
• 6:40
  a
• 6:40
  marriage
• 6:40
  that
• 6:41
  wasn't
• 6:41
  working.
• 6:42
  And
• 6:42
  I
• 6:43
  had
• 6:43
  to
• 6:43
  extract
• 6:44
  myself
• 6:44
  from
• 6:44
  those
• 6:44
  things
• 6:45
  before
• 6:45
  I
• 6:45
  was
• 6:45
  able
• 6:46
  to
• 6:46
  live
• 6:47
  on
• 6:47
  fire.
• 6:47
  And
• 6:48
  that's
• 6:48
  really
• 6:48
  just
• 6:48
  a
• 6:48
  metaphor
• 6:49
  for
• 6:49
  figuring
• 6:50
  out
• 6:50
  two
• 6:50
  things.
• 6:50
  What's
• 6:51
  limiting
• 6:51
  you
• 6:51
  and
• 6:52
  what's
• 6:52
  calling
• 6:52
  you.
• 6:53
  And
• 6:53
  I
• 6:53
  tried
• 6:54
  a
• 6:54
  lot
• 6:54
  of
• 6:54
  things
• 6:54
  in
• 6:55
  the
• 6:55
  five
• 6:55
  or
• 6:55
  so
• 6:55
  years
• 6:56
  between
• 6:57
  leaving
• 6:57
  my
• 6:58
  marriage,
• 6:58
  leaving
• 6:58
  My
• 6:59
  job
• 6:59
  and
• 6:59
  what
• 7:00
  came
• 7:00
  next.
• 7:01
  And
• 7:01
  I
• 7:02
  want
• 7:02
  to
• 7:02
  be
• 7:02
  clear,
• 7:03
  I'm
• 7:03
  not
• 7:03
  a
• 7:03
  unicorn.
• 7:04
  I
• 7:04
  think
• 7:04
  a
• 7:04
  lot
• 7:04
  of
• 7:04
  people
• 7:05
  see
• 7:06
  what
• 7:06
  I've
• 7:06
  accomplished
• 7:06
  and
• 7:06
  say,
• 7:07
  oh,
• 7:07
  wow,
• 7:07
  she
• 7:07
  must
• 7:07
  be
• 7:08
  a
• 7:08
  born
• 7:08
  leader.
• 7:09
  I
• 7:09
  knew
• 7:09
  nothing
• 7:09
  about
• 7:10
  gun
• 7:10
  violence
• 7:10
  prevention.
• 7:11
  I
• 7:11
  knew
• 7:12
  little
• 7:12
  to
• 7:12
  nothing
• 7:12
  about
• 7:12
  the
• 7:12
  legislative
• 7:13
  process.
• 7:13
  I
• 7:14
  knew
• 7:14
  nothing
• 7:14
  about
• 7:14
  organizing.
• 7:15
  I
• 7:16
  had
• 7:16
  severe,
• 7:17
  untreated
• 7:17
  adhd.
• 7:18
  I
• 7:19
  had
• 7:19
  a
• 7:19
  debilitating
• 7:20
  fear
• 7:20
  of
• 7:20
  public
• 7:20
  speaking.
• 7:21
  In
• 7:21
  fact,
• 7:21
  if
• 7:21
  you
• 7:22
  had
• 7:22
  told
• 7:22
  me
• 7:22
  this
• 7:22
  would
• 7:22
  have
• 7:22
  involved
• 7:23
  public
• 7:23
  speaking,
• 7:23
  I
• 7:23
  probably
• 7:24
  wouldn't
• 7:24
  have
• 7:24
  started
• 7:24
  the
• 7:24
  Facebook
• 7:25
  page.
• 7:26
  And
• 7:26
  I
• 7:26
  was
• 7:26
  not
• 7:27
  the
• 7:27
  person
• 7:27
  that
• 7:27
  someone
• 7:28
  would
• 7:28
  point
• 7:28
  at
• 7:28
  and
• 7:28
  say,
• 7:28
  oh,
• 7:29
  that
• 7:29
  woman
• 7:29
  over
• 7:29
  there.
• 7:30
  She
• 7:30
  should
• 7:30
  take
• 7:30
  on
• 7:30
  the
• 7:30
  most
• 7:31
  powerful,
• 7:31
  wealthy,
• 7:32
  special
• 7:32
  interest
• 7:32
  that's
• 7:32
  ever
• 7:32
  existed.
• 7:34
  And
• 7:34
  yet
• 7:34
  I
• 7:34
  was
• 7:34
  exactly
• 7:35
  the
• 7:35
  right
• 7:35
  person
• 7:35
  for
• 7:35
  the
• 7:35
  job
• 7:36
  because
• 7:37
  of
• 7:37
  the
• 7:38
  values,
• 7:39
  abilities,
• 7:39
  and
• 7:40
  desires
• 7:40
  that
• 7:40
  I
• 7:41
  had
• 7:41
  personally.
• 7:42
  So
• 7:43
  that's
• 7:43
  really
• 7:43
  what
• 7:43
  my
• 7:44
  book
• 7:44
  is
• 7:44
  about.
• 7:44
  The
• 7:44
  formula
• 7:45
  for
• 7:45
  living
• 7:45
  on
• 7:46
  fire.
• 7:46
  When
• 7:46
  we
• 7:46
  figure
• 7:46
  out
• 7:47
  what
• 7:47
  that
• 7:47
  is
• 7:47
  for
• 7:47
  each
• 7:48
  of
• 7:48
  us,
• 7:49
  we
• 7:50
  can
• 7:50
  have
• 7:51
  big
• 7:51
  and
• 7:51
  little
• 7:51
  fires
• 7:52
  in
• 7:52
  our
• 7:52
  lives
• 7:53
  to
• 7:53
  the
• 7:53
  very
• 7:53
  end.
• 7:54
  Do
• 7:54
  you
• 7:55
  think
• 7:55
  that
• 7:55
  because
• 7:55
  you
• 7:56
  started
• 7:56
  the
• 7:56
  movement
• 7:57
  at
• 7:57
  41
• 7:58
  that
• 7:58
  you
• 7:59
  had
• 7:59
  already
• 7:59
  had
• 7:59
  this
• 7:59
  life
• 8:00
  experience?
• 8:01
  You
• 8:01
  had
• 8:01
  lived,
• 8:02
  you
• 8:02
  had
• 8:02
  been
• 8:02
  married,
• 8:02
  you'd
• 8:03
  had
• 8:03
  kids,
• 8:03
  you'd
• 8:04
  worked
• 8:04
  out
• 8:04
  in
• 8:04
  the
• 8:04
  workforce.
• 8:06
  Do
• 8:06
  you
• 8:06
  think
• 8:06
  that
• 8:06
  that
• 8:06
  helped
• 8:07
  you
• 8:07
  when
• 8:07
  you
• 8:07
  started
• 8:08
  the
• 8:08
  movement?
• 8:08
  I
• 8:08
  mean,
• 8:09
  do
• 8:09
  you
• 8:09
  think
• 8:09
  you
• 8:09
  could
• 8:09
  have
• 8:09
  done
• 8:09
  this
• 8:10
  in
• 8:10
  your
• 8:10
  20s,
• 8:10
  like,
• 8:11
  when
• 8:11
  you
• 8:11
  were
• 8:11
  younger?
• 8:12
  Or
• 8:12
  do
• 8:12
  you
• 8:12
  think
• 8:12
  that
• 8:12
  you
• 8:13
  needed
• 8:13
  to
• 8:13
  be
• 8:13
  at
• 8:13
  that
• 8:14
  point
• 8:14
  in
• 8:14
  your
• 8:14
  life
• 8:14
  right
• 8:15
  then
• 8:15
  and
• 8:15
  there?
• 8:15
  I
• 8:15
  couldn't
• 8:15
  have
• 8:16
  done
• 8:16
  it.
• 8:16
  Well,
• 8:17
  I've
• 8:17
  always
• 8:17
  had
• 8:18
  a
• 8:18
  certain
• 8:19
  tenacity.
• 8:21
  My
• 8:21
  husband
• 8:22
  refers
• 8:22
  to
• 8:22
  me
• 8:22
  as
• 8:22
  being
• 8:22
  indomitable,
• 8:24
  and
• 8:24
  I.
• 8:25
  You
• 8:25
  know,
• 8:25
  I'm
• 8:25
  just
• 8:25
  very
• 8:26
  tenacious.
• 8:26
  If
• 8:27
  I
• 8:27
  have
• 8:27
  an
• 8:27
  idea,
• 8:27
  and
• 8:27
  I
• 8:28
  think
• 8:28
  it's
• 8:28
  a
• 8:28
  good
• 8:28
  one,
• 8:28
  I
• 8:28
  will
• 8:29
  not
• 8:29
  let
• 8:29
  go.
• 8:29
  However,
• 8:31
  it
• 8:31
  wasn't
• 8:31
  Until
• 8:31
  I
• 8:32
  was
• 8:32
  41
• 8:32
  years
• 8:32
  old
• 8:33
  I
• 8:33
  had
• 8:33
  found
• 8:34
  finally
• 8:34
  the
• 8:34
  love
• 8:34
  of
• 8:35
  my
• 8:35
  life.
• 8:35
  We
• 8:36
  were
• 8:36
  in
• 8:36
  the
• 8:36
  process
• 8:36
  of
• 8:37
  blending
• 8:37
  our
• 8:37
  two
• 8:37
  families.
• 8:38
  I
• 8:39
  had.
• 8:39
  You
• 8:40
  know,
• 8:40
  if
• 8:40
  10,000
• 8:41
  hours
• 8:41
  in
• 8:42
  something
• 8:42
  makes
• 8:42
  you
• 8:42
  an
• 8:42
  expert,
• 8:43
  I
• 8:43
  was
• 8:43
  certainly
• 8:43
  that
• 8:43
  in
• 8:44
  knowing
• 8:44
  how
• 8:44
  to
• 8:44
  build
• 8:44
  a
• 8:44
  brand
• 8:45
  and
• 8:45
  tell
• 8:45
  a
• 8:45
  story
• 8:46
  and
• 8:46
  message,
• 8:46
  something
• 8:47
  that
• 8:47
  was
• 8:47
  critical
• 8:48
  for
• 8:48
  starting
• 8:48
  Mom's
• 8:48
  New
• 8:49
  man
• 8:49
  action.
• 8:50
  I
• 8:50
  had
• 8:51
  become
• 8:51
  a
• 8:52
  practicing
• 8:52
  Buddhist
• 8:52
  in
• 8:53
  my
• 8:53
  30s,
• 8:53
  which
• 8:54
  certainly
• 8:54
  helped
• 8:54
  me
• 8:56
  understand
• 8:56
  how
• 8:56
  I
• 8:57
  wanted
• 8:57
  to
• 8:57
  be
• 8:57
  a
• 8:57
  leader.
• 8:58
  I
• 8:59
  had
• 8:59
  none
• 8:59
  of
• 8:59
  those
• 8:59
  skill
• 9:00
  sets.
• 9:00
  I
• 9:00
  wasn't
• 9:01
  incredibly
• 9:01
  emotionally
• 9:02
  mature
• 9:02
  probably
• 9:03
  until
• 9:03
  I
• 9:04
  was
• 9:04
  in
• 9:04
  my
• 9:04
  40s.
• 9:05
  And
• 9:05
  so
• 9:07
  could
• 9:07
  I
• 9:07
  have
• 9:07
  done
• 9:07
  it?
• 9:08
  Yes.
• 9:08
  Would
• 9:08
  it
• 9:08
  have
• 9:08
  imploded?
• 9:09
  Would
• 9:09
  it
• 9:10
  have
• 9:10
  been
• 9:10
  successful?
• 9:11
  Would
• 9:11
  it
• 9:11
  be
• 9:11
  something
• 9:12
  I
• 9:12
  was
• 9:12
  proud
• 9:12
  of?
• 9:13
  Probably
• 9:13
  not.
• 9:14
  That's
• 9:14
  a
• 9:15
  good
• 9:15
  point.
• 9:15
  I
• 9:15
  mean,
• 9:15
  do
• 9:16
  you
• 9:16
  think
• 9:16
  that,
• 9:16
  let's
• 9:17
  say
• 9:17
  there's
• 9:17
  A
• 9:17
  woman
• 9:17
  out
• 9:17
  there
• 9:18
  that's
• 9:18
  listening
• 9:19
  and
• 9:20
  she
• 9:20
  has
• 9:20
  a
• 9:20
  fire
• 9:21
  in
• 9:21
  her.
• 9:21
  She
• 9:21
  wants
• 9:22
  to
• 9:22
  do
• 9:22
  something,
• 9:23
  but
• 9:23
  she
• 9:24
  is
• 9:24
  holding
• 9:24
  herself
• 9:24
  back.
• 9:25
  Cause
• 9:25
  she
• 9:25
  feels
• 9:25
  like
• 9:25
  it's
• 9:26
  too
• 9:26
  late.
• 9:26
  I'm
• 9:26
  too
• 9:26
  old.
• 9:27
  I'm
• 9:27
  too
• 9:27
  late.
• 9:28
  Like
• 9:28
  I
• 9:29
  can't
• 9:29
  do
• 9:29
  this
• 9:29
  at
• 9:29
  this
• 9:29
  point
• 9:30
  in
• 9:30
  my
• 9:30
  life.
• 9:30
  What
• 9:30
  would
• 9:31
  you
• 9:31
  say
• 9:31
  to
• 9:31
  her?
• 9:32
  You
• 9:32
  are
• 9:33
  never
• 9:33
  too
• 9:33
  old
• 9:33
  and
• 9:33
  it
• 9:34
  is
• 9:34
  never
• 9:34
  too
• 9:34
  late.
• 9:34
  And
• 9:35
  that's
• 9:35
  a
• 9:35
  message
• 9:35
  that
• 9:35
  I
• 9:35
  talk
• 9:36
  about
• 9:36
  all
• 9:36
  the
• 9:36
  time.
• 9:36
  You
• 9:36
  know,
• 9:37
  there's
• 9:37
  so
• 9:37
  much
• 9:37
  right
• 9:37
  now
• 9:37
  about
• 9:38
  what
• 9:38
  women
• 9:39
  are
• 9:39
  doing,
• 9:39
  which
• 9:40
  I
• 9:40
  think
• 9:40
  is
• 9:40
  great
• 9:40
  because
• 9:41
  my
• 9:41
  mom's
• 9:42
  generation
• 9:42
  didn't
• 9:42
  have
• 9:42
  that
• 9:43
  right.
• 9:43
  She
• 9:43
  was
• 9:43
  expected
• 9:43
  to
• 9:44
  disappear
• 9:44
  as
• 9:45
  soon
• 9:45
  as
• 9:45
  I
• 9:45
  left
• 9:46
  for
• 9:46
  school
• 9:46
  when
• 9:47
  I
• 9:47
  was
• 9:47
  18.
• 9:47
  She
• 9:47
  was,
• 9:48
  I
• 9:48
  guess,
• 9:48
  supposed
• 9:49
  to
• 9:49
  take
• 9:49
  up
• 9:49
  a
• 9:49
  hobby
• 9:49
  and
• 9:49
  sort
• 9:49
  of
• 9:50
  sit
• 9:50
  on
• 9:50
  the
• 9:50
  sidelines
• 9:50
  the
• 9:50
  rest
• 9:51
  of
• 9:51
  her
• 9:51
  life.
• 9:52
  And
• 9:53
  what
• 9:53
  I'm
• 9:53
  so
• 9:53
  excited
• 9:54
  about
• 9:54
  as
• 9:54
  a
• 9:54
  Gen
• 9:54
  Xer
• 9:55
  is
• 9:55
  that
• 9:56
  we
• 9:56
  can
• 9:56
  do
• 9:57
  new
• 9:57
  things
• 9:57
  until
• 9:57
  the
• 9:57
  very
• 9:58
  end.
• 9:58
  You
• 9:58
  know,
• 9:58
  I'm
• 9:59
  54
• 9:59
  and
• 9:59
  I
• 9:59
  feel
• 9:59
  like
• 9:59
  I'm
• 10:00
  just
• 10:00
  getting
• 10:00
  started
• 10:00
  in
• 10:00
  a
• 10:01
  lot
• 10:01
  of
• 10:01
  ways.
• 10:02
  But
• 10:03
  what
• 10:03
  I
• 10:04
  think
• 10:04
  holds
• 10:04
  us
• 10:04
  back,
• 10:05
  and
• 10:05
  I've
• 10:05
  seen
• 10:05
  this
• 10:06
  so
• 10:06
  many
• 10:06
  times
• 10:08
  in
• 10:08
  my
• 10:08
  career,
• 10:09
  in
• 10:09
  my
• 10:09
  activism,
• 10:10
  is
• 10:10
  that
• 10:10
  women
• 10:11
  are
• 10:11
  brilliant
• 10:11
  and
• 10:11
  they
• 10:12
  have
• 10:12
  this
• 10:12
  very
• 10:13
  specific
• 10:14
  set
• 10:14
  of
• 10:14
  values
• 10:15
  and
• 10:15
  desires
• 10:16
  and
• 10:16
  abilities
• 10:16
  and
• 10:16
  they
• 10:17
  don't
• 10:17
  act
• 10:17
  on
• 10:17
  them.
• 10:18
  Because
• 10:19
  I
• 10:20
  think
• 10:20
  the
• 10:20
  true
• 10:20
  fear
• 10:21
  is
• 10:21
  blowback.
• 10:22
  Right?
• 10:23
  Blowback
• 10:23
  is
• 10:23
  going
• 10:24
  to
• 10:24
  come
• 10:24
  your
• 10:24
  way
• 10:24
  whether
• 10:25
  you
• 10:25
  do
• 10:25
  more
• 10:25
  in
• 10:25
  your
• 10:26
  life,
• 10:26
  whether
• 10:26
  you
• 10:26
  do
• 10:26
  less.
• 10:27
  If
• 10:27
  you're
• 10:27
  doing
• 10:28
  something
• 10:28
  differently,
• 10:29
  you
• 10:29
  will
• 10:29
  get
• 10:29
  blowback.
• 10:30
  Now
• 10:30
  if
• 10:30
  you.
• 10:31
  You
• 10:31
  may
• 10:31
  not
• 10:31
  get
• 10:31
  threats
• 10:31
  of
• 10:32
  death
• 10:32
  and
• 10:32
  sexual
• 10:32
  violence
• 10:32
  like
• 10:33
  I
• 10:33
  did
• 10:33
  when
• 10:33
  I
• 10:33
  started
• 10:34
  Moms
• 10:34
  Doing
• 10:34
  Action,
• 10:35
  but
• 10:35
  someone
• 10:35
  may
• 10:36
  make
• 10:36
  a
• 10:36
  snarky
• 10:36
  comment
• 10:37
  in
• 10:37
  a
• 10:37
  pickup
• 10:37
  line
• 10:37
  at
• 10:38
  your
• 10:38
  kid's
• 10:38
  school,
• 10:38
  or
• 10:38
  your
• 10:39
  mother
• 10:39
  in
• 10:39
  law
• 10:39
  might
• 10:39
  have
• 10:40
  something
• 10:40
  to
• 10:40
  say
• 10:40
  about
• 10:40
  something
• 10:41
  you
• 10:41
  missed
• 10:42
  or
• 10:42
  forgot.
• 10:43
  And
• 10:44
  women
• 10:44
  are
• 10:44
  so
• 10:45
  fearful
• 10:45
  because
• 10:46
  that
• 10:47
  blowback
• 10:47
  triggers
• 10:48
  in
• 10:48
  us
• 10:49
  the
• 10:49
  guilt
• 10:49
  and
• 10:50
  shame
• 10:50
  that
• 10:51
  either
• 10:51
  has
• 10:51
  been
• 10:51
  put
• 10:51
  in
• 10:51
  us
• 10:52
  by
• 10:52
  society
• 10:52
  or
• 10:53
  that
• 10:53
  we
• 10:53
  just
• 10:53
  intrinsically
• 10:54
  have
• 10:54
  as
• 10:55
  a
• 10:55
  reaction
• 10:55
  to
• 10:56
  not
• 10:56
  being
• 10:57
  good
• 10:58
  girls,
• 10:58
  right?
• 10:59
  And
• 10:59
  I
• 11:00
  call
• 11:00
  these
• 11:00
  extinguishers
• 11:01
  in
• 11:01
  my
• 11:01
  book
• 11:02
  that
• 11:02
  might
• 11:02
  be
• 11:02
  perfectionism,
• 11:04
  a
• 11:04
  fear
• 11:04
  of
• 11:04
  failure,
• 11:05
  imposter
• 11:06
  syndrome,
• 11:07
  a
• 11:07
  desire
• 11:08
  to
• 11:08
  disappear,
• 11:09
  wanting
• 11:09
  to
• 11:09
  murder
• 11:09
  yourself.
• 11:10
  There
• 11:10
  are
• 11:10
  all
• 11:10
  these
• 11:10
  things
• 11:11
  we
• 11:11
  do
• 11:11
  that
• 11:11
  sort
• 11:12
  of
• 11:12
  sabotage
• 11:14
  our
• 11:14
  desires
• 11:15
  and
• 11:15
  moving
• 11:15
  forward.
• 11:16
  And
• 11:17
  I
• 11:18
  interview
• 11:18
  over
• 11:18
  70
• 11:19
  women
• 11:19
  in
• 11:19
  this
• 11:19
  book.
• 11:19
  And
• 11:20
  it's
• 11:20
  so
• 11:20
  important
• 11:20
  to
• 11:21
  see
• 11:21
  that
• 11:21
  other
• 11:22
  women
• 11:22
  have
• 11:23
  gone
• 11:23
  through
• 11:23
  the
• 11:24
  fire,
• 11:24
  right?
• 11:24
  And
• 11:25
  come
• 11:25
  out
• 11:25
  the
• 11:25
  other
• 11:25
  side.
• 11:26
  And
• 11:27
  blowback
• 11:28
  is
• 11:28
  predictable.
• 11:29
  None
• 11:29
  of
• 11:29
  it
• 11:29
  is
• 11:30
  personal.
• 11:31
  And
• 11:32
  I
• 11:32
  also
• 11:33
  think
• 11:33
  your
• 11:33
  ability
• 11:34
  to
• 11:34
  live
• 11:34
  on
• 11:34
  fire
• 11:35
  is
• 11:35
  directly
• 11:36
  proportional
• 11:37
  to
• 11:37
  the
• 11:37
  amount
• 11:37
  of
• 11:37
  blowback
• 11:38
  you
• 11:38
  can
• 11:38
  endure.
• 11:40
  That's
• 11:40
  a
• 11:40
  good
• 11:41
  point.
• 11:41
  You
• 11:41
  know,
• 11:41
  I
• 11:41
  think,
• 11:42
  too,
• 11:42
  we
• 11:42
  have
• 11:43
  this
• 11:43
  sort
• 11:44
  of
• 11:44
  fear
• 11:44
  as
• 11:44
  women
• 11:44
  of
• 11:45
  not
• 11:45
  being
• 11:45
  liked,
• 11:46
  right?
• 11:46
  It's
• 11:46
  like,
• 11:47
  well,
• 11:47
  if
• 11:47
  I
• 11:47
  speak
• 11:47
  up
• 11:48
  too
• 11:48
  much
• 11:48
  or
• 11:48
  I'm
• 11:48
  too
• 11:49
  loud
• 11:49
  or
• 11:49
  I'm
• 11:49
  too
• 11:50
  angry
• 11:50
  or
• 11:50
  I'm
• 11:51
  too
• 11:51
  this
• 11:51
  too
• 11:51
  much
• 11:51
  too
• 11:52
  that.
• 11:52
  That
• 11:53
  people
• 11:53
  are
• 11:53
  not
• 11:53
  gonna
• 11:54
  like
• 11:54
  me.
• 11:54
  So
• 11:55
  how
• 11:55
  do
• 11:55
  we
• 11:55
  kind
• 11:55
  of
• 11:55
  let
• 11:56
  go
• 11:56
  of
• 11:56
  that
• 11:56
  as
• 11:57
  well?
• 11:57
  It's
• 11:57
  like
• 11:58
  we
• 11:58
  always
• 11:58
  be
• 11:59
  likable
• 11:59
  and
• 11:59
  affable
• 12:00
  to
• 12:00
  everybody.
• 12:00
  You
• 12:01
  know,
• 12:01
  I
• 12:01
  mean,
• 12:02
  I.
• 12:02
  I
• 12:02
  talk
• 12:02
  about
• 12:02
  how
• 12:03
  I
• 12:04
  struggled
• 12:04
  with
• 12:04
  this
• 12:04
  personally.
• 12:05
  And
• 12:05
  the
• 12:06
  extinguisher
• 12:07
  that
• 12:07
  the
• 12:07
  blowback
• 12:08
  triggered
• 12:09
  in
• 12:09
  me
• 12:10
  was
• 12:10
  to
• 12:10
  martyr
• 12:11
  myself.
• 12:12
  I
• 12:12
  did
• 12:12
  not
• 12:12
  take
• 12:13
  pay
• 12:13
  for
• 12:13
  11
• 12:14
  years
• 12:14
  of
• 12:14
  doing
• 12:15
  the
• 12:15
  hardest,
• 12:15
  hardest,
• 12:16
  busiest
• 12:17
  job
• 12:17
  I
• 12:17
  had
• 12:17
  ever
• 12:17
  had.
• 12:18
  You
• 12:18
  never
• 12:18
  took
• 12:18
  pay
• 12:18
  that
• 12:19
  whole
• 12:19
  time?
• 12:19
  I
• 12:19
  gave
• 12:19
  away
• 12:20
  all
• 12:20
  my
• 12:20
  book
• 12:20
  proceeds,
• 12:21
  my
• 12:21
  speaking
• 12:21
  proceeds.
• 12:22
  I
• 12:22
  didn't
• 12:22
  take
• 12:22
  a
• 12:23
  salary.
• 12:24
  And
• 12:24
  in
• 12:24
  the
• 12:24
  first
• 12:24
  few
• 12:25
  years,
• 12:25
  I
• 12:25
  can
• 12:25
  understand,
• 12:26
  like,
• 12:26
  I
• 12:26
  didn't
• 12:26
  want
• 12:26
  to
• 12:27
  be
• 12:27
  seen
• 12:27
  as
• 12:27
  a
• 12:27
  lobbyist.
• 12:28
  I
• 12:28
  wanted
• 12:28
  people
• 12:28
  to
• 12:29
  understand
• 12:29
  that
• 12:29
  I
• 12:29
  wasn't
• 12:29
  a
• 12:29
  gun
• 12:30
  violence
• 12:30
  survivor,
• 12:30
  but
• 12:31
  I
• 12:31
  was
• 12:32
  really
• 12:32
  committed
• 12:33
  to
• 12:33
  the
• 12:33
  cause.
• 12:34
  But
• 12:35
  meanwhile,
• 12:36
  you
• 12:36
  know,
• 12:36
  we
• 12:36
  were
• 12:36
  hiring
• 12:37
  staffers
• 12:37
  and
• 12:38
  other
• 12:38
  people,
• 12:38
  and
• 12:38
  they
• 12:38
  were
• 12:38
  getting
• 12:39
  paid
• 12:39
  very
• 12:39
  well.
• 12:40
  And
• 12:40
  I
• 12:40
  just
• 12:41
  couldn't
• 12:42
  get
• 12:42
  over
• 12:42
  this
• 12:42
  feeling
• 12:43
  of
• 12:43
  wanting
• 12:43
  people
• 12:44
  to
• 12:44
  believe
• 12:44
  that
• 12:44
  I
• 12:45
  was
• 12:45
  good
• 12:45
  and
• 12:46
  that
• 12:46
  if
• 12:46
  I
• 12:46
  took
• 12:46
  money,
• 12:46
  that
• 12:47
  meant
• 12:47
  I
• 12:47
  was
• 12:47
  bad.
• 12:48
  And
• 12:48
  I
• 12:48
  don't
• 12:48
  think
• 12:48
  that
• 12:49
  set
• 12:49
  a
• 12:49
  good
• 12:49
  example
• 12:49
  for
• 12:50
  other
• 12:50
  people,
• 12:51
  specifically
• 12:51
  other
• 12:52
  women.
• 12:52
  And
• 12:52
  so
• 12:52
  I
• 12:53
  talk
• 12:53
  about
• 12:54
  three
• 12:54
  ways
• 12:55
  in
• 12:55
  the
• 12:55
  book
• 12:55
  that
• 12:56
  you
• 12:56
  can
• 12:57
  relook
• 12:58
  at
• 12:58
  that
• 12:58
  blowback
• 12:59
  that
• 12:59
  makes
• 12:59
  you
• 12:59
  feel
• 13:00
  like
• 13:00
  maybe
• 13:00
  people
• 13:00
  don't
• 13:01
  think
• 13:01
  you're
• 13:01
  good
• 13:01
  or
• 13:01
  they
• 13:01
  don't
• 13:02
  like
• 13:02
  you.
• 13:02
  The
• 13:03
  first
• 13:03
  is
• 13:03
  to
• 13:04
  consider
• 13:04
  the
• 13:04
  source.
• 13:06
  We
• 13:07
  don't
• 13:07
  have
• 13:07
  to
• 13:07
  consider
• 13:08
  everyone's
• 13:08
  feedback
• 13:09
  as
• 13:10
  authentic
• 13:10
  or
• 13:11
  valuable
• 13:11
  or
• 13:12
  even
• 13:12
  real
• 13:12
  or
• 13:13
  true.
• 13:13
  You
• 13:14
  know,
• 13:14
  when
• 13:14
  I
• 13:14
  first
• 13:14
  started
• 13:14
  Mom's
• 13:15
  Demand
• 13:15
  Action,
• 13:15
  I
• 13:15
  had
• 13:15
  all
• 13:15
  these
• 13:16
  people
• 13:16
  say
• 13:16
  to
• 13:16
  me,
• 13:16
  you're
• 13:16
  not
• 13:16
  the
• 13:17
  right
• 13:17
  person.
• 13:17
  It's
• 13:17
  already
• 13:18
  been
• 13:18
  done.
• 13:18
  You
• 13:18
  can't
• 13:19
  do
• 13:19
  it.
• 13:19
  And.
• 13:20
  And
• 13:20
  I
• 13:21
  decided
• 13:21
  early
• 13:21
  on
• 13:21
  that
• 13:22
  I
• 13:22
  would
• 13:22
  listen
• 13:22
  to
• 13:22
  my
• 13:22
  gut
• 13:22
  and
• 13:23
  I
• 13:23
  would
• 13:23
  decide
• 13:23
  what
• 13:24
  feedback
• 13:24
  I
• 13:24
  was
• 13:24
  going
• 13:25
  to
• 13:25
  take
• 13:25
  and
• 13:25
  what
• 13:25
  feedback
• 13:26
  I
• 13:26
  wouldn't.
• 13:26
  And
• 13:27
  when
• 13:27
  you
• 13:27
  stop
• 13:27
  making
• 13:27
  it
• 13:28
  so
• 13:28
  personal,
• 13:28
  it
• 13:29
  feels
• 13:29
  less
• 13:29
  dangerous.
• 13:31
  The
• 13:31
  other
• 13:31
  thing
• 13:31
  is
• 13:31
  to
• 13:32
  reframe
• 13:33
  those
• 13:33
  thoughts,
• 13:33
  right?
