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TURNING THE PAGE: Trent Shelton On Perseverance · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: I feel like so many times we fit us into
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  Speaker 1: our schedule right, like we fit ourselves into our schedule,
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  Speaker 1: like we save the bare minimum for things that fulfill us.
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  Speaker 1: My life changed when I stopped doing that, Like I
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  Speaker 1: started fitting other things in my schedule, like these are
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  Speaker 1: things that I'm doing my family, the things that fulfill me,
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  Speaker 1: the things that excite me, those are my goal tos period,
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  Speaker 1: and then everything else finds its place, not the opposite
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  Speaker 1: way around.
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  Speaker 2: So when I had that mindset.
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  Speaker 1: I experience more peace, more fulfillment, and more enjoyment in
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  Speaker 1: my life.
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  Speaker 3: Happy New Year.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, a couple of these lad here, but happy happy
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  Speaker 4: New Year everyone. Emily and a body coming in live
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  Speaker 4: from the AG studio. You are listening to Hurdle a
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  Speaker 4: while on this Focus podcast. Reconnect with everyone up from
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  Speaker 4: your favorite athletes to top experts and industry CEOs about
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  Speaker 4: their highest hies, toughest moments, and everything in between. We
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  Speaker 4: all go through hurdles in life, and my goal through
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  Speaker 4: these discussions is to empower you to better navigate yours
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  Speaker 4: and move with intention so that you can stride towards
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  Speaker 4: your own big potential and of course have some fun
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  Speaker 3: This week, I am so amped to bring.
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  Speaker 4: You five back to back episodes to jumpstart twenty twenty
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  Speaker 4: two as a part of our Turning the Page series.
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  Speaker 4: In this series, I sit down with some of your
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  Speaker 4: favorite guests from the last year to chat about the
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  Speaker 4: lessons that they are bringing with them from twenty twenty
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  Speaker 4: one going forward.
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  Speaker 3: Now.
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  Speaker 4: Each guest they give us a word that they'd use
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  Speaker 4: to best describe their past three sixty five and then
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  Speaker 4: they offer up some really helpful advice on how to
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  Speaker 4: move into the next fifty two weeks with grace and
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  Speaker 4: a positive outlook. For today's episode, I am electrifive. Let's
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  Speaker 4: find some good adjectives here to.
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  Speaker 3: Talk with Trent Shelton.
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  Speaker 4: He is a former NFL player turned motivational speaker, entrepreneur,
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  Speaker 4: and honestly, I couldn't think of a better person to
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  Speaker 4: have back on the show to kick start this series.
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  Speaker 4: He is seriously a light and admits that last year
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  Speaker 4: was without a doubt, one of the hardest of his
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  Speaker 4: life that taught him so so much and completely changed him.
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  Speaker 4: If you are looking for a hearty dose of inspiration
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  Speaker 3: And with that, let's kick things off. Let's get to hurdling.
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  Speaker 2: Today.
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  Speaker 3: I am sitting down with my friend Trent shell In.
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  Speaker 3: You doing, man, what's up?
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  Speaker 2: Emily? I'm doing great? How you doing?
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  Speaker 4: I'm so good. I told you I'm putting together this
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  Speaker 4: series of little tidbits to kick off the year here,
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  Speaker 4: and there is no one I know that's more perhaps
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  Speaker 4: motivational than you are. So I figured it was a
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  Speaker 4: good time for us to reconnect and get some feedback
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  Speaker 4: from you on twenty twenty one and some thoughts on
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  Speaker 4: where we can go in twenty twenty two. So the
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  Speaker 4: way that this works here, I'm about to ask you
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  Speaker 4: for your one singular word. It's hard to pick one
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  Speaker 4: that sums up twenty twenty one. Trent Shelton, what is
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  Speaker 4: your word?
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  Speaker 2: Perseverance?
