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Be Your Own Spiritual Super Hero · Spunky Spirit with Cari Mugz

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Hello and welcome to this week's episode of Spunky Spirit. I am psychic Medium,
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carry mugs and this week we are going to talk about spiritual self sabotage.
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So we all kind of know what self sabotage is. It's when we
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are afraid of things or we kind of self We self sabotage ourselves. We
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unknowingly do things that make it so we can't complete our goals, or we
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can't do the things that we want to in life, or that stops us
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from attaining the life we want. Spiritual self sabotage is the same thing.
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There's a certain goal we want to get to spiritually, or that we're starting
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to get into our awakening and sometimes our and we stop it because we get
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nervous or we get fearful. And this is really common, especially in the
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spiritual realm, because when you're trying to work on your spiritual gifts or you're
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trying to work on your spiritual awakening, sometimes we can self sabotage that because
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we don't want change, and spiritual awakenings and spiritual growth may come with a
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lot of changes, and we know we think what we want, but then
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when things start to happen, because spiritual growth is an inside job, then
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we don't want to go through the work or the shadow work or the work
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to get to the growth. Because spiritual growth is we feel like it's an
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outside thing and we feel like it connects us better, but really the connection
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is within ourselves, and the connection is to our own soul, which raises
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our frequency and makes us spiritually advanced in a in the outside. So what
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we create on the inside is what helps us ad balance on the outside.
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And so it's really hard because we self sabotage our spiritual growth because of fear
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and fear of change and fear of all the stuff. So regular self sabotage
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is when you hinder your own success, right, So this could be in
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a relationship or in a career, in family, things you hinder your own
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success because you don't want to change. So some you know, some self
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sabotage in relationships is when you don't want to feel the hurt or the pain,
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so you break up first. I was really really good at doing that
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sometimes. And some ways that we do that we do self sabotage. Is
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we with procrastination, we put it off. We say we're going to do
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it, but we put it off. And this is with anything. This
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is so a lot of times this self sabotage stuff is only not with spiritual
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stuff too, but with our own lives. So if this is like in
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any corner of your life, like your career, which could be a spiritual
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career, or with your family, or with relationships, then this is this
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is It can be any kind of self sabotage. But I want to focus
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on a little bit of spiritual self sabotage because lots of people are starting to
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awaken or see the number sequences and do the things. And they want to
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do the work because they want to grow and they want to be more spiritual,
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but they don't want to do the deep work, the shadow work,
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and so that that hinders them or stops them. When in reality, when
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you come out on the other side of that, it is so beautiful and
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so worth it. You just don't feel like it when you're going in it
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and when you're doing it, when you're going through the work. So probably
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procrastination is a big one. Like perfect perfectionism, it has to be perfect,
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it has to be the way you want to And that's the one thing
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about this is when you are growing in a career, or when you're growing
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in a relationship, or when you're going in your spiritual wakening, it is
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not going to go. Especially in a spiritual wakening, you feel like this
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is how it's supposed to go. This is the way it's supposed to go.
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I'm supposed to learn this thing. I'll buy some crystals. It's gonna
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be this, it's gonna beautiful, it's gonna be rabels and roses. And
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that is not how it goes. So you get defeated and you feel like
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there's something wrong, and so you stop, you stop doing the spiritual growth
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because that's not perfect. And this is where you lose control. So you
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feel like you're at a loss of control. And for people who need control,
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this is really really hard, really really hard. So and also to
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self criticism because you think it's supposed to go a certain way in your head.
