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EP 515 Getting Grounded in the Midst of Chaos · Celeste The Therapist

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Thank you all so much for joining another episode of Celeste the therapist podcast.
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My name is Celeste. I'm a therapist from Boston If you've never been into
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my podcast before I want to say thank you so much for coming
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through I appreciate you what I do on this podcast is
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I talk about things that we're going through and I I Work on
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helping you think about ways to deal with them with really
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practical steps. I'm a very practical person and
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today we're talking about getting grounded in the midst of
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chaos and Uh, you know some so I
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am a real therapist for people that's never been here before, you know People because
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my tagline is celeste a therapist and people say are you really a therapist? I'm really a
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therapist And i've been a therapist uh
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for Well, I've been in the mental health field for
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over 20 years and I've been a therapist since for
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15 years. And it's so interesting. So
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over the last 15 years, we've gone through so many things. And
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I think about the pandemic, I think about all
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the chaos during the pandemic, and I think about 2025, the
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new president that we have, and just the chaos. And
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sometimes I'll be like, dang, yo, Celeste, how you doing it?
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Because since the pandemic in
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2020, I feel like that's the first time where I feel like the same thing
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I'm walking people through is the same thing I'm going through. And also, there's
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this collective thing that's taking place around the
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country around the world. And, um, I am walking
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people through it as I'm working on walking myself through
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it. It's very interesting. Um, and so as
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I have the privilege to, uh, record
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this podcast, if you're listening to me on audio, I'm also on YouTube. I
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have the privilege of recording this. I, um, I'm grateful for
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the people that continue to follow me and press play and
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listen to the podcast. and people
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that let me know how much this podcast has helped them. The
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things that I do, I wanna share it with you because they really helped me.
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And so that's why today I wanna talk about how to get grounded in the
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middle of chaos. And I'm just gonna give you these 10 things to
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think about. I'm gonna share my screen just
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so you can see it visually, but
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I'm pretty much gonna talk about it. I
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really wanna help you find your center. Before I go through the 10 things that
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I wanna share with you that I want you to work on doing, and literally
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everything that I'm talking about, it doesn't cost money. I'm so
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big on decolonize what mental health looks
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like. This podcast is free. The things I'm gonna talk about
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you doing is free. But I talk about
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being grounded a lot, and I really wanna start with the definition of
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what grounded means. So being grounded, it
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generally means being present, being aware, and connected
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to your current reality with a sense of stability and
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balance. It implies being in touch with your emotions, thoughts,
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physical sensations, and having a strong connection to
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the moment. In a figurative sense, it
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also suggests being sensible, reasonable, and having a practical outlook
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on life. And so when you
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think about the definition Being grounded doesn't mean life is
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perfect. Being grounded doesn't mean that everything goes the way you
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want it to go. Being grounded allows you to deal
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with the things that are happening in life. One
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of the things people say is that I'm very consistent in
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my presence, right? Regardless of what's going on,
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I'm going to show up as who I am. not
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allow you to take me out of character, not allow myself, even on social
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media, there are people that I've been following for a while, and
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when they say something that I struggle with seeing, I
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don't go to war in comments, I just unfollow. And
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that's me protecting my peace. Looking at the statement,
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is it annoying? Yes, but they have a right to feel how they feel about
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certain subjects, but I don't have, I choose not
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to be a part of That a lot of times we don't even recognize That
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the way that we're feeling is because we're we're making a
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choice to engage in certain chaotic things that we are doing
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Um, and so when you think about being grounded because I talk
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about like i'm very grounded I say that a lot, but I recognize I
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haven't talked about the definition when I talk about being
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grounded That means i'm very aware of what's going on my physical body
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and how I feel Um side note like i've been eating
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really really clean lately in this period cycle.
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Over the last few years, my cycle, I have really
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less cramps. It's not as heavy and bad as
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it was before. This is such a side note. But
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if you listen to the podcast, you know I'm always gonna do a quick side note. This
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cycle that I had, I've been really clean lately. I've been walking
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more. I've been really eating clean, drinking water. And
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I had absolutely no cramps. And it's so
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funny because I've seen, in my mind, I was thinking
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about like, wow, this cycle's really good. And I'm
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so present and grounded, I recognize I've been eating clean.