• 13:34
  We
• 13:34
  take
• 13:34
  that
• 13:34
  in
• 13:35
  and
• 13:35
  then
• 13:35
  we
• 13:35
  take
• 13:35
  it
• 13:35
  personally,
• 13:36
  and
• 13:36
  then
• 13:36
  it
• 13:36
  triggers
• 13:37
  these
• 13:37
  extinguishers.
• 13:38
  I
• 13:38
  interview
• 13:40
  a
• 13:40
  meditation
• 13:41
  guru,
• 13:41
  Sharon
• 13:41
  Salzberg,
• 13:42
  in
• 13:42
  the
• 13:42
  book,
• 13:42
  a
• 13:43
  compassion
• 13:44
  expert,
• 13:44
  Kristin
• 13:44
  Neff.
• 13:45
  And
• 13:45
  they
• 13:46
  give
• 13:46
  very
• 13:46
  valuable
• 13:47
  ways
• 13:47
  about
• 13:47
  how
• 13:47
  do
• 13:48
  you
• 13:48
  reframe
• 13:48
  those
• 13:48
  thoughts
• 13:49
  so
• 13:49
  that
• 13:49
  you
• 13:49
  were
• 13:49
  kind
• 13:50
  and
• 13:50
  so
• 13:50
  that
• 13:50
  you
• 13:50
  were
• 13:51
  gentle
• 13:51
  and
• 13:51
  generous,
• 13:51
  Generous
• 13:52
  with
• 13:52
  yourself.
• 13:53
  And
• 13:53
  then
• 13:54
  the
• 13:54
  third
• 13:54
  thing
• 13:54
  is
• 13:55
  remembering
• 13:55
  that
• 13:56
  you
• 13:56
  are
• 13:56
  a
• 13:56
  Role
• 13:56
  model.
• 13:57
  Other
• 13:58
  women,
• 13:58
  in
• 13:58
  particular,
• 13:59
  your
• 13:59
  daughters,
• 14:00
  are
• 14:00
  watching
• 14:00
  you
• 14:01
  and
• 14:02
  how
• 14:02
  much
• 14:02
  blowback
• 14:03
  you
• 14:03
  can
• 14:03
  withstand
• 14:03
  and
• 14:04
  whether
• 14:04
  you're
• 14:04
  going
• 14:04
  to
• 14:04
  move
• 14:05
  forward
• 14:05
  with
• 14:05
  your
• 14:06
  brilliant
• 14:06
  ideas.
• 14:07
  And
• 14:07
  so
• 14:09
  when
• 14:09
  you
• 14:10
  are
• 14:10
  able
• 14:10
  to
• 14:12
  go
• 14:12
  through
• 14:12
  the
• 14:12
  messy
• 14:13
  middle,
• 14:13
  get
• 14:13
  to
• 14:13
  the
• 14:13
  other
• 14:14
  side,
• 14:14
  it's
• 14:14
  a
• 14:14
  virtuous
• 14:15
  circle.
• 14:15
  It's
• 14:16
  not
• 14:16
  just
• 14:16
  benefiting
• 14:17
  you,
• 14:17
  it's
• 14:17
  benefiting
• 14:17
  so
• 14:17
  many
• 14:18
  other
• 14:18
  women.
• 14:19
  That's
• 14:19
  the
• 14:19
  important
• 14:19
  thing,
• 14:20
  too,
• 14:20
  because
• 14:20
  it's
• 14:20
  like
• 14:20
  you
• 14:21
  gotta
• 14:21
  keep
• 14:21
  your
• 14:21
  mind
• 14:21
  focused
• 14:22
  on
• 14:22
  the
• 14:22
  end
• 14:22
  goal
• 14:22
  in
• 14:22
  that
• 14:23
  way.
• 14:23
  Right?
• 14:24
  It's
• 14:24
  not
• 14:24
  just.
• 14:24
  It's
• 14:24
  like
• 14:25
  getting
• 14:25
  through
• 14:25
  that
• 14:25
  daily
• 14:25
  minutiae,
• 14:26
  you
• 14:26
  know,
• 14:27
  so
• 14:27
  because
• 14:28
  you've
• 14:28
  experienced,
• 14:29
  you
• 14:29
  know,
• 14:29
  people
• 14:30
  making
• 14:30
  death
• 14:31
  threats,
• 14:31
  making
• 14:31
  sexual
• 14:32
  threats
• 14:32
  towards
• 14:32
  you,
• 14:33
  and
• 14:33
  just
• 14:33
  general,
• 14:34
  you
• 14:34
  know,
• 14:34
  blowback,
• 14:35
  how
• 14:35
  do
• 14:36
  you
• 14:36
  protect
• 14:37
  your
• 14:37
  peace?
• 14:39
  What
• 14:39
  is
• 14:39
  the
• 14:39
  secret,
• 14:40
  lady?
• 14:40
  That's
• 14:40
  what
• 14:40
  everyone
• 14:41
  is,
• 14:41
  you
• 14:41
  know,
• 14:42
  really
• 14:42
  wanting
• 14:42
  to
• 14:42
  understand
• 14:43
  right
• 14:43
  now
• 14:43
  in
• 14:43
  the
• 14:43
  world
• 14:43
  that
• 14:44
  we
• 14:44
  live
• 14:44
  in.
• 14:44
  And
• 14:45
  I
• 14:45
  actually
• 14:45
  think
• 14:45
  that's
• 14:46
  why
• 14:46
  my
• 14:46
  book
• 14:46
  is
• 14:46
  so
• 14:46
  timely,
• 14:47
  because
• 14:48
  none
• 14:49
  of
• 14:49
  us
• 14:49
  can
• 14:49
  afford
• 14:49
  to
• 14:50
  sit
• 14:50
  on
• 14:50
  the
• 14:50
  sidelines.
• 14:50
  And
• 14:51
  that
• 14:51
  doesn't
• 14:51
  mean
• 14:51
  you
• 14:51
  have
• 14:52
  to
• 14:52
  start
• 14:52
  an
• 14:52
  organization.
• 14:53
  Doesn't
• 14:53
  even
• 14:53
  mean
• 14:54
  you
• 14:54
  need
• 14:54
  to
• 14:54
  be
• 14:54
  an
• 14:54
  activist.
• 14:55
  I
• 14:55
  think
• 14:55
  Living
• 14:56
  on
• 14:56
  Fire
• 14:57
  can
• 14:57
  be
• 14:57
  personal,
• 14:58
  political,
• 14:58
  professional.
• 15:00
  But
• 15:00
  we
• 15:00
  all
• 15:00
  need
• 15:00
  to
• 15:01
  bring
• 15:01
  our
• 15:01
  own
• 15:01
  abilities,
• 15:02
  values,
• 15:02
  and
• 15:02
  desires
• 15:03
  to
• 15:03
  the
• 15:03
  world.
• 15:04
  And
• 15:05
  I
• 15:05
  always
• 15:05
  see
• 15:06
  this
• 15:06
  work
• 15:07
  as,
• 15:07
  yes,
• 15:08
  a
• 15:08
  marathon,
• 15:08
  not
• 15:09
  a
• 15:09
  sprint,
• 15:09
  but
• 15:09
  also
• 15:09
  a
• 15:09
  relay
• 15:10
  race.
• 15:11
  You
• 15:11
  know,
• 15:11
  we
• 15:11
  don't
• 15:12
  have
• 15:12
  to
• 15:12
  do
• 15:12
  all
• 15:12
  of
• 15:12
  the
• 15:13
  work
• 15:13
  at
• 15:13
  once.
• 15:14
  And
• 15:14
  I'm
• 15:14
  using
• 15:15
  activism
• 15:15
  as
• 15:16
  an
• 15:16
  example.
• 15:16
  But
• 15:16
  if
• 15:16
  you
• 15:17
  think
• 15:17
  about,
• 15:17
  like,
• 15:17
  the
• 15:17
  women
• 15:17
  who
• 15:18
  were
• 15:18
  imprisoned
• 15:18
  and
• 15:19
  beaten
• 15:19
  and
• 15:20
  starved
• 15:21
  for
• 15:22
  fighting
• 15:22
  for
• 15:22
  the
• 15:23
  right
• 15:23
  for
• 15:23
  women
• 15:23
  to
• 15:23
  vote,
• 15:24
  they
• 15:24
  never
• 15:25
  saw
• 15:25
  the
• 15:25
  fruits
• 15:25
  of
• 15:25
  their
• 15:25
  labor.
• 15:26
  Never.
• 15:26
  Because
• 15:27
  it
• 15:27
  took
• 15:27
  over
• 15:27
  100
• 15:28
  years
• 15:28
  for
• 15:28
  all
• 15:28
  women
• 15:29
  to
• 15:29
  have
• 15:29
  the
• 15:29
  right
• 15:29
  to
• 15:29
  vote.
• 15:30
  What
• 15:31
  they
• 15:31
  did
• 15:31
  was
• 15:31
  a
• 15:31
  true
• 15:32
  service
• 15:32
  to
• 15:32
  the
• 15:32
  generations
• 15:33
  that
• 15:33
  followed
• 15:33
  them
• 15:34
  who
• 15:34
  could
• 15:34
  build
• 15:34
  on
• 15:34
  that
• 15:35
  foundation.
• 15:36
  And
• 15:36
  so
• 15:36
  if
• 15:36
  we
• 15:37
  think
• 15:37
  about
• 15:37
  this
• 15:38
  as
• 15:38
  something
• 15:38
  that
• 15:39
  we
• 15:39
  are
• 15:39
  obligated
• 15:40
  to
• 15:40
  do,
• 15:41
  especially
• 15:41
  in
• 15:41
  a
• 15:41
  democracy,
• 15:42
  also
• 15:43
  because
• 15:43
  we
• 15:43
  want
• 15:43
  to
• 15:43
  get
• 15:43
  to
• 15:44
  the
• 15:44
  end
• 15:44
  of
• 15:44
  our
• 15:44
  lives
• 15:44
  and
• 15:44
  know
• 15:45
  that
• 15:45
  we
• 15:45
  burned,
• 15:45
  we
• 15:45
  want
• 15:45
  to
• 15:46
  leave
• 15:46
  a
• 15:46
  legacy.
• 15:47
  I
• 15:47
  think
• 15:47
  that's
• 15:47
  a
• 15:48
  very
• 15:48
  loaded
• 15:48
  word.
• 15:48
  Right?
• 15:49
  You
• 15:49
  think
• 15:49
  of
• 15:49
  someone
• 15:50
  who
• 15:50
  started
• 15:50
  at
• 15:50
  a
• 15:50
  philanthropy
• 15:51
  or
• 15:51
  someone
• 15:51
  whose
• 15:52
  name
• 15:52
  is
• 15:52
  on
• 15:52
  the
• 15:52
  side
• 15:52
  of
• 15:52
  a
• 15:52
  hospital.
• 15:53
  It's
• 15:54
  not.
• 15:54
  It's
• 15:54
  just
• 15:55
  living
• 15:55
  a
• 15:55
  life
• 15:55
  that
• 15:56
  is
• 15:56
  authentic
• 15:56
  to
• 15:57
  you.
• 15:58
  And,
• 15:59
  you
• 15:59
  know,
• 15:59
  early
• 16:00
  days
• 16:00
  of
• 16:00
  Mom's
• 16:01
  Human
• 16:01
  action,
• 16:02
  I
• 16:02
  can
• 16:02
  remember
• 16:02
  when
• 16:03
  I
• 16:03
  was
• 16:03
  getting
• 16:03
  all
• 16:03
  these
• 16:03
  threats,
• 16:04
  I
• 16:04
  called
• 16:04
  the
• 16:04
  local
• 16:04
  police
• 16:05
  department.
• 16:05
  They
• 16:05
  sent
• 16:05
  an
• 16:05
  officer
• 16:06
  out
• 16:06
  to
• 16:06
  my
• 16:06
  home
• 16:07
  in
• 16:07
  Indiana,
• 16:08
  and
• 16:08
  I
• 16:08
  told
• 16:08
  him
• 16:09
  what
• 16:09
  happened.
• 16:09
  And
• 16:09
  he
• 16:09
  said,
• 16:10
  well,
• 16:10
  that's
• 16:10
  what
• 16:10
  you
• 16:11
  get
• 16:11
  when
• 16:11
  you
• 16:11
  mess
• 16:11
  with
• 16:11
  the
• 16:11
  Second
• 16:12
  Amendment,
• 16:12
  ma'.
• 16:12
  Am.
• 16:13
  That
• 16:13
  was
• 16:13
  his
• 16:14
  response
• 16:14
  to
• 16:14
  you?
• 16:14
  Yeah.
• 16:15
  And
• 16:16
  I
• 16:16
  knew
• 16:16
  in
• 16:16
  that
• 16:16
  moment
• 16:17
  I
• 16:17
  had
• 16:17
  a
• 16:17
  choice.
• 16:17
  I
• 16:17
  was
• 16:18
  either
• 16:18
  going
• 16:18
  to
• 16:18
  back
• 16:18
  down
• 16:19
  or
• 16:19
  to
• 16:19
  double
• 16:19
  down.
• 16:21
  And
• 16:22
  our
• 16:23
  lives
• 16:23
  are
• 16:23
  as
• 16:23
  big
• 16:23
  as
• 16:24
  we
• 16:24
  make
• 16:24
  them.
• 16:24
  We
• 16:25
  can
• 16:25
  live
• 16:25
  very
• 16:25
  small
• 16:26
  and
• 16:26
  be
• 16:26
  afraid
• 16:27
  of
• 16:27
  what's
• 16:27
  happening
• 16:27
  in
• 16:28
  the
• 16:28
  world
• 16:28
  or
• 16:29
  what
• 16:29
  people
• 16:29
  think
• 16:29
  of
• 16:29
  us,
• 16:30
  or
• 16:30
  we
• 16:31
  can
• 16:31
  decide
• 16:31
  that
• 16:32
  we
• 16:32
  want
• 16:32
  to
• 16:32
  leave
• 16:32
  a
• 16:32
  legacy
• 16:33
  and
• 16:33
  that
• 16:33
  we
• 16:33
  want
• 16:34
  to
• 16:34
  leave
• 16:34
  it
• 16:34
  all
• 16:34
  in
• 16:34
  the
• 16:34
  field
• 16:35
  and
• 16:35
  that
• 16:35
  we're
• 16:35
  going
• 16:35
  to
• 16:35
  live
• 16:35
  big.
• 16:37
  So
• 16:37
  when
• 16:37
  you
• 16:37
  were
• 16:37
  getting
• 16:38
  those
• 16:38
  kinds
• 16:38
  of
• 16:38
  death
• 16:39
  threats
• 16:39
  and
• 16:39
  then
• 16:39
  the
• 16:39
  police
• 16:40
  officer
• 16:40
  said
• 16:41
  that
• 16:41
  kind
• 16:41
  of
• 16:41
  callous
• 16:42
  thing
• 16:42
  to
• 16:42
  you,
• 16:43
  did
• 16:44
  you
• 16:44
  ever
• 16:44
  stop,
• 16:44
  like,
• 16:45
  and
• 16:45
  kind
• 16:45
  of
• 16:45
  think
• 16:45
  about,
• 16:46
  oh,
• 16:46
  gosh,
• 16:47
  like,
• 16:47
  what
• 16:47
  if
• 16:47
  this
• 16:47
  affects
• 16:48
  my
• 16:48
  kids
• 16:48
  in
• 16:48
  any
• 16:49
  way?
• 16:49
  Like,
• 16:49
  was
• 16:49
  that
• 16:49
  ever
• 16:50
  something
• 16:50
  that
• 16:50
  held
• 16:50
  you
• 16:50
  back
• 16:51
  at
• 16:51
  some
• 16:51
  point
• 16:51
  or.
• 16:52
  Yeah,
• 16:52
  I
• 16:53
  mean,
• 16:53
  there
• 16:53
  were
• 16:53
  days.
• 16:54
  First
• 16:54
  of
• 16:55
  all,
• 16:55
  I
• 16:55
  was
• 16:55
  more
• 16:55
  overwhelmed
• 16:56
  than
• 16:56
  I've
• 16:56
  ever
• 16:56
  been
• 16:56
  in
• 16:56
  my
• 16:56
  life.
• 16:57
  Right.
• 16:57
  It
• 16:57
  was
• 16:57
  like
• 16:58
  running
• 16:58
  a
• 16:58
  startup.
• 16:59
  And
• 17:00
  I
• 17:00
  had
• 17:00
  to
• 17:00
  fundraise
• 17:01
  and
• 17:01
  I
• 17:01
  had
• 17:01
  to
• 17:01
  do
• 17:01
  the
• 17:01
  social
• 17:01
  media
• 17:02
  and
• 17:02
  I
• 17:02
  had
• 17:02
  to
• 17:02
  manage
• 17:03
  all
• 17:03
  the
• 17:03
  volunteers
• 17:04
  and
• 17:04
  the
• 17:05
  volunteer
• 17:05
  leaders
• 17:05
  and
• 17:06
  I
• 17:06
  mean,
• 17:06
  it
• 17:07
  just,
• 17:07
  it
• 17:07
  was
• 17:07
  a
• 17:08
  lot
• 17:08
  after
• 17:09
  having
• 17:09
  been
• 17:09
  a
• 17:09
  stay
• 17:09
  at
• 17:09
  home
• 17:10
  mom
• 17:10
  for
• 17:10
  about
• 17:10
  five
• 17:10
  years.
• 17:12
  And,
• 17:12
  you
• 17:12
  know,
• 17:12
  the
• 17:13
  other
• 17:13
  piece
• 17:13
  of
• 17:13
  it
• 17:13
  was,
• 17:13
  as
• 17:14
  you
• 17:14
  said,
• 17:14
  the
• 17:14
  threats
• 17:15
  that
• 17:15
  were
• 17:15
  coming
• 17:15
  in
• 17:15
  constantly.
• 17:17
  And
• 17:17
  I
• 17:18
  didn't
• 17:18
  expect
• 17:18
  it.
• 17:18
  You
• 17:19
  know,
• 17:19
  there's
• 17:19
  sort
• 17:19
  of
• 17:19
  a
• 17:19
  fine
• 17:20
  line
• 17:20
  between
• 17:20
  stupidity
• 17:21
  and
• 17:21
  naivete,
• 17:22
  and
• 17:22
  I
• 17:22
  was
• 17:22
  definitely
• 17:23
  straddling
• 17:23
  that.
• 17:24
  But
• 17:24
  I
• 17:24
  did
• 17:25
  make
• 17:25
  a
• 17:25
  decision
• 17:25
  early
• 17:26
  on,
• 17:26
  which
• 17:26
  was,
• 17:27
  if
• 17:27
  I
• 17:27
  lose
• 17:28
  my
• 17:28
  kids,
• 17:28
  I
• 17:28
  have
• 17:28
  nothing
• 17:28
  left
• 17:28
  to
• 17:29
  lose.
• 17:30
  And
• 17:31
  these
• 17:32
  people
• 17:32
  want
• 17:33
  me
• 17:33
  to
• 17:34
  back
• 17:34
  down.
• 17:35
  They
• 17:35
  want
• 17:35
  me
• 17:35
  to
• 17:36
  be
• 17:36
  afraid,
• 17:36
  they
• 17:36
  want
• 17:37
  me
• 17:37
  to
• 17:37
  be
• 17:37
  intimidated,
• 17:37
  they
• 17:38
  want
• 17:38
  to
• 17:38
  silence
• 17:38
  me.
• 17:39
  And
• 17:39
  I
• 17:39
  just,
• 17:40
  I
• 17:40
  wasn't
• 17:40
  willing
• 17:40
  to
• 17:41
  do
• 17:41
  that.
• 17:41
  Yeah,
• 17:42
  you're
• 17:42
  like,
• 17:42
  screw
• 17:42
  them,
• 17:43
  right?
• 17:43
  I
• 17:43
  mean,
• 17:44
  but
• 17:44
  it
• 17:44
  takes
• 17:44
  that.
• 17:45
  It
• 17:45
  takes
• 17:45
  that,
• 17:45
  like,
• 17:45
  fortitude
• 17:46
  and
• 17:46
  that
• 17:46
  bravery
• 17:47
  like
• 17:47
  you
• 17:47
  had
• 17:47
  to
• 17:48
  kind
• 17:48
  of
• 17:48
  go
• 17:49
  through.
• 17:49
  You
• 17:49
  know,
• 17:50
  Were
• 17:50
  there
• 17:50
  days
• 17:51
  that
• 17:51
  you
• 17:51
  were
• 17:51
  truly
• 17:51
  scared?
• 17:54
  Yeah,
• 17:54
  I
• 17:54
  mean,
• 17:54
  you
• 17:54
  know,
• 17:54
  there
• 17:55
  were
• 17:55
  people
• 17:55
  cutting
• 17:56
  letters
• 17:56
  out
• 17:56
  of
• 17:57
  magazines
• 17:57
  and
• 17:57
  sending,
• 17:58
  you
• 17:58
  know,
• 17:59
  these
• 17:59
  long
• 18:00
  pasted
• 18:00
  on
• 18:01
  letters
• 18:01
  to,
• 18:01
  like,
• 18:01
  Son
• 18:01
  of
• 18:02
  Sam,
• 18:02
  to
• 18:02
  my
• 18:02
  home.
• 18:03
  There
• 18:04
  were
• 18:04
  people
• 18:04
  who
• 18:04
  were
• 18:04
  driving
• 18:04
  by
• 18:05
  my
• 18:05
  house
• 18:06
  when
• 18:06
  I
• 18:06
  had
• 18:06
  my
• 18:07
  first
• 18:07
  book
• 18:07
  came
• 18:07
  out
• 18:08
  in
• 18:08
  2019,
• 18:08
  armed
• 18:09
  men
• 18:09
  were
• 18:09
  being
• 18:09
  dragged
• 18:10
  out
• 18:10
  of
• 18:10
  the
• 18:10
  bookstore.
• 18:11
  And
• 18:11
  it
• 18:11
  wasn't
• 18:11
  just
• 18:11
  me.
• 18:12
  Right.
• 18:12
  It
• 18:12
  was
• 18:12
  our
• 18:12
  volunteers,
• 18:12
  too.
• 18:13
  They
• 18:13
  would
• 18:13
  go
• 18:13
  to
• 18:13
  marches
• 18:13
  and
• 18:13
  rallies
• 18:14
  and
• 18:14
  be
• 18:14
  surrounded
• 18:14
  by
• 18:15
  mostly
• 18:15
  men
• 18:15
  with
• 18:16
  semiautomatic
• 18:16
  rifles,
• 18:17
  because
• 18:18
  that's
• 18:18
  allowed
• 18:18
  in
• 18:18
  this
• 18:19
  country.
• 18:19
  And
• 18:21
  in
• 18:21
  many
• 18:21
  ways,
• 18:22
  I
• 18:22
  think
• 18:24
  my
• 18:24
  refusal
• 18:25
  to
• 18:25
  back
• 18:25
  down
• 18:26
  set
• 18:26
  an
• 18:26
  example
• 18:26
  for
• 18:26
  other
• 18:27
  volunteers,
• 18:27
  and
• 18:27
  then
• 18:28
  their
• 18:28
  refusal
• 18:28
  to
• 18:29
  set
• 18:29
  down,
• 18:29
  step
• 18:30
  back,
• 18:30
  set
• 18:31
  an
• 18:32
  example
• 18:32
  for
• 18:32
  other
• 18:32
  volunteers.
• 18:33
  So
• 18:33
  it,
• 18:34
  you
• 18:34
  know,
• 18:34
  I
• 18:34
  love
• 18:34
  this
• 18:35
  idea.
• 18:35
  We
• 18:35
  always
• 18:35
  talk
• 18:35
  about
• 18:36
  a
• 18:36
  vicious
• 18:36
  cycle
• 18:37
  or
• 18:37
  circle.
• 18:38
  I
• 18:38
  love
• 18:38
  this
• 18:38
  idea
• 18:38
  of
• 18:39
  a
• 18:39
  virtuous
• 18:39
  circle.
• 18:40
  It's
• 18:40
  just
• 18:40
  such
• 18:40
  a
• 18:40
  beautiful
• 18:41
  idea
• 18:41
  that,
• 18:41
  you
• 18:41
  know,
• 18:42
  your
• 18:42
  courage
• 18:42
  gives
• 18:43
  other
• 18:43
  people
• 18:43
  courage.
• 18:44
  So
• 18:44
  is
• 18:44
  that
• 18:44
  what
• 18:44
  sustained
• 18:45
  you?
• 18:45
  Because
• 18:45
  we
• 18:46
  all
• 18:46
  have
• 18:46
  our
• 18:46
  days
• 18:46
  where
• 18:46
  it's
• 18:47
  kind
• 18:47
  of
• 18:47
  like
• 18:47
  up
• 18:47
  and
• 18:47
  down
• 18:48
  and
• 18:49
  all
• 18:49
  over
• 18:49
  the
• 18:49
  place.
• 18:49
  Life
• 18:50
  happens,
• 18:50
  right?
• 18:51
  So
• 18:51
  is
• 18:51
  that
• 18:52
  what
• 18:52
  sustained
• 18:52
  you
• 18:53
  on
• 18:53
  the
• 18:53
  days
• 18:53
  that
• 18:53
  you
• 18:53
  just
• 18:53
  kind
• 18:54
  of
• 18:54
  wanted
• 18:54
  to
• 18:54
  like,
• 18:54
  maybe
• 18:55
  throw
• 18:55
  in
• 18:55
  the
• 18:55
  towel
• 18:56
  or
• 18:56
  you're
• 18:56
  like,
• 18:56
  oh,
• 18:57
  I'm
• 18:57
  so
• 18:57
  done?
• 18:58
  You
• 18:58
  know,
• 18:59
  being
• 18:59
  sustained
• 19:00
  is
• 19:00
  a
• 19:00
  really
• 19:01
  important
• 19:01
  point.
• 19:02
  And
• 19:02
  it
• 19:03
  brings
• 19:03
  up
• 19:03
  something
• 19:04
  that
• 19:04
  we
• 19:05
  polled
• 19:05
  our
• 19:05
  volunteers
• 19:05
  about.
• 19:06
  And
• 19:06
  I
• 19:06
  actually
• 19:06
  think
• 19:07
  that
• 19:07
  this
• 19:07
  information
• 19:08
  is
• 19:08
  applicable
• 19:08
  to
• 19:09
  life
• 19:09
  generally.
• 19:10
  So
• 19:10
  it
• 19:10
  isn't
• 19:11
  hard
• 19:11
  to
• 19:11
  get
• 19:11
  volunteers
• 19:12
  to
• 19:12
  come
• 19:12
  into
• 19:12
  an
• 19:12
  organization
• 19:13
  when
• 19:13
  there
• 19:13
  are
• 19:13
  so
• 19:13
  many
• 19:13
  mass
• 19:13
  shootings
• 19:14
  and
• 19:14
  lockdown
• 19:14
  drills.
• 19:15
  It
• 19:15
  is
• 19:15
  very
• 19:15
  hard
• 19:16
  to
• 19:16
  get
• 19:16
  them
• 19:16
  to
• 19:16
  stay.
• 19:17
  And
• 19:18
  yet
• 19:18
  we
• 19:18
  had
• 19:18
  this
• 19:18
  amazing
• 19:19
  retention
• 19:19
  rate
• 19:19
  and
• 19:19
  we
• 19:19
  grew
• 19:20
  to
• 19:20
  11
• 19:20
  million
• 19:20
  supporters,
• 19:21
  right?
• 19:21
  So
• 19:22
  we
• 19:22
  decided
• 19:22
  to
• 19:22
  pull
• 19:23
  our
• 19:24
  people
• 19:24
  and
• 19:24
  to
• 19:24
  say,
• 19:25
  what
• 19:25
  makes
• 19:25
  you
• 19:25
  stay?
• 19:26
  You're
• 19:26
  giving
• 19:27
  us
• 19:27
  your
• 19:27
  time
• 19:27
  and
• 19:28
  talent
• 19:28
  out
• 19:28
  of
• 19:28
  the
• 19:28
  goodness
• 19:28
  of
• 19:28
  your
• 19:29
  heart.
• 19:29
  Why?
• 19:30
  And
• 19:31
  the
• 19:31
  two
• 19:31
  things
• 19:31
  they
• 19:31
  said
• 19:32
  were,
• 19:32
  number
• 19:32
  one,
• 19:32
  they
• 19:32
  felt
• 19:32
  like
• 19:33
  they
• 19:33
  were
• 19:33
  winning.
• 19:33
  And
• 19:34
  when
• 19:34
  people
• 19:34
  feel
• 19:34
  like
• 19:34
  they're
• 19:34
  winning,
• 19:35
  when
• 19:35
  you
• 19:35
  tell
• 19:35
  them
• 19:35
  they're
• 19:35
  winning,
• 19:36
  when
• 19:36
  you
• 19:36
  explain
• 19:36
  how
• 19:37
  a
• 19:37
  loss
• 19:37
  is
• 19:37
  actually
• 19:37
  a
• 19:37
  win
• 19:38
  because
• 19:38
  you
• 19:38
  can
• 19:38
  win
• 19:38
  the
• 19:39
  next
• 19:39
  time,
• 19:39
  when
• 19:40
  you
• 19:40
  celebrate
• 19:40
  every
• 19:41
  win,
• 19:41
  no
• 19:41
  matter
• 19:41
  how
• 19:41
  big
• 19:42
  or
• 19:42
  small,
• 19:43
  and
• 19:43
  people
• 19:43
  want
• 19:43
  to
• 19:43
  stick
• 19:44
  around.
• 19:45
  The
• 19:45
  second
• 19:45
  thing
• 19:45
  they
• 19:46
  said
• 19:46
  was
• 19:47
  that
• 19:47
  they
• 19:47
  found
• 19:47
  their
• 19:48
  people.
• 19:49
  And
• 19:49
  when
• 19:49
  you
• 19:49
  find
• 19:49
  your
• 19:50
  people,
• 19:50
  you
• 19:50
  don't
• 19:50
  want
• 19:51
  to
• 19:51
  disappoint
• 19:51
  them.
• 19:51
  You
• 19:52
  want
• 19:52
  to
• 19:52
  keep
• 19:52
  showing
• 19:52
  up
• 19:52
  because
• 19:52
  you
• 19:53
  want
• 19:53
  them
• 19:53
  in
• 19:53
  your
• 19:53
  life,
• 19:54
  you
• 19:54
  want
• 19:54
  to
• 19:55
  be
• 19:55
  with
• 19:55
  them.
• 19:56
  And
• 19:56
  especially
• 19:57
  in
• 19:57
  like
• 19:57
  the
• 19:57
  toughest
• 19:58
  states
• 19:58
  to
• 19:58
  do
• 19:58
  this
• 19:59
  work,
• 19:59
  when
• 19:59
  you
• 19:59
  find
• 20:00
  like
• 20:00
  minded
• 20:00
  women
• 20:01
  with
• 20:01
  similar
• 20:01
  values,
• 20:02
  that's
• 20:03
  really
• 20:03
  rare
• 20:04
  and
• 20:04
  unique
• 20:04
  and
• 20:04
  you
• 20:05
  want
• 20:05
  to
• 20:05
  cherish
• 20:05
  it.