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  Speaker 4: All right, talk me through where that choice word comes from.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, you know, twenty twenty one. I'm very
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  Speaker 2: skeptical using certain words, but I'll just use this. It
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  Speaker 2: was the hardest year in my life.
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  Speaker 1: I know, when I look back, I'm want to be
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  Speaker 1: like this is probably the most growth year in my life,
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  Speaker 1: most flilling, I would say, for filling, but the year
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  Speaker 1: that helped me become the strongest. But by this year
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  Speaker 1: was rough for me, just some losses in my life,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of changes. Just seemed like it was storm
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  Speaker 1: after storm after stormy Personally, a lot of things in
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  Speaker 1: my immediate personal life is great, but you know, I
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  Speaker 1: mean with my mother, my grandmother, just some business stuff
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  Speaker 1: here and there, and I had to persevere through a lot.
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  Speaker 1: And I actually put this on my Instagram yesterday, like
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  Speaker 1: I'm proud of myself for you know, standing ten toes
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  Speaker 1: down and weathering the storm and actually you know, having
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  Speaker 1: to live out which we do so much, having to
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  Speaker 1: live out what I preach more than ever this year.
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  Speaker 1: So perseverance is definitely in the words, had to persevere
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  Speaker 1: through so much this year.
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  Speaker 4: When you think about perseverance, do you think that your
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  Speaker 4: skill for that has been something that you've acquired over time,
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  Speaker 4: or do you feel like you've always been really good
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  Speaker 4: at sticking out the challenging moments.
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  Speaker 1: I think, looking back, I've always had that that that
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  Speaker 1: characteristic or quality to be able to push through because
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  Speaker 1: I always think, even when I was little, I always
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  Speaker 1: think like, Okay, what's the alternative to give up? And
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  Speaker 1: then now you just dig yourself in a deeper ditch
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  Speaker 1: And I know where that leads to. But I think
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  Speaker 1: definitely over the years and me playing sports has allowed
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  Speaker 1: me to persevere and build endurance. I mean, I know
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  Speaker 1: your endurance runners, so you know what that's all about.
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  Speaker 1: But that endurance and perseverance through plants, sports and going
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  Speaker 1: through seasons of having to grind it out and injuries
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  Speaker 1: and setbacks, and you know, you just kind of whether
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  Speaker 1: the storm. You realize that the storm really is meant
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  Speaker 1: to build you, not break you, meant to grow your life,
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  Speaker 1: not kill your life. And so I've learned that throughout
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  Speaker 1: my you know, thirty seven years on this earth of
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  Speaker 1: just you know, everything is building you and working for
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  Speaker 1: you if you allow it to.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, And I know you mentioned you dealt with
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  Speaker 4: a lot of tough losses over the past through sixty five.
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  Speaker 4: For anyone else who can really relate with that and
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  Speaker 4: has dealt with similar loss, what advice do you have
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  Speaker 4: for them if they be persevering doesn't feel as natural?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, So, I mean, depending what loss, If it's a
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  Speaker 1: loss of a love on like I've dealt with. I
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  Speaker 1: would just ask you just to change your perspective around it.
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  Speaker 1: It's always going to be hard, it's always going to
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  Speaker 1: be tough, it's always going to be there.
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  Speaker 2: And even if it isn't a love and maybe you
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  Speaker 2: lost the job or lost the.
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  Speaker 1: Sport, I would just tell you to what's ask yourself,
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  Speaker 1: what's the alternative? And I know that might be a
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  Speaker 1: question that you might be in a bad place. You
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  Speaker 1: might well, I don't want to go on the more
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  Speaker 1: I don't. I don't want to continue to live life.
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  Speaker 1: But for me, I look myself in the mirror and
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  Speaker 1: I said, man, like I want to honor my mother.
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  Speaker 2: I want to honor my grandmother.
