Latest / Overwhelmed Working Woman: Boost Productivity, Master Time Management, Overcome Overwhelm & Stop People Pleasing / #94| Holiday Overwhelm? A Simple Shift to Ease Family Stress
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- 0:04Speaker 1: You're listening to Overwhelmed Working Woman, the podcast that helps you be more calm and more productive by doing less.
- 0:12Speaker 1: I'm your host, michelle Gothier, a former Overwhelmed Working Woman and current life coach.
- 0:16Speaker 1: On this show, we unpack the stress and pressure that today's working woman experiences, and in each episode you'll get a strategy to bring more calm, ease and relaxation to your life.
- 0:33Speaker 2: Hello and thank you for joining Quick Hit Thursday right here on Thanksgiving Thursday.
- 0:39Speaker 2: Today, I'm going to offer you my number one absolute best tip for how to make any family or even friend get together just a little bit better.
- 0:47Speaker 2: And if you're listening to this after Thanksgiving, these tips are basically good for any time during the holidays or summer vacations or whenever it is that you get together with a big group of people.
- 0:57Speaker 2: But before I jump into that, I wanted to tell you because if you're not on my email list, first of all, you should be, but second of all, you probably don't know that I am offering a Black Friday special for the first time ever.
- 1:10Speaker 2: I'm so excited about it and I wanted to just tell you what's included in it so that you can get on it, because I'm only selling 20 spots, or until Saturday at midnight.
- 1:22Speaker 2: It is going to be awesome for your 2025.
- 1:26Speaker 2: I've put together a package that's going to give you everything you need to number one, define all of your goals and prioritize what you want for 2025.
- 1:35Speaker 2: For that, you're going to participate in the your Best Year 2025 workshop.
- 1:39Speaker 2: That's a class that I do every year.
- 1:41Speaker 2: I always get great reviews from it.
- 1:44Speaker 2: And the second part of it, which is something that I've never offered before, but I have had people request that I offer every year is continued support from that workshop.
- 1:55Speaker 2: So I'm going to offer that every month.
- 1:58Speaker 2: If you join this VIP special, every month you will have a group coaching session that's dedicated to this small group of people who are really focused on hitting all of their goals for 2025.
- 2:12Speaker 2: It will also include an online community so you will get to know these people over the year.
- 2:16Speaker 2: You will encourage and support each other.
- 2:19Speaker 2: And then the third part, which is also something that I've never offered before.
- 2:23Speaker 2: And then the third part, which is also something that I've never offered before, is three one-on-one coaching sessions.
- 2:29Speaker 2: So you'll have the workshop, you'll have the monthly group coaching, but there will probably be a couple times during the year where you feel like you're stuck or you just really want to talk through something with me privately.
- 2:37Speaker 2: This will include three private coaching sessions that you can use whenever you want coaching sessions that you can use whenever you want.
- 2:45Speaker 2: So if you were to purchase each one of those things from me individually, that whole cost would be $1,075.
- 2:49Speaker 2: And I'm offering it for Black Friday only for $499.
- 2:54Speaker 2: I even have an option to make monthly payments.
- 2:56Speaker 2: So get on it, sister.
- 2:59Speaker 2: This is going to be so much fun.
- 3:00Speaker 2: You're going to be able to hit all of your goals, and it's a great deal All my favorite things rolled into one.
- 3:07Speaker 2: Okay, now back to Thanksgiving.
- 3:09Speaker 2: Here is the number one, biggest tip I have for you for enjoying Thanksgiving, or really any family get-together, and that is to lower your expectations.
- 3:19Speaker 2: I know that sounds obvious, and when I say that, people will often say to me oh, I don't have high expectations.
- 3:25Speaker 2: I know that you might, and when I say that, people will often say to me oh, I don't have high expectations.
- 3:25Speaker 2: I know that you might not consciously have high expectations, but unconsciously you do.
- 3:31Speaker 2: So I'm asking you to take a moment, as you're like I don't know, putting on your makeup and listening to this podcast, as you're getting ready for Thanksgiving Day, to really investigate what your expectations are, because often our expectations are what we hope will happen.
- 3:49Speaker 2: I'm going to give you an example from my own life.
- 3:50Speaker 2: When my son was two, he was a wild toddler and he also didn't eat anything like ever, and so on Thanksgiving, we were having a big family get together, like we always do.
- 4:02Speaker 2: We were at my parents' house.
- 4:04Speaker 2: My mom always has like a really nice fancy Thanksgiving and I had this expectation unconsciously didn't really investigate it that today was going to be the day that he was going to just wear his cute little clothes and sit at the table and eat food.
- 4:19Speaker 2: And you can imagine exactly what happened, which is that he sat at the table for about 12 seconds.
- 4:24Speaker 2: He didn't want to eat anything and then he started trying to get down and because he was a wild toddler, I couldn't just like let him run around the house.
- 4:33Speaker 2: So I ended up sitting in the TV room with him by myself while everybody else was eating Thanksgiving dinner.
- 4:38Speaker 2: So my suggestion to you is to ask yourself the question instead of what is my expectation?
- 4:45Speaker 2: Ask yourself if I had to make a bet for how this day was going to go and I was going to win.
- 4:52Speaker 2: If I got it right, what would I bet would happen?
- 4:54Speaker 2: If you would have asked me that about my son?
- 4:56Speaker 2: I would have said he'll sit at the table for about 12 seconds and then he'll want to get down because he has no interest in eating anything.
- 5:03Speaker 2: And if that was my expectation, maybe I would have made a different plan.
- 5:07Speaker 2: Maybe I would have tried to feed him whatever he was going to have for lunch before and maybe set him up with his little Legos or cars or something I can't remember what he played with at that time and so then at least I could eat and talk to my family.
- 5:20Speaker 2: So ask yourself that question and remember that our suffering is always caused between what we expect to happen and what actually happens.
- 5:29Speaker 2: So when I expected that today was going to be the miracle day that he sat still and ate and it wasn't.
- 5:36Speaker 2: It was just he just acted like a normal two-year-old toddler would.
- 5:40Speaker 2: I suffered not from my son's behavior, but from the way that I set myself up by thinking it was going to be different.
- 5:49Speaker 2: Now, if you don't have a two-year-old who doesn't eat, you're like.
- 5:52Speaker 2: Well, maybe this doesn't apply to me, but think about that.
- 5:54Speaker 2: Think about your expectations for your Uncle, gary, who always brings up awkward topics or politics.
- 6:00Speaker 2: Or think about your expectations for your cousin, who never shows up on time.
- 6:04Speaker 2: Just ask yourself what do I think is really going to happen?
- 6:08Speaker 2: And then, when that thing does happen, you can kind of chuckle to yourself and be like good job, you nailed it, but you don't have to suffer because you were expecting something different.
- 6:16Speaker 2: All right, that's my tip for you today.
- 6:19Speaker 2: I hope you have a fantastic day and get on this Black Friday VIP deal.
- 6:25Speaker 2: The link is in the show notes.
- 6:26Speaker 2: I would love to have you and help you hit every goal for 2025.
- 6:37Speaker 1: Thank you for listening to the Overwhelmed Working Woman podcast.
- 6:40Speaker 1: If you want to learn more about my work, head over to my website at michellegothiercom.
- 6:46Speaker 1: See you next week.