• 20:06
  So
• 20:07
  feeling
• 20:07
  like
• 20:08
  you're
• 20:08
  winning,
• 20:08
  finding
• 20:08
  your
• 20:09
  people,
• 20:09
  those
• 20:09
  are
• 20:10
  really
• 20:10
  the
• 20:10
  things
• 20:10
  that
• 20:11
  sustain
• 20:11
  us
• 20:12
  no
• 20:12
  matter
• 20:12
  what
• 20:12
  we're
• 20:13
  doing
• 20:13
  in
• 20:13
  our
• 20:13
  lives.
• 20:14
  And
• 20:14
  I
• 20:14
  don't
• 20:15
  think
• 20:15
  you
• 20:15
  can
• 20:15
  live
• 20:15
  on
• 20:16
  fire
• 20:16
  alone.
• 20:16
  I
• 20:17
  do
• 20:17
  think
• 20:17
  you
• 20:17
  have
• 20:17
  to
• 20:17
  have
• 20:17
  what
• 20:18
  I
• 20:18
  call
• 20:18
  a
• 20:18
  bonfire
• 20:18
  or
• 20:19
  a
• 20:19
  community
• 20:19
  of
• 20:20
  women,
• 20:20
  you
• 20:21
  know,
• 20:21
  and
• 20:21
  I.
• 20:21
  Love
• 20:22
  the
• 20:22
  fire
• 20:22
  analogy.
• 20:23
  And
• 20:23
  speaking
• 20:23
  of
• 20:24
  fire,
• 20:24
  your
• 20:24
  book
• 20:24
  Fired
• 20:25
  up
• 20:25
  is
• 20:26
  so
• 20:26
  amazing.
• 20:27
  It
• 20:28
  feels
• 20:28
  like
• 20:28
  part
• 20:28
  like
• 20:29
  manifesto,
• 20:30
  part
• 20:30
  toolkit.
• 20:31
  Like,
• 20:31
  there's
• 20:32
  so
• 20:32
  many
• 20:32
  ways
• 20:32
  to,
• 20:33
  you
• 20:33
  know,
• 20:33
  enjoy
• 20:34
  and
• 20:34
  apply
• 20:35
  this
• 20:35
  book
• 20:35
  to
• 20:35
  your
• 20:35
  lives.
• 20:36
  So
• 20:36
  what
• 20:37
  is
• 20:37
  it
• 20:37
  that
• 20:37
  you
• 20:37
  want
• 20:38
  women
• 20:38
  to
• 20:38
  take
• 20:38
  away
• 20:39
  when
• 20:39
  they
• 20:39
  read
• 20:39
  it?
• 20:40
  I
• 20:41
  really
• 20:41
  want
• 20:41
  women
• 20:42
  to
• 20:42
  live
• 20:42
  in
• 20:42
  a
• 20:42
  way
• 20:42
  in
• 20:43
  which
• 20:43
  they
• 20:43
  are
• 20:43
  asking
• 20:44
  themselves,
• 20:44
  what
• 20:44
  do
• 20:45
  I
• 20:45
  want?
• 20:46
  There's
• 20:46
  so
• 20:46
  many
• 20:46
  exercises
• 20:47
  and
• 20:47
  Journal
• 20:47
  prompts
• 20:48
  in
• 20:48
  this
• 20:48
  book
• 20:48
  to
• 20:49
  help
• 20:49
  you
• 20:49
  figure
• 20:49
  out,
• 20:49
  first
• 20:50
  of
• 20:50
  all,
• 20:50
  what
• 20:50
  are
• 20:51
  your
• 20:51
  abilities,
• 20:51
  your
• 20:51
  values
• 20:52
  and
• 20:52
  your
• 20:52
  desires.
• 20:52
  That's
• 20:53
  the
• 20:53
  fire
• 20:53
  formula.
• 20:54
  Women
• 20:54
  downplay
• 20:55
  their
• 20:55
  abilities
• 20:56
  so
• 20:56
  much.
• 20:56
  And
• 20:57
  so
• 20:58
  the
• 20:58
  exercises
• 20:58
  will
• 20:59
  make
• 20:59
  you
• 20:59
  list
• 20:59
  everything
• 20:59
  you've
• 21:00
  ever
• 21:00
  done
• 21:00
  successfully.
• 21:00
  That
• 21:01
  includes
• 21:01
  planning,
• 21:02
  maybe
• 21:02
  a
• 21:02
  kid's
• 21:02
  birthday
• 21:03
  party.
• 21:03
  These
• 21:04
  so
• 21:04
  called
• 21:04
  soft
• 21:04
  skills,
• 21:05
  which
• 21:05
  is
• 21:05
  really
• 21:05
  pejorative,
• 21:06
  they're
• 21:07
  life
• 21:07
  skills
• 21:07
  and
• 21:08
  they
• 21:08
  make
• 21:08
  you
• 21:09
  qualified
• 21:09
  to
• 21:09
  do
• 21:09
  more
• 21:10
  things
• 21:10
  than
• 21:10
  you
• 21:10
  can
• 21:10
  imagine.
• 21:11
  I
• 21:12
  also
• 21:12
  ask
• 21:12
  you
• 21:12
  to
• 21:12
  ask
• 21:12
  other
• 21:13
  people,
• 21:13
  what
• 21:13
  are
• 21:13
  your
• 21:13
  abilities?
• 21:14
  Because
• 21:15
  sometimes
• 21:15
  when
• 21:15
  we
• 21:16
  don't
• 21:16
  see
• 21:16
  them
• 21:16
  in
• 21:16
  ourselves,
• 21:17
  other
• 21:17
  people
• 21:17
  do.
• 21:18
  And
• 21:19
  what
• 21:19
  that
• 21:19
  does
• 21:19
  also
• 21:20
  is
• 21:20
  helps
• 21:20
  you
• 21:20
  realize,
• 21:21
  oh,
• 21:21
  there
• 21:21
  are
• 21:22
  other
• 21:22
  skills
• 21:22
  that
• 21:22
  I
• 21:23
  want
• 21:23
  to
• 21:23
  acquire.
• 21:23
  Right.
• 21:24
  That
• 21:24
  I
• 21:24
  either
• 21:25
  don't
• 21:25
  have
• 21:25
  innately
• 21:26
  or
• 21:26
  have
• 21:27
  built.
• 21:28
  That's
• 21:28
  really
• 21:28
  important
• 21:28
  to
• 21:29
  know
• 21:29
  no
• 21:29
  matter
• 21:29
  where
• 21:29
  you
• 21:30
  are
• 21:30
  in
• 21:30
  your
• 21:30
  life.
• 21:30
  And
• 21:31
  then
• 21:31
  your
• 21:32
  values.
• 21:32
  There
• 21:32
  are
• 21:33
  thousands
• 21:33
  of
• 21:33
  personal
• 21:33
  values
• 21:34
  out
• 21:34
  there.
• 21:34
  Right.
• 21:34
  I
• 21:35
  just
• 21:35
  did
• 21:35
  an
• 21:35
  event
• 21:35
  with
• 21:36
  Brene
• 21:36
  Brown,
• 21:36
  who's
• 21:36
  sort
• 21:37
  of
• 21:37
  the
• 21:37
  North
• 21:37
  Star
• 21:37
  of
• 21:38
  values.
• 21:38
  And
• 21:39
  they
• 21:39
  change
• 21:39
  throughout
• 21:40
  your
• 21:40
  life.
• 21:40
  When
• 21:40
  I
• 21:40
  was
• 21:41
  41
• 21:41
  years
• 21:41
  old
• 21:42
  in
• 21:42
  2012,
• 21:42
  my
• 21:43
  values
• 21:43
  were
• 21:43
  keeping
• 21:43
  my
• 21:44
  kids
• 21:44
  and
• 21:44
  my
• 21:44
  community
• 21:44
  safe.
• 21:45
  I'm
• 21:45
  an
• 21:46
  empty
• 21:46
  nester
• 21:46
  now,
• 21:46
  so
• 21:47
  I'm
• 21:47
  in
• 21:47
  a
• 21:47
  different
• 21:47
  stage
• 21:47
  of
• 21:48
  my
• 21:48
  life.
• 21:48
  But
• 21:48
  just
• 21:48
  knowing
• 21:49
  what
• 21:49
  your
• 21:49
  values
• 21:49
  are
• 21:49
  will
• 21:50
  help
• 21:50
  you.
• 21:51
  And
• 21:51
  then
• 21:51
  finally
• 21:52
  your
• 21:52
  desires.
• 21:53
  So
• 21:53
  many
• 21:53
  of
• 21:53
  us
• 21:53
  have
• 21:53
  these
• 21:54
  dormant
• 21:54
  desires,
• 21:55
  thing
• 21:55
  we
• 21:55
  dreamed
• 21:56
  about
• 21:56
  or
• 21:56
  wanted
• 21:56
  to
• 21:57
  do.
• 21:58
  I
• 21:58
  interview
• 21:58
  one
• 21:59
  woman
• 21:59
  in
• 21:59
  the
• 21:59
  book,
• 21:59
  Gisele
• 22:00
  Fetterman,
• 22:00
  who's
• 22:01
  actually
• 22:01
  married
• 22:01
  to
• 22:02
  Senator
• 22:02
  John
• 22:02
  Fetterman
• 22:03
  in
• 22:03
  Pennsylvania.
• 22:04
  And
• 22:04
  she
• 22:04
  became
• 22:04
  a
• 22:05
  firefighter
• 22:05
  in
• 22:05
  her
• 22:05
  40s.
• 22:06
  She
• 22:06
  had
• 22:06
  always
• 22:07
  wanted
• 22:07
  to
• 22:07
  be
• 22:07
  a
• 22:07
  firefighter.
• 22:08
  She
• 22:08
  came
• 22:08
  to
• 22:08
  this
• 22:08
  country
• 22:09
  as
• 22:09
  an
• 22:09
  immigrant
• 22:10
  and
• 22:10
  the
• 22:10
  nicest
• 22:11
  people
• 22:11
  to
• 22:11
  her
• 22:12
  were
• 22:12
  the
• 22:12
  people
• 22:12
  who
• 22:12
  worked
• 22:13
  in
• 22:13
  the
• 22:13
  firehouse
• 22:13
  on
• 22:13
  her
• 22:14
  block.
• 22:14
  They
• 22:14
  let
• 22:14
  her
• 22:14
  clean
• 22:15
  the
• 22:15
  fire
• 22:16
  engines
• 22:16
  and,
• 22:16
  you
• 22:17
  know,
• 22:17
  she
• 22:17
  just
• 22:17
  was
• 22:17
  always
• 22:18
  enamored.
• 22:18
  And
• 22:19
  she's
• 22:19
  put
• 22:19
  out
• 22:19
  dozens
• 22:20
  and
• 22:20
  dozens
• 22:20
  of
• 22:20
  fire
• 22:20
  since
• 22:21
  she
• 22:21
  became
• 22:21
  a
• 22:21
  firefighter.
• 22:22
  So
• 22:22
  back
• 22:23
  to
• 22:23
  your
• 22:23
  point
• 22:23
  of,
• 22:23
  you
• 22:24
  know,
• 22:24
  you
• 22:24
  are
• 22:25
  never
• 22:25
  too
• 22:25
  old
• 22:25
  and
• 22:26
  it
• 22:26
  is
• 22:26
  never
• 22:26
  too
• 22:26
  late
• 22:27
  to
• 22:27
  do
• 22:27
  what
• 22:27
  you
• 22:27
  want.
• 22:28
  You
• 22:28
  know,
• 22:28
  I
• 22:28
  love
• 22:28
  that
• 22:29
  the
• 22:29
  formula
• 22:30
  you
• 22:30
  give
• 22:30
  about
• 22:30
  the
• 22:30
  fire
• 22:31
  triangle,
• 22:31
  like
• 22:31
  we
• 22:31
  were
• 22:32
  just
• 22:32
  saying,
• 22:32
  and
• 22:33
  it
• 22:33
  is
• 22:33
  comprised
• 22:34
  of
• 22:34
  those
• 22:34
  three
• 22:34
  elements.
• 22:36
  And
• 22:36
  so
• 22:36
  for
• 22:36
  a
• 22:36
  woman
• 22:36
  listening
• 22:37
  at
• 22:37
  home,
• 22:37
  if
• 22:37
  she
• 22:37
  literally
• 22:38
  has
• 22:38
  a
• 22:38
  piece
• 22:39
  of
• 22:39
  paper
• 22:39
  out
• 22:39
  in
• 22:40
  front
• 22:40
  of
• 22:40
  her
• 22:40
  right
• 22:40
  now,
• 22:41
  what
• 22:41
  are
• 22:41
  the
• 22:42
  questions
• 22:42
  she
• 22:42
  should
• 22:43
  be
• 22:43
  asking
• 22:43
  herself
• 22:44
  to
• 22:44
  find
• 22:44
  her
• 22:44
  fire
• 22:45
  triangle?
• 22:46
  Yes.
• 22:46
  I
• 22:46
  mean,
• 22:46
  again,
• 22:47
  this
• 22:47
  will
• 22:47
  change
• 22:48
  throughout
• 22:48
  your
• 22:48
  life.
• 22:48
  So
• 22:48
  you
• 22:48
  could
• 22:48
  read
• 22:49
  this
• 22:49
  book
• 22:49
  every
• 22:49
  single
• 22:49
  year
• 22:50
  and
• 22:50
  it
• 22:50
  would
• 22:50
  be
• 22:50
  different.
• 22:51
  But
• 22:51
  what
• 22:52
  are
• 22:52
  the
• 22:52
  abilities
• 22:52
  you
• 22:52
  have?
• 22:52
  When
• 22:53
  I
• 22:53
  started
• 22:53
  Mom's
• 22:53
  Demand
• 22:53
  Action,
• 22:54
  I
• 22:54
  had
• 22:55
  a
• 22:55
  10
• 22:55
  year
• 22:55
  career
• 22:56
  in
• 22:56
  Communications.
• 22:56
  I
• 22:57
  knew
• 22:57
  how
• 22:57
  to
• 22:58
  build
• 22:58
  a
• 22:58
  brand
• 22:58
  and
• 22:58
  tell
• 22:58
  a
• 22:59
  story.
• 22:59
  What
• 23:00
  are
• 23:00
  your
• 23:00
  values?
• 23:01
  Like
• 23:01
  I
• 23:01
  said,
• 23:02
  protecting
• 23:02
  my
• 23:02
  family
• 23:03
  and
• 23:03
  my
• 23:03
  community.
• 23:03
  What
• 23:03
  are
• 23:03
  your
• 23:04
  desires?
• 23:04
  I
• 23:04
  wanted
• 23:05
  to
• 23:05
  stand
• 23:05
  shoulder
• 23:05
  to
• 23:05
  shoulder
• 23:06
  with
• 23:06
  a
• 23:06
  badass
• 23:06
  army
• 23:07
  of
• 23:07
  women
• 23:07
  to
• 23:08
  take
• 23:08
  down
• 23:08
  a
• 23:08
  special
• 23:08
  interest
• 23:09
  right
• 23:10
  now.
• 23:10
  Your
• 23:10
  three
• 23:11
  sides,
• 23:11
  your
• 23:11
  values,
• 23:12
  your
• 23:12
  abilities
• 23:12
  and
• 23:13
  desires
• 23:13
  will
• 23:13
  be
• 23:13
  different.
• 23:14
  But
• 23:15
  that
• 23:15
  doesn't
• 23:16
  mean
• 23:16
  that
• 23:17
  they
• 23:17
  aren't
• 23:17
  as
• 23:18
  important.
• 23:18
  Right?
• 23:19
  It
• 23:19
  could
• 23:19
  be
• 23:20
  again,
• 23:20
  something
• 23:21
  as
• 23:21
  simple
• 23:21
  as
• 23:21
  you
• 23:21
  really
• 23:22
  want
• 23:22
  to
• 23:22
  have
• 23:22
  a
• 23:22
  tough
• 23:22
  conversation
• 23:23
  that
• 23:23
  you've
• 23:23
  wanted
• 23:24
  to
• 23:24
  have
• 23:24
  for
• 23:24
  a
• 23:24
  long
• 23:24
  time
• 23:24
  but
• 23:25
  haven't
• 23:25
  done
• 23:25
  it.
• 23:26
  It
• 23:26
  could
• 23:26
  be
• 23:26
  asking
• 23:27
  for
• 23:27
  a
• 23:27
  promotion.
• 23:28
  It
• 23:28
  could
• 23:29
  be
• 23:29
  finally
• 23:29
  deciding
• 23:30
  to
• 23:30
  use
• 23:30
  your
• 23:31
  skills
• 23:32
  to
• 23:32
  help
• 23:33
  an
• 23:33
  organization
• 23:33
  out.
• 23:34
  There
• 23:34
  are
• 23:35
  so
• 23:35
  many
• 23:35
  ways
• 23:36
  to
• 23:36
  live
• 23:37
  on
• 23:37
  fire.
• 23:38
  But
• 23:38
  I
• 23:38
  think
• 23:38
  a
• 23:39
  lot
• 23:39
  of
• 23:39
  us,
• 23:39
  particularly
• 23:40
  women,
• 23:40
  particularly
• 23:41
  midlife
• 23:41
  women,
• 23:42
  are
• 23:44
  living
• 23:44
  on
• 23:44
  autopilot.
• 23:45
  Their
• 23:45
  lives
• 23:45
  are
• 23:45
  sort
• 23:45
  of
• 23:45
  meh.
• 23:46
  They're
• 23:46
  not
• 23:46
  what
• 23:46
  we
• 23:47
  thought
• 23:47
  they
• 23:47
  would
• 23:47
  be.
• 23:47
  Now
• 23:48
  that
• 23:48
  said,
• 23:48
  maybe
• 23:49
  you're
• 23:49
  just,
• 23:49
  you
• 23:50
  know,
• 23:50
  out
• 23:50
  of
• 23:50
  high
• 23:50
  school
• 23:50
  or
• 23:50
  college
• 23:51
  and
• 23:51
  you're
• 23:51
  trying
• 23:51
  to
• 23:51
  figure
• 23:51
  out
• 23:51
  what
• 23:52
  you
• 23:52
  want
• 23:52
  to
• 23:52
  do
• 23:52
  before
• 23:52
  you
• 23:52
  go
• 23:53
  too
• 23:53
  far
• 23:53
  down
• 23:53
  the
• 23:53
  wrong
• 23:54
  path.
• 23:54
  That
• 23:54
  makes
• 23:55
  sense.
• 23:55
  Maybe
• 23:56
  you're
• 23:56
  a
• 23:56
  young
• 23:56
  woman
• 23:57
  overwhelmed
• 23:57
  by
• 23:58
  family
• 23:58
  and
• 23:58
  career
• 23:58
  and
• 23:58
  you
• 23:58
  need
• 23:59
  to
• 23:59
  carve
• 23:59
  out
• 23:59
  some
• 23:59
  time
• 23:59
  for
• 24:00
  yourself.
• 24:00
  This
• 24:00
  works
• 24:01
  for
• 24:01
  you
• 24:01
  too.
• 24:02
  Or
• 24:02
  maybe
• 24:02
  you're
• 24:02
  a
• 24:02
  retiree
• 24:04
  and
• 24:04
  you
• 24:04
  finally
• 24:05
  have
• 24:05
  the
• 24:06
  time
• 24:06
  and
• 24:06
  freedom
• 24:07
  to
• 24:07
  share
• 24:07
  your
• 24:08
  hard
• 24:08
  earned
• 24:08
  wisdom
• 24:09
  with
• 24:09
  the
• 24:09
  world.
• 24:09
  You
• 24:10
  know?
• 24:10
  Another
• 24:11
  story
• 24:11
  from
• 24:11
  the
• 24:11
  book,
• 24:11
  a
• 24:12
  woman
• 24:12
  named
• 24:12
  Carol
• 24:12
  Frick.
• 24:13
  She
• 24:14
  always
• 24:14
  wanted
• 24:14
  to
• 24:14
  be
• 24:14
  an
• 24:15
  author.
• 24:15
  She
• 24:15
  ended
• 24:15
  up
• 24:16
  being
• 24:16
  a
• 24:16
  phys
• 24:16
  ed
• 24:16
  teacher
• 24:17
  to
• 24:17
  pay
• 24:17
  the
• 24:17
  bills
• 24:17
  for
• 24:17
  30
• 24:18
  years.
• 24:18
  When
• 24:18
  she
• 24:18
  retired,
• 24:19
  she
• 24:19
  went
• 24:19
  to
• 24:20
  volunteer
• 24:20
  at
• 24:20
  an
• 24:20
  animal
• 24:21
  shelter.
• 24:22
  And
• 24:22
  she
• 24:22
  came
• 24:22
  up
• 24:22
  with
• 24:23
  this
• 24:23
  idea
• 24:23
  of
• 24:23
  a
• 24:24
  couple
• 24:24
  who
• 24:24
  falls
• 24:24
  in
• 24:24
  love
• 24:24
  at
• 24:25
  an
• 24:25
  animal
• 24:25
  shelter.
• 24:26
  She
• 24:26
  finally
• 24:27
  taught
• 24:27
  herself
• 24:27
  how
• 24:28
  to
• 24:28
  write
• 24:28
  a
• 24:28
  book,
• 24:28
  write
• 24:29
  dialogue,
• 24:29
  create
• 24:30
  chapters.
• 24:31
  Then
• 24:31
  she
• 24:31
  decided
• 24:32
  she
• 24:32
  deserved
• 24:33
  to
• 24:33
  have
• 24:33
  it
• 24:33
  published.
• 24:33
  She
• 24:34
  didn't
• 24:34
  want
• 24:34
  to
• 24:34
  just
• 24:34
  self
• 24:35
  publish.
• 24:36
  She
• 24:36
  sent
• 24:36
  her
• 24:36
  manuscript
• 24:37
  to
• 24:37
  218
• 24:39
  publishing
• 24:39
  houses
• 24:39
  and
• 24:40
  was
• 24:40
  rejected
• 24:40
  every
• 24:41
  time.
• 24:42
  Finally,
• 24:43
  on
• 24:43
  the
• 24:43
  219th
• 24:44
  time,
• 24:44
  a
• 24:44
  man
• 24:44
  who
• 24:45
  loved
• 24:45
  dogs
• 24:46
  gave
• 24:46
  her
• 24:46
  a
• 24:46
  book
• 24:46
  deal
• 24:47
  and
• 24:47
  she
• 24:47
  became
• 24:47
  a
• 24:47
  published
• 24:48
  author
• 24:48
  in
• 24:48
  her
• 24:48
  70s.
• 24:49
  Wow,
• 24:50
  that's
• 24:50
  amazing.
• 24:51
  Yes.
• 24:51
  So
• 24:51
  this
• 24:52
  is
• 24:52
  really
• 24:52
  what
• 24:52
  the
• 24:53
  FIRE
• 24:53
  formula
• 24:53
  will
• 24:53
  do.
• 24:54
  It
• 24:54
  is
• 24:54
  a
• 24:54
  practice.
• 24:55
  It's
• 24:55
  not
• 24:55
  like
• 24:55
  you
• 24:56
  figure
• 24:56
  out
• 24:56
  these
• 24:56
  three
• 24:56
  things
• 24:57
  and
• 24:57
  you
• 24:57
  practice
• 24:58
  them
• 24:58
  and
• 24:58
  suddenly
• 24:59
  you
• 24:59
  are
• 25:00
  turned
• 25:00
  into
• 25:00
  something
• 25:00
  completely
• 25:01
  different.
• 25:01
  It
• 25:02
  really
• 25:02
  is
• 25:02
  a
• 25:02
  discipline
• 25:03
  and
• 25:03
  a
• 25:03
  practice
• 25:03
  that
• 25:04
  we
• 25:04
  have
• 25:04
  to
• 25:04
  do
• 25:04
  throughout
• 25:04
  our
• 25:04
  lives.
• 25:05
  And
• 25:05
  it
• 25:05
  can
• 25:05
  change
• 25:06
  from
• 25:06
  year
• 25:07
  to
• 25:07
  year,
• 25:07
  day
• 25:07
  to
• 25:07
  day,
• 25:08
  like
• 25:08
  whatever
• 25:08
  that
• 25:08
  is.
• 25:09
  What
• 25:10
  would
• 25:10
  you
• 25:10
  say
• 25:10
  to
• 25:10
  women
• 25:11
  who
• 25:11
  want
• 25:11
  to
• 25:13
  discover
• 25:13
  their
• 25:13
  inner
• 25:14
  fire,
• 25:14
  but
• 25:14
  maybe
• 25:15
  their
• 25:15
  partner
• 25:16
  isn't
• 25:16
  so
• 25:17
  supportive?
• 25:19
  I
• 25:19
  mean,
• 25:19
  you
• 25:19
  know,
• 25:19
  that's
• 25:20
  difficult.
• 25:20
  And
• 25:21
  I
• 25:21
  talk
• 25:21
  to
• 25:21
  a
• 25:21
  lot
• 25:21
  of
• 25:22
  women
• 25:22
  in
• 25:22
  the
• 25:22
  book
• 25:22
  who
• 25:23
  have
• 25:23
  struggled
• 25:23
  with
• 25:23
  that
• 25:24
  a
• 25:24
  bit.
• 25:24
  You
• 25:24
  know,
• 25:24
  I
• 25:24
  will
• 25:24
  be
• 25:24
  honest
• 25:25
  with
• 25:25
  you.
• 25:25
  The
• 25:25
  night
• 25:26
  my
• 25:26
  husband
• 25:26
  and
• 25:27
  I
• 25:27
  went
• 25:27
  to
• 25:27
  bed,
• 25:27
  after
• 25:27
  I
• 25:27
  started
• 25:28
  the
• 25:28
  Facebook
• 25:28
  page
• 25:28
  that
• 25:28
  became
• 25:29
  Mom's
• 25:29
  Human
• 25:29
  Action,
• 25:29
  I
• 25:30
  mean,
• 25:30
  it
• 25:30
  went
• 25:30
  immediately
• 25:31
  viral.
• 25:31
  He
• 25:32
  looked
• 25:32
  at
• 25:32
  me
• 25:32
  and
• 25:32
  he
• 25:32
  said,
• 25:33
  this
• 25:33
  is
• 25:33
  gonna
• 25:33
  be
• 25:33
  a
• 25:33
  big
• 25:33
  deal.
• 25:34
  And
• 25:34
  he
• 25:34
  did
• 25:34
  not
• 25:34
  say
• 25:35
  it
• 25:35
  in
• 25:35
  a
• 25:35
  happy
• 25:35
  way
• 25:35
  because
• 25:36
  our
• 25:36
  whole
• 25:37
  life
• 25:37
  was
• 25:37
  about
• 25:37
  to
• 25:37
  be
• 25:37
  turned
• 25:38
  on
• 25:38
  its
• 25:38
  head.
• 25:38
  And
• 25:38
  we
• 25:39
  had
• 25:39
  just
• 25:39
  married
• 25:39
  a
• 25:39
  few
• 25:40
  years
• 25:40
  before.
• 25:40
  As
• 25:40
  I
• 25:40
  said,
• 25:41
  we
• 25:41
  were
• 25:41
  blending
• 25:41
  a
• 25:41
  family
• 25:41
  of
• 25:42
  five.
• 25:43
  And
• 25:43
  it
• 25:43
  took
• 25:44
  a
• 25:44
  lot
• 25:44
  of
• 25:44
  conversation,
• 25:45
  it
• 25:46
  took
• 25:46
  a
• 25:46
  lot
• 25:47
  of
• 25:47
  marriage
• 25:47
  therapy.
• 25:48
  This
• 25:48
  is
• 25:48
  both
• 25:49
  of
• 25:49
  our
• 25:49
  second
• 25:49
  marriage.
• 25:49
  And
• 25:49
  we
• 25:49
  committed
• 25:50
  early
• 25:50
  on
• 25:50
  to
• 25:51
  go
• 25:51
  once
• 25:51
  a
• 25:51
  month,
• 25:51
  rain
• 25:52
  or
• 25:52
  shine.
• 25:52
  And
• 25:53
  it's
• 25:53
  funny
• 25:53
  how
• 25:53
  when
• 25:53
  you
• 25:54
  go
• 25:54
  to
• 25:54
  therapy,
• 25:54
  when
• 25:54
  you
• 25:54
  think
• 25:55
  you
• 25:55
  have
• 25:55
  nothing
• 25:55
  to
• 25:55
  talk
• 25:55
  about,
• 25:55
  you
• 25:56
  actually
• 25:56
  end
• 25:56
  up
• 25:57
  having
• 25:57
  all
• 25:57
  goods
• 25:58
  to
• 25:58
  talk
• 25:58
  about.
• 25:59
  And
• 26:00
  so
• 26:00
  it
• 26:00
  was
• 26:01
  really
• 26:01
  a
• 26:01
  navigation
• 26:02
  to
• 26:02
  get
• 26:02
  to
• 26:02
  a
• 26:02
  place
• 26:03
  where
• 26:03
  we
• 26:03
  realized
• 26:03
  our
• 26:03
  marriage
• 26:04
  was
• 26:04
  a
• 26:04
  container
• 26:05
  that
• 26:05
  could
• 26:05
  hold
• 26:05
  both
• 26:05
  of
• 26:06
  us,
• 26:06
  but
• 26:06
  other
• 26:06
  things
• 26:07
  too.
• 26:08
  And
• 26:08
  it
• 26:08
  really
• 26:08
  strengthened
• 26:09
  our
• 26:09
  marriage.
• 26:10
  Now,
• 26:10
  I
• 26:10
  will
• 26:10
  tell
• 26:10
  you
• 26:11
  that
• 26:11
  there's
• 26:11
  some
• 26:11
  women
• 26:11
  in
• 26:11
  the
• 26:11
  book
• 26:12
  who
• 26:12
  say,
• 26:13
  for
• 26:13
  them,
• 26:13
  learning
• 26:14
  to
• 26:14
  live
• 26:14
  on
• 26:14
  fire,
• 26:15
  for
• 26:15
  them
• 26:16
  finally
• 26:16
  figuring
• 26:17
  out
• 26:17
  who
• 26:17
  they
• 26:17
  were,
• 26:18
  some
• 26:18
  of
• 26:18
  them,
• 26:18
  through
• 26:18
  mom's
• 26:19
  demand
• 26:19
  action,
• 26:19
  some
• 26:20
  of
• 26:20
  them
• 26:20
  through
• 26:20
  other
• 26:21
  means,
• 26:22
  realized
• 26:23
  they
• 26:23
  needed
• 26:23
  to
• 26:23
  leave
• 26:24
  a
• 26:24
  relationship
• 26:24
  that
• 26:24
  wasn't
• 26:25
  supportive,
• 26:25
  and
• 26:26
  that
• 26:26
  ended
• 26:26
  up
• 26:26
  being
• 26:26
  the
• 26:27
  best
• 26:27
  thing
• 26:27
  for
• 26:27
  them.
• 26:27
  And
• 26:28
  they
• 26:28
  finally
• 26:28
  had
• 26:28
  the
• 26:28
  courage
• 26:29
  to
• 26:29
  do
• 26:29
  that.