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  Speaker 1: I want to honor even my father, even everybody who
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  Speaker 1: came before me, the sacrifices that they made for me
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  Speaker 1: to have the life that I that I have. I
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  Speaker 1: want to take the legacy further. And that was the
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  Speaker 1: thing that really got me going. And this seems I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if I talked talked about this on the
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  Speaker 1: last podcast. I don't think I did. But one of
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  Speaker 1: the things that that was really a shift in my
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  Speaker 1: in my mind frame was like me looking in the mirror.
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  Speaker 1: I remember it was like July, I was depressed and
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  Speaker 1: probably the worst place my life that I've been in
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  Speaker 1: a long time.
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  Speaker 2: And I just asked myself.
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  Speaker 1: I said, man, if I was to die to day,
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  Speaker 1: and I know this seems extreme, Like would I want
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  Speaker 1: to be the reason why other people quit? Would I
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  Speaker 1: want to be the reason why other people give up?
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  Speaker 1: We would I want to be the reason why people
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  Speaker 1: stop moving forward? And I said there, And I thought
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  Speaker 1: about my angels and I was like, man, they're probably
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  Speaker 1: crying right now that things are dying inside of me.
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  Speaker 1: And so in that moment, I say, you know what,
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  Speaker 1: it's time to turn the page. It's time to live,
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  Speaker 1: It's time to get the most out of this life,
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  Speaker 1: and it's time to honor them bey how I live
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  Speaker 1: my life. And so that was a big mind shift
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  Speaker 1: for me and perspective shift that switched it from my
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  Speaker 1: prison to my power. That really like turned the page
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  Speaker 1: in my life and turn my grief into greatness. As
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  Speaker 1: I like to say, I.
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  Speaker 4: Think it's hard right to make that change, like to
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  Speaker 4: consciously choose the greatness over the grief, because that grief
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  Speaker 4: can just be so so heavy. So when you're struggling
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  Speaker 4: to move forward and to find that silver lining. I
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  Speaker 4: love the way that you phrase that, thinking about how
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  Speaker 4: would these people that I loved so much, how would
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  Speaker 4: they want me to move forward?
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  Speaker 3: How would they want me to be living my life?
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  Speaker 4: And again, that's a hard question to ask yourself when
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  Speaker 4: that grief feels like such a burden.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely, but that is the thing, Like I have people
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  Speaker 1: hit me up all the time. It just I mean,
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  Speaker 1: it just seems like there's so many losses this year,
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  Speaker 1: whether it be with the you know, with COVID or
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  Speaker 1: whatever it may be going on in the world. It
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  Speaker 1: just seems like I get it every day, like, man,
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  Speaker 1: I lost my parents, I lost this, I lost my kid,
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  Speaker 1: and I just tell them that, I said, man, it's
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  Speaker 1: never going to be the same, even if you lost
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  Speaker 1: a dream. It's just like, how can I get the
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  Speaker 1: most out of my life, you know, from this moment on,
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  Speaker 1: and it's going to be a new normal.
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  Speaker 2: It's going to look different.
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  Speaker 1: You have to accept that because sometimes we want the
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  Speaker 1: same life, the same you know things, and it's different
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  Speaker 1: and adjusting it to a new normal, whether it's leaving
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  Speaker 1: a job, leaving a sport, or trying to live life
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  Speaker 1: without a loved one it's tough. You're gonna go through
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  Speaker 1: your seasons, but you can allow those things to you know,
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  Speaker 1: build you and not break you.
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  Speaker 3: As I say, perseverance your big word for twenty twenty one.
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  Speaker 4: When you think about perhaps an other takeaway or two
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  Speaker 4: that you had from the year, whether it be in
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  Speaker 4: some of the pivots that you've been continuing to make
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  Speaker 4: within your business, I know doing a lot of speaking
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  Speaker 4: that's completely different than it used to look now. But
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  Speaker 4: what would you say another big takeaway has been for
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  Speaker 4: you over the last year.
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  Speaker 2: The power, you.
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  Speaker 1: Said it, the power to pivot, the power to adjust.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I'm always you know, this is the athlete
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  Speaker 2: in me, right.
