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Rock-a-bye Baby with Amanda Stanton · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: So years ago, in a time far far away, our
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  Speaker 2: guest today and I were on the same season of
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  Speaker 2: The Bachelor. Amanda Stanton, thank you so much for coming
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  Speaker 2: on Almost Famous.
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  Speaker 3: Hi, thanks for having me.
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  Speaker 2: It's really good to catch up with you. I'm really
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  Speaker 2: excited for you. You are a great follow on social media,
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  Speaker 2: so I feel like, even though you and I maybe
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  Speaker 2: haven't spoken, it's probably been three years, I keep up
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  Speaker 2: with your life and so I feel like I know
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  Speaker 2: what's going on. But I can't wait to be here
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  Speaker 2: with you today to really get the details of what's
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  Speaker 2: happening in the world of Amanda.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. I know. Last time I came on the podcast,
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  Speaker 3: actually you weren't in town, so I was just talking
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  Speaker 3: to ash So it's been a while.
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  Speaker 2: Well, okay, obviously there's some very obvious big announcements in
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  Speaker 2: your life. You recently just had a baby. Can you
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  Speaker 2: walk us through kind of what this experience was like
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  Speaker 2: where you're at now, just kind of give us a
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  Speaker 2: little insight into what you know, what exists in your
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  Speaker 2: world today.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. So it's funny actually because it's I get married
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  Speaker 3: in twenty twenty two, and we originally were like, let's
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  Speaker 3: wait until like our one year anniversary and then start trying.
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  Speaker 3: But then I started just I'm a very like anxious person.
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  Speaker 3: I always like think of a million different scenarios in
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  Speaker 3: my head. So I was like, maybe we should start
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  Speaker 3: trying a little sooner, just because you don't know how
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  Speaker 3: long it's going to take. So it ended up happening
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  Speaker 3: a little bit sooner. But I had a really good,
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  Speaker 3: easy pregnancy. Honestly felt very long, but other than that,
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  Speaker 3: it was good. And then we had Rosie last month.
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  Speaker 3: She's a month old now, which is crazy. I don't
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  Speaker 3: know how it's going by so fast.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know necessarily how to ask this question.
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  Speaker 2: But obviously when you and I met, you had a
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  Speaker 2: little family unit, Like you had a little family, and
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  Speaker 2: you were a great mom, Your daughters had big personalities.
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  Speaker 2: You guys were like best friends.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 2: You and I were talking a second ago about like
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  Speaker 2: Jess and I's you know, plan for a future family.
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  Speaker 2: And one of my biggest concerns is I've gotten really
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  Speaker 2: used to at thirty four years old, like just being me,
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  Speaker 2: like it's me, you know, And now I'm getting used
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  Speaker 2: to being me and Jess, and you know what that
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  Speaker 2: looks like. It's it brings me like a lot of
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  Speaker 2: anxiety to think of what it now looks like to
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  Speaker 2: bring in a kid to that scenario. So I guess
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  Speaker 2: my question for you is, when we first met, you
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  Speaker 2: had this family unit. You guys had gotten really good
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  Speaker 2: together and really used to being together. And now that
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  Speaker 2: unit has expanded, what has that been like.
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  Speaker 3: It's actually funny that you say that, because I feel like,
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  Speaker 3: I mean, you know, like back years ago, like when
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  Speaker 3: I was on the show, I got a lot of
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  Speaker 3: like judgment for being like single mom on the show,
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  Speaker 3: young mom whatever. And I feel like even this time
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  Speaker 3: when I was pregnant, people are like, are you It's
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  Speaker 3: going to be so much easier for you this time
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  Speaker 3: now that you're like married and you have help and
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  Speaker 3: you're older. And it's so funny because and not to
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  Speaker 3: scare you, it's actually it's very easy this time. I
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  Speaker 3: feel like I'm a lot more patient and stuff. But
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  Speaker 3: when you're younger, like it is so easy because I
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  Speaker 3: mean I was twenty one, so I didn't have that,
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  Speaker 3: like I'm so used to living like my whole adult
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  Speaker 3: life only having tory about myself, like I had kids
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  Speaker 3: like from so early on, so it was all I
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  Speaker 3: knew and it was really easy. But now with the girls,
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  Speaker 3: I mean I was nervous mostly about like starting over
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  Speaker 3: because of the age gap. So Charlie just turned ten
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  Speaker 3: and kids will be twelve in April, and it doesn't
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  Speaker 3: really feel like I'm starting over. It actually feels easier
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  Speaker 3: because before I did two under two and now I
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  Speaker 3: just have like one baby, which feels like super easy
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  Speaker 3: to me. But that was my biggest fear, and it's
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  Speaker 3: it hasn't happened yet. It's pretty easy so far.