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And I'm like, wow, what you put in your body really does affect your body.
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It's something I don't say, even I just watched Dr. Holistic, I
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love him, he's a black uh he's black doctor
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on instagram and youtube and he struggled
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with high blood pressure and stuff all his life he changed his eating habits started
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helping other patients changed theirs the hospital didn't like it so
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he went out on his own the hospital wanted him to stick to the script But
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he was saying how when I eat, I poop. And
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the person he was talking to was like, wow, I love that for you. And
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he said, this is what it's supposed to be all the time. And
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so we don't even realize, I talk about the mind and how we hold
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on to pain. And we literally hold on to so much
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crap in us because we haven't been taught. We
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haven't been taught that it's not supposed to be that way. So we get
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used to just dealing with crap in our, literally
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in us. And we get used to dealing with
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our mind, feeling like crap, literally. So I,
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you know, there's a lot of chaos happening in the world. And
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I can't solve all the problems, right?
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I can only do what I can do. I don't have control over
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what's going on and it breaks my heart. A lot of the things that I
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see, like it really, I really struggle with seeing some of the things
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I see, like my heart breaks and I don't understand
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why. I'm not a religious person, but I'm a very
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spiritual person. And I always tell myself, lean
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not on your own understanding when these things come up, because I don't understand it.
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Even before now, in general, as the work that I do, the stories that I
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hear, that make no sense to me. I
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lean not on my own understanding. That's literally what
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I say to myself when those things are happening. So
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let me help you with some practical ways to work on
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your mental health and staying grounded in the middle of chaos.
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So if you are somebody that is struggling with that, this
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is gonna be a great episode for you to kinda
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listen to and get your mind right. First
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is professional support. Nothing wrong with
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seeking out professional support, therapist, coach, right?
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Who else? Like a pastor, somebody
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that you trust that's
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a professional. I started with that
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because sometimes it's like, oh yeah, of course, like see
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a therapist, but also I recognize that a
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lot of people don't have access to therapy. may not have
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access to a coach. And so I
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don't want you to feel like, well, if I don't have a therapist, how
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can I work on getting grounded? But that is one of the things.
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The second thing I want you to think about is mindfulness and meditation.
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Mindfulness and meditation is something you
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can just practice every day. And I really want you to be practical about it.
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So when you wake up in the morning, before
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you grab your phone and check your email, before you
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go on social media, I really need you to be intentional about this
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process. It's literally how I start my day. Get
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up in the morning. stretch go use the bathroom and
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set your timer for five minutes right um you can
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even do like a meditation on youtube for five minutes
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but if you're not if you're not if you're not trying to do that right now that's
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okay but set your timer for five minutes and just breathe
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in and breathe out and just take time to Think
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about what you have going on today. If you feel like your mind's racing, that's
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okay. At least you understand that it's racing, right? But try
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to, if you are not somebody that is into pausing,
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like you haven't taken moments to pause, first
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thing in the morning, I like it first thing in the morning because you can set the tone. And
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I'm saying five minutes because I am trying to help you start
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with something small. I don't want you to set the goal to 20 or 30 minutes,
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something that you're not used to doing. But mindfulness does
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not have to be something that takes up a
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lot of time to start, right? It doesn't have to
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cost money, right? But taking time to
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just sit and breathe and be by yourself, right? If
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you wanna take it a step further, start thinking about
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what you have going on for the day, right? Taking time to
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breathe and think about, okay, I gotta do whatever it
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is you gotta do, right? Five minutes, starting with
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five minutes. You can always increase it,
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right? You can also add it for the nighttime before
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you go to bed, thinking about, how was my day? Another
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way you can practice a practical meditation practice is
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in the shower. In the shower, you
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are being still in the shower, the water's hitting you,
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you have the soap, you can touch your body, you can feel yourself,
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your feet is touching the ground. you can take
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that moment and just breathe, right? And just ask yourself, like,
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how am I really feeling? Some of you are so used to