• 26:30
  That's
• 26:30
  great.
• 26:31
  Was
• 26:32
  there
• 26:32
  ever
• 26:32
  a
• 26:32
  moment
• 26:33
  through
• 26:33
  this
• 26:33
  whole
• 26:33
  process,
• 26:34
  book
• 26:34
  writing,
• 26:35
  you
• 26:35
  know,
• 26:36
  creating
• 26:36
  this
• 26:37
  amazing
• 26:37
  movement
• 26:38
  that
• 26:38
  you
• 26:38
  ever
• 26:38
  wanted
• 26:39
  to
• 26:39
  throw
• 26:39
  in
• 26:39
  the
• 26:39
  towel
• 26:39
  and
• 26:40
  just
• 26:40
  be
• 26:40
  like,
• 26:41
  I
• 26:41
  want
• 26:41
  to
• 26:41
  just
• 26:41
  say
• 26:42
  goodbye
• 26:43
  to
• 26:43
  everybody
• 26:43
  today.
• 26:44
  Like,
• 26:44
  I'm
• 26:44
  done.
• 26:44
  I'm
• 26:44
  done.
• 26:45
  Like,
• 26:45
  was
• 26:45
  there
• 26:45
  ever.
• 26:46
  Did
• 26:46
  you
• 26:46
  have
• 26:46
  moments
• 26:46
  like
• 26:46
  that?
• 26:47
  Oh,
• 26:47
  yes.
• 26:48
  Okay.
• 26:48
  And
• 26:49
  especially
• 26:49
  in
• 26:49
  the
• 26:49
  early
• 26:50
  days,
• 26:50
  as
• 26:50
  I
• 26:50
  said,
• 26:51
  I
• 26:51
  couldn't
• 26:51
  believe
• 26:51
  how
• 26:51
  over
• 26:52
  overwhelmed
• 26:52
  I
• 26:53
  was.
• 26:53
  I
• 26:53
  wasn't
• 26:54
  able
• 26:54
  to
• 26:54
  cook
• 26:54
  dinner
• 26:55
  anymore,
• 26:55
  drive
• 26:56
  my
• 26:56
  kids
• 26:56
  to
• 26:56
  their
• 26:56
  extracurriculars.
• 26:58
  I
• 26:58
  was
• 26:58
  traveling
• 26:59
  a
• 26:59
  ton.
• 26:59
  There
• 27:00
  was
• 27:00
  actually
• 27:00
  a
• 27:00
  time
• 27:01
  in
• 27:01
  the
• 27:01
  early
• 27:01
  days
• 27:01
  where
• 27:02
  I
• 27:02
  thought
• 27:02
  about
• 27:03
  not
• 27:03
  doing
• 27:03
  it
• 27:04
  because
• 27:05
  I
• 27:05
  was
• 27:05
  so
• 27:05
  overwhelmed.
• 27:06
  And
• 27:06
  I
• 27:07
  got
• 27:07
  this
• 27:07
  call
• 27:07
  out
• 27:07
  of
• 27:07
  the
• 27:07
  blue
• 27:08
  from
• 27:08
  a
• 27:08
  woman
• 27:08
  I
• 27:09
  knew
• 27:09
  in
• 27:09
  my
• 27:09
  career.
• 27:10
  And
• 27:10
  she
• 27:10
  was
• 27:10
  just
• 27:10
  calling
• 27:11
  me
• 27:11
  to
• 27:11
  ask
• 27:11
  a
• 27:11
  question,
• 27:12
  and
• 27:12
  I
• 27:12
  started
• 27:13
  crying.
• 27:14
  And
• 27:14
  she's
• 27:14
  like,
• 27:15
  tell
• 27:15
  me
• 27:15
  what's
• 27:15
  going
• 27:16
  on.
• 27:16
  And
• 27:16
  I
• 27:16
  said,
• 27:16
  I
• 27:16
  don't
• 27:16
  know
• 27:17
  if
• 27:17
  I
• 27:17
  want
• 27:17
  to
• 27:17
  do
• 27:17
  this.
• 27:17
  I
• 27:18
  was
• 27:18
  apropos
• 27:18
  of
• 27:18
  nothing.
• 27:19
  Like,
• 27:19
  this
• 27:19
  was
• 27:20
  not
• 27:20
  a
• 27:20
  close
• 27:20
  friend.
• 27:20
  It
• 27:21
  was
• 27:21
  just.
• 27:21
  She
• 27:21
  just
• 27:21
  happened
• 27:22
  to
• 27:22
  call
• 27:22
  me
• 27:23
  and
• 27:23
  she
• 27:23
  said
• 27:23
  something
• 27:24
  that
• 27:24
  unlocked
• 27:24
  something
• 27:24
  in
• 27:25
  me.
• 27:25
  She
• 27:25
  said,
• 27:26
  you
• 27:26
  don't
• 27:27
  have
• 27:27
  to
• 27:27
  do
• 27:27
  this,
• 27:27
  Shannon.
• 27:29
  You
• 27:29
  don't.
• 27:30
  This
• 27:31
  semi
• 27:31
  stranger
• 27:32
  gave
• 27:32
  me
• 27:33
  permission
• 27:33
  to
• 27:33
  not
• 27:33
  do
• 27:33
  it,
• 27:34
  which
• 27:34
  helped
• 27:34
  me
• 27:34
  realize
• 27:35
  I
• 27:35
  did
• 27:35
  that
• 27:35
  once
• 27:36
  I
• 27:36
  had
• 27:36
  that
• 27:36
  emotional
• 27:37
  freedom
• 27:37
  to
• 27:38
  decide,
• 27:38
  I
• 27:39
  knew
• 27:39
  I
• 27:39
  wanted
• 27:39
  to
• 27:40
  do
• 27:40
  it.
• 27:41
  The
• 27:41
  other
• 27:41
  thing
• 27:41
  I
• 27:41
  will
• 27:42
  say
• 27:42
  is,
• 27:42
  and
• 27:42
  this
• 27:42
  is
• 27:43
  in
• 27:43
  part
• 27:43
  because
• 27:43
  of
• 27:44
  my.
• 27:44
  My
• 27:45
  Buddhism,
• 27:45
  I
• 27:45
  think,
• 27:45
  which
• 27:46
  is
• 27:46
  like,
• 27:46
  how
• 27:46
  do
• 27:46
  I
• 27:46
  manage
• 27:47
  my
• 27:47
  ego
• 27:48
  and
• 27:48
  how
• 27:49
  do
• 27:49
  I
• 27:49
  make
• 27:49
  this
• 27:49
  work
• 27:50
  a
• 27:50
  practice
• 27:50
  to
• 27:51
  do
• 27:51
  that?
• 27:51
  And
• 27:51
  so
• 27:51
  in
• 27:52
  those
• 27:52
  early
• 27:52
  days,
• 27:52
  I
• 27:53
  thought
• 27:53
  to
• 27:53
  myself,
• 27:54
  okay,
• 27:54
  this
• 27:54
  is
• 27:54
  finite.
• 27:55
  I'm
• 27:55
  only
• 27:56
  going
• 27:56
  to
• 27:56
  do
• 27:56
  this
• 27:56
  for,
• 27:56
  I
• 27:57
  thought,
• 27:57
  a
• 27:57
  short
• 27:57
  amount
• 27:57
  of
• 27:57
  time.
• 27:58
  And
• 27:59
  I
• 27:59
  will
• 27:59
  ask
• 27:59
  myself
• 28:00
  each
• 28:00
  year
• 28:00
  if
• 28:00
  it
• 28:01
  is
• 28:01
  time
• 28:01
  for
• 28:01
  me
• 28:01
  to
• 28:01
  step
• 28:01
  back.
• 28:02
  And
• 28:02
  in
• 28:03
  those
• 28:03
  early
• 28:03
  years,
• 28:04
  it
• 28:04
  was,
• 28:04
  no,
• 28:05
  of
• 28:05
  course
• 28:05
  not,
• 28:05
  because
• 28:06
  we're
• 28:06
  still
• 28:06
  kind
• 28:06
  of
• 28:07
  getting
• 28:07
  up
• 28:07
  and
• 28:07
  running.
• 28:08
  Then
• 28:08
  in
• 28:08
  the
• 28:08
  middle
• 28:08
  years,
• 28:09
  you
• 28:09
  know,
• 28:09
  it
• 28:10
  was
• 28:10
  maybe,
• 28:10
  but
• 28:11
  then
• 28:11
  there
• 28:11
  would
• 28:11
  be
• 28:11
  a
• 28:11
  horrific
• 28:12
  tragedy
• 28:12
  or
• 28:12
  a
• 28:12
  piece
• 28:13
  of
• 28:13
  legislation
• 28:13
  I
• 28:13
  had
• 28:13
  to
• 28:14
  work
• 28:14
  on.
• 28:15
  And
• 28:15
  then
• 28:15
  finally,
• 28:16
  about
• 28:16
  11
• 28:16
  years
• 28:17
  in,
• 28:18
  I
• 28:18
  can
• 28:18
  remember
• 28:19
  standing
• 28:19
  in
• 28:19
  the
• 28:20
  Rose
• 28:20
  Garden,
• 28:21
  we
• 28:21
  had
• 28:21
  finally
• 28:21
  passed
• 28:22
  the
• 28:22
  first
• 28:22
  federal
• 28:23
  gun
• 28:23
  safety
• 28:23
  legislation
• 28:24
  in
• 28:24
  a
• 28:24
  generation.
• 28:24
  And
• 28:25
  I
• 28:25
  was
• 28:26
  watching
• 28:26
  President
• 28:26
  Biden
• 28:27
  sign
• 28:27
  it
• 28:27
  into
• 28:27
  law.
• 28:28
  And
• 28:28
  I
• 28:29
  had
• 28:29
  this
• 28:29
  inner
• 28:29
  knowing,
• 28:30
  inner
• 28:30
  voice
• 28:30
  that
• 28:31
  said
• 28:31
  to
• 28:31
  me,
• 28:32
  this
• 28:32
  is
• 28:32
  the
• 28:32
  bookend
• 28:33
  to
• 28:33
  your
• 28:34
  activism.
• 28:35
  Not
• 28:35
  Moms
• 28:35
  to
• 28:35
  Man
• 28:35
  action,
• 28:36
  but
• 28:36
  your
• 28:36
  activism.
• 28:38
  And
• 28:38
  part
• 28:38
  of
• 28:38
  this
• 28:39
  is
• 28:39
  because
• 28:40
  in
• 28:40
  those
• 28:41
  early
• 28:41
  days,
• 28:41
  a
• 28:41
  volunteer
• 28:41
  said
• 28:42
  to
• 28:42
  me,
• 28:42
  whatever
• 28:43
  you
• 28:43
  do,
• 28:43
  don't
• 28:43
  get
• 28:43
  Founder
• 28:44
  syndrome.
• 28:44
  Now.
• 28:45
  I
• 28:45
  said,
• 28:45
  of
• 28:45
  course
• 28:46
  not.
• 28:46
  And
• 28:46
  then
• 28:46
  I
• 28:46
  hung
• 28:46
  up
• 28:46
  and
• 28:46
  had
• 28:47
  to
• 28:47
  Google,
• 28:47
  what
• 28:47
  is
• 28:47
  Founder
• 28:47
  syndrome?
• 28:48
  And
• 28:49
  it's
• 28:49
  this
• 28:49
  idea
• 28:49
  that
• 28:50
  if
• 28:51
  you
• 28:51
  create
• 28:51
  something,
• 28:51
  your
• 28:52
  ego
• 28:52
  can
• 28:52
  get
• 28:52
  so
• 28:53
  enmeshed
• 28:53
  that
• 28:53
  when
• 28:54
  you
• 28:54
  leave,
• 28:55
  it
• 28:55
  either
• 28:55
  fails
• 28:56
  because
• 28:56
  you're
• 28:56
  gone
• 28:57
  and
• 28:58
  you
• 28:58
  haven't
• 28:58
  set
• 28:58
  it
• 28:58
  up
• 28:58
  for
• 28:58
  success,
• 28:59
  or
• 28:59
  you
• 28:59
  want
• 28:59
  to
• 29:00
  burn
• 29:00
  it
• 29:00
  down
• 29:00
  because
• 29:00
  you
• 29:00
  don't
• 29:01
  want
• 29:01
  it
• 29:01
  to
• 29:01
  exist
• 29:01
  without
• 29:02
  you.
• 29:02
  Right?
• 29:03
  And
• 29:03
  so
• 29:04
  that
• 29:04
  was
• 29:04
  the
• 29:05
  goal
• 29:05
  for
• 29:05
  me,
• 29:05
  which
• 29:05
  was
• 29:06
  to
• 29:07
  manage
• 29:08
  my
• 29:09
  ego
• 29:09
  and
• 29:09
  my
• 29:09
  involvement
• 29:10
  so
• 29:10
  that
• 29:10
  when
• 29:10
  I
• 29:10
  left,
• 29:11
  it
• 29:11
  would
• 29:12
  be
• 29:12
  as
• 29:12
  vibrant
• 29:13
  or
• 29:13
  more
• 29:14
  than
• 29:14
  when
• 29:15
  I
• 29:15
  was
• 29:15
  there.
• 29:16
  So
• 29:16
  now
• 29:17
  that
• 29:17
  you've
• 29:17
  stepped
• 29:17
  back
• 29:18
  from
• 29:18
  Mom's
• 29:18
  Demand
• 29:19
  Action,
• 29:20
  what
• 29:20
  does
• 29:20
  this
• 29:20
  next
• 29:21
  chapter
• 29:21
  look
• 29:21
  like
• 29:22
  for
• 29:22
  you?
• 29:22
  Are
• 29:22
  you
• 29:22
  thinking
• 29:22
  more
• 29:23
  books?
• 29:23
  Are
• 29:24
  you
• 29:24
  thinking,
• 29:24
  like,
• 29:25
  getting
• 29:25
  involved
• 29:25
  in
• 29:26
  something
• 29:26
  else?
• 29:26
  Like,
• 29:27
  where's
• 29:27
  your
• 29:27
  head
• 29:28
  right
• 29:28
  now
• 29:28
  for
• 29:28
  the
• 29:28
  next
• 29:28
  chapter?
• 29:29
  Well,
• 29:29
  you
• 29:29
  know
• 29:30
  what
• 29:30
  I
• 29:30
  love
• 29:31
  about
• 29:31
  stepping
• 29:32
  back
• 29:32
  from
• 29:32
  something,
• 29:33
  and
• 29:33
  I
• 29:33
  talk
• 29:33
  about
• 29:33
  this
• 29:33
  in
• 29:33
  the
• 29:34
  book,
• 29:34
  which
• 29:34
  is
• 29:34
  you
• 29:35
  have
• 29:35
  to
• 29:35
  put
• 29:35
  your
• 29:35
  fires
• 29:36
  out
• 29:36
  in
• 29:36
  order
• 29:36
  to
• 29:37
  start
• 29:37
  new
• 29:37
  ones.
• 29:37
  And
• 29:38
  you
• 29:38
  really
• 29:38
  do
• 29:38
  need
• 29:38
  downtime
• 29:39
  in
• 29:39
  between.
• 29:40
  I
• 29:41
  didn't
• 29:41
  get
• 29:41
  a
• 29:41
  ton
• 29:41
  of
• 29:41
  downtime
• 29:42
  between
• 29:42
  Momsum
• 29:42
  in
• 29:43
  Action.
• 29:43
  And
• 29:43
  then
• 29:43
  I
• 29:43
  immediately
• 29:44
  got
• 29:44
  involved
• 29:45
  in
• 29:45
  the
• 29:45
  campaign.
• 29:46
  I
• 29:46
  don't
• 29:46
  know
• 29:46
  if
• 29:46
  you
• 29:47
  remember,
• 29:47
  but
• 29:48
  I
• 29:48
  helped
• 29:48
  Start
• 29:49
  the
• 29:49
  largest
• 29:50
  zoom
• 29:50
  in
• 29:50
  history.
• 29:51
  We
• 29:51
  raised
• 29:51
  like
• 29:51
  $11
• 29:51
  million
• 29:52
  in
• 29:52
  two
• 29:52
  hours
• 29:52
  for
• 29:53
  Kamala
• 29:53
  Harris.
• 29:54
  I
• 29:54
  didn't
• 29:54
  imagine
• 29:55
  I
• 29:55
  would
• 29:55
  do
• 29:55
  that.
• 29:55
  I
• 29:56
  didn't
• 29:56
  imagine
• 29:56
  I
• 29:57
  would
• 29:57
  write
• 29:57
  a
• 29:57
  book.
• 29:57
  And
• 29:58
  what
• 29:58
  is
• 29:58
  so
• 29:59
  amazing
• 29:59
  about
• 29:59
  the
• 30:00
  book
• 30:00
  is
• 30:00
  that
• 30:01
  one
• 30:02
  we've
• 30:03
  started,
• 30:03
  Firestarter
• 30:03
  University.
• 30:05
  So
• 30:05
  in
• 30:05
  September,
• 30:06
  if
• 30:06
  you've
• 30:07
  bought
• 30:07
  the
• 30:07
  book
• 30:07
  and
• 30:07
  you've
• 30:08
  enrolled
• 30:08
  in
• 30:08
  Firestarter
• 30:09
  University
• 30:09
  and
• 30:09
  something
• 30:09
  like
• 30:10
  800
• 30:10
  women
• 30:10
  have
• 30:11
  so
• 30:11
  far,
• 30:11
  then
• 30:12
  it's
• 30:12
  a
• 30:12
  free
• 30:13
  year
• 30:13
  long
• 30:13
  online
• 30:14
  course
• 30:14
  with
• 30:15
  people
• 30:15
  who
• 30:15
  are
• 30:16
  in
• 30:16
  the
• 30:16
  book
• 30:16
  and
• 30:16
  other
• 30:17
  leaders
• 30:17
  who
• 30:18
  myself
• 30:18
  who
• 30:18
  will
• 30:18
  teach
• 30:19
  these
• 30:19
  courses
• 30:19
  and
• 30:19
  help
• 30:20
  women
• 30:20
  in
• 30:21
  that.
• 30:21
  That's
• 30:21
  their
• 30:21
  bonfire.
• 30:22
  These
• 30:22
  800
• 30:23
  women
• 30:23
  are
• 30:23
  the
• 30:23
  women
• 30:23
  who
• 30:23
  will
• 30:24
  lift
• 30:24
  them
• 30:24
  up.
• 30:24
  Right.
• 30:25
  Going
• 30:25
  forward.
• 30:26
  So
• 30:26
  I'm
• 30:26
  excited
• 30:26
  about
• 30:26
  that.
• 30:27
  And
• 30:27
  then
• 30:28
  women
• 30:29
  are
• 30:29
  taking
• 30:29
  the
• 30:29
  book
• 30:29
  and
• 30:30
  starting
• 30:31
  IRL
• 30:32
  bonfires
• 30:33
  with
• 30:33
  the
• 30:33
  book
• 30:34
  in
• 30:34
  over
• 30:34
  30
• 30:35
  states
• 30:35
  or
• 30:35
  something
• 30:35
  like
• 30:36
  that
• 30:36
  so
• 30:36
  far.
• 30:37
  And
• 30:38
  they're
• 30:38
  going
• 30:38
  to
• 30:38
  get
• 30:38
  together
• 30:39
  for
• 30:39
  personal,
• 30:39
  political
• 30:39
  and
• 30:40
  professional
• 30:40
  empowerment.
• 30:41
  So,
• 30:41
  I
• 30:41
  don't
• 30:42
  know,
• 30:42
  it'll
• 30:42
  be
• 30:42
  interesting.
• 30:42
  You
• 30:43
  know,
• 30:43
  I
• 30:43
  am
• 30:43
  all
• 30:43
  about.
• 30:44
  I
• 30:45
  think
• 30:45
  what
• 30:45
  I
• 30:45
  realized
• 30:45
  when
• 30:45
  I
• 30:46
  stepped
• 30:46
  away
• 30:46
  from
• 30:46
  moms
• 30:46
  to
• 30:46
  man
• 30:47
  action
• 30:47
  is
• 30:47
  yes,
• 30:47
  obviously
• 30:48
  I
• 30:48
  will
• 30:48
  always
• 30:48
  be
• 30:49
  passionate
• 30:49
  about
• 30:49
  gun
• 30:49
  violence
• 30:50
  prevention,
• 30:51
  but
• 30:51
  the
• 30:51
  thread
• 30:52
  that
• 30:52
  runs
• 30:52
  through
• 30:52
  my
• 30:52
  life
• 30:53
  is
• 30:53
  summoning
• 30:53
  the
• 30:53
  audacity
• 30:54
  of
• 30:54
  other
• 30:54
  women.
• 30:55
  And
• 30:56
  I
• 30:56
  want
• 30:56
  to
• 30:56
  do
• 30:56
  that
• 30:56
  in
• 30:57
  any
• 30:57
  way
• 30:57
  I
• 30:57
  can.
• 30:57
  Yeah,
• 30:58
  that
• 30:58
  will
• 30:58
  never
• 30:58
  stop
• 30:59
  for
• 30:59
  you,
• 30:59
  right?
• 30:59
  I
• 30:59
  mean,
• 31:00
  and
• 31:00
  you
• 31:00
  have
• 31:00
  this
• 31:01
  talent
• 31:02
  that
• 31:02
  you
• 31:02
  can
• 31:02
  mobilize
• 31:03
  people.
• 31:03
  Women,
• 31:04
  right,
• 31:04
  Exactly.
• 31:05
  I'm
• 31:05
  not
• 31:06
  sure
• 31:06
  I'm
• 31:06
  so
• 31:06
  good
• 31:06
  at
• 31:06
  mobilizing
• 31:07
  men,
• 31:07
  but
• 31:07
  yes,
• 31:08
  women,
• 31:08
  that's
• 31:08
  a
• 31:08
  little
• 31:09
  like
• 31:09
  herding
• 31:09
  cats,
• 31:09
  honestly.
• 31:10
  Right,
• 31:11
  exactly.
• 31:11
  But
• 31:11
  like,
• 31:12
  where
• 31:12
  does
• 31:12
  that
• 31:13
  come
• 31:13
  from?
• 31:13
  Because
• 31:13
  it's
• 31:14
  really.
• 31:14
  You
• 31:14
  have
• 31:14
  the
• 31:14
  language.
• 31:15
  Not
• 31:15
  every,
• 31:15
  even
• 31:16
  every
• 31:16
  woman
• 31:17
  has
• 31:17
  that.
• 31:17
  You
• 31:18
  know,
• 31:18
  it's
• 31:18
  like
• 31:18
  this
• 31:19
  ability
• 31:19
  to
• 31:19
  kind
• 31:20
  of,
• 31:20
  you
• 31:20
  know,
• 31:20
  get
• 31:21
  women
• 31:21
  so
• 31:22
  fired
• 31:22
  up.
• 31:24
  I
• 31:24
  have
• 31:24
  been
• 31:25
  a
• 31:25
  lifelong
• 31:25
  feminist.
• 31:26
  I
• 31:26
  mean,
• 31:26
  I
• 31:27
  have
• 31:27
  this
• 31:27
  memory
• 31:28
  of
• 31:28
  being
• 31:28
  nine
• 31:29
  years
• 31:29
  old
• 31:29
  and
• 31:29
  my
• 31:29
  dad
• 31:30
  bought
• 31:30
  me
• 31:30
  a
• 31:30
  T
• 31:30
  shirt
• 31:31
  that
• 31:31
  said,
• 31:31
  this
• 31:31
  is
• 31:31
  1979.
• 31:33
  1980.
• 31:34
  My
• 31:34
  dad
• 31:34
  bought
• 31:34
  me
• 31:34
  a
• 31:34
  T
• 31:35
  shirt
• 31:35
  that
• 31:35
  said
• 31:35
  girls
• 31:35
  can
• 31:36
  do
• 31:36
  anything
• 31:36
  boys
• 31:36
  can
• 31:36
  do.
• 31:37
  And
• 31:38
  the
• 31:38
  thought
• 31:38
  I
• 31:38
  had
• 31:39
  was
• 31:39
  not,
• 31:39
  oh,
• 31:39
  yeah,
• 31:40
  that's
• 31:40
  right.
• 31:40
  That's
• 31:41
  so.
• 31:41
  That's.
• 31:41
  Thanks
• 31:42
  for.
• 31:42
  This
• 31:42
  is
• 31:42
  so
• 31:42
  true.
• 31:42
  The
• 31:42
  thought
• 31:43
  I
• 31:43
  had
• 31:43
  was,
• 31:44
  holy
• 31:44
  crap.
• 31:44
  People
• 31:44
  don't
• 31:45
  think
• 31:45
  women
• 31:45
  can
• 31:45
  do
• 31:46
  the
• 31:46
  same
• 31:46
  thing.
• 31:46
  Men
• 31:46
  can.
• 31:47
  I
• 31:48
  didn't
• 31:48
  know
• 31:48
  until
• 31:48
  that
• 31:49
  moment
• 31:49
  that
• 31:49
  that
• 31:50
  was
• 31:50
  a
• 31:50
  thing
• 31:51
  in
• 31:51
  society.
• 31:52
  And
• 31:53
  I
• 31:54
  really
• 31:54
  believe
• 31:54
  that.
• 31:55
  I
• 31:55
  have
• 31:55
  always
• 31:56
  felt
• 31:56
  so
• 31:57
  strongly
• 31:58
  that
• 31:58
  there
• 31:59
  needs
• 31:59
  to
• 31:59
  be
• 31:59
  parity
• 32:00
  in
• 32:00
  all
• 32:00
  things
• 32:01
  and
• 32:02
  that
• 32:03
  I've
• 32:03
  experienced
• 32:04
  this
• 32:04
  firsthand,
• 32:05
  which
• 32:05
  is,
• 32:06
  you
• 32:06
  know,
• 32:06
  women
• 32:07
  often
• 32:09
  don't
• 32:09
  get
• 32:09
  the
• 32:10
  opportunities
• 32:11
  and
• 32:11
  don't
• 32:12
  get
• 32:12
  the
• 32:12
  access.
• 32:13
  And
• 32:13
  there's
• 32:13
  so
• 32:13
  many
• 32:14
  gatekeepers.
• 32:15
  And
• 32:15
  I
• 32:15
  just
• 32:15
  always
• 32:16
  want
• 32:16
  to
• 32:16
  help
• 32:16
  women
• 32:16
  bypass
• 32:17
  those
• 32:17
  and
• 32:17
  have
• 32:18
  power.
• 32:18
  You
• 32:18
  know,
• 32:18
  when
• 32:18
  you
• 32:19
  think
• 32:19
  about,
• 32:20
  for
• 32:20
  example,
• 32:20
  women
• 32:20
  who
• 32:21
  are
• 32:21
  elected
• 32:21
  to
• 32:21
  office.
• 32:21
  We've
• 32:21
  elected
• 32:22
  thousands
• 32:23
  of
• 32:23
  women
• 32:24
  to
• 32:24
  office
• 32:24
  through
• 32:24
  Moms
• 32:25
  Demand
• 32:25
  Action,
• 32:25
  including
• 32:25
  our
• 32:26
  own
• 32:27
  volunteers.
• 32:27
  I'm
• 32:27
  also
• 32:28
  on
• 32:28
  the
• 32:28
  board
• 32:28
  of
• 32:28
  Emerge
• 32:28
  America,
• 32:29
  which
• 32:29
  trains
• 32:29
  women
• 32:29
  to
• 32:30
  run
• 32:30
  for
• 32:30
  office.
• 32:31
  We
• 32:31
  only
• 32:31
  hold
• 32:32
  25%
• 32:33
  of
• 32:34
  the
• 32:34
  500,000
• 32:35
  elected
• 32:35
  positions
• 32:36
  in
• 32:36
  this
• 32:36
  country.
• 32:37
  We
• 32:37
  are
• 32:37
  only
• 32:38
  5%
• 32:38
  of
• 32:39
  Fortune
• 32:39
  1000
• 32:40
  CEOs.
• 32:41
  So
• 32:41
  we
• 32:42
  have
• 32:42
  to
• 32:42
  be
• 32:42
  pragmatic
• 32:43
  about
• 32:43
  the
• 32:43
  levers
• 32:43
  of
• 32:43
  power
• 32:44
  we
• 32:44
  can
• 32:44
  pull.
• 32:44
  But
• 32:44
  we
• 32:45
  also
• 32:45
  need
• 32:45
  more
• 32:45
  levers.
• 32:46
  So
• 32:47
  what
• 32:47
  is
• 32:47
  that
• 32:47
  going
• 32:47
  to
• 32:47
  take,
• 32:48
  do
• 32:48
  you
• 32:48
  think?
• 32:49
  Let's
• 32:49
  get
• 32:49
  all
• 32:49
  the
• 32:50
  levers
• 32:50
  like
• 32:51
  going.
• 32:51
  You
• 32:51
  know,
• 32:52
  first
• 32:52
  of
• 32:52
  all,
• 32:52
  it
• 32:52
  is
• 32:53
  living
• 32:53
  on
• 32:53
  fire.
• 32:53
  It
• 32:54
  is
• 32:54
  creating
• 32:54
  a
• 32:54
  bonfire
• 32:55
  and
• 32:55
  lifting
• 32:55
  other
• 32:56
  women
• 32:56
  up
• 32:56
  and
• 32:57
  encouraging
• 32:58
  them
• 32:58
  to
• 32:59
  really
• 33:00
  be
• 33:00
  their
• 33:00
  best
• 33:01
  selves
• 33:01
  and
• 33:01
  leave
• 33:01
  a
• 33:02
  legacy,
• 33:02
  you
• 33:02
  know,
• 33:03
  and
• 33:03
  help
• 33:03
  them
• 33:03
  figure
• 33:04
  out
• 33:04
  ways
• 33:04
  to
• 33:04
  get
• 33:05
  past
• 33:05
  these
• 33:05
  gatekeepers.
• 33:06
  I
• 33:07
  do
• 33:07
  think
• 33:07
  there's
• 33:07
  a
• 33:07
  moral
• 33:08
  imperative
• 33:08
  right
• 33:08
  now
• 33:08
  in
• 33:08
  this
• 33:09
  country
• 33:09
  to
• 33:09
  run
• 33:09
  for
• 33:09
  office
• 33:10
  for
• 33:10
  women.
• 33:11
  Most
• 33:11
  women
• 33:11
  don't
• 33:11
  run
• 33:12
  until
• 33:12
  they're
• 33:12
  47
• 33:12
  years
• 33:13
  old
• 33:13
  because
• 33:13
  they
• 33:13
  want
• 33:13
  to
• 33:14
  have
• 33:14
  a
• 33:14
  family
• 33:14
  and
• 33:14
  a
• 33:14
  career
• 33:15
  first.
• 33:15
  And
• 33:15
  I
• 33:15
  understand
• 33:16
  that.
• 33:16
  But
• 33:17
  we
• 33:17
  have
• 33:17
  to
• 33:19
  make
• 33:19
  women
• 33:19
  used
• 33:19
  to
• 33:20
  the
• 33:20
  idea
• 33:20
  that
• 33:20
  this
• 33:21
  can
• 33:21
  be
• 33:21
  something
• 33:22
  you
• 33:22
  do
• 33:22
  right
• 33:22
  out
• 33:22
  of
• 33:23
  school.
