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As a sex addict - do you really know you? · The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Podcast

• 1:11
  SPEAKER_00: Sex porn love addiction is all about self-soothing to manage your emotions.
• 1:16
  SPEAKER_00: It got set up back in the childhood development years.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: It's just not about sex, it's not about porn.
• 1:23
  SPEAKER_00: It's all about the repeated use to set up the physiology to crave those dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, self-manufactured drugs in the body.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: It's impacting women, men, children, age 10 to 75 across all the age ranges, the sexes, the cultures, the professions.
• 1:43
  SPEAKER_00: It increased exponentially during COVID lockdown and impacting so many lives.
• 1:49
  SPEAKER_00: The Kairos Center has created the first online comprehensive sex porn love addiction.
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_00: It's a video on demand recovery program which you can access from anywhere in the world and begin to see identifiable changes just within six weeks of beginning this weekly program.
• 2:08
  SPEAKER_00: Kairos means your appointed time.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_00: Isn't it your time to reclaim your life?
• 2:13
  SPEAKER_00: Bring colour back to life without shame.
• 2:16
  SPEAKER_00: Click the link below and begin your journey.
• 2:20
  SPEAKER_00: You owe it to yourself and to others.
• 2:23
  SPEAKER_00: There's an exercise I'm going to include called the three questions game.
• 2:32
  SPEAKER_00: Do this with each other.
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: Let me explain what you need to do.
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_00: It's getting to know each other, but it's also getting to know you.
• 2:42
  SPEAKER_00: Get a piece of paper, each of you, a pen, a pencil to write with.
• 2:53
  SPEAKER_00: What is my favorite colour?
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_00: Very simple, no catch.
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_00: Just write down your favorite colour.
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  SPEAKER_00: The next one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Any type of animal.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_00: Write down your favorite animal.
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_00: Number three.
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_00: What is your favorite way of seeing water contained?
• 3:33
  SPEAKER_00: What I mean by that is what's your favorite form of container of water?
• 3:40
  SPEAKER_00: And examples include a lake, a puddle, ocean, bridbath, waterfall, dracuzzi.
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_00: Think outside of the box.
• 3:55
  SPEAKER_00: A way in which you see water held, contained.
• 4:01
  SPEAKER_00: What's your favorite form?
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  SPEAKER_00: Once you've identified each of these, and you can do it at the same time as you choose number one, for each of them you need to give a reason, some reasons, why you chose that particular colour, that particular animal, that particular form of water container.
• 4:33
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 4:34
  SPEAKER_00: Give one or a few reasons.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_00: Because you're going to explain this to your partner.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to leave the rest of the instructions for you to look at in the workbook.
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_00: There is a significant outcome to this exercise when you read the rest of the instructions.
• 5:07
  SPEAKER_00: It's going to reveal potentially, not everyone will believe it, but potentially it might well reveal a whole lot of information at a profound level about you.
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_00: Simple exercise like this.
• 5:34
  SPEAKER_00: In an earlier session, I talked about this Jahari's window, J O H A R I.
• 5:45
  SPEAKER_00: Jahari's window is a useful exercise for you to look at.
• 5:50
  SPEAKER_00: I think what I may have to do is leave you to look at the Jahari's window in more detail by following a YouTube link.
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_00: There's lots of discussions on YouTube about Jahari's window.
• 6:08
  SPEAKER_00: I won't take up too much of the session by talking too much about it.
• 6:13
  SPEAKER_00: Some of you may be interested, others less so.
• 6:17
  SPEAKER_00: Along the top will say Areas of my life known by me, by self.
• 6:28
  SPEAKER_00: Down the left hand side of that top box, areas of my life known by others.
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_00: The second box is the one to the right at the top, and along the top of that second box, areas of my life unknown by me.
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  SPEAKER_00: To the right hand side of that box, areas of my life known by others.
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_00: Go down to the third box, which is the bottom left.
• 7:09
  SPEAKER_00: And along the left hand side of that box, areas of my life unknown by others.
• 7:19
  SPEAKER_00: And at the bottom, areas of my life known by myself.
• 7:26
  SPEAKER_00: Let's move then to the last of those boxes, the bottom right hand corner.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_00: And what you've got is an area in the middle of that box, just called unknown area.
• 7:48
  SPEAKER_00: But along the top would be the words unknown by self and along the right hand side unknown by others.
• 8:02
  SPEAKER_00: So areas of your life which others don't know about, which you don't know about, which absolutely lives in the unconscious.
• 8:12
  SPEAKER_00: Take a look at that Jahari window.
• 8:16
  SPEAKER_00: And take some time to listen to the YouTube explanation about it.
• 8:21
  SPEAKER_00: There are areas in our life that we don't know about, others don't know about.
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_00: Blind spots.
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_00: Spend some time with the Jihari's window YouTube clip that I'm going to include.
• 8:45
  SPEAKER_00: And really, if you do no significant work with this, just be aware.
• 8:51
  SPEAKER_00: We all of us have blind spots.
• 8:54
  SPEAKER_00: That thing which I've been talking about repeatedly and repeatedly and repeatedly, the unconscious.
• 9:02
  SPEAKER_00: Areas in our life that we need to move from the unconscious to the conscious, from the invisible to the visible, from the unseen to the seen, so we get a chance to change them.
• 9:18
  SPEAKER_00: Send me a message.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_00: Let's do some work without shame and bring colour back to life.
• 9:32
  SPEAKER_00: Send the email, send the message to me, Gary McFarlane at the Kairos Center.
• 9:39
  SPEAKER_00: And let's begin to reclaim your quality of life.