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  Speaker 2: We were ecstatic here with the birth of Rosie. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: it's it's such a cool thing to witness and it's
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  Speaker 2: really cool for you know, for me to witness and
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  Speaker 2: talk about with that actually just seeing everybody's lives move
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  Speaker 2: in a direction that it was supposed to, you know that,
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  Speaker 2: like you know, see all this come full cycle, and
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  Speaker 2: so you know, speaking of full cycle, obviously now there
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  Speaker 2: is a ten year age gap and you have a
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  Speaker 2: ten and twelve year old. What have they been like
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  Speaker 2: with Rosie? Like has it been Are they making it
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  Speaker 2: easier on you?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, they're obsessed with her. I feel like they think
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  Speaker 3: she's like their little baby doll. They always want to
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  Speaker 3: take care of her. They want to hold her all
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  Speaker 3: the time, beat her, change her diapers. And it's so
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  Speaker 3: funny because when I was pregnant too, people were like, Oh,
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  Speaker 3: they're going to be like such a big help, and
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  Speaker 3: I wasn't really sure if they would be a help
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  Speaker 3: or if they'd be kind of like uninterested in a
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  Speaker 3: baby because they're at the age where they have friends
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  Speaker 3: and sports and stuff, but they're obsessed. They've actually been
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  Speaker 3: such a big help, which has been nice.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like it has to be one of the
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  Speaker 2: coolest things as a parent to see that, like to
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  Speaker 2: know that you cared for the two of them, that
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  Speaker 2: you're still caring for the two of them, but now
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  Speaker 2: to see them, you know, kind of use the skills
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  Speaker 2: that you showed them by being a mother to care for,
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  Speaker 2: you know, their new sister.
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  Speaker 3: Right. No, it's so sweet. I cry at least at
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  Speaker 3: least twice a day, just like watching him. It's the
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  Speaker 3: sweetest thing.
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's talk about Michael for a second. Obviously, you
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  Speaker 2: guys did get married in twenty twenty two. Yes, you know,
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  Speaker 2: social media tells a piece of the story. It looked
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  Speaker 2: like a beautiful dating relationship into a wonderful wedding and
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  Speaker 2: a terrific marriage. What has it been like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: for you to have you know now Michael with like
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  Speaker 2: the three of you, you know, I guess the four
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  Speaker 2: of you now? Like, how has it been helpful? Has
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  Speaker 2: it been weird? At times? How is he as a dad?
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  Speaker 3: He's he's so good. Well, I kind of, you know,
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  Speaker 3: I got to see him kind of as a dad
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  Speaker 3: beforehand with kNs in chart, but it's different at the
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  Speaker 3: ages they're at than like with the baby. But he's
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  Speaker 3: so good, he's so helpful, he's like the on top
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  Speaker 3: of everything. He's actually he's watching her in the office
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  Speaker 3: right now. But he's such a good dad. And he's
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  Speaker 3: so great with the kids, the older kids.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, he's good's it's really it's really special for
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  Speaker 2: me to see you meet a guy like him. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know HI might have met him, but he
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  Speaker 2: seems like a terrific, you know, guy who loves obviously
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  Speaker 2: you and the family so much. Uh have you has
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  Speaker 2: that changed? I guess experiencing that love, Like has that
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  Speaker 2: changed you at all.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. I Mean it's funny too, because it's one of
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  Speaker 3: those things like how I felt when we started dating
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  Speaker 3: was kind of like I looked back at all these
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  Speaker 3: other things that I had been like looking for before,
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  Speaker 3: and I was like, oh, like this is how it's
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  Speaker 3: supposed to be. But even like with the kids. One
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  Speaker 3: thing that I thought was like really different was I
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  Speaker 3: feel like back in my single mom days when I
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  Speaker 3: was dating, I'd always look for someone who's like really like,
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  Speaker 3: you know, fun with the kids and like, I don't know,
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  Speaker 3: just good with the kids, like in a different way.