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being the caregiver or the person that takes care of everyone that
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you don't even ask yourself, how am I feeling? So
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be comfortable with doing that for yourself, right? Because
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if anybody, it's one thing, like nobody's gonna come
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and save you. And I think a lot of times we don't recognize that
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we're doing so much for other people and we have nothing left for
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ourselves. and our system is in overdrive all
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the time. So those are some practical ways to
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think about practicing mindfulness in the morning. Start
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first thing in the morning before you go to bed, or you can even do
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it in the shower. I try to incorporate new things that
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you're doing with a routine that you already have. The
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second thing I want you to think about is nature. Being
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in nature is such a great tool for
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people to use. It's a natural resource. There's
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like some water, a little small pond that's not
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far from my house. Sometimes when I drive that way and I
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literally will take a deep breath and it feels so good. and
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then a breath out. Even just now, that breath I just took just now,
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if you can hear it and you're not watching, that
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felt so good. It felt like I was resetting, right? When I started talking
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about the chaos in the world, I felt like sad, like my
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chest tightened up a little bit because I just started thinking about some things recently
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that I've been made aware of and it just made me feel sad. And
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then I just breathed and it felt really good. But
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spending time, Spending some time outdoors and
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just sitting still in nature can be really helpful. I happen to
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have some hiking trails near my house, but even if you don't have
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hiking trails, walk out in front of your door and
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get some sun. Go for a small walk. Even
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if you don't feel like it, as I'm talking about these things to
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do, what I need you not to say to yourself is
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like, oh, I didn't feel like doing it today. I don't want you to do that. You're
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never going to feel like doing something that's good for you if you're not
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used to doing it. I'm going to say that again for the people in the back. If
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you're not used to doing something healthy, it's
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not gonna feel good It's not gonna feel like something you want and
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I always give this example But there was a time where after
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I worked out I would go to Burger King. So give me a whopper That was like my favorite
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meal and I'm not knocking whoppers But that's crazy work
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to be going to the gym and then go to Burger King's after like make it
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make sense to us and when I learned that um,
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I was doing it all backwards and I went
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and got a bunch of greens, and I tell this story a lot, and
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I was like, yes, I'm on this healthy journey, and it took time for me
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to figure out how to make this stuff. The stuff that I brought went
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bad. Even when I tried it, it tastes disgusting. I didn't
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know what I was doing, so I said, all right, Celeste, let's just start with breakfast. I
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started making smoothies for breakfast, and over time, my
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taste palette started to change. and it
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tasted really well, it tasted so good. So from breakfast to
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lunch to dinner, that was, my daughter's 12, so that was about maybe
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11, 10 years ago. Today, like, I just, I can't do fast food. But
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like, give me some fresh greens, some kale, some couscous, like,
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you know, I'm on it. I love me some fresh food. Before, I just
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didn't realize how much that I,
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I needed it and because it was something that
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was foreign to me, I rejected it, right?
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So even like relationships, side note, like some
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people who's been through a lot of hard things and hard relationships, you'll
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tell yourself you want a healthy relationship, but then when that healthy person
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presents itself, you don't realize you start self-sabotaging. I
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literally did that. You would self-sabotage and
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not realize it, but there's this rejection that takes place
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because you're not used to chaos. You're not used to all the, I
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mean, you're used to chaos. You're used to trauma. So if none of
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that's happening, it's kind of scary. Even with your individual
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self, we're talking about getting grounded in chaos. I'm not getting off topic, but
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even with your individual self, when you start therapy, when you start
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working on yourself, It feels so hard. There's this rejection that
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takes place within your body. It's like, Celeste, wait, hold on for a second.
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What are we doing? The reason why that's happening is because
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you've been so used to living a certain way and your system's gotten
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so used to living a certain way that doing the opposite feels really
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scary. So one thing I need you to take
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out your vocabulary is I don't feel like it, right? Because feelings
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change, they waver. There's times where I want something sweet real
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quick, you know what I'm saying? I feel like it runs in my family after I eat,
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I need something sweet. And I've been fighting that sweet thing
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because that's what I want all the time. and it's been working,
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but 10 minutes later, that feeling goes away.
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I'd be like, all right, Celeste, you don't need it. You don't need it. Drive past, you don't need that bakery. And
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then by the time I get home, I'm good. So feelings are gonna
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change. They're gonna waver. So I need you to not think about what
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it feels like. So being in nature can really create
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a calming effect over your life in
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the moment. We're talking about getting into the moment. It could be really helpful.
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Another great resource is journaling. So
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writing down how you feel, being able
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to express your emotions and getting it out on paper can be
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super therapeutic. I have a guided journal that I
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created, but you don't have to get the journal in order to do this. You
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can get a notebook from the dollar store. You can use your phone,
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notes on your phone. I always share, these are questions
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that I ask my kids at night during our check-in time, is how are you
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feeling? What went well today? What did you do to prepare for tomorrow?
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and what are you grateful for? My goal is
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to help them create systems for themselves and
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to learn how to be in the moment on a daily basis because
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there's so many things happening and it's so easy for us
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to get distracted and not recognize what's going on in our life. So
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journaling is another great tool. So that's
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the fourth one. The fifth one is physical activity. Please,
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let's not talk about what we don't feel like doing because I don't want to hear that. Feeling
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like doing it and doing it are two different things. We go to work
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and we don't feel like doing it because we got to
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get paid and we got to pay those bills. When it comes to physical
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activity, I hear it a lot. I don't feel like it. Every
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day I do something physical, whether it's walking, going to the
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gym, doing something at my house. A
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lot of times, more times than not, I don't feel like doing
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it. But how is it, Celeste, that you're able to do
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it? Sometimes it's because I start first thing in the morning, but everybody doesn't have
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that luxury. But the main reason why I'm
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able to do things beyond what I feel like Especially with
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the physical activity because this is something that I really try to encourage My
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people to do because with your mental status what you feed
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your body Moving your body and sleep those
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three things. Let's forget about the chaos that's happening in the world feeding
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your body nutritious food moving your body and sleeping can
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affect your mental status and I just told you
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about how I don't have the same cramps anymore because
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of how clean I've been eating. So I want you to
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be mindful of the physical activity that you're doing. And
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if you don't do it, I need you to do it. And if
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you can focus on the reward after, how
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many times, I'm sure you could think how many times you have found
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yourself not feeling like going for a walk or
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working out. And afterwards you'd be like, dang, that felt good, man. I don't
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know why I don't do that on a regular basis. And for me,
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I get myself up, I do it, and
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I also know I'm going to feel good after. I've
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been doing it for so long that I know it. So it's easy for me to envision myself
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across the finish line. So if you haven't been
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used to doing any physical activity and you want to start, don't set
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the bar too high because I don't want you to psych yourself up and then feel
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bad that it can't happen as quickly as you want it to happen. But
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what I want you to do is try 15 minutes, right? Go outside, go
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for a 15 minute walk, even if it's up and down your street.
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If you're not ready to take that step outside, up and down your
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stairs, around your house. Be mindful of
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the physical activity that you're doing and make sure you are trying
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to do it because it really helps. There's something about
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moving things out of us, the toxins out of
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us, even when we're sick, You know how if peace
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sometimes people in the hospital try to get them to walk around and move a little bit before
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they leave Because they they recognize there's something powerful about
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moving your body like physically and mentally There's these endorphins that
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go off these happy happy things that happen in
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our system Um, so I want you to think about physical activity
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and it doesn't have to be the gym. It could be dancing It could
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be some yoga going go on youtube and type in yoga Go
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on youtube and and put a dance. I'd be i'd be um plugging youtube
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because it's free, you know They'd be trying to get me to get those ads. I still I
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mean get the um package. I still haven't gotten the package but Put
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some music on and just start dancing. We're decolonizing what
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what mental health looks like. We're decolonizing physical activity You
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don't need a nice. Um gym suit to move your
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body. You don't need um a peloton to move
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your body, you know Like, those things are nice,
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right? A nice gym suit, a nice Peloton is nice, but if
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you ain't got it, I don't want you to stop and tell yourself, well, when I
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get the Peloton, I'll do it. When my gym clothes come in, I'll do it. No,
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start moving your body now. So that's the fifth thing. And
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these are in no order. All of these things matter, right?
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And I want you to think about, like, what can I start today if none of them you've
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been doing? This next one is important, please. Like, digital
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detox. please do me
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a favor and check out how much screen time
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on your phone that you've been utilizing social media, that
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you've been playing games, because it's not just social media, games are
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addictive. And I get it, it's a nice way to distract,
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right? You're watching funny stuff. Sometimes, unfortunately,
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you're seeing trauma and that trauma can get addictive where you're watching
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and looking and reading the comments and going back and forth with people.
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A digital detox can be so therapeutic. I
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have screen time on my phone. Every
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15 minutes, if I'm on Instagram, it goes off and I'd be like, oh, it's
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been 15 minutes. I'm very intentional about
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how much I consume. Because I don't want what
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I'm consuming to consume me. I'm gonna say that again for the people in the back
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I am very intentional about what I consume Because I
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don't want the negative things that I'm consuming to consume me
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And so I'm constantly in engulfing myself in
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positivity in the mornings, you know my kids the house here
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they hear the motivational video going off as I'm working out and I really don't
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play about my mind because I recognize how fragile it is
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Especially in these chaotic times and I want to make sure that
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I'm feeding it with something healthy the things that I listen to
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I know what it is like these are things where I talk
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about but hearing it said to me and Letting it
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emerge in my mind is so powerful The
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next thing that we're talking about is a gratitude practice
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so we have four more Creating a
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gratitude practice can be extremely helpful
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when you are making time to think about what you're grateful for.
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it's hard for your mind to focus on what you don't have, right?
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If we're focusing on what we don't have, then we're
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never going to see what we have. We're never going to see the possibilities of
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what's possible. And it's so easy to go into
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this sucks and that's happening. You know, my
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friend, I said this before, but she said, you always know how to make You
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always know how to see the positive in things and it's not because I
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am naive to the reality of life. I just told you life is hard.
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I've been dealing with a lot of hard things, helping people walk through a
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lot of hard times. It's very hard. So
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it's not that I don't understand life is hard. Life is very hard.
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But I choose not to allow the hard things to consume me,
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right? I choose to look at the beauty in
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the struggle. I literally have a tattoo. that
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says it's beauty in the struggle. It's actually the first
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thing I got on my arm. J. Cole has a song. It's
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beauty in the struggle, ugliness in the success. It's love
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yours. And I remember hearing
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that song and it really touched me. And I
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said, I'm going to put that on my arm so I can see it every day. It's beauty in the struggle.
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20 years ago, if you said this to me, that would make no sense. I
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had to work my way up to this mindset. I'm always going to share that because I
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can be a very positive person, but I
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don't want you to think that it's because my life has been so easy. I don't
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want you to think it's because, oh, well, it's easy for you because you
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have all these things, you have this and that. No, it's not the things that
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created where I am. It's my intentionality with
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my mindset that got me to this place. Cause there's people with way more
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things than me that are way more miserable than you, you
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know? So it's not the things that allow
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for my mindset to be what it is. Um, it's
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really the gratitude and I'm
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very intentional about thinking about those things and
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reframing. I wanted to go for an
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hour walk and I only had 40 minutes. And I remember saying, oh,
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it was only 40 minutes as I'm looking at my timer. And then immediately
24:45
I was like, nah, Celeste, you did 40 minutes. It wasn't only 40 minutes,
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you did that. My voice is so powerful
24:52
that it's hard for you to change it. There's nothing you
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can say to me that can change how I feel because the
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voice in my head that I have is going on 24 seven.
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So I'm not going to let you change up how I feel. So
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creating a gratitude practice, the questions I
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ask my kids, what are you grateful for? That's
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one of the questions that I ask them and I am clear about today.
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What are you grateful for today? It forces them to go back into their
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day and think about what happened today and how they're grateful for
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it. So creating a gratitude practice can be extremely,
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extremely helpful. Connecting
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with others is a great one. I
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know that sometimes people don't have healthy people in their life and
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I'm not naive to that fact. I understand, you know, my
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closest friends I met as an adult. There
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are people that I grew up with that I don't talk to anymore. I
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recognize that we weren't in alignment, right? And I had to grieve that
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relationship and it's okay, those relationships. But
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connecting with others, if you have family support, that's great. If
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not, find a community online. There are so many positive
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communities that are going on. Currently, the
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stuff that I have is only in person, like the somatic classes at
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my wellness center, I'll talk about that at the end, are
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only in person. But my goal down the road
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is to create a digital platform,
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right, so people can practice the
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things that I'm offering, not just in person, but online. There
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are groups, there are free groups. NAMI is a great group in the United
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States. There's chapters in every state. And some states
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have Zoom components to it where you can
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join a support group online, right? So find
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your tribe, right? Try to connect with like-minded people.
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There's something powerful when you are connecting with like-minded people
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and they get it. It's like, oh yeah, you get that. I've
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helped people connect with different platforms and
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groups that are in alignment with what they're going through, whether it's
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eating disorder, some kind of addiction. And
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they come back and they're like, oh my God, it was so amazing. Like these
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people get it. Like they're my community. They're my family. And
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I want you to think about that. I know sometimes it's hard when you've
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been hurt, but staying by
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yourself in isolation, especially when you're struggling, is
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a really hard place to be because you'll find
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yourself starting to believe the negativity that's happening in your
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head. So if you are finding yourself very isolated,
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I would encourage you, even if you're not ready to do anything in
27:47
person, to find a digital online platform with
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like-minded people, whether you're going through depression, anxiety, some
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trauma, don't do it alone. I
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don't believe we were meant to do life alone. The
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last two things, creative outlets, that's
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really helpful. Engaging in things like painting, drawing,
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for people that are creative. I'm not a creative person. Well,
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I guess people would say I'm creative with some of the things that I do, but as far as
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like painting and drawing and stuff, it's just not my jam. But
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I have a lot of people that I know that I work with, they love it, like
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it's their jam. and my guided journal acts, how are you
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feeling? But I also have a little circle face where people can draw in
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how they're feeling, because I recognize that there are just creative people around
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the world. And when you're not tapping into that
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creativity, there's something inside you that feels like it's dying, right? Even
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if it's not about making money, there's some nurses that are
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saving lives, but they also are drawing and
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coloring because it just feels good to them. So Creative
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Outlets is something that can be really helpful. The
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last thing I wanna say about getting grounded, right? In the
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middle of chaos, right? Take what you can from this, right?
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Leave what doesn't work, but there are a lot of these
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things that I'm talking about are very practical or things that you can start
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right now in this very moment. But the last thing is establishing a
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routine. Creating structure in chaos is
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the best thing that you can do. When the pandemic happened, And
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um, I remember i'm like, I didn't know what was going on. We didn't know
29:23
what was going on But then i'm working with people helping them like and
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I said, you know what? Let's let's start with the routine Um
29:30
a routine allows your mind to settle down a little bit,
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right? so, um If all you do is go and
29:37
work go to work and come home try to create something where
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you're intentional about it, like a mindfulness practice, a gratitude
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practice, a walking thing, right? Try
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to allow yourself to create systems where
29:52
you're not just going the way with the wind blows. You know how like a leaf,
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the window's open, I'm looking outside, like a leaf can like fly,
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it's there, but then it's over there. If a wind comes, it's going to
30:03
blow there. Don't be like a leaf just like blowing everywhere,
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right? Be get grounded and
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getting grounded. You need some kind of systems. You need some kind
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of routines And you need some some times where you're
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allowing yourself to take care of yourself Because if you're not
30:20
doing that then when somebody calls you and they need something you
30:23
don't recognize. Oh wait I don't have the capacity to
30:26
do that now or even picking up the phone some of you are picking up the phone And
30:30
you're letting people vent and talk to you about things.
30:33
You don't want to talk about Work already left nine
30:37
to five is seven o'clock and y'all still talking about the same thing And
30:41
you're trying to figure out why you can't sleep why you're ruminating on work
30:45
why it's sunday and you're thinking about oh my gosh I gotta
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go to work monday. So then you don't enjoy sunday Create
30:52
a routine. Start to be intentional
30:56
about what you put your focus on, because your mind can
30:59
only go at the pace that you take it. If you are not allowing your mind to
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bring in gratitude, to smell the roses, to be
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in the sun, to journal, to be
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creative, if you're not allowing your mind to do that, and you're
31:13
just scrolling on social media, playing games, and
31:17
watching the news, then that's where your mind is gonna be. Your
31:21
mind's going to be like a leaf, which what's happening today, if I'm
31:24
in this place, all right, we're fearful today. But if
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that's not the life you want, then you have to work on creating systems
31:32
for yourself. So I hope this was
31:35
helpful. I hope this makes sense. I
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want to share some of the offerings that we have coming up for July at
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my center. If you are in the Stoughton
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area, if you go to my website, stwyt.com, you
31:50
can find it and I'm on the MindBody app. So
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excited about that. But I'm going to share some of the offerings we
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have. So our last offering for June is a
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sound healing class by Jillian. And
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this is going to be great. So, you know, these classes, they
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help with anxiety, it helps calm your body down.
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So this is happening Thursday, June 26. These
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classes are happening once a month that I'm about to talk about. So,
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um, we have rest and restore that's happening July 1st,
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I believe. And then, um, we also have a, so
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rest and restore is a gentle practice with a guided experience that
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combines, uh, breath work and chair yoga. and
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a calming meditation. It helps relieve tension and
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stress. We also have a mindful yin. And
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this is basically combined stillness and
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mindfulness meditation. So we're using our breath and awareness to
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connect with our body. We also have a restorative
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yoga class. This is a gentle meditative practice
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That uses props like blankets and bolsters to support the
32:57
body. And you're held in different spaces, a very relaxing,
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recharged space to be in. And
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then we added this new monthly class that we had last month and
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it's actually a trauma-informed yoga. So
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if you have struggled with some trauma, this is a really good class
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and we have an amazing practitioner that runs this class,
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but a trauma-informed yoga. So
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it's for a gentle grounding class designed to help you reconnect with your
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body's wisdom. Our body has wisdom, right? Just
33:30
because things have happened doesn't mean that we can't change. the
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algorithm of our body don't believe what the people told you i'm telling
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you right now if you're still breathing there's room for change um the
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slow flow practice emphasizes choice consent and safety supporting
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your nervous system regulation body awareness and self-compassion Um,
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and then, um, another class, um, we're having this month is
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befriending the inner critic cultivating self-compassion. So
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if you struggle with your inner dialogue, you know, I said today, my
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inner dialogue is a beast. Like you can't tell me anything other
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than what I know I am. Um, but this is focused on
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shame resilience and internal dialogue, starting with a short talk on
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the inner critic and reframing exercises with changing your
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inner dialogue, moving into a heart opening trauma informed Slow
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flow and ending with a medal of kindness meditation. Um, so
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all of these classes are on the website Um, my website
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is stwyt.com as you can see on the screen Um,
34:28
and you can also follow me everywhere at celeste the therapist I
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also want to share my website
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so you can kind of see how it works. And
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let me just share my screen really quick and then we're gonna
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go. So if you go to stwyt.com, you'll see this
34:48
right here. And as you can see, the next class is happening is
34:51
a sound healing class. But if you go to events right
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here, you will see the, the
35:00
monthly calendar. And like today, there's no class,
35:03
but if you look for Thursday, there is a sound healing
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class. And all you got to do is go to book and it will show
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you a description of the class. And once you confirm it,
35:14
you will be able to sign into MindBody and book it. My
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goal, you know, my goal is to have classes throughout the
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week, right? So we started with one, then two, then three.
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Now we have four monthly classes. I
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added a fifth one. You can look at the full calendar and
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like our next class is July 1st, I believe. So
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I'm gonna go here. And here it is right
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here. And then if you scroll down, you
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can see it this way
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too, where it gives you descriptions of the classes and
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you can look at the schedule that way as
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well. Um, so stwit.com you
35:59
can find those everywhere I just want to say, you know Thank you
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so much for rocking out with me if anything I ever say resonates for
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you understand you have the power to create change But first you
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got to have faith to believe in yourself And when you have faith when you
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start believing in yourself, I promise you nobody can take that away from you, baby Thank
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you all so much for rocking with me. Don't forget. I'm on Instagram Facebook YouTube These
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