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This is kind of like the perfectionism. You think it's supposed to go
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a certain way in your head, and when it doesn't go that way,
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you want to quit, or you want to stop, or you think it's
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too hard. And this is super common, especially with spiritual growth, because
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spiritual growth, I think I was teaching a class one time and one of
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my students was like, because I was trying to explain, you got to
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do some shadow and shadow work is you got to figure you gotta love all
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parts of yourself. You got to figure out how to love all the parts
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of yourself that went through the trauma and all the parts of yourself that maybe
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didn't handle the trauma okay, and you got the I mean, there's no
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right or wrong way to handle trauma, right, so you have got to
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love all of those. So when I was going through maybe some of my
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divorce trauma, I have figured out in some of my counseling that I don't
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feel like now I handled it very well, and I look back and see,
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you know, I could have handled that a lot differently, but that's
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who I was at the time. Now, I could stop and stop doing
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that counseling, but I know that that counseling is a trigger or shadow work
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that I need to get through to help me deal with now because I need
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to love who I was during the divorce person even though I would have I
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would do it differently. Now, I need to love all aspects of me
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to grow spiritually because now I'm going to hit a spiritual growth spurt or hit
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a spiritual thing that's going to trigger, and I've got to be able to
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love who I was or who I got to be able to love that person
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regardless, because it's all about loving unconditionally, especially ourselves. So now if
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I go into some sort of spiritual growth and I get triggered because of who
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I was or how I acted back, then I've got to be able to
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look at that person, look at that part of me, and give myself
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grace and know that I did the best. Instead of just stopping and being
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like, Okay, I don't want to do this anymore, I don't want
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to confront that because on the outside of that is I've got to face that
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I didn't handle it very well. I could have handled it better and I've
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got to do some self examination. And even though I'm older and I would
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have handled it different now, I still got to be able to love the
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person, love who I was then, because you know what, I did
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the best that I could then. So that's what that's kind of what the
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self sabotage is. I could get to that part and be like, I
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don't want to do this, and so I don't want to grow anymore spiritually.
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Now, why do you have to deal Because a lot of people are
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like, you know that's in the back, that doesn't And I used to
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be one of those people. I used to be one of those people that
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are like, you know what that was in the past. I want to
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let that go and just be forward. But sometimes you have to deal with
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your past to move forward because there's going to be things coming in your forward
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that are going to trigger that and you're not going to get past it because
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you didn't deal with it, you didn't process it. So I used to
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be a big believer in let's just move on and let's not bring it up
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and let's not dwell on it. And I don't If I don't, am
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not going through something that I don't need to process that. So the reason
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why I needed to process that is because I was having issues with family gatherings
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and I needed to because I thought that I wasn't good enough at these family
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gatherings or I needed to handle them. I needed to control them somehow.
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And it's because of my guilt and my shame that I felt. This is
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kind of getting too into me, but I'm trying to make it a point
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why you have to why you have to maybe dig up some of that stuff
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to get through these present time things that were causing me anxiety. I had
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to figure out where they were coming from, and that's where they were coming
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from. Now. Do I need to just go into the past and be
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like, oh, remember all that stuff that happened to me, I need
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to figure out that stuff. No, I don't have to bring it up
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if it's not hindering for moving forward now. But because it was hindering from
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me for moving forward now, it was me self sabotaging family get togethers.
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It was me not wanting to get together as a family with my family because
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I didn't like the way I handled it. I had some shame around some
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stuff that I had done in the past, so I had to figure out
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how to get past that so I could have my family gatherings now be okay.
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So it's not something I just was like, Oh, I got to
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figure that out. It was something that that that I'm having trouble with dealing
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with this right now. I got to figure out why, and I got
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to figure at where it comes from, and I got to figure out how
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to love that person that made that mistake or did that. So that's what
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we self sabotage ourselves with We and a lot of aspects were like, well,
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I'm just going to stop having bad family gatherings and I'm not going to
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grow anymore as a person spiritually, and I'm not going to go because I
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don't want to do that shadow work. So that's why we stop. That's
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why our girls stops, because we don't want to go. It's too painful.
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It's too painful to remember that time, and it's too painful to remember
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why you did the things you did back then, and so you self sabotage
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and you don't want to grow anymore and you stop. And it's same with
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our work. Same thing with our work. We stop. We stop in
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our careers. We don't want to go any further. We tell ourselves we
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do, and we keep going, but then we procrastinate, or then we
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repeatedly show up late to meetings, or we are afraid because we feel like
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we don't deserve the success because of the way we handle situations in our past.