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  Speaker 3: Whereas like Michael came along and like he's a little
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  Speaker 3: more like strict and he has like these rules, and
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  Speaker 3: I feel like it's been so good. I'm like I
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  Speaker 3: was never even looking for that, which is like something
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  Speaker 3: that's so important now. So he's definitely changed, you know,
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  Speaker 3: kind of how I view things.
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  Speaker 2: How does that like, how does that work?
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  Speaker 3: Like?
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  Speaker 2: How do you We just spoke with Braiden Christina, who
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  Speaker 2: recently got engaged at the Golden Wedding. Christina, you know,
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  Speaker 2: has a daughter Braiden has now moved into that has
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  Speaker 2: now moved into the house. They were talking a little
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  Speaker 2: bit about like assimilating as a unit, and what does
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  Speaker 2: a co parenting look like? Yeah, kind of how how
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  Speaker 2: did that look for you as you did kind of
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  Speaker 2: bring in somebody that maybe wasn't what you thought you
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  Speaker 2: were looking for, who maybe did want to put down
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  Speaker 2: some like boundaries that you'd never you know, thought of
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  Speaker 2: and had different expectations.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, it kind of was something that happened gradually.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like, it's not something like you can start
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  Speaker 3: dating someone and make it come in and like have
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  Speaker 3: all these rules and start like disciplining your kids or something.
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  Speaker 3: It's kind of something that just like evolved naturally over time.
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  Speaker 3: But it's been it's been good. I mean I feel
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  Speaker 3: like when he first moved in, obviously we took things
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  Speaker 3: a little bit slower. We actually he didn't move in
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  Speaker 3: actually until after we were engaged. But now it's it's actually
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  Speaker 3: been so helpful. Like there's so many little things like
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  Speaker 3: that he's stricter about that didn't even realize we're like
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  Speaker 3: so chaotic in my life like how I used to parent.
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  Speaker 3: So it's been nice and it's been good for the
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  Speaker 3: kids too.
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  Speaker 2: And it's I mean, you guys are living where.
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  Speaker 3: Now, we're still in Orange County.
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  Speaker 2: You're in Orange County, Okay. So you've you've got your
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  Speaker 2: place together, the family set up in Orange County. The
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  Speaker 2: connections are still there. Your nowork is still is that
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  Speaker 2: where he's from?
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  Speaker 3: He actually he was born and raised in New York, Okay,
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  Speaker 3: and then he moved out. He was in LA for
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  Speaker 3: a long time for like thirteen years, and then his
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  Speaker 3: family moved to LA. And then now we're in Orange.
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  Speaker 2: County and so you know your family and lives where
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  Speaker 2: in Orange Conie. Also, so you have everybody around. Has
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  Speaker 2: that been awesome?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's the best. I always say, like I would
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  Speaker 3: never be able to move just because I couldn't leave
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  Speaker 3: my parents and my sister. And it's great.
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  Speaker 2: They come over and help, like they want to be
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  Speaker 2: around the girls, they want to come over and hang out. Still.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, I see my family like multiple times
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  Speaker 3: a week. I talk to my mom like fifteen times
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  Speaker 3: a day. Like it's slightly slightly crazy.
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  Speaker 2: That's okay. We both really appreciate having, you know, adult
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  Speaker 2: children that are very much still in contact with parents.
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  Speaker 2: We find that here at almost Famos podcast very healthy. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it makes a lot more fun. I think for me,
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  Speaker 2: that's one thing I'm worried about. Right. I live in Denver,
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  Speaker 2: my parents live in Indiana, her parents live in Nashville.
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  Speaker 2: We're so far away, so you know, that's always something
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  Speaker 2: on the back of our minds too, of getting that
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  Speaker 2: support from you know, the grandparents.
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  Speaker 3: Right, I'm sure they they'll come visit all the time.