• 33:23
  This
• 33:23
  can
• 33:24
  be
• 33:24
  something
• 33:24
  you
• 33:24
  do
• 33:24
  when
• 33:24
  you're
• 33:25
  younger
• 33:25
  and
• 33:25
  should
• 33:25
  be.
• 33:26
  And
• 33:26
  I
• 33:26
  don't
• 33:26
  mean
• 33:27
  you
• 33:27
  have
• 33:27
  to
• 33:27
  run
• 33:27
  for
• 33:27
  congress.
• 33:28
  You
• 33:28
  know,
• 33:29
  maybe
• 33:29
  you're
• 33:29
  the
• 33:29
  local
• 33:30
  county
• 33:30
  coroner
• 33:31
  or
• 33:31
  you're
• 33:31
  on
• 33:31
  city
• 33:31
  council
• 33:32
  or
• 33:32
  you're
• 33:33
  a
• 33:34
  state
• 33:34
  house
• 33:34
  rep,
• 33:35
  it
• 33:35
  doesn't
• 33:35
  matter.
• 33:35
  It
• 33:36
  doesn't
• 33:36
  have
• 33:36
  to
• 33:36
  be
• 33:36
  high,
• 33:36
  high
• 33:37
  office.
• 33:37
  But
• 33:38
  as
• 33:38
  the
• 33:38
  saying
• 33:38
  goes,
• 33:39
  if
• 33:39
  you
• 33:39
  don't
• 33:39
  have
• 33:39
  a
• 33:39
  seat
• 33:40
  at
• 33:40
  the
• 33:40
  table,
• 33:40
  you
• 33:40
  are
• 33:40
  probably
• 33:40
  on
• 33:41
  the
• 33:41
  menu.
• 33:41
  And
• 33:41
  right
• 33:41
  now,
• 33:42
  women
• 33:42
  are
• 33:42
  very
• 33:42
  much.
• 33:42
  On
• 33:43
  the
• 33:43
  menu,
• 33:43
  very
• 33:43
  much
• 33:44
  so.
• 33:44
  How
• 33:44
  much
• 33:45
  is
• 33:45
  community
• 33:46
  like,
• 33:46
  meaning
• 33:46
  your
• 33:47
  closest
• 33:47
  girlfriends?
• 33:48
  How
• 33:49
  important
• 33:49
  are
• 33:50
  they
• 33:50
  to
• 33:50
  you?
• 33:50
  Especially
• 33:50
  at
• 33:51
  this
• 33:51
  time
• 33:51
  in
• 33:51
  life,
• 33:51
  in
• 33:52
  midlife?
• 33:53
  There's
• 33:53
  two
• 33:53
  interesting
• 33:54
  things
• 33:54
  about
• 33:54
  that.
• 33:54
  So
• 33:54
  the
• 33:55
  first
• 33:55
  is
• 33:55
  it's
• 33:56
  everything.
• 33:57
  And
• 33:58
  it
• 33:59
  is
• 33:59
  so
• 33:59
  important
• 34:00
  to
• 34:01
  participate
• 34:01
  in
• 34:01
  things
• 34:02
  personally,
• 34:02
  professionally,
• 34:03
  politically,
• 34:03
  because
• 34:03
  that
• 34:03
  is
• 34:04
  where
• 34:04
  you
• 34:04
  find
• 34:05
  your
• 34:05
  bonfire,
• 34:06
  your
• 34:06
  like
• 34:06
  minded
• 34:06
  women
• 34:07
  and
• 34:07
  friends.
• 34:08
  I
• 34:09
  wrote
• 34:09
  about
• 34:09
  this
• 34:10
  for
• 34:10
  my
• 34:10
  substack
• 34:11
  because
• 34:12
  even
• 34:12
  though
• 34:12
  I
• 34:12
  ran
• 34:13
  the
• 34:14
  nation,
• 34:15
  maybe
• 34:15
  even
• 34:15
  the
• 34:15
  world's
• 34:16
  largest
• 34:16
  women
• 34:16
  led
• 34:17
  nonprofit,
• 34:18
  I
• 34:19
  found
• 34:19
  myself
• 34:19
  at
• 34:19
  50
• 34:20
  with
• 34:20
  very
• 34:20
  few
• 34:20
  close
• 34:20
  friends.
• 34:21
  And
• 34:21
  I
• 34:22
  was
• 34:22
  listening
• 34:22
  to
• 34:22
  a
• 34:22
  podcast
• 34:23
  one
• 34:23
  day
• 34:23
  and
• 34:23
  the
• 34:23
  podcaster
• 34:24
  said,
• 34:25
  you
• 34:25
  don't
• 34:26
  have
• 34:26
  enough
• 34:26
  friends
• 34:26
  if
• 34:26
  you
• 34:26
  don't
• 34:26
  have
• 34:27
  five
• 34:27
  people,
• 34:27
  you
• 34:27
  can
• 34:27
  call
• 34:27
  in
• 34:28
  the
• 34:28
  middle
• 34:28
  of
• 34:28
  the
• 34:28
  night
• 34:28
  with
• 34:28
  an
• 34:28
  emergency.
• 34:29
  And
• 34:30
  I
• 34:30
  thought,
• 34:30
  oh,
• 34:30
  no
• 34:30
  problem,
• 34:31
  I
• 34:31
  have
• 34:31
  five
• 34:31
  kids.
• 34:32
  And
• 34:32
  then
• 34:32
  they
• 34:32
  said,
• 34:33
  except
• 34:34
  your
• 34:34
  family.
• 34:35
  I
• 34:35
  was
• 34:35
  like,
• 34:35
  well,
• 34:36
  what
• 34:36
  is
• 34:36
  the
• 34:36
  point
• 34:36
  of
• 34:36
  having
• 34:37
  five
• 34:37
  kids
• 34:37
  if
• 34:38
  I
• 34:38
  can't
• 34:38
  call
• 34:38
  them
• 34:38
  in
• 34:38
  the
• 34:39
  night?
• 34:39
  But
• 34:39
  okay.
• 34:40
  And
• 34:41
  I
• 34:41
  wrote
• 34:41
  about
• 34:41
  how
• 34:42
  I
• 34:42
  set
• 34:42
  out
• 34:42
  on
• 34:42
  this
• 34:43
  journey
• 34:43
  to
• 34:44
  find
• 34:44
  those
• 34:44
  friends.
• 34:45
  And
• 34:46
  you
• 34:46
  know,
• 34:47
  if
• 34:48
  it's
• 34:48
  hard
• 34:48
  for
• 34:49
  you,
• 34:49
  if
• 34:49
  it's
• 34:49
  an
• 34:50
  effort,
• 34:50
  you're
• 34:50
  not
• 34:51
  abnormal.
• 34:52
  Once
• 34:53
  your
• 34:53
  kids,
• 34:53
  especially
• 34:54
  if
• 34:54
  you're
• 34:54
  an
• 34:54
  empty
• 34:54
  nester
• 34:55
  or
• 34:55
  once
• 34:55
  we
• 34:56
  reach
• 34:56
  middle
• 34:56
  aged,
• 34:57
  it
• 34:57
  is
• 34:57
  very
• 34:57
  hard
• 34:58
  to
• 34:58
  hold
• 34:58
  on
• 34:58
  to
• 34:59
  those
• 34:59
  connections
• 34:59
  and
• 34:59
  those
• 34:59
  friendships.
• 35:00
  You
• 35:00
  don't
• 35:00
  have
• 35:00
  as
• 35:00
  much
• 35:00
  in
• 35:01
  common.
• 35:01
  Maybe
• 35:02
  you've
• 35:02
  moved
• 35:02
  around,
• 35:04
  maybe
• 35:04
  your
• 35:04
  interests
• 35:05
  have
• 35:05
  changed.
• 35:06
  And
• 35:06
  so
• 35:07
  it
• 35:07
  really
• 35:07
  does
• 35:08
  take
• 35:08
  effort.
• 35:09
  That's
• 35:09
  why
• 35:09
  I
• 35:09
  think
• 35:09
  Firestarter
• 35:10
  University
• 35:10
  is
• 35:10
  so
• 35:11
  important,
• 35:11
  because
• 35:11
  it's
• 35:11
  connecting
• 35:12
  people.
• 35:12
  But
• 35:13
  I
• 35:14
  have
• 35:15
  just,
• 35:16
  look,
• 35:16
  I
• 35:16
  love
• 35:16
  my
• 35:16
  husband,
• 35:17
  but
• 35:17
  going
• 35:18
  on
• 35:18
  vacation
• 35:18
  or
• 35:19
  going
• 35:19
  out
• 35:19
  with
• 35:20
  women
• 35:20
  friends
• 35:20
  is
• 35:21
  a
• 35:21
  much
• 35:21
  different
• 35:21
  vibe
• 35:22
  and
• 35:22
  a
• 35:22
  much
• 35:22
  different
• 35:22
  energy
• 35:23
  and
• 35:23
  one
• 35:23
  that
• 35:23
  feeds
• 35:24
  me.
• 35:24
  And
• 35:25
  given
• 35:26
  the
• 35:26
  pandemic,
• 35:26
  given
• 35:27
  social
• 35:27
  media,
• 35:27
  given
• 35:28
  how
• 35:28
  polarized
• 35:28
  we
• 35:28
  are
• 35:28
  as
• 35:29
  a
• 35:29
  country,
• 35:29
  having
• 35:30
  conversations,
• 35:31
  knowing
• 35:31
  our
• 35:31
  neighbors
• 35:32
  is.
• 35:32
  More
• 35:32
  important
• 35:33
  than
• 35:33
  ever,
• 35:34
  a
• 35:34
  hundred
• 35:34
  percent.
• 35:34
  And
• 35:35
  I
• 35:35
  also
• 35:35
  think
• 35:35
  it's
• 35:36
  so
• 35:36
  important
• 35:36
  for
• 35:36
  women.
• 35:36
  I
• 35:37
  was
• 35:37
  actually
• 35:37
  talking
• 35:38
  to
• 35:38
  one
• 35:38
  of
• 35:38
  my
• 35:38
  best
• 35:38
  friends
• 35:39
  about
• 35:39
  this,
• 35:39
  is
• 35:39
  that
• 35:40
  you
• 35:40
  have
• 35:40
  to
• 35:40
  reach
• 35:41
  out
• 35:41
  and
• 35:41
  ask
• 35:41
  people
• 35:42
  for
• 35:42
  help.
• 35:42
  And
• 35:43
  for
• 35:43
  some
• 35:43
  reason,
• 35:43
  I
• 35:44
  know
• 35:44
  a
• 35:44
  lot
• 35:44
  of
• 35:44
  times
• 35:44
  with
• 35:45
  women,
• 35:45
  and
• 35:45
  I
• 35:46
  am
• 35:46
  in
• 35:46
  that
• 35:46
  same
• 35:46
  boat,
• 35:47
  it's
• 35:47
  really
• 35:47
  hard
• 35:48
  to
• 35:48
  do
• 35:48
  that.
• 35:48
  You
• 35:48
  don't
• 35:49
  want
• 35:49
  to
• 35:49
  do
• 35:49
  that.
• 35:49
  You
• 35:49
  don't
• 35:50
  want
• 35:50
  to
• 35:50
  like
• 35:50
  put
• 35:51
  yourself
• 35:51
  out
• 35:51
  there
• 35:51
  or
• 35:52
  feel
• 35:52
  like
• 35:52
  you're
• 35:52
  a
• 35:52
  burden.
• 35:53
  But
• 35:53
  like,
• 35:54
  if
• 35:54
  you
• 35:54
  know
• 35:55
  people
• 35:55
  are
• 35:55
  your
• 35:55
  friends
• 35:55
  and
• 35:56
  you
• 35:56
  want
• 35:56
  this
• 35:56
  community,
• 35:57
  you
• 35:57
  have
• 35:57
  to
• 35:57
  reach
• 35:58
  out
• 35:58
  to
• 35:58
  people.
• 35:59
  Yes.
• 35:59
  Would
• 35:59
  you
• 35:59
  agree
• 35:59
  with
• 36:00
  that?
• 36:00
  Yes.
• 36:00
  And
• 36:01
  there's
• 36:01
  a
• 36:01
  whole
• 36:01
  chapter
• 36:02
  in
• 36:02
  fired
• 36:02
  up
• 36:02
  about,
• 36:03
  about
• 36:03
  the
• 36:03
  kinds
• 36:03
  of
• 36:04
  support
• 36:04
  that
• 36:04
  we
• 36:04
  all
• 36:05
  need.
• 36:05
  You
• 36:05
  know,
• 36:05
  some
• 36:05
  of
• 36:06
  it's
• 36:06
  physical
• 36:06
  and
• 36:06
  some
• 36:06
  of
• 36:07
  it's
• 36:07
  mental.
• 36:07
  How
• 36:08
  do
• 36:08
  you
• 36:08
  get
• 36:08
  that
• 36:08
  support?
• 36:09
  How
• 36:09
  do
• 36:09
  you
• 36:09
  leverage
• 36:10
  that
• 36:10
  support
• 36:11
  and
• 36:11
  use
• 36:11
  that
• 36:11
  support?
• 36:12
  I
• 36:12
  mean,
• 36:13
  we
• 36:13
  have
• 36:13
  become
• 36:14
  so
• 36:14
  hyper
• 36:15
  individual
• 36:16
  in
• 36:16
  this
• 36:16
  nation
• 36:17
  and
• 36:18
  there
• 36:18
  is
• 36:18
  something
• 36:18
  to
• 36:19
  be
• 36:19
  said,
• 36:19
  you
• 36:19
  know,
• 36:19
  about
• 36:20
  it
• 36:20
  takes
• 36:20
  a
• 36:20
  village
• 36:21
  and
• 36:21
  it
• 36:21
  does.
• 36:21
  It
• 36:21
  takes
• 36:21
  a
• 36:22
  village
• 36:22
  to
• 36:22
  live
• 36:22
  on
• 36:22
  fire.
• 36:22
  It
• 36:23
  takes
• 36:23
  a
• 36:23
  village
• 36:23
  to
• 36:24
  have
• 36:24
  a
• 36:24
  democracy.
• 36:25
  It
• 36:25
  takes
• 36:26
  a
• 36:26
  village
• 36:26
  to
• 36:26
  know
• 36:27
  who
• 36:27
  you
• 36:27
  are
• 36:27
  and
• 36:27
  what
• 36:27
  you
• 36:27
  want
• 36:28
  and
• 36:28
  to
• 36:28
  raise
• 36:28
  your,
• 36:28
  raise
• 36:28
  kids.
• 36:29
  I
• 36:29
  mean,
• 36:29
  it's
• 36:29
  just,
• 36:30
  it's
• 36:30
  such
• 36:30
  an
• 36:31
  important
• 36:31
  part
• 36:31
  of
• 36:32
  life
• 36:32
  that
• 36:32
  I
• 36:33
  feel
• 36:33
  like
• 36:33
  has
• 36:34
  been
• 36:34
  so
• 36:34
  denigrated.
• 36:35
  And
• 36:35
  that
• 36:35
  doesn't
• 36:36
  mean,
• 36:36
  you
• 36:36
  know,
• 36:36
  we
• 36:36
  can't
• 36:37
  get
• 36:37
  it
• 36:37
  back.
• 36:37
  It's
• 36:38
  on
• 36:38
  all
• 36:38
  of
• 36:38
  us
• 36:38
  to
• 36:38
  work
• 36:39
  together
• 36:39
  to
• 36:39
  try
• 36:39
  to
• 36:39
  do
• 36:39
  that.
• 36:40
  Yeah,
• 36:40
  it
• 36:40
  is.
• 36:40
  You're
• 36:41
  right.
• 36:42
  Curious.
• 36:42
  What
• 36:42
  made
• 36:43
  you
• 36:43
  want
• 36:43
  to
• 36:43
  turn
• 36:43
  Buddhist?
• 36:44
  I
• 36:45
  love
• 36:45
  that.
• 36:45
  I
• 36:45
  mean,
• 36:46
  it's
• 36:46
  so
• 36:46
  peaceful.
• 36:46
  And
• 36:47
  I
• 36:48
  was
• 36:48
  raised
• 36:48
  in
• 36:49
  a
• 36:49
  very
• 36:49
  strict
• 36:50
  Catholic
• 36:50
  family.
• 36:50
  My
• 36:51
  dad
• 36:51
  was
• 36:51
  in
• 36:51
  the
• 36:51
  seminary
• 36:52
  for
• 36:52
  10
• 36:52
  years
• 36:52
  to
• 36:52
  be
• 36:53
  a
• 36:53
  priest
• 36:53
  before
• 36:53
  he
• 36:54
  dropped
• 36:54
  out
• 36:55
  and,
• 36:55
  you
• 36:55
  know,
• 36:55
  Sunday
• 36:56
  school
• 36:57
  and
• 36:58
  Catholic
• 36:59
  school
• 36:59
  and
• 36:59
  the
• 36:59
  whole
• 37:00
  thing.
• 37:00
  And
• 37:01
  for
• 37:01
  me,
• 37:01
  it
• 37:01
  always
• 37:02
  felt
• 37:02
  like
• 37:02
  leaning
• 37:03
  into
• 37:04
  suffering,
• 37:04
  like
• 37:05
  you
• 37:05
  had
• 37:05
  to
• 37:05
  suffer
• 37:06
  in
• 37:06
  order
• 37:06
  to
• 37:06
  be
• 37:07
  good.
• 37:07
  And
• 37:07
  that
• 37:08
  caused
• 37:08
  me
• 37:08
  a
• 37:08
  lot
• 37:08
  of
• 37:08
  anxiety.
• 37:09
  And
• 37:09
  it
• 37:09
  didn't
• 37:09
  really
• 37:10
  feel
• 37:10
  like
• 37:10
  a
• 37:10
  rule
• 37:11
  book
• 37:11
  for
• 37:11
  how
• 37:11
  to
• 37:11
  live.
• 37:12
  And
• 37:13
  the
• 37:13
  more
• 37:13
  I
• 37:13
  learned
• 37:14
  and
• 37:14
  studied
• 37:15
  Buddhism,
• 37:15
  the
• 37:15
  more
• 37:15
  it
• 37:16
  felt
• 37:16
  like
• 37:17
  understanding
• 37:17
  there
• 37:17
  was
• 37:17
  suffering,
• 37:18
  but
• 37:18
  we
• 37:18
  could
• 37:18
  minimize
• 37:19
  it.
• 37:20
  And
• 37:21
  everything
• 37:21
  from
• 37:21
  right
• 37:22
  speech
• 37:22
  to
• 37:22
  right
• 37:22
  action.
• 37:23
  It
• 37:23
  just
• 37:23
  felt
• 37:24
  like
• 37:24
  a
• 37:24
  way
• 37:25
  to
• 37:25
  live
• 37:25
  while
• 37:25
  we're
• 37:25
  here
• 37:26
  on
• 37:26
  earth
• 37:26
  instead
• 37:26
  of
• 37:26
  preparing
• 37:27
  for,
• 37:27
  you
• 37:27
  know,
• 37:27
  trying
• 37:28
  to
• 37:28
  get
• 37:29
  to
• 37:29
  heaven.
• 37:30
  And
• 37:30
  it
• 37:30
  just
• 37:31
  spoke
• 37:31
  to
• 37:31
  me.
• 37:31
  And
• 37:32
  I'm
• 37:32
  just
• 37:32
  so
• 37:32
  grateful
• 37:33
  for
• 37:33
  it
• 37:33
  all
• 37:33
  the
• 37:33
  time
• 37:34
  because
• 37:35
  it
• 37:35
  does
• 37:36
  shape
• 37:36
  who
• 37:36
  I
• 37:36
  am
• 37:36
  and.
• 37:37
  And
• 37:37
  how
• 37:37
  I
• 37:38
  behave
• 37:38
  and
• 37:38
  interact
• 37:39
  with
• 37:39
  other
• 37:39
  people.
• 37:40
  And,
• 37:41
  you
• 37:41
  know,
• 37:42
  my
• 37:42
  dad,
• 37:42
  as
• 37:42
  you
• 37:42
  can
• 37:43
  imagine,
• 37:43
  isn't
• 37:43
  thrilled.
• 37:43
  And
• 37:43
  he
• 37:44
  always
• 37:44
  laughs
• 37:44
  that
• 37:44
  he
• 37:44
  thinks
• 37:45
  yoga
• 37:45
  was
• 37:45
  the
• 37:45
  gateway
• 37:46
  to
• 37:46
  my
• 37:46
  Buddhism.
• 37:47
  It's
• 37:47
  always
• 37:48
  the
• 37:48
  gateway
• 37:48
  drug,
• 37:48
  the
• 37:48
  yoga,
• 37:49
  right?
• 37:50
  No,
• 37:51
  that's.
• 37:51
  You
• 37:51
  know,
• 37:51
  I
• 37:51
  could
• 37:52
  see
• 37:52
  how
• 37:52
  Buddhism,
• 37:52
  too,
• 37:53
  is
• 37:53
  such
• 37:53
  a
• 37:53
  powerful
• 37:54
  tool
• 37:54
  for
• 37:54
  you,
• 37:54
  probably
• 37:55
  particularly
• 37:56
  because
• 37:56
  of
• 37:57
  what
• 37:57
  you
• 37:57
  were
• 37:57
  seeing
• 37:58
  and
• 37:58
  dealing
• 37:59
  with
• 37:59
  meditation.
• 38:00
  Meditation,
• 38:00
  you
• 38:01
  have
• 38:01
  to.
• 38:01
  Because
• 38:01
  when
• 38:01
  you
• 38:01
  turn
• 38:02
  on
• 38:02
  the
• 38:02
  TV
• 38:03
  and
• 38:03
  you
• 38:03
  see
• 38:03
  these
• 38:04
  images,
• 38:04
  you
• 38:05
  know,
• 38:05
  it's
• 38:05
  so
• 38:06
  heart
• 38:07
  wrenching.
• 38:07
  You
• 38:07
  know,
• 38:08
  I
• 38:08
  mean,
• 38:08
  it
• 38:08
  just.
• 38:08
  So
• 38:09
  I
• 38:09
  can
• 38:09
  imagine
• 38:09
  that
• 38:10
  was
• 38:10
  a
• 38:10
  very
• 38:10
  powerful,
• 38:10
  helpful
• 38:11
  tool
• 38:11
  for
• 38:11
  you.
• 38:12
  Yeah,
• 38:12
  we're
• 38:12
  all
• 38:13
  victims
• 38:14
  of
• 38:14
  vicarious
• 38:14
  trauma
• 38:14
  in
• 38:15
  America.
• 38:15
  You
• 38:15
  know,
• 38:15
  we.
• 38:16
  Whether
• 38:16
  we're
• 38:16
  gun
• 38:16
  violence
• 38:16
  survivors
• 38:17
  or
• 38:17
  not,
• 38:17
  you
• 38:17
  know,
• 38:17
  we're
• 38:18
  all,
• 38:19
  one
• 38:19
  in
• 38:19
  three
• 38:19
  of
• 38:19
  us
• 38:19
  have
• 38:19
  been
• 38:20
  impacted
• 38:20
  by
• 38:20
  gun
• 38:20
  violence,
• 38:21
  but
• 38:21
  we're
• 38:21
  always
• 38:21
  seeing
• 38:21
  it.
• 38:22
  So
• 38:22
  I
• 38:22
  do
• 38:22
  think
• 38:23
  meditation
• 38:23
  is
• 38:24
  an
• 38:24
  important
• 38:24
  tool
• 38:24
  for
• 38:25
  that.
• 38:25
  But
• 38:25
  the
• 38:25
  other
• 38:25
  thing
• 38:25
  that
• 38:25
  is
• 38:26
  important
• 38:26
  to
• 38:27
  me
• 38:27
  about
• 38:27
  meditation
• 38:27
  is
• 38:28
  that
• 38:28
  white
• 38:28
  space
• 38:28
  we
• 38:28
  were
• 38:29
  talking
• 38:29
  about
• 38:29
  earlier.
• 38:30
  We
• 38:31
  have
• 38:31
  so
• 38:31
  little
• 38:32
  time
• 38:32
  to
• 38:33
  think.
• 38:33
  I
• 38:34
  talk
• 38:34
  in
• 38:34
  the
• 38:34
  book
• 38:34
  about,
• 38:35
  along
• 38:36
  with
• 38:36
  a
• 38:36
  fire
• 38:36
  metaphor,
• 38:37
  a
• 38:37
  controlled
• 38:37
  burn.
• 38:38
  You
• 38:38
  know,
• 38:38
  a
• 38:39
  controlled
• 38:39
  burn
• 38:39
  in
• 38:39
  real
• 38:39
  life
• 38:39
  is
• 38:40
  like
• 38:40
  this
• 38:40
  prescribed
• 38:40
  fire.
• 38:41
  It's
• 38:41
  medicine.
• 38:42
  It
• 38:42
  keeps
• 38:43
  wildfires
• 38:43
  in
• 38:44
  check.
• 38:44
  We
• 38:44
  can
• 38:44
  do
• 38:45
  those
• 38:45
  in
• 38:45
  our
• 38:45
  own
• 38:45
  life.
• 38:47
  And
• 38:47
  I
• 38:47
  talk
• 38:47
  about
• 38:47
  women
• 38:48
  who
• 38:48
  have
• 38:49
  done
• 38:49
  something
• 38:49
  as
• 38:49
  small
• 38:50
  as
• 38:51
  put
• 38:52
  away
• 38:52
  their
• 38:53
  phones
• 38:54
  for
• 38:54
  a
• 38:54
  certain
• 38:54
  period
• 38:55
  of
• 38:55
  time
• 38:55
  or
• 38:56
  stopped
• 38:56
  watching
• 38:57
  Netflix
• 38:58
  to
• 38:58
  as
• 38:59
  big
• 38:59
  as
• 38:59
  not
• 38:59
  drinking
• 39:00
  anymore
• 39:01
  or
• 39:01
  getting
• 39:01
  rid
• 39:01
  of
• 39:02
  all
• 39:02
  the
• 39:02
  clothes
• 39:02
  that
• 39:02
  are
• 39:03
  holding
• 39:03
  them
• 39:03
  to
• 39:03
  this
• 39:04
  unrealistic
• 39:04
  standard
• 39:05
  of
• 39:05
  how
• 39:05
  much
• 39:05
  they
• 39:05
  should
• 39:05
  weigh
• 39:06
  in
• 39:06
  their
• 39:06
  closet.
• 39:06
  Right.
• 39:07
  These
• 39:07
  controlled
• 39:08
  burns
• 39:08
  that
• 39:08
  we
• 39:08
  do
• 39:08
  to
• 39:09
  free
• 39:09
  up
• 39:09
  time
• 39:10
  to
• 39:10
  set
• 39:10
  boundaries
• 39:12
  and
• 39:12
  meditation
• 39:13
  for
• 39:13
  Me
• 39:13
  is
• 39:13
  part
• 39:13
  of
• 39:14
  that.
• 39:14
  Maybe
• 39:14
  it's
• 39:15
  not
• 39:15
  for
• 39:15
  you,
• 39:15
  but
• 39:15
  anyone
• 39:16
  can
• 39:16
  do
• 39:16
  a
• 39:17
  controlled
• 39:17
  burn
• 39:17
  to
• 39:17
  figure
• 39:18
  out
• 39:18
  how
• 39:18
  do
• 39:19
  I
• 39:19
  have
• 39:19
  more
• 39:19
  time
• 39:19
  and
• 39:19
  space
• 39:20
  to
• 39:20
  think
• 39:20
  about
• 39:20
  my
• 39:21
  values,
• 39:21
  abilities,
• 39:21
  and
• 39:21
  desires
• 39:22
  and
• 39:23
  to
• 39:23
  pursue
• 39:23
  them.
• 39:25
  And
• 39:25
  then
• 39:25
  when
• 39:25
  you're
• 39:25
  truly
• 39:26
  unplugging,
• 39:26
  how
• 39:27
  do
• 39:27
  you
• 39:27
  do
• 39:27
  self
• 39:27
  care?
• 39:28
  Like,
• 39:28
  what
• 39:28
  does
• 39:28
  that
• 39:28
  look
• 39:29
  like
• 39:29
  for
• 39:29
  you?
• 39:29
  You
• 39:30
  know,
• 39:30
  I
• 39:30
  think
• 39:30
  self
• 39:31
  care
• 39:31
  has
• 39:31
  become
• 39:31
  such
• 39:32
  a
• 39:32
  weird
• 39:33
  phrase,
• 39:33
  right?
• 39:33
  People
• 39:34
  see
• 39:34
  it
• 39:34
  as
• 39:34
  such
• 39:34
  a
• 39:34
  commodified
• 39:35
  thing
• 39:36
  now.
• 39:36
  Like,
• 39:36
  there's
• 39:36
  all
• 39:36
  this
• 39:36
  talk
• 39:37
  about
• 39:37
  faux
• 39:37
  self
• 39:37
  care,
• 39:39
  and
• 39:39
  I
• 39:39
  don't
• 39:39
  mean
• 39:39
  something
• 39:40
  you
• 39:40
  have
• 39:40
  to
• 39:40
  invest
• 39:40
  in.
• 39:41
  You
• 39:41
  know,
• 39:42
  I'm
• 39:42
  talking
• 39:42
  about
• 39:43
  things
• 39:43
  that
• 39:43
  truly
• 39:45
  bring
• 39:45
  you
• 39:46
  peace
• 39:46
  and
• 39:47
  joy.
• 39:48
  Now,
• 39:48
  does
• 39:49
  a
• 39:49
  nightly
• 39:49
  bubble
• 39:49
  bath
• 39:50
  do
• 39:50
  that
• 39:50
  for
• 39:50
  me?
• 39:50
  Yeah,
• 39:50
  it
• 39:50
  does.
• 39:51
  I
• 39:51
  take
• 39:51
  a
• 39:51
  bubble
• 39:51
  bath
• 39:52
  every
• 39:52
  night.
• 39:52
  But
• 39:52
  does
• 39:52
  activism
• 39:53
  do
• 39:53
  that
• 39:53
  for
• 39:53
  me,
• 39:53
  too,
• 39:54
  to
• 39:54
  help
• 39:54
  other
• 39:54
  people?
• 39:55
  Absolutely.
• 39:56
  So
• 39:56
  I
• 39:56
  think
• 39:56
  we
• 39:57
  all
• 39:57
  have
• 39:57
  to
• 39:57
  figure
• 39:57
  out
• 39:58
  what
• 39:58
  our
• 39:58
  form
• 39:58
  of
• 39:59
  self
• 39:59
  care
• 39:59
  is,
• 39:59
  and
• 40:00
  we
• 40:00
  all
• 40:00
  have
• 40:00
  to
• 40:01
  engage
• 40:01
  in
• 40:01
  it
• 40:02
  right
• 40:02
  now.
• 40:03
  Because
• 40:05
  when
• 40:05
  I
• 40:05
  started
• 40:06
  Monster
• 40:06
  Man
• 40:06
  Action,
• 40:06
  we
• 40:07
  decided
• 40:07
  to
• 40:07
  have
• 40:07
  this
• 40:07
  annual
• 40:08
  meeting
• 40:08
  where
• 40:08
  we
• 40:08
  got
• 40:08
  together.