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  Speaker 1: I always know that even right now, like as I'm
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  Speaker 1: planning out twenty twenty two, my plan is to have
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  Speaker 1: a plan. When that plan doesn't work out, so I
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  Speaker 1: know that I know that how I wanted to go
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  Speaker 1: is not going to happen. You know, there's gonna be
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  Speaker 1: some bumps, There's gonna be some you know, some obstacles.
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  Speaker 2: And I've just.
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  Speaker 1: Always learned from football that hey, the team that wins
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  Speaker 1: the game is not the team that goes in with
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  Speaker 1: the best game plans. The team that knows how to
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  Speaker 1: adjust during the game that have time, third and fourth quarter.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm always just thinking about adjustment. And this year
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  Speaker 1: it taught me a lot about adjusting. You know, my
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  Speaker 1: business and you know how I just operate every single day.
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  Speaker 1: And I think when you're setting in your ways, it's
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  Speaker 1: dangerous at a time.
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  Speaker 2: Like I believe in routines.
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  Speaker 1: I think routines are great, but you have to be
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  Speaker 1: willing to change. You have to be willing to adapt
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  Speaker 1: with the times. I mean, we're in a time of
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  Speaker 1: digital technology like more than ever, and you can't win
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  Speaker 1: today's game from yesterday's points, right, So I'm always thinking
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  Speaker 1: about how can I adjust, how can I reinvent myself
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  Speaker 1: every single day or every single month, every single year
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  Speaker 1: to adapt with the changes that are going on in
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  Speaker 1: the world.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and I've shared this on the show before, but
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  Speaker 4: one of my mentors said to me once, he said,
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  Speaker 4: if you don't have a plan B, then you don't
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  Speaker 4: have a plan. And it's interesting to think of it
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  Speaker 4: that way, right, because you want to have a plan B.
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  Speaker 4: But I think sometimes there's like a there's a roadblock
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  Speaker 4: in the mindset of like wanting to set up your
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  Speaker 4: plan B.
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  Speaker 3: Because you're so focused on Plan A. You know what
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  Speaker 3: I mean.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely? You know. For me, it's like I talk about
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  Speaker 2: this a lot. I always ask people like, how are
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  Speaker 2: you going to risk?
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  Speaker 1: And I think that's the big thing with the like
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  Speaker 1: the plan B, because sometimes plan B is just an
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  Speaker 1: extension off of Plan A.
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  Speaker 2: And I've made up even this year.
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  Speaker 1: So this year I knew, you know, I had a
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  Speaker 1: vision of knowing that, you know, my mother would die
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  Speaker 1: at a certain time this year, even though we hoped
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  Speaker 1: she wouldn't, but it was the point where, you know,
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  Speaker 1: her living wasn't good for her. And I always would
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  Speaker 1: tell myself, Man, as hard as it may be, this
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  Speaker 1: is how I'm going to respond. I tell athletes all
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  Speaker 1: the time, you know how you're gonna respond when you're
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  Speaker 1: down by twenty How you're gonna respond when that dB
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  Speaker 1: is locking you up? How are you gonna respond? So
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  Speaker 1: I think going into twenty twenty two, you have to
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  Speaker 1: whether it's keywords, phrases, you have to know how you're
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  Speaker 1: going to respond when certain things happen.
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  Speaker 2: And that's helped me so much.
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  Speaker 1: Always I'm gonna respond with greatness, I'm gonna respond with perseverance,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna respond by doing this or by doing that,
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  Speaker 1: and that's really helped me to adjust in seasons of change.
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  Speaker 4: You are a father, you're a husband, been obviously in
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  Speaker 4: addition to a wildly successful businessman. Talk to me about
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  Speaker 4: how you kind of take care of you a little
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  Speaker 4: bit so that you can show up for the other
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  Speaker 4: people that you love, for the other people that are
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  Speaker 4: navigating these hardships when again, it just feels super challenging.