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  Speaker 3: I mean I went through a short period of time
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  Speaker 3: right and live close to my parents. My parents moved
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  Speaker 3: to Saint Louis for like five or six years when
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  Speaker 3: Charlie was born. So I've like had it both ways,
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  Speaker 3: you know, being ore and my mom used to come
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  Speaker 3: visit and stay with me for like weeks at a time.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's going to be a wild ride. As I
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  Speaker 2: said earlier, it's really cool to see everybody, you know,
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  Speaker 2: building these families and moving into a direction that it
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  Speaker 2: was always meant to be. Now, we did have some
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  Speaker 2: listeners write in some questions, and really the biggest question
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  Speaker 2: for you on all of this was is Rosie related
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  Speaker 2: to The Bachelor? Like, is the name Rosie? Did the
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  Speaker 2: inspiration of it come from the show?
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  Speaker 3: Not at all? And it's so funny because I didn't
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  Speaker 3: even think of it until we posted her name, and
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  Speaker 3: then people were like, oh, like it's the Bachelor, And
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  Speaker 3: I was like, that's so funny, because I think had
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  Speaker 3: I thought of that, maybe it would have been something
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  Speaker 3: where I was like, maybe we shouldn't name or this.
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  Speaker 3: But I feel like, I mean, I was on it
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  Speaker 3: so long ago I almost like forget, so it just
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  Speaker 3: wasn't even something that crossed my mind. But no, it's not.
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  Speaker 2: Where did the inspiration come from?
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  Speaker 4: Then?
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  Speaker 3: Be honestly, just like the name and with Kinsley, Charlie
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  Speaker 3: and now Rosie, like there's really no meaning behind any
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  Speaker 3: of the names.
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  Speaker 5: Just picked him, just liked him.
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  Speaker 2: How does that process work? Like how do you pick
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  Speaker 2: a name? Do you just sit down with Michael and
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  Speaker 2: be like, hey, what do you like? What do I like?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, like I started, you can look online. They have
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  Speaker 3: like you know, just like lists of like thousands of names,
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  Speaker 3: and we would just go through them and like find
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  Speaker 3: one that we like and be like, oh, do you
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  Speaker 3: like this one? And for the most part we actually
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  Speaker 3: kind of had the same taste with names. But we
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  Speaker 3: changed Rosie's name probably three times when I was pregnant,
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  Speaker 3: Like we were fully calling her a different name and
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  Speaker 3: then changed it. We got like three different name signs
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  Speaker 3: for her room. We could not make up make up
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  Speaker 3: her minds, but we finally did.
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  Speaker 4: When she was just to jump in here. Hi, guys,
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  Speaker 4: it's Ashley. When she came out and you were holding her,
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  Speaker 4: were you like, yeah, she's a rosie. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I mean now looking at her like the other names
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  Speaker 3: that we had picked, and like, she is such a rosie,
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  Speaker 3: Like none of these other names would have even worked.
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  Speaker 4: So cute. Well, I hate to jump into the conversation late,
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  Speaker 4: but I'm assuming that you didn't ask this question done
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  Speaker 4: because it's kind of like a female a female question.
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  Speaker 5: Uh.
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  Speaker 4: You mentioned on your Instagram story soon after she was born,
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  Speaker 4: you said that you'll tell her full birth story eventually,
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  Speaker 4: but like this one you said there was like a
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  Speaker 4: little traumatic. We can you hint to us as to why.
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  Speaker 4: I know that you'll probably want to share the entire
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  Speaker 4: thing on your own.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was, so it was kind of crazy. So
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  Speaker 3: I they always say like the third comes really fast, Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: and I didn't know because they had like such a
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  Speaker 3: big age gap. I'm like, is this going to still
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  Speaker 3: be true because it's been ten years or whatever, But
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  Speaker 3: I mean she came really fast. It was like, honestly, easy,
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  Speaker 3: as fast as labor, and then when it came time
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  Speaker 3: to push, everything went super fast and easy until the end.
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  Speaker 3: She had it's called the shoulder dystocia. I don't know
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  Speaker 3: if you know that. It's it's basically where their shoulder
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  Speaker 3: gets stuck, which doesn't sound dangerous, but it's really dangerous.
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  Speaker 3: It's an emergency. So basically, all like the sirens and
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  Speaker 3: lights started going off. She wasn't breathing at first.