• 40:09
  All
• 40:09
  of
• 40:09
  our
• 40:09
  volunteers
• 40:10
  started
• 40:10
  out
• 40:10
  very
• 40:10
  small
• 40:11
  and
• 40:11
  grew
• 40:11
  into
• 40:11
  thousands
• 40:12
  of
• 40:12
  people.
• 40:12
  But
• 40:13
  that
• 40:13
  first
• 40:13
  one,
• 40:14
  I
• 40:14
  thought,
• 40:15
  we
• 40:15
  need
• 40:15
  to
• 40:15
  have
• 40:15
  a
• 40:15
  dance
• 40:16
  party
• 40:16
  at
• 40:16
  the
• 40:16
  end
• 40:16
  of
• 40:16
  this,
• 40:16
  because
• 40:17
  it's
• 40:17
  a
• 40:17
  weekend
• 40:17
  of
• 40:17
  training
• 40:18
  and
• 40:18
  really
• 40:18
  difficult,
• 40:19
  tough
• 40:19
  stories,
• 40:20
  and
• 40:20
  we're
• 40:20
  gonna
• 40:21
  want
• 40:21
  some
• 40:21
  lightness
• 40:22
  at
• 40:22
  the
• 40:22
  end.
• 40:23
  And
• 40:23
  I
• 40:23
  really
• 40:23
  got
• 40:23
  a
• 40:23
  lot
• 40:23
  of
• 40:24
  pushback.
• 40:24
  People
• 40:24
  were
• 40:24
  like,
• 40:25
  that's
• 40:25
  not
• 40:25
  the
• 40:25
  right
• 40:25
  tone.
• 40:26
  We're
• 40:26
  talking
• 40:26
  about
• 40:26
  gun
• 40:27
  violence.
• 40:27
  We
• 40:27
  shouldn't
• 40:27
  do
• 40:28
  this
• 40:28
  party.
• 40:28
  And
• 40:28
  I
• 40:29
  just
• 40:29
  felt
• 40:29
  in
• 40:29
  my
• 40:30
  gut
• 40:30
  that
• 40:30
  this
• 40:30
  was
• 40:30
  the
• 40:30
  right
• 40:31
  thing
• 40:31
  to
• 40:31
  do.
• 40:32
  And
• 40:32
  so
• 40:32
  we
• 40:32
  turned
• 40:33
  off
• 40:33
  the
• 40:33
  lights,
• 40:33
  and
• 40:33
  we
• 40:33
  had
• 40:33
  a
• 40:34
  dj
• 40:34
  and
• 40:34
  people
• 40:34
  took
• 40:35
  their
• 40:35
  shoes
• 40:35
  off,
• 40:35
  I
• 40:35
  believe.
• 40:36
  Woman
• 40:36
  went
• 40:36
  to
• 40:36
  the
• 40:36
  hospital
• 40:37
  with
• 40:37
  a
• 40:37
  dancing
• 40:37
  injury.
• 40:38
  Like,
• 40:39
  people
• 40:39
  went
• 40:39
  nuts.
• 40:40
  And
• 40:40
  it
• 40:40
  was
• 40:40
  so
• 40:40
  good
• 40:41
  and
• 40:41
  such
• 40:41
  a
• 40:41
  release
• 40:42
  because
• 40:42
  it
• 40:42
  was
• 40:43
  joy.
• 40:44
  You
• 40:44
  cannot
• 40:44
  have
• 40:45
  activism.
• 40:45
  You
• 40:46
  cannot
• 40:46
  have
• 40:46
  a
• 40:46
  career.
• 40:47
  You
• 40:47
  cannot
• 40:47
  have
• 40:47
  a
• 40:47
  personal
• 40:48
  life
• 40:48
  without
• 40:48
  joy.
• 40:49
  It
• 40:49
  is
• 40:49
  such
• 40:49
  an
• 40:49
  important
• 40:50
  part
• 40:50
  of
• 40:50
  all
• 40:50
  of
• 40:51
  it.
• 40:51
  And
• 40:51
  so
• 40:52
  if
• 40:52
  we
• 40:52
  are
• 40:52
  not
• 40:52
  seeking
• 40:53
  out
• 40:53
  the
• 40:53
  joy
• 40:53
  in
• 40:53
  our
• 40:54
  lives,
• 40:54
  if
• 40:54
  we
• 40:54
  feel
• 40:54
  joyless,
• 40:55
  I
• 40:55
  think
• 40:55
  that's
• 40:56
  a
• 40:56
  really
• 40:56
  good
• 40:56
  place
• 40:56
  to
• 40:57
  start
• 40:57
  with
• 40:57
  self
• 40:57
  care.
• 40:58
  What
• 40:58
  brings
• 40:58
  you
• 40:58
  joy?
• 40:59
  That's
• 40:59
  a
• 40:59
  good
• 40:59
  point.
• 41:00
  That's
• 41:00
  a
• 41:00
  good
• 41:00
  point.
• 41:00
  I
• 41:00
  think
• 41:00
  there's
• 41:01
  a
• 41:01
  lot
• 41:01
  of
• 41:01
  guilt,
• 41:01
  too,
• 41:01
  with
• 41:02
  women.
• 41:02
  Guilt
• 41:02
  and
• 41:02
  shame.
• 41:03
  Guilt
• 41:03
  and
• 41:03
  shame.
• 41:04
  I
• 41:04
  can't
• 41:04
  let.
• 41:04
  I
• 41:05
  can't
• 41:05
  be
• 41:05
  joyous.
• 41:05
  I
• 41:06
  have
• 41:06
  to,
• 41:06
  you
• 41:06
  know,
• 41:06
  be
• 41:07
  serious.
• 41:07
  I
• 41:07
  can't
• 41:07
  allow
• 41:08
  myself
• 41:08
  to
• 41:08
  have
• 41:09
  it.
• 41:09
  Like
• 41:09
  what?
• 41:09
  Like,
• 41:10
  how
• 41:10
  do
• 41:10
  we
• 41:10
  let
• 41:10
  go
• 41:11
  of
• 41:11
  that,
• 41:11
  you
• 41:12
  know?
• 41:12
  And
• 41:12
  that's
• 41:13
  really
• 41:13
  what
• 41:13
  this
• 41:13
  is
• 41:13
  about,
• 41:14
  right?
• 41:14
  What
• 41:14
  are
• 41:14
  the
• 41:14
  things
• 41:14
  that
• 41:15
  are
• 41:15
  triggering
• 41:15
  you
• 41:15
  and
• 41:15
  Maybe
• 41:16
  you're
• 41:16
  behaving
• 41:16
  in
• 41:16
  the
• 41:17
  ways
• 41:17
  I
• 41:17
  talked
• 41:17
  to
• 41:17
  you
• 41:18
  earlier
• 41:18
  about
• 41:18
  the
• 41:18
  extinguishers.
• 41:20
  Sometimes
• 41:21
  we
• 41:21
  do
• 41:21
  those
• 41:21
  things
• 41:21
  to
• 41:21
  ourselves
• 41:22
  and
• 41:22
  we
• 41:22
  don't
• 41:22
  even
• 41:22
  know.
• 41:23
  You
• 41:23
  know,
• 41:23
  I
• 41:23
  talked
• 41:24
  to
• 41:24
  a
• 41:24
  woman
• 41:24
  in
• 41:24
  the
• 41:24
  book
• 41:25
  who
• 41:26
  constantly
• 41:26
  was
• 41:26
  self
• 41:27
  sabotaging.
• 41:27
  Every
• 41:28
  time
• 41:28
  she
• 41:28
  started
• 41:28
  a
• 41:28
  new
• 41:28
  career,
• 41:29
  she
• 41:29
  would
• 41:29
  find
• 41:30
  a
• 41:30
  way
• 41:30
  to
• 41:30
  sabotage.
• 41:31
  She
• 41:31
  even
• 41:31
  became
• 41:31
  a
• 41:31
  bike
• 41:32
  racer
• 41:32
  and
• 41:32
  realized
• 41:33
  she
• 41:33
  was
• 41:33
  slowing
• 41:33
  down
• 41:33
  and
• 41:33
  letting
• 41:34
  other
• 41:34
  people
• 41:34
  win.
• 41:34
  Oh,
• 41:35
  my
• 41:35
  gosh.
• 41:35
  And
• 41:36
  I
• 41:36
  think
• 41:36
  sometimes
• 41:37
  we
• 41:37
  do
• 41:37
  these
• 41:37
  things
• 41:38
  subconsciously
• 41:39
  because
• 41:39
  we
• 41:39
  don't
• 41:40
  want
• 41:40
  to
• 41:40
  feel
• 41:40
  guilt
• 41:40
  and
• 41:40
  shame.
• 41:41
  And
• 41:41
  so
• 41:41
  we
• 41:41
  have
• 41:41
  to
• 41:42
  recognize
• 41:42
  that
• 41:42
  we
• 41:43
  are
• 41:43
  feeling
• 41:43
  it
• 41:43
  that
• 41:43
  is
• 41:44
  making
• 41:44
  us
• 41:44
  act
• 41:44
  a
• 41:45
  certain
• 41:45
  way
• 41:46
  and
• 41:46
  then
• 41:46
  kind
• 41:47
  of
• 41:48
  journal
• 41:48
  about
• 41:48
  it,
• 41:49
  recognize
• 41:49
  it,
• 41:50
  capture
• 41:50
  it,
• 41:50
  think
• 41:51
  about
• 41:51
  it,
• 41:51
  ask
• 41:51
  other
• 41:52
  people
• 41:52
  who
• 41:52
  see
• 41:52
  it
• 41:52
  in
• 41:52
  us.
• 41:53
  Right.
• 41:53
  That's
• 41:53
  where
• 41:53
  the
• 41:53
  bonfire
• 41:54
  is
• 41:54
  so
• 41:54
  helpful.
• 41:55
  It's
• 41:55
  a
• 41:56
  process.
• 41:56
  You
• 41:57
  have
• 41:57
  to
• 41:57
  let
• 41:57
  it
• 41:57
  kind
• 41:58
  of
• 41:58
  pass
• 41:58
  through
• 41:58
  you
• 41:59
  because
• 41:59
  I
• 41:59
  feel
• 42:00
  like
• 42:00
  that's
• 42:00
  another
• 42:00
  thing.
• 42:00
  People
• 42:01
  kind
• 42:01
  of
• 42:01
  put
• 42:01
  up
• 42:01
  these
• 42:01
  roadblocks
• 42:02
  and
• 42:02
  it's
• 42:02
  like,
• 42:03
  I
• 42:03
  can't
• 42:03
  feel
• 42:03
  this.
• 42:04
  I
• 42:04
  can't
• 42:04
  feel.
• 42:04
  It's
• 42:04
  just
• 42:05
  like.
• 42:05
  Just
• 42:05
  let
• 42:05
  the
• 42:05
  feeling
• 42:06
  go
• 42:06
  through
• 42:06
  you,
• 42:07
  you
• 42:07
  know,
• 42:08
  so
• 42:08
  it's
• 42:08
  interesting.
• 42:09
  I
• 42:09
  want
• 42:09
  to
• 42:09
  know
• 42:10
  what
• 42:10
  you
• 42:10
  think
• 42:10
  about
• 42:10
  legacy
• 42:12
  and
• 42:12
  what
• 42:12
  do
• 42:12
  you
• 42:13
  want
• 42:13
  your
• 42:13
  legacy
• 42:13
  to
• 42:14
  be?
• 42:15
  You
• 42:15
  know,
• 42:16
  as
• 42:16
  we
• 42:16
  were
• 42:16
  saying,
• 42:16
  this
• 42:17
  idea
• 42:17
  of
• 42:17
  it's
• 42:18
  just
• 42:18
  something
• 42:19
  that
• 42:19
  means
• 42:19
  you
• 42:20
  lived
• 42:20
  a
• 42:20
  life
• 42:20
  authentic
• 42:21
  to
• 42:21
  you.
• 42:21
  In
• 42:21
  fact,
• 42:22
  the
• 42:22
  number
• 42:22
  one
• 42:22
  deathbed
• 42:23
  regret
• 42:23
  in
• 42:24
  the
• 42:24
  world
• 42:24
  is
• 42:24
  that
• 42:25
  I
• 42:25
  did
• 42:25
  not
• 42:25
  live
• 42:25
  authentically.
• 42:26
  And
• 42:27
  what's
• 42:27
  interesting
• 42:27
  is
• 42:27
  when
• 42:28
  I
• 42:28
  wrote
• 42:28
  this
• 42:28
  book,
• 42:28
  I
• 42:29
  interviewed,
• 42:29
  as
• 42:29
  I
• 42:29
  said,
• 42:29
  Over
• 42:30
  70
• 42:30
  women.
• 42:31
  Guess
• 42:32
  what?
• 42:32
  They
• 42:32
  told
• 42:32
  me?
• 42:33
  And
• 42:33
  most
• 42:33
  of
• 42:33
  them
• 42:33
  were
• 42:33
  moms.
• 42:34
  Guess
• 42:34
  what?
• 42:34
  When
• 42:34
  I
• 42:34
  asked
• 42:35
  them,
• 42:35
  what
• 42:35
  are
• 42:35
  you
• 42:35
  afraid
• 42:35
  your
• 42:35
  deathbed
• 42:36
  regret
• 42:36
  will
• 42:36
  be?
• 42:36
  What
• 42:37
  do
• 42:37
  you
• 42:37
  think
• 42:37
  they
• 42:37
  said?
• 42:37
  Not
• 42:38
  spending
• 42:38
  enough
• 42:38
  time
• 42:38
  with
• 42:38
  their
• 42:39
  kids.
• 42:39
  Is
• 42:39
  that
• 42:40
  it
• 42:41
  for
• 42:41
  spending
• 42:42
  too
• 42:42
  much
• 42:42
  time
• 42:42
  with
• 42:42
  their
• 42:42
  kids?
• 42:43
  Yeah,
• 42:44
  that's
• 42:44
  our
• 42:44
  current
• 42:44
  regret.
• 42:46
  Their
• 42:46
  deathbed
• 42:46
  regret
• 42:47
  was
• 42:47
  that
• 42:47
  they
• 42:47
  would
• 42:47
  spend
• 42:48
  too
• 42:48
  much
• 42:48
  time
• 42:48
  pursuing
• 42:49
  what
• 42:49
  they
• 42:49
  wanted
• 42:49
  at
• 42:49
  the
• 42:50
  expense
• 42:50
  of
• 42:50
  their
• 42:50
  children.
• 42:52
  Wow.
• 42:52
  Right?
• 42:53
  Wow.
• 42:53
  And
• 42:54
  I
• 42:54
  interview
• 42:54
  psychologists
• 42:55
  and
• 42:55
  experts
• 42:56
  and
• 42:56
  they
• 42:56
  all
• 42:56
  say
• 42:56
  the
• 42:57
  same
• 42:57
  thing.
• 42:58
  One,
• 42:58
  your
• 42:58
  kids
• 42:59
  want
• 42:59
  you
• 42:59
  to
• 42:59
  have
• 42:59
  other
• 42:59
  things
• 43:00
  in
• 43:00
  your
• 43:00
  life
• 43:00
  besides
• 43:00
  just
• 43:01
  them.
• 43:01
  It's
• 43:01
  healthier.
• 43:02
  Two,
• 43:03
  you're
• 43:03
  setting
• 43:04
  an
• 43:04
  example
• 43:04
  for
• 43:04
  your
• 43:04
  kids
• 43:05
  that
• 43:05
  they
• 43:05
  can
• 43:05
  pursue
• 43:06
  what
• 43:06
  they
• 43:06
  want
• 43:06
  when
• 43:07
  they
• 43:07
  are
• 43:07
  adults.
• 43:08
  And
• 43:08
  so
• 43:09
  we
• 43:09
  need
• 43:09
  to
• 43:09
  make
• 43:09
  sure
• 43:10
  that
• 43:10
  these
• 43:11
  obligations
• 43:11
  and
• 43:12
  these
• 43:12
  shoulds
• 43:13
  don't
• 43:14
  become
• 43:14
  so
• 43:14
  all
• 43:14
  consuming,
• 43:15
  including
• 43:15
  parenting.
• 43:17
  And
• 43:18
  when
• 43:18
  you
• 43:18
  want
• 43:19
  to
• 43:20
  make
• 43:20
  sure
• 43:20
  that
• 43:20
  you're
• 43:20
  leaving
• 43:21
  a
• 43:21
  legacy,
• 43:22
  it
• 43:22
  is
• 43:22
  not
• 43:22
  too
• 43:22
  late
• 43:23
  to
• 43:23
  start
• 43:23
  pursuing
• 43:23
  what
• 43:23
  you
• 43:24
  want.
• 43:24
  You
• 43:24
  shouldn't
• 43:25
  consider
• 43:26
  parenting
• 43:26
  to
• 43:27
  be
• 43:27
  a
• 43:27
  block
• 43:28
  to
• 43:28
  that.
• 43:29
  In
• 43:30
  terms
• 43:30
  of
• 43:30
  my
• 43:30
  legacy,
• 43:31
  you
• 43:31
  Know,
• 43:31
  if
• 43:31
  I
• 43:31
  have
• 43:32
  encouraged
• 43:32
  women
• 43:32
  to
• 43:32
  run
• 43:33
  for
• 43:33
  office,
• 43:33
  if
• 43:33
  I
• 43:33
  have
• 43:33
  encouraged
• 43:34
  women
• 43:34
  to
• 43:34
  live
• 43:35
  their
• 43:35
  lives
• 43:35
  and
• 43:35
  burn
• 43:36
  until
• 43:36
  the
• 43:36
  very
• 43:36
  end,
• 43:37
  that
• 43:37
  will
• 43:37
  certainly
• 43:38
  be
• 43:38
  enough
• 43:38
  for
• 43:38
  me.
• 43:39
  You
• 43:39
  know,
• 43:39
  I
• 43:39
  get
• 43:39
  asked
• 43:39
  a
• 43:40
  lot,
• 43:40
  do
• 43:40
  you
• 43:40
  plan
• 43:40
  to
• 43:41
  run
• 43:41
  for
• 43:41
  office?
• 43:42
  I
• 43:42
  actually
• 43:42
  just
• 43:43
  moved
• 43:43
  from
• 43:43
  California
• 43:44
  to
• 43:44
  Florida.
• 43:44
  Oh,
• 43:45
  you
• 43:45
  did?
• 43:46
  I
• 43:46
  love
• 43:46
  being
• 43:46
  a
• 43:46
  blue
• 43:47
  dot
• 43:47
  in
• 43:47
  a
• 43:47
  red
• 43:47
  state.
• 43:48
  This
• 43:48
  is
• 43:48
  the
• 43:48
  tenth
• 43:49
  state
• 43:49
  I've
• 43:49
  lived
• 43:49
  in.
• 43:49
  Okay.
• 43:50
  And
• 43:51
  there's
• 43:51
  just
• 43:51
  something
• 43:52
  to
• 43:52
  me,
• 43:53
  really
• 43:53
  empowering
• 43:54
  about
• 43:54
  being
• 43:54
  the
• 43:54
  underdog.
• 43:55
  Will
• 43:56
  I
• 43:56
  run
• 43:56
  for
• 43:56
  office?
• 43:56
  I
• 43:57
  never
• 43:57
  say
• 43:57
  never
• 43:57
  because
• 43:58
  that
• 43:58
  would
• 43:59
  set
• 43:59
  a
• 43:59
  bad
• 43:59
  example
• 44:00
  for
• 44:00
  other
• 44:00
  women.
• 44:00
  I
• 44:01
  don't
• 44:01
  know.
• 44:02
  Like
• 44:02
  I
• 44:02
  said,
• 44:03
  I
• 44:03
  feel
• 44:03
  like
• 44:03
  at
• 44:03
  54,
• 44:04
  I'm
• 44:04
  just
• 44:04
  getting
• 44:04
  started.
• 44:05
  That's
• 44:05
  amazing.
• 44:06
  Okay,
• 44:06
  what
• 44:07
  would,
• 44:07
  if
• 44:07
  you
• 44:07
  had
• 44:07
  to
• 44:08
  pick
• 44:08
  the
• 44:08
  office,
• 44:08
  what
• 44:09
  do
• 44:09
  you
• 44:09
  think
• 44:09
  you
• 44:09
  would
• 44:10
  pick?
• 44:11
  You
• 44:12
  know,
• 44:12
  Congress
• 44:12
  feels
• 44:13
  very
• 44:13
  broken
• 44:14
  to
• 44:14
  me
• 44:14
  right
• 44:14
  now
• 44:15
  and
• 44:16
  on
• 44:16
  both
• 44:16
  sides
• 44:17
  of
• 44:17
  the
• 44:17
  aisle,
• 44:17
  I
• 44:17
  see
• 44:17
  a
• 44:17
  lot
• 44:18
  of
• 44:18
  performative
• 44:19
  legislating.
• 44:20
  It's
• 44:20
  almost
• 44:21
  like
• 44:21
  you
• 44:21
  have
• 44:21
  to
• 44:21
  be
• 44:21
  an
• 44:21
  influencer
• 44:22
  instead
• 44:22
  of
• 44:22
  a
• 44:22
  lawmaker.
• 44:23
  I
• 44:24
  think
• 44:24
  a
• 44:24
  lot
• 44:24
  gets
• 44:24
  done
• 44:24
  in
• 44:24
  the
• 44:25
  state
• 44:25
  houses
• 44:25
  in
• 44:25
  this
• 44:25
  country,
• 44:27
  so
• 44:28
  I
• 44:28
  don't
• 44:28
  know,
• 44:28
  maybe
• 44:29
  that's
• 44:29
  where
• 44:29
  I
• 44:29
  would
• 44:29
  start.
• 44:30
  Nice.
• 44:30
  Nice.
• 44:31
  So
• 44:31
  if
• 44:31
  your
• 44:32
  25
• 44:32
  year
• 44:33
  old
• 44:33
  self
• 44:33
  was
• 44:33
  sitting
• 44:34
  next
• 44:34
  to
• 44:34
  you
• 44:34
  right
• 44:34
  now,
• 44:35
  what
• 44:35
  would
• 44:35
  she
• 44:36
  say
• 44:36
  about
• 44:36
  you
• 44:36
  and
• 44:36
  what
• 44:37
  would
• 44:37
  you
• 44:37
  say
• 44:37
  to
• 44:37
  her?
• 44:39
  She
• 44:40
  would
• 44:40
  say,
• 44:40
  wow,
• 44:40
  I
• 44:40
  can't
• 44:41
  believe
• 44:41
  someone
• 44:41
  who
• 44:41
  barely
• 44:42
  graduated
• 44:42
  from
• 44:42
  high
• 44:42
  school
• 44:43
  and
• 44:43
  college
• 44:43
  thanks
• 44:43
  to
• 44:44
  ADHD
• 44:44
  is,
• 44:45
  you
• 44:45
  know,
• 44:45
  now
• 44:45
  one
• 44:45
  of
• 44:45
  the
• 44:46
  times
• 44:46
  100
• 44:47
  most
• 44:47
  powerful
• 44:47
  people.
• 44:49
  You
• 44:49
  know,
• 44:49
  I,
• 44:50
  I
• 44:51
  really
• 44:51
  made
• 44:51
  a
• 44:52
  lot
• 44:52
  of
• 44:52
  mistakes
• 44:53
  and
• 44:54
  I
• 44:54
  think
• 44:55
  that's
• 44:55
  normal.
• 44:55
  Right.
• 44:56
  I
• 44:56
  married
• 44:57
  too
• 44:57
  young.
• 44:58
  I
• 44:58
  had
• 44:58
  kids
• 44:58
  very
• 44:59
  young.
• 45:00
  And
• 45:01
  it
• 45:01
  really
• 45:01
  took
• 45:01
  me
• 45:02
  a
• 45:02
  long
• 45:02
  time
• 45:02
  to
• 45:02
  figure
• 45:02
  out
• 45:02
  who
• 45:03
  I
• 45:03
  was
• 45:03
  and
• 45:03
  what
• 45:03
  I
• 45:04
  wanted
• 45:04
  and,
• 45:04
  you
• 45:04
  know,
• 45:05
  the
• 45:05
  values,
• 45:05
  abilities
• 45:06
  and
• 45:06
  desires
• 45:06
  that
• 45:06
  I
• 45:07
  had
• 45:07
  to
• 45:07
  bring
• 45:07
  to
• 45:07
  the
• 45:07
  table.
• 45:08
  But
• 45:09
  I'm
• 45:10
  proud
• 45:10
  of
• 45:10
  the
• 45:10
  way
• 45:10
  it
• 45:11
  turned
• 45:11
  out.
• 45:11
  And
• 45:13
  you
• 45:13
  know,
• 45:13
  I
• 45:13
  think
• 45:15
  a
• 45:16
  lot
• 45:16
  of
• 45:17
  women
• 45:17
  who
• 45:18
  are
• 45:18
  young
• 45:18
  end
• 45:18
  up
• 45:18
  going
• 45:19
  down
• 45:19
  paths
• 45:20
  that
• 45:20
  aren't
• 45:20
  necessarily
• 45:21
  what
• 45:21
  they
• 45:21
  really
• 45:21
  want
• 45:22
  because
• 45:22
  of
• 45:22
  pressure
• 45:23
  from
• 45:23
  society
• 45:23
  or
• 45:24
  family
• 45:24
  or
• 45:24
  friends.
• 45:25
  I
• 45:25
  speak
• 45:25
  to
• 45:25
  a
• 45:25
  lot
• 45:25
  of
• 45:26
  women
• 45:26
  and
• 45:26
  it's
• 45:26
  interesting.
• 45:26
  A
• 45:27
  lot
• 45:27
  of
• 45:27
  women
• 45:27
  who
• 45:27
  are
• 45:27
  immigrants
• 45:28
  or
• 45:28
  the
• 45:28
  daughter
• 45:28
  of
• 45:29
  immigrants
• 45:29
  feel
• 45:30
  a
• 45:30
  lot
• 45:30
  of
• 45:30
  pressure
• 45:30
  to
• 45:30
  be
• 45:31
  a
• 45:31
  doctor,
• 45:31
  an
• 45:31
  engineer.
• 45:32
  Right
• 45:32
  here.
• 45:33
  Yep.
• 45:34
  And
• 45:35
  that's
• 45:35
  not
• 45:35
  what
• 45:35
  they
• 45:35
  want.
• 45:36
  And
• 45:36
  they
• 45:36
  spend
• 45:36
  so
• 45:36
  much
• 45:37
  time
• 45:37
  going
• 45:37
  after
• 45:38
  that
• 45:38
  only
• 45:38
  to
• 45:39
  realize
• 45:39
  they
• 45:39
  went
• 45:39
  down
• 45:40
  the
• 45:40
  wrong
• 45:40
  path
• 45:40
  for
• 45:40
  a
• 45:40
  long
• 45:41
  time.
• 45:41
  So
• 45:41
  I
• 45:42
  would
• 45:42
  love
• 45:42
  to.
• 45:42
  To
• 45:42
  prevent
• 45:43
  other
• 45:43
  women
• 45:43
  from,
• 45:43
  from
• 45:44
  doing
• 45:44
  the
• 45:44
  same.
• 45:45
  Yeah.
• 45:45
  And
• 45:45
  really
• 45:45
  follow
• 45:46
  their
• 45:46
  heart.
• 45:46
  Right.
• 45:47
  Like
• 45:47
  the
• 45:47
  fire
• 45:47
  that's
• 45:48
  in
• 45:48
  them,
• 45:48
  you
• 45:49
  know.
• 45:50
  Do
• 45:50
  you
• 45:50
  have
• 45:50
  any
• 45:51
  regrets?
• 45:51
  Is
• 45:51
  there
• 45:52
  anything
• 45:52
  you
• 45:52
  take
• 45:52
  back?
• 45:54
  I,
• 45:55
  you
• 45:55
  know,
• 45:55
  when
• 45:56
  you
• 45:56
  look
• 45:56
  at
• 45:56
  your
• 45:56
  life
• 45:56
  and
• 45:56
  the
• 45:57
  way
• 45:57
  it
• 45:57
  unfolded,
• 45:57
  some
• 45:57
  of
• 45:58
  it
• 45:58
  just
• 45:58
  seems
• 45:58
  like
• 45:58
  I
• 45:58
  had
• 45:59
  to
• 45:59
  go
• 45:59
  through
• 45:59
  that
• 45:59
  fire
• 45:59
  in
• 46:00
  order
• 46:00
  to
• 46:00
  kind
• 46:00
  of
• 46:00
  get
• 46:01
  to
• 46:01
  where
• 46:01
  I
• 46:01
  am.
• 46:03
  So
• 46:03
  I
• 46:04
  don't
• 46:04
  think
• 46:04
  I
• 46:05
  have
• 46:05
  any
• 46:05
  regrets,
• 46:06
  except
• 46:07
  that,
• 46:07
  you
• 46:08
  know,
• 46:08
  maybe
• 46:09
  I
• 46:09
  should
• 46:09
  have
• 46:09
  waited
• 46:09
  to
• 46:09
  marry
• 46:10
  until
• 46:10
  my
• 46:10
  brain
• 46:10
  was
• 46:10
  fully
• 46:11
  developed.
• 46:12
  But
• 46:12
  I'm
• 46:12
  so
• 46:12
  grateful
• 46:13
  for
• 46:13
  the
• 46:13
  kids
• 46:13
  that
• 46:13
  I
• 46:13
  have.
• 46:14
  Yeah,
• 46:14
  that's
• 46:14
  true.
• 46:15
  It
• 46:15
  is.
• 46:15
  You
• 46:15
  know,
• 46:15
  sometimes
• 46:16
  I
• 46:16
  look
• 46:16
  back
• 46:16
  and
• 46:16
  I'm
• 46:17
  like,
• 46:17
  should
• 46:17
  I
• 46:17
  have
• 46:17
  dated
• 46:18
  that
• 46:18
  guy
• 46:19
  in
• 46:20
  high
• 46:20
  school
• 46:20
  or
• 46:21
  college?
• 46:21
  I'm
• 46:22
  like,
• 46:23
  but
• 46:23
  maybe
• 46:24
  that
• 46:24
  helped
• 46:24
  you.
• 46:24
  That
• 46:24
  maybe
• 46:25
  it
• 46:26
  was
• 46:26
  a
• 46:26
  learning
• 46:27
  experience.
• 46:27
  Right.
• 46:29
  So
• 46:29
  how
• 46:30
  are
• 46:30
  you
• 46:31
  living
• 46:31
  iconically
• 46:32
  now?
• 46:32
  Or
• 46:33
  when
• 46:34
  was
• 46:34
  the
• 46:34
  last
• 46:34
  time
• 46:34
  you
• 46:34
  felt
• 46:35
  iconic?
• 46:36
  Oh,
• 46:38
  I
• 46:38
  made
• 46:38
  the
• 46:38
  bestseller
• 46:39
  list.
• 46:39
  Oh,
• 46:39
  yes.
• 46:40
  Yeah.
• 46:40
  I.