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  Speaker 3: To do that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I'll talk about this because I'm literally
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  Speaker 1: I was talking about it today. You know, I've been
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  Speaker 1: really obsessed with not wasted minutes of my life, you know,
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  Speaker 1: just talking to people that are older than me. You know,
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  Speaker 1: the biggest regret is I wish I had more minutes,
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  Speaker 1: and so I've been super obsessed, obsessed, And I actually
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  Speaker 1: did a exercise for myself this year and realized how
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  Speaker 1: many minutes I wasted on things that didn't help my life.
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  Speaker 1: I wasted on you know, not putting myself first. I
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  Speaker 1: wasted on certain things in my life. So this year,
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  Speaker 1: going into this year, I'm very conscious on not living
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  Speaker 1: in wasted minutes. I think it's like five hundred and
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  Speaker 1: twenty five thousand minuts year, I'm very conscious of not
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  Speaker 1: wasting minutes, but very conscious of very conscious not waste mints,
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  Speaker 1: and also very conscious of making more purposeful minutes in
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  Speaker 1: my life. And so to the person listening to this,
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  Speaker 1: I would just ask you, like, how much time this
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  Speaker 1: past year did you spend on things that fulfilled you?
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  Speaker 1: How much time next year are you going to spend
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  Speaker 1: on things that fulfill you? Because that's what matters. And
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  Speaker 1: for me, it was like really constructing. And I'm careful
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  Speaker 1: when I said it's simply because I know certain people
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  Speaker 1: are in certain places, Like I wasn't always here to
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  Speaker 1: be able to do this, but I feel like so
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  Speaker 1: many times we fit us into our schedule right, like
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  Speaker 1: we fit ourselves into our schedule, like we save the
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  Speaker 1: bare minimum for things that fulfill us. My life changed
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  Speaker 1: when I stopped doing that, Like I started fitting other
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  Speaker 1: things in my schedule, like these are things that I'm
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  Speaker 1: doing my family, the things that fulfill me, the things
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  Speaker 1: that excite me, those are my goal tos period, and
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  Speaker 1: then everything else finds its place, not the opposite way around.
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  Speaker 1: So when I had that mind mind set, I experience
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  Speaker 1: more peace, more fulfillment, and more enjoyment in my life.
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  Speaker 4: You said you did like a specific exercise, Can you
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  Speaker 4: talk a little bit about what that was.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's really simple. It's just writing down how you
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  Speaker 1: spent your minutes. And you might not know exactly, but
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  Speaker 1: this could be something going into the new year. I
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  Speaker 1: think there's like fourteen hundred minutes a week, right, and
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  Speaker 1: so maybe it's weekly, maybe it's monthly. You just go
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  Speaker 1: back because you have minutes that are going to be
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  Speaker 1: spent sleeping. If you have a nine to five, they're
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  Speaker 1: going to be spent in your nine to five. But
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  Speaker 1: where are those other minutes being spent in your life?
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 1: If you say, man, I want a more peaceful life,
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  Speaker 1: or I want to start I want to be an entrepreneur,
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  Speaker 1: I want to start my own business, or I want
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: to spend more time with my family, I want to travel,
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: Then when you get to the end of twenty twenty two,
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: if you can say, man, my life this year was great,
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: it's because you actually.
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: Spend minutes on things that you want to do.
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: If you said, man, it's your suck, probably because you
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: spend money's on things that minutes on things that you
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: didn't want to do. So the exercise is pretty simple.
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: Just right down the list of things that fulfill you
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: from this last year. So if it's your family, if
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: it's your kids, if it's your business, if it's traveling,
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: and then just write down, you know, estimate how much
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: time that you spend on those things. And I can
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  Speaker 1: promise you if you spend minimum time on those things
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: that you say fulfill you, you didn't have a fulfill uar.