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  Speaker 4: This is traumatic.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was very traumatic. So I wasn't able to
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  Speaker 3: hold her right away. They had to take her to
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  Speaker 3: the side, like I saw her. But then at the
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  Speaker 3: same time, I'm laying there, so there's nothing I could do,
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  Speaker 3: So Michael was with her anyway. It was chaotic and
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  Speaker 3: it all happened so fast. But then once, you know,
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  Speaker 3: like they got her breathing and her oxygen went up
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  Speaker 3: and everything was fine, and she's been great ever since.
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  Speaker 4: So you were still able to push her out even
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  Speaker 4: though the shoulder was a little off.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, I mean kind of there had to be some
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  Speaker 3: intervention exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, So, but it's crazy because my doctor was saying,
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  Speaker 3: with like a shoulder distocia, which I've heard of, I
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  Speaker 3: only know, one of the person who had a baby
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  Speaker 3: that had that baby like didn't make it, and it's
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  Speaker 3: so scary that when it happened. My doctor was saying
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  Speaker 3: that usually it's like with bigger babies, and she was
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  Speaker 3: only seven pounds, so we're not really sure, Like I
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  Speaker 3: don't really know why, but she's good now and it
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  Speaker 3: all worked out. I'm like so thankful, but it was
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  Speaker 3: very traumatizing.
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  Speaker 4: Were you so relieved when you started going into labor,
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  Speaker 4: because I know that the week or so leading up
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  Speaker 4: to it, you're like, how am I still pregnant? Was
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  Speaker 4: she exactly at like forty weeks?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean right there. And it's so weird too,
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  Speaker 3: because of everything that kind of happened, Like during birth,
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  Speaker 3: I had kinson charboth a thirty seven weeks and towards
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  Speaker 3: the end, I was like trying not to complain. I'd
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  Speaker 3: never been pregnant that long before, but I just felt
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  Speaker 3: like she was too big for me. Yeah, it was
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  Speaker 3: like she's huge, Like I'm so uncomfortable, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: maybe everyone just feels this way and now I'll getting
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  Speaker 3: back and kind of like I think she was just
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  Speaker 3: like too big. I think that's why it kind of happened.
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  Speaker 3: I wish I would have had her sooner. But it's
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  Speaker 3: all good.
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  Speaker 2: Now, can you teach me something here? Obviously I'm very
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  Speaker 2: uneducated in this field, and two of you can teach
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  Speaker 2: me a lot. I've heard, you know, Jared's reaction before.
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  Speaker 2: But what was like, what did Michael do during this
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  Speaker 2: whole process that was good? Bad? I mean, I've had
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  Speaker 2: one of my best friends he passed out and had
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  Speaker 2: to get his own separate room. He couldn't even be
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  Speaker 2: in there anymore. The doctors like get out of here,
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: Like what is he doing during this whole process.
• 15:42
  Speaker 3: It's funny because we had talked about it before because
• 15:45
  Speaker 3: Michael definitely could get like a little queasy, but he
• 15:48
  Speaker 3: was so good, you know, like holding my hand and
• 15:50
  Speaker 3: just whip me through everything. But when the doctor came in,
• 15:53
  Speaker 3: like Michael didn't want to cut the cord and he
• 15:55
  Speaker 3: didn't want to be like he wanted to be up
• 15:58
  Speaker 3: where I was. He didn't want to be down.
• 16:00
  Speaker 4: Okah, that's what I ended.
• 16:01
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think it's like it's good at least
• 16:04
  Speaker 3: they know, like you don't want a situation where they're
• 16:06
  Speaker 3: down there and they like pass out or something. But
• 16:09
  Speaker 3: then with everything that ended up happening. It ended up
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: not working out because he had to go to the
• 16:13
  Speaker 3: other side to be with the baby. So he ended
• 16:16
  Speaker 3: up seeing everything, and he told me everything, and it
• 16:19
  Speaker 3: was my third time obviously having a baby, and he
• 16:22
  Speaker 3: told me things that I didn't even know, like we're
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: going down in the room, and so he's a little traumatized.
• 16:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, it's so funny. I was like, bird's
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: eye view is okay. Full frontal is not okay. And
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: then it was like after the fact when he was
• 16:39
  Speaker 4: over at the little table with Dawson and they're like
• 16:41
  Speaker 4: stitching me up. He's like they were like pretending to
• 16:44
  Speaker 4: cover you. But like I saw that entire process.
• 16:48
  Speaker 3: Oh god, I'm so sorry.