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And so this is why we've got to be at one with who we
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are and love ourselves unconditionally. We got to love the part of us that
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made those mistakes, love the part of us that wasn't always perfect. And
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so the self sabashaws comes with constantly trying to control, trying to be perfect,
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not thinking you're good enough, not thinking you deserve to take up space
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and everybody else does, which so a lot of our empathic traits that we
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have are really caused. A lot we are empathic, and we can fill
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other people's stuff, but some of them, some of them are caused by
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some of the childhood trauma or some of the stuff we went to when we
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were younger, and some of us had really good lives and didn't have any
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childhood trauma. So we are like but we still seem to self sabotage.
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We still seem to think we're not deserving of the success, or we're not
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deserving of the spiritual frequency or higher raisan frequency, or we don't deserve to
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be have those gifts that a medium does, or we don't deserve to have
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the psychic gifts, or we don't deserve In reality, we do. We
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are all equal, No one is lesser, more superior, or inferior than
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us, and we all have gifts, spiritual gifts to tap into. And
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what we do is we think we're not good enough, or we think that
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all of this stuff, and we and we self sabotage ourselves becoming our best
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selves, and we self sabotage and stepping into our own power because we're holding
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on to this this are not so great selves, not perfect selves, not
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And we try and control the narrative. We try and control how it's going
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to turn out, or I want it to turn out this way without going
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through all this stuff and so and that's kind of impossible, and so we
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kind of either quit or we decide it's too hard, or we just don't
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want to deal with it. We don't want to deal with it, we
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don't want to deal with the change. Because when you spiritually grow, there's
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a lot of changes that happen, you lose and gain some friends, different
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friends, different family members, and some of us don't want to go through
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that, and so or we don't want to go through them what other people
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are going to think of us? Or I remember trying to when I first
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became a medium, I was so fearful of what people were going to think.
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And it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it was going to be.
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I created this narrative that was completely crazy and and honestly, it was
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like one of the mess the best things I ever did. And I did
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lose some friends, but I gained a whole bunch more that believed and loved
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me for who I was. So it's kind of like that. We don't
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want the change, so we procrastinate, and we we particularly stop ourselves from
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growing, or we say I can't afford to go to counseling, or I
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can't, or I don't want to do the meditation, or I don't and
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a lot of times too, since I brought up meditation, I want to
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talk to you about this. A lot of people are afraid of their spiritual
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growth because they're afraid of the dark side of not just their inner but the
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dark side of lower frequency of spirits. They're afraid of the scary paranormal stuff
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that's that they're going to be able to see or they're going to be able
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to So a lot of times when you confront that stuff, a lot of
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time it's your own stuff inside of you trying to come out, and a
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lot of times it can be outside spiritual frequencies trying to mess with you.
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Because there are good everything, just like people, there's good and bad spirits,
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and good and bad, good and bad people and good and bad spirits.
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And when you are at a higher frequency, then you can like,
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for instance, when people sometimes are starting to meditate, they don't like the
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feeling of meditation. They don't like the feeling of kind of coming maybe out
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of your body or feeling the higher frequency, and so they stop. And
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the thing is is that's something you have to work through to It's not always
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a bad thing, it's just it's just different. We're not used to it,
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right, so we think of, Okay, I'm not used to this.
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I'm not sure what this is, so I don't want to do this
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anymore. This makes me feel uncomfortable, and so we don't like that uncomfortableness.
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And I'm just telling you to paranormal stuff. You are so much stronger
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than any of those lower frequencies and you can step into your power and you
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have so much, so much more power than them. And a lot of
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times it's not even that, it's just that it's something different. It's something
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that it's uncommon, and we feel a certain way, and so we get
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scared and so we shut it down completely. And that's exactly that's not really
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what's happening. It's just that you're not used to stepping into your power.
