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How can I overcome the fear of judgement · Wellbeing Solutions - Ask A Counsellor

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  SPEAKER_00: How can I overcome the fear of judgment?
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  SPEAKER_00: Having debt can bring along with it feelings of guilt, shame, and also being judged by others.
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  SPEAKER_00: This can be quite isolating for us while also affecting our self-esteem and confidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: We tend to keep it a secret for fear of judgment, which can make us feel more isolated.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our emotions are affected by our finances as this is a big part of our daily life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ignoring debt can lead us to feeling worse.
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  SPEAKER_00: Carrying the emotional burden can be exhausting.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, with some support we can reduce the burden and encourage ourselves to deal with this in a healthier way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fearing others will judge us leads to our isolation, which in turn increases our low mood or depression.
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  SPEAKER_00: We want to avoid conversations which are important to help us, to help us solve our problem and to help us know that we can do this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Having an understanding of the cycle is a first step toward helping you break the cycle and gain back control.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our confidence can grow when we see debt as a challenge, not a failure.
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  SPEAKER_00: This will help us improve our mental health, and judgment will be replaced with understanding.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is also important to show ourselves compassion while also not criticising ourselves as this can cause fear, anxiety of judgment being more present.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because many people link their self-worth to our finances, it affects our self-esteem, and we tend to judge ourselves, making us believe that others will judge us too.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could also try giving yourself a compact a self-compassion-based evaluation of the problem and challenge that you have ahead.
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  SPEAKER_00: By making this constructive and conducive to change, you will build self-esteem, confidence, and feel less fear of others' judgment.
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  SPEAKER_00: The important thing is to take this in small steps and try not to overwhelm ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we will get there.
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  SPEAKER_00: As mentioned before, debt can affect our confidence and mental health, but small steps and support can help rebuild our mental health, self-esteem, and self-belief.
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  SPEAKER_00: Recognizing the difference between self-worth and money is important.
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  SPEAKER_00: Debt is a problem, yes, but it does not define your value as a person.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're feeling down or depressed, please reach out.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's lots of support out there to to be able to help you through.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.