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: Don't be sorry. It's beautiful. I mean, it's natural, it's beautiful.
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: It's just I I love I mean I do. I
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: always asked my buddies now that they're having kids, like
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: what what were you doing? And they all have very
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: different reactions. I will say the most common nominator for
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: all of them though, is like their eyes open up
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: like that was wild, Like I don't know, like none
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: of them are like, yeah, that was a good, cool
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: like thing. To see it was like no, whatever was
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: happening was like out of this world wild.
• 17:22
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Amanda, you posted something on Instagram last week that
• 17:26
  Speaker 4: really resonated with me as being like a feeling like
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: a disgusting pregnant woman because as we all know, and
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: I don't have to say aszillion times, but like I
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: just don't thrive during it, Like I just don't feel
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: my most I don't. I'm not my most beautiful. That's fine.
• 17:42
  Speaker 4: And I'm looking back at pictures of myself from like
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: a year ago today and I was like, Dawson, there's
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: your hot mom, Like what has happened to me? But
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: this time, I like know that I can, like I
• 17:51
  Speaker 4: will rebound. But you posted something about saying how like
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: you got yourself ready for an Instagram reel or like
• 17:58
  Speaker 4: a story set and you try to feel like you're
• 18:01
  Speaker 4: very cutest, but like at the end of the day
• 18:03
  Speaker 4: you still felt like discouraged with how you feel postpartum.
• 18:06
  Speaker 4: Can you elaborate on that?
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I was actually just thinking about this this morning
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: because I've been really hard on myself. I am five
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: weeks postpartum today, and it's like, you know, like these
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: things take time, like you just had a baby, like
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: you know you're going to go back eventually. And I've
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: been a little hard on myself. It's random fact, like
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: I literally have not lost a pound since I've been
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: back from hospital. No, and you know, I've been a
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: little down on myself about it. Then I was thinking,
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: you know, like when you're pregnant, you have like all
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: these fears, like you hope everything goes well with like libor,
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: and I was nervous about like you know, having postpartum
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: depression or baby boots, all these things that I don't
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: have luckily, and I'm like, Okay, well I feel really
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: lucky that like the hardest thing for me right now
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: has just been like that I'm not losing weight fast enough,
• 18:56
  Speaker 3: like at least I don't have all these other things.
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: And that's kind of like helped me, Like it'll I'll
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: go back to normal in time, like it is what
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: it is. It sucks in the moment when you don't
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: fit in your clothes and stuff, but it'll all be okay.
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: But yeah, I've been trying to just like put make
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: up on when the bathing apps and like little things
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: like that definitely definitely help kind of pull you out
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: of a rut. Yeah, but I feel you I'm pregnant
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: for me is bad, Like I do not feel good when.
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: I'm Yeah, it's just not a fun time. It was
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: like last week I started to like finally not like
• 19:30
  Speaker 4: feel I've started to feel like relatively not nauseous during
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: the afternoon pretty consistently, and I was like, Okay, go
• 19:39
  Speaker 4: to your skincare closet and like pick out a few
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: fresh items and like, let's start like actually getting your
• 19:47
  Speaker 4: skincare routine and caring about that again. So that felt good,
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: and I put make upon a couple times last week,
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: and that it does. But then sometimes I feel like, oh,
• 19:56
  Speaker 4: I tried today, Like I tried so hard, and I
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: still look in the mirror and I feel defeated because
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: it doesn't look right. Yeah, it doesn't look the same.
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: It doesn't look like what I know I'm supposed to
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: look like when I try.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I get that too, even now postpartum. Like I
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: was like, you know, I'm going to like go buy
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: a couple of pairs of genes and like a bigger
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: size just in the meantime, so I don't want to
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: just be living in spats all the time and then
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: I put the genes on and I was like, they fit,
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: but like, I don't look good in them, So what's
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: the point? Like, you know what I mean, it's kind
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: of the same mentality, but I feel you it's hard.
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: Of course you do look good, yeil, Like, what is
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: the consensus for because this is obviously a topic that
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: I'm hearing about all the time, you know, on social media,
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: people you know, mothers are coming down and they're like, hey,
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: I don't feel like I used to and I haven't
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: you know, gone back to what I used to look
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: like in the mirror and all those things. What is
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: like the consensus advice that you two are receiving that
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: maybe a listener could receive to kind of like work
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: through this and with it and like heal a little
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: bit mentally, you know, emotionally and mentally.
• 21:02
  Speaker 4: Well, I guess I'll go first. I think it's not
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: so much advice that I have been given so much
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: as like I can give myself now because I've gone
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: through it before. But I think that like just having
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: faith that like you're gonna you will go will feel
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: back to normal, like because the first time it's scary
• 21:22
  Speaker 4: because you really don't know like, is this feeling in
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: my body right now? And my self confidence like gonna
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: stick like this? And I guess, and maybe I'm not
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: speaking for everyone, but for myself, I know that like
• 21:37
  Speaker 4: within a few months after having him, I was just like, oh,
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: what a relief. I feel like me again. And I
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: do see these Instagram reels that I can sadly not
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: relate to this summer, but I can't wait till the
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: following because it says like, this is your summer where
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: you're not pregnant and not freshly postpartum and you get
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: to enjoy drinks and feel like yourself by the beach.
• 21:57
  Speaker 4: And I'm like, oh, yeah, that's a great feeling.
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, that's that's how I'm hoping to feel
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: by the.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: Summer, Amanda. Any advice that you've been given, no, I mean.
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: Kind of kind of just what I said earlier though,
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: was like I've just been trying to like change my
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: perspective and being like, well, I'm so lucky that this
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: is like the only thing that I'm like struggling with
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: right now, because it's, like Ashley said, something that I
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: know is not going to last forever, and I feel
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: lucky that, like That's that's what I'm stressing about, you
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: know what I mean, because there could be so many
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: other things. So that's kind of what's helping me.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: I used to Amanda this was recorded and documented. I
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: thought it was really sweet as and true. I was
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: not lying to her. But Ashlely with Dawson would show
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: up to the podcast and be like, Ashley, you look
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: beautiful to day and she'd be like, no, I don't,
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: don't say that, it's not true, and I'd be like,
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: all right, I'll stop saying like not my deal is
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: my role of acne.
• 23:03
  Speaker 4: And I would get on the podcast after throwing up
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: multiple times pregnant with Dawson, and he would say these things.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, not my role. That's Jared's role. He gets to
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: deal with whatever this is outside of me. But as
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: you like for a partner who is going through this,
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: like what things has Michael done or or even you know,
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: Jared done to really support you well during this time.
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: I feel like Michael was like so sweet throughout the
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: whole pregnancy and even now I can't really think of
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: like anything specific. Yeah, I don't know, actually, do you
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: have any anything?
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: Okay? So, like I finished breaking bad last week and
• 23:41
  Speaker 4: I finished a whole five season series in five weeks, okay,
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: because and that's actually not It wasn't that like excessive.
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: I was watching hour and a half every day.
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: Actually, you don't have to. You don't have to like
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: apologize for yourself. It's fine. You watch an episode, now,
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: tell us what happened.
• 23:57
  Speaker 5: Right.
• 23:57
  Speaker 4: So I would like be in bed and watch an
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: episode at like noon on a weekday, and Jared would
• 24:02
  Speaker 4: be and I'd be like, stop judging me if you
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: walk into the bedroom, because I'm like, you think I
• 24:06
  Speaker 4: should even be reductive, And he's like, I'm not judging you.
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: I swear relaxed, enjoy yourself. I want you to. And
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: I think, Ben, my best advice to you for the
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: future or any other guys out there, is just like, truly,
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: don't judge your girl when she's like just resting. Because
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: I saw this again funny Instagram real the other day.
• 24:26
  Speaker 4: It was like, oh, hey, what's up today? I just
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: like created a kidney? What'd you do?
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: You know?
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: So it's like I'm still sitting there being really really productive.
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: That's fair.
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: Okay, So yeah, no, that's a good one. I would
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: say the same with Michael like when I'm like taking
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: a nap on the couch like in the afternoon or something,
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: just like not not judging. That's a good one.
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: I feel like that's so easy, Like is it just
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: obvious to me that, like, hey, your wife's pregnant, like
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: don't tell her to get up and see what?
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: He would never tell me to do that. It's just
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: more of like how you feel because you feel like
• 24:59
  Speaker 4: you you should like be doing something. I don't know.
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: I think that a lot of people out there are
• 25:03
  Speaker 4: like I feel so unproductive. I just feel like a
• 25:06
  Speaker 4: bump on a log. And it's just like if the
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: people around you and Bracy being a bump on a log,
• 25:11
  Speaker 4: then you can like just relax a little bit more
• 25:13
  Speaker 4: truly yourself.
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: Yes, exactly, that's fair.
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: But Amanda, I was going to ask about your massages
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: that you've been getting, the lymphatic drainage massages that you
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: said I have been helping you.
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I love them. So I've been trying to go
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: once a week because it just kind of like gets
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: things moving, like flushes like water and like swallowing out
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: of your system. And I've noticed a bit difference to
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: gone three or four times now, So I've been trying
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: to do that once a week plus. It's nice to
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: like get out of the house and like go do
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: something for myself. But I love it. You should find
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: someone close by. I did it during pregnancy too, but
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: I think it's especially helpful like postpartum with like swelling.
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: I didn't know, like I just guess I forgot that,
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: Like I was more swollen the week after I had
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: her than I was the ivy.
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: Everybody looks as much like in the pictures, like you're
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: like a baby announcement picture when you like do your
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: makeup and you're like, okay, it's been twenty four forty
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: eight hours, let's put it out there. And then you
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: put your makeup on, you think you kind of look cute,
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: and then you see the picture and you're like, my
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: face is twice as us because there's so much salt
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: of my body right now.
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: Yes, oh my gosh, I almost couldn't fit my feet
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: in my shoes like I was, you know, but I
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: feel like it helped. You would just kind of like
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: blush all of that out totally.
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: So as we close up here with you, Amanda, what like,
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: what's uh?
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: I mean?
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: You obviously have a lot going on, and again it's
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: okay to be like nothing more than what's happening in
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: this house. That's great, But is there anything our listeners
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: can pay attention to anything happened in your life that
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: you want to talk about a little bit.
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: No, pretty much, just that's all what's happening in the house.
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, I got a question. Then, Yeah, how did
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: you play the most perfect birthday party? For Charlie's tenth
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: birthday party? It was like curated to perfection in the
• 27:05
  Speaker 4: Taylor Swift Eras theme. It was nuts for something that
• 27:08
  Speaker 4: you just said, you just threw it together. You're like,
• 27:10
  Speaker 4: I haven't planned anything like bad days before.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: No, it actually turned out a lot better than I was,
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: like than I was expecting. So what happened was I
• 27:18
  Speaker 3: didn't plan anything for Charlie's birthday because I was due
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: at the like around the time of her birthday, I
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: thought that I was going to have Rosie like a
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: lot sooner. So then like as every day went by,
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, I'm going to have
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: her on Charlie's birthday. So I think I had a
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: lot of guilt and I was like, I have to
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: plan a good birthday party for Charlie because like, we
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: didn't do anything for her birthday, so I managed to
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: pull it together at kind of the last minute. But
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: it was fun.
• 27:43
  Speaker 4: She had a good Amazon seems like a lot of
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: those products you got from Amazon.
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: Everything everything was from Amazon.
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: That's some mom magic.
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: Mom magic would be, what did we do before Amazon Prime?
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: I don't know.
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: It's a lot harder to be a mom, not in
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: today's date age.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: Well, Amanda, it's really great to catch up with you.
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: Very excited to get congratulations on the birth of Rosie
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: and your beautiful family. Tell Michael congratulations from all of us.
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: Thanks for jumping on giving us the updates, catches us
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: up on your life. We wish you the best.
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: Thank you and congrats.
• 28:18
  Speaker 5: Ash.
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: Thanks so so fun talking about this stuff with you,
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: because right I text you later situation Okay, all right,
• 28:26
  Speaker 4: bye bye.
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: That's been Amanda Stanton on the Almost Famous podcast. Amanda
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: is one of the best known contestants to ever be
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: on The Bachelor franchise. She is a mom of three.
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: Michael is her husband, Rosie is their new daughter. What
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: a cool update that we got and what a gift
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: it is that Amanda came on, so we have more
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: episodes for you, breaking down obviously the Bachelor season and
• 28:57
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• 29:01
  Speaker 2: so stay tuned to our channel. More coming your way.
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: So until next time, I've been Ben, I've been Ashley
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: that guys.
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: Thank you.
• 29:11
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