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: And so going into this next year, just say, hey,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to make sure every week, whether it's twenty
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: percent of my time or ten percent, whatever it may
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: be for you, I'm going to make sure I'm intentional
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: with spending my minutes more purposefully, more purposeful on the
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: things that trually matter to me.
• 16:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's super, super super valuable advice.
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  Speaker 4: It's so interesting, right because I remember once someone said
• 16:40
  Speaker 4: to me, like, think about the time you have before, Like, say,
• 16:43
  Speaker 4: you do have a nine to five before you get
• 16:44
  Speaker 4: to your desk, and after you have your desk, you're
• 16:46
  Speaker 4: waking hours. Right for some people, that's something like four
• 16:49
  Speaker 4: hours on each side. And then if you take a
• 16:51
  Speaker 4: step back and you ask yourself, like, what are you
• 16:53
  Speaker 4: doing in four hours in the morning? And four hours
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: at night, and even an exercise like if you can't
• 16:59
  Speaker 4: really call, like if it was kind of gray space.
• 17:02
  Speaker 4: Oftentimes that gray space indicates like perhaps scrolling or something else.
• 17:06
  Speaker 4: If that's just gray space, then again kind of similar
• 17:09
  Speaker 4: to the exercise you're saying, like, take a step back
• 17:12
  Speaker 4: and ask yourself, like, what if someone told you you
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: have eight hours in a day that you don't even
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: realize that you're not taking advantage of.
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: What do you do with them? What do you want
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: to do?
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: And highlighting again those priorities, those values. It's like such
• 17:24
  Speaker 4: a beautiful and really really helpful, helpful exercise.
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: You know too, Just to add to that, Like my
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: thought process was that obviously we have our iPhones, right,
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: and it shows us like how much screen time you
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: spend on certain apps. And I thought about that emotionally.
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: I'm like, man, like I wish there was a thing.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure it's not probably the next use. I
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: wish there was a thing that showed me how much
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: time I spent emotionally on things that didn't help my life,
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: like how much time I spent, in comparison, how much
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: time I spent in self sabotage and so one of
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: the things for me this next year is every time
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: I catch myself and I'm gonna try my best to
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: do this catch myself in comparison, I'm gonna immediately stop
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: myself and spend at least five.
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: To ten minutes in appreciation.
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: Like I'm gonna combat those things as much as I can,
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: because it's just crazy.
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  Speaker 2: Man.
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: I think if we really took time and thought about that,
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: so many of us have spent so much time emotional
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: on things that.
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: Don't help our life.
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: Definitely.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: Definitely, when you reflect on the difficulties that you faced
• 18:29
  Speaker 4: in twenty one and you think about some of the
• 18:31
  Speaker 4: best advice that has been offered to you, As someone
• 18:34
  Speaker 4: who often is offering advice to other people, what comes
• 18:37
  Speaker 4: to mind.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like the most negative positive advice ever. One
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: of my friends just told me this, and she said,
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: your life will never be the same, and it was
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: what I needed to hear in that moment because I
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: wanted my life to be the same. I wanted my
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: I wanted to turn back the hands of time. I
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: wanted to go back, and she told me, your life
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: will never be the same.
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: That doesn't mean it has to be a bad thing.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: It could be a great thing, but you got to
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: stop holding on to something that's that doesn't exist anymore.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: And yeah, there were a lot of things in my
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: life that you know, outside of the things people saw,
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: but other things in my life that I was probably
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: still holding on to that didn't exist anymore. And so
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: that was a very powerful statement. And I need those
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: statements like I'm a straight up guy and those statements.
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: To me my home.
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: It's so relevant to everything though, right beyond just the
• 19:31
  Speaker 4: examples that you're providing here. It will never be the
• 19:33
  Speaker 4: same whether you're holding on to a relationship that didn't
• 19:36
  Speaker 4: serve you or maybe one that did but you still
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: had to let go of, or if you're thinking about
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: your fitness that you had eight years ago that you
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: don't have anymore. It's like it unless you choose to
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: move forward with the things that you have instead of
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: focusing on the things that you don't, then you're never
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: going to be able to move forward at all.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: Ah, that is so big, especially you said fitness man
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: like as an athlete, I know you can relate like
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: I so bad when I run a four to three again,
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: like I judged myself by that. I'm like or like
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: a certain time, like, man, I want to run this.