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You're not used to stepping into this higher frequency, and it's uncomfortable. It's
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not the way that you like to feel. And because sometimes you feel like
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a frequency raise or you feel a vibration, or you feel a certain way
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during a meditation, and some people get nervous and they get scared, so
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they want to stop. And so that's the same thing. Is like doing
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inner work. You you don't want to feel that, you don't want to
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feel that uncomfortableness. And most of the time that's how why we self sabotage,
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because we don't want to feel that change or that uncomfortableness. And I'm
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telling you if you knew the power that you had, or you knew just
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what your light was like and what you bring to the table and how powerful
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you are. It's every superhero's journey, right, they call it the superhero's
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journey. You grow up or you're in an an uncomfortable circumstance or a comfortable
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circumstance that you don't really want to change, and then you go through this
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kind of growth thing or spiritual thing or very super powerful thing and this trial
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that you have to conquer, and then when you get at the other end
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of it, you come out being so much more. Every movie, every
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super hero journey is about this. They're all the same. They're all like,
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you start out being kind of a nobody or nobody knows you, or
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you're in a mediocracy, secret you know situation, and then you go through
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this big trial and you go through this, you really test yourself and see
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who you are, and you get become you overcome this obstacle, and then
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you become the superhero because you find your strength and your power. And this
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is this is everything in life. This is if you want to create anything
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successful in your career or in your relationship or on your spiritual journey. You
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are going to embark on a superhero's journey. You are, and people don't
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like the middle part. They don't like the uncomfortableness, they don't like the
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the so they self sabotage. They say they're not good enough to do it,
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or they're not perilful enough, or they give up. And to reach
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the superhero, the superhero outcome, you have to get past the middle of
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the journey, the part that's the hardest. And so don't give up.
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Don't stop just because it feels uncomfortable, or don't because there were times during
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this mediumship journey that I was like, I don't really want to do this,
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And there's still times that I'm like, oh my gosh, do I
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have enough in me to do this part? Do I? It's like once
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And that's the thing about spiritual journey or spiritual growth is once you conquer one
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superhero journey, you gotta go to another one. Just like any superhero,
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there is always a villain. There's always another villain that you have to fight
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or conquer, and that's just kind of what this is. There's resting periods,
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but there's just always this. And so when you give up. That's
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when you kind of self sabotage because you're just not up to doing the middle
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part. Right. So so your superhero journey is an amazing one and you
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just have to Every superhero has to figure out their power, has to tap
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into their power. And you all have it. You all have it,
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We all have it. So the ways that you can get through this is
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knowing that there's gonna be uncomfortable parts in the journey and you can rest for
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a minute. You can be like, Okay, I need to take a
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break from this, and you can rest for a minute, but don't give
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up, don't stop and understanding what what your weaknesses and your strengths. Every
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super every superhero has a weakness and a strength, and they don't they don't
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they use their strengths. So Superman, his his weakness is kryptonite, so
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he stays away from it. He knows he needs to stay away from it.
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Now he knows that that kryptonite comes from his own planet, something that's
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inside of him, right, But he also knows that it's hard to survive
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it. So he knows he knows that it's not something he can overcome,
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so he's got to stay away from it as and knowledge is power. So
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if you know, okay, just like I knew, I didn't know at
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first that my family gatherings were I was struggling with them. I didn't know
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it was because of something that I dealt with in the past. But on
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my journey I realized that it was. So I had to conquer that thing
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that happened or the thing that I that I went through during the divorce.
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I had to conquer it and love myself regardless, so I could get past
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it now. And that's kind of how the crypt But I know that that's
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my kryptonite now. So I know because I knew, and because I've learned
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it, I know how to, I know how to navigate it, and
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I know how to if it's something I need to stay completely away from or
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and I need to build a boundary around that, or if it's something that
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I can ease up and kind of contribute. So would my So would the
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kryptonite make me be like, Okay, I'm not going to have any more
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family gatherings because this is what causes me to have anxiety? Or do I
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want to have family gatherings and figure out how to make it work for me,
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right. So Superman knew kryptonite wasn't going to work for him, so
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he's got to stay away from it. But he does know that he can
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conquer other things and become aware of that and go around that. Right.
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So that's kind of how our spiritual journey is, we know, and that's
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what the kryptonite kind of honestly symbolizes our boundaries, so we can create this
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is what I don't want to happen, or this is what I don't want
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to do, but I know I can't give up. I can't give up.
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So the way that you can can get through some of this the Superhero's
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journey without self sabotaging, is boost your self esteem. Know that you are
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so powerful. You have all that you need already inside of you. And
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I say that over and over again because it's so true. And if you
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need to go to counseling to work through some of those boundaries, do that.
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If you need to do words of affirmation and continually tell yourself every day
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in the mirror, I am enough, I am good enough, and tell
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you absolutely believe it. I used to hate words of affirmation because I thought
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that there were a bunch of bs but they're not. They're absolutely true.
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If you can look at yourself in the mirror every morning and look into your
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eyes and say I love you, you are good enough, they start to
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work because your mind starts to believe it. So affirmations are huge. And
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befriend yourself, which means love yourself, every single freakin' part of yourself,
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the back part that didn't handle situations very good, the past parts, the
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past parts that went through all of that, the good and the bad of
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you, the good and the bad. You have to love and be your
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best friend. And sometimes we're our worst enemy. Sometimes we like I can
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sit to a friend and say this and this and this happened, and I
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am so down on myself, and my friend can be like, but you
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got to remember this, and you got to remember this. You need to
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be your best friend. You need to talk to yourself like you would a
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friend and say, give yourself some pricking grace on this, really, honestly,
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be gentle with yourself. Make small goals, and really, instead of
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just making a goal, make little action plans, little tiny baby steps.
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Not the whole elephant at one time, but little tiny baby steps to get
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there. The things that you are capable of doing things that you know that
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you are going to be out of your comfort zone, but that you're going
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to be able to do really small baby steps, like if you have a
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hard time getting out of your house, then don't make one of your goals
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to go to a big party. Make one of your goals to go for
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a walk around the block. Like, know what your boundaries are, know
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what you are capable of doing, and go a little bit above and beyond
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that, not a whole bunch at a time, and make small changes because
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we all all hate change, right, So instead of like saying I am
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going to it's just like working out, I'm going to start if you like,
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put a whole big I'm gonna do this strict diet and I'm going to
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do this exercise every day, and then you do it for three days and
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then you're exhausted. So don't do that. Just say I am going to
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change up my lunch and I'm going to go for a ten minute walk.
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So spiritually, just be like I am going to meditate for two minutes and
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it's going to be in the shower, or don't don't wake up one day
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and say, okay, I'm going to meditate for one whole hour, and
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I like, don't just do little tiny things. Just do I'm going to
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do a self meditation or a meditation, a guided meditation for five minutes every
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day. It doesn't have to be an hour, and I'm going to do
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it on my walk because you can have you can have active meditations too.
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I'm the best meditations I've ever had is during runs, when I I would
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when I used to run, when I was training for a marathon. So
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know your strength, know your weaknesses, and don't I mean, you want
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to work on your weaknesses, but you don't if you know you're going to
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fail, if you know it's kryptonite and you're not going to be able to
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get past it, then don't. Don't. Don't mess with it. Don't
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mess with it, and know your own power. Really, this is the
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this is the one that I just wish you knew. I wish you every
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day I could just let you know how freaking strong, powerful you are,
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and how loved you are. If you could see your light. Everybody has
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a light. Everybody has the light. It's either your aura or your life
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of Christ. It's part of the creator. If you could see that,
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you would know, you would know how unstoppable you are. If you could
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see your spiritual team behind you, you would you would be so unafraid of
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things. You would be have no fear. If you knew the power and
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strength you had spiritually, and the power and the strength you had behind you
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every single day, you would know your strength, and you would know your
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worth, and you would be un unstoppable. And so that's what I want
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you to remember, is know your power, step into your power, and
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love who you are, all parts of you, because you are so deserving
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and so so worth it. So I just I just wish you could see
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the parts of you that your spiritual team sees or that other people see,
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because because it's amazing. So I hope that helps. I hope that that
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helps you get past your spiritual blocks or your spiritual self sabotage, because you
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freaking got this and you have everything you need already inside of you. So
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and I teach a class this I think April twenty, I can't even remember
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the date. I think it's the twenty sixth of the twenty around the twenty
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April. It's a Thursday night, and I teach it's a local class stepping
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in to your power. I also do have an online class coming up May.
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I think it's second and it is an online class about your spirit guides
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and how you can connect to them and how you can help how they can
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help you on this journey. So one's online ones in person if you're interested
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in that. Because your spiritual guides are there, they want you to step
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into your power. They want you to know that they're around. So I
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love you guys so much and I will talk to you guys next week