• 46:41
  I
• 46:42
  made
• 46:42
  the
• 46:42
  USA
• 46:42
  Today
• 46:43
  and
• 46:43
  New
• 46:43
  York
• 46:43
  Times
• 46:43
  bestseller
• 46:44
  list,
• 46:44
  and
• 46:44
  it
• 46:44
  was
• 46:45
  hilarious
• 46:45
  because
• 46:46
  I
• 46:46
  don't
• 46:46
  think
• 46:46
  any
• 46:47
  of
• 46:47
  us
• 46:47
  really
• 46:47
  thought
• 46:47
  I
• 46:47
  would.
• 46:48
  We
• 46:48
  hoped.
• 46:48
  But,
• 46:49
  you
• 46:49
  know,
• 46:49
  I
• 46:49
  have
• 46:49
  this
• 46:49
  amazing
• 46:50
  publicist,
• 46:50
  and
• 46:51
  I
• 46:51
  was
• 46:52
  going
• 46:53
  to
• 46:53
  get
• 46:53
  my
• 46:53
  hair
• 46:54
  blown
• 46:54
  out,
• 46:55
  and
• 46:55
  I
• 46:55
  was.
• 46:55
  Had
• 46:55
  my
• 46:56
  head
• 46:56
  in
• 46:56
  the
• 46:56
  washtub
• 46:57
  when
• 46:57
  I
• 46:57
  got
• 46:57
  the
• 46:57
  call
• 46:57
  that
• 46:57
  I'd
• 46:58
  made
• 46:58
  the
• 46:58
  New
• 46:58
  York
• 46:58
  Times
• 46:58
  bestseller
• 46:59
  list.
• 47:00
  And
• 47:00
  that
• 47:00
  felt
• 47:00
  pretty
• 47:01
  iconic.
• 47:02
  And
• 47:02
  then
• 47:02
  having
• 47:02
  your
• 47:03
  hair
• 47:03
  done
• 47:03
  on
• 47:03
  top
• 47:03
  of
• 47:03
  it,
• 47:04
  too.
• 47:04
  You're
• 47:04
  like,
• 47:04
  I
• 47:05
  can
• 47:05
  take
• 47:05
  on
• 47:05
  the
• 47:05
  world
• 47:05
  now.
• 47:07
  That
• 47:07
  is
• 47:08
  very
• 47:08
  iconic.
• 47:09
  Okay,
• 47:09
  so
• 47:10
  when
• 47:10
  we
• 47:10
  have
• 47:11
  our
• 47:11
  guests
• 47:11
  here,
• 47:11
  we
• 47:11
  always
• 47:11
  love
• 47:12
  to
• 47:12
  play
• 47:12
  a
• 47:12
  game.
• 47:12
  Okay.
• 47:13
  Okay.
• 47:14
  So
• 47:14
  today's
• 47:15
  game
• 47:15
  is
• 47:16
  called
• 47:17
  Fired
• 47:17
  up
• 47:18
  or
• 47:18
  Fed
• 47:18
  Up.
• 47:21
  So
• 47:21
  when
• 47:22
  I
• 47:22
  say
• 47:22
  the
• 47:23
  phrase,
• 47:23
  you
• 47:23
  say,
• 47:24
  you're
• 47:24
  either
• 47:24
  fired
• 47:25
  up.
• 47:25
  Like,
• 47:25
  hell,
• 47:25
  yes,
• 47:25
  you
• 47:26
  are
• 47:26
  in.
• 47:26
  Or
• 47:27
  fed
• 47:27
  up.
• 47:27
  Up.
• 47:27
  Totally
• 47:28
  over
• 47:28
  it.
• 47:29
  So
• 47:30
  Here
• 47:30
  we
• 47:30
  go.
• 47:32
  TikTok
• 47:33
  activism.
• 47:34
  Fired
• 47:35
  up.
• 47:35
  Okay.
• 47:36
  Okay.
• 47:36
  Is
• 47:36
  there
• 47:36
  anybody
• 47:37
  on
• 47:37
  TikTok
• 47:37
  right
• 47:37
  now
• 47:37
  that
• 47:38
  you're
• 47:38
  liking
• 47:39
  that
• 47:39
  you
• 47:39
  think?
• 47:40
  I
• 47:40
  always
• 47:40
  liked
• 47:40
  Olivia.
• 47:41
  Juliana.
• 47:41
  She's
• 47:41
  in
• 47:42
  my
• 47:42
  book,
• 47:42
  and
• 47:43
  she's.
• 47:43
  She's
• 47:44
  got
• 47:44
  a
• 47:44
  beautiful
• 47:44
  story
• 47:45
  in
• 47:45
  my
• 47:45
  book
• 47:45
  about
• 47:45
  how
• 47:45
  she
• 47:46
  overcame
• 47:46
  a
• 47:46
  lot
• 47:46
  of
• 47:47
  blowback.
• 47:47
  And
• 47:48
  I
• 47:48
  just.
• 47:48
  I
• 47:48
  think
• 47:48
  she's
• 47:49
  good.
• 47:49
  And
• 47:49
  she's
• 47:49
  in
• 47:49
  Texas.
• 47:50
  Oh,
• 47:50
  nice.
• 47:51
  That's
• 47:51
  my
• 47:51
  home
• 47:51
  state.
• 47:51
  We
• 47:52
  do
• 47:52
  love
• 47:52
  Texas.
• 47:54
  Okay.
• 47:55
  Women
• 47:55
  being
• 47:55
  called.
• 47:56
  Too
• 47:56
  emotional.
• 47:57
  Fed
• 47:57
  up.
• 47:58
  Yeah,
• 47:58
  fed
• 47:58
  up.
• 47:59
  Done
• 47:59
  with
• 47:59
  that.
• 48:00
  Right.
• 48:00
  I
• 48:00
  mean,
• 48:00
  let's
• 48:01
  look
• 48:01
  at
• 48:01
  the
• 48:01
  men
• 48:01
  in
• 48:01
  charge
• 48:01
  right
• 48:01
  now.
• 48:02
  Right?
• 48:03
  I
• 48:03
  know.
• 48:03
  Oh,
• 48:04
  my
• 48:04
  gosh.
• 48:04
  It's
• 48:04
  like
• 48:04
  a
• 48:04
  roller
• 48:04
  coaster,
• 48:05
  isn't
• 48:05
  it?
• 48:06
  The
• 48:06
  phrase
• 48:07
  having
• 48:07
  it
• 48:07
  all
• 48:08
  fired
• 48:09
  up.
• 48:09
  I
• 48:09
  still
• 48:09
  think
• 48:09
  you
• 48:10
  can.
• 48:10
  You
• 48:10
  do.
• 48:11
  I
• 48:11
  do.
• 48:11
  Okay.
• 48:12
  And
• 48:12
  maybe
• 48:12
  not
• 48:13
  all
• 48:13
  at
• 48:13
  once,
• 48:13
  but.
• 48:13
  During
• 48:14
  your
• 48:14
  life,
• 48:14
  let's
• 48:15
  say
• 48:15
  you're
• 48:15
  a
• 48:15
  working
• 48:15
  mom,
• 48:16
  you
• 48:16
  know,
• 48:16
  you've
• 48:16
  got
• 48:16
  all
• 48:17
  these
• 48:17
  different
• 48:17
  plates,
• 48:18
  you
• 48:18
  know,
• 48:18
  spinning.
• 48:19
  How
• 48:19
  do
• 48:19
  you
• 48:20
  do
• 48:20
  that?
• 48:20
  Like,
• 48:20
  how
• 48:21
  do
• 48:21
  you.
• 48:21
  Is
• 48:21
  it
• 48:21
  a
• 48:21
  balance
• 48:22
  always,
• 48:22
  or
• 48:22
  do
• 48:22
  you
• 48:22
  feel
• 48:23
  out
• 48:23
  of
• 48:23
  balance.
• 48:23
  I
• 48:23
  think
• 48:24
  it's
• 48:24
  a
• 48:24
  prioritization.
• 48:25
  Okay.
• 48:25
  You
• 48:25
  know,
• 48:25
  And
• 48:26
  I
• 48:26
  don't
• 48:26
  Not.
• 48:26
  I
• 48:27
  don't
• 48:27
  subscribe
• 48:27
  to
• 48:27
  lean
• 48:28
  in.
• 48:28
  I'm
• 48:28
  not
• 48:28
  talking
• 48:28
  about
• 48:29
  that.
• 48:29
  I
• 48:29
  think
• 48:29
  more
• 48:30
  of
• 48:30
  what
• 48:30
  I
• 48:30
  mean
• 48:30
  is,
• 48:31
  let's
• 48:31
  not
• 48:32
  limit
• 48:32
  women's
• 48:33
  aspirations,
• 48:33
  because
• 48:34
  when
• 48:34
  we
• 48:34
  do,
• 48:35
  they
• 48:35
  end
• 48:35
  up
• 48:36
  with
• 48:36
  all
• 48:36
  these
• 48:36
  obligations.
• 48:37
  Right.
• 48:38
  So
• 48:38
  they
• 48:38
  decide
• 48:38
  they
• 48:38
  can't
• 48:39
  have
• 48:39
  it
• 48:39
  all.
• 48:39
  What
• 48:39
  can
• 48:39
  they
• 48:39
  have?
• 48:39
  They
• 48:39
  can
• 48:40
  have
• 48:40
  all
• 48:40
  the
• 48:40
  shoulds
• 48:40
  that
• 48:41
  they've
• 48:41
  been
• 48:41
  told
• 48:41
  they
• 48:41
  should
• 48:41
  do.
• 48:42
  What
• 48:42
  I
• 48:42
  mean
• 48:43
  by
• 48:43
  having
• 48:43
  it
• 48:43
  all,
• 48:43
  I
• 48:44
  think,
• 48:44
  is
• 48:45
  the
• 48:45
  time
• 48:45
  and
• 48:45
  space
• 48:46
  to
• 48:46
  also
• 48:46
  pursue
• 48:47
  those
• 48:47
  things
• 48:47
  that
• 48:47
  really
• 48:48
  make
• 48:48
  you
• 48:48
  feel
• 48:48
  alive.
• 48:49
  Yeah.
• 48:49
  Very
• 48:49
  important,
• 48:50
  because
• 48:50
  then
• 48:51
  you're
• 48:51
  a
• 48:51
  better.
• 48:51
  You're
• 48:51
  better
• 48:52
  in
• 48:52
  every
• 48:52
  role
• 48:52
  in
• 48:52
  your
• 48:53
  life.
• 48:53
  Right.
• 48:54
  You
• 48:54
  can't
• 48:54
  have
• 48:54
  it
• 48:54
  all
• 48:55
  means.
• 48:55
  What
• 48:56
  does
• 48:56
  that
• 48:56
  mean?
• 48:56
  That
• 48:56
  you
• 48:56
  have
• 48:56
  to
• 48:57
  do
• 48:57
  the
• 48:57
  things
• 48:57
  that
• 48:57
  society
• 48:58
  expects
• 48:58
  you
• 48:58
  to
• 48:58
  do.
• 48:58
  Only.
• 48:59
  Do
• 48:59
  we
• 48:59
  ever
• 49:00
  ask,
• 49:00
  can
• 49:00
  men
• 49:00
  have
• 49:00
  it
• 49:00
  all?
• 49:01
  No,
• 49:01
  never.
• 49:02
  Because
• 49:02
  they
• 49:02
  have
• 49:02
  it
• 49:02
  all.
• 49:02
  They
• 49:02
  have
• 49:03
  it
• 49:03
  all.
• 49:03
  They
• 49:03
  do
• 49:03
  it
• 49:03
  all.
• 49:04
  They
• 49:04
  do
• 49:04
  whatever
• 49:04
  they
• 49:04
  want
• 49:05
  and
• 49:05
  they.
• 49:05
  Find
• 49:05
  people
• 49:05
  to
• 49:05
  help
• 49:06
  them
• 49:06
  do
• 49:06
  it.
• 49:06
  Yes.
• 49:07
  And
• 49:07
  they
• 49:07
  don't
• 49:07
  feel
• 49:07
  guilt
• 49:08
  about
• 49:08
  it.
• 49:08
  I'm
• 49:08
  fed
• 49:08
  up
• 49:09
  about
• 49:09
  the
• 49:09
  question.
• 49:09
  Yeah,
• 49:10
  me
• 49:10
  too.
• 49:10
  That's
• 49:10
  a
• 49:11
  good
• 49:11
  point.
• 49:11
  We
• 49:11
  don't
• 49:12
  like
• 49:12
  this
• 49:12
  question.
• 49:14
  Okay.
• 49:16
  The
• 49:16
  pta.
• 49:17
  Oh,
• 49:18
  fired
• 49:18
  up.
• 49:18
  Okay.
• 49:19
  Were
• 49:19
  you
• 49:19
  a
• 49:19
  member
• 49:19
  of
• 49:20
  the
• 49:20
  pta?
• 49:20
  Never.
• 49:21
  But
• 49:21
  I
• 49:21
  will
• 49:21
  tell
• 49:22
  you.
• 49:22
  Oh,
• 49:22
  this
• 49:22
  is
• 49:23
  so
• 49:23
  interesting
• 49:23
  you
• 49:23
  asked
• 49:23
  this,
• 49:24
  because
• 49:24
  I
• 49:24
  interview
• 49:25
  a
• 49:25
  woman
• 49:25
  in
• 49:25
  the
• 49:25
  book
• 49:26
  who
• 49:26
  became
• 49:26
  the
• 49:26
  first
• 49:27
  or
• 49:27
  maybe
• 49:28
  the
• 49:28
  second
• 49:28
  black
• 49:28
  woman
• 49:29
  ever
• 49:29
  to
• 49:30
  be
• 49:30
  in
• 49:30
  charge
• 49:30
  of
• 49:30
  the
• 49:30
  pta.
• 49:31
  She
• 49:31
  didn't
• 49:32
  even.
• 49:33
  I
• 49:33
  don't
• 49:33
  think
• 49:33
  she
• 49:33
  graduated
• 49:33
  from
• 49:34
  high
• 49:34
  school,
• 49:34
  and
• 49:34
  she
• 49:34
  definitely
• 49:35
  didn't
• 49:35
  go
• 49:35
  to
• 49:35
  college,
• 49:36
  but
• 49:36
  she
• 49:36
  worked
• 49:36
  her
• 49:36
  way
• 49:36
  up
• 49:36
  through
• 49:37
  the
• 49:37
  school
• 49:37
  system
• 49:37
  because
• 49:38
  her
• 49:38
  kid
• 49:38
  had
• 49:38
  learning
• 49:39
  disability,
• 49:40
  and
• 49:40
  she
• 49:40
  became
• 49:40
  such
• 49:41
  a
• 49:41
  force
• 49:41
  of
• 49:41
  nature
• 49:42
  that
• 49:42
  she
• 49:42
  was
• 49:42
  put
• 49:43
  on
• 49:43
  the
• 49:43
  pta.
• 49:44
  The
• 49:44
  national
• 49:44
  pta.
• 49:45
  Wow,
• 49:45
  that's
• 49:46
  amazing.
• 49:46
  So
• 49:47
  fired
• 49:47
  up
• 49:47
  about
• 49:47
  the
• 49:47
  pta.
• 49:48
  Yeah.
• 49:48
  Into
• 49:49
  it.
• 49:49
  Into
• 49:49
  it.
• 49:50
  Congress.
• 49:51
  Fed
• 49:52
  up.
• 49:53
  Fed
• 49:53
  up.
• 49:54
  If
• 49:54
  you
• 49:54
  could
• 49:54
  change
• 49:55
  anything
• 49:55
  about
• 49:55
  Congress,
• 49:56
  what
• 49:56
  would
• 49:56
  you
• 49:56
  do?
• 49:56
  I
• 49:57
  would
• 49:57
  make
• 49:57
  it
• 49:57
  all
• 49:58
  women.
• 49:59
  Maybe
• 49:59
  one
• 49:59
  man.
• 49:59
  Yeah.
• 50:00
  Yeah.
• 50:00
  He
• 50:00
  could
• 50:00
  have
• 50:01
  one
• 50:01
  man.
• 50:01
  Just
• 50:01
  the
• 50:01
  token
• 50:02
  man,
• 50:02
  you
• 50:02
  know?
• 50:02
  Yeah,
• 50:03
  for
• 50:03
  sure.
• 50:03
  For
• 50:04
  sure.
• 50:04
  I
• 50:04
  know.
• 50:04
  I
• 50:04
  feel
• 50:04
  like
• 50:05
  we
• 50:05
  get
• 50:05
  a
• 50:05
  lot
• 50:05
  more
• 50:05
  done,
• 50:06
  so.
• 50:06
  Right.
• 50:07
  We
• 50:07
  need.
• 50:07
  We
• 50:07
  need
• 50:07
  all
• 50:08
  Lauren
• 50:08
  Underwoods
• 50:09
  from
• 50:09
  Illinois.
• 50:09
  Right.
• 50:10
  Absolutely.
• 50:11
  Perimenopause.
• 50:13
  I
• 50:13
  mean,
• 50:13
  fired
• 50:14
  up
• 50:15
  about
• 50:16
  talking
• 50:16
  about
• 50:16
  it.
• 50:16
  Fed
• 50:16
  up
• 50:17
  with
• 50:17
  the
• 50:17
  symptoms.
• 50:17
  Right.
• 50:18
  Well,
• 50:18
  the
• 50:18
  last
• 50:19
  time
• 50:19
  we
• 50:19
  chatted,
• 50:19
  you
• 50:19
  were
• 50:20
  doing
• 50:20
  hrt.
• 50:20
  Yes.
• 50:21
  How
• 50:21
  do
• 50:21
  you
• 50:21
  feel
• 50:21
  about
• 50:21
  that?
• 50:22
  Oh,
• 50:22
  my
• 50:22
  gosh.
• 50:22
  I
• 50:22
  mean,
• 50:23
  it
• 50:23
  is.
• 50:23
  Was
• 50:24
  a
• 50:24
  life
• 50:24
  changer.
• 50:24
  I've
• 50:25
  been
• 50:25
  on
• 50:25
  it
• 50:25
  now
• 50:25
  for
• 50:25
  maybe
• 50:25
  five
• 50:26
  years
• 50:26
  also.
• 50:27
  I
• 50:27
  just
• 50:27
  had
• 50:27
  A
• 50:27
  DEXA
• 50:28
  scan.
• 50:28
  I
• 50:29
  have
• 50:29
  the
• 50:29
  bones
• 50:29
  of
• 50:30
  a
• 50:30
  20
• 50:30
  year
• 50:30
  old
• 50:30
  and
• 50:30
  I
• 50:31
  think
• 50:31
  it's
• 50:31
  because
• 50:31
  of
• 50:31
  HRT.
• 50:32
  I
• 50:32
  have
• 50:32
  no
• 50:32
  bone
• 50:32
  loss
• 50:33
  whatsoever.
• 50:34
  And
• 50:35
  all
• 50:35
  the
• 50:35
  fog
• 50:35
  of
• 50:36
  perimenopause
• 50:36
  is
• 50:36
  gone.
• 50:38
  I
• 50:38
  do
• 50:38
  hrt,
• 50:39
  including
• 50:39
  testosterone,
• 50:40
  so
• 50:40
  I
• 50:40
  do
• 50:40
  a
• 50:41
  little
• 50:41
  bit
• 50:41
  of
• 50:41
  testosterone
• 50:42
  every
• 50:42
  day.
• 50:43
  My
• 50:43
  sleep
• 50:43
  is
• 50:43
  better.
• 50:44
  I
• 50:44
  have
• 50:44
  ton
• 50:44
  of
• 50:45
  energy.
• 50:45
  I'm
• 50:45
  building
• 50:46
  muscle
• 50:46
  mass
• 50:47
  fired
• 50:47
  up.
• 50:48
  Nice.
• 50:48
  Did
• 50:48
  it
• 50:49
  take
• 50:49
  a
• 50:49
  while
• 50:49
  to
• 50:49
  get
• 50:49
  the
• 50:49
  right
• 50:50
  dosage
• 50:50
  down
• 50:51
  or
• 50:51
  was
• 50:51
  it
• 50:51
  pretty?
• 50:52
  It
• 50:53
  Even
• 50:53
  from
• 50:53
  the
• 50:53
  very
• 50:53
  beginning,
• 50:54
  I
• 50:54
  felt
• 50:54
  better,
• 50:54
  but
• 50:54
  we've
• 50:55
  tweaked
• 50:55
  it
• 50:55
  along
• 50:55
  the
• 50:56
  way.
• 50:56
  What
• 50:56
  I'm
• 50:56
  fed
• 50:57
  up
• 50:57
  about
• 50:57
  is
• 50:57
  it's
• 50:57
  not
• 50:58
  easily
• 50:58
  accessible
• 50:58
  or
• 50:59
  very
• 50:59
  affordable.
• 50:59
  Right.
• 51:00
  It's
• 51:00
  expensive,
• 51:01
  isn't
• 51:01
  it?
• 51:01
  Yes.
• 51:02
  So
• 51:02
  how
• 51:02
  do
• 51:02
  we.
• 51:03
  We
• 51:03
  gotta
• 51:03
  change
• 51:03
  the
• 51:03
  laws
• 51:04
  again,
• 51:04
  right?
• 51:04
  I
• 51:05
  firmly
• 51:05
  believe
• 51:05
  we
• 51:06
  need
• 51:06
  an
• 51:06
  organization
• 51:07
  that
• 51:07
  organizes
• 51:08
  women
• 51:08
  around
• 51:09
  menopause
• 51:10
  because
• 51:10
  all
• 51:11
  this
• 51:11
  money
• 51:11
  that
• 51:11
  was
• 51:11
  allocated
• 51:12
  under
• 51:12
  Biden
• 51:12
  is
• 51:12
  being
• 51:13
  stripped
• 51:13
  out.
• 51:14
  And
• 51:14
  there
• 51:14
  was
• 51:14
  so
• 51:15
  much
• 51:15
  that
• 51:15
  was
• 51:15
  gonna
• 51:16
  go
• 51:16
  into
• 51:17
  perimenopause
• 51:17
  and
• 51:17
  menopausal
• 51:18
  research
• 51:18
  and
• 51:19
  care.
• 51:20
  And
• 51:20
  the
• 51:20
  fact
• 51:20
  that
• 51:21
  there's
• 51:21
  still
• 51:21
  black
• 51:21
  boxes
• 51:22
  on
• 51:22
  estrogen
• 51:23
  and
• 51:23
  women
• 51:24
  can't
• 51:24
  get
• 51:24
  testosterone,
• 51:25
  even
• 51:25
  though
• 51:25
  it's
• 51:25
  given.
• 51:25
  Like,
• 51:26
  I
• 51:26
  think
• 51:26
  when
• 51:26
  you
• 51:26
  turn
• 51:26
  60
• 51:26
  and
• 51:27
  you're
• 51:27
  a
• 51:27
  man,
• 51:27
  someone
• 51:27
  shows
• 51:27
  up
• 51:28
  at
• 51:28
  your
• 51:28
  door
• 51:28
  and
• 51:28
  just
• 51:28
  gives
• 51:28
  you
• 51:28
  a
• 51:28
  shot
• 51:29
  in
• 51:29
  the
• 51:29
  ass.
• 51:29
  Right?
• 51:30
  Just
• 51:30
  turn
• 51:30
  around
• 51:31
  and
• 51:31
  turn
• 51:31
  around.
• 51:31
  You
• 51:32
  need
• 51:32
  your
• 51:32
  testosterone,
• 51:32
  sir.
• 51:33
  Yeah.
• 51:33
  And
• 51:33
  yet
• 51:33
  women
• 51:34
  have
• 51:34
  to
• 51:34
  beg
• 51:34
  and
• 51:35
  fight
• 51:35
  for
• 51:36
  something
• 51:36
  that
• 51:37
  protects
• 51:37
  our
• 51:37
  heart
• 51:37
  and
• 51:37
  our
• 51:38
  brain
• 51:38
  and
• 51:38
  our
• 51:38
  bones.
• 51:39
  So
• 51:40
  I'm
• 51:40
  fed
• 51:40
  up
• 51:40
  with
• 51:41
  that.
• 51:41
  Yeah,
• 51:41
  that's
• 51:41
  a
• 51:42
  good
• 51:42
  point.
• 51:42
  We
• 51:42
  need
• 51:42
  to
• 51:42
  change
• 51:43
  that
• 51:43
  because
• 51:43
  that's
• 51:44
  bullshit.
• 51:45
  Gun
• 51:46
  reform
• 51:46
  in
• 51:46
  our
• 51:47
  lifetime.
• 51:49
  Look,
• 51:49
  we
• 51:50
  passed
• 51:50
  500
• 51:50
  good
• 51:50
  gun
• 51:51
  laws,
• 51:51
  including
• 51:51
  the
• 51:51
  first
• 51:51
  federal
• 51:52
  legislation.
• 51:53
  We
• 51:53
  elected
• 51:53
  thousands
• 51:54
  of
• 51:54
  gun
• 51:54
  sense
• 51:55
  candidates
• 51:55
  to
• 51:55
  office.
• 51:55
  We
• 51:56
  changed
• 51:57
  the
• 51:57
  culture.
• 51:57
  When
• 51:58
  I
• 51:58
  started
• 51:58
  Mom's
• 51:58
  Man
• 51:58
  Action,
• 51:59
  a
• 51:59
  quarter
• 51:59
  of
• 51:59
  all
• 51:59
  Democrats
• 52:00
  in
• 52:00
  Congress
• 52:00
  had
• 52:00
  an
• 52:00
  A
• 52:01
  rating
• 52:01
  from
• 52:01
  the
• 52:01
  NRA
• 52:01
  today.
• 52:02
  None
• 52:02
  do.
• 52:03
  So
• 52:03
  seismic
• 52:04
  shift
• 52:04
  in
• 52:04
  American
• 52:04
  politics.
• 52:05
  What
• 52:06
  we
• 52:06
  did
• 52:06
  not
• 52:06
  account
• 52:06
  for
• 52:07
  were
• 52:07
  all
• 52:07
  these
• 52:07
  extremist
• 52:08
  groups
• 52:08
  popping
• 52:08
  up
• 52:09
  in
• 52:09
  the
• 52:09
  wake
• 52:09
  of
• 52:09
  the
• 52:09
  NRA.
• 52:10
  Like,
• 52:10
  we
• 52:10
  definitely
• 52:11
  destroyed
• 52:12
  the
• 52:12
  NRA's
• 52:12
  power,
• 52:13
  but
• 52:15
  we
• 52:15
  are
• 52:15
  just
• 52:15
  in
• 52:15
  a
• 52:16
  moment
• 52:16
  of
• 52:16
  polarization
• 52:17
  and
• 52:17
  extremism.
• 52:18
  And
• 52:18
  I'm
• 52:19
  not
• 52:19
  sure
• 52:19
  which
• 52:20
  way
• 52:20
  we
• 52:20
  will
• 52:20
  go,
• 52:21
  but
• 52:22
  what
• 52:22
  I've
• 52:23
  seen
• 52:23
  is
• 52:23
  the
• 52:23
  blue
• 52:23
  states
• 52:23
  get
• 52:24
  bluer
• 52:24
  on
• 52:24
  guns
• 52:25
  and
• 52:25
  the
• 52:25
  red
• 52:25
  states
• 52:26
  get
• 52:26
  redder.
• 52:27
  So
• 52:27
  we'll
• 52:28
  see.
• 52:28
  But
• 52:29
  even
• 52:30
  regardless
• 52:30
  of
• 52:31
  whether
• 52:31
  this
• 52:31
  happens
• 52:31
  in
• 52:32
  my
• 52:32
  lifetime,
• 52:32
  we
• 52:32
  still
• 52:32
  have
• 52:32
  to
• 52:33
  keep
• 52:33
  fighting
• 52:33
  for
• 52:33
  it
• 52:33
  because
• 52:33
  it's
• 52:34
  the
• 52:34
  number
• 52:34
  one
• 52:34
  killer
• 52:34
  of
• 52:35
  kids.
• 52:36
  It's
• 52:36
  so
• 52:36
  terrible
• 52:36
  that
• 52:37
  it's
• 52:37
  still
• 52:38
  that
• 52:38
  way.
• 52:39
  Being
• 52:40
  underestimated,
• 52:42
  fed
• 52:42
  up.
• 52:43
  You
• 52:43
  know,
• 52:43
  I
• 52:44
  just
• 52:45
  I
• 52:45
  can't
• 52:45
  believe
• 52:45
  we're
• 52:46
  in
• 52:46
  2025
• 52:46
  still
• 52:47
  and
• 52:47
  fighting
• 52:47
  some
• 52:47
  of
• 52:48
  these
• 52:48
  battles
• 52:48
  where
• 52:49
  women
• 52:49
  are
• 52:49
  underestimated.
• 52:50
  But
• 52:50
  I
• 52:51
  do
• 52:51
  think
• 52:51
  we're
• 52:51
  making
• 52:51
  huge
• 52:51
  progress.
• 52:52
  We
• 52:52
  shouldn't
• 52:52
  lose
• 52:52
  sight
• 52:53
  of
• 52:53
  that,
• 52:53
  but
• 52:53
  we
• 52:53
  definitely
• 52:54
  aren't
• 52:54
  where
• 52:54
  we
• 52:54
  need
• 52:54
  to
• 52:54
  be.
• 52:55
  Yeah.
• 52:56
  Saying
• 52:57
  no
• 52:57
  without
• 52:58
  explaining,
• 52:59
  fired
• 52:59
  up.
• 52:59
  No
• 53:00
  is
• 53:00
  a
• 53:00
  full
• 53:00
  sentence.
• 53:01
  I
• 53:01
  don't
• 53:01
  know
• 53:01
  who
• 53:02
  said
• 53:02
  that,
• 53:02
  but
• 53:03
  it
• 53:03
  is
• 53:03
  true,
• 53:03
  you
• 53:04
  know,
• 53:04
  And
• 53:05
  I
• 53:05
  think
• 53:05
  women
• 53:06
  are
• 53:06
  often
• 53:06
  afraid
• 53:07
  to
• 53:07
  say
• 53:07
  no,
• 53:08
  and
• 53:09
  there's
• 53:09
  a
• 53:09
  lot
• 53:09
  of
• 53:09
  power
• 53:10
  in
• 53:10
  saying
• 53:10
  no.
• 53:11
  We
• 53:11
  feel
• 53:11
  like
• 53:11
  we
• 53:11
  have
• 53:12
  to
• 53:12
  justify
• 53:12
  it
• 53:12
  if
• 53:12
  we
• 53:12
  do.
• 53:13
  And
• 53:13
  it's
• 53:13
  like.
• 53:13
  Like
• 53:14
  you're
• 53:14
  saying
• 53:14
  no
• 53:14
  is
• 53:15
  a
• 53:15
  complete
• 53:15
  sentence.
• 53:15
  That's
• 53:16
  it.
• 53:16
  That's
• 53:16
  all
• 53:16
  you
• 53:16
  have
• 53:16
  to
• 53:16
  say.
• 53:18
  Women
• 53:19
  running
• 53:19
  for
• 53:19
  office
• 53:19
  in
• 53:20
  midlife
• 53:20
  as.
• 53:21
  You
• 53:21
  know,
• 53:21
  very
• 53:21
  fired
• 53:21
  up.
• 53:23
  Just.
• 53:24
  I
• 53:25
  think
• 53:25
  women
• 53:26
  think
• 53:26
  that
• 53:27
  the
• 53:27
  people
• 53:27
  who
• 53:27
  sit
• 53:27
  in
• 53:27
  office
• 53:28
  are
• 53:28
  rocket
• 53:28
  scientists.
• 53:29
  And
• 53:29
  I
• 53:29
  can
• 53:29
  tell
• 53:29
  you
• 53:29
  most
• 53:29
  of
• 53:30
  them
• 53:30
  are
• 53:30
  not.
• 53:31
  You
• 53:32
  know,
• 53:32
  they
• 53:33
  just
• 53:33
  happen
• 53:33
  to
• 53:34
  fall
• 53:34
  into
• 53:34
  this.
• 53:34
  And
• 53:35
  if
• 53:35
  you
• 53:35
  are
• 53:35
  a
• 53:35
  co,
• 53:36
  kind
• 53:36
  and
• 53:37
  compassionate
• 53:37
  and
• 53:38
  concerned,
• 53:38
  you'd
• 53:39
  make
• 53:39
  a
• 53:39
  wonderful
• 53:39
  elected
• 53:40
  official.
• 53:41
  And
• 53:41
  so
• 53:41
  we
• 53:41
  just
• 53:41
  need
• 53:42
  more
• 53:42
  women
• 53:42
  of
• 53:42
  all
• 53:42
  ages
• 53:43
  to
• 53:43
  decide
• 53:44
  that
• 53:44
  they're
• 53:44
  gonna
• 53:44
  take
• 53:45
  on
• 53:45
  an
• 53:45
  office
• 53:45
  and
• 53:46
  run
• 53:46
  for
• 53:46
  it.
• 53:48
  The
• 53:48
  idea
• 53:48
  that
• 53:49
  you
• 53:49
  need
• 53:49
  to
• 53:49
  stay
• 53:50
  in
• 53:50
  your
• 53:50
  lane.
• 53:52
  Bed
• 53:52
  up,
• 53:52
  obviously.
• 53:53
  Yes,
• 53:54
  yes.
• 53:54
  Done
• 53:54
  with
• 53:55
  that.
• 53:55
  Quiet
• 53:55
  luxury.
• 53:57
  Quiet
• 53:57
  luxury.
• 53:58
  Interesting.
• 53:58
  I
• 53:58
  think
• 53:59
  fired
• 53:59
  up.
• 53:59
  I
• 53:59
  don't
• 54:00
  love
• 54:00
  stuff
• 54:00
  with
• 54:00
  big
• 54:00
  logos.
• 54:01
  I.
• 54:01
  I
• 54:01
  can't
• 54:02
  imagine
• 54:02
  ever
• 54:03
  having
• 54:03
  a
• 54:03
  Birkin
• 54:03
  bag,
• 54:04
  can
• 54:04
  you?
• 54:04
  Right.
• 54:04
  No,
• 54:04
  no,
• 54:05
  I
• 54:05
  just.
• 54:06
  Something
• 54:06
  sitting
• 54:06
  next
• 54:06
  to
• 54:07
  you
• 54:07
  worth
• 54:07
  like
• 54:07
  $50,000.
• 54:08
  I'd
• 54:09
  be
• 54:09
  too
• 54:09
  nervous
• 54:09
  to
• 54:09
  take
• 54:09
  it
• 54:10
  out.
• 54:10
  I'd
• 54:10
  be
• 54:10
  nervous.
• 54:10
  But
• 54:11
  also
• 54:12
  just.
• 54:12
  I
• 54:12
  don't.
• 54:13
  I
• 54:13
  find
• 54:13
  that
• 54:13
  to
• 54:13
  be
• 54:14
  obnoxious.
• 54:14
  Right.
• 54:14
  I
• 54:14
  think
• 54:15
  there's
• 54:15
  better
• 54:15
  ways
• 54:15
  to
• 54:15
  spend
• 54:16
  your
• 54:16
  money
• 54:16
  too,
• 54:17
  you
• 54:17
  know,
• 54:17
  like,
• 54:17
  for
• 54:18
  that
• 54:18
  amount
• 54:18
  of
• 54:18
  money.
• 54:18
  Yes.
• 54:19
  Yeah.
• 54:19
  There's
• 54:19
  like
• 54:19
  a
• 54:20
  million
• 54:20
  other
• 54:20
  things.
• 54:22
  Instagram,
• 54:23
  comment
• 54:23
  sections.
• 54:25
  Fed
• 54:25
  up.
• 54:25
  I
• 54:26
  mean,
• 54:26
  it
• 54:26
  is
• 54:26
  getting
• 54:26
  to
• 54:27
  be
• 54:27
  like
• 54:27
  Twitter
• 54:27
  out
• 54:27
  there,
• 54:28
  right?
• 54:28
  Yeah,
• 54:28
  it's
• 54:29
  getting
• 54:29
  real
• 54:29
  dark
• 54:30
  out
• 54:30
  there,
• 54:30
  isn't
• 54:30
  it?
• 54:31
  Yeah.
• 54:31
  I
• 54:31
  just,
• 54:31
  you
• 54:31
  know,
• 54:32
  I
• 54:32
  have
• 54:32
  so
• 54:32
  many
• 54:32
  conflicted
• 54:33
  feelings
• 54:33
  about
• 54:33
  social
• 54:33
  media,
• 54:33
  and
• 54:34
  I
• 54:34
  reassess
• 54:34
  how
• 54:34
  I
• 54:35
  feel
• 54:35
  about
• 54:35
  it
• 54:35
  all
• 54:35
  the
• 54:35
  time.
• 54:35
  Doesn't
• 54:36
  make
• 54:36
  me
• 54:36
  feel
• 54:36
  great
• 54:36
  mentally,
• 54:37
  when
• 54:37
  all
• 54:37
  that
• 54:37
  stuff
• 54:37
  happens.
• 54:38
  When
• 54:38
  people
• 54:38
  get
• 54:38
  in
• 54:38
  dust
• 54:39
  ups
• 54:39
  and
• 54:40
  it's
• 54:41
  so
• 54:41
  easy
• 54:41
  to
• 54:41
  argue
• 54:42
  with
• 54:42
  someone
• 54:42
  who's
• 54:42
  anonymous
• 54:43
  or
• 54:43
  you
• 54:43
  can't
• 54:43
  see
• 54:43
  them.
• 54:44
  I
• 54:44
  don't
• 54:45
  think
• 54:45
  that's
• 54:45
  great
• 54:45
  for
• 54:45
  society.
• 54:46
  Do
• 54:46
  you?
• 54:46
  Try
• 54:46
  to
• 54:47
  keep
• 54:47
  yourself
• 54:47
  out
• 54:47
  of
• 54:48
  the
• 54:48
  comment
• 54:48
  section.
• 54:48
  It's
• 54:48
  so
• 54:49
  funny
• 54:49
  that
• 54:49
  you
• 54:49
  asked
• 54:49
  this,
• 54:49
  because
• 54:50
  as
• 54:50
  I
• 54:50
  was
• 54:50
  in
• 54:50
  an
• 54:51
  Uber
• 54:51
  on
• 54:51
  my
• 54:51
  way
• 54:51
  here,
• 54:53
  dumois
• 54:54
  hosted
• 54:54
  someone,
• 54:55
  an
• 54:55
  actress
• 54:56
  who
• 54:56
  was
• 54:57
  smoking
• 54:57
  a
• 54:57
  cigarette
• 54:58
  and
• 54:58
  Said
• 54:58
  how
• 54:58
  cool
• 54:58
  she
• 54:58
  looked.
• 54:59
  And
• 55:00
  I.
• 55:00
  I
• 55:00
  never
• 55:01
  make
• 55:01
  comments.
• 55:01
  And
• 55:01
  I
• 55:02
  wrote,
• 55:02
  oh,
• 55:02
  all
• 55:03
  four
• 55:03
  of
• 55:03
  my
• 55:03
  grandparents
• 55:04
  died
• 55:04
  from
• 55:04
  smoking.
• 55:04
  So
• 55:04
  cool.
• 55:05
  And
• 55:06
  then
• 55:06
  immediately
• 55:07
  the
• 55:07
  incoming
• 55:08
  started
• 55:08
  and
• 55:08
  I
• 55:08
  was
• 55:08
  like,
• 55:08
  why
• 55:09
  did
• 55:09
  I
• 55:09
  post
• 55:09
  that?
• 55:10
  Why?
• 55:11
  Because
• 55:11
  you
• 55:12
  had
• 55:12
  to.
• 55:12
  You
• 55:12
  had
• 55:13
  to.
• 55:13
  You.
• 55:13
  It
• 55:13
  just
• 55:13
  makes
• 55:13
  me
• 55:14
  so
• 55:14
  mad
• 55:14
  to
• 55:14
  glamorize
• 55:15
  smoking.
• 55:15
  I
• 55:16
  know.
• 55:16
  It's
• 55:16
  definitely.
• 55:17
  There's
• 55:17
  no
• 55:17
  benefit
• 55:18
  at
• 55:18
  all
• 55:18
  with
• 55:19
  smoking.
• 55:19
  It's
• 55:19
  actually
• 55:19
  bad,
• 55:20
  kids.
• 55:20
  Yeah,
• 55:21
  it's
• 55:21
  real
• 55:21
  bad
• 55:21
  for
• 55:21
  you.
• 55:21
  Yeah,
• 55:22
  really
• 55:22
  bad.
• 55:23
  Do
• 55:23
  you
• 55:23
  read
• 55:24
  the
• 55:24
  comments
• 55:24
  on
• 55:24
  your
• 55:24
  own
• 55:24
  posts
• 55:25
  or
• 55:25
  no?
• 55:25
  Oh,
• 55:25
  I.
• 55:26
  Oh,
• 55:26
  you
• 55:26
  do?
• 55:26
  Yes.
• 55:27
  And
• 55:27
  I
• 55:27
  don't
• 55:27
  tolerate
• 55:28
  insults
• 55:29
  or
• 55:30
  everybody
• 55:30
  gets
• 55:30
  blocked
• 55:31
  and
• 55:31
  deleted
• 55:31
  who's
• 55:32
  rude
• 55:32
  or
• 55:32
  mean.
• 55:32
  That's
• 55:33
  good.
• 55:33
  You
• 55:33
  like
• 55:33
  to
• 55:33
  keep
• 55:33
  it
• 55:33
  positive.
• 55:34
  And
• 55:34
  like,
• 55:35
  yes,
• 55:35
  that's
• 55:35
  good.
• 55:35
  Keep
• 55:36
  the
• 55:36
  negative
• 55:36
  out
• 55:36
  for
• 55:37
  sure.
• 55:39
  Hope
• 55:39
  as
• 55:39
  a
• 55:40
  strategy.
• 55:41
  Fired
• 55:41
  up.
• 55:42
  You
• 55:42
  have
• 55:42
  two
• 55:43
  choices
• 55:43
  every
• 55:43
  morning.
• 55:43
  Are
• 55:44
  you
• 55:44
  going
• 55:44
  to
• 55:44
  be
• 55:44
  hopeful?
• 55:44
  Are
• 55:44
  you
• 55:45
  going
• 55:45
  to
• 55:45
  feel
• 55:45
  hopeless?
• 55:46
  And
• 55:47
  what
• 55:47
  I
• 55:47
  have
• 55:47
  seen
• 55:47
  is
• 55:48
  that
• 55:48
  hopelessness
• 55:48
  or
• 55:49
  helplessness
• 55:49
  is
• 55:50
  cynicism
• 55:50
  and
• 55:51
  it's
• 55:51
  an
• 55:51
  excuse
• 55:51
  for
• 55:51
  inaction.
• 55:53
  You
• 55:53
  know,
• 55:53
  things
• 55:53
  are
• 55:53
  bad,
• 55:53
  but
• 55:53
  you
• 55:54
  decide
• 55:54
  not
• 55:54
  to
• 55:54
  do
• 55:54
  anything
• 55:54
  about
• 55:55
  it
• 55:55
  anyway.
• 55:55
  Hope
• 55:56
  is
• 55:56
  knowing
• 55:57
  things
• 55:57
  are
• 55:57
  not
• 55:57
  great
• 55:58
  and
• 55:58
  realizing
• 55:59
  that
• 55:59
  it
• 55:59
  can
• 56:00
  get
• 56:00
  better
• 56:00
  if
• 56:00
  you
• 56:00
  make
• 56:01
  a
• 56:01
  difference,
• 56:01
  if
• 56:01
  you
• 56:01
  get
• 56:02
  involved
• 56:02
  or
• 56:02
  other
• 56:03
  people
• 56:03
  get
• 56:03
  involved.
• 56:04
  And
• 56:05
  there's
• 56:05
  an
• 56:05
  activist,
• 56:06
  Miriam
• 56:06
  Kakabe,
• 56:06
  who
• 56:07
  says
• 56:07
  hope
• 56:07
  is
• 56:07
  a
• 56:07
  discipline.
• 56:08
  And
• 56:08
  I
• 56:08
  think
• 56:08
  that's
• 56:08
  true.
• 56:09
  Yeah.
• 56:09
  And
• 56:09
  it's
• 56:09
  something
• 56:10
  you
• 56:10
  have
• 56:10
  to
• 56:10
  purposefully
• 56:11
  choose
• 56:12
  every
• 56:12
  day.
• 56:12
  Right.
• 56:13
  It
• 56:13
  doesn't
• 56:13
  just
• 56:13
  come
• 56:14
  natural.
• 56:14
  You
• 56:14
  gotta
• 56:14
  cultivate
• 56:15
  it.
• 56:15
  You
• 56:15
  gotta
• 56:15
  cultivate
• 56:16
  it.
• 56:16
  Exactly.
• 56:18
  Gen
• 56:18
  Z
• 56:18
  changemakers
• 56:21
  fired
• 56:21
  up.
• 56:21
  I
• 56:22
  mean,
• 56:22
  look,
• 56:22
  I
• 56:22
  think
• 56:23
  what
• 56:23
  I
• 56:23
  have
• 56:23
  learned
• 56:24
  about
• 56:24
  the
• 56:24
  younger
• 56:24
  generation
• 56:25
  is
• 56:25
  that
• 56:25
  they
• 56:25
  hate
• 56:26
  incrementalism.
• 56:27
  And
• 56:28
  that's
• 56:28
  great
• 56:29
  because
• 56:29
  they
• 56:29
  push
• 56:29
  against
• 56:30
  the
• 56:30
  older
• 56:30
  generation.
• 56:31
  But
• 56:31
  also,
• 56:32
  I
• 56:32
  think
• 56:32
  Gen
• 56:33
  Z
• 56:33
  needs
• 56:33
  to
• 56:34
  learn.
• 56:34
  And
• 56:35
  they
• 56:35
  will
• 56:35
  as
• 56:35
  they
• 56:35
  get
• 56:35
  older,
• 56:36
  because
• 56:36
  we're
• 56:36
  all
• 56:36
  young
• 56:37
  once
• 56:37
  and
• 56:37
  then
• 56:37
  we
• 56:37
  get
• 56:37
  older.
• 56:38
  But
• 56:38
  like,
• 56:38
  the
• 56:38
  system
• 56:39
  isn't
• 56:39
  set
• 56:39
  up
• 56:39
  for
• 56:39
  wholesale
• 56:40
  overnight
• 56:40
  change.
• 56:40
  I
• 56:41
  wish
• 56:41
  it
• 56:41
  was.
• 56:41
  I
• 56:41
  would
• 56:42
  have
• 56:42
  spent
• 56:42
  my
• 56:42
  last
• 56:43
  decade
• 56:43
  doing
• 56:43
  something
• 56:43
  else.
• 56:44
  But
• 56:46
  when
• 56:46
  you
• 56:46
  see.
• 56:47
  When
• 56:47
  you
• 56:47
  get
• 56:47
  so
• 56:48
  frustrated
• 56:48
  that
• 56:49
  things
• 56:49
  aren't
• 56:50
  happening
• 56:50
  quickly
• 56:50
  enough,
• 56:50
  it's
• 56:50
  easy
• 56:51
  to
• 56:51
  give
• 56:51
  up.
• 56:52
  And,
• 56:53
  you
• 56:53
  know,
• 56:53
  this
• 56:54
  is
• 56:54
  gonna
• 56:54
  last
• 56:55
  a
• 56:55
  whole
• 56:55
  lifetime
• 56:55
  and
• 56:56
  we
• 56:56
  have
• 56:56
  to
• 56:56
  have
• 56:56
  patience
• 56:57
  and
• 56:57
  stay
• 56:57
  in
• 56:57
  the
• 56:57
  fight.
• 56:58
  So
• 56:59
  I'm
• 56:59
  all
• 56:59
  about
• 56:59
  Gen
• 57:00
  Z
• 57:00
  taking
• 57:00
  over.
• 57:01
  And
• 57:01
  I
• 57:02
  just
• 57:02
  hope,
• 57:02
  though,
• 57:02
  that
• 57:03
  they
• 57:03
  realize
• 57:03
  that,
• 57:04
  you
• 57:04
  know,
• 57:05
  this
• 57:05
  is
• 57:05
  not
• 57:06
  gonna
• 57:06
  get
• 57:06
  fixed
• 57:06
  overnight.
• 57:07
  Definitely.
• 57:08
  And
• 57:08
  last
• 57:08
  one,
• 57:09
  midlife.
• 57:10
  Fired
• 57:10
  up
• 57:11
  or
• 57:11
  fed
• 57:11
  up?
• 57:11
  So
• 57:12
  fired
• 57:12
  up.
• 57:12
  You
• 57:13
  know,
• 57:13
  I
• 57:13
  don't
• 57:13
  know
• 57:13
  about
• 57:13
  you,
• 57:14
  I
• 57:14
  wake
• 57:14
  up
• 57:14
  every
• 57:14
  day
• 57:14
  and
• 57:14
  I'm
• 57:14
  like,
• 57:15
  I
• 57:15
  don't
• 57:15
  feel
• 57:15
  my
• 57:15
  age
• 57:16
  at
• 57:16
  all.
• 57:16
  No,
• 57:17
  No,
• 57:17
  I
• 57:18
  don't.
• 57:18
  And
• 57:18
  I
• 57:19
  just.
• 57:19
  I.
• 57:20
  I
• 57:20
  wouldn't
• 57:20
  go
• 57:20
  back
• 57:20
  to
• 57:20
  being
• 57:21
  younger
• 57:21
  for
• 57:21
  anything.
• 57:22
  I
• 57:22
  wouldn't.
• 57:22
  And
• 57:23
  it
• 57:23
  was
• 57:23
  very
• 57:23
  turbulent,
• 57:24
  and
• 57:24
  it
• 57:24
  was
• 57:24
  very
• 57:25
  difficult,
• 57:26
  and
• 57:26
  I
• 57:27
  learned
• 57:27
  a
• 57:27
  lot.
• 57:28
  I
• 57:28
  love
• 57:29
  having
• 57:29
  wisdom.
• 57:30
  I
• 57:31
  love
• 57:31
  knowing
• 57:32
  who
• 57:32
  I
• 57:32
  am
• 57:33
  and.
• 57:33
  And
• 57:33
  what
• 57:34
  my
• 57:34
  strengths
• 57:34
  and
• 57:34
  weaknesses
• 57:35
  are.
• 57:36
  And
• 57:37
  I
• 57:37
  just.
• 57:37
  I
• 57:38
  love
• 57:38
  being
• 57:38
  54.
• 57:39
  Yeah,
• 57:39
  it's
• 57:39
  great.
• 57:39
  There's
• 57:40
  such
• 57:40
  power
• 57:40
  with,
• 57:41
  like,
• 57:41
  age
• 57:41
  and
• 57:41
  life
• 57:42
  experience.
• 57:42
  Right?
• 57:43
  It's.
• 57:43
  It's.
• 57:43
  You
• 57:44
  shouldn't
• 57:44
  be.
• 57:44
  Don't
• 57:44
  feel.
• 57:45
  Don't
• 57:45
  be
• 57:45
  scared,
• 57:45
  guys.
• 57:46
  It's.
• 57:46
  It's
• 57:46
  really
• 57:47
  not
• 57:47
  bad.
• 57:48
  It's
• 57:48
  great,
• 57:48
  actually.
• 57:49
  Right.
• 57:49
  You
• 57:50
  know
• 57:50
  yourself,
• 57:50
  you
• 57:51
  know
• 57:51
  your
• 57:51
  identity.
• 57:52
  You
• 57:52
  don't
• 57:52
  give
• 57:52
  a
• 57:53
  as
• 57:53
  much,
• 57:53
  you
• 57:53
  know.
• 57:54
  You
• 57:54
  know,
• 57:54
  I.
• 57:55
  From
• 57:55
  what
• 57:55
  I'm
• 57:55
  seeing
• 57:55
  online,
• 57:56
  the
• 57:56
  facelifts
• 57:57
  are
• 57:57
  better
• 57:57
  than
• 57:57
  ever.
• 57:57
  Yes.
• 57:58
  Oh,
• 57:58
  my
• 57:58
  God.
• 57:58
  I
• 57:59
  mean,
• 57:59
  like,
• 58:00
  amazing,
• 58:00
  amazing,
• 58:01
  amazing.
• 58:01
  Like,
• 58:02
  it's
• 58:02
  never
• 58:02
  better
• 58:02
  to
• 58:03
  live.
• 58:03
  If
• 58:03
  you
• 58:03
  want
• 58:03
  a
• 58:03
  facelift,
• 58:04
  you've
• 58:04
  never
• 58:04
  lived
• 58:04
  in
• 58:05
  a
• 58:05
  better
• 58:05
  time.
• 58:05
  I
• 58:06
  want
• 58:06
  what
• 58:06
  Lindsay
• 58:07
  is
• 58:07
  having,
• 58:07
  what
• 58:08
  Kris
• 58:08
  Jenner's
• 58:08
  having,
• 58:09
  like,
• 58:09
  all
• 58:10
  of
• 58:10
  it,
• 58:10
  you
• 58:10
  know.
• 58:11
  So
• 58:12
  for
• 58:12
  the
• 58:12
  ladies
• 58:12
  listening
• 58:13
  at
• 58:13
  home,
• 58:13
  are
• 58:14
  there
• 58:14
  three,
• 58:14
  like,
• 58:15
  maybe
• 58:15
  top
• 58:15
  things
• 58:16
  that
• 58:16
  you
• 58:16
  would
• 58:17
  advise
• 58:17
  them
• 58:18
  to
• 58:18
  do
• 58:18
  to,
• 58:19
  you
• 58:19
  know,
• 58:19
  start
• 58:20
  living
• 58:21
  passionately
• 58:22
  and,
• 58:22
  you
• 58:23
  know,
• 58:23
  really
• 58:23
  taking
• 58:23
  hold
• 58:24
  of
• 58:24
  their
• 58:24
  fire?
• 58:25
  Obviously
• 58:25
  get
• 58:26
  fired
• 58:26
  up,
• 58:26
  because
• 58:26
  I
• 58:26
  think
• 58:27
  that
• 58:27
  the
• 58:27
  book
• 58:27
  is
• 58:28
  a
• 58:28
  really
• 58:28
  helpful
• 58:28
  way
• 58:28
  to
• 58:29
  help
• 58:29
  you
• 58:29
  figure
• 58:30
  out,
• 58:30
  like,
• 58:30
  where
• 58:30
  am
• 58:30
  I
• 58:31
  right
• 58:31
  now
• 58:31
  and
• 58:31
  where
• 58:31
  do
• 58:31
  I
• 58:32
  want
• 58:32
  to
• 58:32
  be?
• 58:33
  Find
• 58:34
  your
• 58:34
  people
• 58:35
  and.
• 58:35
  And
• 58:36
  start
• 58:36
  practicing
• 58:37
  this
• 58:37
  in
• 58:37
  real
• 58:37
  life
• 58:38
  with
• 58:38
  those
• 58:38
  other
• 58:38
  people
• 58:39
  and
• 58:39
  also
• 58:40
  decide
• 58:40
  that
• 58:41
  you're
• 58:41
  going
• 58:41
  to
• 58:42
  live
• 58:42
  your
• 58:43
  fullest,
• 58:43
  truest,
• 58:44
  most
• 58:44
  authentic
• 58:45
  life
• 58:45
  until
• 58:45
  the
• 58:45
  very
• 58:46
  end.
• 58:47
  Are
• 58:47
  you
• 58:48
  60
• 58:48
  and
• 58:48
  want
• 58:48
  to
• 58:48
  go
• 58:48
  to
• 58:48
  medical
• 58:49
  school?
• 58:49
  Great.
• 58:49
  You
• 58:50
  know,
• 58:50
  like,
• 58:50
  there
• 58:51
  is
• 58:51
  no
• 58:51
  reason
• 58:52
  that
• 58:52
  you
• 58:52
  can't
• 58:52
  be
• 58:53
  productive
• 58:53
  and
• 58:53
  helpful
• 58:54
  and
• 58:54
  share
• 58:55
  your
• 58:55
  wisdom
• 58:55
  forever.
• 58:56
  Yes.
• 58:56
  And
• 58:57
  there's
• 58:57
  no
• 58:57
  age
• 58:57
  limit.
• 58:57
  There's
• 58:58
  no
• 58:58
  timeline
• 58:58
  in
• 58:59
  life.
• 58:59
  Right.
• 58:59
  I
• 58:59
  mean,
• 59:00
  you
• 59:00
  could
• 59:00
  be
• 59:00
  95,
• 59:01
  taking
• 59:02
  up
• 59:02
  a
• 59:02
  whole
• 59:03
  something
• 59:03
  new,
• 59:03
  you
• 59:04
  know,
• 59:04
  it's
• 59:04
  not.
• 59:05
  There's
• 59:05
  no
• 59:05
  timeline,
• 59:06
  ladies,
• 59:06
  so
• 59:06
  let's.
• 59:07
  Let's
• 59:07
  get
• 59:07
  after
• 59:07
  it,
• 59:07
  you
• 59:08
  know,
• 59:08
  like,
• 59:08
  today
• 59:08
  is
• 59:08
  the
• 59:09
  day.
• 59:09
  Amazing.
• 59:10
  Thank
• 59:11
  you
• 59:11
  so
• 59:11
  much,
• 59:12
  Shannon.
• 59:12
  You're
• 59:12
  amazing.
• 59:13
  And
• 59:13
  I
• 59:13
  just
• 59:14
  want
• 59:14
  to
• 59:14
  show
• 59:14
  everybody
• 59:15
  the
• 59:16
  book
• 59:16
  Fired
• 59:17
  up.
• 59:17
  Go
• 59:18
  get
• 59:18
  it
• 59:18
  now.
• 59:19
  It's
• 59:19
  amazing.
• 59:19
  There's
• 59:20
  so
• 59:20
  many
• 59:20
  great
• 59:20
  tools
• 59:21
  in
• 59:21
  here.
• 59:22
  And
• 59:22
  Shannon,
• 59:23
  tell
• 59:23
  everybody
• 59:23
  we're
• 59:24
  the
• 59:24
  best
• 59:24
  places
• 59:24
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• 59:25
  find
• 59:25
  you.
• 59:26
  Go
• 59:26
  to
• 59:26
  Fired
• 59:26
  up
• 59:27
  book.
• 59:27
  That's
• 59:27
  where
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• 59:27
  can
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  enroll
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• 59:30
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• 59:31
  Shannonr
• 59:32
  Watts.
• 59:33
  Yes,
• 59:33
  definitely
• 59:33
  follow
• 59:34
  her.
• 59:34
  She's
• 59:34
  amazing.
• 59:35
  Thank
• 59:36
  you
• 59:36
  so
• 59:36
  much.
• 59:36
  Thank
• 59:37
  you.
• 59:37
  This
• 59:37
  was
• 59:37
  so
• 59:37
  fun.
• 59:38
  So
• 59:38
  fun.
• 59:39
  That
• 59:39
  was
• 59:39
  Shannon
• 59:40
  Watts.
• 59:40
  And
• 59:41
  what
• 59:41
  a
• 59:41
  reminder
• 59:42
  that
• 59:42
  one
• 59:42
  voice
• 59:43
  backed
• 59:43
  by
• 59:43
  purpose
• 59:44
  can
• 59:44
  truly
• 59:45
  change
• 59:45
  the
• 59:45
  world.
• 59:46
  From
• 59:46
  building
• 59:47
  a
• 59:47
  national
• 59:47
  movement
• 59:48
  to
• 59:48
  reclaiming
• 59:48
  her
• 59:49
  own
• 59:49
  peace,
• 59:50
  Shannon
• 59:50
  shows
• 59:51
  us
• 59:51
  what's
• 59:51
  possible
• 59:52
  when
• 59:52
  women
• 59:52
  refuse
• 59:53
  to
• 59:53
  stay
• 59:53
  silent.
• 59:54
  Her
• 59:55
  new
• 59:55
  book,
• 59:55
  Fired
• 59:56
  up,
• 59:56
  is
• 59:56
  out
• 59:56
  now,
• 59:57
  and
• 59:57
  trust
• 59:57
  me,
• 59:58
  you'll
• 59:58
  want
• 59:58
  a
• 59:58
  highlighter
• 59:59
  in
• 59:59
  hand.
• 1:00:00
  It's
• 1:00:00
  part
• 1:00:00
  manifesto,
• 1:00:01
  part
• 1:00:01
  permission
• 1:00:02
  slip,
• 1:00:03
  and
• 1:00:03
  every
• 1:00:03
  woman
• 1:00:04
  should
• 1:00:04
  read
• 1:00:04
  it.
• 1:00:05
  If
• 1:00:05
  this
• 1:00:06
  episode
• 1:00:06
  lit
• 1:00:07
  something
• 1:00:07
  in
• 1:00:07
  you,
• 1:00:07
  don't
• 1:00:08
  keep
• 1:00:08
  it
• 1:00:08
  to
• 1:00:08
  yourself.
• 1:00:09
  Text
• 1:00:09
  it
• 1:00:10
  to
• 1:00:10
  a
• 1:00:10
  friend,
• 1:00:10
  post
• 1:00:11
  it,
• 1:00:11
  tag
• 1:00:11
  us
• 1:00:11
  heconicmidlife
• 1:00:12
  and
• 1:00:13
  edcarpetroxy
• 1:00:14
  and
• 1:00:14
  leave
• 1:00:15
  a
• 1:00:15
  review.
• 1:00:15
  Those
• 1:00:16
  stars
• 1:00:16
  help
• 1:00:16
  us
• 1:00:17
  reach
• 1:00:17
  more
• 1:00:17
  iconic
• 1:00:17
  women
• 1:00:18
  just
• 1:00:18
  like
• 1:00:18
  you.
• 1:00:19
  Follow
• 1:00:19
  the
• 1:00:19
  show,
• 1:00:20
  share
• 1:00:20
  it
• 1:00:20
  far
• 1:00:20
  and
• 1:00:21
  wide,
• 1:00:21
  and
• 1:00:21
  remember,
• 1:00:22
  we're
• 1:00:22
  not
• 1:00:22
  doing
• 1:00:23
  Midlife
• 1:00:23
  quietly.
• 1:00:24
  We're
• 1:00:24
  doing
• 1:00:24
  it
• 1:00:24
  on
• 1:00:25
  our
• 1:00:25
  own
• 1:00:25
  terms.