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: I'm not saying that it's not possible, but you know
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: some things, you know, your body, you get to a
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: certain age that it pretty much is impossible, not saying
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: that you can't be the best version of yourself at
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: that time. And so for me, I had to let
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: go of certain things like that, like how I ran,
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: or how I operate or how I you know, I'm like,
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: I'm thirty seven now. Certain things aren't going to look
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: like when I was twenty one years old.
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: So yeah, you're like, fine, fine, I will accept perhaps
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: the who knows, Yeah, I'm slow now.
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: I'm love the fact that I'm slower now for sure.
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: Well, these are all really really helpful takeaways. The last
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: two things that we're going to get into here first
• 20:43
  Speaker 4: and foremost, what excites you for twenty twenty two, Trent.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: That's a great question.
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: We're planning. We have Plan A and Plan B and
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: Plan C.
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: You so just a new beginning, you know, that's the
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: biggest thing that excites me. It is just a fresh
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: start for me. I feel like I said, I said
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: this in twenty twenty twenty twenty one was but it's
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: just a new beginning of just being able to turn
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: the page and just start fresh. And for me, that's big,
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: you know, leaving some things in the past and just
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: creating some new, beautiful, more beautiful experiences and different things
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: with my life.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: So just those two worst new beginnings is what excites
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: me the most.
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think that's something that's really beautiful.
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: Is of course this you know, this episode coming out
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: in the first week of twenty twenty two. But the
• 21:37
  Speaker 4: reality is that no matter what happens this week or
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: next week, we have the conscious choice to choose every
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: single day how we want to act, what we want
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: to do. So sometimes, you know, we put so much
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: weight on this like one chance at this new beginning,
• 21:51
  Speaker 4: but like every single day that's your chance, right, every
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: single day you get to make the conscious choice how
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: you're going to show up, and it doesn't matter what
• 22:02
  Speaker 4: your friend or your mom or your boss thinks, like
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: you get to make that choice for you. And sometimes
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: again that can feel really tough, but like it's a choice, and.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: Every day is a new beginning. Like you don't need
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: a new year and a new month.
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: Literally all you need is a new moment to make
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: that choice, and that's something that I live by, you know,
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: I try to live by every single day. It's like, Man,
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: I can make a choice right now to change whatever
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: it is. As long as I stay committed to that choice,
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: it can lead into a new life. But the choice
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: craates the new beginning.
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: So I love that final question here for you, Trent.
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: Right now, you have an opportunity to offer yourself a
• 22:36
  Speaker 4: piece of advice at the beginning of twenty twenty one.
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: Looking back on that now, with all the lessons and
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: the takeaways and the perspective that you gained, what do
• 22:47
  Speaker 4: you tell yourself.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: You're gonna go through the most difficult year of your life,
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: but you're gonna survive it. You're gonna cry, you're gonna laugh,
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: you're gonna you're gonna hurt, but you're not gonna fold.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: You're gonna still push through.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: And when you look back on twenty twenty one, even
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: though it doesn't feel like it at the moment, you're
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: gonna realize that twenty twenty one taught you things that
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: no other year yet has taught you.
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: And so learn the lessons, move through it, grow through it.
• 23:22
  Speaker 4: And let it build you grateful for you, Let it
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: build you, Trent, how do the hurdlers fall along with you?
• 23:27
  Speaker 4: For so many more beautiful takeaways and advice and the
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: motivation they need to make twenty twenty two a good one.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: Trent Shelton dot com and at Trent Shelton on all
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: social media sites.
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: Beautiful, I'm over at Emily's Body and at Hurdle Podcast.
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah,